Release Perfectionism and Unlock a New Level Of Confidence

In this  episode you'll learn how to let go of perfectionism so you can allow your confidence to thrive!

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Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Confidence Becomes You podcast with me, your host, Cleopatra Williams. This is a place where you will learn how to become an expression of your most confident self and learn how to take a space as her. Because when you do Confidence is going to become you it's going to look so good on you so If this feels like the right and aligned place for you Then make sure you go ahead and subscribe. Now I have some exciting news before we get started into the episode Guess what? My website is officially up. I'm so so it's so excited! This is the perfect opportunity for you. If you have been desiring to get some confidence coaching, if you are ready to take a space, you're ready to be seen, you want your confidence to be leveled up on your entrepreneurship journey or your content creative journey. Then go ahead and book a one on one coaching package. You have a few different options that you can choose from. All you have to do is go to cleapatrawilliams.com and if you have any questions, all you have to do is email hello at cleapatrawilliams.Com. All right. So now let's get into the episode. So today's topic is about how to let go of perfectionism and the reason why this episode is happening is because I had a recent realization that I somewhat deal with a little bit of perfectionism and honestly, guys, I never even thought that I was someone that dealt with perfectionism whatsoever. I thought I was just this person that just just do however These two things happen, these two things happen. Recently one is that I entered a coaching program and I was made aware that this is something that has been holding me back. it's been holding me back from showing up how I desire to show up, And just for example for so many of my episodes, ever since the beginning of my podcasting journey, I've always scripted. I've always scripted my content. And the reason why is because In the beginning I actually tried and I hate that word try but clearly this goes to show when you have the mindset of being a trier. So in the beginning, when I first started podcasting, I said, okay, I can do outlines because you, when you're starting something, you do research and you're told to read from an outline because it's going to feel so much real. And so I, I attempted, I attempted maybe like two episodes and after the second episode and realizing like, oh my gosh, this is so hard to read from an outline. I told myself that this is not for me. I told myself that I'm only going to script all of my episodes because outlining is hard. And what I didn't like was that feeling of messing up. I didn't like that feeling of stumbling over my words because Of course, like you want to be perfect, especially when you first start something. You want to be seen as someone who got it together as you, you can just put out something and you're just perfect in it. And so I didn't want that. It was scary. I didn't want to see, I didn't want to feel embarrassed. Starting this podcast and I'm stumbling all over my words. And so what happened, those two episodes that I was attempting to create with an outline, I just threw it away. And I started scripting and it's been like that ever since I started this podcast, I believe January of 2023. And I do not outline until now. And this is what led me, which is why I said until now, this is what led me to creating my previous episode, how to take a space Now when I created this, this was very, very, very, so much like out of my comfort zone. It was so scary. It was exciting, but it was also very scary and which this is why this episode has been inspired. by this. It's been inspired by last week's episode because I learned that during this process, this whole week process from that episode to this episode, is that letting go of perfectionism. It is so, so, so necessary. If you want to level up your confidence especially if you are taking a space and whichever way, if you want to start something, if you want to start a business if you want to start creating and pouring into your dreams, if you want to do this, Letting go of perfectionism is going to be essential, is going to be, is going to be key to allowing that to happen. Okay. So let's go ahead and get into the episode. Now the reason why letting go of perfectionism is so important. Number one. It is a huge waste of time a huge waste of time So give you an example. You already know for like the past two years or a year and a half that I've been scripting, right? I already said that in the beginning of the episode. However, there was a break that I took. I stopped creating content in December. And I decided to make a change. And so what happened from December I think it was my first the new episode of confidence becomes you this previous podcast was called becoming confident And then I changed it over to confidence becomes you I just felt like I needed that change. Now the new episode of confidence becomes you I think If i'm it either came out in late may or early june. From December to late May to early June. It took me six months to release new episodes. Six months. What was I doing in those six months? Now, granted, I had a full time job. Even though my job created, some kind of time restraint I can't help but wonder Can't help but wonder How much improvement or how fast how much faster? My episodes would have been out if I didn't focus on scripting. If I didn't Sit there and script each episode and had to do it on paper first and then Had to do it on the computer second literally guys. It just made me feel more prepared. Six months. It wastes your time. i i can't even imagine how much time i would have saved if i didn't script if i would have just allowed myself To read from an outline and just not have to Stress about not being perfect. I would have saved so much time. So the second reason of why letting go of perfectionism is so important to your confidence journey is because it is a major distraction to your potential and how fast your goals are going to be manifested. This really ties back into waste of time. Right? Your goals can be manifested so much quicker if you stop worrying about being perfect. It is distracting you, it is slowing your progress down, and it's a major distraction to your potential. So, the reason why I say that is because your potential, we are limitless. There is so much things that we can become. There's so much things that we can do. However, when we, we are the ones that stop ourselves. So when you think of being perfect, perfect for me, for example, because I didn't allow myself to Learn how to speak from an outline. My potential. Was Distracted right? It did a disservice to my growth in that skill set. Because I didn't allow it I was never going to grow in that skill set. You have potential. You have potential to grow. You have potential to Develop a stronger skill set. But you're going to limit yourself. If you rely on perfect. The things that you desire are going to take forever to manifest. Another reason why letting go of perfectionism is so important is because perfectionism Is like an attachment, is an attachment to something is an attachment to being perfect? Is it is an attachment to being validated? Is it an attachment to Just needing things to be a certain way, right? The only thing that we need to be attached to, guys, is inner and external peace and joy. That is it. There's no reason why we need to be attached to perfectionism whatsoever. It is damaging your confidence. It is lessening the skill set that you can grow, is limiting your potential, is stopping your goals from manifesting, and is wasting your precious, precious time. This is an attachment that needs to be broken. It's broken. It's kind of like what they say avoidment attachment. Like I know it has to do with like relationships, but it's avoiding, avoiding, showing up, avoiding showing up as your authentic self. right avoiding of just just doing and just being. Just avoiding that. That's really what perfectionism falls into. All right so now let's get into how you can let go of perfectionism. Number one is sit through the discomfort At first, when you're doing something uncomfortable, You may feel a little bit of, you may feel a little anxious, you may feel a little nervous, but there is some excitement that comes into play. For example, last week's episode, When I released that episode, actually before I released that episode, as I was creating it even before I created it, I was excited. I said, I'm going to read from an outline today. Let's just do it because it's available to me. I know that I can do this. However, Once the episode was released guess what started happening guys Worry started to kick in. Anxiety a little bit of nerves started to kick in. Even with the editing, I was just like, you know what? Let's just, let's just do it. I don't think it's perfect, but I'm excited. I just want to get this episode out now. I don't want to waste any more time. And I thought, okay, maybe I should take one more take, one more, One more walk through to edit to make sure that is clear to make sure that is perfect in my eyes but I said, you know what? I don't have time for this like I have to go I'm not I don't want to put this out tomorrow. I want to put this out today now. When the episode was released Worries start to kick in and the thoughts that I started to happen that started to happen was Did I forget to edit out a part? or dang, I think I should have took out that part or dang, maybe I should go back to edit or should I unpublish and start again? Like, Ooh, like, should I, should I, should I do this again? I'm just going to go do it again, but no, no, no, no, no. I, I'm not going to do it again because, because no, I got to sit through this. When I tell you guys, Cringy feelings, cringy. I, it was feelings of like, Oh, I feel like maybe there was some awkward moments. Maybe I pause too long or whatever. So feelings of, you know, a little bit embarrassment can start to come up into play. Imposter syndrome can be easy to happen. So I had to coach myself through this week guys. I had to coach myself to focus on moving forward and not focus on moving backwards. And the reason why this is so important is because I can't tell you guys to do something. I can't tell you guys to show up and be seen and take up space and allow yourself to be imperfect. And then I don't. Practice this myself, right? I have to put this in practice. If I'm coaching you how to be more confident in these things, then I also need to be seen in a way that is not so perfect. So you guys need to see the ums and the uhs and the long pauses and me thinking of what to say and the you know the uhs and like all of that you guys need to see that and in my Imperfect in my imperfect. I don't even know if that's the word my perfectionism or my my My For you guys to see me in my and Perkfreshness, or for you guys to see me and my ways of not being perfect. Lord, we finally got it. We finally got it guys. But it is so, so, so important that I have to learn how to just do this. Right? I, I do it, but Again, tying back to that perfectionism goes into editing, goes into writing a script to make sure that it's perfect, to make sure I say every word, to make sure I didn't miss anything, right? So allowing yourself to be seen, I have to also allow myself to be seen in the, in perfect ways. Another thing is that if I don't allow myself to sit through discomfort that means I'm not allowing my skill set to grow And my confidence and that ability will stay the same. So if let's say I would have went back and started editing Again, I unpublished the episode, I turned it to private, and I said, you know what, let me just record the episode again because I think I missed some parts. Like there was parts that I feel like I missed that I wanted to share with you guys, but I didn't because maybe I just forgot. And so instead I decided to like say, you know what? If I go back and do that, if I choose to go backwards, one, I'm going to waste precious time. That's number one. When I can be focused on creating new content and, and improving my skill set. You can't improve when you're trying to fix something that you think is broken. You cant improve when you're trying to be Perfect, like it just doesn't happen. So the second way to learn how to start letting go of perfectionism is realizing that Letting go of perfectionism requires a little bit of risk. So You Learn to identify as a risk taker. The reason why a lot of people don't take risks is because of fear, right? Is the fear of embarrassment, the fear of making mistakes, the fear of being judged and not accepted, but that's the risk that everyone takes. If everyone is taking up space, if all the people that you are admiring in life. They all risk being a little bit embarrassed. They've all risked making mistakes. They all risk being judged and not accepted in their imperfect ways, right? It's going to require a little bit of risk. Last week's episode, posting the episode without doing too much editing. Knowing that I've probably forgot stuff, knowing that I had long pauses, that was a risk. That was a risk that I was taken to be embarrassed. And guess what? I think I got a little embarrassed. A little embarrassed, but you know what I said? I am not available for embarrassment. I Am very much unavailable for embarrassment because when I, if you rely on embarrassment, embarrassment is going to control you. And I will rather show up, I would rather take up space. I will rather be embarrassed than live, get to the end of my life and live in regret. period. I would rather be embarrassed than feeling ashamed of not ever doing what I wanted to do. So you are going to risk some embarrassment. You are going to make mistakes when you let go of perfectionism and allowing yourself to make those mistakes. This is what allowing yourself to Let go of perfectionism and allow more of your Authenticity your authenticity to thrive. To allow more of your confidence to be built and being able to receive judgment and being able to receive not being accepted. Some people, some people are not going to accept the fact That you're not what they want you to be because you decided to not rely on being perfect. And that's just a risk that you take especially when you are trying to and when you are working To improve your confidence and showing up and your confidence in your your self esteem Your self worth all of these things Is going to require risk in your life and allowing yourself to let go of those perfectionism. All right so The next way to learning how to let go of perfectionism This is going to be so So, so, so, so, so, so important. And this is going to require you to learn. Especially on this journey is going to require you to learn how to practice self compassion. It is so easy to beat yourself up when you are not at the standard that you envisioned for yourself. This is why we focus on being perfect, right? It's because we all set a high standard for ourselves. As a content creator, as a coach, as a YouTuber, podcaster, have a standard. I have a standard that I want to reach. I have a standard that I want to be. You have a stand. You have standards for yourself and you, you have your standards so high that, that you, that when you make mistakes, same here. When we make mistakes, we get. really down. We get really hard on ourselves, right? But what I learned is that this is just a journey. This is a journey and self mastery can only be self mastery Throughout the journey. That is it. You can't just think your way to mastery. You have to be and do your way to mastery. Like, that's how it works. This also really is about allowing yourself to be yourself. human, right? Allowing yourself to be human. We want to be perfect. We want to be the perfect entrepreneur We want to be the perfect mom. We want to be the perfect friend. We want to be the perfect girlfriend or wife, right? We want to be perfect, perfect, perfect, perfect, the perfect content creator, the perfect writer. We just want to be perfect. But perfect. Is Not perfect like perfect is not perfect. Nobody is perfect. If everything was perfect Then something is wrong. Nobody is perfect Nothing's perfect. You won't be growing if anything if everything was perfect. We wouldn't be developing we would have been growing. We wouldn't have been trying different things. Like nothing is perfect, right? If everything is perfect, then it's not perfect, so If you've been desiring to let's say be this perfect person, and this comes with self awareness and this is the beauty of it, but you just curse somebody out because they tried you and you didn't handle it the way you could have. Know how that feels. I know how that feels, but talk to yourself as you would a friend. Talk to yourself as you would your child like we have that inner child inside of us that needs to be held. That needs to be to Feel safe to be imperfect. It's okay. You know, like this is things that you learn with learning how to regulate your nervous system and learning how to talk to that inner child because when we wasn't perfect as children, of course, we were. Punished for it, right? We were ridiculed for it. We were embarrassed for it. Spanked for it when we wasn't perfect, right? Yelled at for it. And so because of that, we didn't, of course, like, we didn't know how to regulate our nerves. We didn't know how to release emotions. And so. It is so, so crucial to learn how to talk to yourself and provide yourself with a safe space to be your own friend, parent yourself, right? Talk to yourself like it's okay, like you are safe. You are safe. It is safe to make mistakes. It is safe to forget this. It is safe to say the wrong thing. You are going to be okay. You are human and you're allowed to make those mistakes. And as long as the most important thing here Is as long as you are aware of it. This is crucial because not everyone is aware. Not everyone is aware As long as you are aware Of something this is the best sign. This is one of the greatest signs to know That you are growing because When you're aware of something that means you are making conscious effort to Of bettering yourself you are making conscious efforts of leveling up your life because you know That was not the best version of you You know that you can do better. You just know so allowing yourself to make these mistakes. As you take a space You are going to make mistakes. But remember I can't remember what episode I said this in You could be a work in progress and still be the total package in whatever area. If it's your business. You can be a work in progress and you can still be the total package to run your business. If you're a mom You can still be a work in progress mom here and still be the total package to be the best parent. You can be a work in progress and you still be the total package. Practice self compassion, talk to your inner child, parent yourself, hold yourself, rub yourself. Like, these, these are. things that are so, so important. Regulate your nervous system, release emotions, and forgive yourself and say that it's okay, it's okay to make mistakes, it's safe to make mistakes. All right, we don't have to be perfect if everything was perfect then it is not perfect. the next way to learning how to let go of perfectionism Is to learn how to start connecting with your feminine energy Okay, so i've been working heavily on connecting with this part of me because for a long time. This is a part of me That's been Miss it's been wounded. It's been something that I've been very much Masculine energy and it's okay. It happens, right? And so when you Learn yourself to connect with your feminine energy You start to learn how to move from your body and not just your mind Not just your logic, right? Because your logic is the thing that slows you down. The logic is telling you this have to be perfect. The logic is stopping you if you told yourself hmm want to, I want to start a podcast, but then your mind starts to say, Hmm, well, first you don't have the equipment you need to script. Oh, this might take a while. So you need to make sure that everything's in order. You need to do tons of research. Like these are the things that happen when you start to move from your body and focus more on logic. Embracing your feminine energy is all about listening to your body, tuning into your intuition. This is something that a lot of us. dont know how to listen to. We don't know how to connect with our body. We don't know how to connect with our intuition and kind of, and just really just be and learn how to move with ease, learn how to move with flow. We always have to think, think, think, think, think. Just like going back to how it took me six months to create Eight episodes, right? I thought because of my logic because of the research, because of the courses I invested in. And not saying this was the the Wrong way to do everything But it was a very masculine Masculine logical way of doing things Things. So if it took me six months because I was scripting because I felt like I had to record eight full episodes. So that I can make sure that i'm consistent. I knew deep down, I knew deep down inside, right? This is my body talking. The logic told me that I had to do this because I had to create, I had to create eight episodes so that I can be consistent, so that I can have two months ahead of, ahead of content, right? I had to batch record. But from my experience before, it was not enjoyable. It was not enjoyable, but I did it again because I thought that's what I had to do. Now, deep down, my body, my body knew that if I wasn't scripting, new episodes would have already been recorded. New episodes would have already been released. My body wanted to just do it. Create outlines. That's what I wanted. My body didn't want to batch record. My body wanted to record weekly and not have to record every three weeks. My body knew what I wanted and how I know my body knew what I wanted is because when I will watch other YouTubers and listen to podcasts, those women who were following an outline and just allowing themselves to speak. I, I wish I can do that. And I would be like, dang, like, I love How they can just create an outline and create an episode the next day or create an outline And create an episode the same day. They're not reading from a script. I love how they can do that. Like I will wonder how the hell They are able to do that. But my body knew, but the logic is with me is my, the logic is what talked me out of it and told myself that this is for them and it's not for me. Right, but my body knew. I wanted to feel that sense of freedom. That sense of that sense of ease. Being able to just show up how I want to. And so here's a reminder, all things are available to you. If you don't allow something to be available to you, then it's not going to be available to you. You're going to talk yourself out of it, right? You're you are only able to receive what you allow yourself to receive. You're only allowed to receive what you allow yourself to receive. So Receiving again is all about Feminine energy. Is all about learning to move from your body and allowing your mind to catch up. You'll be surprised The magic that can happen when you just learn to listen to your intuition, and let go of the logic, the limited beliefs because that's what starts happening. Right those old thoughts starts it starts limiting to you. It starts limiting you, but it doesn't have to be that way. When you do you are not restricting yourself, you open yourself up. These are going to be the things that allow you to Let go of perfectionism. Now let's get into the beauty of letting go of perfectionism. This kind of kind of goes into play a little bit with the last point in the feminine energy. So the beauty of letting go of perfectionism is that you will experience quantum leaps or you can experience quantum leaps. So, In order to experience quantum leaps in your life, you have to let go of perfectionism, period. If you want to experience exponential growth, you have to let go of perfectionism. And here's the reason why is because, because sometimes you have to be illogical. This is what I'm talking about with, moving from your body and taking action from your intuition. And not your logic just allow your mind to catch up later, right? This is what I mean by that. Sometimes you have to be illogical. Do things that it doesn't make sense. Well, this doesn't make sense. Like if I do it this way, then it then this won't happen. No Right? You, when you do things that don't seem possible, it doesn't make sense. You have to be illogical. You're illogical. You're, you are taking risks. This is what's going to help you quantum leap. one of my favorite books about this topic. When I tell you, like, I read this book every single week and I will continue reading this book probably for the rest of my life because it is so juicy. It still is a short, small book. But it's so good. It's so powerful. It creates just It is life changing. You have to get it. So, this book is called You Square. You Square. I can't remember who the author is by. I started listening to it on audio, but they took it off of YouTube. And now, I just, I bought the book. And I love it. I love it. Love it. Love it so much and they he talks about he talks so much about How to experience these quantum leaps in your life is not by going step by step by step by step. Perfectionism when you focus on being perfect You're going step by step by step by step by step because you think you're going You think you're going to get the results That you need by going in a sequence. No, you have to be illogical, There are, there are ways of getting to where you desire to go, where it doesn't require so many steps, right? It doesn't require for you to be perfect. Another point that he makes is, it's going to require you to stop trying harder. Right trying hard like hard work Honestly, like i'm so I feel like hard work. It just makes me cringe right the word hard work. However, it's not a bad thing. We all have to do hard work. However, I started to learn that the hard work is really the inner work. Is really the inner work. You do not have to work hard physical. You do not have to do that. You not, you do not have to burn yourself out to receive things. It's the inner work is the inner That is the hard work, And when you focus so much on your physical, when you focus so much on the logical like thinking hard and and, you know, doing physical things hard and working hard for so many hours. It only produces incremental gains, but quantum leaps is about exponential, and so this requires you to do things differently. And he says that more of the same gives you. More of the same. We all know this. What is that? That sayin' or that quote Of the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. More of the same gives you more of the same so when we're so focused on being perfect a lot of times just like I did the same thing that I did last year. I started scripting and I was expecting different results. The same results happen. In terms of internal was a little bit of burnout. And a little bit like just annoyance because I don't like batching or lessening of creativity. So more of the same gives you more Of the same. So perfectionism When you focus on being perfect, you're not allowing the juices, the creativity to flow, right? You're not allowing that. You're not allowing your intuition to talk to you. You are allowing, Oh, I have to get this right. I need to do this, this, this, this, Again, quantum leaps require you to let go of perfectionism. You have to learn how to lose the attachment to the old ways of doing things. More of the same only gives you more of the same, alright? So. Another beautiful thing that happens when you start to let go of perfectionism is that it enhances your sense of freedom and ease. So as you know, I've shared this multiple times, my two words of, this special time in my life is freedom and ease. These two are so, so, so important to me because I rejected like hard work. When I say hard work, I mean, external work, overworking. I'm all about receiving. Ease and freedom. Sense of freedom means even being seen, being shown in your imperfectionism, right? So in your imperfect ways, amen. So when you allow yourself again to let go of perfectionism, you give your, you give yourself a sense of freedom. You allow yourself to just show up. You allow yourself to just put out whatever you want to put out. You allow yourself to just create in a way that you want to create without thinking that it has to be a certain way without thinking that it has to be a certain order. You free yourself up from. You free yourself up from internal stress. You free yourself up from the need to be perfect so you don't be rejected. You free yourself up from needing people to approve and people to validate that what you did is good enough. You free yourself up from embarrassment when you allow yourself to just let go. Uh, perfectionism about you, about who you are as a person, and the perfectionism about what you put out into the world. And then ease is knowing that you can receive, you can receive. There's such a peace of mind. When you know that you can receive even when you're not perfect and that you will receive, you will receive your dream life, you will receive the, the, whatever it is that you are designing, desiring without the need for you to be perfect, without the need of you to have to work so hard physically. and mentally. Mental draining is real. It's not just physical draining is also mental Emotional right? These are things that that happens to you when you are so focused on Being perfect, right? You don't allow yourself to make mistakes you don't allow yourself to fall short. These are all part of life because these are the things that help us grow. These are the things that help us become the person that we are desiring to be. And we can learn from that and do better the next time. And we can learn from that and guess what? Help someone else in the process because making an impact, making, taking a space is all about what we can do for someone else through our experiences. Like, that's how you do it. So, being at ease within yourself and saying, like, I don't, like, I don't need to be perfect to receive the life that I want. Because everything that I desire, I am available for. Everything is already here. Right? Everything is already here. Let me allow myself to receive it. I don't have to be perfect for that. And so this is a strong essence of confidence is being at ease and knowing all as well. Right? So if you remember my episode, She Laughs without fear of the future" she lasts without fear of the future because she is clothed. And strength and dignity are closed with clothed with strength and dignity that is one of my favorite verses especially when it ties into creating confidence about your future and just being Confident. To me this is a definition of a woman who is embodying confidence. Who is embracing the essence of that confidence because Laughing without fear of the future. Just being at peace being at ease and knowing all is well Because they are clothed with strength. They already know what they're they've been through They know what they're capable of they know the strength the strengths that they develop from all the things that they had to work through, right? Dignity. Knowing that you are important. Knowing that you are worthy. Knowing that you are valuable and that you are taken care of. This is the essence of a confident woman. If you haven't like listen to that episode, then I highly encourage you to go and listen to that episode. Because it's just so important. Like it's truly is like one of the best verses to me of identifying a, a confident woman. And, you know, life gets to be fun and easy, and this is something that even for me, that I'm learning to continue. To pour into. Life gets to be fun and easy. My life gets to be fun and easy. I'm available for this. Life does not have to be hard whatsoever? It doesn't have to be strict. It doesn't have to be In this perfect order for things to get right. It can be fun. It can be free. It can be flowy, right? And perfectionism, it sucks that dry. It's sabotage. It's sabotages those opportunities for you to be free, for you to feel ease, for you to continue to improve your confidence and improve your confidence exponentially. And this is a beauty. This is a beauty of letting go of perfectionism. Your confidence improves like magic, right? Because again, you learning how to let go of those external validations and you learn to validate yourself. Also, you get to experience, you get to witness the level of your potential. You get to experience how much faster your skillset can grow. You get to experience how limitless you are, right? Because perfectionism is all about. It's a limiting belief that you can't do this unless you do this, that you can show up this way, unless you are this way, you can't have this unless you do this first and let you do this first. Is a limiting beliefs. So allowing yourself to let this go. You are improving your self belief and knowing that you are not limited. You are very much limitless. So your confidence, your self esteem, your self concept, all of that begins to elevate all of that begins to improve. And then You start to say, you know what? I am no longer available for perfectionism. I am no longer available for embarrassment because I'm, this is what, this is why you're stopping yourself from showing up the way that you can. Because you're focused on embarrassment, you're focused on being judged and not accepted. I Accept myself and whoever accepts this version of me, whoever sees me like this, And they like it then I'm so happy. I'm so grateful for For that right. I'm so grateful for that. However the people that don't Then that's none of my business. That's none of my business But i'm no longer I am not available. I am unavailable for embarrassment because My purpose requires me to show up. My purpose requires me to take a space and honestly, I might make some mistakes along the way and that's okay. My purpose requires me to heal some unhealthy things about me. And guess what? I'm going to make mistakes along the way. And that's okay. In order for you to get to where you want to be, Like you have to make mistakes. You have to let go of perfectionism. And so this episode It doesn't mean that I want you to let go of desiring to be great. This doesn't mean that I want you that I don't want you to prepare Right, all of these things are so so so important But in the preparation requires just starting. That's how people get prepared is by starting. That's the only way you can actually get prepared. The only way you can be great is by starting. The only way you can Get great at bettering you is by starting to become a better you. The only way you can get better at Doing a podcast or YouTube video without a script and on outline is by doing it This is how you prepare yourself. This is how you get great in something. Every person that you admire they didn't start great, They're great now. They can do things without conscious effort but there was some point where they had to allow themselves to say, you know what? I don't need to be perfect. I just need to get started, right? That's all that matters. In the preparation, it requires imperfect. That's what it is. Greatness requires you to be imperfect. That's just what it is. This is how you level up. This is how you level up your confidence. And so guys like You get to see me. This is different I'm learning how to read from an outline I am going to Risk right this risking requires you to let go I mean Letting go of perfectionism requires you to let go of Wait Letting go of perfectionism requires you to risk, risk embarrassment, risk judgment, risk possibly getting rejected by people who want a well scripted episode and want you to not make mistakes, But it is what it is because I want this and so it is what it is. And honestly, as a coach, like I said, like it is so important. If I'm going to tell you guys to show up and take a space and allow yourself to be seen in your most authentic way Then I need to continuously show you guys that i'm also putting this into practice And showing up in my authentic way. And I love that you get to see this because I want to be able to connect with you guys even more so before we end In the episode, I want to go ahead and give you some journal prompts. In what ways is perfectionism holding me back and hurting my progress? And is it worth it? Okay. Journal prompt two is what makes me think that I have to follow this perfect order? Is this required of me? Or can I be free? So what I mean by that is, of course, there are some things, certain jobs or whatever, that requires perfect order. For example, like a doctor. If a doctor is about to do surgery, there has to be a perfect order way of doing things of the setup, right? So there are some things that require perfect order, but is this required of you? And if it's not, can you just allow yourself to be free, right? Separate from that. And then, journal prompt three is, what's the worst that can happen? Example, again, is experiencing embarrassment, Are you going to die from it? No unavailable for it. So what's the worst that can happen if you chose to let go of perfectionism. What is the worst that can happen? All right. And so that is it for today's episode, guys. I really hope you enjoyed this episode. If you did, I would love if you can subscribe, leave a comment and also like this video. Also, if you would like to receive some confidence coaching. All you have to do is go to cleapatrawilliams.Com and you can book a one on one coaching package with me. You have three different options to choose from guys. So choose the one that feels most in alignment with you. And that is it for today's episode guys. And until next time, bye.