How I Built Unshakable Confidence In Pursuing My Dreams: Let This Inspire You

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Hey, ladies. Welcome back to another video today. We are going to be talking about how I've been able to build unshakeable confidence and pursuing success. My dream goals and being able to achieve most of them. So I want to share this with you as a way to be able to help you as well. Get in a driver's seat of pursuing your dream goals and achieving them also because it is possible you are ready to do so. All right. So number one, the first way that helped me Build unshakeable confidence within pursuing my dream goals has been having a strong why. So for me, my why comes from wanting to be better for my daughter, wanting to experience more in life, more than I've ever experienced before, wanting to be able to give to my family and give them experience more than they ever had before. And so, because of that strong why that has helped me push myself out of my comfort zone. It has helped me move forward in the face of doubt, it has helped me move forward in the face of limiting beliefs because of that strong, strong why. Why? Knowing that my goal was more than just about me and knowing that it has more to do with, of course, myself, but more than just me. It has empowered me. It has helped me build my confidence within myself to pursue those dream goals. Any goal that I've ever achieved, it was always because I wanted either to be a stay at home mom for my daughter, give her those experiences. Everything, every goal that I've ever achieved has been always because of giving more to my daughter and wanting to be better for her. My loved ones wanted to be better to give us a better future. So when you have a strong why you step into that innate confidence that is already within you. You just figure it out along the way and you're like, I am going to do this because it's bigger than you. When it's just about you alone. Of course, self doubt. Of course. All of those things are going to get in the way because it's just about you. But when you can tie that goal to something that is so important, when you can tie that goal to something beyond yourself it is so possible to start building unshakable confidence in pursuit that in pursuit of that goal because you want it for more than just yourself, right? You want it for something else or someone else. That is, that is very, very important. And so that has helped me build unshakeable confidence and pursuing my dream goals because. I don't just want it for me. I also want it for my loved ones. I also want it for my daughter. So what is a huge why that you have that's going to help you build unshakable confidence within yourself to go and pursue your goals. This is just the beginning steps. Okay. So the second thing that has helped me build unshakable confidence and pursuing my dream goals kind of ties to the first one but just a tad bit different. And that is the hating the feeling of not experiencing my desires, that feeling overweighed Anything, just like the feeling of it being bigger than yourself when you're not experiencing, when you're not experiencing your dream life, when you're not experiencing your dream relationships, when you're not experiencing your dream income, your dream career, your dream body. What does that do? When you can hate it so much, That will overweigh any self doubt, any imposter syndrome, any limiting beliefs. Because. For me, me, me, myself hated experiencing, not experiencing my goals. It overweighed all of those things, any doubts, any limited beliefs, any imposter syndrome, me starting YouTube, me becoming a coach. Of course I had self doubt. Of course I had imposter syndrome. Of course I had so many thoughts of what can go wrong. However, Those desires, were so strong that I hated not experiencing them. And because of that, that pushed me to step out of my comfort zone. That pushed me to be uncomfortable. That pushed me to conquer any self doubt, any limiting beliefs. So for you, how bad do you want your desire? How bad do you want how much do you hate not experiencing everything that you want in your life, right? Your dream body, your dream relationship. How bad do you want it? Because when you hate not experiencing it, you're going to do everything in your power to experience those desires. That is one step in moving towards building unshakable confidence within pursuing your dream goals, because it is going to just keep showing you levels of yourself that you are capable of. So the third way that I've built unshakable confidence in pursuing my dream goals has been I started pursuing my dream goals without approval, without validation. Without validation from boyfriends, without validation from friends, without validation from parents, I did everything that I wanted to do. And there's still so much more that I wanted to do, just like you, right? There's so much more that you want to do. But one thing I learned is that You have to be able to move forward and pursue your dream goals without approval of boyfriends, friends, or parents, or any kind of relationship that you're in because you need to make yourself happy. And so every time that I was in pursuit of a dream goal, there was doubt from so many people, so many people, no matter what I did, it was either, are you crazy? Can you do this? Are you sure this is possible? I think maybe we should do something different. It was always things like that. However, however, every time. I just did what I wanted to do and I pursued and I achieved those dream goals. This is what happened. Everyone was like, wow, I can't believe you did that. Wow, I'm surprised. Oh, wow, you shocked me So it was always things like that every time I achieve my dream goals Those are the words that will happen. So what's gonna happen is this when you pursue your dream goals? And you actually achieve them despite anyone's approval. What's going to happen is that you are going to become a source of inspiration. Now people are going to be looking at you as, Oh my gosh, you inspired me. That's exactly what happened for me. Every time I achieved, every time I pursued a dream goal, every time I achieved it, what happened at friends, I have family members who say, boyfriends who say you inspire me, you motivate me to be, to do better because you never give up on yourself. You don't quit. And you will become a source of inspiration. And when you become a source of inspiration, your confidence in yourself is going to continue and continue to build and you pursuing your dream goals, right? And every level you go, right? Like you pursue one goal, there's always going to be another goal that you're going to pursue. And it's going to continue to build your confidence. But one powerful way to start building unshakable confidence in you pursuing your dream goals is to just start doing it without the approval. Stop asking people for permission. Don't ask a friend, don't ask a family member, don't ask a boyfriend, a husband. Hey, do you think I should do this? Hey, like, what do you think? Just do it. Just do it and surprise them, shock them, shock them all. Because that's exactly what's going to happen. No one is going to believe in you more than you believe in yourself. And that's something that I had to build within myself. No one is going to believe in me more than I believe in myself. So, no longer ask for approval when it comes to pursuing your dreams, just pursue them. You got this. The fourth way that I've built unshakable confidence in me pursuing my dream goals is I got super clear on my desires and I And how I was able to get super clear on my desires, I share in my previous episode about unlocking your hidden desires and discovering exactly what you want for your life. Because when you start listening and uncovering those hidden and those suppressed desires, What happens? Your imagination opens up, your inspiration opens up, your passion opens up. And when you get clear on that that's when you can begin pursuing. That's when that confidence come in because getting clear is gaining clarity, of course. So you gain clarity and that's what confidence comes from. When you are stuck in confusion, there is no confidence whatsoever. I've been a person who has been confused a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot for so many years. What should I do? I don't know what I want. I don't know what to do. Those, if you're asking yourself that question, It's because you haven't allowed yourself to just sit and listen to all of the desires that you have suppressed throughout your life. All of the desires, you have so many desires that's within you and you can reveal it if you just sit and listen to unlock it. When you get clear on that, you now have. What you want, you know what you want. And when you know what you want, you can now start pursuing. And one thing that's going to help you build confidence is that when you gain clarity, these are the things that happen. One, I already said, it helps you avoid confusion, but also it helps you avoid doing things someone else wants you to do. It helps you avoid pursuing a dream that someone else wants you to pursue because they feel like this is what you're capable of pursuing or this is what they want for you. When you get clear on your desires no one can kind of shift your direction. You become in control of your direction. This is why, this is what helped me. Truly build unshakable confidence in pursuing my dream goals. Because every time I had a huge desire and I got locked in and I got super laser focused on achieving this goal and someone tried to stare me in a different direction because either they didn't believe in me or they thought something else was better. I was able to say no. No, that is not for me. No, no, no saying no to other things is you saying yes to your desires, to your goals. So this just unlocking is just getting clear on my desires has helped me truly build unshakable confidence and pursuing my dream goals. And It's truly going to help you to unlock your desires I highly recommend listening to the episodes on how I was able to unlock Hitting and suppress desires, but if you truly know your desires Then there should be no reason why you're not pursuing it, right? No reason whatsoever And you have clarity you just have to start moving have to start moving in a direction that you want to go. Okay. So the next way that has helped me build unshakable confidence and pursuing my dream goals is I just took action without thinking. And what this looks like is literally just following my desires and allowing the logic, the me figuring out all of those type of things to catch up. One thing that is so important that I've learned is that you can act and you can figure it out along the way. I've done that so many times. I took action and I said, Oh, I'll figure it out along the way. Yes. You're going to fail. Yes. You're going to fumble. Yes. You're going to make mistakes, but these is the things that's going to help you build that unshakable confidence within yourself is take an action. I'm falling down, getting back up, falling down, getting back up, learning from a mistake and just doing it. So to give you one example, when I first started my reselling business, I just went all in without thinking because I truly wanted to be a stay at home mom. I wanted to be able to work from home and be home when my daughter started school. And so what I did is I just started, I went all in, I figured out how I can start making money from my clothes and that was in my closet and then What I did is I took the money that I have saved up and I spent it on a whole bunch of wholesale clothes and it did not sell, it did not budge and I was like, oh my gosh, what did I do? I just spent a few hundred dollars, a few hundred dollars on these clothes and it was a mistake. I was following what I thought was like the right thing to do, but then I was just like, okay. Now, let me figure out a better way to do this. So then I started studying a little bit more, studying, studying, studying, studying, allowing the logic to catch up. And within like three months I was being able to make a full time income. Within three months, because I decided to act on my desire and allow the logic to come true. To catch up with me it had to fail along the way Once you decide what you want you act on it You act on it without doing too much thinking because what happens is that when you start doing too much thinking and this is something that you consistently have to work on. This is something that I consistently have to work on Every time I want to pursue a goal If I'm not acting right away, then maybe I'm thinking a little bit too much but it's about becoming aware of those things So what happens is that when you start when you move with the logic versus your body Then that's when the self doubt that's when the super Strategy and planning come in and you wanting everything to be perfect It's going to slow you down. It's going to slow you down or it's either going to stop you and you not start anyways. So one thing that is truly going to help you, like it's helped me, is being able to act without thinking too much. How can you get yourself to say, you know what, I'm just going to do it. I don't want to think about it. I'm just going to do it. I'm just going to, I'm just going to pursue this dream goal. I don't want to think too much about it. It is what it is. I'll allow myself to fell on way and I'll allow, everything that I need to learn to catch up along the way, because this is what I want to do. And so that is one way that I've built unshakable confidence and pursuing my dream goals. Now, the sixth way that I've built unshakable confidence and pursuing my dream goals has been, I challenge my own limiting beliefs. So to me, limiting belief is something that feels restrictive. It's something that is holding you back from pursuing. It's not allowing you to pursue. To move anywhere so limited beliefs such as oh I have to wait I have to wait for the perfect time to pursue my dream goal I have to wait till I have enough money to invest in myself I have to have a certain degree to make a certain amount of money. I have to have a certificate to be a coach. I have to be perfect to start helping other women. Limited beliefs, but guess what? I decided to say squash that and do it any ways. Limited beliefs is just something you have to become aware of. It is always, every time, this is the easiest way for me, like I said, for you to know when you have a limited belief that is holding you back is literally when, if it's not moving you forward, if it's keeping you stuck, if it's keeping you small and feeling restrictive. Then it is a limiting belief. There's a limiting belief that you have to, you know, just break that belief. You have to conquer that belief and that just happens with progress. That just happens over time. And it's just keeping you back from truly, truly reaching your potential. Because you can do so much. Your potential is literally way up here. We think there is not high, but we have so much potential. And so every time I crushed a limiting belief It just, it just shocked me. I was like, oh, like, oh my gosh, I can really do this. Like I didn't know that I can do this. And every time watch, you will see, every time you break a limit and belief, you will surprise yourself. You will shock yourself, and that is so important in building your confidence is being able to shock yourself and give yourself proof. But you get to create new beliefs about yourself, you know, ask yourself, is this belief holding me back or is it moving forward? A lot of times we get limiting beliefs from. People, Our families, school, society, a lot of times our limited beliefs are shaped from that, but you truly can build new beliefs that you want to hold on to. So Ask yourself, do you want to keep this belief? If you have a belief that's making you feel restrictive, is making you feel stuck, like a belief that I had before again of, I need a certificate to be a coach or I have to be perfect to start helping other women. No, I don't have to be perfect. I had to crush that living belief. I can be a work in progress and still be the perfect person to help other women. whoever it is that I desire to help, whoever it is that needs to hear this. I'm still a work in progress. However, I'm still the perfect package to be able to guide women, to be able to guide whoever, that I can truly help through my own personal experience. So. I had to crush that limiting belief if I truly wanted to help other women also crush that limiting belief as well. And so the seventh way that I've been able to build unshakable confidence in myself with pursuing my dream goals has been, I began to think more highly of myself, right, of myself and who I am. Self concept of who I am, strengthening the identity that I set for myself. So saying things like, I can do this, saying things that I am capable or I'm confident, I'm worthy to pursue this, I'm deserving to have this goal. Things like that is truly is what helped me build my confidence and being able to pursue my dream goals. Just feeling my cup on knowing that I am capable of this. Thinking more highly of myself of what I have to offer, knowing that I have a voice that can impact, knowing that I have a message that I can share, knowing that I have experiences that can help someone else, knowing how important I am to just be present, knowing how important I am to take up space knowing how much I deserve to. Be my dream woman to experience my dream life all of that Just hyping myself up thinking more highly of myself than I used to has truly helped me build confidence in pursuing my dream goals And achieving my dream goals because the more highly I thought about myself the more again overpowered, overweight, any feelings of self doubt, any feelings of self sabotage because I told myself, no, I deserve this goal. I deserve this goal. I deserve to achieve this goal. And because of that, I'm going to keep going. I'm going to be more consistent. I'm going to push myself. I'm going to be uncomfortable. I'm going to risk being embarrassed. I'm going to risk being overlooked. All of that, because I decided to think more highly of myself. All of that because I decided that I am important enough to take up space and to pursue and receive my dream goals and so are you. How can you think more highly of yourself? How can you think more highly of yourself in a sense of like how deserving you are, how worthy you are of achieving these dream goals that you truly want to have? So that every time you're in the face of defeat or the face of failure, or you know other people doubting you, people that you truly wanna believe in, you. all the negative things I can possibly go wrong and not be helpful to your success and achieving your dream goals. Are you going to hype yourself up? Are you going to think more highly of yourself and knowing how deserving that you are, how worthy you are, how important you are to have success? To have this because it is your birthright, right? Goodness is your birthright, your goals, your aspirations, having the abundance of it your desires, it was placed in you. All of these things are your birthright. So just understanding how deserving you are is truly is what helped me. And I truly believe it can help you just build that unshakable confidence and pursuing your dream goals. And so number eight, the final tip that has helped me truly build unshakable confidence and pursue my dream goals is I gave myself proof. I gave myself proof of how capable I am. I gave myself proof of. So many things that I can do over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. The same can be for you. When you take steps, when you push yourself out of your comfort zone, when you pursue your dream goals. It don't even have to be the biggest dream goal in the world, right? When you start pursuing one at a time and you actually achieve it, what do you do? It gives you proof. It gives you proof of, of who you are. It gives you proof of what you capable of. It builds your confidence it shows you how resilient you are. It shows you all the things that you can do when you Take chances on yourself, when you bet on yourself, when you believe in yourself. So I gave myself proof over and over and over again. And it showed me that anything that I want, I can get. Not saying that everything that I want, I can get in the time that I want to get it. However, eventually, it always comes. Some happen faster than others. However, every time, anything that I want, I can get. And so the same can go for you. Give yourself proof. Give yourself living proof of what you are capable of. How about, do this, write out all the accomplishments that you have had over the past few years so you can see how capable you are. So you can see how smart you are, how intelligent you are, and you'll be surprised of all the proof that you have of when you've shown yourself confidence. When you show, when you unleash that innate confidence, even when you didn't think that you did. That is probably one of the most impactful ways that I've been able to improve my confidence and pursue my dream goals is literally by giving myself proof over and over and over again. And so all of these ways that I went over all of these little things in different ways has build my confidence and being able to pursue my goals. And I want to help you do the same as well. So if you desire, if you're in a place and you're like, now it's 2025, like I need to be pursuing my dream goals and you want to get You want to get unstuck from seeking approval. You want to get unstuck from limiting beliefs. You want to get unstuck from self doubt and self sabotage so that you can truly begin pursuing your dream goals and achieving them. and be able to unlock that juiciness, that deliciousness. of desires that are hidden and suppressed within you and you would like some coaching and some guidance to help you along the way. Then go ahead to the link and the description box and where you can go ahead and sign up for coaching or you can just go to CleopatraWilliams. com and sign up for coaching there as well.

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This is your year for you to pursue your goals with unshakable confidence. It is for you. You can do this and I'm here. I'm in your corner. And so just to quickly rehash the things that has helped me build unshakable confidence in pursuing my desires, pursuing my dream goals has been this. One, I had to have a strong why. That strong why. Pushed me outside of my comfort zone, it kept me steady, it helped me not give up on myself in face of fear, in face of failure, because that why was stronger than just me alone. Number two. is I hate it not experiencing my goals. I wanted to experience my goals. So that deep passion, that burning desire, again, it pushed me out of my comfort zone. it overweighed the self doubt. It overweighed imposter syndrome. It overweighed anything that was going to set me back that burning desire to experience my dream goal. number three, the third way that has helped me build unshakable confidence is I decided to act. Without approval. I followed my own desires and I did things my own way without asking a boyfriend, a parent, a friend. I did it despite people's negative beliefs, comments, Any way that anyone can try to possibly deter me, I did not care. And what did that do? That in return, after I achieved my dream goals, that motivated people. That inspired people. The same people who didn't, who doubted. And it can do the same for you. The fourth way is I got super clear on my desires. Getting clear on my desires helped me get clarity. And when you get clarity, you gain confidence in what you want in a direction that you are meant to go in. And number five is I just took action sometimes without thinking. Being that risk taker, um, allowing myself to move on my body. Moving with my feminine energy and allowing my masculine energy to catch up, allowing my thoughts to catch up, just acting, just acting, just doing without thinking that is your innate confidence kicking in. Just doing, tapping into that childlike behavior, being a risk taker and just acting without doing too much thinking. Like allow the logic to catch up. You will figure it out along the way. Number six is I challenge my limited beliefs. Limited beliefs will hold you back. It's going to keep you restricted. It's going to make you feel like you can't progress. That is a limited belief. It would hold you back. So challenging my limit beliefs has helped me build unshakable confidence and pursue my dream goals. Number seven is I begin to think more highly of myself. Telling myself that I deserve these dream goals. I'm worthy of these dream goals. I'm important enough to keep pursuing. I'm important enough to take up space. Do the same for yourself thing start thing is so highly of yourself That it is less than you to not want to pursue your dream goals It's less than you to not take action on your dream goals. You deserve it. You know that you're worthy of it You know that you are important that you're valuable that you're Whatever you have to offer is valuable, that you deserve it, that you deserve to receive, that abundance is your birthright. All of these things, we start thinking more highly of yourself, your confidence, and the pursuit. Um, and then the eighth way is I gave myself proof. Give yourself proof. Every time you pursue, every time you achieve a goal, you are giving yourself proof. And every time there's proof, you get to look back and say, Ooh, I did that. I am capable. I am confident that I can pursue and achieve anything that I put my mind to. I have everything within me to achieve my dream goals. And so these are the ways that has helped me build that unshakable confidence. I know that it can truly help you as well. Just taking a little bit of these tips. Maybe you're doing some, but implementing other ways as well. And a lot of these things are just internal work. Most of it has nothing to do with the external. All of it is just internal work that you have to work on yourself. And so I hope these help you ladies. And until next time, bye.