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ladies, welcome back to another video. Today we are going to be talking about how to pursue, how to boldly pursue your desires and unleash your dark feminine energy. This topic is so important Following your desires and unleashing your dark feminine energy goes hand in hand. First let me explain why they go hand in hand and then I'm going to show you how to boldly pursue your desires and unlock that dark feminine energy. All of the tips that I'm going to give you has been from personal experience. It has helped me unleash more of my dark feminine energy and I hope that it helps you as well. So, why does following your desires and unleashing your dark feminine energy goes hand in hand? Is because. Both of them are suppressed and a lot of them are hidden. So desires, desires is something that is deep within, right? Is a deep inner knowing, is those things that turn us on? Is those things that gives us pleasure? Is those things that things that makes us excited, and our dark feminine energy is Raw is the honest parts of us, is the parts of us that are hidden, the parts of us that are suppressed. And how this goes hand in hand with pursuing those desires is because when you really start connecting to your true desires, When you really start pursuing your truest desires, your dark feminine energy is being unleashed because now you are stepping into the most rawest version of yourself. You are stepping into an honest version of yourself. You are unleashing all of those things that are suppressed. So, our dark feminine energy, it is One of our most suppressed things. And the reason why this happens is because we were taught to be well behaved. We were taught to, you know, not be wild. We were taught to, you know, follow the rules. We were taught to stay in order. We were taught to listen. We were taught to do all of those things. And that did nothing, but suppressed our dark feminine energy. Our dark feminine energy is honest. Our dark feminine energy is a wow. The wild version of us, the sensual version of us, the playful version of us, the curious version of us. The one who is bold, the one hat who doesn't follow the rules version of us. That is when our dark feminine energy is unleashed. And when you begin to follow, truly follow your truest desires, guess what? You start going against the norm. You start going against the rules. You break rules. You start doing what you want to do and taking ownership of who you are. So, this is why when you boldly, when you pursue your desires, you begin to unlock that dark feminine energy part of you. And I'm going to show you how I'm going to show you how I've been able to unlock my dark feminine energy by pursuing my desires. And I'm going to show you how to nurture and continue to build and unleash that part of you that is suppressed. Because the more and more you follow your desires, your truest desires, the more and more you're going to unleash that dark feminine energy part of you. Okay? So let's go ahead and get started. the first way to begin pursuing your. desires in a way that helps you nurture and continue to unleash your dark feminine energy is number one to be the villain. This is not saying intentionally be the villain in someone's eyes or be the villain in someone's life. What this looks like is you intentionally Owning what you want, you intentionally pursuing your desires. And what that looks like is you may be an inconvenience, right? You may be an inconvenience to a partner. You may be an inconvenience to your child. Sometimes you may be an inconvenience to some friends. You may become an inconvenience when you are in pursuit to follow your desires and it's okay. So being able to unlock your dark from an energy with this is learning to be okay with the fact that you may be inconvenienced and you don't budge Yes, you may have to make certain sacrifices or whatever it is. However, being an inconvenience is just part of the thing, is part of the game and you might be a villain in someone's eyes. I gave this example before in the last video. Maybe you want to stop drinking. Maybe you have a dream goal to become in the best health ever. the best shape of your life and you often go out for drinks. You often go out for drinks with your friends. You probably drink very often, but you have this desire to truly change your life and then you start doing so. You may become a villain in someone, in your friend's eyes, not intentionally, but they may look at you as, Oh, you think you're better than me? Or they may think, Oh, you don't think I'm fun anymore. You, you're changing up on me. Sometimes these things happen. You may lose friends. You may lose partners. When you are pursuing your dreams, you don't have to. However, when you're pursuing your dreams, you are leveling up and you may become the villain. The second way of how this may look is saying no, setting boundaries this may look like being the villain in someone else's life, because again, you're saying no to someone else. People take that personally. Have you taken something personally? I know if I've taken no's personally when someone is doing something and I want them to do something else with me or for me and they're like, no. And have I taken it personally? Yes. In that moment, where did a villain? Yes, it happens. You will become the villain when you begin putting yourself first, when you start putting your desires first. So say no, because when you say no to other things that are not in alignment with your Your goals, then you are saying yes to yourself. You're saying yes to your goals It happens when you are growing, it happens when you are leveling up, it happens when you are changing and in order to pursue your desires, you have to level up. You have to level up you have to change your mindset. You have to work on yourself You sometimes you have to make yourself a priority And making yourself a priority will may cause you to look like the villain in someone else's eyes, right? And that's okay. Number two the second way to Pursue your desires bully and nurture and unleash that dark feminine energy part of you is to be Be honest, be honest, be honest. So what this looks like is stop lying, stop lying about the things that you want, right? Stop lying about you working on your business or stop lying about you starting to pursue a career. Your dream of becoming an artist or stop lying about wanting to be a content creator, stop lying about maybe you wanted to pursue a modeling career or career out the box stop lying about wanting to be a content Millionaire, you know only working two to four days a week. Just be honest be truthful. Yes This is what I want. This doesn't mean to go out and share your business and just tell your business to the world, tell everyone, you know, all of the desires you have, what you aspire to be. You don't have to tell anyone that. What I mean by this, if, if someone has asked you a question that you've already told them, like, maybe you already told somebody that you're building your business and someone asks you, are you working on your business? Say yes. This is, this is what I'm doing. This is what I want to do. a lot of times we lie and I've been a person that lied or felt uneasy with sharing. Yes, I want to be an entrepreneur. Yes, this is what I want. No, I don't want to work for someone else. A lot of times we feel guilty for sharing those desires but be honest, when you be honest, you are unleashing that dark feminine energy. A woman in her dark feminine energy, she is honest. She is honest with who she is. She owns what she wants. She owns what she desires. And so. If you are in pursuit of following your desires, be honest. I've lied. And it didn't feel good. What happens is that it actually feels shameful. It feels like Your desires are a shame, And what that what message does that truly send out to the world? What message does that really send out? What vibration are you really giving off? When you lie about your dreams, you lie about your desires, you lower your vibration. It makes it shameful. It makes it hidden. It makes it something that you should feel embarrassed about. And that is not the case. So be honest and pursue of your desires. Again, not saying to go and tell your business. Cause I'm very big on silence with pursuing your dreams especially when you're in the beginning stages of, of pursuing something. Keep your vision and keep those thoughts to yourself. Because it's going to help, limit a lot of people's advice, unwarranted advice that you don't want. However, if you've already shared this, or you're doing it, and someone asks you, oh, like, this is what you want to do? Yes. This is what I want. This is what I'm doing. Yes. Yes. Yes. And yes. No, that's not what I want. Yes. Yes, this is what I want. Be honest. Alright, so number three. The third way of Unleashing your dark feminine energy as you pursue your desires boldly is to be unapologetic, like no longer apologize for what you want, like don't apologize for it. Your desires are truly there for a reason. We don't need to apologize anymore. I remember feeling so guilty, feeling so bad for, you know, wanting more for myself because it didn't seem like a lot of people around me wanted more for themselves. So I will feel bad for wanting more for myself. And even though I wouldn't apologize. I would talk to myself like, damn, I feel so sorry that I want this. I feel bad, but it's there for a reason. It's there for a reason. You don't need to apologize. You don't need to say sorry that you want to go work out. Sorry that you want to build your business. Sorry that. You know, you want to travel the world by yourself. Sorry that you want to do different things. You don't need to apologize for it. This is you and your dark feminine energy. She is bold. She is true to herself again. She is unapologetic. Unless she's really sorry about something, right? But your desires, you shouldn't be sorry for one of your desires. They are there for a reason. They are there for a reason. And there's a lot of people who are going to be thankful that you decided to pursue your desires because they're going to benefit from it. When we pursue our desires, it doesn't just benefit us, right? It's not just for us, right? Like, yes, like we benefit from it. Right. We benefit from it in multiple different ways. We benefit from it. Like with confidence, we benefit from it with feeling good about ourselves. We benefit from it financially health wise, relationship wise, we benefit from pursuing our desires. And because of the way that we benefit and our cup gets full, other people benefit from us pursuing our desires. It literally happens that way. Your children gonna benefit from you pursuing your desires, your relationships, everyone benefits from you pursuing your desires because you are making yourself happy. You are doing what you want to do, right? I feel like the, the people who are like the least fulfilled in their lives are the people who are truly not doing. What the heart desires, it can be the smallest thing. It doesn't have to be this big grand things of following your desires. It could be literally the smallest things. Again, our desires are things that it makes us excited, it turns us on, it gives us pleasure. Those are things that our desires, small or big, whatever it is, when we get those, we are better for someone else. We are better. So no more needing to apologize. So number four, the fourth way to pursue your desires and unleash and nurture your dark from an energy is for yourself to begin to release and embarrassment When you release embarrassment of you in pursuit of your desire, does this kind of go hand in hand with being honest, but You free yourself. You free yourself from the chains of embarrassment. You don't let embarrassment slow you down. You don't let the fear of embarrassment slow you down. I've been embarrassed so many times. So many times. However, There becomes a part of you when you're like, you know what? I am no longer available for embarrassment because for what? For what? Like, you're changing your life. You're doing the things that you want to do. Why should you hold on to embarrassment, right? There's so much beauty. There's so much of your dreams and your desires are beyond the embarrassment, right? So when you allow yourself to release embarrassment and pursue your dreams boldly and loudly and however you want to, And you say, I'm no longer gonna allow embarrassment to hold me back, you nurture, you unleash more of your dark feminine energy. Because again, a woman who is in her dark feminine energy, what does she practice? She practice being bold. She practices being unapologetic and living in her truth and doing things that make her happy. Right. Despite the fear of embarrassment. Again. So. If you want to sing in the car with your windows down, sing in a car with your windows down start working out, go to the gym, right? Start creating your content This is how you pursue your goals and be able to unlock your dark from energy is because you allow yourself to Release to set yourself free From Embarrassment it should not be a thing that holds you back Release yourself from embarrassment be no longer available for embarrassment. And honestly, you are going to change your life. You are going to change people's lives around you because you just let yourself do you. You just let yourself be. be yourself. The fifth way to unlock your dark feminine energy and to boldly pursue your desires is to no longer seek approval. I say this all the time. You do not need approval to follow your desires whatsoever. If you want to truly nurture your dark feminine energy and be able to unleash it. You are going to learn that you know what is best for you. A woman in her dark feminine energy, she allows her desires to guide her, to speak to her. You know what's best for you. When you begin pursuing your true desires, truly pursuing them boldly, then you are acting in a way where you know what's best for you. No one else knows what's best for you. You don't need approval. You don't need validation. You know, what's best for you. You know that your desires is the map of you creating your dream life. So when you allow yourself to be in this position of like, I'm not seeking approval. I know what I want. I don't need to ask anybody to show me what I want. I know what I want. My desires are telling me that you are living in your dark feminine energy. You are nurturing it. You are unleashing it. The more you do it, the more you Move at your own beat. The more you stay in your lane and the least that you ask someone for validation or for approval, you become more in your dark female energy. You become more magnetic. You become more just delicious. You become more sexy. You become more grown up, more grown woman, right? It is so. No longer seek approval. So the number six way to follow your desires and unleash that dark feminine energy is To allow yourself to be a risk taker. Being a risk taker is gonna be so good for you. So be being a risk taker looks like, you know, starting again. If you fail, starting all over it. That is a risk. That is a risk to start all over. It is a risk to go all in. You are risking feeling again. You are risking being embarrassed. You are risking judgment. You are risking you know, losing friends or you're risking money, you're risking so many things. You're risking being uncomfortable, right? So you're risking so much when you are in pursuit of your desires. But this is how you unleash, this is how you nurture your dark feminine energy is when you allow yourself to be a risk taker, to be that wild girl, that girl who, again, is not caught up in following the rules and being the good girl, is not caught up in following You know, listening to what everyone wants for her. She's not caught up in being just this pretty little tell me what to do girl. And I'll do it. No, you are being a risk taker when you pursue your desires. When you pursue your desires, allow yourself to take risks, to take more and more and more res. Despite of failure, in spite of judgment, in spite of embarrassment, in spite of getting in trouble, right? What is the worst that can happen when you follow your desires? So taking a risk while you're pursuing your dreams is going to unlock so many things. so much of your dark feminine energy. It's going to nurture that because it's going to create a version of you who is more confident. It's going to create a version of you who is more courageous, more bold. It's going to create a version of you who is not a perfectionist. It's going to create a version of you who is just so connected to herself and knowing that. Whatever it is that you pursue, you know that you can come back from it if it doesn't work out, you start to learn what you are capable of, you, you learn more about yourself when you allow yourself to be a risk taker. So, Take more risk while you are pursuing, or if you have not yet started pursuing your, your dreams, your big goals, your desires, if you have yet to start pursuing that, then I encourage you to take the risk, take the risk because you are going to unlock a suppressed part of you. That wild, bad girl version of you, she is ready. She is ready to be unleashed. She is ready to go wild with her dreams. She is ready to not be tamed anymore and to be this perfect person. No, she is ready to share her creativity. to do whatever it is that she wants to do. When you become a risk taker, when you take more risks, you will unleash, you will nurture that dark feminine energy. And so the seventh way to follow your desires and to be able to nurture a stay and unleash your dark feminine energy. is to be silent. Be silent. Show them not. Tell them. So the first reason why I say to be silent when you are pursuing your dreams and how this helps you stay and nurture your dark feminine energy is because, number one, It helps you not tell the wrong person because sometimes when you tell the wrong person about your desires, about your dreams, what happens is that maybe they shift your perspective. Maybe they tell you, oh, no, you shouldn't do that. This is not what you should do. And you start to question yourself. Remember, if you want to nurture That feminine energy, if you want to nurture your dark feminine energy, you know, what's best. You have to learn how to trust your own intuition, your own instinct, your own desires, and know that you know, what's best for your life. So if you tell the wrong person, it can throw you off. It can throw you off and begin to make you question yourself. Begin to make you come into your head. And a woman who is in her dark feminine energy She's going to move with her body She's gonna move with her body and she's gonna allow herself to figure it out along the way despite again despite anyone's feedback Anyone's feedback who is not doing what she wants to do. Let me just be clear about that right? You can definitely get feedback, but get feedback from people who are doing what you want to do not people who are not doing what you want to do. All right, so just being more intentional. So that's one reason why I say be silent. The second reason why I say be silent is because you want to have a little miss out three about yourself. You don't want to be telling everybody like, this is what I'm going to do. when you tell people this, it, it, it takes away from the mysteriousness. No, you want to have a little mysteriousness. You want to have a little bit, you know, mystery about yourself and about what you're doing. Show them, don't tell them. Right. So come out one day, you're going to show up and you're going to be like, boom, look at me. Maybe like you haven't told nobody that you are working out and you are. Tone of your body. You get all in shape and then boom, you step out and you're like, damn, like, who is this? You don't change your whole life or you are heavily pursuing your business goals. You're building your dream business and you are not telling no body but then boom, you pop up and you have this million dollar six figure company and you show them versus tell them. So that is something that is going to help you unleash and stay in your dark feminine energy is being able to move forward. with silence. Move with silence. Have a little mystique about you. show them, don't tell them, just bust out and show them that you're winning without having to tell them that you are going to win. So number eight, how to pursue your desires and be able to unlock and nurture and unleash your dark from an energy is to pour so much into yourself. Fill up your cup so much guys like fill up your cup so much while you are pursuing your desires Truly like you're gonna need to. Things that I like to say is, I take care of my mind, I take care of my body, I take care of my heart. I pour into those all the time. Pour into those all the time because your desires is going to be a reflection, the maximum, the level of your desires, the quality of your desires, the fruit of your desires. Of your desires is going to be a reflection of how much you've poured into yourself, right? Are you taking care of your mind? Are you taking care of your heart, your emotions, your feelings? Are you taking care of, what did I say? Mind, but your body. Are you taking care of your body? Your body, you need energy, you need all of this. If you want to say you're a dark feminine energy and be a person who is magnetic, be a person who is radiant, be a person who is, who looks delicious, who looks like she's glowing, take care of yourself. Take care of your mind, your body, your heart. Pour into those, especially while you're pursuing your dreams. Because your glow Your radiance, all of that is what's going to magnetize and attract your desires to you. Yeah, we're taking action, we're taking action in all of that. However, you also want to attract by just your energy, right? By you allowing yourself to have fun, by taking care of your heart, taking care of your mind, your body, resting, reading, working out, listening to things that motivate you. Eating good food. All of these things are going to fill your cup and make you a magnet to your desires. It's gonna make you look good. Like that girl. While you are pursuing your desires. It's gonna make you truly be in your dark feminine energy. And be more bold. Be more courageous. Because the more you pour into your body, your mind, your heart, You are going to be building your confidence in yourself. You are going to be continuing to get to know yourself, to understand yourself and knowing what you want. And the more you do that, the more you pour back into your desires and you unleash again. Those suppress desires. And when you know, and you unleash more of those suppressed and hidden desires, then you become more bold. You become more in your dark feminine energy where you're like, you're take control of the world. Yourself, you take control of your life, you take control of your direction. You take control of what you want and how you want to feel. You take control of that. You know, you're not playing anyone else's rules. You're playing your roles. So pour into your cup so much, fill yourself so much. Up so much while you are in pursuit of your desires, and this is gonna help you stay, nurture and unleash more of your dark feminine energy. and so if you are ready to become unapologetic To boldly pursue your desires and unlock your dark feminine energy Pour into your passions be a risk taker no longer seek approval So that you can start pursuing your desires and stop thinking about, you know, am I ever going to have my dream life? Or am I ever going to feel the sense of fulfillment in my life and fear and regret for the rest of your life? Then I invite you to sign up for one on one coaching. All you have to do is click the link in the description box where you can sign up for a few sessions, or you can go to cleopatrawilliams. com and sign up for some sessions From there, it is the time for you to become bold. It's time for you to pursue your desires. Be unapologetic. Bye. Be in your mystique, be in your dark feminine energy and truly own who you are, own what you want for your life. Be confident, be courageous, and I want to help you do so. and so again, just click the link in the description box. So before I go, I'm going to rehash all the ways that I've already shared. Again, all of these tips comes from personal experience experience of how I've been able to unleash and nurture more of my dark feminine energy. And so just to go over again, because Why not? So number one is allowing yourself to be the villain in someone else's eyes. When you are pursuing your desires, bully your dreams. You may become the villain in someone else's eyes and sometimes they may stop you from pursuing, but don't, don't let that stop you. Pursue it boldly. And so this can look like, again, saying no to other people so that you can say, yes. To your self, right? Setting those boundaries. You may look like the villain, but guess what? You are stepping into your power. You are stepping into your dark feminine energy and you are pursuing your desires. You know what's best for you. And you know what you want. You are the designer of your life. Number two is being honest, being honest with what you want. Like you don't have to keep lying about it and you don't have to go out and share it to the world, but you don't have to lie about what you want anymore. And no, Be honest a woman in her dark feminine energy. She is honest again. She owns who she is. She owns her desires She knows what she wants and no one else is going to deter that if you just allow yourself to be honest. Number three is to no longer apologize for your dreams, for your passions, for your desires. Why are you apologizing? You don't need to apologize for what you want whatsoever. Your desires are there already. for a reason. Number four is to release embarrassment. Do not allow embarrassment to hold you back. Be unavailable. for it. What do you need to be embarrassed about? What do you need to be embarrassed about? No, create the content, show up how you want to show up, go to the places that you want to go, take up space, release the control of embarrassment and set yourself free while you are in pursuit of your desires. You don't need to be embarrassed. So number five is to no longer seek approval. No longer seek approval for what you want. You know what you want. You know what you want. No one else. So no longer seek approval. A woman in her dark feminine energy, she knows what's best for her. She moves at her own beat. Not anyone else's, right? So no longer seek approval. Number six is be a risk taker. Be a risk taker. Be more bold. The more you take risks, the more you learn about yourself, the more courageous you are being, the more imperfect you are, the more you don't play by the rules, the more you be a rule breaker. The more you, you know, again, go to the beat of your own. You don't follow anyone else's path. You follow your path. So you be that risk taker. And you take more and more risks every day. As you pursue your dreams, take the risk to pursue your dreams. You deserve it. Number seven is to be silent and be mysterious. Show them, don't tell them, just do what you want to do and just pop out, pop out and show them, okay. You don't need to tell the whole world about what you want to do because they Again, that can lead to self doubt if you tell the wrong people or it can lead to it just not seeming that Magnetic anymore. It's not seeming that alluring because you're sharing it so much So just show them, don't tell them. And number eight is pour so much into yourself, pour into your cup, take care of your mind, your body, your heart. Because the more you do this, the more you get to connect with yourself. The more you learn about yourself, the more you have the energy to go after your, your desires, more boldly, more confidently, the more you feel good. It's all about that inner work. It's all about you taking care of yourself. And the more you don't play about yourself, nobody is going to play with you. Right. And that's you being in your dark feminine energy. And so ladies, that is it for today's episode. And until next time, bye.