Self-Approval is KEY to Attracting More Opportunities, Possibilities, and Confidence For Yourself

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In today's episode of Confident and Thriving, we are talking about self-rejection and how it is one of the top things keeping you stuck from where you want to be. I share with you why self-approval is the way to getting more yeses and opportunities in your life. It's time to stop rejecting yourself and approving yourself. You'll be surprised how much confidence will unlock!

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squadcaster-c86c_1_01-15-2026_134519 0:00

Hey ladies, welcome back to another episode of Confident and Thriving Podcast. So today we are going to be talking about something that is very important something that I've learned a long time ago, and that is to stop self rejection. So I have my notes right here, so if you see me looking over a few times, that just simply means that I'm looking at my notes. But I'm here. I'm here with you. All right, so ladies. Again, this is a season of power activation of shedding certain things, unleashing certain things within you so that you can truly elevate and step into your personal power and, build confidence and do the things that you wanna do that you feel like you desire to do and own your desires. So if you want to feel more confident, then get out of your own way. Get out of your own way with the self rejection. So if you are a woman who love to say oh, that won't work, or you, maybe you won't apply for the job that you want because you think that you may get rejected, or you won't ask out the guy that you've been liking for some time. Because you think you may get rejected or you won't promote your products online. You won't show up online, you won't, do the things that you wanna do because you automatically expect that you will get rejected or you won't pitch yourself to maybe sponsorships or pitch yourself to just pitch yourself to a recruiter or just anything that you desire. And. If you find that this is you and you're doing this all because that instinct and that feeling that you're going to be rejected, then this is stopping you 1000% from leveling up. This is stopping you 1000% from fing to the woman that you can absolutely be, and it is really scaling opportunities. From yourself. You are stealing opportunities from yourself before you give yourself the opportunity to even be approved. To even be accepted to, for someone to even possibly deny you. And so the only way that you're truly going to feel empowered to take certain actions, to take advantage of opportunities in your life is really to. Start approving yourself first. You're gonna need this if you wanna get out of your own way to create opportunities for yourself. You have to learn how to approve yourself first. No one's going to. Approve you. No one's going to say yes until you approve yourself first. And I'm gonna give you some examples from my own personal experience about what this looks like and what I mean by this, because there is no other way around it So what I discovered is that one of the biggest obstacles that is gonna get in your way from learning how to start self approving yourself is number one, is not realizing what you have to offer. If you are unaware of the value that you bring to people's lives, if you are unaware of your personal value, then that is gonna be an obstacle that is gonna get in your way of you truly learning how to approve yourself. The second thing, the second obstacle that's gonna get in your way of self approval is thinking that you have to have everything together, thinking that you have to be. Perfect. Perfectionism, obviously I spoke about this before, how it is a big inhibition. inhibition is something that gets in your way from you taking action on something that you truly want. And so. is excuses, right? If you are thinking that you have to have everything together, you are never going to approve yourself, you're gonna miss out on opportunities. You're not gonna create opportunities for yourself and you're gonna continue to reject yourself before you even allow opportunities to happen before you even allow people to say yes. The third obstacle that. I've discovered with that's holding you back from truly approving yourself is thinking that you need. More so thinking that you need more experience, thinking that you need more skillset, thinking that you need more followers, thinking that you need more confidence, thinking that you need more education, thinking that you need to, you need more beauty. Whatever it is. These are all obstacles. These are all obstacles and really. Some of it is excuses, but it's just, it's big obstacles that is hindering you from self approval, okay? And so I wanna give you some examples, some personal examples of. How overcoming certain obstacles, like the ones that I just went over, not really, like not realizing what you have to offer. Thinking that you need more thinking, that you need to be perfect or have everything together. It needs to be the right time. So let me show you how, some examples from me how. What can happen when you approve yourself in spite of that, despite of all of these obstacles, right? So my first example before I became a speaker, all I had was my. Podcast at this time, all I had was my podcast and maybe some reels that I was posting on Instagram. Now, in hindsight, right? And the past version of me, if I would've thought to myself like, oh, I don't have the experience to be a speaker. I'm not going to pitch myself. That would've would have been an obstacle that would've never allowed me to get speaking opportunities. So what I had to tell myself I, what I had to tell myself is that if I can speak on a podcast, then I can speak on stage. Also, if I can host webinars. Then I can speak on stage, then I can get paid to speak. And so even though I didn't have speaking, quote unquote speaking experience of speaking on stage to people, I still had some experience. I still had speaking experience to show up online and create content and to host webinars. And to me, I prove myself as that is enough. That is more than enough. And so what happened when I pitched, I got yeses. And also people pitched me eventually, and so that goes to show you that you don't need to have all the experience in the world. You don't need more followers, you don't need more education all the time. All I had was my speaking platform on my podcast, and I said that was more than enough. So I proved myself first before denying myself of what was possible. So let's say I never sent out pitch messages. If I never did that, then I would've never got yeses. I would've never had the chance for some people to reject me, right? Some people didn't respond, that's okay. But some people say yes. So I would've never had that opportunity of even getting approved or getting a yes if I would've just rejected myself. So that's one example. Another example that I'm gonna give you, I spoke about this before, is that when I decided to. Wanted to increase my income and I said I wanna increase my income by, it was like$35,000 plus I wanted to increase my income and I made that decision before I made that decision. I was re, I was self rejected, rejecting, I was telling myself like, ding, but I don't have enough experience. Like, how or I don't have enough experience in some of these fields or, some of these job titles that re that you can make more money. And so I was thinking that, oh, maybe I have to go this route or I have to do this. I don't have the education. I don't have whatever, all the excuses, right? And thinking I don't know what I have to offer to even apply. But then once I decided to say, you know what? I can do this. I approve myself that I can do this. Let me find something that I can transfer. The skillset, transfer the skillset that I had in previous roles and use that skillset, use that knowledge that I currently have, and bring that value to another company. Bring that value to another position. And so what happened? I got rejected. I got, I went on at least 20, 25 interviews for a total of three months. I got rejected multiple times. Multiple times, and I had to self approve. I can do this, I can do this. Why not me? I have the skillset to offer. I got rejected because I didn't have the job title, never held that job title. So guess what? I kept going with self approval until someone said yes. Again, this goes to show you another time of that, like when you say yes to yourself, it doesn't matter how many rejections people give you. It doesn't matter how many times someone says no or it doesn't matter how much experience you have or. Maybe you're not, you don't have everything together. When I was doing this, when I was interviewing, I was just living in my mom's my mom's home, right? I moved from Virginia, I moved to South Carolina just temporarily until I can get a job to move back to New York. So technically a hot and no place of my own with my daughter in one bedroom. And I approve myself first so that someone else can approve me. And if I would've stopped myself from even giving myself the opportunity because I didn't have the education, or I never had the job title, I didn't have the experience, I didn't have everything together or not realizing that I have something valuable to offer, then I would've never gave myself the opportunity. I would I would've just felt something with the same income that I was having before. And so, again, that's another example that I wanna give you about self approval. I have so many examples that I wanna give you when it comes to pitching, when it comes to just showing up in general, like so many times where I had to self approve before someone else can approve me. But I don't wanna make this episode too long, but I just wanna tell you that when you can approve yourself, that is all you need. Get outta your own way. You are sucking opportunities out of your life. You are taking away opportunities from customers. If you wanna be a business owner from customers to say yes to you because you think you don't have the, because you think whatever you have is not good enough. This is all a reflection of really what you think of yourself at the end of the day. It is when people reject you or reject something from you, typically is about themselves. So let's say you are trying to get a job. It can be that maybe you wasn't your best on the interview. It can be that you didn't have this that you didn't say the right thing, whatever, but 80% of the time is because you just didn't meet a need that they needed. What they needed to, for that position, for that role. Or if 20% of the time, if you're selling to some, to someone. A lot of times their rejection is not about you 80% of the time is because it doesn't meet their need. So when you are rejecting yourself from opportunity, you are automatically thinking it's gonna be because I'm not good enough, because what I have isn't good enough. I don't have enough experience. You're making it all about you. You're being so self-conscious and making it all about you when in reality. It is not about you. It is really about them and what they need in this moment, and that is it. So you denying yourself, you're making it about your worth, you're making it about your value. You are taking opportunities from you. Before you even got a yes, before you even get approved. So the faster you begin self approving, the faster you will unlock possibilities. If I never knew that I can increase my income in three months by$35,000 plus, 30 plus, I would even know, I would even thought that was even possible if I didn't, if I didn't pitch myself. To be a speaker, I would've thought, oh, you have to, have speaking opportunities first, right? So every time you become more, every time you give yourself approval, and then you give yourself living proof by showing that, oh, I took this opportunity because I proved myself. Look what happened. Possibilities opened up for you. Confidence unlocked for you when you do that? Because you realize I have what it takes. I can do, I can be, I can have whatever it is that I approve myself first if I want it. I got it. If I wanna become it, then I be it. If I want to achieve it, then I do it. And that takes you self approval. And then when you do that and you give yourself love and proof, you begin creating your own opportunities in life, your confidence levels up, your self image levels up because you start seeing yourself as more empowered. You start seeing yourself differently. You create your own opportunities for yourself. Nobody has the opportunity to tell you no. They can tell you no, but that's just okay, like it might suck. But then another opportunity comes because you're creating that by actually momentum, by actually doing, by actually asking, by actually speaking up, by actually being right. So nothing can truly reject you if you approve yourself first. All right? And no one can truly say yes to you unless you say yes to yourself first. All righty. So you don't need more beauty. You don't need more experience. You don't need more confidence or followers or education. You don't need any more of that than what you need. Stop looking outside of yourself and look within yourself. Actually just elevate what you think of yourself right now in this moment. You have, you're, you have so much more potential than you truly believe that you have. You have more knowledge than you think you have. You have more skillset than you think you have. You have just enough right now to elevate your life. You have just enough right now to change things in your life. You have just enough right now to become better, do better, have better. It is all within you and it starts with self approval.

squadcaster-c86c_2_01-15-2026_142809 16:48

All right, ladies, I'm back. Sorry I had to run to a meeting. However, let me just finish off with this, instead of rejecting yourself first, just simply ask yourself, why not me? Like, why not me be the person? To get this opportunity, why not me Be the person that customers say yes to, right? To your products, to your services. Why not me? Be the person that can increase my income mul, like 10 times, three times, right? Why not me be that person? Why not me be that person who gets a yes from the this man that I like? So start doing that. Like why not you see value in yourself? Start realizing what it is that you have to offer, right? Start looking at the experiences that you already have. Start realizing those things and that you don't need anything else to get yeses. You get yeses, and then everything else will improve in time. The more value you can add will improve. The more experience you think you need will improve. The more confident you'll feel, the more beautiful you'll feel. All of these things can be added. All of these things can be worked on and increase. So it's really up to you. This is your year of elevation. This is your year to really activate that personal power that is already within you, that is ready to be unleashed. There is more opportunities available to you. There are more possibilities. Available to you and more potential that is ready to be unlocked within you. There is more confidence, more self worth, more everything that is ready to be released, ready to be unleashed, and more yeses ready to be given to you. So you really want to give yourself that. Yes, first. All righty. So if this is something that you absolutely are ready to work on and ready to activate that personal power, and you want help with getting that activation in you to kind of walk you through the steps of what it really takes to step into your personal power too. Release to become that person who can own her desires, own what she wants. Then I created a course, it's called Personal Power Activation. I decided that I'm going to release this course on February 15th. However, right now I currently have it for pre-sale. So this course is made to go over a course of three weeks. It is for you to help you transform how you see yourself, your confidence, how you feel about yourself and what you're capable of if you are stuck and not making movements. You've been stuck for years on end, on maybe wanting to put yourself out there, wanting to start something, wanting to achieve this goal, and you're ready to get movement, this course is for you. Maybe you wanna increase your personal power in your career and your personal relationships, right? To get your needs met, to get what you want. Then this course is for you. So I'm gonna leave the information in the description box and the show notes. Of course, if this is something on your heart, take advantage of it. If not, that is okay too. But. It is on pre-sale, and again, it launches on February 15th. That is the date that I have set. All right, ladies. This is it for today's episode of Confident and Thriving. Again, we're gonna say no more. Self rejection is all about self approval. Approve yourself first, and no one else can truly reject you. You can get rejected. You can get rejected, that's okay, but if you approve, but if you approve yourself first, then you're gonna give yourself more opportunities to, to get yeses. All righty. So. That is it. I'll see you ladies in the next episode. Bye.