The Intoxicating Joy & Confidence Waiting for You When You Take Up Space and Stop Hiding

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Hey ladies. Welcome back to Confident and Thriving Podcast. So today we are going to be talking about something that, oops. Something that I think is hopefully gonna motivate you to begin taking up space, to begin being bold and audacious. Um, and that is the joy that comes when you stop hiding. And you start being seen. And what I mean by being seen, I mean like being seen as who you wanna be, you know, owning your desires of the things that you wanna do. So doing the things that you wanna do and owning what you desire to have. A lot of times we hide those things, like we hide who we wanna be, we hide what we wanna do, we hide what we wanna have. And that really keeps us in a. Feeling of unfulfillment. It keeps us really stuck on low confidence. Um, because we're thinking about all the, like all the things that can come when we start showing up and we start really stop hiding, right? Um, and the things that most common people like think of, we all do it. Sometimes that is like, okay, if I decide to. Show and express myself as who I wanna be, then there's a possibility of rejection, right? There is a possibility of, um, judgment and embarrassment and, and I think rejection is probably like one of the biggest things that come with that. Because we all have this craving to belong and to be accepted. Um, it's just human nature. It's who we are, um, since we were created. Um, and so and so, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, that. That fear of maybe rejection and, you know, being excluded and not belonging as you express who you wanna be, how you wanna show up, can really keep us stuck and really keep us in a negative space of just not taking bold action, not, um, stepping into confidence and things like that. And then also for like what you wanna do, right? Owning the things that you wanna do. It comes, you know, we think about. The fear of embarrassment, the fear judgment, the fear of failing, which is, you know, a huge thing. A lot of times we fear failure because failure can just, it can really bring up feelings of, you know, if something is wrong with us, feelings of not being good enough. Um, just so many things that failure can bring grief, it can bring a lot of different things. Also not owning, you know, hiding the things that we want to have. Right? So what I've noticed that when we begin, when we hide the, the desires of our heart, when we hide the things that we want to have, it is due to a feeling of maybe not feeling worthy or just not feeling that we. Who we are can actually receive that. Not feeling like we are in this like, scarcity mindset of not feeling like that is available to us, um, is only available to certain people. And whether that is like, you know, having a successful business, um, having money, having a healthy relationship, whatever it is that you truly wanna have. You may not say it, you may not speak up for it. You may not go after it or own it simply because of a feeling of not enoughness, um, a feeling of not enoughness within you, but also not enoughness, um, in the world, right? That not you're simply just not being aware of the abundance that is available to you. Right. And so we think about all of these things, all of these, you know, cons and you know, things that could come with owning and owning who we wanna be, owning what we wanna do, owning what we wanna have, but we really miss out on something that is so valuable. And that's something is something that I've learned throughout the years of each time. I own who I wanna be, do what I wanna do, and how, what I wanna have, um, and for so many other people, when they begin to own that parts of themselves. And that is the joy. The joy of owning you, the joy of owning who you wanna be. It is one of the best feelings in the world. Um, and owning what you wanna do. Owning what you wanna have. The reason why I said is say is like one of the best feelings in the world is simply because there's freedom that comes with that, right? And freedom is one of like, freedom is joy. Freedom brings joy, right? Because when we are not free, when we are not free internally, um, then we feel restricted. We feel resentment, we feel, um, you know, unforgiveness, we feel shame. We feel all of these things right? And when we're not free externally. Then we feel again restricted. We feel trapped and we feel caged in. We really feel confined. And freedom to start owning who you wanna be and doing the things that you wanna do, and having that and deciding that you are gonna stop hiding behind these things. Brings so much joy and so I'm gonna share with you the top things that I noticed just from my own personal experience and then also watching other women who. Taken up space who've decided to own who they wanna be, who decided to do the things that they wanna do, and really go after the, the things that they wanna have. These are just some of the top things that I noticed that amplify, amplifies that joy. So one thing that I've noticed that truly amplifies that feeling of joy when you stop hiding behind yourself is the. Is peace of mind. Peace of mind comes when you've really stopped negotiating with yourself. Right? And what I mean, my, what I mean by negotiating is thinking. Okay. Can I be her? Can I not be her? Can I do this? Can I not do this? What if I do this? What if I don't do this? Um, can I have this? Can I not have this? You know, it creates like one you're stuck in, like indecision. Um, and that causes so much emotional disturbance, right? Is because it's friction. You're not making a decision. There's friction, there's tur turmoil. All up inside of you because you're stuck in this back and forth of, you know, between the person that you truly desire to be and the things that you truly desire to do and have, and the version of who you are being, what you are experiencing right now, right? Because in order to get to that next level, you have to choose to. Become a different person, literally to experience certain things. You have to choose to do certain things to get there, but you're, you're battling between the, you know, the two stages of where you wanna be in your life, who you wanna be in your life, and that back and forth is a headache. That back and forth is a headache. Um, and it doesn't give you peace of mind versus you get. Peace of mind when you make a decision, right? That's like as easy as when you're thinking about, I'm gonna charge this. When you're thinking about like, what do you want to eat, right? Sometimes it's like deciding what you wanna eat. 'cause sometimes feel like a stressful, um, experience, right? You may not feel it, but. I know sometimes I do the frustration of like, I don't know what I want to eat, because it is back and forth. It's causing our brain to do so much work trying to figure out what we wanna do. When you make a decision and you decide to choose like, okay, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna be this, I'm gonna have this, then there is no more battle. You, you're clear, you're going, you know exactly where you're going, right? And, and joy comes with that because you're freeing up internally a battlefield that is happening in your mind. And so this doesn't mean when I say like, peace of mind, this doesn't mean that, um. Making the decision takes away challenges because it doesn't. This doesn't mean that making the decision to do something takes away like setbacks or the possibilities of failure or rejection. Those things are still likely to happen, right? Simply because of when you are showing up, when you stop hiding and owning who you wanna be, like when you have that intention. With intention comes disruption. That's just what it is. It is going to happen because it has to stretch you. Because if it was super easy, then everybody will be who they wanna be. Everybody will be doing exactly what they wanna do and experiencing everything that they wanna have. Right? However, those challenges are, those challenges, those setbacks, all of those things that happen is what's gonna help you elevate even more faster. However, what I wanna say is that there is a difference between, the challenge is that comes through movement and the challenges that comes through self abandonment. Right, and so challenges are gonna happen when you begin to move, and we want those challenges. Remember, like I said, we want those challenges because they grow us, they stretch us, they unlock potential, they unlock opportunity, but that challenge, that emotional disturbance that you are going through is due to self abandonment when you are hiding. When you are like literally hiding who you wanna be, what you wanna do, what you wanna have, you are absolutely like self abandoning yourself. And that alone does not create peace of mind, all right? Like we want to own ourselves, not abandon ourselves. Okay, so the second thing that I notice when I stop hiding, like who I wanna be and things I wanna do, is that you make yourself proud. So when you begin to just own it, stop hiding, right? This alone puts you on a high, it is like almost intoxicating. I can remember like. When I first started creating content and I started being really intentional about it and sharing, you know, confidence and things like that. And then when I was like releasing my podcast and then I decided that I'm gonna be a coach, and it was just like so much was happening all at once. I was on this crazy high and that high was coming. I felt so proud of myself. So proud of myself because something that I've been wanting to do for years, like just show up online. Share my voice. I didn't know necessarily that I wanted to talk about confidence, but I always knew that I wanted to help women with something. I didn't know that it was exactly this. But when I decided to do it, oh my gosh, I was on this crazy high. It was just like, who, like who unlocked this girl? Right? Like, I stopped caring, like what? People, like I stopped caring about the fear of being embarrassed, um, of judgment. Like all those things that kept me from taking up space for so many years started to just plummet. I stopped caring, and that made me so, so proud of myself. And that is something that I know most of us want, right? Like we truly want to feel proud of ourselves. We wanna like show ourselves that we are exactly who we say we are, that we are exact, like we're doing exactly what we say we're gonna do, right? And because when we don't do these things, it, it is just, it's. It's showing us that we are not, that we did not, and so we can't have not, right? So it's again, like when you are not in movement of like doing the things that you wanna do, not owning who you wanna be and hiding it is literally like a self-fulfilling prophecy, even if you're not seeing it, like your results are showing you that you are not. And so. Doing it. You start, you start taking up space wherever it is that you wanna do, right? You start owning, like you start, you know, speaking up. You start dressing how you wanna dress, you start owning your body, how you wanna own your body. Um, you start being confident and, um, you know, transforming yourself image, reinventing yourself, changing careers, and starting your business, starting your passion project. Changing, you know, relationships, getting into different community, like all of these things, you feel so proud of yourself. It's like you discover, you unlock potential one that you didn't even know was there. Like you may, you may be thinking like, oh, I can do this, but you don't know it until you do it. Like you can know it, but until you really experience it. You feel like you just don't know it yet, right? And so when you are doing these things, you unlock potential. Like there's so much that makes you proud. Let me read it 'cause I wrote this down. You unlock potential. Um, you realize what you're capable of. Like I just said, like you, you realize what you're capable of. A lot of times you don't know what you're capable of. Until you actually just do, and then you're just like, oh my gosh, I didn't know I can do that. Like I would've never thought in a million years I can come on like line and talk about confidence and talk about goal achievement and you know, making bold moves and taking up space and doing all these things because I used to be so freaking shy, like, didn't I wanna be seen whatsoever? And so like you realize it's capable, like. You realize like your potential and what you're capable of. Also, you start seeing yourself differently, right? You start rebuilding self-trust. And I say rebuilding because you already have confidence within you. It's just been broken down a little bit, right? It's just been trampled on a little bit throughout the years, but it helps you rebuild that self-trust, um, because you're so proud of yourself. You start seeing yourself, um, like you start identifying as someone who is. Bold. You start identifying as someone who is audacious and someone who is, who is a go-getter or ambitious. you just feel like you have this huge identity shift where you no longer look at yourself as, you know, as someone who doesn't do what they say they're gonna do. As someone who doesn't, you know, stick to their goals. No, you start. When you do these things, you make yourself proud. Like that is a re, it's reaffirming the belief that you want to truly have about yourself, that identity that you wanna have about yourself. And let me tell you, when you feel so proud of yourself, you feel more attractive. You're more lit up, you're more turned on, which alone is like, it just makes you more attractive. It makes you more magnetic like. If you're in a relationship, like your partner will see it, your family will see it. Like people will be able to feel your energy because of how proud of yourself you are. And that alone to me is like golden because we all wanna be proud of ourselves. Okay, so the next thing that I realized that really amplifies that joy is being like rewarded. Um, and what I mean by rewarded yes. Externally things, right? So being rewarded by like opportunities when you stop hiding and you start owning who you wanna be and owning what you wanna do and what you wanna have, and you're taking action towards these things. And you're claiming it, like when you're able to claim something, let me tell you like things come to you faster, things come to you faster. Opportunities come to you faster, doors open up to you faster. Because you're owning it, you're claiming it, you're, you're done hiding. Because you're saying you want it. You now start seeing things like that's available to you and so you start being rewarded with recognition, you know, wanting, again, most of us wanna feel seen. We wanna feel. Of course, like we wanna validate our own selves beyond any external validation. Let me just say that however, being recognized for you, like Stop hiding is so like, it is amazing, right? Like if you're family members can point out to you like, wow, like you're completely like different, right? You're unrecognizable. Like, I can't believe that you did this. Right. I don't know, like how many people told me like my siblings, like you inspire me, right? My, my ex. You inspire me. You literally like blow my mind because of like how bold you are, how courageous you are, how many times, like you don't give up on yourself. Like you blow my mind These are things that bring so much joy because even though you can see it, like sometimes you still want, like the people who matter to you most to be able to see the changes in you, the um, the audacity in you like, and start transforming how, you know, they seen you previously to how you want to be seen. Right? And that is when you start owning. What do you wanna do when you wanna have, and even being, it is amazing when you can start transforming and becoming a brand new person. And people, they might not see it right away, but when they see it and you get recognized for it, you're like, wow, like, I really did that. I am, I'm dope. I'm amazing. Like how awesome is that? And so. Again, like that is another thing. Yes, that's a little bit more of like the external validation, but like those things also reaffirm all the inner work, all of the work that we did. At the end of the day, those things are still important. I never wanna say that that's not important. Um, but we just don't wanna replace that. We don't wanna replace, um. How we validate ourselves, like with that external validation. but those things are important, being rewarded in recognition, right? Not just by family, but again, like people who, you know, do things, who take a space being recognized. Like even as simple as like when my podcast hit like 10, 10,000, um, 10,000 downloads to 20,000 downloads, like it sends me an alert to. To recognize me and show like, you made this, like you got this many downloads. Like this is how many people have been impacted. This is how many people have listened to your voice. Listen to the things you had to say is as simple as like that. And it's just a, it is just a platform that is highlighting me, like recognizing the work that I did. And this can also be. Like recognition, like if you wanna be online recognition with, um, you know, community audience who you know, lets you know, like what you, what you are doing has either like, changed my life, has helping, helping me, benefiting me. like it's so much joy that comes when you begin to start taking up space how you wanna be. Doing what you wanna do. Like so much joy that comes with that. So it is, so, it's such a reward to be rewarded for that. And sometimes it's just simply through words from others. I love when people say like, oh my gosh, like, I love your podcast. Like to me that's rewarding 'cause you get recognized for you taking a safe for you owning like who you wanna be. Um, and again, and like I said, those opportunities, opportunities open up. Right? Like, just to give you an example, when I started taking up space, when I started sharing my content, um, like there was like speaking opportunities, like that came easy to me. Like I barely had to ask for these speaking opportunities. Like they all, they reached out to me. It was just like, oh my God. Even though I reached out to some, like the ones that I really like, did, they reached out to me because I stopped hiding, like. Hello. Like, what do you want? That like, that brings so much excitement, so much joy. Like it is such a turn on, it's such a thrill to really start owning who you wanna be. And it's gonna be like at different levels too, right? Different levels. Because you're gonna keep changing, you're gonna keep growing. And back to that internal freedom of what I was speaking about, how this is one of the things that truly amplifies that joy and that is due to. You begin living more authentic and more truthfully, and because of that, you start feeling more connected to yourself. I don't know about you, or I couldn't just imagine because I've been there where I felt so disconnected from myself. So disc so disconnected. Um, like not knowing, you know, my purpose, wondering like, why am I here? You know? Um, just feeling so completely just like disconnected. Like, who am I? Right? And so once I started to like own parts of me that like, I just wanna be me. These things allow you to show up more authentically and more truthfully, and it connects you back to yourself. And that is a, and that is freedom. That is like a woman who, the woman who is most magnetic. Who is most attractive? Who is most joyful? Um, who is the most bold, in my opinion, is a woman who is truly free. She feels free internally, that internal freedom. And when you own who you wanna be and what you wanna do, you are. Going closer to being the more authentic version of you. And again, this comes in different levels. It's not all gonna happen at the same time. Um, but you keep unlocking more authentic version of you and a more authentic version of you, like the shadow versions of you, right? You keep, like when you unlock and you own one desire, another desire unlocks that you didn't even know was there, or maybe it was suppressed. Um, and then you keep unlocking more, right? And so this is how things work. But you begin to come back to self. You begin to feel connected to yourself and to me, that is, is so much joy that comes with that. And because when we are not ourselves, we feel it right? When we are not ourselves, it's like again, that self abandonment. It keeps us in a state of like, we're not good enough versus when you can own it and you can actually prove to yourself that it's okay for you to be authentic. It's okay for you to own what you want and live truthfully, and that you're gonna be safe, and that is okay. Then that's when joy happens. That's, I mean, of course Joy is something that. You know, we want daily, like to breathe, to live. Like we all should be joyful for like the little things like that, big things, especially when it comes to bar broth in our lungs. Right? Um, however these things amplify, you know, amplifies like that joy that you already have, it's just a, it is just you amplifying it by you starting to own you. Own what you want. Own like what you wanna have, own what you wanna do, own who you wanna be. It amplifies that through, through these things. And these are the things that I've noticed and I truly think, like you can absolutely experience this when you begin to, you know. Just do it, just on it and stop hiding. Stop hiding, because there's so many people, like if you wanna own a business, like whatever it's that you wanna do, there are so many people who is waiting for you to just be you. You are waiting for you to be you. Um, but to level that up even more, like there's so much people who is waiting for you to be you and for you to do what you wanna do so that you can just even impact them and that alone creates that movement. It creates, it activates audacity, it activates that confidence. That high self image alone is you. You just stop hiding and allow that to amplify the joy due to all of this. So remember like. Again, it makes you proud of yourself. It gives you peace of mind. Like there's nothing, like peace of mind is everything. It gives you peace of mind, right? It unlocks the potential. You get rewarded for it, for you showing up, you get rewarded and you. Connect back to yourself, right? Like your identity shift, you see yourself differently. You connect back to yourself because you're owning yourself truthfully. Um, and so I want you guys to start looking at the, the benefits that come when you stop hiding versus like the fears of like the cons of the things that come when you stop hiding, because those things will happen, but like. When we wanna weigh our options, right? What do we wanna experience the most? We wanna experience joy, we wanna be proud of ourselves. We want to unlock our potential. We want to feel peace of mind. We want to stop living in that state of like, what if, or like, am I ever going to accomplish this? Am I ever like, is this all it is? When you truly know, like, no, there isn't. Like that feeling of like, this can't be it. Like this is not all life is for me. Right? Like, it is not, it's really not. But in order for you to experience that, like you wanna stop hiding. So, so that you can, all right. 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And so if you feel called to start sharing your voice and help other people in a space that you know that you can help in. Then I wanna welcome you to Voltage visibility you'll be gaining confidence in your messaging, your value, your skillset, your voice. You'll be confident in your pathway to profit from your impact. You'll gain confidence in your public speaking skills in real time. And these are just a few things that we are going to go over in voltage visibility. And so again, this is your fast track to b and c online, making your mark, leaving your impact and profiting from that impact. And so if you feel called. To take advantage of that bold move offer, then go. I'm gonna go ahead and leave the link in the description box for that as well. Um, if you have any questions, always, you can email me through the link. And that is it for today. Ladies, I hope this inspired you to look at the positive of, you know, taking a space and, and being you and owning what you wanna do and stuff, versus the scary parts of it. Like, let's outweigh the options here, right? And so that is it for today's, episode, ladies. I will see you in the next video. Bye.