How to Get What You Want

The Skill That Stops You From Overcommitting

Episode 199

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Someone asks you to take something on, and before they've even finished, you've already said yes. You didn't check your calendar. You didn't ask if it was your job. And three weeks later, you're carrying work you never wanted and quietly resenting the person who handed it to you.

That yes was automatic. And automatic isn't the same as generous.

This episode is about catching that yes before it leaves your mouth, and saying no instead in a way that's warm, fast, and doesn't cost you the relationship. Learning to pause in that split second is how you stop overcommitting and start getting what you want.

In this episode, I'll cover:

  • The hidden cost of a yes you give without thinking
  • Why a quick no protects your relationships more than a slow maybe
  • What actually keeps you stuck saying yes when you mean no

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