How to Get What You Want

Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way

Susie Tomenchok Episode 205

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A senior leader wraps up a conversation and asks what they can do for you. You reach for the question you've been taught to ask. Where can I improve, and what are my blind spots?

It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the time you realize it, the impression is already set.

There's a specific swap that changes what someone walks away thinking about you, and once you hear it, you'll notice how often you've been doing the opposite.

In this episode, I'll cover:

  • The real reason that "blind spots" question works against you
  • A better question to ask when someone offers to help you grow
  • How to be intentional about who you ask, and when

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