The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to reclaim the version of you who never had to beg to be chosen.
You ready?
Let’s do this.
The Femme Cast
Stop Molding Yourself to Fit the Room | ASMR Channeled Message & Feminine Healing Activation for the Woman Who’s Lost Herself In Her Relationships
What if the very thing draining your energy isn’t what you’re doing—but who you’re being in each space?
In this special ASMR channeled message and healing activation, I’m speaking directly to the woman who’s learned to shape-shift her way through life. The high-performing perfectionist. The good daughter. The over-giving friend. The supportive partner. The reliable coworker. The woman who’s mastered the art of compartmentalizing her identity to fit in, be liked, and avoid conflict—until the exhaustion becomes impossible to ignore.
If you’ve ever felt like pie—split into different pieces, each version of you tailored to someone else's comfort—this episode is your wake-up call and your medicine.
Inside, I share a channeled message that poured through with raw honesty and intuitive clarity:
🎤 Why compartmentalizing your true self is a form of energetic self-abandonment
🎤 How constantly shifting personas disconnects you from your soul and makes authentic relationships impossible
🎤 A powerful visualization to call back all the scattered parts of you into one centered, integrated whole
🎤 Why discomfort is a necessary part of healing—and how to lean into it instead of running from it
🎤 The surprising truth about magnetism and why your fullest expression is the key to being truly seen, chosen, and loved
This isn’t your typical episode of The Femme Cast—this is an energetic healing and a spiritual transmission. I recorded it intuitively, late at night, without filters or overproduction. Just presence. Truth. Activation.
Whether you’re brand new here or you’ve been part of my world since the OG Facebook group days, consider this a sacred invitation to remember the version of you who never had to beg to be loved, chosen, or enough.
It's time to stop managing personas and start embodying your full power.
Tune in. Close your eyes. Breathe. Receive.
This message found you for a reason.
Are you healing from cheating? Betrayal? A heartbreak that not only broke your heart but broke your life?
If so, join me for She Rises: A FREE & LIVE 90-minute healing and activation experience for the woman ready to alchemize the pain of lies, betrayal, and being cheated on into unapologetic power, radiant confidence, and the woman she was always meant to be.
Betrayal doesn’t get the final word — you do.
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Hey you guys, what is up? Welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful that you're here. We are going to do something a little different today. I'm a little nervous doing this, I'm not gonna lie, so I don't know if we'll do this again. We'll see if it even works. We'll see if it even goes live on the Femcast.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But for those of you who are OGss, who have been with me for a while, um, and you remember the Facebook group that we had way back in the day um, one of the things that we used to always do in there on a regular basis was channeled readings and um, channeled readings is something that I continue to do, um, for my private clients and also for myself. I, I, you know, I channel a message for myself pretty much every morning and a half for years. How I do that has evolved over time. I don't use a lot of divination tools anymore. Sometimes, or very lightly, I don't rely on them as heavily as I used to. I guess is probably the best way to put it. I still use them quite a bit, but most of my divination or my intuiting or channeling comes through. You know just what I'm picking up on intuitively and just with what I write. A lot of journaling, a lot of a lot of insight comes through for me with journaling. So we're going to try that here today and see how it goes. I'm going to try and put in some nice soothing, healing music in the background to. I'm going to try and put in some nice soothing, healing music in the background to kind of, you know, fill in some of the quiet spots so that they're not too awkward and drawn out. And I do apologize, I tried to wait as late as I could to do this video so I could have a nice quiet background. And it is quite late, but unfortunately I still have motorcycles going by at like 10 o'clock on a Sunday night. So we'll do our best. Hopefully the motorcycles aren't too disruptive, but it is what it is.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So let's just set the intention. Let's just set the intention that you know this reading finds you when it needs to and it finds whoever that it needs to. And I always set the intention that my readings be timeless and that whenever you find them exact is the exact right time that you need to hear them. And you know, just setting the intention that anyone listening, and to yourself and to anyone else, that you, you know, receive the messages and the guidance that you need to hear most today, that you get some assistance and support and moving through and creating healing and transformation in the direction of you know, feeling a sense of empowerment and confidence in who you are and what you deserve.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:In your relationships, you know, always coming back to that idea and not idea, but intention of really helping you to remember the version of you, or reclaim the version of you that never had to beg to be chosen and never had to beg to be loved, and just remembering that that is your truth and that is who you are, and that everything that you've been taught otherwise is a is a condition, is a is a conditioning and a belief, um, that, um, we're here to help you move through and break, so that you can come back into reclaiming that version of you, that really pure, authentic version of you that knew she was always loved, she was always chosen and she was always worthy. So, with that, let's see what's coming in. So I, you know, as I was already talking, I'm already seeing a circle. I'm seeing a circle and it almost looks like a pie, looks like a pie chart, which is weird because I don't know why I would see that compartmentalizing. Maybe is that like, maybe you're compartmentalizing parts of yourself, compartmentalizing.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I feel like you're whoever this is for. I feel like you're. You have these different versions of yourself. You have the version of yourself that you take to work. You have the version of yourself that you present to work. You have the version of yourself that you present to your partner. You have the version of yourself that you present to your friends. You have the version of yourself that you present to your family and I feel like they're they're very different and you're managing these different parts and I'm literally seeing somebody playing with them, as though they're like building blocks, and constantly moving them and shifting them and adjusting them and trying to get them to fit into places and then struggling to make certain pieces fit. So I feel like you're spending a lot. I I feel like okay, so I, right away, I just feel like I need to tell you because I feel like I need a breath, so I want to tell you to just take a deep breath in, in. So remember, just keep remembering to breathe and centering in the belief that who you are is enough and that you do not need to create these different versions of yourself, for all these different environments, to create, um, to compartmentalize your essence in this way so that you're palatable to this group and then to this group, and in that environment, in this environment, there is an invitation for you and it's getting exhausted.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:The person that I'm speaking to right now is getting exhausted from doing this. You're literally to the point of exhaustion and it's, it's, you're, you. You just want to not necessarily throw up the puzzle, um, or the compartmentalizing, really, but you're just it's. It's building up as frustration, it's building up as resistance, it's draining your energy up as resistance, it's draining your energy, um, it's making you, I guess, I guess what. I guess the best way to put it is it's almost making you think twice about showing up in these places, like you almost don't want to go certain places because you know it requires you to bring on an authentic or or to to bring a compartment section, a pie piece of yourself that is not representative of your full essence, and it's becoming exhausting and it's becoming depleting. It's way too much work, this thing that we do, and many of us do it, and I know I did this for years.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I had a version of myself that I would show my friends, and I had a version of myself that I would show my friends. And I had a version of myself that I would show my boss. And I had a version of myself that I would show my co workers. And I had a version of myself that I would show my family. And then, you know, I had a version of myself that I would show whoever I was dating, or my partner or whatever, and it became exhausting. It became exhausting and it also became very damaging to my relationships. It made it impossible for me to really create authentic relationships that I felt safe around, and that really comes back to not feeling safe with being yourself, right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So? So there's a real, there's a real fear there that being yourself in some way, in some way shape or form, going to get you in trouble or going to create turmoil or or conflict for you. And so what you're doing? You're doing this right now and it's completely out of survival, um, because it's it's a way of self protecting. But it's getting impossible for you, um, to keep compartmentalizing yourself like this and picking and choosing which pieces are going to show up, when and where. It's too much. You can't hit, like, spiritually, you can't handle it anymore. Mentally you can, but spiritually, your, your soul, is just saying no more, it doesn't want to do this anymore, and you feel that and you're almost trying to ignore it. Um, the invitation for you is and what I'm hearing is let the pieces fall where they may, right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So, letting go of the compartmentalizing and leaning into the discomfort of being a more authentic version of you, wherever you go. And this is going to feel really uncomfortable at first, especially if you know there's some sort of fear there that if you're yourself and you're authentic and you truly allow yourself to be yourself and to be seen, you and you truly allow yourself to be yourself and to be seen, there's this fear that you know that you're not going to be enough or you're going to be judged or, um, it's going to be uncomfortable for some people, or some people you know might not take it um, in in in a positive way. But understanding that you know a lot of that comes from our own perception of like, how we feel that we're not enough. So we feel like we have to like, create these, like different personas to take with us to all these different places so that we can kind of mask our own not enoughness, but really at the, at the, at the base of what it is, it it truly is rooted in our own not enough. Now, that's not to say that you know, of course you're going to be slightly different at work than you are with family.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Um, you know, maybe there are certain things that you know you leave. You leave behind, like I might not cuss with my family the way I do when I'm with my friends, right, or I might not cuss at work, um, the way that I do when I'm with my friends, right, or I might not cause that work the way that I do when I'm with my friends, and and that's totally normal. But when you're completely altering your personality, like, and I'm seeing like altering your tone on, altering the way that you talk, altering your style of communication, altering your ideas, your beliefs and, and and you know, you know what you, what you stand for and and and what you really truly believe in your heart space, like those are things that should be the same no matter where you find yourself. And you know, whenever we try to mask or shrink those parts of ourselves, we and this is literally what I was talking about in today's episode when I recorded it or the episode that I recorded today it's not necessarily today's episode is. It takes so much of our energy and bandwidth to hide these parts of ourselves. And it's also the biggest form of self rejection and abandonment, because we're basically saying that this part of us is not good enough to be in the room right now, so we're just going to, like, you know, pack it away and put it in another compartment and just pull the pieces that we think will fit in nicely. Right, so it's.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It's literally, and this starts to hurt us. It starts to hurt us emotionally and starts to create belief systems that we aren't good enough and that we can't bring our full selves to the, to the conversation or to the table or to the room, um, and it makes us feel, um, almost like this fear. I feel like there's this fear that you're like, you feel like a fraud, you feel like, um an imposter, you feel like, oh god, what if they ever found out what my other parts were like? And it truly isn't like that. And I know sometimes, you know, especially with work, we can feel that way. It can feel like we can't bring our whole self um to our workplace, um, but this is what actually sets apart.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, if you can, if you find the courage to truly be yourself and truly let yourself be seen. This is what's going to really set you apart from other people, because people start to see you, people start to see your magic, people start to see your gifts, people start to see that essence of you that actually leaves a mark on them, and when you're hiding that, you're not leaving that mark, you're not creating that impression. You're not, you're not building that intimate connection with people because you're holding so much of yourself back. And so what ends up happening and this is kind of what I've been doing with the channeling and holding this part back is that I've been sharing it with people and people haven't been seeing it. And so you know I've been sure I've been hiding this big part of myself and missing out on this opportunity to connect with you guys on a totally different level that many of you might have not even had the like. You might have not even known that this is something that I do right. That might not if you've not been following me for that long, you might not have known that. You know this is something that we used to do all the time and that I do on the regular.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so you know this is an example of exactly what we're talking about. Right, it's about allowing all these beautiful parts of you, whether they're messy, whether they're imperfect, whether you think they're unpolished, whether you're not sure if they're going to fit in or how people are going to receive it or how they're going to respond, or you know people are going to take offense to certain things. You know you kind of just have to bring as much of you to the table as you possibly can in every circumstance and environment that you find yourself in. And this is going to be really uncomfortable at first, but I challenge you every day to bring a little bit more of yourself. And again, you know, going back to the point I made earlier, there are going to be certain aspects of you that you cannot bring to every environment, and I think that's okay, like in moderation, little things here and there.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But when we're talking about your essence, of who you are, your personality, what you're all about, what you stand for, what you believe in, what you're passionate about, you have to find ways to weave all of that in, no matter where you find yourself um, you know, even at work sometimes, you know, like I mean, like, just to give you guys an example um, you know, when I was working in my corporate job, my corporate job was very, you know um logical it was. You know, um, it was basically like project management. It was a lot of budgets, it was a lot of spreadsheets, it was a lot of tracking. You know, it was all all of the all of the what is it? The left brain things that you know I typically now try to avoid. However, you know, I knew that there was, I was good at it. It wasn't that I wasn't good at it, I was very good at it. But also I had this other side to me that was really passionate about, you know, diversity in the workplace, this other part of me that was really passionate about creating a supportive learning environment where people could really expand their skills and feel supported in their roles, could really expand their skills and feel supported in in their roles. And so what ended up happening was I started to get involved in projects that supported these things, or put my hand up to volunteer for projects that supported these things, or made recommendations for ideas that might support these things.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So you can find ways to bring all of you into all of the environments you're in and, you know, let yourself be fully seen, even if it's uncomfortable for some people, even if some people don't always resonate with it or, you know, maybe kind of they might be put off by it a little bit. That's okay. It's okay Because what's going to end up happening over time you're going to really see it becomes magnetic. This is really the key to magnetism. The key to being magnetic is being able to bring all of you to the forefront so that people can see you. If you're only bringing pieces, people don't see you.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So when you start to bring all of you to the forefront and let people truly see you for who you are, that's when you start to magnetize the connections that you're really going to resonate with the people, that you're going to feel a kin soul connection to the relationships that are going to feel like next level soulmates, the careers that are going to be completely aligned, um, the people looking at you to say, hey, we see your gifts, we see your talents, we want to promote you, we want to move you forward, we want to, you know, take you to that next level. That's what really sets you apart, and that's the part that so many of us are holding back because we're so busy trying to fit into compartments and who we think people want us to be versus and this is such a people pleaser thing um showing up as who we think people want us to be in order to be happy, versus showing up as our full self and trusting that the people that are going to be happy, um being in our company are going to naturally gravitate to us and find us when we do those things. So if you are the person who I'm seeing with that circle pie little puzzle pieces, who's compartmentalizing how you show up in all the different areas and relationships in your life and it's just getting too hard to manage, you're actually forgetting which hard to manage. You're actually forgetting who you're supposed to, which part of you you're supposed to bring, where and when. It's what it feels like. It just feels like you're losing you're. You're almost like, you're almost forgetting which role to play, you're forgetting your lines.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It I'm literally remembering um, if you remember that movie, um with katherine heigl 27 dresses when she was going to like the different, like weddings as a bridesmaid and she was going from one wedding to the next and then she would go to the next wedding and then she would get to forget to change her outfit or she still had the shoes on from the previous wedding. And you know, she was kind of like she was trying to be in all the places and and fit all the the roles and all the environments and and and do all the roles and all the things, but what's happening is that she was constantly changing from one role to the next, to the next, to the next. Um that she was, she was losing sight of what she was supposed to be wearing and when and the costume changes and so forth and so forth, right. So, um, I'm literally seeing that right now, and I think you know whoever's listening to this, whoever needed to hear this um, it's okay to stop, it's okay to stop.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I just want you you know, when you get that urge that you feel like you need to like, figure out which person, which version of you, to bring to this next conversation, to this next interaction, to this next environment. You know, I just, really just want you to take a breath and really center into yourself, really ground into yourself, into who you are, and I want you to imagine bringing all of these parts back into you. Just take a deep breath and imagine bringing all these parts in, all these different versions, all these different roles you've been playing, all these different hats you've been wearing. I want you to imagine bringing them all in, bringing them internally, feeling them center in your body, and just keep taking a breath until you feel as though you're in your body.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Because when we start to compartmentalize ourselves like that, we actually it's almost like we're having an out of body and our essence is going into these different compartments. Okay, so we need to break, we need to pattern, disrupt and pull our energy back internal and bring it back within. And we do that by taking a breath, feeling ourselves centered in our body, imagining all these pieces and all these blocks and all these little pieces of pie of ourselves coming back into center, feeling whole. Coming back into center, feeling whole. Feeling the wholeness of who we are, feeling the wholeness of our essence and every little quirky, intricate part of ourselves that makes us who we are and that makes us unique. Imagine that all coming back centered into you, all of it coming back online.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And then I want you to just set an intention, wherever it is that you're walking into next. That has you tripping a little bit as to you know who or how you should show up. I just want you to set the intention that you're going to show up as your full and whole self and then just get a visual, a quick visual of like how to best do that Right. Maybe it's bringing an idea forward that you wouldn't have normally brought forward. Maybe it's sharing a piece of yourself, a piece of your story, um, that you maybe wouldn't have never shared before, um, you know, maybe it's sharing um, a dream, a goal, um something, some random thought that you had that was wildly entertaining, that you know. Maybe you're afraid to tell people because you think people are going to judge you, but you tell them anyway. You know, it's these little quirky things that make people feel really special to be around us. And I think that when we give people the opportunity to do that, to really see us for who we are and to really connect with us on that really intimate level, we have the ability to forge some really powerful, really connected soul level relationships. And I think that's probably one of the things that you know if you're struggling with these pieces of the pie and these compartments of yourself and which ones to bring in.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When you are feeling very scattered, you're feeling very outside of your body, almost a little bit dysregulated, and you're probably feeling like you're engaging with everyone and you're interacting with everyone but you're not connecting with anyone, and that is not a good feeling. And when you feel that lack of connection, that is your first clue that you're not bringing your full self into the experience. So your first challenge is to again get centered. Bring all those parts of yourself back online, back to center, back within. Right. Imagine all these parts of you kind of within you, all at the same time, simultaneously, no more chopping yourself up into bits and pieces. Right. Bring all these beautiful parts of you online and centered within you and then decide from that wholeness your intention for how you want to show up at each and every moment.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:This is how I want to show up in my workplace today as my fullest and best self. This is how I want to show up with my family today, in my fullest and most authentic self. This is how I want to show up with my friends today, in my fullest and most authentic self and really setting the intention of what that looks like and you know, just trusting that as you take little steps at a time, it'll get easier each and every time and it'll be uncomfortable at first and you know you're it's going to feel it's going to probably bring up a little bit of anxiety for you and that's OK and it's probably. You're probably going to say some really awkward things at first and do some awkward things, and that's okay too. That's fine, it's okay to be messy, it's okay to kind of screw it up, it's okay to kind of fumble your way through this. But when you haven't given yourself the permission to really be fully yourself and to really let yourself be fully seen and be fully present, you know it can feel like you're standing in Times Square naked the first few times. So it's going to feel a little awkward but it's okay. So just remember and we can do that right now as an exercise I want you to get familiar with this practice.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I just want you to take a deep breath. If you can, if you're not in your car right now, if you're not driving or operating heavy machinery, if you can just kind of close your eyes, I just want you to take a deep breath and I want you to imagine pulling all of your energy inward and I want you to imagine all these parts, all these different parts of yourself the part that you show your friends, the part that you show your family, the part that you show your husband, the part that you show your kids, the part that you show your mom, your dad, your boss, your coworkers. I want you to imagine all these parts of yourself coming inward and into you, so that you're all one big beautiful being. And wherever you're going to next after listening to this podcast, wherever you're going to next, whether it's work, whether it's family, whether it's home, whatever it is, I want you to set an intention for, from this place of wholeness where all of you is together and centered in your body, I want you to get a visual right now for how you want to show up. What do you, what part of you do you want to share, what part of you are you ready to let be seen in that environment, and how are you ready to share it? And just just trust that this will unfold and you might not have an answer right away, um, but an answer will come and it will get easier and you'll start to get more and more I um clarity of what it looks like to bring your whole self into each and every situation. So, um, maybe we'll do some more content around this idea this month, um, but hopefully this lands well and um, hopefully you got some of this today, and this because this is a first that I've done this.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I really would love to hear some feedback, so leave comments wherever you're listening to this and let me know if this resonated, if this landed for you, um, what you liked, what you didn't, um. You can also email me at um Maria at the femcoachcom, um, and let me know there as well, or you can also DM me on Instagram. I am always on Instagram. I love to hear from you guys on. Some of you have already started messaging me, which I love, um, so please, please, please, at any time, go to the femcast on Instagram, um, and you can send me a DM there. Okay, you guys. So that is.
