The Femme Cast
Welcome to The Femme Cast—the podcast for women who are truly ready to break free from toxic relationship cycles, choose themselves, and become a magnet for the love they deserve.
I’m Maria — Master Energy Healer, Radical Self-Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor.
I work with the women who are cycle breakers, grid shakers, and truth layers — the brave souls who came here to dismantle the inherited beliefs that told them they had to chase love, prove their worth, and beg to be chosen.
I help them break free from the karmic cycles and generational patterns that keep them stuck in toxic relationships and self-abandonment — so they can unapologetically choose themselves, reclaim their inherent worth, and become magnetic to soul-aligned love, expansive opportunities, and the liberated life they were born to lead.
Without ever shrinking, settling, or self-abandoning again.
I’ve been where you are, stuck in cycles of chasing love, begging to be chosen, and abandoning myself again and again in the name of love. But I turned my pain into purpose, and now I’m here to help you do the same.
Each week, I share personal stories, actionable insights, and a blend of spiritual and practical tools to help you heal from past wounds, reclaim your self-worth, and rewrite your love story. You’ll hear everything from vulnerable truths about my own journey to breaking toxic patterns to empowering lessons that will guide you toward creating the healthy, loving relationships you crave.
Join me as we say goodbye to self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy dynamics, and hello to radical self-love, emotional freedom, and true empowerment.
It’s time to reclaim the version of you who never had to beg to be chosen.
You ready?
Let’s do this.
The Femme Cast
The Truth About Black Cat Energy, Being Unbothered & Healing Your Anxious Attachment Style | The Real Path to Magnetic Love
You can fake “black cat” energy all you want… but your energy never lies.
If you’ve been trying to master that mysterious, unbothered, magnetic vibe to attract love, while secretly spiraling, overthinking, and checking his online status every five minutes, you’re not alone. I’ve been there.
The truth?
Acting unbothered without actually feeling secure is just emotional cosplay. It might work at first, but eventually, the cracks show and people can feel the anxious attachment underneath, even if they can’t name it. That’s when the chasing, people-pleasing, and centering men above yourself takes over.
In this episode of The Femme Cast, I’m sharing:
🎤 Why fake confidence always sabotages real connection.
🎤 How I went from “cool girl” façade to full-blown anxious chaser (and the heartbreak it brought).
🎤 The exact process I used to heal my anxious attachment and shift into secure, magnetic energy.
🎤 How decentralizing men and making yourself the main character transforms not just your relationships — but your entire life.
We’ll talk about the hidden link between childhood abandonment wounds and adult relationship patterns, why authentic “black cat energy” is a byproduct of deep self-healing, and how to stop chasing approval so you can start attracting the kind of love, purpose, and expansion you actually desire.
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep abandoning yourself in relationships — or how to break the cycle for good — this episode is your permission slip to stop performing, start healing, and become magnetic in a way that’s impossible to fake.
Are you healing from cheating? Betrayal? A heartbreak that not only broke your heart but broke your life?
If so, join me for She Rises: A FREE & LIVE 90-minute healing and activation experience for the woman ready to alchemize the pain of lies, betrayal, and being cheated on into unapologetic power, radiant confidence, and the woman she was always meant to be.
Betrayal doesn’t get the final word — you do.
https://thefemmecast.kit.com/masterclass
Hey you guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. Welcome if you're new. I am so excited and grateful to have you guys here. I have made several attempts to record this episode, all of which have been a hot fucking mess. So here we go. I have no idea which take this is, I just know there's been many.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Okay, so today's conversation is all about this idea behind being in black hat energy and acting unbothered, which we're hearing about so much in the personal development space, especially when it comes to dating and relationships for women. Right, there's this whole movement about blackhead energy and being unbothered and how it's the key to being magnetic as fuck, to attracting men, and in many ways this is true, right, but and I say but, there's a catch in that it has to be real and it has to be authentic, and this is the part of the conversation that oftentimes I don't always see being talked about enough. In fact, the reason why I decided to talk about this today is I was actually. You guys know that I'm very active on Instagram. I'm constantly posting, I love engaging in comments and then DMs, and if you're not following me there, I'm not sure why, but you should be. But I was actually commenting on a fellow creator's post who, by the way, I have a ton of respect for and I think she does amazing work and most often I will agree with what she's saying. And sometimes, you know, I'll bring a different personal perspective. But, very respectfully, I'm not about, you know, putting down other creators. I'm just not about that life. That's just not fucking cool. Like, don't be a fucking mean girl. If you're gonna be a mean girl, go someplace else. Don't be a fucking mean girl. If you're going to be a mean girl, go someplace else. But you know I made this comment and it sparked this hailstorm of DMs and comments back and conversations. So I really wanted to bring it to the podcast today because here's my take on it, right? Because here's my take on it, right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:So choosing to be in black hat energy and being in this vibe of being unbothered and unattached in relationship right, and taking the focus away from them, right, and making you the focus of your life and becoming central and focused on yourself, is absolutely powerful. It is powerful and it is magnetic as fuck. There is no disputing it whatsoever. It actually does work. Okay Now, and here's the but. Okay If it's not authentic, if you don't genuinely feel that way, it'll be short-lived In that, yeah, you may attract a lot of people in your space and in your vicinity and people to interact with and engage with and go out with and whatever, but those relationships won't last if that black cat energy, that unbothered-esque essence that attracted them in the first place is not genuine.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And the reason why it won't last is because, number one, energetically they'll pick it up right away. It'll be incongruent. Your actions, your words don't align with how you actually feel, and they'll be able to pick up on that. They won't know what it is, they won't be able to articulate it, but something will be off in the vibe and they will know very quickly. And second of all, even if they don't realize it or if they don't get the vibe or whatever, eventually any effort that you've made to make decisions or take actions that you know keep you as a central focus, you'll start to abandon all those and you'll start to slowly make them the central focus. So either one of two things will happen. Usually, what will happen is they will pull away because as soon as you start to chase or attach or cling or force, to chase or attach or cling or force. It's the laws of physics. Whatever it is you're trying to chase will run. Whatever it is you're trying to attach to will slip right through your fingers. Simply, the laws of physics Like yes, we can get into the conversation of a male, emotionally available versus emotionally unavailable men.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Sure, but even emotionally available men don't like being cling. Emotionally available anybody, men or women, don't like to be cling to, attached to. Nobody likes that energy because it starts to feel suffocating, right, although sometimes people can't really articulate what they're feeling, but it doesn't feel good, right. And so, energetically, you'll start to behave that way. You'll start to abandon what it is you know, your needs, what you need to feel whole within yourself, the things that are important to you. You'll start to put those on the back burner and you'll start to prioritize and centralize their needs, right. So, like I said, either they will run or what you're going to end up with is a relationship with an imbalanced dynamic where you're constantly giving, giving, giving, giving, giving. They're taking, taking, taking, taking, taking. Now you're resentful because they're not giving as much as you are and you have toxicity, right. So either way, as much as you are and you have toxicity right. So either way, it's not going to end up well for you, right?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:If you really want to and this isn't a judgment, this is somebody who's done black cat energy. I didn't know it was black cat energy at the time because it was before this conversation of black cat energy even became a thing. But I did it twice. I did it, you know, in my early 20s, which was pretty authentic, like I still had some insecurities down. You know it still came from a lot of insecurity and, you know, fear of being vulnerable. But I think I had blackhead energy, pretty like down to a science even though I didn't know that's what it was when I was unbothered, I didn't get too attached, I tried to focus on my own thing, and every time I started to get attached to somebody I would forcibly pull myself away. I would forcibly pull myself away and start to distract myself with things that were meaningful for me. And so, you know, I actually cultivated this healthy confidence in relationship right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Then, you know, after my you know first, real long-term relationship and you know, being lied to and cheated on and manipulated for so long, my abandonment wounds were so activated coming out of that. And so, coming out of that, I wasn't able to have that healthy attachment style. I was now very anxious attachment style where I was so afraid of somebody doing that to me again that I was constantly, constantly seeking all this external validation, all this fear of abandonment and rejection coming up, and so all I would try to do is pretend to be in blackhead energy because I knew it worked for me so well the last time. But I wasn't really in it because beneath the surface I was anxious. I was afraid you're going to abandon me, you're going to reject me. I need to lock this in before I lose you. Even before I knew whether or not I even wanted this person or if they were good for me. You know that's.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:There was so much anxiety beneath my dating and my relationships that, even though I was trying to act unbothered and I was trying to act like I was in this, I was not Like. I was such a like flailing ball of insecurity on the inside it was like crazy. But I was trying to pretend and act as if. And you know, with what's that other saying that? Everybody not acting as if, but fake it till you make it right. I was trying to fake it till I make it. I'm gonna. I'm gonna act confident until I actually am confident did not fucking work. It was such a conundrum of toxic nonsense like. Hence why I called it my douchebag era. You know what I mean.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Like none of those relationships ended well for me None, either I, you know I attracted them very quickly, but then very quickly they would ghost because my anxious attachment style would just start to like rear its ugly head, or I would end up being in a long-term situation ship with them pretending to be okay, to be in a situation ship when really what I wanted was a relationship, but doing all this cool, unbothered nonsense, thinking that one day they'll come to their senses, but they never did. They'll come to their senses, but they never did. And so, you know, I ended up wasting all this time in these emotionally unavailable relationships that were literally dead end and going nowhere, thinking that one day they would show the promise of a real relationship. Right, and pretending that I was okay with not being in a real relationship. But I wasn't. I wasn't. I wasn't being honest about how I was feeling. I wasn't being honest about what I wanted.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know, all this acting unbothered and you know like I don't care was literally keeping me stuck in this cycle of dating emotionally unavailable men. And you know, either I would get stuck in like I said, either I would get stuck in one of those two dynamics where I would start dating them and then they would ghost because somewhere they would pick up on my anxious attachment style beneath the surface, like something about my vibe didn't quite match how I was showing up and they picked up on it right. And then on the other end is the guys that would just like take advantage and kind of float in and out of my life. Whenever they got bored, right or between other chicks, like when they didn't have anybody else, they would come floating back into my world. We'd hang out for a couple weeks and then they'd ghost again and this was like I mean, this went on for the longest time and it was literally this whole conversation of black cat energy and being unbothered and trying to act cool and uncomplicated when that's not what was happening. So the reason why I say all this today is that, yes, black cat energy works in attracting people, being unbothered works in attracting people.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But number one, it has to come from a genuine place. Like you can't fake it, you know. It has to be coming from a really genuine, authentic place, and the only way to do that is to heal your anxious attachment style. That's the only way that you're going to get there. So do the work in healing your anxious attachment style first. That's number one. And number two be really, really clear about what you do and don't want in a relationship.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You can still be in black hat, unbothered energy, but be clear that what you're looking for is a real relationship. And if that person whoever you're, you know, considering is not looking for a real relationship, if they're just looking for a situation, ship or something casual, so be it. That's not what I'm here for. I'm here for the real thing. So you know peace, love, light. See your way out of here. You know, like, this is not the place for you. I'm only entertaining people who are actually in it to find a real, healthy, loving relationship, right, and then, once you find people who are actually looking for the exact same thing as you, then you can start to explore okay, are we a good fit for one another? But be honest. Be honest about what you want, be honest about what you're feeling, and if your feeling is an anxious attachment style, then work on that first. Okay, it has got to come from that first.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Once you heal that anxious attachment style, you will naturally be in this black cat unbothered energy, because you're no longer going to be clingy and needy with anybody, because you'll be solid within yourself. That really is the key to decentralizing men and making yourself the focus. Because when we're in anxious attachment style, we make them the focus right. We make having their validation the focus. We make getting text messages from them the focus. We make getting attention from them the focus. We make getting a commitment from them, even though they've told us time and time again they're looking for commitment. They've told us, they've said it, they've said it with their words and they've said it with their body language and they've said it any which way that they can, but somehow we're still clinging to the idea that maybe someday they won't, it will not.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And what physical cues they're giving you to think that, oh well, he's being affectionate. No, no, that's not what's happening. It's not, it's just intimacy. It's intimacy with no attachment. That's all it is Like. Please hear me on this, okay? Please don't mistake intimacy for commitment. That is a big no-no, okay, but anyway, I digress. See, this is how I derail from conversations. Do you see what happens? I go off on these tangents and then it's like you can't bring me back, but anyway, and I forgot what I was talking about. Oh my God, this is insane. Okay, all that to say that you know that is the default setting when we're coming from an anxious attachment style, right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When we get to, when we finally heal that anxious attachment style, right, we're no longer making them the central focus. Now we can make ourselves a central focus. We can prioritize what we want. We can be clear about what we need in a relationship. We can be set healthy boundaries. We can be honest right about what's coming up for us or what we want in a relationship. Right, and what we want for ourselves and for our life and be willing to make that a priority right. That's what gets to be. That's what you get to experience when you heal that anxious attachment style and you're able to step into a healthier attachment style, because now you being in a relationship is now is now you know it's not. Somehow your survival is no longer dependent on it. You know that's what anxious attachment style feels like. It feels like your survival is dependent on this relationship working out, and if it doesn't work out, you're literally going to die, because the pain of rejection and abandonment is such that it feels like dying, like literally, when you're there, you know.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But when you can come out of that anxious attachment style and be like, okay, you know what I'm really good in, who I am and what I'm doing in my life. And you know, I'm I'm I'm really passionate about the things that I'm doing and I'm excited about the life that I'm creating. And, um, you know, I have goals, I have dreams, I have ambitions and and things that I want to do in my life. And just not know that, whether or not this relationship works out great if it does, but if it doesn't, you'll be okay. You know, being able to stand in that energy of knowing that, with or without that relationship, you'll be okay, or even just the knowing that you can walk away from a relationship that isn't for you. Knowing that you can have, you know that you will have the strength to walk away from a relationship, even if you do love them, even if they're great, even if there's great chemistry, knowing that you have the willpower, the drive, the commitment to yourself to walk away if that relationship doesn't work. What's the word that I'm looking for here Does it mesh well with the vision that you've created for your life?
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:You know that you'll have to make some serious I'm talking serious sacrifices here on life choices in order to make this relationship work and you're able to say you know what, as much as I love this person, I am not ready to give up these things that are important to me. I'm not ready to turn my back on these values that are important to me. I'm not ready to turn my back on these values that are important to me. I'm not ready to turn my back on these life goals that I've set for myself that are important to me. And I had to do this very recently with somebody right, and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, because I genuinely loved this person, but I knew I could not have the life that I wanted with this person, and being with this person would take massive sacrifice, and I was not ready to do that. And so I was able to make the choice to say you know what I love you and this hurts me so much to do this, but as much as I love you, I love me more, and I had to kind of pull the plug on that. I love me more and you know I had to kind of pull the plug on that and that was probably one of my most difficult yet most empowering decisions that I ever made.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:Right being able to look at, to be in that situation and still, no matter how uncomfortable it was, no matter how difficult it was, no matter how scary it was, to still say that I get to choose myself here and trust that I will be okay, that to me was like a life-changing moment for me and I want that for each and every one of you, you know. But again, that does not come without first healing that anxious attachment style that makes you feel desperate to attach to, to cling, to chase and to control the outcomes of relationships. Okay, that's really all it boils down to. When you can heal that part of yourself, you can be in black cat, unbothered energy, no problem, because you feel really good in who you are and what you're doing, and you know that anybody who comes along who's a great compliment for that. You know you can bring this sort of healthy attachment style to of hey, love being with you, but I know I'll be okay without you, like. You know what I mean.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And so, for me, how I healed my anxious attachment style when I was going through this sort of like detox period of my anxious attachment style and I think I talked about this in a previous episode was every time I got that urge to text, you know, again and again, and again, or to write that really long text, right, you like that. You have to like writing your notes first and you kind of edit it a few times before you send it and you save it and you kind of like mull it over and it gets really long. You're talking about all your like. Before I do any of that, or anytime, I feel like I want to do any of that. Every time, I feel like I want to send that long text or check my phone, or wonder why they haven't called, or check to see if they're online, or or anything like that. Or you know, whatever, whatever it is that I'm doing when I'm anxious in that moment, um, instead of and and this is the hard part you know, instead of reaching out, instead of sending that text, instead of looking to see if they're online, it's putting the phone down or whatever it is that you're reaching out, um, and trying to gain that control or that access through it's putting whatever that thing is down and really paying attention to what you feel on the inside and literally like treat it like an addiction. You breathe until the craving passes. You literally sit there and you breathe until the craving passes. And I remember because you know what.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:It's funny because I, for years I smoked and I did the same thing with cigarettes as I did with quitting toxic relationships and healing by anxious attachment. It was the exact same process. I would literally like breathe through the cravings and try and distract myself for a little bit, or maybe that works. That was probably more for cigarettes, but with when it came to relationships, it was more breathing through the urge to want to text, to reach out, to reach for my phone, to check and see when the last time they were online was. Did they read my message? Oh, the worst was when they. Actually I saw that they were online but they didn't actually read my message, so they purposely ignored it and I'm like, oh dang, that was always a doozy.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But anyway, you know, going through that experience and every time I would get triggered and every time I would want to reach for my phone or send them a message or give them shit or write them that long-winded text. I would just stop and I would breathe and I would feel whatever was coming up for me and the first thing I and this is literally how emotional energetics for me became a thing. I would name what I was feeling and give it a name, whether it was sadness, anger, rejection, whatever, I would name it, and I would just, I would feel it and I would keep breathing and let that emotion just be present. I wouldn't try to fix it, I wouldn't try to distract myself from it. I wouldn't try to fix it, I wouldn't try to distract myself from it, I wouldn't try to soothe it, I would just let it be there and let it be present and trust that, whatever it was, it would pass, it was momentary and I just let it be there and I would just keep breathing until it kind of settled right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And sometimes in the beginning this took a while right, but as you do this more it gets faster right. So you kind of settle in, you settle in, you settle down and you kind of get to this neutral place and then you can just kind of ask yourself what is it that I was really needing from this person and how can I give that to myself right now? So, if I was needing love from them, or if I was needing them to confirm, like to validate that they love me, how could I validate that I love myself? What could I do for myself to make me feel like I had my own love, if I wanted to know that they were still with me, that they weren't going to abandon or reject me, right? What are all the ways I was abandoning and rejecting myself and how could I flip that around right now? Was I putting my needs on the back burner? Was I putting the things that were a priority for me second to their priorities and start looking at all the ways of how can I put you first, babe? How can I put you first? What is it that you need? Do you need love? Do you need attention? Do you need affection? What is it that you need that I can give you and make you the priority right now.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I continue to do this over and over and over and over again. And every time I did this, I got less and less, to the point where I got less and less anxious about my relationships and more, more in a deeper relationship with myself and I think that's where my seven-year relationship hiatus really began was this whole journey of coming back to me and coming back to myself and coming back to wholeness. And in that process, like I healed so many things because I realized that underneath the surface of all this anxious attachment style and I could say this for myself and I could say this for a lot of my clients too a lot of the times what it comes down to is how you dealt with emotionally unavailable parent or parent figure in your life, somebody that you felt like you had to earn love from or constantly perform for, or were always craving for their validation, that they loved you, whether it was in words of affirmation or whatever. Because I know for me, like my, my dad, who's very loving um, but not um very emotionally available, not because he's a bad person, but because he literally does. He's old school, like he does not know. He was never taught how to be emotionally available. He was never taught how to be present for his own emotion, let alone be present for somebody else's Um. So for him, emotions were very, very uncomfortable conversation, right, um, and even, like you know, like you know, know, when it came to words of affirmation like just weren't a thing. Um, the way he showed love were like acts of kindness and and gifts and things like that, right, like you know, he would be the first one to like bring home our favorite dessert or, um, you know, take us out on a family picnic and and get our favorite takeout to eat that day. Know what I mean? Like he was the first one to plan all these like cool things that we did as like a family and whatnot, and show love in those ways. But he was. It was impossible for him to actually articulate what he was feeling.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And I'm somebody. My words of effort, like how I receive love, is through words of affirmation, like with me, it's, it's, it's everything about, is about what you say, which kind of shot me in the foot because with my long-term relationship, he would say all the right things but his actions would be completely the opposite. So I learned to appreciate, um, I guess, the kind of love that my dad gave, which was, you know, with through actions and and and gifts and whatnot, right and acts of service and whatnot. So it's so funny how that worked out. I just had that realization, actually, because for the longest time I didn't feel love for my dad because he can never articulate it, but he always showed it Right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But then you know, fast forward, I'm in a relationship with somebody who would say it constantly, I would always say the right things, but their actions did not align with what it is that they were saying and it was completely incongruent. And I'm like I'm like mind fucked here, like what does this even mean? All boil down to that little girl inside of me who, as a little like when I was little, always believing, or having a hard time believing, that my dad loved me because he wouldn't articulate it verbally, he would show it in different ways and that wasn't a language I understood. You know, for me, I understand, I understood words, I understood what you told me and I took that as face value. And if you didn't say something, and I took that as face value. And if you didn't say something, I took that as face value too, right, without looking at the other things.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And this is where you know sometimes. You know, as children we process things the best way, we know how, and it's not always right, and that's why we end up doing a lot of this work when we get older. So a lot of my anxious attachment style came from that, that little girl who felt unloved by her dad because he couldn't articulate it, you know. And so, you know, when I started to move through that process of checking in with what I was feeling and what I needed and what I needed to do for myself, somewhere in there I started to discover that there was that little girl in me who was just looking for love and verbal validation that she was loved and that she was appreciated and seen and, you know, taken care of. And I think, you know, I got to become that voice for that little girl inside of me. You know, and that's where a lot of my healing happened.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:And this is a lot of what we do together when we work together in session. You know, obviously this took me years to do on my own. We can, you know, move through a huge chunk of it in a 90 minute session, right, because we go pretty deep. So that's why, a lot of the times when the women, you know, when women have a session with me after, like that first session, they notice changes in their energy, in their auric field, in their relationships around them and the kinds of relationships they're calling in, they notice a difference instantly and that's because we go so deep into some of these moments where we've kind of shaped our perspective or we shaped our energetic signature and literally start to like deconstruct and rebuild it in a more healthy way, and a lot of these anxieties just go away really, really, really quickly when we're in session together.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:But that's not to say that you can't do a lot of this work on your own. You totally can. It obviously takes a little bit more time, even for me, like I wish I had somebody who could do what I do for me. I try to do it on me but it's not always easy to do for yourself because you know like you have blind spots, you know, and sometimes you need the other person there to have your blind spots for you Also.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:I'm also very attached to my outcome, whereas somebody else who's facilitating is not so attached to your outcome. They can facilitate as a neutral, empower facilitator and allow you to be, you know, really like calm, that, that that little beast inside of you that's always like in this anxious attachment mode, and you can come to relationships feeling more whole and complete and in a healthier attachment style. Then the black cat energy, that whole, unbothered energy, just becomes a natural byproduct and it's no longer incongruent with the energy that you're putting out. Everything is aligned, everything makes sense and you know you're not giving all these mixed, crazy energetic signals to the people around you, because now your words are matching your physical presence and are matching your energetic signal. So you know that that is. That in itself, is what makes you magnetic right.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:When all of those are aligned, unattached, unbothered, good, whole and complete within yourself, knowing that, no matter what happens with the outcome of this relationship, you can set your boundaries, you can speak your truth, you can, you can raise your standards, you can ask for what it is that you want and you can know that if this relationship does not work out, it is not going to be the end of you Um, because you know that your person is out there and you'll find them when the time is right and you don't need to attach to anybody who isn't um, or quickly try and lock something down that isn't for you or that isn't meant for you or that isn't for your highest good. Do you see the difference? It all comes down to healing that anxious attachment style and, if you can do that part, the blackhead energy, the unbothered like that. So start with the anxious attachment style.
MARIA @THEFEMMECAST:First, pay attention to what makes you anxious. Why does it make you anxious? What triggers, or who triggers, that anxious attachment style in you? Who does it remind you of right? Start there and then ask yourself what am I feeling? What do I need? How can I give that to myself? And keep doing that and as you do that, more and more and more and more, all that anxiety will start to dissolve and take up less space. Get a little quieter, right Each time. You move through it to the point where you can come to a relationship with that healthy attachment style and be able to be in your black hat energy, no problem, without having to fool anybody, most of all yourself. So let me know what you think of this episode, let me know what you take away from this and how it resonated for you. And obviously, of course, like I say every time, if you love this episode, please leave a positive rating and review on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you're listening to this. Until next time, you guys. Massive love.
