Feminine Rage | The Secret Superpower That Makes Women Unstoppable To Create Change

Anger isn’t a flaw. It’s a compass pointing straight to the boundaries you never set, the truths you swallowed, and the life you’re ready to claim. After years of people-pleasing and self-abandonment, I stopped sanding off my edges to keep everyone comfortable, and discovered something wild: when you bring your whole self to the table, your voice sharpens, your choices get cleaner, and your reach explodes. Not because you’re louder, but because you’re unapologetically you.

In this episode of The Femme Cast, we dive into feminine rage as emotional alchemy, exploring why unprocessed anger hardens into resentment, frustration, and lost visibility, and how processing it can unlock massive impact. 

We’ll unpack:

🎤 Why mindset is the house, but emotions are the foundation
🎤 How cultural scripts keep women small and men detached
🎤 Practical rage work: feel it, decode it, express it safely, act with clarity, integrate fully
🎤 Boundaries, discernment, and courage to be seen with all your edges
🎤 Why ignoring your emotions is the biggest energy crime you’re committing
🎤 How cleaning up your inner world transforms everything outside it

This is not spiritual bypassing. This is real, messy, transformative work that shows you how to turn heat into clarity, rage into voice, and unspoken truth into magnetic visibility.

You’ve carried the fire for too long. Now let it teach you. Step into your rage, claim your voice, and watch the life you were meant to live ignite. This is your invitation to be fully seen, unapologetically powerful, and wildly impactful.

Chapters

• 0:00 A Triggering Week And Why Rage
• 3:27 Caregiving Strain Sparks A Boiling Point
• 6:57 People Pleasing, Boundaries, And Resentment
• 11:32 Rage Work Fuels Visibility And Voice
• 17:33 Emotion As Feminine Superpower
• 21:23 Mindset Is The House, Emotions The Foundation
• 26:03 Balance: Feeling Pain Without Bypassing
• 30:23 Clean Your Side Of The Fence
• 34:13 Being Fully Seen By Owning All Parts
• 39:03 From Filtered Messages To Bold Truth
• 43:03 Collective Misfires And Real Boundaries
• 47:03 What Rage Wants You To Change

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:42

Hey you guys, what is up and welcome back to the show. So excited and grateful to have you guys here. Where do I even begin? Last week was another very triggering week to be a woman in the world. And I'm laughing, but I it's nothing to laugh about. And so what I wanted to talk about today is this conversation about feminine rage, anger, resentment, frustration that many of us are feeling right now. I rage work was something I stumbled across literally by accident. You know, it was something that, you know, I I've been doing emotional, energetic healing work for years on myself and other people. And then last year, after a very difficult time with it in many areas of my life, actually, like there was so much going, like, so much transformation going on at the same time, and so many boundaries I neglected to said, and so many things that just things just unfolded in a way that I could not have predicted. And and it brought up a lot of old anger, rage, frustration, and resentment that I hadn't processed. And so a lot of it came to a head with my caregiving responsibilities, which really intensified for me and my sister last year. And it it it we had a really hard time adjusting. And it brought up a lot, I think, for both of us as we were moving through it. I obviously I don't want to speak for her, but you know, for me, like it just brought up all this like frustration and anger. And I remember like having this, and I've mentioned it before on the podcast, having this moment where it just felt like it was just boiling over, you know, right in the middle of a busy department store on the weekend, right? On a Saturday afternoon. And I felt like I had, I think I I had to go to the bathroom and just like I just wanted to scream, like in the middle of the aisle. I just wanted to like just scream and just let it out. So I went in the bathroom and I just kind of caught my breath for a minute. And that's when I realized that, okay, you know what? I think I need to really look at what's going on here because yes, this is a frustrating situation, but no, it doesn't warrant all of this that's coming up right now. And so a lot of it was just, you know, there was a lot of things going on. There was, there was a lot of ways I was frustrated and angry with myself for not doing the following doing the things I said I was gonna do. There was a lot of, you know, anger and resentment that had built up over time for boundaries that weren't set, that truths that weren't spoken, and just kind of always being brushed under the rug, and eventually that anger becomes resentment, that resentment becomes frustration, that frustration becomes rage. So it's just, it's it's oftentimes, and I've seen it in so many clients that I've worked with too, and oftentimes it's the byproduct of being a people pleaser and constantly self-abandoning. And really at the end of the day, the person who we're most angry at is ourselves. Because we didn't do something, because we didn't say something, because we didn't listen to what our anger was trying to tell us about how we want to do things different. And so I kind of wanted to take this opportunity to talk about that. Because, you know, doing that rage work for me, I mean, it expanded my life in so many ways. Like, okay, yes, absolutely. Like, it helped me to, you know, really expand my reach and my visibility. And my podcast went from like, I don't know, maybe 50 downloads a month to I almost had 50 downloads in a day yesterday. Like the first day I launched my episode. I hadn't even promoted it because I was so behind on everything. I'm like, I've been so behind since the holidays. I'm trying to catch up. I spent the whole week trying to like plan my year and plan my content and like all the things that I wanted to do for the podcast. And I launched a podcast episode yesterday and I didn't even promote it. I didn't send the email out yet. I had sent it out today. I had I hadn't posted it on social media. I posted it today, and I already had like 40 downloads, right? Like without even like, and I wouldn't get that in a month. You know, like it come like a year ago or a year and a half ago. And so, you know, doing this rage work has really helped me to be more visible and helped me to be more outspoken and really helped me to go out there and do the things that my soul was just basically lighting a fire under my ass to do that I wasn't paying attention to. Right? So it's transformed me in so many ways. And it has been such such an empowering body of work. And, you know, the more I start to share it with my clients, the more, the more I see them stepping into their power. And I think I think that we're standing at a precipice right now, whereas women, I think we're being called to channel that. You know, I think we're being invited to listen to what that rage has been trying to tell us that maybe we've been trying to sleep under the rug, that maybe we're trying to ignore because, you know, the world teaches us to suppress these things, that they're not acceptable, that as women we should be quiet, we should sit politely, you know, and and keep our voices down and not complain and not say anything negative and only say positive things. And I think that that's a whole lot of BS that, you know, has been passed down from generation to generation and keeping us in a disempowered state. Now, whether or not this was intentional or not, I do believe it was intent, very intentional in the beginning. I don't know if people now realize how intentional it actually was. I don't think people realize, I don't think people realize what what we were being, how we were being veiled from our power or kept from our power or how our power was trying to be hidden from us and how much power was actually hidden. Like I don't think people really understand. And, you know, it's one of these things where, you know, moving through and processing emotion is one of the great feminine superpowers, and you have access to this as a man or a woman. You know, it doesn't matter how you identify, right? It's a feminine energetic superpower. And I think it's a superpower that has been intentionally kept from everybody. I mean, if you think about it, none of us have really been. I mean, if you look at, if we look at, you know, male and female gender roles from the last several decades, right? Really nobody was allowed to access their emotional experience. You know, men weren't allowed to feel they were shamed for being emotional, right? Unless it was like an aggressive emotion, like anger or rage or you know, frustration. That was kind of okay, but the other emotions weren't okay. Whereas women, quite the opposite, right? We weren't supposed to feel angry, we weren't supposed to feel resentment, we weren't supposed to feel rage, right? And even the sadness and and the and and you know, everything else was kind of we were kind of stereotyped, we were kind of cast typed into, oh, you know, we're just emotional beings, we're just emotional humans and we're imbalanced, and you know, we're hormonal, and we can't be trusted. Like you've heard the narratives, I don't need to rehash them all here. But I think at the end of the day, you know, emotions have gotten such a bad rap. And I actually believe that even in the spiritual community, in the peer in the personal development community, we've actually done everything in our power to reinforce those beliefs. Unfortunately, like I hate to call it out, but it's true. I believe that in the personal development space and the spiritual healing space, we have not properly given space for emotional experience and appreciated our emotional experience as a superpower, not as something that we need to just heal through or tolerate or high vibe our way through or positive think and you know, like emotionally, you know, spiritually bypass, or and even people who were more aware of, you know, the emotional experience, very few of us are actually out there saying, no, like fucking feel the rage, feel the sadness, feel the anger, feel all of it, and choose it. Choose to move through it, choose to release it, choose to acknowledge it, to see it, to feel it, and allow it to move through you and be transmuted into something fucking miraculous, right? Like there is very few of us out there actually using this language. It's either, nope, just you know, think positive. You feel whatever you think you become, you know, if it how when you change, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, like we've heard all this before, right? And the importance of positive thinking. And I do believe, I do believe that it's powerful. Don't get me wrong. And if we were to chalk it up to just, you know, belief systems and mindset work, right? Here's the way I see it. I always see belief systems and mindset work as the house. Like if we're talking about construction, right? It's the house. The mindset work, the belief systems, those are the house. Or sorry, no, the mindset, like the mindset work that we do, like the affirmations, how we choose our thoughts, that's the house. The foundations are the the the core beliefs, the the emotions that we're holding on to, what we actually believe to be true on the inside. And where we're not processing those emotions, if we're not moving through them, they just get stored, right? They just get stored, they get backed up, they get, they, they start to to to to to shift and impact the foundation and create imbalances. And then therefore, anything that you build on top, no matter how many times you rebuild those damn walls, you refix the roof, you you do all of that stuff, that house is still gonna be kind of, you know, it's always gonna be needing repair, it's always gonna be needing attention, it's always gonna be needing work until you figure out the foundation. You have to get the foundation solid. And the only way to do that is to not build the house until the foundation is set, until it's it's it's supported, it's secure. And the way to do that within ourselves is to look at our emotional experience, look at what emotions are stored within our body, what emotions are still alive and well, even though we may not want to pay attention to them, right? Allow them to take up space, allow them to be seen, allow them to expand, allow them to be heard, pay attention, process them, move them, allow them to move at their own pace without any forcing or whatever. And then, you know, being able to make a conscious choice of what we want to transmute them into on the other side. That is a freaking superpower. One that has been neatly and tidily kept from us, if I might say. And I think it's time that we need to bring it back. And I think, you know, when I look at when I look at humanity right now, like I look at, you know, we've been doing this mindset work for years, right? For years, we've been telling people, you know, practice gratitude, think positive thoughts, look at the positive outcomes, don't worry about, don't pay attention to what you don't like and what doesn't feel good. Pay only attention to what you do. And what do we see happening in the world, you guys? We see more anger and more rage than we have ever seen in our lifetime. And I don't think, and I'm gonna be careful with how I say this. I don't think ignoring what is happening in the world, choosing choosing to only think positive thoughts, when there is actually really horrible things happening in the world, I think is actually a bit what's the word? Apathetic does not apathetic doesn't begin to describe. Yeah, I can't think of a word, but it is it is it is actually we are committing the biggest crime against humanity if we sit back and we do nothing and we act like you know we're we're just gonna pretend it's not happening, we're gonna turn off the news, we're gonna turn off social media, we're gonna focus on holding high vibration and positive thoughts and gratitude. Even though people in the world are suffering, that's not our problem. We're responsible for our own energy. When did this become a thing? Because, you know, like I'm like we're unless we're living in a utopian society where like you just can't do that. I believe that everything must be done in balance. If we look at nature, you know, there's there's always extremes, there's always duality, you know. The dawn breaks right after the darkest hour in the night. You know, both exist, both day and night exist, light and dark coexist simultaneously. We need to be aware of both. Yes, we absolutely have the power to choose our thoughts. We absolutely have the power to focus on what we want. We absolutely have the power to cultivate the emotions within ourselves that we want to feel on a regular basis. We absolutely have all the power in the world to do that. And the more we change the narrative that's going on on the inside, and the more we change our thoughts and our beliefs and our behaviors, the quicker our external reality does shift. And I do believe, I do believe, sorry, I'm hitting my mic, I do believe that the only way humanity transforms is if we all start to look within and transform ourselves. But huge butt, that does not mean that we just go around smelling flowers and pretending that everything is fine. That means we have to look at our shit. That means we have to look at what's going on on the inside. If we see rage in the outside, if we see rage in the world, if we see anger in the world, if we see hurt and pain in the world, where is that hurt and pain living inside of us? Where is that rage living inside of us? And how can we start to transmute some of that? And then the positive thoughts and the positive affirmations and the gratitude, that all becomes easier because we clear what's going on beneath the surface. We have a response, we have a moral responsibility to clean up our side of the fence, to clean up what's going on beneath the surface so that we can show up as our highest vibrational self naturally without having to force it, without having to emotionally or spiritually bypass what's going on beneath the surface. We have to actually go in and clear what's going on beneath the surface so that we can do our part in creating this ecosystem that supports transmuting lower vibrational energies to higher vibrational energies. Like, I don't know how many other ways to say that. I think we've done a massive, and I'm I'm guilty, guys. I am guilty because I have said this. I have said this a million times. Just think positive thoughts. You are what you what you believe, you are what you tell what what your mind says you are. And you, I've been there, I've done that, I've preached it a thousand times, and I've I wish I could take it all back, but I can't. But what I do know now is that after years of doing emotional alchemy work on myself and on others, what I do know now is that the mindset, the belief systems, the positive outlook, the gratitude, all of that becomes a natural byproduct when you clean up what's going on underneath the surface. If you don't clean up what's going on underneath the surface first, what you end up getting is a projection of negativity, anger, rage, violence, destruction going on on the outside while you're sitting here going, I am love, money loves me, I am happiness, joy follows me. Where do you see where I'm going with this? If, and sorry, I have a train going by and you'll probably hear it. If we tend to what's going on here and start to clear the anger, the frustration, the rage, when we start to look at it and listen to it, what it's trying to tell us, how it's asking us to change and move differently in life, because I tell you, I learned more from my rage than I did in any other training or seminar or healing meditation or activation or blah, blah, blah, blah. My rage taught me more about me and my life and who I was meant to be in this world than anything else I could have ever done. And that's because I paid attention to it for a hot fucking minute. So, how can we all be a little bit more intentional about doing that kind of work so that the mindset work gets easier, the beliefs get easier, the gratitude gets easier, the positive thinking gets easier, and we are vibrationally cleaning up our own side of the fence and showing up in a way that positively supports the environment in which we are co-creating. Because let me tell you guys, everything is a co-creation. There is nothing in this life that we are creating on our own. Nope. Although many people will tell you you are creating your own reality, yes, that is true, but you are a you're co-creating. You you are creating, people around you are creating, the universe is creating. It's all a co-creation. And yes, the more we choose to show up in the highest possible vibration, yes, of course, or anyway, in any way that we choose to show up, we are absolutely contributing to the co-creation that we are experiencing. But remember, it is always in the highest good of everyone involved. We can't just, we don't, we don't create in silos, you know. So we have to be very careful with that because it's always what's always going to be the most aligned thing is what's in the highest and greatest good for all. Even though sometimes that may not feel good. It might not, I trigger a lot of people. I know this. This is this is part of my soul path. My part of my soul path is to trigger the crap out of a lot of people. And if I have triggered the crap out of many, who will probably like, I don't know why we want to smear my name or poison my coffee in the morning, but whatever. Like, it is what it is. You know, sometimes that is part of the greater good. Sometimes the greater good is to trigger the crap out of people. And that's it is what it is. So, okay, so let's talk about because and I am and and I am thinking about bringing back the rage circles. So if that's something that you're interested in, please, please, please do DM me on at the Femcast because I do, I don't know if it'll be a regular thing, or if I'm just gonna do one on the on January 19th. Hopefully you hear this before that date. But I am thinking of doing a rage circle on January 19th, where we will tap into and tune into rage, and we'll teach you how to, and it'll be free. It'll be a free sort of healing circle where I'll show you how to tune in. To your rage, how to expand it, how to have a conversation with it, and then how to transmute it, transmute it and release it so that you can start using, so that you can start to free up all that energy so that you can start creating what you want. But I do believe that we're as a humanity in this in this unique position right now, where we all we're all being confronted with, you know, some of the darkest parts of the human experience that many of us like and if you live in the West, right, that you've ever experienced, you know, like you've always heard of this stuff happening in the world, and you never could quite grasp it until recently. And now it's like a rude awakening. And it's also, I also I have, I mean, you know, I look at the world today and I look at what's happening in the world, and I almost feel a little bit guilty because I almost feel like I had been naive for so long because you know it wasn't happening so close to home that I didn't really get. I didn't really wrap my head around some of the injustices that would happen that were happening in the world, but now it's like it's hitting closer to home now, and I'm seeing it, and I'm, you know, I'm I'm hearing it in conversations with my friends, and you know, it it's it's wow. Like wow, this is this is actually the world that we live in. And it's it's heartbreaking for me because I am, I am a very, I am very empathic. And when things, when I see things like this happening, it it does take a toll on me. And I do have to manage how much time I spend on social media, watching the news, things like that. Like I do have to manage that, otherwise it can really affect me. But I refuse, and I say this with so much love, I refuse to live in a silo where I just turn a blind eye to what's going on in the world because I don't think that that's why we're here. I think if we're here and we're experiencing it and it's triggering us, then we have an obligation to look at what's being triggered and why, and how we can clean up what's going on in here so that we can be, you know, the best spiritual being that we can be out there, if that makes any sense. So we have a moral obligation, I think, at this time to clean up what's going on beneath the surface and you know, do our part to support the highest good. I really do believe that. And I don't, I don't think we'd be alive today if if we didn't all have part of that responsibility in some way, shape, or form, whether it was to trigger it or whether it was to heal it, one way or another. So, so let's talk about it. Like obviously, there was some, you know, when I did the when I did the rage work, like I said, like, you know, massive, massive expansion in the podcast. Like suddenly my reach started to blow up. My Instagram account, which I don't have a huge following, I have a very small following on Instagram, but you know, like when I say like I was stagnated for years, like very low engagement, no new follows for like the like years on end. I don't think I think I maybe got a handful of new followers in the last like couple of years. And the only people that were really commenting and liking were my friends and family, God bless them, who are not not my clients. But you know, ever since then, you know, people have been coming and and and you know, starting to follow, starting to engage, starting to resonate. And it's all because I believe I tapped into this part of myself that I had kept hidden and under wraps for so long. Okay. And so here's the here's the powerful thing that happens when we start to do this work. I think number one, what's, you know, what's really important to understand about rage and anger and resentment is that, you know, it's often the the it's often the byproduct of, like I said, having been a people pleaser your entire life, somebody who constantly self-abandons, somebody who has a hard time speaking their truth, somebody who has, you know, poor if no boundaries whatsoever, right? All that stuff gets built up. All those years of weak boundaries and people pleasing and bending over backwards and self-sacrificing our needs and our beliefs and not speaking our truth and standing up for ourselves, all that starts to build up. Right? And so this is more like now, we're taking it, we're we're we're not talking about like the entire collective right now. We're talking about as individuals, right? This starts to build up in us, right? And what starts to build up in us, and I noticed with this when I was, you know, when I my my rave rage was peaking, was it was like misfire it, like it was like literally creating chaos for me in my life because there was all this energetic stuff that was like basically trapped in my body. All this rage was trapped in my body. I'd suppressed it year after year after year, suppressing more and more and more, all the while, like this whole thing is like building up inside me. I'm now a ticking time bomb, right? In this Walmart where it started to overflow. And it's, you know, I'm suddenly like, suddenly all this emotion is coming out of me. It's uncontrollable. I can't contain it. I want to start screaming in the middle of a department store, and I have to leave my parents in the middle of, I don't know, aisle five, so I can go to the bathroom and just like catch my breath for a moment because I I felt like I was gonna explode. And yes, they were being, you know, they were being difficult that day, but it didn't warrant what was going what was going on inside of me. Like that was me. That wasn't them. That was me. That was my stuff that I brought to to the occasion, right? And what I realized was that that was years, years of not speaking up, speaking, not speaking out, not speaking my truth, biting my tongue, pretending to be okay when I wasn't, constantly self-abandoning and people pleasing. And, you know, it was there was so much there. And when I started to unpack all that, people started to see me. And I believe that the reason that that started happening is because there was so much that I was suppressing inside of me. I was completely closed off. I was completely closed, I had closed, I had shut down 60% of what was going on at an emotional level within my, within my energy, right? I had suppressed it, denied it, that's it. Close the door, shut it, lock it, pretend it's not there. Monica's closet, right? If you want, if you if you attended the masterclass, right? I make a reference to Monica's closet, right? Monica's closet of hot emotional mess, tucked away, locked away, where nobody can see it. When we do that, we basically shut ourselves off from ourselves. We're basically not looking at what's going on within ourselves. We are not seeing ourselves. We are not feeling ourselves. So if we are not seeing and feeling ourselves, guess what? The world's gonna reflect back to us. Exactly that. It's not gonna, no one's gonna see us, no one's gonna hear us. It's like we're standing in the middle of a crowded room screaming and nobody even turns around. And that's because we're not paying attention, we're not turning around. We have to be the ones to turn around and look at what's going on on the inside first. Not to mention, so much more of our magnetism and our potency comes when we can come to the table full like full being, like all parts of ourselves fully online and present and being able to be in vulture in vulnerable communication and interaction with the world around us. Even if it is a little messy, even if it is a little like funky sometimes, right? Or a bit gnarly, right? We're there in our entirety, right? As a whole being. We're not compartmentalizing ourselves and saying this part can come to the conversation, this part has to remain hidden so that nobody can see it. We're bringing our whole selves to the conversation, and now people don't only see us, people don't only hear us, but they feel us. And that is the most magnetic thing that we can bring to the table is our whole self, emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically, right? When we start to compartmentalize, this part sucks, I don't like this part, this part's low vibe, this part's negative, this part's ugly, this part's fat. And we start to only just pay attention to the stuff about ourselves and bring forward the stuff that we love and try and hide the stuff that we don't, we've already lost most of our power and our magnetism. We have to be willing to come to the table fully, as we are. Not hiding any, not hiding or shaming any part of ourselves, knowing that we are enough, right? May not be perfect, but we are perfect for who we need to be in this life. We are perfect to live the life that we are meant to live, to do the things that we're meant to do, and it doesn't matter. You know, there may be some things that we don't love about ourselves, and that's okay. And you know what? We're no nobody's perfect. There's things I still change about myself, and that that's just it is the way it is. It's we're talking about generations of conditioning. We're not going to be undoing it in a week. But I do believe that, you know, self-worth and self-value goes so much deeper than some of the superficial definitions that we've or metrics that we've assigned to it. And I do believe that as a being, mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally, I do believe now, finally, after years of work, that I can bring all of myself to every conversation, every interaction, every engagement, every exchange that I have with another human or humans, right? As I'm as I'm moving through life, as I'm working, as I'm communicating, as I'm sharing, I can bring my whole self and feel safe bringing my whole self and trust that who I am right now, and whether if it's perfect or not, is exactly who I need to be in order to speak to people in the same way, like not just verbally, but energetically, emotionally, mentally, physically, right? We are constantly interacting with one another. So we have to, we have to bring our whole self to the to the to the interaction if we want to be met that way. If that makes sense. I hope that makes sense. Because it energetically in my head, it makes sense, but I'm trying to articulate it and I don't know if I'm using the right words. So wherever you're hearing this right now, please email me and tell me if that landed properly. Because it really made a lot of sense in my head. So obviously, you know, all the all the, like I said, all the rage that I was suppressing, all the anger and the resentment that I was and the resentment that I was suppressing, a lot of gnarly energy, a lot of gnarly manifestations, a lot of chaos around me, a lot of aggravation, lots of agitation, lots of rage, lots of static energy like bouncing off of each other. And I'm thinking, maybe that's what's happening collectively. Maybe there is so much rage and resentment and anger beneath the surface for so many people that we are literally misfiring all over one another, right? Because we've been saying to people, think positive, think positive thoughts, practice gratitude. Don't pay attention to the negative things that are going on in the world because you give it energy, focus only on what you want. Well, while we're doing that, the people are out there doing things they ain't supposed to be doing, and we're supposed to be what? Turning a blind eye? I don't think so. That's not how this works. Again, balance. I think we need to bring things into balance. We are responsible for our energy, we are responsible for how we show up, we are responsible for the energy that we bring to every interaction, but we have to treat ourselves as the whole self. We can't keep compartmentalizing and leaving parts of ourselves behind. And we also, in that experience, get to acknowledge what is not right in the world, what we do want to see change, the impact we do want to make where we want to make a difference, we still get to do that. We still get to call out the bad players, we still get to call out the bad behavior, we still get to have boundaries, we still get to have discernment. There is nothing spiritual about spiritual about not being boundaried, not having discernment, and not being honest with yourself about what it is that you are perceiving in the world. Do I need to say that again? Because I can't. I can't remember the words that I said, but you know what I mean, right? Discernment, important. Boundaries, important. Speaking your truth, asking for what you want and being willing to stand up for yourself and what you believe, important. Okay. We can't just say positive affirmations all day and expect things to freak freaking be okay. We have to actually name what it is that we're not liking, but also do the inner work and make sure that we are always treating ourselves like our treating our own inner healing as our biggest responsibility because as each one of us takes on the responsibility to heal what's going on within, we do create a better experience for everyone else around us. And that I can promise you. Okay. So it was creating gnarly interactions, gnarly manifestations, gnarly everything. It was keeping me from being seen because as I was hiding those parts of myself, number one, the world was reflecting that back to me. And number two, nobody could really see, hear, or feel me because so much of me was missing from the conversation or the interaction every time I was out there in the world, right? And I think the most important thing it was keeping me from is the impact that I am meant to make in the world. Because I don't think I really grasped it or comprehended it. And I certainly wasn't ready to own up to it. Even now I'm kind of like, really? Is that really that really my job? And listen, we all have a role to play. We all have a role to play, we all have a job to play. And for most of us, it's going to seem a little far-fetched, sure. It's going to seem a little illogical. Yes, always does. Purpose always feels illogical. I don't care how many ways you slice it. But it was, it was, it was really like the anger and the frustration was telling me to stand up, to get loud, to express my truth, to speak out more, to play a bigger game, to be bolder, and to to to be more honest and more authentic, even if it meant pissing a few people off. Which I had been avoiding like the plague my entire life. But the rage was like, no, no, enough is enough. Speak the fuck up. What is it that you like? What is it that you don't like? What are you taking a stand for? What do you believe in? What do you want to see happen in the world? Start talking this shit. But I was I was so afraid and I kept filtering because I kept, you know, I was going through this, you know, I want to say this, but that's gonna offend this group of people over here. So let me water it down, but then it's gonna offend that group of people over there, so let me just change this wording, but it's gonna maybe that people, those people over there. But and before you knew it, my message was vanilla and nobody was paying attention, right? And I was gone, my magic was gone. I was gone. I was not even in the conversation anymore. The only thing it was it sounded like, even though it came from a very true and real place, but by the time all the editing and the cleaning up and the and the toning down and the and and the what's it called, just making everything more cushy, more palatable, more easier to swallow. By the time all that was done, you know, my energy, who I was, my message, my story, my essence, my experience, what it was that I was here to share with the world wasn't even in there anymore. It was just some flat stuff, right? And so I realize now, like, yeah, I have started to piss off people online. And yeah, that would have made me go into a tailspin of a frenzy like a year ago. But now actually I don't care because I realize that the people that I'm agitating are actually the very people that I'm probably not how do I put this? People that I'm agitating are actually the people that I'm I'm I'm holding space. This sounds this sounds so like I'm being like, listen, I'm not I'm not being I don't want to sound like I'm speaking from a podium. That's not that's not what I'm trying to do here, and I'm fumbling to find my words. But the people who are getting agitated by my content are actually the very people who are the agitators in my message. They are the oppressors, they are the people who are probably not supportive of some of the work that we do here on the Femcast, or if you've worked with me and and any one of my coaching containers, right? They are, and I'm hold- listen, I I always say uh anyone and everyone can transform, and everyone's on their own path, and everyone has the right to choose their own path and and you know, whatever, but I know who I'm here to speak for, and I can see that the people who are getting agitated by my content are the people that are kind of the reason that the that these people come to work with me in the first place. If and I I will just leave it at that because I'm now fumbling for my words and I have I can't make sense of any of it. But so a huge, a huge fire and potency and energy came into my my messaging and my content as a result of having this conversation with my rage to find out why it was there, what it was trying to tell me, and what it wanted me to do differently. Because again, you know, anger, rage, and resentment, yes, they're built up, of course, right? Versus, you know, there's we'll get frustrated, then that frustration will turn into anger, it doesn't get expressed. We keep hoping things will change, then it becomes resentment. We keep stuffing it on, we keep sweeping under the rug, sweeping under the rug, hoping things that will we dropping like passive aggressive hints of what we really want without actually getting out there and saying it. That resentment builds up before you know it, rage. Right? At the end of the day, when we go back to the original anger as it happened, when it happened, and this is what we do when we do the rage work is there's always a part of us that wish we would have done something different, that wish we would have said something, taken a different action, taken a different approach, done life differently, said different things, taken a different direction, right? When we start to listen to what that rage has been trying to tell us all, and we can project, right? Like we can project, oh, it's this person that made me angry, that person made me angry, this person making me resentful. But then there's a part of us like, oh, you know, this person's taking advantage of me, they keep taking, taking, taking. Well, did you set a boundary? No. Well, this person hasn't changed that, you know, they treated me badly, they talk about stuff and they make me feel uncomfortable, they make me feel insecure, they always say negative things and they make me feel bad about myself. And it's like, well, but did you tell them? No. I just dropped hints and I was hoping that they would figure it out. Was that not what I was supposed to do? This was my approach, okay? This was my approach in relationship. I keep dropping hints, hoping that. People would get it and they wouldn't. And then, you know, I got to the point where it's like, you know, you know what? This is this I'm gonna call out. Like I see something happening in this relationship, and and it doesn't feel healthy to me, it doesn't feel like we're going in the right direction. Let's have a conversation about it. And some people have a conversation with me, and some people don't have a conversation with me. And the people who do have a conversation with me, I know I want to be in a relationship with them. The people who don't want to have a conversation with me, I don't want to be in a relationship with them because I feel like if we can't have difficult conversations, how can we possibly be in relationship? You see what I mean? All of this is a result of tapping into rage and learning what it's been trying to tell us all along. Otherwise, it wouldn't keep getting louder and bolder and more impossible to ignore. And that's exactly what we're going to be doing in the circle. So join me if you feel called. You can DM me at the femcast and let me know. Let me know which part of this resonates with you the most, which part of the experience you can relate to the most. Let me know if you have any questions. You can reply to the email if you're getting this in my email, in your email. You can DM me at the Femcast. I always love to hear from you guys. And that's it. And if you love this episode, of course, please leave a positive rating and review on iTunes or Spotify or wherever else you're seeing this. So until next time, you guys, massive love.