Fear of Lack & Scarcity | Visibility Glow Up Series Part 2

Do you filter what you say, create, or share through the lens of “what will keep me safe, financially secure”? Do you find yourself over-performing, shrinking your voice, or chasing recognition instead of your soul-aligned purpose? If so, this episode of The Femme Cast is your unapologetic wake-up call.

In Part 2 of my Visibility Glow Up Series, we unpack the fear of lack and how scarcity quietly hijacks your voice, choices, and visibility. From childhood financial trauma to the invisible scripts that keep you hustling, this episode explores why strategy alone can’t fix it, and how deep emotional alchemy, somatic awareness, and radical self-trust can.

You’ll learn:

🎤 How scarcity becomes a visibility wound and drives performative patterns
🎤 The difference between logic-led vs. soul-aligned choices
🎤 Power pauses to interrupt performance and reconnect with your body
🎤 Somatic cues that reveal when you’re showing up inauthentically
🎤 How to rebuild your identity after financial struggle
🎤 Trusting inner guidance in uncertain times
🎤 Practical steps to move from externally led to internally guided
🎤 Cultivating faith as a skill for sustainable impact and income

Through candid stories, practical tools, and a grounded exploration of the tug-of-war between head and heart, this episode shows you how to step out of scarcity-driven hustle and into steady, aligned visibility. It’s bold, vulnerable, and permission-giving. Perfect for ambitious, soul-led women ready to glow up their brand, reclaim their voice, and create impact without compromise.

Transcript

Welcome To Visibility Glow Up Month

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Hey you guys, what is up? Welcome back to the show. I'm so excited and grateful to have you guys here. Welcome if you're new. We are continuing with visibility glow up month for the month of March here at the Femcast. So for this month, we are going to be breaking down the five core visibility wounds, one for each week for the entire month, that I see time and time again come up for my clients and even with myself. I've had each one of these blocks at one point or another in my life. FYI. You can have a combination of, you can have hybrids, but many of us have experienced one or all of these at one point in our lifetime. Today we're talking about the fear of lock or scarcity and how that impacts your visibility. This was actually supposed to be number five, but because as I mentioned in my on my Instagram this week, and if you're not following me on Instagram, make sure to follow me there because I'm sharing a lot of tips and techniques and energy activations and things to kind of help you with your visibility. This is this is one that is alive and well right now, that's been wildly activated as we move through Visibility Glow a month. So I thought, what a better time to actually sit down and record and talk about this while I'm moving through it. But mind you, I am moving through it in a semi-empowered way. So believe me, I won't be trauma dumping all over you. So this is for the woman who associates, who has a has a correlation with between visibility and making an impact in the world and how it ties to her financial security. And in many ways, you know, our when we're when the fear of lack or scarcity comes into our experience, it can make visibility very difficult. It can make being an aligned very difficult. And if we're not in alignment, we're not on purpose. If we're not in alignment, it's very or we're not authentic. And if we're not authentic, it is very hard to be visible. Yes, it works a little bit at first, but I want I want to paint a picture for you, okay? Because this is for the woman who is choosing her career based on how much security it gives her. It's choosing what she's studying in school based on what she thinks will make her more financially stable. It's making moves or decisions in her business based on what she thinks will be lucrative versus what's really coming through her and what's what her soul is asking for. So that's this constant tug of war between what the soul and the heart wants and what the world tells you you should be doing in order to create financial security for yourself. And financial security is a very hot conversation for a lot of women because for many of us for generations, we didn't think we could create financial security if it wasn't tied to a financially secure partner. In the world we live in today, where everything is don't even get me started. You know, for many women, this can feel a little frightening, and we kind of feel like we need to hustle and grind and self-sacrifice and compromise and self-abandon in order to create that financial security. And that's exactly kind of what the world wants us to think. And we're not going to go down that road today, but I think this has been carefully instilled in all of us, men and women, that we need to self-abandon and not pay attention to what our heart and our soul wants, and just basically continue down this path of hustle and grind in order to create the financial security. And like I said, it does work a little bit in the beginning. But as you start to abandon yourself more and more and more and more, and you become less and less and less and less authentic, you become less, less, less visible. And as you become less visible, the financial security that you thought that you established for yourself slowly starts to starts to kind of like it erode away. Right. And this is a process that I went through for many years. And I'm in the recovery stages now, but it's still a bit of a, what's it called? It's still a bit of a back and forth. Because as we start to break down those, those, those identities that we created, those choices that we made, the the the actions, the directions that we went to in order to create the financial security, as we start to move back on all of that and we start to deconstruct the person that we became and the life that we created and and where all the misalignment was, we start to we start to slowly move forward into alignment. But there is still a bit of a tug of war sometimes that happens where, you know, your heart, your soul is asking you to do this, but your your your thought process, you know, sometimes the the fears, the limiting beliefs, those creep up. The old conditioning, the patriarchal conditioning that kept you caught in that cycle of self-abandoning, self-sacrificing, and constantly hustling and grinding, that still creeps in now and then. And sometimes you have it takes massive awareness to be able to discern those two voices. So you can say, I recognize this isn't my my heart and soul speaking. So, you know, this is my fear talking. So I acknowledge it. I know that it's there. I'm gonna take, you know, I'm gonna take a step in a different direction and I'm gonna really just follow what my what's on my heart today. And sometimes we go through periods where that internal guidance is a bit cloudy, and it's kind of intended to be. And it's not because you don't know, you do know, and you always know, you always know the path for you. You always know that what your way forward is. There's never a question in your in your heart and in your soul what your path is. But sometimes we can't always articulate, we can't always connect with it. Sometimes we're we're in an intentional pause, right? And this is interesting. We're in an intentional pause, and it can it can really activate that conditioning when we're in it. And that's that's literally where I'm at right now, right? I'm in a moment of pause, and it's activating my conditioning. The conditioning that says, oh, but you have to do this, oh, but you have to do that, and you have to hustle, you have to do that. Yeah, no, that that's not working. You have to change your strategy, you have to change your content, you have to talk about different things, you have to use better hooks, you have to use better reels, you have to breathe, breathe, breathe. That's all I have to say. Breathe. It when it's happening, it feels very alive and very activating, like I said. But I've learned to recognize it pretty quickly. And I I mentioned in my reel that I shared today, I could tell that in the reel that I posted earlier in the week, I was being a little bit performative. I was being a little bit not fake. I guess I I I kind of noticed it because my pitch got higher. That's that's a clue that I'm being performative. My pitch gets higher. I start talking really quickly, and I know I'm like, okay, performance is coming in. Why is performance coming in? Because I'm afraid it's not gonna work before because I'm afraid it's not gonna be enough, that I'm not gonna be provided for, that I need to make, I need to show up a certain way, sound a certain way, look a certain way, in order for my financial stability, my security to be grounded and almost guaranteed, right? What would it look like? And this is what I've been doing when I feel that, right? Is I take a pause, right? I call it the power pause, just take a pause, take a breath, stop talking, stop trying, stop filling the spaces, right? And just be, just be present, just stop and be present and come back to yourself and come back internally and recognize where you're performing and why. What is it that you're afraid is not is not going to be available to you if you're not constantly hustling, grinding, and showing up in the way that the world tells you to show up, right? Where is that fear active? Right? What's it activating within you? And how can you choose to be in that fear, be present with it, and avoid the hustle, avoid the grind, avoid the performing, and just trusting that what's in here, what's in your heart, if you follow it, if you trust it, if you sit with it, if you move slowly and put one foot in front of the other in the direction that feels like alignment, how can you trust that you will be okay? Even though everything in the world will tell you that you're not, and your mind will constantly tell you that you're not, how can you trust that you will be okay? This is literally what I'm moving through right now. So, women who experience this are the women who, you know, are constantly trying on new strategies. If you have your own business, you're constantly trying on a new content strategy or marketing strategy, trying to find the thing that works. If you're a career woman, you know, you're constantly choosing careers based on what you think is going to be more lucrative versus what you really want to be doing in your heart. You know, maybe you're a finance lead instead of being a gardener. I don't know, right? You know, whatever that is, right? You're constantly making decisions that you think are going to be that are logical, that are going to bring you the financial, the security, the stability that you long for, rather, and and they're coming from your head space versus listening to your heart space to guide you into what is actually aligned for you, and trusting that when you follow your heart space, when you follow your internal guidance, when you follow your soul, you're gonna be okay. Even though it doesn't look like it at first. And I think that's an important part of the journey because that's where faith is strengthened, and that's where we learn to surrender and to trust in something way above and beyond ourselves, right? But that literally is where faith is cultivated. Because when you can sit in the discomfort of, but the you know, the world tells me I should be doing A, B, and C, but I feel very strongly in my heart and in my body and in my soul that I should be doing D, how can I trust that and lean into that and trust that I will be okay? And that is, I think, something that many of us are breaking right now, especially in the state of like our social economic state right now. So many of us are moving through this, and because of what's happening, it's activating all our worst fears. Like our all our hard wiring for securing ourselves financially is activated right now with everything happening in the world. Our safety, our security, all of it feels like it's being threatened. And when it's being threatened like that, it's very easy for us to make choices that we think are logical, that we think are going to guarantee us stability when nothing in this world does. Nothing. The only thing we have is the guidance, our the guidance that that that that is coming through us, that is coming through our soul, that is literally written on our soul signature to do be and create in the world. Trusting that is what gets us to the stability and the financial security and and and the safety that we're longing for. But it doesn't always feel that way. That's the path where it that takes a lot of trust and faith. And I'm sorry, I've got like gardening happening outside my window, apparently on the third floor. Who knew? Anyway, so yes, when so when this happens, right? So when your financial security is dependent on, you know, who you are, what you do, and what you create in the world, like I said before, it starts to, it becomes your north, financial security becomes your north star, right? And this is very prevalent in people who have suffered any childhood financial trauma or even sexual trauma because it's how we create safety, right? I know for me growing up, we had a lot of financial hardship when I, you know, not when I was little, but probably around the time I turned 11 or 12. My family literally lost everything financially. And it was a good 10 years before we got back on our feet again. And in that period, we moved around a lot. We went from place to place. We lived in some of the dodgiest neighborhoods in the city. Safety was a huge issue. Wondering whether or not we were gonna be okay or where we're gonna be, you know, we were gonna be able to pay our bills was always an issue. You know, collection agencies were constantly calling, we were constantly screening calls and not answering the phones. And then we didn't even have collar display, let alone we didn't have cell phones. We didn't have collar display back then, or did we? Maybe it just came into maybe it just became a thing. But we were constantly like avoiding answering phone calls. Collection agencies were constantly calling, utilities were being cut off, cars were being repossessed in the middle of the night. I came home once once I even came home, I was about probably about 15, 16 at the time, and I came home and there was an eviction notice on the door. So there was a huge amount of financial trauma for me from a very young age. So for me, because I can remember being in those experiences and feeling like my family wouldn't survive. We would be on the street, we would be like basically we wouldn't have food, we wouldn't have a home. We that never happened, but that was the that was how 15-year-old me interpreted what was happening in her reality. And so it was very traumatizing for me, extremely traumatizing. So for me, creating financial security is one of those things that has become my north star, right? Or it had become my north star. So basically every decision that I made in this life was about how do I create more financial security for myself. So it was choosing the careers that I thought was going to make me the most financially secure, even if that meant self-sacrificing, even if that meant was putting up with a toxic boss or doing something that felt draining or unmotived, like that where I felt completely misaligned. But because the scarcity trumped the financial security trumped alignment, I self-abandoned again and again. And slowly in the process, I eroded my who I was. I eroded my authentic self, I eroded my personality, I eroded who I was meant to be, what I was meant to do, be and create in the world. And I became less and less and less less and less and less authentic version of me and became this whole other, not fake, but just programmed. I became this programmed version of myself. So I, me, the person I was created, was gone. And as that erosion started to take place, like I said, at first I created massive amounts of financial security. Right. But as those parts of myself were eroded time over time, that financial security also started to deplete. Because what happens when we erode ourselves like that is we do actually become invincible. Because when we're not the authentic person that we were created to be, the world does not see us. The only people who see us are inauthentic people, and they don't stick around. You know, they there's always a disconnect because they're not they're not the people that are meant for you. The people who are meant to be in your life, the career that is meant to be in your life, the business that is meant to be in your life, the clients that are meant to be, they cannot see you until you come back home to yourself. Because that is the person they're waiting for. That is the person that they need to see, and that is the person that you've completely hidden from the world in an effort to create financial security for yourself. Now I know I'm talking in extremes, but this is literally what happened to me. And right now, the person that you're seeing here is in the rebuilding of that. I am in the rebuilding of showing the world who I am. I am in the rebuilding of discovering who I am meant to do, what I am meant to do, be and create in the world. I am in the process of all of this, right? And the the journey has been a little step, a few steps back, a few steps forward, a few steps back. Like it's been a bit of a wobble as I try to kind of figure this out. But the one thing that I've learned that I will share with each and every one of you that has made the biggest difference for me in this experience, right, is when I can acknowledge when I'm moving from that fear of lack and scarcity, when I can wake when I can tune into when I'm performing, which, like I said, I could tell on that video, and I can remember how I felt. I felt hyper. I my voice was high pitched, I was talking a lot, I was talking really fast and very like like very like energized, right? I knew right then and there I was performing. But I ignored it until I, until I I watched the reel back after, and then I was like, oh yeah, there it is. I can see it. I'm very performative right now. And I and I wanted and I did, I wanted to cringe. I did cringe, and it's not because of it, it wasn't because of not loving myself, it was because oh, I could just see where I was just abandoning. I was just abandoning who I was meant to be in this in this world because I was, I was, I was again trying to make sure I was being who I thought I needed to be or who the world need thought who I thought the world needed me to be in order to create financial security. And so, you know, I loved myself in that moment and I said I understand where that comes from. And I, you know, I didn't hate on myself and I didn't like judge myself for it, but it was a call to come back home and say, okay. I notice when the disconnect happens, and I notice when I start to become performative because it literally feels like I'm out of body. Again, I start to get very frantic, I start to get very high-pitched, I start to talk really fast. I start to, I start to get very almost giddy. And it's it's it that's when I know I'm performing. So you have to recognize what performing looks like, what performative looks like to you. When are you inauthentic versus when are you authentic? Start to know the differences there. What does authentic feel like? For me, authentic feels grounded. It feels safe. It feels like right now, like when I'm talking to you, it feels like I can take a pause. Like I can leave, like I can leave space in the conversation for message to land. I don't feel like I need to fill all the gaps. I don't always feel like I need to have the exact right words to say. I feel like I can trust what's coming through me versus getting in my head. And I think that's the biggest distinction is that I'm in my body, not in my head. And that's when you know you're aligned. Okay. So if you can come back, if you can catch yourselves in those moments when you're misaligned, and if you can come back into your body and say, and listen to your body and say, what feels like the right thing to say right now? What feel not right? Let me just rephrase that because right might mean logical, and that's not what we're trying to do here. What feels like the soul aligned thing for me to say right now? What feels like the soul aligned direction or action to move in or to take? And can I trust that? Even if that soul aligned action is just to sit still for a minute, to trust that things are gonna work out, that you don't have to hustle, that you don't have to push, you don't have to strive, you don't have to think, you don't have to strategize all the time, you can just be and trust that you'll know what to do at the right time. And let and that will activate all your worst fears. But but we can't, but we can't, but we can't just sit here. We're not gonna, we're gonna die, we're not gonna have money, we're not gonna have this, we're not gonna have that, everything we're gonna be left stranded, we're gonna be like in instable, we're gonna be financially insecure, we're never gonna, we're not gonna survive. We're not gonna we can't do that, we're not gonna survive. That is that is an exaggerate, and a very animated and exaggerated version of like the worst scarcity fears coming up. I wanted to keep this entertaining and light, but you get what I'm trying to say, right? So those will be active in those moments of pause, in those moments of following your instincts. Those will be wildly activated. So, how can you acknowledge those and say, I see you, I hear you, I I know that you're there, and I know why you're there, and I know where you come from. You were literally born that day we came home from school and saw the eviction notice on the door, and I love you, and I know that was frightening, but we're not there now. This is different. How are you different? Maybe you're older, wiser, you've healed a lot, you've learned a lot, you've life has taught you that you know, you're way more powerful than you give yourself credit for. That you know, everything you need always shows up when you trust yourself. And how can and and and how can you trust that in this moment? And if there's one thing that I can like pour into you, pour into you right now and activate within you, if there is something on your heart that you're here to do, be and create in the world, then you are a thousand percent supported in doing it. You will be you will absolutely be provided for. Sometimes it won't be directly, sometimes it'll be in different ways, and sometimes it'll come in in ways that you didn't expect. But how can you trust that when you listen to your body, when you listen to your heart, when you listen to what your soul is trying to cultivate within you, when you listen to where your intuition is guiding you to go next, what it's guiding you to say next? How can you trust and remind yourself again and again that this is here for a reason and that this would not the universe would not put this in my heart and then not intend to support me with it? That's just bullshit. I will be supported, everything I need will be available to me. I will be, I am being guided, I am being led, and everything that I need on my path will be provided for me. And how can you lean into and trust that? And trust that that is the path to abundance, even though it doesn't always look like it at first. Right? And that's part of the healing because we need to we need to break that part of ourselves, that survival part of ourselves that makes choices about creating abundance and wealth versus trusting what is in our heart and heart and soul to do be and create in the world and having the faith that the wealth will come through that. Or the abundance will come through that. Right? It's a massive rewiring. And as a collective, especially as a feminine collective, we are all moving through this right now. And it is very uncomfortable and it is wildly activating, and and you know, it challenges everything that we've been brought up to believe, and that the world has taught us to believe, and that the world has taught us is safe, and that's why it's so it can feel like the earth shifting beneath your your beneath your feet sometimes, right? It's so activating, but it is actually the path to the most abundant experience, alignment, purpose, right? And it is the path to the most massive visibility because you're returning home to who you were created to be, you're returning home to who your soul blueprint, you know, what that decided for you before you came into this life, you're returning home to that. That's the part of you that is wildly supported, that is meant to be visible, that is going to experience the expansion that I talked about in the reel that I posted earlier this week, right? When we talk about that expansion, moving into that, that, that most infinite potential of who we came here to be, that's when we move into that. But we have to break up with the part of ourselves, or not break up, but we have to acknowledge the part of ourselves that has been turning its back on that to create financial security and safety and be able to make a different choice. Right. And so again, I can't stress how uncomfortable this can this can be. You know, we've been programmed to make those those those those choices logically, right? The world has literally programmed this in us. It needs us. It needs us the world, the way it's constructed right now, the way society has been constructed now, which we're seeing the flaws in that, right? It needs us to believe that we need to choose logic and not our heart and soul. Because when we choose our heart and soul, that's when we achieve our infinite potential, that's when we become the most powerful version of ourselves, and that's when we cannot be and will not be controlled or manipulated. That's also when they're not going to have access to all the wealth that they have access to. Because now we're aligned with that, we have access to that. So just take that as it resonates and leave the rest. So, you know, how can you move? How can you move from this moment and pay attention to when you're feeling that separation, when you're feeling that out-of-body experience, that you're performing, that you're in your head, that you're in logic, that you're in, you know, survival versus being in your infinite potential, right? Being and trusting on what's in your heart and soul to do being create in the world. How can you recognize the difference between those two? What are they, what does each one feel like? Start start there. So then you can start to catch yourself when you're out of alignment, right? And I think this goes with all the visibility blocks, really, but the financial, the financial security one, I think probably the most, depending uh for me it was, but again, that this was one of my worst blocks. So how can you recognize when you're performing to create financial security, wealth, and stability versus trusting and having faith with who it is you were here to be in the world, what it is, what it is that you're here to create, listening to your soul, letting it be slow, letting, you know, having those power pauses, those check-ins, getting back into your body, seeing what your body feels like and what the next aligned step is or the next aligned thing to say is. How can you start to differentiate what those two things feel like for you? Again, if this helps you, when I'm in, when I'm in performing, everything feels fast, static y. I my voice goes high pitched, I talk fast, really fast. I get into my head, I feel like I'm almost outside of my body. Whereas when I pause and I take a deep breath and I acknowledge, okay, I'm performing, I'm gonna come back, I'm gonna reel this back in and take a breath, I'm gonna come back into my body, I'm gonna speak from here, I'm going to act from here, I'm going to decide from here. Even if right now it's just void, like there's nothing going on. Like there's nothing I'm being guided to say or do right now. I'm going to trust that. And then when the when the fear comes up, when the voices come up that tell you that you're not safe, that this is crazy, that this is illogical, that you have to be working, you have to be contributing, you have to be productive, you have to make you know logical choices. How can you trust that when I follow the guidance of my heart, when I follow my soul, when I follow what feels like the aligned way forward for me, when I trust what the aligned thing to say is, I trust that I'm fully and unequivocally provided for and supported in this world. Even though sometimes that can come in very indirect ways and unexpected ways. I trust that I'm gonna be okay. I trust that I'm gonna be taken care of, right? And that's not to say that we never do logical things. Like, please know that, right? Maybe I should have spled with this. Sometimes it is doing logical things, and that's part of the process, right? But we can't be all logic. We have to let the heart and the soul have a part at the part of the have a seat at the table, right? Be part of the conversation. And even the logical choices have to be internally guided. They can't be guided from that fear-based franticness that goes on inside your mind when your worst fears are activated. They also have to come from what your soul is asking, what your internal guidance system is telling you. They have to be internally guided. They can't be externally, you know, imposed. So again, it comes back to trusting yourself, what's coming through you, what feels like the aligned move for you, drowning out all the noise, drowning out all the noise in your head, even drowning out all the noise around you because God, you know, God bless people who love us. They always want the best for us. They don't always give us the best advice. And it's not because they're bad people, it's because they're speaking from their own fear and mindset. And it's also because they don't know what we're here to do, being sometimes we have a, it takes us a minute to figure out who we are in the world and what we're meant to do, be and create in it, right? So, how can anybody else know what's better for us than us, right? We we again, it all comes back to being internally guided instead of externally led. That's where our power is, right? Anytime we give our power away to anything outside ourselves, whether it's approval, whether it's likes, whether it's reach, whether it's a bank, you know, whether it's a paycheck, we start to lose a little part of ourselves, right? And this is about bringing that part of our, bringing those parts of ourselves back. And then and only then will we be truly visible and make the impact that we're here to make in the world. Okay. So let me know how this resonates in the comments. Try this practice, stick around for visibility month, because like I said, we're gonna be doing lots more healings and activations and affirmations and journal prompts to help you move through and become the most visible version, unapologetic version of yourself, and step into the impact that you're here to make in the world. So stick around. Follow me at the Femcast on Instagram, message me there if you have any questions or if anything comes up for you. I always love to hear from you guys. Until next time, massive love.