Inside Beauty Inspires

Finding Your Way: A Faith Journey With Tylan

• Stephanie Harrison • Season 3 • Episode 87

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What does it truly mean to be rooted in Christ? In this heartfelt episode, Prophetess Stephanie L Harrison welcomes back her son Tylan "T-Funk" Fowler for a profound conversation about spiritual growth, overcoming distractions, and discovering authentic faith.

Fresh from his first year of college, Tylan shares candid reflections about facing real-world challenges while trying to maintain spiritual focus. "The distractions are real," he admits, but those very struggles become the "growing pains" that strengthen character when we stay grounded in God's word. Mother and son dive deep into Proverbs 24, exploring timeless wisdom about envy, self-control, and building a life on God's foundation.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when they discuss the fruits of the Spirit. Rather than viewing spiritual growth as a checklist of behaviors to master, Tylan offers this perspective-shifting insight: "It's not about doing more, it's about abiding more." This becomes the heartbeat of their dialogue – that authentic transformation happens naturally when we're deeply rooted in relationship with Jesus.

They tackle relevant challenges facing believers today, from social media's comparison traps to choosing relationships wisely. "Proximity is prophetic," Tylan observes. "Depending on who's around you and who's pouring into you shows if you're growing or being contaminated." His wisdom beyond his years shines through as he encourages listeners not to fear being set apart from worldly patterns.

Whether you're navigating your own spiritual growing pains or seeking deeper intimacy with God, this mother-son conversation offers biblical perspective, practical wisdom, and heartfelt encouragement for staying rooted in what truly matters. How might your life change if you focused less on performance and more on being planted in good soil?

Stephanie:

New, new, new, everything new, new, new, new, new, new, everything new. I'm ready to go. Hello, hello, welcome back to Inside Beauty Inspires. I am your host, prophetess Stephanie L Harrison, and today is a special episode because I am joined by someone very close to my heart, Talyn. You guys may know him as T-Funk Fowler. Listen, Tylan, how does it feel to be back in the studio with the moms?

Tylan:

It feels great I haven't been here in a minute. I've really just been focusing on myself and trying to lock in with God for real and I feel like I've come a long way. So I'm excited to share what I know and just be able to help as many people as I can.

Stephanie:

Amen, tylan. Well, you know, last time you were here you were off to college, okay, and let's talk about it for just a moment. Let's just touch a little bit. Basically, I know you guys are like how's everything going, how's everything going. So, tylan, can you talk to the people about you know, your first year, your experience, like how's it going?

Tylan:

First year just finished up around May.

Stephanie:

Yeah.

Tylan:

It was an experience, for sure.

Stephanie:

Definitely.

Tylan:

I will say, when you go into college, like for the younger people, definitely keep focused. I'd say, stay focused for sure, the distractions are. They are real, are they?

Stephanie:

real, Are they real? Tal distractions are they are real? Are they real? Are they real?

Tylan:

they are real. Yeah, you have to be locked in and luckily for me, I was able to go in there and of course, I got hit with distraction, but I always knew that the stuff I went through was going to build me up amen so those distractions and those failures and those lessons I know going back into school. I'm coming back in stronger, coming back in harder, and I'm just excited for what the year is going to bring for me.

Stephanie:

Amen, amen. That's what's up, tylan. You know I have to keep it a G. I miss my son while he was gone. You know he's growing up and everything and I'm just like, oh my God. You know, if you guys are following me on Facebook, I made a post about growing pains because you know life happens to us all and you know we can easily all get distracted. One thing that I did have you to do, tylan, was to stay in your word.

Tylan:

How has that been helping you along the journey? It hasn't made the journey easier, but it's made the journey more peaceful, in a sense of I'm going to continue to go through things, but I'm not letting those things bring me down. Rather, I'm letting them build me up. Everything we go through is for a reason. So, like my mom said, growing pains. If I want to grow as a man, and grow as a man of God at that, I know there are certain things I have to go through so I can get to what he has for me.

Stephanie:

Amen, talon. I know you've been telling me to stop saying it, but I got to say it. Clock that T. Okay, I'm sorry, I have those moments anyway, but thank you. Thank you, talyn, for your input. So look, before you went off to college I had you in the book of Proverbs and you know we've been doing the Proverbs a day since you've been back home, because I feel like that's an important piece of the puzzle. We're in Proverbs 24. And I want to read the first 10 verses to you guys here, and I want us to chat. I want us to talk about what you're picking up and what stands out to you in Proverbs.

Stephanie:

For the first 10 verses, proverbs 24 says don't envy evil people or desire their company, for their hearts plot violence and their words always stir up trouble. A house is built by wisdom and becomes strong through good sense and through knowledge. Its rooms are filled with all sorts of precious riches and valuables. The wise are mightier than the strong, and those with knowledge grow stronger and stronger. So don't go to war without wise guidance. Victory depends on having many advisors. Wisdom is too lofty for fools Among leaders. At the city gate, they have nothing to say. A person who plans, evil will get a reputation as a troublemaker. The schemes of a fool are sinful. Everyone detests a mocker. If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small. If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small. Tylan, out of those verses, which verse stood out to you the most?

Tylan:

It was a lot of them, if I'm being honest, it was definitely a lot of them. I'll start off with verse one. I feel like in this generation, like it's hard not to be envious or jealous of what you see people have on the internet, or if you think someone's winning or you're going to want to hang with them, like you want to be around around that, but you have no idea what spirit they have on them just because it's a exterior look, you could think oh yeah, they're winning, they're doing great.

Tylan:

Who knows what's going on behind all of that. You know I'm saying so. I'd say don't be jealous or envy people just because it looks like they're winning, when you don't even know the real of how they're even getting this or they could be doing it on their own. God's probably not in that at all.

Stephanie:

Come on.

Tylan:

So that success to the outside world is literally just to the outside world. But what matters is what's in their spirit. What fruits do they bear and stuff of that nature.

Stephanie:

Amen, amen, amen. And then verse 2 says for their hearts plot violence and their words always stir up trouble. So you know, following that that Proverbs, it gives us like insight to what type of people these people are. And I think in the book of Psalms 37, I'm just going to run over there real quick just to kind of piggyback, not just piggyback, but just to give you some insight to what the word of God says about it is Psalm 37.

Stephanie:

It says don't worry about the wicked or envy those who do wrong, for like grass, they soon fade away. Like spring flowers, they soon wither. Trust in the Lord and do good, then you will live safely in the land and prosper. Take delight in the Lord and he will give you your heart's desire. Commit everything you do to the Lord, trust in him and he will help you. He will make your innocence radiate like the dawn and the justice of your cause will shine like the noonday sun. Be still in the presence of the Lord and wait patiently for him to act. Don't worry about evil people who prosper or fret about the wicked schemes. So, like you just said, you really don't know what's going on behind the scenes and a lot of people can be like well, god said, god did, but is God even, even in the midst, or is God even a part of what you're doing? Your equation?

Tylan:

Exactly, and some people may think, oh yeah, god's doing this. But, like you were just saying earlier on the prayer call, which is something that I try to live by, more is like we don't get closer to God based off doing more, or oh yeah, I'm doing this, so I'm getting closer. It's more so on how much I abide in him?

Stephanie:

How much am I trusting him? How?

Tylan:

much am I allowing him to prune me and get me ready for life? Cause you can't clean up yourself, Like when we go to God. We're not going to have everything together.

Stephanie:

Amen.

Tylan:

And we can't try to have everything together, because that's you're not giving God all of you. When, give God all of you, then he has all of you to work with. And if he sees that you're abiding in him, you're trusting him and you're truly following him, that's when he starts to actually show up in your life. More so than I'm just check off, I read my bible today. I'm just okay. I did three prayers today. You know, I'm saying is there really intimacy in that, or are you just doing it, just to do it?

Stephanie:

what clock. Okay, I'm sorry, sorry, I totally, I totally agree. You know, you just made some very, very powerful, powerful, powerful points in that, in that aspect, you know, and that's wisdom speaking through you because of some of the challenges that you've you've gone through yourself. So you know, it's not a checkoff list and that's the problem, if I can be honest with you, tyler, and I really do feel like the problem with people is they have a to-do list, right, and so as long as they check it off, the list, that they did it, but there's no real change, there's no real fruit. You know, and when we go through the trials and tribulations, it's actually a part of the producing of the fruit.

Tylan:

Definitely. I keep taking it back to the growing pains, because I've had a lot of growing pains, like a lot spiritually, emotionally and mentally, and we can. I would not. I cannot be where I am today if it wasn't for that, you know, I'm saying like if it wasn't for the things that God has put me through and the things that I've learned, I wouldn't, as I wouldn't be where I am now spiritually, like as much wisdom as I'm getting. I'm learning. I wouldn't have anything like that. So I have to be where I am now spiritually, like as much wisdom as I'm getting I'm learning. I wouldn't have anything like that. So I have to be okay with the seasons where everything's not going good. He's not.

Tylan:

I feel like he's not there in a sense like he has to be silent, so I can actually call out even more and if that makes sense in that way you know it's God, because you keep trying to do it yourself and it's not working for you.

Stephanie:

So when, when, stuff starts, I have a problem. Where you at, when you at.

Tylan:

God, what are you doing? But in reality it's like, okay, I'm still here, but I want to see how much you want me. Are you going to cry out to me?

Stephanie:

Are you trying to do?

Tylan:

it yourself, but you can't. And then, when you see stuff start to happen, it's like they can't be me. Who else can you credit to that other than Jesus?

Stephanie:

You know what I'm saying, I mean, makes perfect sense, makes perfect sense. Thank you for that input and that wisdom. Okay, tom, I see you. You know, let's start here. You know verses 3 and 4, it says by wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established, and through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasuries. Now, you know, as I read that, I think about the ladies of ISI. I really do. I think about this beautiful place that God has created. It's a beautiful garden, is what we call it. There's so many different flowers is what I call. My sisters Shout out to the ladies of ISI. We get up each and every morning at 6 am to see god's face, and it makes the difference in our lives. Um, I feel like that's why the room is filled with rare beauties in different, different form. What would you say to to that script, those two scriptures?

Tylan:

I love how it starts off in the beginning by wisdom a house is built, yes. So like wisdom, I feel like it's the foundation for everything relationships houses a business. If you want to start anything, you have to have wisdom.

Tylan:

So I just not earthly wisdom not earthly wisdom, because earthly wisdom is just folly, is foolishness, and you would think you're doing something right. You get in the bible and not like what you say, clock t like the bible, be clocking T all day, like really show you dang, like I'm not moving as right as I thought I was moving. So to have wisdom from the Lord, that is the most important foundation. And then it goes into saying by understanding it is established. So, yes, I built it, but how can I actually, like give it stability?

Stephanie:

you know what I'm saying, like I have to now understand the wisdom I'm bringing.

Tylan:

I have to now like keep things from falling apart and I have to try my best. But we can't try our best, we have to depend on. God and abide in him in every single aspect, like, like I said, relationships, friendships, teams, all type of stuff like sister brother. Yeah, every single thing. We have to abide in the Lord and we have to use wisdom to build it, but you, can't just use wisdom and not have any understanding.

Stephanie:

It has to be understanding to keep everything alive. Yes, yes, and you know, in the book of James he says that you can ask for wisdom and he'll give it to you. You know, and I like how you said that. You know, that's the foundation, really is the blueprint. Wisdom shows you how to navigate this world and you know, we talked a little bit. I talked a little bit about it on our last episode. You know Proverbs 8. I'm always giving insight on that Proverbs, because you actually hear God speak, you hear wisdom speaks. She calls out, she speaks understanding, raising her voice. When you get into the scripture and the word, you understand it. But those are key components to building family, friends and relationship.

Stephanie:

Wisdom, because if you don't have the wisdom of God, you'll call something real that's not real, based off of facade, based off of an image that you portray, people that you know to me, you get counterfeits and you get godsends and if you don't have wisdom, talyn, you won't know who sent who. You won't. So the wisdom that this world gives you, like you said, is foolishness to God, you know. That's why, to me, he uses well, it's scripture, he uses the wise things to confide in the wise. I mean, like you said, it's foolishness to God, you know. That's why, to me, he uses well it's scripture, he uses the wise things to confide the wise. I mean, he uses the foolish things to confide the wise.

Tylan:

I agree with that and, like you said, about we thinking it's something else and it's not even that. It's about the fruits that someone's bearing. So I want to like, go into, like the fruits of the spirit and I feel like it's called fruits of the spirit because we have to plant ourselves in Christ yes, if you really think about that?

Tylan:

when you plant something, it produces something. Yes, it depends on what you plant it in, and if I plant my life into God, then I'm gonna receive fruits of his spirit of what he's doing in my life. Yes, so it's not about focused on being like okay, if I want to be kind, it's not about focused on being a kind person, or I want self-control, it's not about dang, okay, what am I gonna do to get self-control.

Tylan:

It's about focusing on him, and the more I focus on him, the more he brings these things into my life, more natural. I feel like everyone doesn't want stuff to be forced. Who wants to force anything?

Stephanie:

well, you know, I can't, I don't.

Tylan:

No one likes to force anything, you know because when it's forced, it doesn't flow. Doesn't at all, nor does it feel like, okay, this is real. It doesn't feel supernatural, it doesn't feel authentic. But when you focus on God and now you're seeing, everything that you pray for and that you want in your heart start to align and happen, it's like, oh, so all I have to do?

Tylan:

Matthew 6, 33 all I had to do was seek him and feel me like now this happened into my life. That's why I feel bad for my generation, because it's like you think you have to do this or I have to meet this, or I have to get this right, but in reality, just seek God. That's it Tyler and the more you seek God, you're gonna see these things happen in your life, and it might even even like oh, I didn't want this to happen, but I'm so glad it did.

Stephanie:

Yeah.

Tylan:

There's been times where I'm like why is this happening? Like that's not what I prayed for. But when you make that prayer, you're asking God. Ok, I'm inviting you into this, not saying you have to make this happen, but I want to feel joy. You're not you to feel joy from. Come on, tyler.

Stephanie:

It doesn't make sense, it really doesn't.

Tylan:

That's a false joy of anything.

Stephanie:

Absolutely Well, people fake it. And you said something, you said the word, and I love it. Authenticity, that truly does matter to me and I'm so glad you took it to the fruit. You know that is beautiful because if you go to the book of Galatians, chapter 5, it says so. Five, it says so.

Stephanie:

I say let the Holy Spirit guide your lives, then you won't be doing what your sinful nature craves. You said it, matthew 6, 33. And that's what the prayer call was founded on, Talyn, you know, I asked God. I don't know if I've ever told you this, but I asked God to make me the poster child for Matthew 6, 33. I did. I was like all right, is it that? Is it that simple? Okay, dad, you know I didn't. I really, I guess I. I made it easy. I don't like hard things to be hard, right, I don't like for things to be hard. And so I simplified it. I figured, hey, if I seek God, if I seek him, he said all these things will be added to him. So let's just see, and these things were added into my life like things, the things that he knows that you need, the things that he knows that you want. You know when I start this out.

Stephanie:

It says let the Holy Spirit guide your lives, then you won't do it. Your sinful nature there's something where it's in our nature. The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the spirit wants. And the spirit gives us desires that are opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other. So you are not free to carry out your good intentions. But when you are directed by the spirit of the Lord spirit of the Lord is here you are not under obligations of the law of Moses. When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear. They're very clear. Here's the results of following your sinful nature Sexual morality, impurity, lustful pleasures, idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outburst of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, envy, drunkenness, wild parties and other sin like these.

Stephanie:

He says let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of God. So he makes it clear that if you're led and fed by his spirit, you're going to see things differently. But you talked about it and I just want to touch on it again because I want your input. It says but the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives, so we have two different types of fruits that are being produced from two different sources. The Holy Spirit produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Here's the beautiful thing there is no law against these things. What is your take on that?

Tylan:

Like you said, it's two different sides. It's the fruit of the Spirit and, in my eyes, the fruit of what the world offers us.

Stephanie:

Yes.

Tylan:

I feel like the world offers us so much temporary things. It's like money. Okay, everyone wants money, money makes the world go around, but is that the most important thing? Like it says in the Bible, what is it to be richest? Or you feel like you're on top of the world and now you've lost your soul in all of that, yes, you know what I'm saying.

Tylan:

So like we shouldn't get caught on those temporary pleasures and that instant satisfaction or that instant gratification that we want all the time and all we have to do is shift that and be like OK, let me be patient, or let me ask God for patience and watch him prune something into your life, or now, everything that's happening, you're appreciating it because it's delayed.

Stephanie:

Yeah, even though it's delayed.

Tylan:

Everything is on God's timing, Like the tattoo I got that. You were like what?

Stephanie:

the world.

Tylan:

Yeah, it says god speed, but to me god speed is god's timing.

Tylan:

Like I, have to realize I want to know this time, but god is always on time. Who time am I gonna trust? Am I gonna trust my own time and I'm merely human, yeah, or am I gonna trust the most high God? You know what I mean. It doesn't make sense to me, so I feel like that's my takeaway on that, but I will go into saying when you were like Matthew 633 poster child, that's what you, as God, you wanted to be yeah, I did, I really did.

Stephanie:

I don't even know if I ever told you that, but sure did.

Tylan:

And you know what's crazy is, that's how I view. Like every time I see Matthew 633, you come to my head really literally every single time, or you're the reason I look at that so much, because, like I don't move the way everybody moves or I don't move the way people would like me to move but I know that, as long as I'm seeking the Lord and I'm not perfect, but I'm following him and I'm trying my best and that effort and that seeking is what matters the most.

Tylan:

Yes, and I've seen that happen in your life, the way it transformed your life, and I've seen it how it transformed grandma's life, and now I'm seeing it in me and my sister and my friends. It's transforming all of us, just like seeking God for real.

Stephanie:

Yeah.

Tylan:

And putting him first. It's like so important.

Stephanie:

It's the most important thing, it's our responsibility.

Tylan:

I feel like our responsibility is to follow Jesus and our thing we want to focus on our purpose. But if our responsibility is to follow Jesus and I could be wrong here I feel like well, no, you're not, because that's the most important.

Stephanie:

If you, to me, if I'm getting, I feel like the law of this, of the land, is the most important. When I say the law of the land, meaning the law that's written in this word, I feel like this book is your navigational system to this world. And you know, when you take God serious and you take his word serious, you see the product that comes from doing that. Um, you know, I never, never it. Just God is just so amazing. Cause when I look at my children, when I look at you, when I look at PJ, I love the relationship I love with Cameron. You know how you guys are all in there together.

Stephanie:

Y'all are seeking God's face. And you know, like, even with you being in Greenwood and you're talking to your sister, and you know she calling and checking up on you, checking up on her, that's what the fruit of the spirit does, that's the result of it. When you see God's face, you know, you start to see things clearly. Then people have an ear to hear God because they're seeking him, so he has. They're able to communicate, he's able to get his words in the ground, Meaning like, if you're his vessel, which you are. You're able to give somebody an uplifting word because you're already seeking his face.

Tylan:

And because I'm rooted in that Like. I said earlier, we have to be planted in Christ. We have to be planted in Christ. We have to be rooted in Christ for us to even produce anything. That's how plants, that's how the world works. Whatever you're rooted in is what you're going to produce. Absolutely, I want to go back to what I was saying, it's our responsibility to follow Jesus. And sometimes we try to take on Jesus' responsibility, which is to make us into who we were called to be.

Tylan:

We can't make ourselves or we can't figure out our own purpose we have to let go and let god yes you will be following your mind, thinking, okay, I'm supposed to be doing this, I'm supposed to be doing that, that's just because you want to do that. But when you put your feelings aside and when you put your mindset aside and adapt the mind of jesus, and okay, I'm gonna follow jesus, he's gonna pour new things into you. So now, if, if I'm going to follow you, lord, it's your responsibility to make me into who you call me to be because I'm following you.

Tylan:

That's right and I have to just let go and trust that. Okay, I don't have the blueprint. What my purpose is?

Stephanie:

it might not even align to what he has for me.

Tylan:

Amen, but I won't know that if I don't get out of my own way.

Stephanie:

That's it, talon, that's it, talon, that's it. You know, just beautiful, beautiful words of encouragement. And you're absolutely correct, because a lot of times we're in our own way, you know, we don't realize that at the time, because we want what we want when we want it. You know what I'm saying. We live in a world. Pj suggested that her generation, like you, was just like my generation. I feel sorry for them, I do. She literally was like they're in a maze. They're in a maze and they're trying to figure it out. But I'm just taking a step further. It's a lot of people, not just your generation, it's a lot of generational curses that haven't been broken because they're in a maze and everybody's trying to figure this thing called life out. They're just trying to figure out who to call, where to go when they're feeling down and out. And to hear you at your age, your sister at your age, getting it, it gives me hope for the world. If you get out your own way, you'll see things the way your father wants you to see them.

Tylan:

Exactly, and I feel like back to the distraction thing from when we brought it at the top social media is one of the biggest distractions, like it could be good, but it's so much bad that can come with that because it's like a comparison. Comparison is a thief of joy yes but when we see people on the internet making this amount of money, going these type of places, our minds like dang I want to do that. How am I not doing that yet? Okay, now let me try to figure out exactly.

Tylan:

Let me get get to that. But let's say, like that might not even be for you. Or let's say they didn't even get it the way they are supposed to get it. That's right, so you're blinded by all these things that really don't matter. And now, like PJ said, you're in a maze where you're trying to figure out, based off of somebody else else, based off of what they're doing yeah, but bro, just follow Jesus, like I try to say that all the time.

Tylan:

Follow Jesus, because once you follow Jesus, he transforms you yes, he does, and he sanctifies you.

Stephanie:

Yes, he does, and sanctify.

Tylan:

That comes from my boy, lou, my boy.

Stephanie:

Jordan. Okay, shout out to the king.

Tylan:

Shout out Jordan King you know I'm saying he's been dealing like we've all been dealing with a lot of stuff, but trusting God and knowing that he's gonna sanctify us and make us holy, and like me and Jordan always say like we post things like about God, but like we're, we're not better than thou.

Stephanie:

You know, I'm saying we're not better than you're not trying to be better than nobody, but I want to be holier than thou and the word holy people think, oh, that means perfect. No, holy means to be set apart come on, okay, I gotta say, I gotta say it I don't want to be like the world.

Tylan:

I don't want to be like the rest of these people I'm seeing and that's no discredit to them, right? I just know what's more important, and that's me following jesus and not being so caught up in what y'all on or what the world is on in reality. That's gonna stop me from reaching my purpose that god has for me. Because I'm so caught up in what y'all on or what the world is on in reality, that's going to stop me from reaching my purpose that God has for me, because I'm so caught up in what y'all doing.

Tylan:

And in reality, when I'm dead, like that's not going to matter, like none of it is going to matter. Like Ecclesiastes say, everything is meaningless. And that's the real deal. It is. It really is.

Stephanie:

When you think about it. That's why it's so important to let go and let God's hand. You know things are meaningless. We give our attention to this world, the worldly things and, like you said, comparison is a thief of joy because you start to analyze yourself in a negative aspect of what you have and what they have. And that's just not it.

Stephanie:

A lot of times people see what God has done in my life. A lot of people may misconstrued, you know, they may have their own opinions, but you just putting my father first, prioritizing him, made the difference. And you know, I tell you guys, I'd be like change that one thing. That's going to change everything and if you do that, you're going to see the results of you changing that one thing. Distractions are everywhere and you know I'm glad you touched on social media because there are so many things out there in this world that that that is right at our fingertips. What do you say to social? What do you say to the things that you know maybe people are listening and they're just like, but how do we avoid that?

Tylan:

Following Jesus. Like I hate to say it like that, but because it's easier said than done, I feel like why do you think it's hard?

Stephanie:

Why do you think it's easier said than done? Like what makes you say that?

Tylan:

People feel like, okay, when I follow Jesus I can't sin anymore and stuff like that. But in reality it's the seeking part. It doesn't say do everything I say and the kingdom, everything will be added to you. It says seek my face. So when you seek his face things, are going to shed off of you and now you're going to be able to see and have discernment on if this is right, if this is wrong, and you're not trying to make make it to like okay, I want to reach this standard for God.

Tylan:

it's like God, I'm trusting you with my life and watch how he transforms everything and and like you were saying about social media and you was like one thing that people just don't want to let go and people feel like, okay, one thing is holding me back and if I'm being honest, it's the influence, it's the crowd you're in.

Tylan:

People don't realize that, like that isolation, that alone time is what you need sometimes the people that you think is your bros, your friends, all that not saying they not, but are they bearing fruit? Are they uplifting you, are they helping you like, are they bringing you closer to God or closer to positive things, closer to like things that actually matter, rather than just like slandering you or keeping you distracted in the world? And all of that, all those things can affect you so much. And think about if you did that same thing, if you were in the same presence you were in with your friends. You moved that to God. Now you're in the presence of God. Now you're seeking God on that alone time. Now you're in the wilderness by God. Now You're seeking God on that alone time. Now you're in the wilderness by yourself.

Tylan:

Yeah, like now. You got to go through the mud for real.

Stephanie:

And I want to say this, because you just make a perfect point, and this is what I'll be saying y'all. This is all I'll be saying what's the point? Why is Jesus even here? You know you touched on something. You know people think that you have to walk this perfect life. You know we all need Jesus.

Tylan:

All need him.

Stephanie:

We all fall short, we all need forgiving, we all need a savior, and that's the reason why Jesus came to set the captives free. He says that many afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers them from them. The Lord delivers him from them all. What does that even mean? It means that Jesus in Jesus, he's going to lead you, he's going to guide you. And Tylan, a lot of people are like it's intangible, like you know. They want to touch it, they want to feel it, they need concrete evidence. What do you say to that? What do you say to those that are?

Tylan:

like supernatural. I feel like the key to following Jesus is faith. It's repeating in the Bible all the time I have faith, like having that faith and trusting in things that you cannot see Amen. Like my Uncle, terrence, I was literally just listening to his song when I was running the other day.

Stephanie:

Yeah.

Tylan:

And it's like the things that you can't see are scarier than the things you can see.

Stephanie:

Come on.

Tylan:

But people don't want to get into that because it's hard to imagine. Oh, how can that be scarier if I can't even see it?

Stephanie:

Right.

Tylan:

You know what I mean. And I want to go to Proverbs, verse 10. If you falter at times of trouble, how small is your strength? And I've been reading Samuel right, learning about Saul and David.

Stephanie:

David Tyler reminds me of David and David.

Tylan:

David Tyler reminds me of David every time I hear David I'm like that's my son, that's my son. So when Saul was chasing David, david never voted. Neither was God never with. David in the Bible. It always talks about and God was with.

Stephanie:

God was with David. Yeah, I was with David and God was with David yes, it's because he stood firm on God's strength.

Tylan:

Yes, he did and he was always obedient and he always tried his best to listen to what God was telling him. He didn't like try to hurt Saul. That's a spoiler alert. He didn't try to hurt Saul for any type of reason. He waited on the Lord even when it hurt him.

Tylan:

Like he dealt with so much and in my life I just been feeling so much frustration toward God and anger, if I'm being honest, but at the end of the day I still love him. I'm just, sometimes I get confused. I feel like a lot of us get confused sometimes on why God is doing that and why God is doing this. But I like that we can't get caught up on how we feel, like the heart is deceitful at the end of the day yes, yes, we don't have the blueprint and sometimes we have to be okay with that blueprint yeah, when we don't know which direction god wanted to take you in

Tylan:

but you know that you need to follow him wherever like and have that discernment, so you know that you're following him, even if you feel like dang, he's not here, like how can I trust what he's telling me it's about? The end is going to be better than you could have ever imagined. Yes, tylen, so imagine, okay.

Tylan:

So imagine if, going back to david and saul, imagine if david would have retaliated against saul, saul would have never became paul, and paul wouldn't wrote all those letters to us, to the people, letting us know how to get closer to god. The the same books that we are reading now are the same ones that he wrote based off of david's obedience. David could have went over there. Okay, you want to kill me? We can fight and end this all his life.

Stephanie:

Well, I love the way you say that, but I do want to give you just a little bit of correction here. It's the only thing, because in the old Testament that's all, but then in the new Testament is talking about us all too, but there are two different souls. But you know what? I do believe that he came from that background. I think that that was generational. I think that he came from that Saul because he, how, um and I could be wrong again, don't misquote me, but these are just our thoughts. But you know, when it comes down to Saul and how he was going against all of the believers, you know God had to have an, he had to have an encounter in order for him to be switched over. You know, I'm saying even speaking about, but you, but to reference what you just said, it was David's faith. It was David's unfaltering faith in that the Lord had his back, no matter what.

Stephanie:

You know that scripture challenges me to be spiritually strong, even when things are tough, even when you're, like you said, you've been God. I've had those same type of daddy what's up? And what is this and why? What are you doing? You know, like God, I didn't see it this way, I didn't think it was going to be like this. But at the end of the day, you want what God wants for you. You can want what you think you want, but you get what you need. When it comes down to the father, you know he loves his children. He wants us to have the best of the best. That was a good scripture too. You know. Let's just keep going because we're on to something. We're on to something. I'm going to keep going here. Bear with me. I got my phone right here with my scripture on it.

Tylan:

All right, boom. Rescue those being led away to the death. Hold back those staggering toward the slaughter. If you say, but we knew nothing about this, does not he who weighs the heart perceive it? Does not he who guards your life know it? Will he not repay everyone according to what they have done? Eat honey, my son, for it is good. Honey from the comb is sweet to your taste. Know also that wisdom is like honey for you. If you find it, there is a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off. Do not lurk like a thief near the house of the righteous. Do not plunder their dwelling place, For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes.

Stephanie:

Jesus, jesus, here's the kicker. God told me this the other day. True story, transparent time. I'm in a bed. I had a moment. Okay, I had a moment the night before.

Stephanie:

You know, we all get upset. I'm just like, ah, what is going on, daddy? It was just when I say one thing after another, and you know me and you had a conversation and I was really feeling you. I was feeling I was picking up my son's emotions and I knew that you were in a state of like I'm just trying to figure this thing out called life right, and I felt all of that and and that that night, when I went to bed, the Lord gave me a word. The word he gave me the night.

Stephanie:

It was like many of the afflictions of the Lord, many of the afflictions, but the Lord delivers them from, delivers him from them all. When I got up that morning I kid you not the spirit of the Lord spoke to me and he said you do know, because I, because in my mind I was just like dad, I want to be the best leader that I can be and you know, when you fall down or when you feel like you're not good enough, you start to kind of beat yourself up, Right, because you're like dang, I knew better, I shouldn't have acted that way, I shouldn't have said these things, and you're like God forgive me. And that night I was just like Lord, I'm sorry, I just kept saying like that and I was like you're right, dad. And, as a matter of fact, that prayer call that day, it was a revival. On the call, revival broke out because God was showing himself mighty in the land of the living. What's your takeaway? On on, on which one sticks out to you, because that's the one that stuck out to me.

Tylan:

I didn't know that was there 16 yeah okay, 16 definitely stuck out to me, but I'm definitely gonna start it with 11. Okay on, and I'm gonna recite that for the people rescue those being led away to death, hold back those staggering towards slaughter. If we see someone's going down the wrong path, if we see they're heading towards destruction and we choose not to help them, I hate to say it, but I feel like, in a sense, we are responsible in that case, like if we're not making it known to them.

Tylan:

at the end of the day, people have their own way or they're going to do what they want to do. But if you made it known, then you were able to try and help them. And if we don't try and we just sit back and watch, I feel like we're just as bad as the next person. You know what I'm saying? Like if we have that wisdom and we see something wrong and we're choosing not to say nothing, do we actually care about our brothers and sisters?

Stephanie:

Well, actually, you have to have wisdom with that too. Okay, and the reason why I say that is because the Bible tells you not to cast your pearls among swine and not calling anybody swine and not calling anybody swan, no, but sometimes, when you're trying to give words of encouragement, or when you're trying to give that the Bible, what Jesus speaks about it, going into a house and, you know, bringing your peace, like, hey, here's the peace. I want to tell you something, but most times they reject it. You know, and it's in the book of Proverbs too, I can't remember where, but it's like, if you try to correct someone that's foolish, they'll turn around and rebuke you for it. You know what I'm saying. So you have to have wisdom, even when using correction, even when giving words of encouragement, because God already knows who's going to be receptive to it and who's not. He knows that.

Stephanie:

That's why, you know, you talked about Saul and Paul, but Paul wanted to go to the Jews. He wanted to, you know, minister, to the Jews, and God was like nah, I want you to go to the Galatians, I want you to go to, I want you to give the word to them. Paul really wanted to go to the Jews. But God already knew how the Jews was going to receive. He knew they weren't received. He knew that they would. They would kill. So you know, you got to have wisdom in in that correction. So I thank you for speaking up for that, because the truth of the matter is you don't want to leave, you don't want, you don't. I'm going to say it this way Sometimes, when people are going through the things they're going through, it's a direct, it's because of what they've done. Okay, it's because of what you know they've done. Do you understand what I'm picking up on now?

Tylan:

Definitely so they've done, do you?

Stephanie:

understand what I'm picking up, what I'm putting down Definitely, definitely, okay, cool, because I'm not saying disregard anybody, you know.

Tylan:

But I feel like we shouldn't disregard anybody. But no, it is definitely a discernment type of thing because you don't know who's going to receive it or not at all at all. But I will like inspire the youth, like for the ones just now getting in Christ, like, don't be private about your faith.

Stephanie:

The youth like for the ones just now getting in, christ like don't be private about your faith.

Tylan:

Don't be private about how much god means to you or what he's doing for your life, because, although that's for your life, you don't know who your testimony is going to touch someone else. They could be going through something similar and they could need you as a kind word.

Tylan:

But, like my mother said, it is all about discernment and knowing who to tell, how to tell them and to come off as like not a perfect person, but come off as someone that's seeking God and trying to inspire as many people as you can to get on that same track, knowing that is the way we're supposed to be living, like I seen this from Anna Shout out to Anna Haven't talked to her in a minute, but shout out.

Stephanie:

Shout out to Anna Bonner. I love Anna.

Tylan:

I haven't talked to her in a minute, but I seen she posted something a while ago about you. Might be the only Bible or the first Bible someone sees, absolutely so we have to still be on our P's and Q's about a lot of stuff because absolutely we can't give like oh, you want to get closer to Christ, and now you meet me and it's like dang.

Stephanie:

Is that really how it?

Tylan:

is Look how he moving it. Ain't he supposed to be with God?

Stephanie:

That part.

Tylan:

And if he going to move like that and he with God, what's the point of me even getting with God? That's it. It has to be like a shift in how you move and what you do and things of that nature. So shout out to her for that word, but I do feel like when, when it comes to that innocence, oh, my throat is okay, my throat is fried, but I feel like we still have to display the best we can for other people. You never know who you're gonna meet. Amen gonna know who you're gonna come in touch with because someone else is gonna need what you're going through. You can help them through that amen.

Tylan:

I always remember that, because most of our testimonies if we're being real and you got to think of it as like not selfish some of that stuff not even happening to you, for you, like you don't know who you're going to encounter, who's going to be going through that same thing. And that's for the other people.

Stephanie:

Like he's using you and you have to just be okay with being used, through whatever you're going through, to help others around the kingdom, and and that's just. That's the reality, you know. I'm so glad you said that and it reminds me of galatians 6, verse 1. Um. It says, dear brothers and sisters, if any, if another believer is overcome by sin, you who are godly, should gently and humbly help that person back on the right path and be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. In other words, corrections should be done gently, humbly and spiritually, with the guidance of the Lord, because, like I was telling you in Proverbs Proverbs 27, verses 5 and 6. Again, this is the wisdom of the Lord.

Stephanie:

An open rebuke is better than hidden love. Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy. True love, sometimes correct. It may hurt at first, but it's healing. It's healing. And also I always, always, always, reference second Timothy, chapter 2, because God gives us a way to go about this thing called life. You know, one thing he tells us is not to go back and forth over words. It says the Lord's servants must not quarrel, but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach and be patient with difficult people, gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people's hearts and they will learn the truth. We are to teach with kindness, not argue, leaving room for God to do the hard work, because it is hard work, but it's also H-E-A-R-T.

Tylan:

Hard work. It is.

Stephanie:

And then you got to think about being led and fed by the Spirit of the Lord. You have to be Spirit-led and you said the word discernment. Discernment is, you know, is one of those, those things that we all need and you do get it through wisdom. Not every situation requires confrontation you understand what I'm saying, not, not every. And that's why I was like, yeah, you have to, you have to be led by the spirit of the Lord, because it's been sometimes when the Lord tell me that flag on the play and I have to be like, okay, you know, because I listened to him, you, him. You know I don't lean to my own understanding, but in all my ways, when you acknowledge God, he really, truly does direct your path. So a couple questions that you can ask yourself is this person open to correction? Am I going to be able to?

Tylan:

Are they a good listener?

Stephanie:

Are they going?

Tylan:

to like be receptive to what I'm about to tell them.

Stephanie:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, think about that for sure, that part for sure? Or am I being led by the Spirit or my own emotions? Because, I mean, I'm just addressing some things because, again, these are the things that most people don't understand. They just go in with trying to tell somebody how to live. I don't do that. I try to use the Bible as a tool to educate, empower and motivate. I don't use it as a tool to you're not doing this right. You're not doing this right. That's just my way of leading, though, because I understand that God convicts us. I truly do believe that God convicts us. And then is my goal restoration or being right? Am I trying to restore you back to your faith or am I just trying to be right?

Tylan:

Exactly Am I trying to prove?

Stephanie:

you wrong, or do I actually want to see a?

Tylan:

change in your life and I feel like for me it used to be. I just want to be right. I'm going to be honest like back in the day.

Stephanie:

I ain't going to say back in the day like I'm old or something, but like back when I was in high school okay, back in the day whenever I was arguing with somebody, it's like at this point I'm just, I just want to be right about the situation.

Tylan:

But as I've grown, it's really about just wanting to restore or educate that person on the subject. And, like you were saying, are you being led by the spirit or your emotions? I feel that a lot, lot and sometimes I feel like it's both in a sense.

Stephanie:

Let me emotion, emotion.

Tylan:

No, I'm just joking Like man like that's probably been like one of the biggest struggles for me recently is just like how to get over that hump of my emotions versus the spirit.

Stephanie:

You know what? I'm glad you said that and I'm going to intercept, intercept. But I'm gonna intercept because you said something the fruit of the spirit. One of those fruit is what?

Tylan:

self-control.

Stephanie:

Yeah, I had to make them say it y'all go ahead and make them say it and then, and the reason why is because you know, once you have, you know, even though it's the last fruit that's listed, it's the last fruit that listed. It holds so much power because you really get to see someone walk by the fruit they bear, not just what they say. You get to actually, you know, see it walk. That, because everything doesn't require response.

Tylan:

I am.

Stephanie:

I know I'm just all over him today.

Tylan:

I'm like yeah, darling, that is. That is very true, and I am getting to the point and I thank God for that where I'm getting that discernment on things that I should say and things I shouldn't say, with a lot of stuff, and I'm just thankful that God's like leading me through his spirit, rather than like me just being so emotional and getting in my own way, letting my heart do the talking, me just being so emotional and getting in my own way, letting my heart do the talking, like just calm down, sit still. It literally says that in psalms I don't know which chapter, but I know it's between four and six because I was reading it when I was on the late and I was like, dang, do I need to do this more?

Tylan:

do I just need to learn how to sit still and be solid on what it is? Because, let's say, I give a response and that response leads me to sin? You know I mean, I don't want a response to lead me to sin, especially because I'm hot-headed or emotional in that time yeah, and like you're saying, some things are gonna make people emotional.

Tylan:

No doubt about it, we're human beings, but it's about what you, what you give power is. Is it that important? Is it that serious? Like I feel like we all need to and not and just my generation, just in life in general actually sit back and think do I need to be arguing? Am I going to give power to this? Am I going to give power to that? Because, when it's all said and done, you just did all that and didn't anything change. Were you just trying to be right? Or even if, even if you were coming off trying to just have them receive it and help educate them, did you do it being led by the Spirit or your emotions?

Stephanie:

You know what we're speaking about leads to Proverbs 25. I want you to go to Proverbs 28. I want you to read Proverbs 28 for me.

Tylan:

Like a city whose walls are broken through. It is a person who lacks self-control.

Stephanie:

Now, do you understand what that's saying? Do you understand, like, how that ties into what we're speaking about?

Tylan:

I can't give you what I'm assuming. Yeah, absolutely.

Stephanie:

I want you to give me what you got me quote-unquote innocent.

Tylan:

You already know I'm gonna do it, because I'm gonna add flag on the plate.

Stephanie:

That is not it.

Tylan:

No, go ahead, but I when I see um broken through, I think of guarding myself and guarding my heart, like if I, if I lack self-control, I'm giving people power to now how they feel or what they're saying about it now it's making me feel some way. So everything on my walls were built up. I'm giving them a chance to break them down now, in a sense, just because I could have stopped all that from happening if I just had self-control. Yeah, yeah, you know what I mean, hey.

Stephanie:

I think you did a pretty good, because in the biblical times, back in now, I can say back in the day, when it comes down to the Old Testament, okay, but the cities represented protection, structure, strength and if the walls were broken, the cities were vulnerable to attack, they were vulnerable to destruction, they were vulnerable to disorder. And, in the same way, lack of self-control leaves us vulnerable to sin, leaves us vulnerable to offense, leaves us vulnerable to emotional outbursts, crickets, poor decisions and spiritual compromise. I love you, tyler, I love you, I love you too.

Stephanie:

What do you feel like when it comes down to that part? Because, again, self-control is one of the fruit of the spirit, and so it's one of those things that I think a lot of people I do think a lot of people struggle in this because they don't know how to control themselves. What do you think about that?

Tylan:

I'm going to go back to kind of like what I said earlier, like it's not about if I'm trying to reach the point where I'll bear that fruit. It's not about me trying like everything, okay, how do I have self-control. It's not about that. It's about I need to focus on jesus more. It's not about doing more. It's about abiding more.

Tylan:

I need to trust him giving him more of me, yes, asking him to give me this or deliver me from this. The closer I get to God and the closer I've gotten to Jesus within these past days. I feel like I'm at that point and I'm not going to say I have it all the way there, but the self-control is definitely being seen. I definitely feel like it's being shown in my actions and in my words, and so I would say that was my problem self-control. Like I, I lack self-control. I'll be honest.

Tylan:

Like I'm getting to the point where I'm getting it, but that's something I'm still lacking as a as a man of God and focusing on Jesus more and not trying to reach the standard of okay, self-control, check, yeah, that's gonna bring, that's gonna okay.

Stephanie:

self-control check. Yeah right, that's going to bring that self-control to me and that's why you need Jesus. And that's the reason why you need Jesus, because we can't do it ourselves.

Stephanie:

You cannot. And he will lead you. God will teach you. You know, in every aspect, in every situation, circumstance, he'll show you a glimpse of how you could have handled this. You know, he'll show you a glimpse of how you could have handled this. You know he'll say okay, son, let's have a conversation, because that's how he does it. I mean he's like all right, baby girl, let's talk. You know, call me Apple or little grasshopper, he speaks, you know, and a lot of people don't hear his voice, but the one thing about it is that you do.

Stephanie:

And so I think that you know there's fine tuning that comes along with self-control, and I just think, like you just said, if you stay planted where God puts you, you're rooted in his word. You're going to bear fruit, and the fruit is you know, but you're going to produce more fruit. But what happens when you're not planted or when you go off on your own thoughts, is like there's a disconnect. And when you're disconnected, how can God really show you anything? If you're high-headed, nobody can say anything to you. You think you're right about this. You think you're right about that. It's so many people that are in this world that we have to walk around on eggshells because we don't want to offend. Well, yikes, we don't want to offend anyone. We don't want to offend anyone, right, okay, we don't, but God doesn't want us to live that type of life. Amen, what do you say to that?

Tylan:

I like how you said God doesn't like. At the end you said God doesn't want us to live that type of life. No, if we in the mindset of doing this and doing that without God, it's like you're not going to hear from him, like everything is because of you. Like we reap what we sow. That's one thing that I have to remember. Like we reap what we sow, so if we stay rooted in God, be planted in God, be planted in Christ and know that that's where everything should come from. Everything else is going to follow. That Like I'm going to hear his voice way more, based off of me being so deeply rooted into who he is and I feel like my generation.

Stephanie:

We need to emphasize intimacy with God intimacy with Jesus Like okay, I follow him yeah.

Tylan:

Am I obeying him?

Stephanie:

Am.

Tylan:

I trying to obey him and that's a big difference, like it's a lot of people who believe in God, the devil believes in God. There's a lot of people that read the word no scripture the devil knows scripture you know what I'm saying, yeah, yeah. So, just because of these things, don't think that, like I'm following God, you believe in him things.

Stephanie:

Don't think that, uh, I'm following god. You believe in him, but are you actually following? Are you following? Are you are you? Are you? Are you intimate?

Tylan:

exactly are you deeply like? Do y'all have an intimate relationship just?

Stephanie:

does he know?

Tylan:

your name. You know what I mean. Like it doesn't make sense, like, or if he knows your name do you know?

Stephanie:

he doesn't know his. Do you know? Do you know he? You know who he?

Tylan:

actually is that part. They just talked about that in church. Shout out to my my big brother calvin, you know what I'm saying. I went to the church in pendleton and he was just talking about who is jesus to you? Yes, who is god to you and to me, redeemer come on, deliverer, yeah, healer, yeah, savior amen big dog he is everything ones for real. Yeah, and I feel like if we just get out of our own way, yes and follow him and do our best to obey what he says yes, tylen then it's like why would he not show up and show out?

Stephanie:

well if you show up. Well, here's the thing. I got evidence. I'm the living proof. Why I say it that way is because there's evidence.

Stephanie:

Like you said, shout out to anna. You know she said you know the only person about they might they might not ever open up a bible, but they might look at you and are you planted? You said a couple things. You know, as we wrap this up and as you know, this has been a beautiful as well. You know we didn't get to touch on everything that we wanted to, but I asked the Lord to have his way and to give us. You know his words and and because here's the thing, he knows exactly what we all need I pulled a card and I pulled a card, talyn, I pulled a card earlier.

Stephanie:

And where did that card go? I lost the card, but it was speaking about. Oh, here it is. It was talking about the fruit. It was talking about the fruit. It wasn't so much the fruit, but the scripture. Here it is. Well, let me just read it from Matthew Matthew 13, verses 3 through 9.

Stephanie:

Listen, a farmer went out to plant some seeds. As he scattered them across his field, some seeds fell onto the path and the birds came and ate them. Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlining rock. The seeds sprouted quickly because of the soil. The soil was shallow, but the plants soon wilted under the hot sun and, since they didn't have deep roots, they died. Other seeds fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants. Still some other seeds fell on fertile soil and they produced a crop that was 30, 60, or even 100 times as much as had been planted.

Stephanie:

Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand Now the reason why I wanted to go here. Because the word that you know, I always pull a card, and this is Jesus' explanation of the seed and the sower. Because we're speaking about the word of God, which is the message of the kingdom, and we're speaking about hard conditions, in a sense, because, at the end of the day, the issues float from the heart. Like you said earlier, you touched upon it. The heart is deceitful, right? What do you, what do you take in when I read that word? What is, what is your takeaway from just that scripture?

Tylan:

it's about where you're rooted, amen. It's about where's your mind at, where you're actually focused in on. You know what I'm saying. Like it says for me because I got the niv version. Okay, a farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path and the birds came and ate it up. Yeah, when it says fell along the path, what path is he talking about? He's not talking about the narrow path. He's talking about the path that everyone in this world ends up wanting to follow, based off of temporary pleasures, based off of who you want to be perceived as in this world. You want to be this person for other people, like we do so much time on. Spend so much time on trying to people, please and I'm not trying to get into that subject because that's Because that's for another day.

Stephanie:

That's for another day, but that's a real thing out there in these streets.

Tylan:

It's a lot of people want to. People please Like hey, I got this. You see what I got. You see what I got. You see what I'm doing Because of audience Based off of what Like oh, that's not going to matter. You're trying to Like, you don't. You want everybody to like you, and you don't even like everybody. You feel me, though, like you want this person to like you, you don't even like it.

Stephanie:

You don't even have love the christ in your heart exactly so.

Tylan:

It's like you don't even love everybody. You want everybody to see this and see that, and see this and follow you for what? All of it is definitely irrelevant, it's not gonna matter, it's no point in doing any of that.

Stephanie:

Well, it's not rooted in the word Go ahead and keep reading.

Tylan:

It says some fell on the path and the birds came and ate it up. When we fall alongside the path that the world has for us, we're vulnerable to so many things and so many people. To just come and step on us and do that and do that and do that. It's like if you would just get out of your own way. Yeah, that's the message of this.

Stephanie:

I'm trying to like.

Tylan:

That's the message he's trying to iterate, reiterate it's you have to get out of your own way and just realize okay, whatever I'm talking about, whatever I'm doing, that ain't it even if you think it's bringing you life, it's not if jesus is not a part of it?

Stephanie:

there's no. That's it life at all?

Tylan:

there's no growth in the sense of a way that actually matters, bro, and that's why I'm trying to emphasize and bringing up people pleasing. Again, we're trying to people please and we want to look so cool to other people and you want to be like, you're trying to please these people who they didn't even like. They crucified a perfect man.

Stephanie:

They crew a perfect man told him that he went who he says so.

Tylan:

They crucified a perfect man. Lord knows what they're gonna do to you when it's all said and done yikes like, get out, like, please, like, leave this image of how the world views you and get it out of the way, because at that, like, at that point and I'm gonna go back as he was scattering the seeds, some fell along the path and the birds came and ate it up you're gonna get fried.

Stephanie:

In the end, like people are gonna step on you.

Tylan:

You're not gonna be where you are based, off of where you were rooted. You fell on the wrong side of the path. You were hanging with the wrong people. That influence is not bringing any fruit to your life. Jesus and you think that, oh, these are my day one partners. I've been with them since kids.

Tylan:

What does that matter? Like everyone grows apart for a reason and if you feel like you're gonna like choose that over jesus and getting closer to your purpose because of a relationship or friendships, that it's not bringing you any life, that's and I'm sorry to say, but that's stupid well, hey, you're seeing that that's very, that's very ignorant like why would you do that?

Stephanie:

well, you know you, I can't even sit here and argue with you. When you're right, I'm gonna tell you you're right. And I'm gonna Well, you know, I can't even sit here and argue with you You're right, I'm going to tell you you're right. And I'm going to say this too. You know, when I think about the pathway, I think about a hard heart. I think about a hard heart because, again, you know, words are life when they're rooted in the word. You know, if the word of God, if that gives you life, god is who he says he is, but the word is snatched by the enemy before it can even grow, it can't finish it's off of what the roots, like you just said.

Stephanie:

Yeah.

Tylan:

If the soil is soft and if everything is just not rooted how it's supposed to be rooted, it ain't nothing for me to go by the plant and pick it up like it's nothing. Yeah, but if I'm rooted in something strong, a great foundation, a foundation built on wisdom and understanding, like you were talking about in power, verse 24, verse 3 and 4. You go, try to come pick me up and the enemy's gonna try you all the time talk about it, because that's what we need to understand but that don't mean you're gonna falter.

Tylan:

And even if you do falter like like david and I keep going back to him because, learning so much more about him I am it's even thankful that. I'm grateful that y'all even compare me to this man.

Stephanie:

Oh, now you understand.

Tylan:

The courage and the boldness that he just has to. Okay, I did this, I'm going to repent, I'm going to move on, amen.

Stephanie:

I'm going to repent, I'm going to move on, amen.

Tylan:

You're moving on to something better and you're realizing the mistakes you had. Like, yeah, I'm falling a lot like dang, but it's not like I'm living in it, that part. I'm going through life and I'm stumbling to sin.

Stephanie:

I'm falling to sin, but I'm not living a life of sin amen.

Tylan:

It's that you have to get back up and you actually have to want it as bad as jesus wants it for you jesus not go like he can't do that for. Like he can show you things and stuff like that, but it's about you.

Stephanie:

What do you want to?

Tylan:

do in the end. You have to want that desire. You have to actually like how can I say beg for, oh Jesus, please change my heart, like I want you so much and take it to is like we get, is as much as we get intimate to other people? Like think about it if I'm in a relationship and I love this person, why would I keep doing stuff to hurt this person?

Tylan:

it's true, if I love jesus, as I say, I do, I'm gonna hurt you sometimes that's I'm human right, but it's gonna get to the point where, dang, I'm gonna think before every single time I do something, I'm gonna think before I do it, based off of I don don't want him to feel like this, based off our relationship.

Tylan:

Exactly how intimate. That's why I want to stress intimacy so bad, because, like, you can love Jesus but if you're not intimate with him, you're going to love him, but you're still going to do stuff that you want to do, and what does intimacy look like for you when it comes down to Jesus?

Tylan:

I feel like intimacy for me is crying out when things not even going your way, actually pursuing and following getting out of your own way. So, like I take a step by day, I get up, let's say I don't, let's say I don't read the word or I don't pray. That's going to be on my mind for a minute Like dang. And if you're as intimate as you say you are with God, or if you actually want that, or you desire that, that phone, that conversation that you're trying to have with somebody else, that's in the back of your mind because I need to please the Lord. He's the one who woke me up.

Stephanie:

Come on, tyler, you better speak for it.

Tylan:

Because I literally sat on the porch two days and when I went out there to check something in my car, I sat on the porch and I was just like God, you woke me up. So since you woke me up, that clearly means that you're not done with me and you still have a purpose for me. Yeah, you better speak, even if it's going slow and slow and slow. You got something for me, so I'm gonna Praise you. I'm out there Praying, thanking God, mind you, things been, life ain't been easy for me At the moment.

Stephanie:

Yeah, yeah, no.

Tylan:

And, like I said, it's not supposed to be right, because it's growing pains. Growing pains, amen, and even when I'm going through something and I told this to someone. I don't even remember how I told this to, I think, who, I don't remember who it was. We have to think of jesus or lord as an umbrella. Okay, in a sense of storms are gonna come. Umbrella doesn't stop the storm from coming, but it stops the storm from getting on you oh yeah, I got to say clock, it gives you more peace around the storm.

Tylan:

Amen, if so, god's not gonna, just because you with jesus, uh, it ain't everything not gonna be rainbows and all that, everything you still will have to struggle, but it's about. It's about how deeply you're rooted and just knowing that he's covering you through all of it.

Stephanie:

Oh, that's going on.

Tylan:

Dang. I can't stop that from going on, and the Lord is not going to stop some things from going on in your life.

Stephanie:

Yeah, because he has to teach you.

Tylan:

He has to. He wants you to do better.

Stephanie:

You can't do better if you're just comfortable and he has to break you to do you know, because, guess what? He get you into that position. So a lot of times, when we're going through the brokenness and the turmoil and hard times, that's God getting our attention, because he's molding us. He needs our heart to be pliable like gold, because a lot of times, like we talked about it a little bit and I know that we're not meaning to go off on a tangent, but you know, sometimes those things are like pebbles in our hearts and that's why it's hard for God to get the words through, because those, like you were reading those seeds which are the words are supposed to penetrate your heart. But if you have those, those issues of life that's been there, the only person that can fix it is Jesus. That's it. That's it.

Tylan:

And then Matthew 13 like you just went through Matthew 13, 3 through 9. Verse 8 says still other seed fell on good soil where it produced a crop 160 or 30 times what was sown. Verse 9 whoever has ears, let them hear tylen lit man yeah what like?

Tylan:

y'all gotta actually listen to what it's saying, like, yeah, I'm, if I'm a seed and I and I fall on the good soil if I'm, if I'm rooting in christ, if I'm choosing to do this, the produce, like the crop that's going to be produced, is going to be crazy compared to what was sown. Yeah, you know yes, absolutely, absolutely.

Stephanie:

Man, listen, I wish we could go on and on and on, because I do love when we're in a flow, Because I'm telling you, I said to myself I'm going to do these 30-minute shows. I was trying to save back the time, but when you're in a flow and when you're free, God uses us the way he wants to Amen. So as we exit the show, I want you to know that it's been a joy, Talyn, Like it's always a joy, you know. I thank you for joining me. I thank you for speaking, you know, from a place of realness, you know from relatable subjects. Being transparent. I appreciate that, and you know Proverbs is such a rich book. You know the New Testament, Jesus. All of it goes hand in hand. All of it goes hand in hand and it reminds us how to live with wisdom, self-control and godly character. What would you like to leave the people before we go? What words would you love to speak over the people that are listening?

Tylan:

I got some notes for y'all. I'm not gonna say all the notes, but I'm gonna go into like what, the most important thing I want to leave with y'all, and this is something that I seen from the start of June, june 1st. I wrote this down. I watched a sermon and this is what I got from it. Proximity is prophetic. You must be set apart Depending on who's around you and who's pouring into you. Shows if you're growing or being contaminated.

Stephanie:

Ooh, ooh, ooh, clock it so please choose your circle wisely.

Tylan:

Know that you have to be set apart. Please stop trying to be like everybody else. Please stop trying to fit into these certain boxes and just realize that God wants you to live a holy life, which means he wants you to live a life set apart from the world. And, depending on who's around you or not, it's going to really show, like am I growing or am I being contaminated by what they're talking about? Like is this godly, is this building me up, getting me closer to my purpose, getting me closer to Jesus, or is all of this very worldly? So I would just say please choose wisely and don't be scared to be set apart and be different. People are going to call you weird, people are going to say all these type of things, but if you're truly rooted in God, god's going to see that and God's going to put you in places, put you in rooms that you could have never even imagined them doing all that hard work.

Tylan:

Yeah, they're hard workers, but you're working for Christ, like you're seeking his face every day. You're seeking him and you actually want a relationship with him. He's going to see that and he's going to allow you to grow. And now you're growing closer to your purpose and who knows what you're going to become because you chose to be different and stand out.

Stephanie:

Oh, I love that. Thank you for that word, talyn. Listen, listeners, listen. I hope you guys enjoyed this podcast, this episode, as much as I do. Again, shout out to T-Funk. You know, talyn, you're going to do some amazing things and I just want to leave you guys with this prayer Heavenly Father, thank you, thank you for your word that builds us up, that strengthens us, that corrects us. God, help us to walk in wisdom, like Proverbs teaches. Let us not return to our old habits, but grow in character, in truth and in love. Bless every listener today with understanding, self-control that is the word of the day and the grace to keep going even when life is hard. We ask all these things in Jesus' mighty and matchless name. Amen, amen, amen, listen, you guys have an amazing day on purpose. I have enjoyed, thoroughly enjoyed, this show. You guys continue to listen in. I have some more treats for you Peace, new, new, new, everything. New, new, new, new, new, new everything new.

Tylan:

I'm ready to go Ready Everything new.

Stephanie:

I'm ready to go.

Tylan:

Ready for more.

Stephanie:

I'm ready for new.