{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":0.0,"endTime":2.5,"body":"Your job is to be the best version of you."},{"startTime":2.5,"endTime":5.34,"body":"And it's your job to understand the life you want"},{"startTime":5.34,"endTime":7.1,"body":"and the circumstances you're in,"},{"startTime":7.1,"endTime":9.58,"body":"and to develop a mindset, a winning mindset,"},{"startTime":9.58,"endTime":11.7,"body":"a competitive mindset to live that life."},{"startTime":11.7,"endTime":15.9,"body":"And that requires competing against things inside of you"},{"startTime":15.9,"endTime":17.14,"body":"that will hold you back."},{"startTime":17.14,"endTime":20.34,"body":"And now, in my ultimate competition,"},{"startTime":20.34,"endTime":23.78,"body":"to live against this disease trying to kill me,"},{"startTime":23.78,"endTime":25.62,"body":"I love it, it's awesome."},{"startTime":25.62,"endTime":28.0,"body":"I get to compete for living, to be alive."},{"startTime":28.0,"endTime":29.0,"body":"It's hard."},{"startTime":29.0,"endTime":45.56,"body":"Hey, once again, it's another great day to get better."},{"startTime":45.56,"endTime":52.8,"body":"Welcome to Becoming Undone, a podcast for those who dare bravely, risk mightily, and grow relentlessly. Join me, Toby Brooks, as I invite a new guest"},{"startTime":52.8,"endTime":58.56,"body":"each week to examine how high achievers can transform from falling apart to falling into place."},{"startTime":58.56,"endTime":63.36,"body":"For Columbus, Ohio native Tim Kite, an early love for the sport of football was overshadowed by his"},{"startTime":63.36,"endTime":68.0,"body":"performance on the track, where success as a hurdler led to multiple state and national"},{"startTime":68.0,"endTime":75.48,"body":"championships, and eventually a scholarship to compete and study at nearby Ohio State University."},{"startTime":75.48,"endTime":77.52,"body":"After one year though, he opted to transfer"},{"startTime":77.52,"endTime":80.96,"body":"to UCLA in California, where he continued his pursuit"},{"startTime":80.96,"endTime":82.64,"body":"of athletic achievement."},{"startTime":82.64,"endTime":84.88,"body":"Exposed to a new world and new opportunities,"},{"startTime":84.88,"endTime":87.44,"body":"he flourished, ultimately laying the groundwork"},{"startTime":87.44,"endTime":90.16,"body":"for what will become his lifetime of study and practice"},{"startTime":90.16,"endTime":93.44,"body":"in, as he says, observing, curating,"},{"startTime":93.44,"endTime":95.44,"body":"and documenting the behavior patterns"},{"startTime":95.44,"endTime":97.72,"body":"of elite high performers."},{"startTime":97.72,"endTime":101.36,"body":"Over time, he developed his unique system, Focus F3, where he and"},{"startTime":101.36,"endTime":105.24,"body":"his team today teach and practice how our response to things that happen in"},{"startTime":105.24,"endTime":109.68,"body":"our life is the most important thing we can actively choose to help influence"},{"startTime":109.68,"endTime":113.76,"body":"our outcome. Today Tim also serves as a consultant to some of the most prolific"},{"startTime":113.76,"endTime":117.96,"body":"leaders and organizations like the USC Trojan football team, Ohio State"},{"startTime":117.96,"endTime":121.52,"body":"University, and former college and NFL coach Urban Meyer."},{"startTime":121.52,"endTime":127.02,"body":"And in the past few years, Tim's had to live out his own teachings as he wages battle against"},{"startTime":127.02,"endTime":129.16,"body":"stage four cancer."},{"startTime":129.16,"endTime":135.4,"body":"Here Tim tell his story of choosing his own response, owning his 20 square feet of influence"},{"startTime":135.4,"endTime":143.7,"body":"and how we can do the same in episode 46, Hurdles with Tim Kite."},{"startTime":143.7,"endTime":146.96,"body":"This week we're fortunate enough to have guest Tim Kite with us."},{"startTime":146.96,"endTime":150.44,"body":"Tim is the founder and CEO of Focus 3."},{"startTime":150.44,"endTime":155.76,"body":"He was a track athlete at UCLA where he also got to witness firsthand the tail end of Coach"},{"startTime":155.76,"endTime":156.76,"body":"Sean Wooden's career."},{"startTime":156.76,"endTime":163.8,"body":"I'm a huge fan of Coach Wooden and his message of better every day and incremental improvements"},{"startTime":163.8,"endTime":166.8,"body":"and that Kaizen philosophy."},{"startTime":166.8,"endTime":174.22,"body":"But Tim has carved a niche for himself and has become kind of a go-to expert for not just individuals"},{"startTime":174.22,"endTime":177.56,"body":"but organizations looking to improve and become high performers."},{"startTime":177.56,"endTime":179.48,"body":"So, Tim, it's great to have you."},{"startTime":179.48,"endTime":180.48,"body":"Welcome."},{"startTime":180.48,"endTime":181.48,"body":"Toby, thanks for having me."},{"startTime":181.48,"endTime":184.16,"body":"It's a privilege to be on your show."},{"startTime":184.16,"endTime":186.36,"body":"Oh, I thank you."},{"startTime":186.36,"endTime":190.0,"body":"So I usually start off with a little bit of a softball."},{"startTime":190.0,"endTime":193.64,"body":"What did you want to be growing up?"},{"startTime":193.64,"endTime":199.8,"body":"That's a topic I've addressed a lot with people over the years."},{"startTime":199.8,"endTime":205.32,"body":"I had several streams that I pursued, particularly as I got into college."},{"startTime":205.32,"endTime":211.8,"body":"I wanted to be either a coach or a professor or teacher of some kind, either high school"},{"startTime":211.8,"endTime":212.8,"body":"or college."},{"startTime":212.8,"endTime":217.04,"body":"I wanted to be in business or I wanted to be in ministry."},{"startTime":217.04,"endTime":218.24,"body":"I was passionate about all four of those."},{"startTime":218.24,"endTime":220.76,"body":"And at some point I pursued all of them."},{"startTime":220.76,"endTime":223.4,"body":"And I still do in a way pursue all four of them."},{"startTime":223.4,"endTime":225.72,"body":"That's really, really for a long time"},{"startTime":225.72,"endTime":228.08,"body":"what I wanted to do, all four of those things."},{"startTime":228.08,"endTime":229.24,"body":"That's great."},{"startTime":229.24,"endTime":232.6,"body":"So I read from your bio that you were a track athlete"},{"startTime":232.6,"endTime":235.4,"body":"and ended up out at UCLA in those pursuits."},{"startTime":235.4,"endTime":238.32,"body":"Talk to me a little bit about your athletic career"},{"startTime":238.32,"endTime":239.28,"body":"growing up."},{"startTime":239.28,"endTime":240.6,"body":"Yeah."},{"startTime":240.6,"endTime":248.92,"body":"Well, I grew up in Columbus, Ohio and was passionate about football in particular."},{"startTime":248.92,"endTime":254.52,"body":"Then I discovered just by accident that I was fast, so I did track."},{"startTime":254.52,"endTime":258.96,"body":"Then I discovered the hurdles, which I actually taught myself how to hurdle."},{"startTime":258.96,"endTime":264.84,"body":"I think in seventh grade it was, I had my mom drive our Volkswagen bus to the school"},{"startTime":264.84,"endTime":266.88,"body":"and we brought hurdles home."},{"startTime":266.88,"endTime":268.08,"body":"I put them in the backyard and"},{"startTime":268.08,"endTime":271.8,"body":"taught myself how to hurdle. Now I'm gonna jump in a little earlier than"},{"startTime":271.8,"endTime":276.48,"body":"normal here but Tim's story and his message to me are both an example of how"},{"startTime":276.48,"endTime":281.52,"body":"our pasts and our presence can prepare us for our futures. In Tim's case he"},{"startTime":281.52,"endTime":285.24,"body":"loves sports and he grew up near the epicenter of American football in Ohio"},{"startTime":285.24,"endTime":289.08,"body":"only about a hundred miles from the Pro Football Hall of Fame but it wasn't"},{"startTime":289.08,"endTime":291.0,"body":"football that changed his life forever."},{"startTime":291.0,"endTime":293.0,"body":"It was track and field."},{"startTime":293.0,"endTime":298.0,"body":"And what event is befitting a man who would one day become one of the most sought-after speakers, coaches, and development experts"},{"startTime":298.0,"endTime":304.0,"body":"on how you and your team can overcome obstacles and face events head-on in order to improve outcomes?"},{"startTime":304.0,"endTime":306.0,"body":"Fittingly, the hurdles."},{"startTime":306.0,"endTime":311.0,"body":"Tim's ability to fly over the barriers in his path may have started as a literal one,"},{"startTime":311.0,"endTime":316.56,"body":"teaching 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and then just the 330 intermediate hurdles was the actual race."},{"startTime":350.92,"endTime":357.36,"body":"And then I went to Ohio State as my freshman year and then discovered that Ohio State was"},{"startTime":357.36,"endTime":360.52,"body":"not a track-oriented school at the time."},{"startTime":360.52,"endTime":363.48,"body":"Now they've got a great track team, but back then not so much."},{"startTime":363.48,"endTime":367.76,"body":"So then I transferred to UCLA, which was the track and field center of the universe at"},{"startTime":367.76,"endTime":368.76,"body":"that time."},{"startTime":368.76,"endTime":370.76,"body":"That's what got me out to the West Coast."},{"startTime":370.76,"endTime":372.4,"body":"Yeah, interesting."},{"startTime":372.4,"endTime":378.56,"body":"Sometimes the abilities and skills that we have just kind of make themselves known."},{"startTime":378.56,"endTime":382.8,"body":"You started off in football and probably discovered that speed."},{"startTime":382.8,"endTime":386.44,"body":"I don't know how often you hurdled opponents on the football field,"},{"startTime":386.44,"endTime":390.68,"body":"but becoming proficient and as a national champion,"},{"startTime":390.68,"endTime":392.68,"body":"hurdling, what kind of opportunities?"},{"startTime":392.68,"endTime":394.04,"body":"When you went to Ohio State,"},{"startTime":394.04,"endTime":395.6,"body":"it was probably relatively close,"},{"startTime":395.6,"endTime":399.48,"body":"one of the larger programs that showed interest in you,"},{"startTime":399.48,"endTime":401.64,"body":"but what was that recruitment process"},{"startTime":401.64,"endTime":404.08,"body":"you were encountering that success in high school?"},{"startTime":404.08,"endTime":406.0,"body":"Yeah, I mean, I think we all go through this,"},{"startTime":406.0,"endTime":407.68,"body":"looking back, reminiscing,"},{"startTime":407.68,"endTime":411.58,"body":"if I knew then what I know now kind of thing."},{"startTime":411.58,"endTime":414.12,"body":"I'm 70 now, and what would 70-year-old me,"},{"startTime":414.12,"endTime":415.6,"body":"and I thought this all along the way."},{"startTime":415.6,"endTime":417.14,"body":"I look back, because I do so much work"},{"startTime":417.14,"endTime":419.22,"body":"with collegiate and professional athletes"},{"startTime":419.22,"endTime":421.64,"body":"and business people who, you know,"},{"startTime":421.64,"endTime":423.54,"body":"we look back and have a similar conversation."},{"startTime":423.54,"endTime":424.74,"body":"When I get to know a client,"},{"startTime":424.74,"endTime":426.68,"body":"like, tell me about where you came from."},{"startTime":426.68,"endTime":428.6,"body":"Tell me about your family life."},{"startTime":428.6,"endTime":430.56,"body":"Tell me about your background, what were you interested in."},{"startTime":430.56,"endTime":436.04,"body":"I engage that way with all of our clients."},{"startTime":436.04,"endTime":442.2,"body":"When I look at my own life, I look back at that and my real passion and love was football."},{"startTime":442.2,"endTime":445.8,"body":"Track was not something that I did because I really loved it."},{"startTime":445.8,"endTime":448.8,"body":"Track was something I did because I was really good at it."},{"startTime":448.8,"endTime":453.28,"body":"I'm not saying I would not have run track had I known then what I know now, but what"},{"startTime":453.28,"endTime":463.6,"body":"I would have done, and this sounds weird, I probably still would have run the hurdles, I guess, because it was an athletic track event."},{"startTime":463.6,"endTime":469.4,"body":"You're running over hurdles rather than just running, but I love football."},{"startTime":469.4,"endTime":473.28,"body":"I knew so little about football back then."},{"startTime":473.28,"endTime":479.28,"body":"When I played in high school, I had relative success, but now I learned 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more or less."},{"startTime":515.18,"endTime":519.38,"body":"So the recruitment wasn't certainly"},{"startTime":519.38,"endTime":520.98,"body":"what it is today."},{"startTime":520.98,"endTime":524.14,"body":"But yeah, I'd locked into Ohio State early on."},{"startTime":524.14,"endTime":525.42,"body":"I grew up a Buckeye fan."},{"startTime":525.42,"endTime":527.38,"body":"I went to all the games, the football games."},{"startTime":527.38,"endTime":530.6,"body":"And it was not pressure-filled at all."},{"startTime":530.6,"endTime":534.52,"body":"I did not feel pressured, honestly, when I say that about my dad."},{"startTime":534.52,"endTime":536.48,"body":"There's almost tongue in cheek."},{"startTime":536.48,"endTime":537.48,"body":"I really did."},{"startTime":537.48,"endTime":541.28,"body":"I still do have tremendous affinity for the Buckeyes and what they do."},{"startTime":541.28,"endTime":542.28,"body":"I worked with Urban Meyer."},{"startTime":542.28,"endTime":547.48,"body":"I was the leadership coach for Ohio State football during Urban's time there and still"},{"startTime":547.48,"endTime":551.92,"body":"maintain a very close relationship with Ryan Day and Mickey Mirati, the strength coach"},{"startTime":551.92,"endTime":555.24,"body":"and other coaches on the staff."},{"startTime":555.24,"endTime":557.84,"body":"And so, yeah, I love Ohio State."},{"startTime":557.84,"endTime":561.08,"body":"But that's where I went, and it was close to home."},{"startTime":561.08,"endTime":563.92,"body":"I mean, it was 30 minutes down the road for me."},{"startTime":563.92,"endTime":566.56,"body":"But it was right to go to the West Coast for me."},{"startTime":566.56,"endTime":567.6,"body":"Yeah."},{"startTime":567.6,"endTime":569.84,"body":"I think it will be telling to hear this,"},{"startTime":569.84,"endTime":571.72,"body":"because it sounds like you encountered"},{"startTime":571.72,"endTime":572.96,"body":"a lot of success early."},{"startTime":572.96,"endTime":576.4,"body":"And it was a pretty steady uphill climb."},{"startTime":576.4,"endTime":578.6,"body":"You were state champion as a junior,"},{"startTime":578.6,"endTime":582.48,"body":"national champion as a senior, and kind of following in the family footsteps"},{"startTime":582.48,"endTime":586.68,"body":"of Ohio State, but then you veer off and do your own thing."},{"startTime":586.68,"endTime":589.36,"body":"What was that transition like for you mentally?"},{"startTime":589.36,"endTime":592.68,"body":"Were you concerned about disappointing your father?"},{"startTime":592.68,"endTime":596.96,"body":"Were you pulled toward UCLA or pushed from Ohio State?"},{"startTime":596.96,"endTime":598.16,"body":"What was that like for you?"},{"startTime":598.16,"endTime":606.24,"body":"Yeah, you know, a couple of things I think when I look back on it. I had a pretty serious hamstring injury my junior year on my lead leg"},{"startTime":606.24,"endTime":614.16,"body":"and hurdles and was not expected to have recovery in time for the post, you know, the conference"},{"startTime":614.16,"endTime":619.6,"body":"championship, regionals, district, stuff like that. And I recovered in time to compete in a,"},{"startTime":619.6,"endTime":624.24,"body":"you know, conference district and then win the state and had the same injury my senior year"},{"startTime":624.24,"endTime":629.6,"body":"later in the season. And they were saying, okay, if any state champ, he's not going to"},{"startTime":629.6,"endTime":630.8,"body":"make it, right?"},{"startTime":630.8,"endTime":637.44,"body":"I was able to limp my way to placing in these various events, got third in the state meet"},{"startTime":637.44,"endTime":643.92,"body":"my senior year because I wasn't fully healthy and then did get healthy the following week,"},{"startTime":643.92,"endTime":646.64,"body":"won what's called the Ohio Track Classic."},{"startTime":646.64,"endTime":649.92,"body":"I learned a lot and then obviously went on to win the national events."},{"startTime":649.92,"endTime":652.16,"body":"I learned a great deal about resilience,"},{"startTime":652.16,"endTime":653.36,"body":"about overcoming injury,"},{"startTime":653.36,"endTime":655.4,"body":"and it's something I work with a lot of athletes today"},{"startTime":655.4,"endTime":657.44,"body":"on what do you do when you're injured?"},{"startTime":657.44,"endTime":659.2,"body":"What's your mindset when you're injured?"},{"startTime":659.2,"endTime":660.8,"body":"How are you handling,"},{"startTime":660.8,"endTime":664.28,"body":"what are the opportunities that injury affords you?"},{"startTime":664.28,"endTime":667.0,"body":"Me again, I absolutely love this thought,"},{"startTime":667.0,"endTime":668.48,"body":"and it's one I've preached to my athletes"},{"startTime":668.48,"endTime":670.92,"body":"and my students who work with athletes of their own"},{"startTime":670.92,"endTime":672.5,"body":"for decades now."},{"startTime":672.5,"endTime":676.88,"body":"Injury sucks, especially when time can't be recovered."},{"startTime":676.88,"endTime":681.12,"body":"If you're a senior in high school or wrapping up your college career"},{"startTime":681.12,"endTime":684.64,"body":"and you get hurt midway through your season, that could be it."},{"startTime":684.64,"endTime":688.96,"body":"You either compete or you don't, but the chance for many"},{"startTime":688.96,"endTime":692.92,"body":"will never come around again. Tim's word choice is perfect here."},{"startTime":692.92,"endTime":697.32,"body":"Instead of crying and complaining about what injury or setback has taken from us,"},{"startTime":697.32,"endTime":699.88,"body":"we're better served to look at what it's giving us."},{"startTime":699.88,"endTime":706.0,"body":"Literally every day is a chance to get better. In many ways it's like Eminem said best."},{"startTime":706.0,"endTime":716.0,"body":"Look, if you had one shot, one opportunity..."},{"startTime":716.0,"endTime":727.36,"body":"Because there are opportunities, there are things you can do while you're injured that you didn't have time to do when you're in the middle of competing."},{"startTime":727.36,"endTime":732.72,"body":"That same hamstring injury ended up ending my career at UCLA."},{"startTime":732.72,"endTime":733.72,"body":"Injury is part of life."},{"startTime":733.72,"endTime":734.72,"body":"It just is."},{"startTime":734.72,"endTime":737.76,"body":"I'm currently battling cancer, stage four cancer."},{"startTime":737.76,"endTime":742.04,"body":"I'm in my fourth year now of this battle."},{"startTime":742.04,"endTime":744.36,"body":"That's part of life, Toby."},{"startTime":744.36,"endTime":750.16,"body":"That kind of adversity, those kind of things happen."},{"startTime":750.16,"endTime":752.96,"body":"Mindset and mentality 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you"},{"startTime":1055.26,"endTime":1056.54,"body":"that will hold you back."},{"startTime":1056.54,"endTime":1061.72,"body":"You know, we talk about it discipline over default."},{"startTime":1061.72,"endTime":1064.56,"body":"We draw a line, and below that line"},{"startTime":1064.56,"endTime":1066.08,"body":"is what we call default behavior."},{"startTime":1066.08,"endTime":1068.6,"body":"That's stuff in your life that doesn't work."},{"startTime":1068.6,"endTime":1070.76,"body":"And above that line, we call discipline behavior."},{"startTime":1070.76,"endTime":1072.86,"body":"That's stuff in your life that does work."},{"startTime":1072.86,"endTime":1074.9,"body":"And what's interesting about the word discipline"},{"startTime":1074.9,"endTime":1077.06,"body":"is it's Latin for student."},{"startTime":1077.06,"endTime":1078.78,"body":"It means it's learning."},{"startTime":1078.78,"endTime":1080.5,"body":"Discipline isn't 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You have to acquire it."},{"startTime":1084.0,"endTime":1091.32,"body":"You have to develop it. You have to build it. Default, on the other hand, easy and socially"},{"startTime":1091.32,"endTime":1097.32,"body":"popular. But again, back to the world history, again, just to put this in context, and this"},{"startTime":1097.32,"endTime":1102.36,"body":"is a bit redundant here, but world history most of the time was not comfortable and convenient"},{"startTime":1102.36,"endTime":1107.36,"body":"for human beings. The societies were not comfortable and convenient."},{"startTime":1107.36,"endTime":1111.04,"body":"And so if you are not discipline driven,"},{"startTime":1111.04,"endTime":1113.8,"body":"if you're a default driven, you probably didn't survive."},{"startTime":1113.8,"endTime":1114.7,"body":"Right."},{"startTime":1114.7,"endTime":1118.68,"body":"So yeah, I think the competitive spirit,"},{"startTime":1118.68,"endTime":1122.76,"body":"the competitive mindset that I began to experience"},{"startTime":1122.76,"endTime":1124.96,"body":"through athletics, a little bit through academics,"},{"startTime":1124.96,"endTime":1126.32,"body":"and then a lot through academics"},{"startTime":1126.32,"endTime":1135.72,"body":"as I matriculated through life, it's been huge and now in my ultimate competition to live against this disease trying to kill me. I"},{"startTime":1135.72,"endTime":1142.06,"body":"Love it. It's awesome. 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Toby,"},{"startTime":1397.39,"endTime":1399.67,"body":"this is, man, I hope everybody gets this."},{"startTime":1399.67,"endTime":1401.2700000000002,"body":"You know what you need to win"},{"startTime":1401.2700000000002,"endTime":1402.5100000000002,"body":"in order to be great at life?"},{"startTime":1402.5100000000002,"endTime":1404.5500000000002,"body":"You need to win today."},{"startTime":1404.5500000000002,"endTime":1406.23,"body":"I know people think that's a cliche,"},{"startTime":1406.23,"endTime":1408.95,"body":"like win the moment or win today."},{"startTime":1408.95,"endTime":1409.8500000000001,"body":"It's not a cliche."},{"startTime":1409.8500000000001,"endTime":1411.5300000000002,"body":"Well, it could be a cliche for some people."},{"startTime":1411.5300000000002,"endTime":1413.89,"body":"It ain't for me and it's not for my clients."},{"startTime":1413.89,"endTime":1417.6100000000001,"body":"Literally, literally, the only day you have available to 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I hope you're taking notes, but just in case you aren't here's that again"},{"startTime":1443.1100000000001,"endTime":1449.65,"body":"Yesterday is gone learn from it tomorrow is coming prepare for it and today"},{"startTime":1449.65,"endTime":1460.15,"body":"The only day available for you to compete is right now. I don't know about you, but I needed to hear this."},{"startTime":1460.15,"endTime":1463.43,"body":"Yesterday, today, and tomorrow."},{"startTime":1463.43,"endTime":1464.95,"body":"I told my wife the other day,"},{"startTime":1464.95,"endTime":1467.3100000000002,"body":"you know, we're talking, we're driving away"},{"startTime":1467.3100000000002,"endTime":1470.3300000000002,"body":"from this immunotherapy infusion that I'm now getting,"},{"startTime":1470.3300000000002,"endTime":1472.47,"body":"and I said, you know what's awesome"},{"startTime":1472.47,"endTime":1474.91,"body":"about the last three and a half years?"},{"startTime":1474.91,"endTime":1476.69,"body":"We've won every single day."},{"startTime":1476.69,"endTime":1479.7900000000002,"body":"We've won every single day of the last three and a half years."},{"startTime":1479.7900000000002,"endTime":1482.43,"body":"Cancer has taken nothing from us"},{"startTime":1482.43,"endTime":1484.15,"body":"in the last three and a half years. It will,"},{"startTime":1484.15,"endTime":1488.91,"body":"ultimately it will take my life, but between now and then it takes nothing because we give"},{"startTime":1488.91,"endTime":1495.99,"body":"it nothing. And so when I think about parenting or athletics or business or whatever, whoever's"},{"startTime":1495.99,"endTime":1500.0700000000002,"body":"listening to this, whatever you want in life, figure out what that is in your family, your"},{"startTime":1500.0700000000002,"endTime":1507.63,"body":"relationships, your health, your finances, whatever you want, athletics, whatever it is, and then what does today require of you."},{"startTime":1507.63,"endTime":1513.63,"body":"And then go win today. And when today's over, get a great night's rest and go win tomorrow."},{"startTime":1513.63,"endTime":1514.63,"body":"Right."},{"startTime":1514.63,"endTime":1515.63,"body":"Toby, does that make sense?"},{"startTime":1515.63,"endTime":1524.63,"body":"So inspiring, absolutely. And I think maybe I overstated it, but you said it so much more eloquently than I could have."},{"startTime":1524.63,"endTime":1529.63,"body":"It isn't about manifesting healing."},{"startTime":1529.63,"endTime":1533.63,"body":"It's about optimizing the healing environment, making it the best it can be."},{"startTime":1533.63,"endTime":1540.63,"body":"As an athletic trainer, oftentimes we'll use therapeutic modalities, ultrasound or electrical stem or heat or cold or whatever."},{"startTime":1540.63,"endTime":1542.63,"body":"We're not causing healing."},{"startTime":1542.63,"endTime":1549.63,"body":"We're trying to make that environment as optimal as it can be so that the body either heals itself or it doesn't."},{"startTime":1549.63,"endTime":1556.63,"body":"your opening statements, you're a man of faith, oftentimes we're not privy to the grander"},{"startTime":1556.63,"endTime":1561.95,"body":"plan and so there may be factors in play that we don't necessarily understand."},{"startTime":1561.95,"endTime":1566.49,"body":"Not every prayer I've ever uttered has been answered and sometimes thankfully, right?"},{"startTime":1566.49,"endTime":1570.95,"body":"But at the same time, you control your controllables."},{"startTime":1570.95,"endTime":1580.67,"body":"That's a thousand percent in line with your teaching professionally is that if mindset matters, I'm going to do the best job I can"},{"startTime":1580.67,"endTime":1584.75,"body":"and have the best mindset I can have today."},{"startTime":1584.75,"endTime":1587.71,"body":"That is the start and stop of your assignment."},{"startTime":1587.71,"endTime":1591.91,"body":"If you can max that out, man, you've done all you can do."},{"startTime":1591.91,"endTime":1592.91,"body":"I love it."},{"startTime":1592.91,"endTime":1593.91,"body":"That's awesome."},{"startTime":1593.91,"endTime":1600.5500000000002,"body":"When we teach resilience in our workshops, here's the mindset of resilience."},{"startTime":1600.5500000000002,"endTime":1602.95,"body":"I think you'll find this helpful."},{"startTime":1602.95,"endTime":1607.5300000000002,"body":"Number one, do not be deceived by excessive optimism."},{"startTime":1607.5300000000002,"endTime":1613.2700000000002,"body":"Number two, don't be defeated by excessive pessimism."},{"startTime":1613.2700000000002,"endTime":1618.5100000000002,"body":"Number three, don't be distracted by things you cannot control."},{"startTime":1618.5100000000002,"endTime":1624.91,"body":"Have a plan, set a goal, have a plan, execute, monitor what happens, adjust accordingly and"},{"startTime":1624.91,"endTime":1626.43,"body":"always maintain a productive mindset."},{"startTime":1626.43,"endTime":1627.43,"body":"That's awesome."},{"startTime":1627.43,"endTime":1632.0700000000002,"body":"And so if you think about that, and again, don't get defeated by excessive pessimism,"},{"startTime":1632.0700000000002,"endTime":1637.63,"body":"don't get distorted by excessive optimism, don't get distracted by things you can't control."},{"startTime":1637.63,"endTime":1644.1100000000001,"body":"Set a goal, have a plan, execute the plan, monitor the results, adjust accordingly, and"},{"startTime":1644.1100000000001,"endTime":1646.15,"body":"then always maintain a productive mindset."},{"startTime":1646.15,"endTime":1651.63,"body":"And I can say with tremendous certitude that that mindset works."},{"startTime":1651.63,"endTime":1653.63,"body":"Yeah, absolutely."},{"startTime":1653.63,"endTime":1656.63,"body":"And that's all you can do is max out what you can control."},{"startTime":1656.63,"endTime":1658.63,"body":"There's nothing new under the sun."},{"startTime":1658.63,"endTime":1660.63,"body":"I have this mantra I try to share with my students,"},{"startTime":1660.63,"endTime":1662.63,"body":"strategic and purpose, relentless and pursuit."},{"startTime":1662.63,"endTime":1665.63,"body":"You plan your work, and then once you've planned your work…"},{"startTime":1665.63,"endTime":1667.63,"body":"Slow that one down. Say that again."},{"startTime":1667.63,"endTime":1670.63,"body":"Strategic and purpose, relentless and pursuit."},{"startTime":1670.63,"endTime":1672.63,"body":"Strategic and purpose."},{"startTime":1672.63,"endTime":1676.63,"body":"Be strategic about it. Know your why. Know what you want and why you want it."},{"startTime":1676.63,"endTime":1682.63,"body":"That's the strategic and purpose. That's the idea. Yeah. And then be relentless in the pursuit of that. I like that."},{"startTime":1682.63,"endTime":1689.63,"body":"Once you've identified what that goal or that mission or that why is, then all that's left is the execution."},{"startTime":1689.63,"endTime":1696.63,"body":"You're going to do what you need to do today, like you said. 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That's a great simple diagram for everybody."},{"startTime":1773.63,"endTime":1778.8300000000002,"body":"Everyone has that diagram in their life, whether they know it or not, they have a current state."},{"startTime":1778.8300000000002,"endTime":1782.3100000000002,"body":"There is stuff in their life that's possible, and there's work that needs to be done if"},{"startTime":1782.3100000000002,"endTime":1786.91,"body":"they want to get to that current state. That's just a fact. There's no debate in that."},{"startTime":1786.91,"endTime":1794.39,"body":"Along the way, though, what we do in this diagram is we draw a vertical line somewhere along that horizontal line,"},{"startTime":1794.39,"endTime":1798.3500000000001,"body":"the vertical line and fairly thick. We call that the edge."},{"startTime":1798.3500000000001,"endTime":1803.3500000000001,"body":"And the edge represents a spot on your journey to best version of you is the"},{"startTime":1803.3500000000001,"endTime":1804.5100000000002,"body":"spot, a, a, a,"},{"startTime":1804.5100000000002,"endTime":1808.0300000000002,"body":"a place on the journey where you're trying to get to some future state,"},{"startTime":1808.0300000000002,"endTime":1811.91,"body":"trying to achieve some kind of a goal where it gets really hard,"},{"startTime":1811.91,"endTime":1821.23,"body":"where you run into adversity, where you have to build skill that you don't really have."},{"startTime":1821.23,"endTime":1826.3100000000002,"body":"Maybe it's a talent that you don't have, but you need a skill associated with that, but"},{"startTime":1826.3100000000002,"endTime":1830.5900000000001,"body":"you didn't get born with that genetic wiring, or it's a level of skill you've never had"},{"startTime":1830.5900000000001,"endTime":1834.5500000000002,"body":"in the past and building that skill is difficult."},{"startTime":1834.5500000000002,"endTime":1837.3100000000002,"body":"I've observed myself and others,"},{"startTime":1837.3100000000002,"endTime":1841.5900000000001,"body":"and what is it that achievers do to get past it?"},{"startTime":1841.5900000000001,"endTime":1844.19,"body":"What do they do to get a breakthrough at the edge?"},{"startTime":1844.19,"endTime":1846.0700000000002,"body":"What is it that happens at that,"},{"startTime":1846.0700000000002,"endTime":1848.47,"body":"and I call that a decision point."},{"startTime":1848.47,"endTime":1850.43,"body":"And there's many edges, there's not just one,"},{"startTime":1850.43,"endTime":1853.0300000000002,"body":"but the first one is always the one that's most dramatic."},{"startTime":1853.0300000000002,"endTime":1856.43,"body":"Like, oh, wait a second, oh my gosh, I didn't expect this."},{"startTime":1856.43,"endTime":1858.99,"body":"I got this injury, or I got that this happened,"},{"startTime":1858.99,"endTime":1865.13,"body":"or oh my gosh, this requires more than I thought"},{"startTime":1865.13,"endTime":1867.17,"body":"that it required, or I can't do this,"},{"startTime":1867.17,"endTime":1868.93,"body":"or I'm not very good at this."},{"startTime":1868.93,"endTime":1870.3700000000001,"body":"What do you do?"},{"startTime":1870.3700000000001,"endTime":1874.0100000000002,"body":"So what I've discovered is there are five choices"},{"startTime":1874.0100000000002,"endTime":1878.21,"body":"that achievers make to get a breakthrough at that edge."},{"startTime":1878.21,"endTime":1879.65,"body":"Five choices."},{"startTime":1879.65,"endTime":1884.0700000000002,"body":"And what's really cool, Toby, is no talent required."},{"startTime":1884.0700000000002,"endTime":1886.95,"body":"You don't have to have any genetic predisposition."},{"startTime":1886.95,"endTime":1890.39,"body":"You don't need to have high IQ."},{"startTime":1890.39,"endTime":1893.13,"body":"In fact, the most talented people tend not to make these"},{"startTime":1893.13,"endTime":1896.63,"body":"five decisions, most talented people don't make these"},{"startTime":1896.63,"endTime":1900.0700000000002,"body":"five decisions because they've always relied on their talent."},{"startTime":1900.0700000000002,"endTime":1903.91,"body":"When confronted with a non-talent related discipline,"},{"startTime":1903.91,"endTime":1907.15,"body":"they shy away from that because failure is involved."},{"startTime":1907.15,"endTime":1910.5100000000002,"body":"So here you go, here are the five decisions."},{"startTime":1910.5100000000002,"endTime":1915.3500000000001,"body":"Is number one, and this is frankly a combination of your two, be relentless and focus and effort."},{"startTime":1915.3500000000001,"endTime":1920.7900000000002,"body":"Or to phrase it, be strategic and purpose and relentless and effort. 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Here I am with stage four cancer."},{"startTime":2550.75,"endTime":2555.59,"body":"I get how constraining and challenging and difficult the E is."},{"startTime":2555.59,"endTime":2559.19,"body":"I get it, maybe as much as anybody."},{"startTime":2559.19,"endTime":2562.63,"body":"It doesn't change the fact that I'm responsible for my R-factor."},{"startTime":2562.63,"endTime":2566.31,"body":"It doesn't change the fact that I'm the one that chooses."},{"startTime":2566.31,"endTime":2569.55,"body":"My purpose statement, I think there's a couple of ways to go about that."},{"startTime":2569.55,"endTime":2577.4300000000003,"body":"I have shied away from a singular purpose to a multifaceted one that I developed many,"},{"startTime":2577.4300000000003,"endTime":2578.55,"body":"many, many years ago."},{"startTime":2578.55,"endTime":2584.63,"body":"My purpose in life, and I give a lot of thought and prayer to this, my purpose is several."},{"startTime":2584.63,"endTime":2589.67,"body":"Honor God, number one, love my family, number two, master my craft, number three, be a good"},{"startTime":2589.67,"endTime":2595.05,"body":"friend, number four, and serve my community, number five."},{"startTime":2595.05,"endTime":2597.35,"body":"My purpose is those five facets."},{"startTime":2597.35,"endTime":2602.75,"body":"Honor God, love my family, master my craft, be a good friend, and to serve my community."},{"startTime":2602.75,"endTime":2613.79,"body":"My community service has expanded over the years to national slash global in the sense of I get to serve a lot of people through social"},{"startTime":2613.79,"endTime":2614.79,"body":"media."},{"startTime":2614.79,"endTime":2616.4300000000003,"body":"I'm writing the Artifactor book right now."},{"startTime":2616.4300000000003,"endTime":2618.67,"body":"Obviously, we do workshops and keynotes."},{"startTime":2618.67,"endTime":2619.67,"body":"I'm building a business."},{"startTime":2619.67,"endTime":2622.67,"body":"I've been building a business for a while."},{"startTime":2622.67,"endTime":2627.51,"body":"One of the cool things about a number of those, particularly the fifth one, is I get to serve"},{"startTime":2627.51,"endTime":2635.11,"body":"the global community after I die through what I write in the business that I build so that other people at Focus Sheet"},{"startTime":2635.11,"endTime":2639.07,"body":"will continue on with the legacy as well as my family."},{"startTime":2639.07,"endTime":2640.07,"body":"Absolutely."},{"startTime":2640.07,"endTime":2643.31,"body":"So you've become this highly sought-after speaker."},{"startTime":2643.31,"endTime":2647.63,"body":"You work with some of the most elite teams that our country has."},{"startTime":2647.63,"endTime":2654.59,"body":"Honestly, if I'm really honest, that purpose statement I mentioned previously to help others"},{"startTime":2654.59,"endTime":2656.79,"body":"discover and pursue their own."},{"startTime":2656.79,"endTime":2662.87,"body":"Inherent within that is a yearning within my soul for reach, for impact."},{"startTime":2662.87,"endTime":2667.9100000000003,"body":"I want to help people deeply but I also want to have breadth to my influence and that's"},{"startTime":2667.9100000000003,"endTime":2669.35,"body":"not coming from vanity."},{"startTime":2669.35,"endTime":2673.3900000000003,"body":"It's coming from a place of genuinely wanting to help."},{"startTime":2673.3900000000003,"endTime":2674.3900000000003,"body":"You've built that."},{"startTime":2674.3900000000003,"endTime":2681.9900000000002,"body":"You have breadth as well as depth in your business and as an entrepreneur, you've certainly grown this."},{"startTime":2681.9900000000002,"endTime":2688.59,"body":"So can you talk me through how you've turned these ideas into something tangible, like"},{"startTime":2688.59,"endTime":2693.4700000000003,"body":"you said, that will outlive you, that will be a legacy for you along the 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People ask me because they know I'm research based,"},{"startTime":3139.55,"endTime":3141.59,"body":"how did you land on 20 square feet?"},{"startTime":3141.59,"endTime":3146.71,"body":"And I said, 30 sounded big, 10 sounded small, 20 sounded just right."},{"startTime":3146.71,"endTime":3151.4700000000003,"body":"I don't know. And then when we teach this in Europe or other places outside the US,"},{"startTime":3151.4700000000003,"endTime":3152.9900000000002,"body":"it's not even square feet, it's metric."},{"startTime":3152.9900000000002,"endTime":3156.87,"body":"It's a metaphor for a person's sphere of control. That's all it is."},{"startTime":3156.87,"endTime":3163.9500000000003,"body":"And the fact of the matter is, is every single person has a sphere of control, that is to say an"},{"startTime":3163.9500000000003,"endTime":3169.25,"body":"arena where they are the only one who decides what they do or don't do."},{"startTime":3169.25,"endTime":3175.13,"body":"Like I said from Dr. Frenkel, they could take my liberty away, but they can't take away"},{"startTime":3175.13,"endTime":3181.13,"body":"my responsibility, my opportunity, the reality that I get to choose my attitude and my action"},{"startTime":3181.13,"endTime":3183.25,"body":"in response to what's going on."},{"startTime":3183.25,"endTime":3185.75,"body":"Situations can severely limit and constrain me,"},{"startTime":3185.75,"endTime":3186.8900000000003,"body":"I still get to choose."},{"startTime":3186.8900000000003,"endTime":3188.4900000000002,"body":"I'm the one who chooses."},{"startTime":3188.4900000000002,"endTime":3190.63,"body":"And when you stop and think about that,"},{"startTime":3190.63,"endTime":3193.59,"body":"about how I am the one who decides what goes on"},{"startTime":3193.59,"endTime":3197.07,"body":"inside my 20 square feet, me and only me,"},{"startTime":3197.07,"endTime":3199.75,"body":"and you'll let you this and take complete ownership of that,"},{"startTime":3199.75,"endTime":3204.75,"body":"that's where life success and frankly, mental health begins."},{"startTime":3204.75,"endTime":3206.63,"body":"Because outside my 20 square feet,"},{"startTime":3206.63,"endTime":3209.17,"body":"I've got influence and impact."},{"startTime":3209.17,"endTime":3213.8900000000003,"body":"And inside, I've got control and ownership and responsibility."},{"startTime":3213.8900000000003,"endTime":3215.37,"body":"And I say this all the time."},{"startTime":3215.37,"endTime":3220.17,"body":"The problem today, and it's been this way forever, people have a tendency to be more"},{"startTime":3220.17,"endTime":3225.8900000000003,"body":"focused on frustrating things on the outside than owning themselves on the inside."},{"startTime":3225.8900000000003,"endTime":3227.81,"body":"And so my big message is, yeah, it's true."},{"startTime":3227.81,"endTime":3228.81,"body":"You see it all the time."},{"startTime":3228.81,"endTime":3230.9700000000003,"body":"It's like, I get it."},{"startTime":3230.9700000000003,"endTime":3234.9300000000003,"body":"And often the frustrating things you're talking about outside your 20 square feet actually exist and they are irritating and frustrating."},{"startTime":3234.9300000000003,"endTime":3239.4300000000003,"body":"But that's not the point. The point is what are you doing inside your 20 square feet?"},{"startTime":3239.4300000000003,"endTime":3245.4300000000003,"body":"So here's a big message. Don't let the frustration on the outside diminish the fire on the inside."},{"startTime":3245.4300000000003,"endTime":3247.4300000000003,"body":"So good."},{"startTime":3247.4300000000003,"endTime":3256.71,"body":"And you are responsible for your energy. I've seen this in elite people. They create their own energy."},{"startTime":3256.71,"endTime":3258.51,"body":"I made this decision many years ago."},{"startTime":3258.51,"endTime":3262.55,"body":"I wanted to untether my emotions from my circumstances."},{"startTime":3262.55,"endTime":3268.4300000000003,"body":"I wanted to be somebody who brought a productive mindset to negative things."},{"startTime":3268.4300000000003,"endTime":3273.31,"body":"There's tons of negativity in the world and increasing exponentially."},{"startTime":3273.31,"endTime":3276.11,"body":"We don't need one more cynical person."},{"startTime":3276.11,"endTime":3278.53,"body":"We don't need one more negative person."},{"startTime":3278.53,"endTime":3282.83,"body":"We don't need one more person piling on, calling people names."},{"startTime":3282.83,"endTime":3283.83,"body":"We don't need that."},{"startTime":3283.83,"endTime":3286.83,"body":"Now, I'm not talking about naive optimism."},{"startTime":3286.83,"endTime":3289.55,"body":"I'm not talking – no, I'm talking about problem solvers."},{"startTime":3289.55,"endTime":3294.3900000000003,"body":"I'm talking about people who come to the situation and say, tell me about it."},{"startTime":3294.3900000000003,"endTime":3299.55,"body":"Let's understand it with all of its complexities and difficulties and pain and what can we"},{"startTime":3299.55,"endTime":3303.4300000000003,"body":"do to bring something productive to that situation."},{"startTime":3303.4300000000003,"endTime":3309.9900000000002,"body":"I want to become that person, one of those people and for the most part that's happened for me because I made the decision"},{"startTime":3309.9900000000002,"endTime":3313.23,"body":"And when negative things happen, I don't get upset"},{"startTime":3313.23,"endTime":3319.21,"body":"I mean, I rarely rarely get upset about anything because when something happens, I'm a solution mindset"},{"startTime":3319.21,"endTime":3323.67,"body":"How what can I do to help the world doesn't need my opinion on lots of stuff"},{"startTime":3323.67,"endTime":3330.51,"body":"I mean I read stuff and I and I thought so many times I'm gonna create a burner Twitter."},{"startTime":3330.51,"endTime":3333.71,"body":"I'm gonna create a, you know,"},{"startTime":3333.71,"endTime":3335.9900000000002,"body":"there's a man, here's what I think about them."},{"startTime":3335.9900000000002,"endTime":3338.19,"body":"I'm thinking, wait a second,"},{"startTime":3338.19,"endTime":3339.87,"body":"we don't need one more of those."},{"startTime":3339.87,"endTime":3342.75,"body":"Plus, what's it gonna do?"},{"startTime":3342.75,"endTime":3345.27,"body":"Because all it is, is below the line default impulse."},{"startTime":3345.27,"endTime":3347.11,"body":"And my part, I want to declare something"},{"startTime":3347.11,"endTime":3349.63,"body":"that came from an emotional impulse from it."},{"startTime":3349.63,"endTime":3351.75,"body":"The world doesn't need that from me."},{"startTime":3351.75,"endTime":3353.07,"body":"Yes. At all."},{"startTime":3353.07,"endTime":3356.03,"body":"And when I really stop and think about my, if I were to post that,"},{"startTime":3356.03,"endTime":3360.79,"body":"then it's like, that's not helpful. Yeah. It doesn't help anybody. It's just me"},{"startTime":3360.79,"endTime":3364.71,"body":"indulging in an emotional impulse. That's all it is. He's talking about take every"},{"startTime":3364.71,"endTime":3368.3900000000003,"body":"thought captive, you know, which actually is from the Bible. Yeah, absolutely. Take"},{"startTime":3368.3900000000003,"endTime":3373.23,"body":"every thought captive. Yeah. And so 20 square feet is the real, and that's a"},{"startTime":3373.23,"endTime":3377.07,"body":"fact, by the way. You've got 20 square feet of the highway when you drive. You"},{"startTime":3377.07,"endTime":3379.4300000000003,"body":"got 20 square feet of the airport when you fly."},{"startTime":3379.4300000000003,"endTime":3382.03,"body":"You got 20 square feet of your community where you live."},{"startTime":3382.03,"endTime":3385.87,"body":"You got 20 square feet of the school if you're a teacher or a student or an administrator."},{"startTime":3385.87,"endTime":3388.4300000000003,"body":"You got 20 square feet of a team if you're on it."},{"startTime":3388.4300000000003,"endTime":3390.9900000000002,"body":"It's your sphere of ownership and control."},{"startTime":3390.9900000000002,"endTime":3393.63,"body":"So own it."},{"startTime":3393.63,"endTime":3398.79,"body":"It's interesting to me, the things I learn from disparate places, completely different"},{"startTime":3398.79,"endTime":3403.63,"body":"things, they come together and there's this natural melding."},{"startTime":3403.63,"endTime":3409.15,"body":"So what the world would tell me is emotional intelligence and controlling, not letting"},{"startTime":3409.15,"endTime":3415.31,"body":"that amygdala hijack occur, using your higher centers as opposed to a measured response"},{"startTime":3415.31,"endTime":3416.9500000000003,"body":"as opposed to an emotional response."},{"startTime":3416.9500000000003,"endTime":3419.19,"body":"Well, that's taking every thought captive."},{"startTime":3419.19,"endTime":3420.27,"body":"It's not a sin."},{"startTime":3420.27,"endTime":3423.31,"body":"It's not a problem to have a thought."},{"startTime":3423.31,"endTime":3427.75,"body":"It is a sin or a problem to act on it."},{"startTime":3427.75,"endTime":3431.9900000000002,"body":"Giving yourself the grace to understand that, oh, I've got this great tweet for my burner"},{"startTime":3431.9900000000002,"endTime":3438.19,"body":"account, but your reason tells you, okay, I know better than to actually put that out"},{"startTime":3438.19,"endTime":3439.9500000000003,"body":"into the public sphere."},{"startTime":3439.9500000000003,"endTime":3440.9500000000003,"body":"I love that."},{"startTime":3440.9500000000003,"endTime":3442.71,"body":"There's something very practical for people."},{"startTime":3442.71,"endTime":3445.23,"body":"I tell them, you're not responsible for your first impulse."},{"startTime":3445.23,"endTime":3447.31,"body":"You're responsible for your second one."},{"startTime":3447.31,"endTime":3448.31,"body":"Yes, absolutely."},{"startTime":3448.31,"endTime":3450.63,"body":"I mean, I certainly learned this."},{"startTime":3450.63,"endTime":3455.63,"body":"I've worked so hard at all this stuff in my own life, and I have lots of below-the-line impulses all the time."},{"startTime":3455.63,"endTime":3457.63,"body":"But I practice the system."},{"startTime":3457.63,"endTime":3461.63,"body":"I press pause and get my mind right, and I consider it."},{"startTime":3461.63,"endTime":3462.63,"body":"I've got self-awareness."},{"startTime":3462.63,"endTime":3465.63,"body":"I'm going, okay, all right, that's a negative impulse."},{"startTime":3465.63,"endTime":3466.63,"body":"That is not helpful."},{"startTime":3466.63,"endTime":3468.63,"body":"Don't indulge it."},{"startTime":3468.63,"endTime":3469.63,"body":"Don't feed it."},{"startTime":3469.63,"endTime":3470.63,"body":"Don't cultivate it."},{"startTime":3470.63,"endTime":3472.63,"body":"Don't give it any space or room."},{"startTime":3472.63,"endTime":3474.63,"body":"Replace it with something productive."},{"startTime":3474.63,"endTime":3476.63,"body":"Go from default to discipline."},{"startTime":3476.63,"endTime":3485.63,"body":"We live in a world that's been socially engineered to elicit as many of those responses as can happen"},{"startTime":3485.63,"endTime":3490.63,"body":"because that creates engagement, and engagement is a fundable thing."},{"startTime":3490.63,"endTime":3492.63,"body":"You can sell that engagement."},{"startTime":3492.63,"endTime":3493.63,"body":"Clicks, baby."},{"startTime":3493.63,"endTime":3494.63,"body":"Clicks, baby."},{"startTime":3494.63,"endTime":3495.63,"body":"Exactly."},{"startTime":3495.63,"endTime":3499.63,"body":"And so this isn't a problem that's going to get less."},{"startTime":3499.63,"endTime":3506.63,"body":"This is a message that is going to be needed more because each successive generation has grown up in this dopamine-soaked,"},{"startTime":3506.63,"endTime":3510.63,"body":"quick response, just share your mind, be authentically you."},{"startTime":3510.63,"endTime":3517.63,"body":"Well, you can be authentically you but still be civil and still have measure in your response."},{"startTime":3517.63,"endTime":3521.83,"body":"And so owning that 20 square feet, I think that's a powerful analogy."},{"startTime":3521.83,"endTime":3524.23,"body":"I'm going to share it with my kids later today."},{"startTime":3524.23,"endTime":3525.23,"body":"Awesome."},{"startTime":3525.23,"endTime":3527.31,"body":"So, we'll wrap it up here."},{"startTime":3527.31,"endTime":3531.33,"body":"My next to last question, I love the insight that it gives me."},{"startTime":3531.33,"endTime":3535.79,"body":"If we were to play a montage of your life, what song would we be playing in the background?"},{"startTime":3535.79,"endTime":3536.79,"body":"Huh."},{"startTime":3536.79,"endTime":3540.9100000000003,"body":"Montage of my life, so this is my either walk up or walk away song."},{"startTime":3540.9100000000003,"endTime":3541.9100000000003,"body":"Yeah, yeah."},{"startTime":3541.9100000000003,"endTime":3544.75,"body":"Showing these things like, ooh."},{"startTime":3544.75,"endTime":3548.51,"body":"Honestly, it would have to be a worship song."},{"startTime":3548.51,"endTime":3551.31,"body":"It would have to, because my faith is so important to me."},{"startTime":3551.31,"endTime":3554.31,"body":"My current favorite worship song is There is a King."},{"startTime":3554.31,"endTime":3559.87,"body":"There's others that I love, so that would be one, for sure."},{"startTime":3559.87,"endTime":3566.07,"body":"And because I seek to live a Christ-centered life, if I can, which I can sometimes."},{"startTime":3566.07,"endTime":3567.79,"body":"What would another one be?"},{"startTime":3567.79,"endTime":3573.19,"body":"Oh my gosh, I'm going to be funny here, this would not be what it"},{"startTime":3573.19,"endTime":3579.71,"body":"would be, but I love karaoke and my wife doesn't like the real twangy country song, so I sing"},{"startTime":3579.71,"endTime":3582.63,"body":"Amarillo by Morning by George Strait."},{"startTime":3582.63,"endTime":3585.9900000000002,"body":"So maybe that's what it would be."},{"startTime":3585.9900000000002,"endTime":3586.9900000000002,"body":"She would laugh at that."},{"startTime":3586.9900000000002,"endTime":3588.4300000000003,"body":"But no, it would be a worship song."},{"startTime":3588.4300000000003,"endTime":3589.4300000000003,"body":"It would be a worship song."},{"startTime":3589.4300000000003,"endTime":3590.4300000000003,"body":"That's awesome."},{"startTime":3590.4300000000003,"endTime":3591.4300000000003,"body":"I'd have to honor God."},{"startTime":3591.4300000000003,"endTime":3592.4300000000003,"body":"Yeah, that's very cool."},{"startTime":3592.4300000000003,"endTime":3594.75,"body":"I'm a drummer in our church. I'm not"},{"startTime":3594.75,"endTime":3598.23,"body":"familiar with that one. I'll look it up. I'll look it up. Well, this one is, you've"},{"startTime":3598.23,"endTime":3602.23,"body":"kind of alluded to it with the book, but it's the question I always end with."},{"startTime":3602.23,"endTime":3610.63,"body":"What for you, what for Tim Kite remains undone? The book. 100% the book. Yeah,"},{"startTime":3610.63,"endTime":3618.71,"body":"that's my ability to reach beyond my current footprint."},{"startTime":3618.71,"endTime":3621.81,"body":"It can be translated into languages."},{"startTime":3621.81,"endTime":3624.03,"body":"It can, because E plus or equals O,"},{"startTime":3624.03,"endTime":3626.69,"body":"discipline over default, 20 square feet,"},{"startTime":3626.69,"endTime":3628.37,"body":"and the disciplines that go along with it,"},{"startTime":3628.37,"endTime":3629.21,"body":"it's a game changer."},{"startTime":3629.21,"endTime":3633.29,"body":"And I made a statement a while ago in this show with you,"},{"startTime":3633.29,"endTime":3638.29,"body":"the R is the only thing in your life that you can evaluate,"},{"startTime":3638.29,"endTime":3641.65,"body":"improve, and change in order to produce"},{"startTime":3641.65,"endTime":3643.17,"body":"better outcomes in your life."},{"startTime":3643.17,"endTime":3647.63,"body":"If you want a better O, you need to choose a better R. The more we understand that as"},{"startTime":3647.63,"endTime":3652.03,"body":"individuals, as communities, as nations, we're going to get better."},{"startTime":3652.03,"endTime":3658.75,"body":"For those that listen to this and say, again, I care about the E, I care about the E dramatically."},{"startTime":3658.75,"endTime":3663.71,"body":"The best way for a better E is to create a better O because today's outcomes are tomorrow's"},{"startTime":3663.71,"endTime":3667.03,"body":"events. So yes, the environment, the E, the event, the situation,"},{"startTime":3667.03,"endTime":3672.9100000000003,"body":"the circumstances matter. But when I understand the E and I want to affect it, then the best"},{"startTime":3672.9100000000003,"endTime":3678.35,"body":"way to affect the E is to maximize my R-factor capability. And so the book would be a way"},{"startTime":3678.35,"endTime":3679.35,"body":"to do that."},{"startTime":3679.35,"endTime":3683.9500000000003,"body":"So good. Tim, it's been a real pleasure, a real honor to get the chance to speak with"},{"startTime":3683.9500000000003,"endTime":3693.63,"body":"you. So appreciate your transparency. Your message is powerful. It's impactful. I follow you relentlessly on social media. I always deliver thought-provoking"},{"startTime":3693.63,"endTime":3700.55,"body":"and sometimes ouch hallelujah kind of reminders that I need to be back on task. You're not"},{"startTime":3700.55,"endTime":3705.9100000000003,"body":"being relentless in pursuit today and you give those reminders and they're loving nudges"},{"startTime":3705.9100000000003,"endTime":3712.51,"body":"to get me back on track. How can listeners connect with you?"},{"startTime":3712.51,"endTime":3715.11,"body":"Yeah, so our website is a great spot to go,"},{"startTime":3715.11,"endTime":3718.23,"body":"focus3.com, and it's the number three."},{"startTime":3718.23,"endTime":3721.35,"body":"They want to email me directly, it's tim at focus3.com."},{"startTime":3721.35,"endTime":3722.9500000000003,"body":"I'm on Twitter, which you alluded to,"},{"startTime":3722.9500000000003,"endTime":3727.9500000000003,"body":"and at Timothy Kight, K-I-G-H-T, at Timothy Kight."},{"startTime":3727.9500000000003,"endTime":3730.3900000000003,"body":"And then I'm on LinkedIn as well, Tim Kight,"},{"startTime":3730.3900000000003,"endTime":3733.59,"body":"but on LinkedIn, so I'd love to have some follow."},{"startTime":3733.59,"endTime":3736.9900000000002,"body":"Awesome, well Tim, we really appreciate your time."},{"startTime":3736.9900000000002,"endTime":3737.9900000000002,"body":"Thank you so much."},{"startTime":3737.9900000000002,"endTime":3738.9900000000002,"body":"Awesome."},{"startTime":3738.9900000000002,"endTime":3739.9900000000002,"body":"Thank you Toby."},{"startTime":3739.9900000000002,"endTime":3740.9900000000002,"body":"I appreciate you having me on."},{"startTime":3740.9900000000002,"endTime":3746.19,"body":"For Tim, despite setbacks, adversity, and now a diagnosis that will most likely eventually"},{"startTime":3746.19,"endTime":3751.9500000000003,"body":"take his life in the form of stage 4 cancer, he remains steadfast and focused, not on what"},{"startTime":3751.9500000000003,"endTime":3756.19,"body":"he's lost, but on what he's gained through the journey."},{"startTime":3756.19,"endTime":3761.63,"body":"His book project, Important Before, has become his assignment of impact and of legacy."},{"startTime":3761.63,"endTime":3765.63,"body":"It's his way of leaving the world a better place than he found it."},{"startTime":3765.63,"endTime":3771.63,"body":"I cannot help but be inspired, motivated, and awestruck by Tim Kite and the way he leads,"},{"startTime":3771.63,"endTime":3776.63,"body":"loves, and serves with steadfast commitment and iron-willed determination."},{"startTime":3776.63,"endTime":3779.63,"body":"Thank you, Tim."},{"startTime":3779.63,"endTime":3782.63,"body":"For more info on today's episode, be sure to check it out on the web."},{"startTime":3782.63,"endTime":3786.63,"body":"Simply go to undonepodcast.com backslash ep46 to see the notes, links, and images related to today's guest, Tim Kite."},{"startTime":3786.63,"endTime":3789.63,"body":"If you enjoyed the show, I've got just one simple request."},{"startTime":3789.63,"endTime":3792.63,"body":"Would you be so kind as to share it with someone else?"},{"startTime":3792.63,"endTime":3796.63,"body":"I know there are great stories out there to be told and I'm always on the lookout."},{"startTime":3796.63,"endTime":3812.87,"body":"So if you or someone you know has a story that we can all be inspired by, tell me about it. Surf on over to undonepodcast.com, click that contact tab in the top menu and"},{"startTime":3812.87,"endTime":3836.59,"body":"drop me a note."},{"startTime":3836.59,"endTime":3847.51,"body":"On deck I've got legendary University of Washington strength coach Ron McKefree, one of the original"},{"startTime":3847.51,"endTime":3854.51,"body":"six American Gladiators, Darren Malibu McBee, and cancer researcher and friend Phil Anton."},{"startTime":3854.51,"endTime":3855.59,"body":"So stay tuned."},{"startTime":3855.59,"endTime":3859.07,"body":"This and more coming up on Becoming Undone."},{"startTime":3857.63,"endTime":3861.63,"body":"You or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone?"},{"startTime":3861.63,"endTime":3864.63,"body":"Contact me at undonepodcast.com."},{"startTime":3864.63,"endTime":3869.63,"body":"Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod"},{"startTime":3869.63,"endTime":3872.63,"body":"and follow me at TobyJBrooks."},{"startTime":3872.63,"endTime":3878.63,"body":"Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review at Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts."},{"startTime":3878.63,"endTime":3881.63,"body":"Until next time, everybody, keep getting up."},{"startTime":3881.63,"endTime":3885.63,"body":"Until next time everybody, keep getting up."},{"startTime":3885.63,"endTime":3887.63,"body":"You"}]}