September 10th, 2009, we were going to Buffalo Wild Wings to watch the first NFL game of the season. And we get there in a super packed, we like, hey man, let's just get the wings to go and watch the game in the UC in the dorm and everything and just chill out. He was like, all right, cool. Put the wings in the back seat, put my seatbelt on, but unfortunately we never made it back to the dorm because a lady was texting and driving and ran us off the road, causing us to flip into an embankment and broke my neck in two places and I was paralyzed immediately. Adversity happens to everybody. Everybody has been through something in their life. But it's not what happens to you that defines you. It's how you respond to it. How you're going to respond when your kid doesn't get in that school. How you're going to respond when you don't pass that math test. How you're going to respond when you're going through a divorce or whatever the case may be. You know, whatever your adverse situation may be. And I chose to respond in a positive manner. My name is Fletcher Cleaves and I am undone. Hey friend, I am glad you are here. Welcome to another episode of Becoming Undone, the podcast for those who dare bravely, risk mightily, and grow relentlessly. I'm Toby Brooks, a professor of Rehab Science at the Texas Tech University Health Sciences Center. Over the past two decades, I've grown more and more fascinated with what sets high achievers apart and how our failures can frequently be the necessary steps on our path toward success. Each week on Becoming Undone, I invite a new guest to examine how high achievers can transform from falling apart to falling into place. I'd like to emphasize that this show is entirely separate from my roles at Texas Tech, but it's my attempt to apply what I've learned and what I'm learning and to share with others about the mindsets of high achievers. Growing up, Fletcher Cleaves loved sport. He learned early on that through sheer will and work ethic, his oversized competitor's heart could make up for his undersized frame. Throughout high school, Fletcher learned to use the doubts of naysayers as fuel, eventually becoming a key member of his Varsity football team. With dreams of playing college football on the line, he spent countless hours in the gym and on the practice field before finally earning a spot on the team at Lambuth University. Tragically, just days before the first game of his collegiate career, returning home from a restaurant, Fletcher and friend Dave Mullins were forced off the road by a distracted driver. Both survived, but Fletcher's neck was broken in two places, ending his collegiate career before it ever officially began. In the weeks, months, and years to follow, Fletcher attacked his recovery following the accident the same way he'd attacked life before it, with a competitive spirit and a positive attitude. He completed a degree in computer science, and he's gone on to travel the globe, inspiring hundreds of thousands along the way. An accomplished speaker with a TEDx talk to his credit, today he's a full-time motivational speaker sharing his story on stages and podcasts the world over. I absolutely loved my conversation with the incredible Fletcher Cleaves and I hope you will too in episode 55, Respond. This week we're fortunate enough to have the wheelchair nomad. Fletcher Cleaves is joining us from Memphis, Tennessee. Fletcher, great to have you. What's going on, Matt? Glad to be here. Glad to be here. Excited about our combo. Same here. So read up on your story. Certainly. It's a powerful one and we'll get into all of the particulars I usually start off with a little bit of a softball. Who did little Fletcher want to be growing up? Mmm, I think I always wanted to be some type of athlete something with athletics Of course, you know to give them every kid's goals to be in the professional of their sport NBA NFL MLB Soccer doesn't matter. So I think tiny, tiny fletcher was definitely wanted to be in the NFL. But then as I got older, I kind of fell in love with mathematics. So I think I want to be an engineer. Awesome. Well, having watched your video, I gather that you were a little undersized, but a big heart kind of guy. So I guess start at the beginning, wherever that was for you, wherever you tend to start your story. Yeah, absolutely. So growing up, born and raised here in the South Memphis, Tennessee, I was definitely the boys will be boys, right? I was, you know, not, not a lot of, like, not big trouble, but just breaking windows, throwing baseballs in the windows, third claws, you know, ding dong ditch, you know, just regular adolescent stuff. Right. So my parents wanted me to stay out of trouble, so they put me to organize team sports. Once I got in there, I just fell in love with the competition of everything, and the craft, and getting your body prepared from just the competition and everything. I fell in love with baseball. I played baseball, basketball, track, football, something year-round to make sure that I didn't have any free time to get into trouble, right? And about seventh or eighth grade, I fell in love with football. And I was a hammering a child from my high school football team. I went to a lot of high schools. There was definitely trials. And I remember going to the coach, maybe 5'3", 101 pounds or something, really tiny, and 99 pounds or something, whatever. And I'm having a try for the football team. He's like, you want to play football? And I'm wearing these big glasses. He's like, yes, please. Can I play football? And then I end up going out, balling out my freshman year and started both ways. Had a phenomenal year from, played receiver and DB, like 10 interceptions in eight games. And you know, I know, right? So it was pretty, it was pretty, a pretty good year. Then 10th grade year, same concept, you know, just kind of undersized, went on to try for the varsity team. Ended up making it, balling out the same thing. And 11th to 12th grade, it was already set in stone. I was gonna be one of the leaders and the captains of the team. It's such a young opportunity in my life. Coming across field to the 20, cuts it up to the 25, gets a block, gets outside, across to the 40, to the 50, good return to Fletcher Cleaves. Takes it, complete to Cleaves, spins at the 10. Not everybody in the world can catch the ball, stop, spin to the 360. And I was blessed enough to receive a football scholarship. I remember my pops telling me, he was like, hey son, if you get a football scholarship, we'll buy you a car for graduation. Cause I don't have to pay for school. I'd rather buy a $6,000 starter car than pay for four years of college, you know? So I was like, definitely that. That's how that happened. And I left for college maybe two days after high school graduation because, you know, football season starts right when college starts. So we had been training that whole summer. I left two days after to get my body prepared for the upcoming collegiate season and try to get in the best shape. I ended up gaining like 25, 30 pounds of muscle from May, June, July, August, just two days every day working out, personal training, creatine, protein, post-workout meals, pre-workout meals, all that stuff, right? So I'm getting like 25 pounds of muscle in four months. And I've got a name one of the starters in the opening game against Georgia State. I got named, well, the starting kick returner. As a first true freshman, he just put me up there as a starting kick returner, second-string receiver. He says, be prepared as my name gets called. And unfortunately, a week or so before the game our roommate our day Mullins September 10th 2009 We were going to Buffalo Wild Wings to watch the first NFL game of the season the Tennessee Titans rest of Pittsburgh still it and we get there in a super pack as I mentioned the first NFL game of the season and We like hey, man, let's just get the wings to go And watch the game in the UC in the dorm and everything and just chill out He was like, all right cool put the wings in the back seat, put my seatbelt on, but unfortunately we never made it back to the dorm because a lady was texting and driving and ran us off the road, causing us to flip into an embankment and broke my neck in two places and I was paralyzed immediately. Wow, life changing. On your website, it was suggested that she was distracted for three or four seconds. That was the estimate. Yeah, that's all it took, man. That's all it took. I remember just her not looking, but not paying attention to the road. She was looking down, trying to multitask, and she just drifted over onto the double yellow line, and I just saw headlights coming towards me, and I just floored the misser. Wow. Well, certainly you had a long road of recovery ahead. What do you recall about maybe the initial Moments or or even the the initial hours after the accident Yeah, so the first thing I thought you know when the doctors were telling me what the diagnosis was You know I remember being trapped in the vehicle not being removed Thinking my legs were broken like doesn't you know you don't really think like oh my have a spinal cord injury, right? You're like something's not right like why can I my legs must be broken or something. They must be swollen. And when that happened, I remember them putting me back in the EMT, in the back of the ambulance. And then she's giving me all these tests. And she says, I want you to move your right leg. I said, OK. And she says, move your right leg. I said, I did. Then she says, OK. Then she asked me the same thing on my left leg. I'm like, I'm moving my legs, but she keeps asking me to move them. So I'm like, something must not be right. Then I thought the worst. I was like, OK, they must be mangled or super broken. And she says, I said, give it to me straight, Don. I was like, well, you look fine. And I'm back in the hospital. She was like, but we think you have a spinal cord injury. We're going to run some more tests and get to the hospital. And after they confirmed I had a spinal cord injury, I remember my first thought was, am I ever going to be playing football again? I was 18 years young, didn't really have a lot of responsibilities. I wasn't really thinking about like family and all that stuff or what I'm going to do for a job, or where am I going to work. I don't think about any of that. My first initial thought was, am I going to be able to play football again? Yeah. So the initial days after an injury like that, there's inflammation, there's swelling, there's a lot of questions. And you start to get some clarity after that initial injury starts to kind of settle in. And so did you get a prognosis fairly early that this was the likely outcome or was there hope that you would walk again? What was that initial maybe first month like? The first month, because I was only in the hospital 10 days, so the first month, the first 10 days was just running tests. I had two major surgeries and I remember the doctor was saying, there's no need for Fletcher to be in the hospital. He's not sick, you know, he is in great shape. He's been working out for four months. He's gained 25 pounds of muscle. I've never seen anyone of this great shape in my life undergo, you know, that traumatic of an accident. So he was like, there's no need for him to be here. He's not sick. He can start therapy immediately. So I was blessed enough to only be in the hospital 10 days. I was blessed enough to not be in the hospital that long and immediately to start therapy. So that first month was just working on small stuff. I remember crying in therapy and thinking like, you know, it's just like day one, we're gonna work on basic stuff. I need you to pick up these pennies or I need you to just take these five pound wrist weights. I'm like five pounds. And I'm like, this is actually heavy like you know you go from benching 250, 265, 275 to five pound wrist weights you can barely lift them and you're like what's wrong with my body like literally two weeks ago I was running jumping squatting you know 440, 425 or whatever the case may be and now I'm barely struggling with five pound wrist weights and that was kind of an eye opener to let me know that this is not going to be as easy as I thought it was. When you're physically gifted and somebody asks you to do something physical, you've always relied on your physical capabilities. Like, this is going to be easy, I can do this. Like, five pounds is going to be light work. And I'm like, holy crap, this is harder than I thought. Up to this point in your life, I mean, you mentioned you were maybe a little undersized and you always had to prove yourself physically, but obviously you figured it out. I mean, your diet was on point, your workout was on point. Had you really encountered any significant adversity up to this point in your life? Nothing compared to now, it may have been adverse during that time in my life. Like I broke my ankle when I was 14 in a game. Little dislocated fingers during games, pop right back in, take it up, get back out there. And that was probably the extensive adversity I have been through at that moment in my life. You know, just playing receiver in high school with a broken finger with a splint taped to your middle finger. It's like, how am I going to catch the ball in this game Friday night? And you just practice. So that was just maybe the biggest adversity I've gone through. Because I was blessed enough to be raised in a two-parent household, so I really didn't have to worry about much. They really wanted me to focus on just being a teenager. I remember begging them on my 16th birthday, can I get a job? And my dad was like, son, you got the next 50 years to work. Just enjoy four years of high school, don't worry about it. Yeah, that sounds like a great upbringing. So you find yourself in a position you never would have chosen, obviously. So you're working your way through rehab. Up to this point, I mean, you mentioned your future goals revolved around being an athlete. A lot of your identity is tied up in being a football player, being a physical specimen. You know, you've always been able to do things with your body. When did it start to sink in that that identity was gone? I think the first time I saw myself in a mirror without a shirt, when the atrophy would start kicking in. So you look at your body and you got the pecs and the abs and the biceps and the triceps, but they're not really moving much as I continuously just laid in the bed and not really did much. I remember looking at myself in the mirror without a shirt and realized how much atrophy had set in and how much muscle I had lost. I was like, oh, like this is really happening. And I really don't look like I used to. And as you mentioned, I was always Fletcher the football player, you know, that guy or Fletcher, the guy that runs trap or whatever the case may be. And not to be identified with that was definitely a mental challenge. Yeah. I had a guest a couple of weeks ago, Tim Kite. He's a motivational speaker and he's dealing with cancer right now. And he mentioned something to me that I'd never really considered. He said, you know, a lot of times people are well-intentioned with their encouragement, but sometimes what people say is hurtful. And as an athletic trainer, I'm thinking back to times when I know athletes sustained career-ending injuries. And part of me wants to motivate, and I want to encourage that athlete to keep trying and to push through. And, you know, we have to have a goal to shoot for. But on the other hand, there's a reality to the situation. And the fact that you have sustained a serious spinal cord injury, the likelihood of ever setting foot on a field again in uniform is fairly low. So during that time, what was your process like? Were you fighting to get back on the field or were you just fighting to return to function and a new normal? Yeah, so you're absolutely correct about what the motivational speaker said, that a lot of times people say things and they have good intentions, but they don't want to come out that way. But to answer your question, it was very small goals. Of course, at the beginning, the main goal was to, I want to get back to playing football, playing in the walk, all that fun stuff. But then had to look at the reality of the situation and say, all right, let's work on being able to lift five pounds first. All right, let's upgrade to 10, then 25. And then like, all right, let's work on core muscles. Cause you know, talking to my therapist and just not really knowing much about spinal cord injuries, it takes, I think like 275 muscles just for you to stand in place. Like it has to be activated from your feet muscles to your ankles, to your calves, to your thigh, your glutes, your hamstring, your core, your obliques, all that stuff has to be activated, keep you balanced, you know, and all that. And so I was like, so let's work on getting step by step and section by section, is what my therapist told me. But she knew what really happened, but she wanted me to try for me to realize it. So she's like, I know Fletch won't be able to do these ab workouts because he doesn't have that functionality. But me telling him no is not going to help him. If he has to see it for himself to really, OK, instead of trying to sit up, let me just work on rolling over. You know, let me work on getting on my stomach and getting on my back, you know, 20 times. And so it was a process, a step-by-step. Yeah, well, considering what you've been through, a lot of people would be bitter. A lot of people would not use this adversity to build the platform you've built. I mean, it's positive, it's encouraging. You show people what they can do as opposed to what they can't. Was there a low point? I mean, did you have to work through some things to get to this point? Or have you always just been an optimistic kind of guy and you defaulted to the positive? No, I've always been optimistic. I've always been looking at the glasses half full type of situation. I remember one time I got in sense of trouble in like the 11th grade, nothing really big, I think I was using my cell phone in class or something like that, and the teacher took it, and you know, of course, my first thing is to go to the principal and be like, hey man, look, I've always been able to get myself out of situations, you know, whether it's for my physical capabilities or my charisma or whatever the case may be, and the principal was like, not this time. You're so used to getting out of situations like what's your physical capabilities or because you play football you know this time it's not gonna happen so you know to answer your question yeah it's like I've always been able to use my physical capabilities to overcome adversity so we asked was I always optimistic I was like yeah because I've never really been through anything and the things I've gone through I overcame them fairly quickly where they studying for a test or whatever the case may be. So because this wasn't like a six months, I'll be back to normal. You know, it was like, now this is life altering. Yeah. So you go from being a college freshman with big dreams, you shared off camera that initially the goal was to start here and maybe hitch your wagon to a coach and go to a bigger, greener pasture. That evaporates. That goal is no longer there. What do you do in order to reorient and how does your mission today start to enter the equation? Yeah, so we all know that sportsmen and athletes' father time is undefeated. Your sport is going to end one day for everybody, whether it's when you're 40 or when you're Bo Jackson and quit early or whatever the case may be. But so my parents knew that and they instilled education inside of me in high school. So according to the state, TSAA or whatever it's called, you had to have like a 2.5 to play high school football. But my parents told me that if I wanted to play, I'd have a 3.0. So I'm like, why do I have to have a 3.0? The state only requires, and that was just instilling not to reach for the bare minimum, because they know that Fletcher's gonna do whatever he needs to do to not get in trouble or as long as he can play football. So if you wanna play football, you better have a 3.0. So literally every report card for four years straight, I got a 3.0. This reminds me of a concept I wrote about recently, and it's one that has certainly served Fletcher well too. The idea is margin. In business terms, margin's what we have that helps us maximize resources like funds or time or other efficiencies. And when we aim for the minimum, it costs us margin. We lose any possible cushion that can protect us from unexpected happenings, like when we give ourselves 21 minutes to make a 20-minute commute. We're only safe if literally everything goes according to plan. Even the slightest deviation from that spells failure. For Fletcher, his parents instilled the idea of doing better than the bare minimum, and he found success. Likewise, being in the best shape of his life at the moment of his life-altering accident likely saved him, or at the very least dramatically improved his outcomes. That's what giving our best can do. Minimum effort leaves no margin for error, but maximum effort helps build margin. It's like, son, why don't you just, what, what, what, 3.5, 4.0? I was like, remember you said 3.0? What's wrong with that? And so they still educate inside of me. So once, once, once I lost my physical capability, I immediately reverted back to, I was like, all right, but you still got your mind. You still got your mental capacity. You still can go to college. You know, people with disabilities go to college and graduate all the time. Why can't that be you? So I just started honing in on my mental capabilities and studying harder and I went back to college and I was able to graduate with a degree in computer science. That's awesome. So you weren't in the hospital very long, but you're in outpatient rehab, I'm sure, working how often? The entire year. Rehab was Monday through Friday, eight hours a day. Wow. It was like a job, basically. Yeah. So what did you learn about yourself during that year? How sleepy I get all the time. I was so sleepy all the time. Because, you know, the nurses are coming to get you up. Volunteers, they're coming to wake you up, help you with breakfast, like 6.30, maybe 7. Your first session is at like 8 AM. Then you might have PT from 8 to 9, OT from 9 to 10, pool from 11 to 12, lunch from 12 to 1, short arm circuit from 1 to 2, arm bike from 2 to 3, then you stand in frame you know just to get your blood circulating they put you in a frame to stand you up right because you know your body's made to stand up and let your blood circulate from 3 to 4 and then you might have writing from 4 to 5 or whatever. And so I was like, dude, I'm so tired. Like, I'm so used to being able to take, it was the first time I went, like in a high school, college, nap for huge. Like, after practice is shower, nap, immediately then, you know, wake up, eat, you know, whatever. But not having those breaks in between, I was like, I am so sleepy. Well, you have to give yourself some credit because physically that's demanding, but neurologic healing is fatiguing in a different way. I've got a dear friend who has MS, and when she has flare-ups, she'll say, you know, I just... It takes so much more energy just for me to read, to concentrate. The neurologic fatigue is different than a muscular fatigue. And you had both of those going on because spinal cord injuries don't ever fully heal, but peripheral injuries can, and you're certainly stimulating the system in order to try to get it to heal. So certainly that's a pretty normal consequence. What about mentally? Going from a college athlete to now someone who's working five days a week, full-time job to do things that you took for granted previously, what was that like for you psychologically? It was hard in the beginning, but I'm fueled by competition. So my parents told me, I told my therapist one day, it was like, if you want Fletcher to excel in therapy, just bet him he can't do something. Like Fletch, I bet that you can't get your shirt on in under 30 seconds. It was like, all right, if you win, you get an extra hour in the pool, or you get an hour to lay down, or whatever, extra sleep. We can start therapy at 9 instead of 8. But if you lose, therapy starts at 6.30. I'm like, all right, let's go. So of course, me being the athlete I am in competition, I'm like, I'm trying to hurry up and get it done. And it opened my eyes, because I'm 19 at the time now. And I was like, the first time I made a fail, I'm out of my bed, therapy started 6.30 AM. I'm like, a week later, let's run that bet back. Let's do it again. And I'll get it. And they pointed out, it was like, see how hard you tried with competition fuels. Like they realized that competition fuels me. So I realized that, and it was, it mentally was tough in the beginning, but once I realized that, I kind of used that competition to I mean it's that sucks to say But I was trying to be better than every other patient Like that guy's over there lifting 10 pounds. I'm gonna do 12. You know it was like well flesh He is from the waist down. He has this entire upper body strength. I was out here Yeah, you know I want to be the best you know and you know And I just saw put myself in competitive mindset again because I wasn't playing anymore, but I needed that spark, that edge, that fire, that hunger. I needed something that gave me that same type of feeling as being on the field, and I chose that. I chose to, they don't know we were in competition, but I knew. You know? Right. And once I used that, I started excelling. Yeah, I think that's great. Obviously, you've mentioned your parents and therapy team. Were there others who gave you social support during this time that were part of your recovery process? Absolutely, my friends and my high school and childhood friends for sure, definitely were instrumental in my recovery. Because knowing me prior to the car crash and coming to visit me in the hospital and seeing me recovering therapy and when I came home from therapy, they come in to visit during Christmas break and just hanging out and talking to me and realizing, you know, Flesh, he's still the same class clown. He's still the same kid. He jokes around. He's just sitting down all the time. So as I got stronger and we progressed, we got older, but he made a lot of sacrifices to make sure that I was able to have a fulfilled life. I always say that my friends and family never allowed me to have a disability. And what that means is that anything I wanted to do, that was like, you want to go to Six Flags, anything you want to get on a fledge, we going to get on it. So of course, the instructors were like, hey, this roller coaster's not wheelchair accessible. There's three steps to get in, and we don't have a ramp. We didn't actually, where, is this where we enter? So, you know, my boys would just pick me up, throw me in the roller coaster, strap me in, have me on the ball, pick me out of my chair, do that. So it allowed me to achieve it so much more I'm pretty sure you've seen You having a lot of my social media videos one of my friends throwing me off a cliff in a Mexican cenote Going skydiving all those all scuba diving with sharks all those are driven things Somebody has some friends behind the camera that has made sure that I was able to do all this stuff. I Absolutely love this not to spoil what's left in our interview But Fletcher points out all the incredible things he's been able to do since his injury And when I first learned of his story, I was blown away by the diversity and the magnitude of the things he's done He's done more things in a wheelchair than I've done on my own two feet But the thing I hadn't considered until just now that Fletcher points out here is That those videos were shot by friends right there with him supporting and cheering him on the whole way. Sometimes we absolutely need friends like that. And other times, I'm reminded, we need to be friends like that. Other than your immediate support network, did you connect with or did you find inspiration from others during this time that had maybe been through something similar, high profile athletes or Paralympians, anything along those lines? Some of the Paralympians were, because they would come visit the hospital, the rehabilitation center, because it's represented as the number one rehabilitation center for spinal cord injuries in the country. So they would come and do tours and stuff. And it is all about how are you motivated. I'm not really motivated by words, like just somebody coming and speaking to me and saying, you know, hey, I did it, you can do it. I'm motivated by competition. So show me a video of you doing it, and I'm going to do it better than you. Right. So I teach an athletic training for special populations course, and we talk about athletes with disability. I used to show the murder ball video. It talks about the US wheelchair rugby team. There's a quote in there that I always just found remarkable and they're talking about Mark Zupan who was a well-known Paralympian and his friends say, I think it was his friends, might even have been him, he said it, he said I've accomplished more in this chair than I ever would have accomplished with functioning legs. He was a soccer player and he wasn't going to go to the Olympics on the US soccer team, but he ends up being one of the most successful Paralympians in history at that time. What do you make of that? Do you feel like this has led your life down a path that is in some ways better? Yeah, I think, you know, selfish reasons, you know, it's like, Fletch, you have inspired millions of people. You've traveled the world. You've met amazing people. You've been on amazing podcasts. You've done all this. You've had a commercial made about you. And it's like I get that, but for selfish reasons, at the beginning, it was like I'd rather not inspire anybody and just be normal and walk. You know, but then you realize like, hey, you're making a hell of a more impact on the community simply by just being you. I never woke up and said, I'm going to be an inspiration today. I'm going to be a speaker today. I was just living life and people found inspiration within the task I was completing. And I realized there's like, you know, players, how are you able to do this? When you want more, you do more. I tell people all the time, working hard is a factor with not giving up. Because the reason why a lot of people give up is because they don't put in the work. The reason why it's so easy for you to quit the football team, because you haven't been to four days, or you haven't played football your whole life, or you haven't watched yourself go from 225 to 315 bench press, or even in a workforce, it's easy for you to quit, or it's easy for you to drop out of school because you haven't studied for five exams in one semester. You haven't put in the, once you put in the work, and once you sacrifice, quitting is not an option because you've already given so much. So, and I was like, why don't you quit? It was like, well, if you saw what I had to go through in therapy, what I had to do to get to this point, you wouldn't quit either. You would just continue to live. You would continuously strive and you just want to do more for yourself. Yeah, that's awesome. So you graduate with your computer science degree. You've got the heart of a competitor, but the, the degree of an IT nerd. How do you go from that to this world recognized platform? What's next for you after college graduation? Yeah, after graduation, you know, I go into the typical IT field office, you know, khakis, tie and all that fun stuff. And my story started circulating around the AutoZone headquarters where I'm working at the time. And they was like, Hey, do you mind us being an automotive company? And you can just get up there and talk about safe driving. I'm like, yeah, sure, no problem. So I'll talk about it in front of like the IT and just overcome adversity. And they, you know, in a workforce, you don't wanna be rude and say, hey man, what happened to you? So a lot of people knew me, but they never knew what happened. And once they found that out, a lot of people started asking me to come speak to like their high schools and stuff like that. And I was like, yeah, no, sure, no problem. And I just fell in love with giving presentations. And what really hit hard that made me want to transition to a full time speaker is that I gave that presentation in front of the entire headquarters and probably like eight minutes, didn't really have that much time. And the CFO of the company up there on the top floor with the big boys, right, he comes down to my little tiny desk in the basement and I see you with no windows. I keep the IT in the dungeon. And he was like, hey man, I just want to say that was a phenomenal presentation. And you don't belong behind a desk. Like you belong in front of people spreading your message, telling the world, inspiring the world. He was like, I don't see you working here too much longer. I was like, are you trying to fire me? Am I getting fired? It sounds like I'm getting fired. He's like, no, it's just me being a joke. But having that caliber of person come down and say that to me, and was like, maybe I can turn this into a profession. Yeah. I think it's awesome when people can speak that kind of life into us. And I don't know if you had really given it much thought up to that point, but hearing somebody else from the outside view your speech and say that had to be motivating. So you're now known as the wheelchair nomad, and your tagline is the sky is not the limit. Tell me about this. Yeah, so the sky's not the limit. I'm sitting in ICU. I come out of my first surgery, and the doctor tells me things. He goes around and he says, but you are paralyzed. You won't be able to do X, you won't be able to do Y, you won't be able to do Z. So I was going down a list of things I won't be able to do, and I immediately reverted back to my mindset of being told I wouldn't start in high school football, I wouldn't be able to play varsity, you're too small to get a scholarship, you're too small to play as a true freshman. And I've been proving people they're wrong my entire life. So I immediately took that mindset and I just was laying in the bed and like, thinking to myself like, this doctor's trying to put limitations on my life. Like he doesn't know me, he doesn't know what I've done, he doesn't know what I've been through, what I've accomplished. And I just started thinking, there are no limits. He's constantly trying to tell me what I can and cannot do. And I'm like, there are no limits to life. And there are no limits to life. I just kept saying to myself, there are no limits to life. There are no limits to life. And then I just played on words and just thought about the quote when people say, the sky's the limit. The sky's the limit. And I challenged each one of y'all to think outside the box and say, how can we say the sky's the limit when there's footprints on the moon, which in essence means that there are no limits. You can't tell me the sky's the limit when there's footprints on the moon. The only limitations are the ones you impose on yourself. And I just adopted that quote, and I ran with it, and I use it as a tagline, and different presentations, making merch, as you can see, making a logo with the moon on it, and a wheelchair, if you can see that right there. Yeah, and that's where that came from. So the sky's not, Fletcher Cleve is the sky's not the limit, and it's a wheelchair on a moon. That's cool. Yeah, so that's where they came from. And the second part about the wheelchair nomad, when I was in college, when I was in the hospital, I'm watching all my friends accomplish all the freshman things that we said we were going to do. Go to Daytona Beach for spring break. Go to homecoming, our first homecoming. Go to the first football game, or whatever the case may be. I'm watching all my friends do these things that I want to do and travel the world and just be college freshman. And so, long story short, I'm like, hey, I think I need to get my body back to where I can start doing these things as well. So, one spring break we go to Nashville, which is only three hours outside of Memphis, and we're just hanging out doing much of nothing. But this is the first time I've been without my parents for more than five hours at a time. So now it's just a weekend. We go Friday morning, come back Sunday, nothing major, but we're just hanging out. We go to the movies, hanging out in the mall, playing around, throwing Skittles, you know, just being 20 year old college freshman at the time. So it was, well I was a freshman, they were sophomores. And so I just fell in love with traveling. So we started traveling more. We go to Dallas, we go to Mardi Gras, we go to LA, we go to Chicago. And I'm posting all these pictures just like everybody else. But people found inspiration like, this guy in this wheelchair is everywhere. And I looked at my finances and I was like, hey, you've been to Vegas three times this year. Vegas is my favorite city in the United States. So I was like, you've been to Vegas three times this year. I'm talking to myself. And I was like, how much is a flight to Italy? So I looked that up. I'm like, not that bad. So, boom, I go to Italy, then I go to Paris, and I go to London, and I'm falling in love with the culture, the history of the Vatican, and Rome, and Julius Caesar, and the Louvre in Paris, and the Buckingham Palace in London. So I start venturing out even more. I go to Dubai, I go to Abu Dhabi, I go to Barbados, and I'm following different cultures and different foods, and I'm just posting pictures like everybody else. And somebody's like, dude, you're everywhere. You're like a nomad and me being the jokester I am I was like yeah call me the wheelchair nomad And so I started using that tag in all my pictures like the wheelchair nomad the wheelchair nomad the wheelchair nomad And just because he was opposing my pictures But then I go to the taste of Chicago and my cousins were getting ready to go to a nightclub They pull up to the front put my chair out. There's a line to get in they put me in my chair You know I get my clothes together put my cologne on and my roll in and this lady comes up and say excuse me are you the wheelchair nomad I'm like how do you know that she was like I'm a part of this travel group and they post your stuff all the time and you're such an inspiration can we take a picture I'm like sure once that happened I was like oh yeah this is a thing. Celebrity status achieved. I believe it's done by ESPN. How do you go from working in IT with one speech for AutoZone to now having this global platform? How does it grow from there? Yeah, so I've always had a platform and just gradually the plan was to gradually just do a little more each year, you know, next year, I'm gonna stop and be a full time speaker. It was always next year, it was always next year. And before I looked up, I'd been working in IT nine years. So I'm like, you know, this is like early 30s. It's time to if you really want to do this. I was in Toronto for New Year's Eve, and I'm looking at the 2023 sign. And you know, I've had my website, I've done, you know, the Ohio State's in the oldness in the, you know, I've done all these things, but it's always been played around my IT schedule. They were pretty lenient for the most part, especially during COVID. And I just knew this is not what I wanted to do for the next 40 years. So I knew I wanted to do this full time. So I'm in Toronto looking at a 2023 sign, 10, 9, 8, and I called God, Big G. I'm like, Big G, if I'm supposed to be a full time speaker, please lead me in the right direction. And lo and behold, two weeks later, I got let go from my IT job. And it was just budget cuts. And I'm like, no, I didn't mean it like this. Not like this. But it shows that because I was comfortable enough working my IT job. And it's hard to walk away from a lucrative field just off a whim. So I think God knew I would never have done it on my own. I would always played around with the thought of being a full-time speaker. And he gave me that push, and this just happened in February. So these past six months or so, I've been a full-time entrepreneur trying to do the best I can to keep my head above water and always continuously fight and just become a phenomenal speaker. Yeah, that's great. I mean, obviously being pushed out of the nest like that is never great, but at that point you gotta fly, right? Your story is certainly one of physical setback, but a lot of my listeners, they're facing to them a mountain in front of them as they lost their job or they're not able to get a job that they've applied for or their kid didn't get into a, whatever it is. Yeah, absolutely. It's tough. What do you tell them? I tell them this all the time, man. Look, adversity happens to everybody. Crappy stuff happens to me, crappy stuff happens to you, crappy stuff happens to your neighbor. Everybody's been through something in their life, but it's not what happens to you that defines you, it's how you respond to it. How are you going to respond when your kid doesn't get in that school? How are you going to respond when you don't pass that math test? How are you going to respond when you're going through a divorce or whatever the case may be, whatever your adverse situation may be? And I chose to respond in a positive manner. You can still achieve your dreams and your goals. I tell people when writing down goals and dreams, how big would you dream if you knew you couldn't fail? If I knew that the moment I thought I could become an astronaut, I would be an astronaut. I pledge I want to be an astronaut. I'm like, all right, set aside the excuses, put your big boy underwear on and get to it. You know, whatever the case may be. And that's what I say to those people. It's like don't let your current situation dictate your future. Don't let this adverse situation dictate the next 20 years of your life. You may be going through some downs at this time, but understand that nothing lasts forever. I've never seen a cloud sit over one person's house for an extended amount of time. Like this too shall pass. This rain will go away. The rainbows at the end of the storm. And when that sunshine comes out, what type of mindset are you going to have when this adverse situation is over? Did this adverse situation make you a data breaker. Yeah. I was just reading about this last night. I'm studying for a new certification. It's called the Certified Performance Sports Science Credential. So a lot of these, a lot of professional teams and now D1 schools are hiring these sports scientists who they gather data on how many total yards you cover during a practice and you know, whether or not you're over trained. We see this in the NBA a lot. It's from code management. That's all coming from sports science. But the chapter I read last night was on psychology. And the prevailing thought was, if we can encourage our athletes to have an optimistic or positive mindset, it actually manifests physically. They heal better. They recover faster. This is not just kumbaya, be happy. It is I can help that hamstring strain heal faster if I can get you to focus on the good versus negative. And that's something you knew innately. And I would venture to say that your capabilities today are better because you had that outlook from day one. And for sure, it's fantastic. Yeah, I know. Whatever your mind thinks, your body will follow. I've seen different situations where people just, mental therapy where they are sitting there just thinking positive, like you like say, it will heal, it will heal, it will heal. Whatever your mind thinks, your body will follow. So if you're constantly being negative and constantly saying, it won't get better, I won't be able to play anymore, you're right. Your mind is going to affect your performance and you're right. The person that says they can and the person that says they can't are both right. Which one will you be? Yeah So it's obviously not gone according to script, but that doesn't mean that it hasn't been a beautiful story. What advice, if you could go back in time and maybe equip young Fletcher with some sage wisdom that's going to help him on the journey, what would you tell him? I'd tell him to stay out of Buffalo Wild Wings. Buffalo, stay home. I would say never accept the word no. Let no's fuel your fire. So the worst thing you can do is tell me I can't do something because now I'm going to make it my destiny to prove you wrong. I'm going to make it mine. So don't allow people to form your life. Like, you know, it's your life, you know, that might be a little deep for a seven year old, but it's still positive thinking and just, you know, enjoy being a kid, just have fun and try to get your parents to invest in Google. Sage advice. That's very much a Biff Tannen answer, right? That's more Dominick. No, no, take your life savings and just put it all Or Dominac. No, no, take your life savings and just put it all in Google. Well, I love music and the emotions that it can oftentimes represent the words can't. If you had a song that played in the background during a montage of your life, what song would you pick and why? Probably one of my favorite pregame songs, Heart of a champion you know just tell me I can't you can't give up keep going keep striving keep going you know so that was definitely I was today even in therapy like just what we got to do today all right we got you know four sets of 25 okay cool let me get my headphones hard of a champion on repeat just you know don't stop don't quit and I would just have that montage playing over my live video. Yep, that's great. That's a good one. I dropped these into a Spotify mix with all my guests with their music. So if people want to listen, they can tune in. I'm a hard of a champion. Yeah. So what for Fletcher remains undone? I said so much I want to accomplish. I still want to be recognized as one of the top speakers in the country. I want to visit all eight wonders of the world. I want to be a prevalent advocate for accessibility in the travel community You know coming from the wheelchair nomad. I want a family. I want to move to a new city I want to do so much and all the things I've ever dreamt about to come to fruition and come to truth That's great How can listeners connect with you and follow you and your various channels? Yeah, definitely follow me on all my socials. You can find all of that at FletcherCleves.com and I think it's always hilarious when you're talking about celebrity status. Because I have been like on TED Talk and the commercial and I've been on ESPN and I do travel the world and have done these amazing things. People think I'm like Tom Brady or like I'm not Like Kevin Hart or somewhere. I'm not gonna respond and it's always funny when I like hey flitz I have a small podcast out of La you know No, this is taking a shot right? I'm like, yeah, no problem. And they're always like, oh my god, you responded I'm like, yeah, I'm a real person Guilty as charged. Not only did you respond you responded in today like yeah, we can do it right now. Yes My name is Fletcher Cleaves and I am undone For Fletcher Cleaves, it's safe to say that he didn't choose the path he finds himself on today But through his positivity his will and that Nelly inspired heart of a champion. He's made the world a better place You haven't seen him speak before Check him out on YouTube or better yet, if you're an event planner looking for a keynote speaker, give Fletcher a call, because I guarantee you that you and your team will emerge better and stronger for hearing his story. For more info on today's episode, be sure to check it out on the web. Simply go to undonepodcast.com backslash ep55 to see the notes, links, and images related to today's guest, Fletcher Cleaves. I'll even drop a link to his website and all of his socials so check it out there. I know there are great stories to be told and I'm always on the lookout so if you or someone you know has a story that we can all be inspired by tell me about it. 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