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Mornin Bitches
Flipping the Script: The Unexpected Shift in Youth and Sexuality
Think you've got the pulse on youth trends? You might be in for a surprise. We're breaking down an unexpected shift that's been sweeping across Californian and American youth - they're having less sex. With our guest Vivian Rhodes, we navigate through the maze of factors contributing to this change, from technology's grip to bustling schedules and a more gradual journey into adulthood. Vivian shares her personal experience, revealing a story that may resonate with many of our listeners. And if you thought dating was tough before, wait till you hear about the effects of the pandemic!
But that's not all we're unpacking. Ever wondered about the sexual attitudes that separate the generations? We've got the lowdown on how baby boomers and Generation Z see things differently when it comes to premarital sex. In an era where everything feels polarizing, we emphasize the importance of respecting personal choices and doing what feels right for each individual. No matter if you're part of the trend or going against the grain, you're not alone. Join us as we share our love and support for all listeners and wish them an awesome Tuesday. Ready to challenge your perceptions? Get set to flip the script on youth and sexuality.
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Morning bitches. If no one told you they love you today, then I love you because you're you. It's tic-tac Bobby and I'm here and it's Tuesday all day and it's an amazing day because I was so grateful. Last night my darling, wonderful friend, producer Charro Toledo, brought a project to me and we started working on it and I performed it the right off-room last night. I was a cap-er-a-singer and Michael Orland, the incredible musical director for American Idol, was my musical director last night and we started working on a project. So I'm very grateful for that and I'm back and I've been doing the flaming hot Cheetos thing, grandma, and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1:Okay, I thought I would talk about something that I read in the paper. You know me in the Times. I'm obsessed with the Los Angeles Times, right, hannah Fry? Why young people are having less sex? Who knew Young Californians are having fewer sexual partners? Wow, researchers are attributing the trend to a number of factors. We're going to talk about this because I'm shocked and amazed when the people my age who are first gear then you know all get out. My cat's scratching his scratcher he's a good boy, he's my kitty, I got to interject that Are having more sex. Well, of course it's my generation. The lunch Aquarius, aquarius, right, okay, here we go. Researchers are attributing the trend to a number of factors, including technology and heavy schedule.
Speaker 1:Okay, vivian Rhodes figured she would eventually have sex. Okay, she was raised in a Christian household in Washington state and thought sex before marriage would be the ultimate rebellion. Well, that was me too, 21, you know that. But then college came and went no sex. Wow, even flirting felt unnatural. She said I was the original flirt honey. In her early 20s she watched someone she followed on Tumblr come out as asexual and realized hey, that's how I felt. She had yet to develop romantic feelings for anyone and the physical act of sex just didn't sound appealing.
Speaker 1:Some people assume this is about shaming other people, and it's not said. Rhodes, 28, who works as a certified nursing assistant in Los Angeles you go, girl. I'm glad people have fun with it and it works for them, but I think sex is kind of gross. Yeah, okay, but I think it seems very messy. It can be and it's vulnerable in a way I think would be very uncomfortable. But what researchers say is an array of reasons, including technology, heavy academic schedules and an overall slower motion process of growing up, millennials and how Gen Zers have are having less sex with fewer partners and their parents and their grandparents Generation did. The social isolation and transmission skills of the COVID-19 pandemic have no doubt played a role in the shift, but researchers say Pee-Dee is going to make pee, pee or poo-poo in his box now, so you could probably hear that I'm just saying Okay, have no doubt played a role in the shift, but researchers say that's not the whole story. Okay, there's no rush for sex trend credits. Credits predates, credits right there, the pandemic.
Speaker 1:According to a solid body of research, ucla has been tracking behavioral trends for years through its annual California Health Interview Survey, the largest state health survey in the nation. It includes questions about sexual activity In 2021,. The survey found the number of young Californians age 18 to 30. Okay, let's get to that page real quick. Okay who reportedly are having no sex sexual partners in the prior year reached a decade high of 38%. In 2011, 22% of young people reported having no sexual partners during the prior year and the percentage climbed fairly steadily as the decade progressed. California adults ages 35 to 50 who participated in UCLA's 2021 survey also registered an increase in abstinence from 2021, now we're sneezing to 2011, to 2021. Okay, but with the percentage of no sex respondents rising 9% to 14% during that title frame I'm living in New York, except it's in LA the increase was not as pronounced.
Speaker 1:The broader trend of young adults forgoing sex holds true nationally. Wow, that's interesting. Wow, we, the University of Chicago's General Social Survey, which has been following shifts in Americans' behavioral trends for decades, down to three in ten generation Z-Mails 18 to 25 survey in 2020 run one report on having gone without sex the prior year. Wow, that's interesting. One in four Gen Z women also reported having no sex the prior year, according to Gene Twenge, a San Diego State University psychology professor who reviewed the data for book Generations. Okay, in an age where hookups might seem as unlimited as a right swipe on a dating app, it's easy to assume that Gen Z should be having the time of their life sexually, twenge said. But that's not how it's playing out. Twenge said the decline has been underway for roughly two decades. Who knew? Wow, it's very, very interesting.
Speaker 1:She attributed the slowdown and sexual relations most significantly to what she called the slow life factor. Young people just aren't growing up as fast as they once did. They're delaying big milestones such as getting their driver's licenses and going to college, and they're living with their parents A lot longer at home. In times and places where people live longer and education takes longer, the whole developmental trajectory slows down, she says, and so for teens and young adults, one place they're going to notice is in terms of dating and romantic relations and sexuality. A slight majority of 18 to 30 year olds about 52 percent reported having one sexual partner in 2021, a decrease from 2020. According to the UCLA survey. The proportion of young adults who have reported having two more sexual partners also declined from 23 percent in 2011 to 10 percent in 2021. Though sex was on the decline in the years leading into the pandemic, covid-19 may dating trickier, mm. What a surprise. Okay, many people tighten their social circles when the pandemic surged in 2020 and 2021, and young people's reliance on cell phones and apps for their social intentions.
Speaker 1:Interactions only intensified when in-person meetups posed a risk of serious illness. Right, of course. Right In general. People coming of age in an era of dating apps say the notion of starting a relationship with someone they meet in person Say a chance encounter at a bar or dance club seems like a piece of nostalgia. Yeah, even friendships are increasingly forged over texting and video chats. A lot of young people, when you talk to them, will say their best friends are people they never met, said Jessica Pirelli, a professor of psychological science. That you see, irvine, sometimes they live across the country or in countries, and yet they have very little intimate relationships with them.
Speaker 1:The in-person interface is not as this essential as for the development of intimacy, and it might be for older people like me, being 75. If I ain't got that in-person intimacy, forget about it. Ivana Zuniga, 22, recently graduated from UC Irvine with a degree in psychological science that appears to have largely delayed sex Wow and romance to focus on education and career. Zuniga, who is bisexual, has been with her partner for about four years, but their sex life is sporadic. She said they hadn't been intimate in the month leading up to her graduation. I've been preoccupied with my studies and I'm always stressed because of all the things I had been going on. My libido is always shot and I don't really ever think about sex. Well, it sounds like me, but I'm 75. I've gone through a metaphor, so hello.
Speaker 1:The sexless phenomenon has made its way into pop culture. Gone to the days when meek cutes and bars leading to one night stands and sex at college parties, with a cornerstone of couples and films In no hard feelings released this year. A 32-year-old woman is hired by Hala helicopter parents to deflower the shy 19-year-old son at a party. The woman, frantically searching for her datebursts open bedroom doors, but she expects to find people fervently entangled in sheets. Instead she finds teets sitting side by side at a bed, fully clothed, scrolling their phones or playing virtual reality games. Bimiu, she yells. Doesn't anyone F anymore? Fuck anymore. Hmm.
Speaker 1:While there are practical benefits to waiting to be in a physical relationship, including less risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancy, twenge argue that there are also downsides to young people eschewing sex and, more broadly, intimacy. Unhappiness and depression are at all time highs among young adults. Trend lines Twenge ties to the rise of smartphones and social media and she noted with concern the steady decline in the birth rate. It creates the question of whether social security can survive. Twenge said well, I'm still getting it, thank God. Twenge said will there be enough young workers to support older people in the system? Will there be enough young workers to take care of older people in nursing homes and in assisted care facilities? So Nega, who plans to purchase pursue a doctorate in clinical psychology, can't imagine pursuing her education or career to have children. So safe sex is particularly important, she said.
Speaker 1:Others interviewed said horror stories involving friends who contracted herpes or other sexually transmitted infections had turned them off from casual sex. Well, that's good. I prioritize my studies too much and I can't fathom the thought of having my identity as an academic fall secondary to being a mother. So Nega said moving out of the income bracket that you're born into so hard to do and a very secure way to do it is through education.
Speaker 1:For Rhodes, not having sex has taken a lot of pressure off social interactions. It lets me relax. She said it's not what I thought I cared about, how much I looked, how I come off to other people, but I have a little extra help caring less about it because I don't have to worry about attracting specific kinds of people for specific things. And she pushes back against the notion that shying away from sex is some sort of societal problem that needs to be fixed. It might even be a sign that young people have more control of their bodies and desires. She said Maybe you don't have to have sex all the time.
Speaker 1:Rhodes said Maybe if you're doing other things in your life and you've got other priorities or you just don't feel like it, that can be a good enough answer. Wow, what an article. Who knew? I had no idea, because my generation, the baby boomers, you know, we were so closed and family that if you had sex before marriage it was a shonda, which means a shame in Yiddish. So I don't agree.
Speaker 1:I think that I'm glad that I went through all the experiences that I went through in my deflowering days and sexual proclivities and going out with people and having sex with them, and I'm glad I'm so happy that that was part of my life at the time. And in a way, I'm sad that you know that people are afraid to experience. You know this right now. So, but I respect your choices. So I just want to tell you all that I respect your choices and if this is what you feel like you want to do or not do, it's up to you.
Speaker 1:You know I'm a generation Z lover. I think that you guys are going to change the world. I hope so. I just want to say, oh, what do I want to say? And I love you all. And if nobody told you they love you today, I love you because you have a great Tuesday wall day and I love all of you and do your thing. But I will come on my next podcast about seniors in nursing home. Go in crazy sexual craziness, more power to us and them. Have a great day.