Mornin Bitches
A cursing, foul mouth old ladies take on the present world!!! Filled with her opinions, views on current events, and special guest appearances!
Mornin Bitches
The Unseen Side of Romance and Intimacy in the Senior Years
Join us on this stirring journey as we shatter the stereotype of love and physical intimacy in the golden years, with the help of our insightful guest, Steve Lopez from the LA Times. Get ready to be swept off your feet as we share the thrilling tale of a 71-year-old star of the Golden Bachelor TV spin off, who is not just living life to the fullest, but also inspiring the senior demographic to follow their physical desires fearlessly. Yet, it's not all rosy; we'll also pull the curtain back on the concerning surge of STDs among older adults.
It's time to change the narrative; let's explore how the local gay community is challenging the stigma associated with aging and sexuality. Close your eyes and imagine yourself at the lively Mitchell Senior Center in Palm Springs or the Nest, where desert lovebirds unite under the neon lights. And remember, if no one told you they love you today, we love you because you're you. The golden years are just as much about love and passion as any other age, so let's get this conversation started!
MORNIN BITCHES PODCAST
Morning bitches and no one told you. They love you today and I love you because you're you. Who else are you going to be A little late and I'm doing an extra one because I have a special person on Saturday actor, writer, collector, tom Gregory. He's going to be here on my Saturday podcast. Okay, Today I'm going to talk about this incredible article written by Steve Loeb, a great writer of the LA Times, talking about the golden state of California.
Speaker 1:Risky is okay, risky isn't the joys and hazards of sex and love in titanium years. So yesterday I talked about so many young people are delaying or not having sex anymore. They're focusing on their business. My generation, not so much. Okay, the 71 year old star of the golden bachelor TV spin off premiering this fall says it's never too late to fall in love again and he wants to share the sunset years of life with a woman who was high energy. Okay, and Steve says I might be able to help.
Speaker 1:Only women of a certain age have been revealing intimate details of their lives to me. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, since I've been chronicling the burdens and blessings of ages aging for the last eight months and readers have stepped up to shatter the stereotypes and go. Kathy, a 71 year old inland empire resident, certainly sounds high energy, although the golden bachelor will have to wait in line because she's involved with an 81 year old bone. Vee-mong Love that word. We see each other about three to four times a week, including lunches, dinners, shopping and regular satisfying, extraordinary wild monkey sets. I don't know what monkey sex is, so I'm just saying that. Excuse me, I'm belching to that when I don't know what monkey sex is. Kathy wrote in an email okay now. Kathy explained by phone that she and her boyfriend are married to other people and intend to remain so, but one spouse had a stroke and the other is institutionalized. But her and her paramour of being with each other is a welcome comfort, she said. As for the physical part, they each know what they want and aren't afraid to ask for it. The R generation, my generation, the boomers, you know free love and all that, so I'm saying that, okay Again, age can indeed be a benefit, kathy says.
Speaker 1:A Santa Monica resident named McKay, 79, would agree. I have never been more in love. She declared in an email telling me she met an 81 year old man on a dating after, after a decade of caring for and eventually losing a husband to Alzheimer's. 81's a little old for me and I'm 75. Okay, my husband's 76. I've never had better sex than McKay went on. We both used canes for balance in bed. I'm just saying that's not where we go out. We often get comments about how young people, romantic and cute we are together. We smile at each other and say to ourselves that they only knew what we do in bed.
Speaker 1:Ordinarily, a journalist wants as many details as possible, but there are exceptions. Thank you, steve. As a public service announcement, I'd like to point out that being frisky can be risky and I don't know if Medicare covers treatment for everything that can go wrong. So be careful. As both the AARP and good housekeeping have warned, alarming surges in sexually transmitted diseases have been reported among older adults in recent years, thanks in part to the magic pills for men, dating apps and changing norms. Gone are the days when people got married and stayed married, said Paul Nash, a USC gerontologist professor who studies sexual behavior among older adults. Some of them naively think there's no risk for STDs. Better think again. Folks right, and neither they nor their doctors talk about it.
Speaker 1:I've headed out to Palm Springs for my own bit of research and stopped at the Mitchell Senior Center where Annette Spina 84 meter trenchant observation. I've noticed a lot of single people, elderly people playing pickleball who the heck knows what pickleball is? I mean, I know what it is, I've heard it, I've seen it on commercials, I've heard about it, but I don't really know what it is. And hooking up. Spina said a lot of the relationships have turned into really good marriages the Golden Bachelor, by the way. A widower says he wants to meet someone who plays pickleball while I'm married. But that lets me out. Okay, if he lived in Palm Springs perhaps he wouldn't need a TV show to find a date.
Speaker 1:I'll say Spina runs the senior centers Marjong class which was attended by several gay men who gave me a quick primer on current romantic trends in the local gay community. They said through bees, a relationship involving three people are a thing and that open marriages are not all uncommon. David Sawyer, 67, told me he's in a monogamous relationship but said he and his husband are not the norm in the desert. If you're a man, sawyer said you're most likely going out to bars, going out on dates and hooking up with guys ungrimed. I guess love has always been complicated, which may be why not everyone at the senior center is looking for romance. I don't want to find a guy and have to take care of him in a couple of years, said Michelle Dunphy, a widow.
Speaker 1:I mentioned that I was heading to the nest, an Indian Wells restaurant and nightclub where desert lovebirds have flocked for decades. This brought a nervous chuckle from Dunphy's friend, angela. I flew out there, she said. Angela told me she once danced with a man who was entirely too happy to see her, and she has not returned. It was an off season Tuesday night, but I found the lively scene at the nest where owner Doty Henry said numerous couples have gotten married after meeting there. She said she runs a classy and comfortable meeting place for people of all ages, not a pickup hall. There's live music and dancing, though she and her husband, kevin have split. His band was performing tonight. John Russo told me he was divorced and spent years dropping by the nest and other places looking for a relationship. Five years ago he met a widow named Wendy on a dating app and they decided to see a movie for their first date. When I walked to that theater and saw her, I knew she was the one, said Russo, who sat with his wife for five years at the piano bar, waiting for the music to begin and for their friend Roz Wallenka to join them.
Speaker 1:I can't say whether anyone on the dance floor was on the prowl for wild monkey sex. I hate that. But if I had to bet I'd say most were just happy to get out of the house and have a nice time with friends or strangers on a hot summer night. Loneliness among older adults has been called an epidemic and these people are doing what they can to escape it. An 86 year old man named Bill danced Every dance, as did a woman in a cowboy hat who told me she's been there every night for 20 years. She loves my mom. She loved to wear cowboy hats. She loved to dance. Brenda Oliveris, who married who's married danced with her gal pals, including Helen Maritsea, who said she wouldn't mind meeting someone. When Wallenka arrived to hang out with her pals, the Russo, she told me she's been single for many years and would like to find a companion for her titanium heels.
Speaker 1:I want to be a nurse or a purse I love that expression, right, I heard more than once in the desert Wallenka's 76, but I want someone younger because I have a lot of life in me and I want to go and do things and have fun with whatever time I have left. If you can make me laugh and you could dance halfway, you're in. She said that at the urge of a friend. She applied to the contestant on the Golden Bachelor but hasn't heard back her expectations. Oh love, they're not going to put a 76 year old woman with a 71 year old man. Why not? I say? Wallenka said being almost 76 myself. You never know. She looks younger than the Golden Bachelor. There's plenty of pickleball in the desert and for younger old love works in mysterious ways.
Speaker 1:Thank you, steve Lopez at theladymescom. I love you. Anyway, oh, he's about to Wow. He's going to be doing a new column. We'll focus on the blessing and burdens of advancing age.
Speaker 1:I would love to have you on my podcast, steve Lopez. I'm small change, but I still tick tock. Bubby still wants to have you on our morning bitches podcast and sound how some folks are challenging the stigma associated with older adults. See, I'm a baby boomer and guess what, I never give up. So if you don't know me by now, you should, because you follow me on TikTok 576,000 followers.
Speaker 1:I love you all and I love all of you who listen to my podcast. You know I have a lot of opinions about a lot of things where people have squelched me down and I just got to be me and so that's why I started this podcast. So on Saturday, tom Gregory the actor, collector, garbage picker in Mohal and Drive when he used to live there. Now he lives in East or South Hampton, I don't know which Hampton. Anyway. So if no one told you they love you today, I love you because you're here and I got to be me. So I'll talk at you later. I'll put this up and don't forget, if no one told you they love you today, I love you because you're you.