Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
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Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Hit & Run
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When Leslie had a little fender bender with a parked car, and the owner nowhere in sight, she had a decision to make. Should she leave a note with her information or would it be ok if she left, hoping the owner’s insurance would cover the cost?
What do you think she did? After all, it was an accident and isn’t that what insurance is for? The besties were not in agreement on every point but as they expected, God intervened and lessons were learned for everyone involved.
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SPEAKER_05You can put the name together.
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SPEAKER_06It's your cash, okay. My Wonder Woman t-shirt on.
SPEAKER_02Wonder Woman. One of these days we'll wear them at the same time since you gifted me one. But accidentally. Oh, was it accidental? Don't tell me that. I don't want to know that.
SPEAKER_06I didn't give it to you accidentally. I said we'll accidentally wear it at the same time.
SPEAKER_02Oh, I see what you mean. I thought you gifted it to me accidentally. I'm like, don't, don't, don't mess with, don't mess with don't mess with my memory.
SPEAKER_03I meant to give it to me. Do not give it to yeah.
SPEAKER_06Okay. So welcome to another episode of Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn. Brooklyn. So good to be here. It is. What's up? What's up? What's up? Um I'm I'm gonna say it like this. I'm grateful to be here.
SPEAKER_02Okay. Good. Very good. As am I.
SPEAKER_06This is what I was thinking. I think that in this episode, we should talk about things we're grateful for. Sure. I don't know how many of you all did this uh 10 days ago. Um, maybe when your families were gathering around Thanksgiving or whatever, and people go around the table and say, you know, what are you grateful for this year? Or what are you thankful for this year? And you know, I don't know if families do that. We've never done that. Actually, we may have done it once or twice, but um, but there's a lot to be grateful for.
SPEAKER_04And there is in many cases, people are grateful for not fighting at the table about politics and about different world events and different stuff, you know.
SPEAKER_03That would be worth being grateful for.
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SPEAKER_06You know, my uh my mom uh got into a conversation um on Thanksgiving with someone, and Monique and I looked at each other, and we just kind of like walked away. Back away. Slowly I turned. Yeah, it was really good. It was it was nice to be with my family. So I'm grateful for that. That's good.
SPEAKER_02I'm grateful too. Um I'm just gonna be very mindful of the holiday and its traditional the where it came from. And um, so I am going to just keep that in mind because it does create um trauma for people, um, understandably so, because of what happened to indigenous people in the United States at that time and what was going on um while Turkey was being prepared. Um but I did uh get together with um a pretty uh large group of friends at a friend's home because my children, my sister, my brother, um they we did not all get together because my niece, Noelle, is getting married next week. Yeah, so yeah, so we're all getting together in Dallas or outside of Dallas to for her um wedding, and so we thought let's not go crazy trying to get together for in a week for the holiday. Yeah, yeah. So Isaiah and I went to celebration. Pardon?
SPEAKER_05That'll be a nice celebration.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, it will be. Um, so yeah, we had a wonderful time with some friends here. Good food, and no one could believe Isaiah got so tall, and one one person came to me after um and said, Um, I thought he was I thought he was a senior in high school, not college.
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SPEAKER_02Because they, you know, they've all seen him throughout the year, some of them we hadn't seen for a while, so you know Isaiah shot up. So yeah, so that was really nice. And he wasn't the youngest one there, so he was trying to drop some knowledge on a young man who was there. And um, that that his mom asked him to speak with him. And so that was, yeah, it's it's so hard to really consider him being a big old grown-up, but yeah, we had a good time. I did something that was interesting.
SPEAKER_06What oh lord. So I I was I, you know, I was down in in Florida, I was staying at my house while I was uh visiting Monique as well, and I took a walk around my neighborhood, which I don't do very often. I was by myself. This was Thanksgiving morning, right? Got my steps in and stuff, so I saw a neighbor. Yeah, he was in front of his house, and I'm like, Which which side? Um, like in the street before me. Okay, got it. And I'm like, hello, neighbor, I'm your neighbor. I live right over there in the corner. Yes, and he's like, Oh, that house or whatever. So we got the chatting. I looked at what he's doing. I'm like, what are you about to do? Fry a turkey? He's like, Yeah, I'm about to light it up. I'm like, I love fried turkey.
SPEAKER_03You did not invite.
SPEAKER_06And I wrangled up an invitation and a plate of food from my neighbor that I just met. I said, let's exchange numbers.
SPEAKER_02Oh my gosh, Leslie. It wasn't because you didn't have any food turkey and Linda's corn pudding.
SPEAKER_06Oh my gosh, no, I was I was I felt joyful. What possessed you to do that though? And when he texted me and called and and called me back, I hurried up and went to the fridge and prepared a plate of greens for him so we could exchange food. I wasn't just like the neighborhood mooch, you know. But so we did have a nice, like a 15-minute chat. And I did go back hours later for my food. Wow.
SPEAKER_03So very nice.
SPEAKER_06Then I went someplace else and got another plate of food.
SPEAKER_04Isn't that that's what we do in Jamaica for Christmas on the neighborhood?
SPEAKER_02That's what we that's what we do in Jamaica for Christmas, but we don't take food per se. We don't we exchange like um cakes, um uh desserts, black cake, or whatever. By the time I got to Monique, I was kind of full. Wait, this was before you went to Monsters.
SPEAKER_06Oh my gosh. You know, we always do our dinner late. So I had a long time to make my rounds.
SPEAKER_02Wow. Funny. Funny. Very you, very, very, very, very you.
SPEAKER_06I um speaking of um gratitude, grateful, I had a um, I call it almost a testimony to um to say. And I'm just I don't know. I how does this relate to being grateful or or or thankful? But um but anyway, let me tell you this interesting.
SPEAKER_02You told me a little bit about it, but you were kind of rushing to right, right.
SPEAKER_06Okay, so let me tell you the story.
SPEAKER_02So yeah, but I want all the juicy bits.
SPEAKER_06I don't want, you know, don't summer everybody wants the juicy bits, but anyway, but it's a good story.
SPEAKER_02Okay, go.
SPEAKER_06About three or so days ago, I was pulling into the parking lot at Kohl's and I drive an SUV. And as I was turning into this parking space, right, I heard and I'm like, I just hit this car. And it wasn't just any car, it was this beautiful new looking um red Lexus.
SPEAKER_01Oh wow.
SPEAKER_06And I got out and looked and I scraped the bumper at the rear bumper, and I'm like, their rear rear bumper? Their rear bumper, okay.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_06Turns out I hit it with my front, you know, the front uh passenger. So anyway, and I'm like, oh man. So I hurried up, got a piece of paper, and I wrote on on the on the paper, I'm really sorry, but I gotta leave. Right. No, I'm I'm kidding, I didn't say that. I know I did it. So sorry, but it sucks to be you. No, that's not what happened.
SPEAKER_02So I wrote a note and I said, Because you're a child of God, you're not gonna make up.
SPEAKER_06My name is Leslie. I'm so sorry that I scraped your rear bumper. Give me a call back, and I'll take care of whatever it costs to repair it, you know. And then I left my number, and like eight minutes later, um, the gentleman calls back.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_06Um I can say his name because who knows who Ray is.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_06Um, so Ray calls me back and he says, you know, yeah, you hit my car, and wow, I can't believe that you actually left a note. I thank you for that. And I'm like, who wouldn't leave a note? And he's like, Man, most people wouldn't do that. And I'm thinking, like, how is it possible that most people wouldn't do that?
SPEAKER_02You see, Les. You know, this is this is where I don't understand.
SPEAKER_06But but what do you do you think that most people would just hit a car and leave? Actually, that's a stupid question.
SPEAKER_02People, wait, there's something, there's even a term called hit and run. Exactly. People hit people and leave.
SPEAKER_04People hit people and leave.
SPEAKER_02Much less cars. What are you kidding me? Some people probably think, oh, they can afford it because they're oh what? Because it's a nice car.
SPEAKER_06Yeah, it's like it's nothing. But don't they cameras everywhere? Like, could you imagine if somebody like I saw you, you know, and but that's what you care about.
SPEAKER_02That's not what most people, I won't even say most because I don't know. I'm gonna say many, and I'm gonna be very comfortable.
SPEAKER_06But he was shocked, and I'm thinking, like, what the what? I just don't get it. It's not something that I can relate to. I would never be able to be comfortable. I would like be scared driving, thinking somebody's gonna run into me if I did something like that.
SPEAKER_02Like when you park before going to the to the ball game. Yeah, right. When you park illegally, yeah, but let's hold, hold right there before you move on. Let me just say. All right, would you leave a note?
SPEAKER_06No, that's a stupid question. I know the answer to that. Hell no, you wouldn't leave a note.
SPEAKER_02Um, no, I would have waited there for him. Um so you really think that most people would do what you did. Do you th you really think that that is, I'm not saying what you would like the world to be.
SPEAKER_06Yeah, yeah. I'm saying question really because what he said to you is probably from his experience. But that's where you're wrong.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_06That's where you're wrong.
SPEAKER_02Okay.
SPEAKER_06I know I could, I'm not gonna out anybody, but I can name three people right now that have what I call a dim view of the world or people or whatever. And they've had nothing but good fortune in their lives. You know, they're they anticipate this danger or this rotten world, or the world is so cold and ugly, right? But they've had nothing but good things happen to them, you know, like they've not been, you know, assaulted or beat up in in by the world in that way that they're afraid of or anticipating. Right. It's so bad, it's so bad. And it's like, but so bad things haven't happened to you. You know, we have trials and tribulations, but you know what I mean.
SPEAKER_02I do. Yeah. Yeah. And so I will leave that there. Okay, move on now. You may go.
SPEAKER_06So, so when he kept saying, you know, I can't believe it, I can't believe it. I'm like, okay, I'm gonna take care of it, let me know. He says, Well, I'm going to go and I'll get some quote uh uh some quotes and I'll let you know. And I'm like, okay, fine. So on Sun on Monday, he gave me a call and he says, Now I'm Miss Leslie.
SPEAKER_02You get a title.
SPEAKER_04I guess if I wasn't so nice, I'd be that that itch leslie, you know.
SPEAKER_03You better, you better pay for my car. He would have been like, hey, yeah, what's up? I'd ghost and block.
SPEAKER_06Okay, Miss Leslie. I can't even imagine that scenario. So he went and got three quotes.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_06He said the first one was $1,400. Okay, the second one was $1,200, and he's currently at one of the garages that was the best price he got was $800. And it was coincidentally, it was right around the corner where I used to live. And I would walk by that shop every single day.
SPEAKER_03That's crazy. Okay.
SPEAKER_06But anyway, so he says, I'm here at this shop and it's $800. And I said to him, and it was heartfelt and real. I said, you know, you have a beautiful car, it seems like it's new. He says, you know, I was telling my friend I don't like to drive the car too much because something like this could happen. And I'm like, you know, I felt bad. I'm like, I don't want you to start thinking you shouldn't drive your good stuff. Right.
SPEAKER_01You know, right.
SPEAKER_06I said, you only live once. Here I am giving the lecture now. You only, I really did. I said, you know, you never know how long you're gonna be here. You if you have nice things, I said, my grandmother used to cover the couches with plastic and and reserve the dishes for the good, the good dishes for company. I'm like, who's better than her grandchildren? But the good company can eat on the dishes. I said, use your stuff, but anyway, yeah, so $800. You're so old and wise, Les. So I said, I'm just old, right? You're such a sage. So I I I spoke to the shop owner, gave him my number, and I said, I'll come in the morning and pay the money, you know? Okay, and then that was all right, thank you, thank you, Miss Leslie, whatever. And then I would say 20 minutes after I hung up. Now, listen to this.
SPEAKER_01Okay.
SPEAKER_0620 minutes after I hung up from the shop owner, my partner, my colleague at work called me. I was off the following day. He's like, Les, are you able to work a couple of hours for me? I can pay you seven hundred dollars. 20 minutes after I got off the call, as he said, I can pay you $700. I'm like, okay. So before I went in to work for him, um, I went to the shop. The car looked beautiful. Oh, I admit I left out a part. I left out a part.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, what happened to your car?
SPEAKER_06Yeah, so so I took my car to um a place that um you know typically um fixes these high-end cars or whatever. And the guy wrote up a quote or whatever and gave me the quote. And you want to know how much he charge he was gonna charge me to fix my car? I can't even with two zeros. Wait a minute. A scrape on the front bumper.
SPEAKER_02Hold the so the car that you hit, the car that you hit was 800 and your car and mine was 3,900.
SPEAKER_06So I said I knew that wasn't gonna, I was gonna like take some Vaseline and start rubbing it off or whatever. Because it wasn't dented at all. It just looked like the paint was scraped. It took it. Got it, got it, got it, right, right, right.
SPEAKER_02So I'm like, or it could have been bumper residue. Yeah, it was red. No, I mean uh my blue card did have some red on it.
SPEAKER_04I'm laughing now because it has a happy ending. And nobody got hurt, no, no animals were killed in the making of this story.
SPEAKER_03Oh my gosh. Wow, okay.
SPEAKER_06So that's ridiculous. So 30, I knew that wasn't gonna happen. So after I paid for the guy, I said, Hey when you take a look at my bumper, and you know, and um he's like, Well, if I have to paint it, I can blend in the paint for you, and it may it'll cost about $700.
SPEAKER_01Right.
SPEAKER_06I'm like, that's better than $3,900, I said to myself. But then he says, you know, but I might be able to just buff it and whatever. That'll be $70. And I'm like, okay, he's like, pull it all in. I'm on my way to work now. He says, pull it in. Right ten minutes later, he's like, no problem at all. And the car looked brand new, like nothing ever happened. He's like, that'll be $70. Wow.
SPEAKER_02Wow.
SPEAKER_06I'm like, this is my lucky day. I need to hit cars more often.
SPEAKER_02The level of ripoffosity.
SPEAKER_06What? I mean, the the quote that they had at like a new bumper and then labor, paint labor, then there was body labor, and then there was this and clips, and I'm like, wow, the car is seven years old. Wow. Jeez, $70. $70. I'm good as new. So wait, the story's almost over. Okay, you don't have to hurry. So before, listen, before, while I'm at the shop, I said, Well, the guy did tell me that he took a day off from work and had to run around. You know, I'm like, you know what? I zelled him a hundred dollars, right?
SPEAKER_01Ray.
SPEAKER_06Yeah.
SPEAKER_01Oh, wow.
SPEAKER_06Because I said he took off work to run around for the future. So I didn't want the guy I thought you were talking about colleague. I didn't want um, I didn't want the guy to be out, you know. Yeah, I felt bad. It's like, you know, it's inconvenient running around taking off work to get tried, whatever. So I sell him $100.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_06And when I did that, he called me right away. And what I think happened is I don't think he knew that I was at the shop. Maybe he thought like I was gonna stiff him and just say, take a hundred dollars, he's out, you know. Right. I don't know why he called, but I said when he called, I said, Listen, I'm at the shop. Your car looks amazing, it's finished. And he's like, You're there? And I said, Yeah, so I sent you a hundred dollars so that you could um, you know, I know you told me that you had to take a day off, and he was like, I cannot believe it. You blew his and I'm like, he he just kept saying, I I I I can't believe it. I'm so glad I met you. Like, you are incredible. Even the shop owner, he's like, Nobody would do what you did. Nobody. I said, Listen. See, there you go again. I said, I've lived a long time. People absolutely would do this. I said, I get treatment like this. He's like, okay, well, 90% of the people wouldn't do this.
SPEAKER_04I said, Well, I'll be the 10%.
SPEAKER_02Right, right. I won't tell you, I won't tell you where my mind is going right now, but maybe, maybe after. Because when you did that, when you did that, I've lived all this life and that's never happened to me. I I want to tell you what came to mind, but keep going, because this is such a sweet story.
SPEAKER_06So, so um, so I sent uh Zel him the $100. So now we're on the phone talking, and I'm like, look, I said, I just want to let you know that the Lord covers me. And when I do things that I think are right in his mind, in his eye, in his sight, that I get it back tenfold. And I said, Ray, let me tell you a story. I said, after you told me how much it was going to cost to cover this car to pay for this car, I got a phone call from my colleague. I was not supposed to be at work today, but he asked me if I can work for him and he would give me $700. He said, Really? I said, you know, I think that it's related. The fact that I'm here paying for cars. Really?
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_06He's like, what kind, may I ask, what kind of work do you do?
SPEAKER_03You cover somebody and get $700. Okay.
SPEAKER_06I said, he asked me to cover him for three hours and he's gonna, he's like, what kind of work do you do? So I said, I'm a physician, but I just want to let you know that I think that these two things were linked linked out one hand and in another.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_06And the last part of the story is, and this is really the part that kind of blows your mind. So I'm working for my partner. Um and he gives me a call and says, Les, I'm running a little late. I'm gonna give you $800.
SPEAKER_02That's when God says, in case I'm like in case you weren't sure. Wow.
SPEAKER_06Can you believe that? Wow.
SPEAKER_01Yeah.
SPEAKER_06The only thing more sure would be if he gave me $870.
SPEAKER_03But these two were unrelated. It was unrelated.
SPEAKER_02That was on you. That's your responsibility, but he took care of the other guy. But isn't that something, Ann? That's lovely. I love those. We've had we've had several of these teams where the numbers just align like that over the years. Yeah. But that's why I say that these things do happen for us. Yeah.
SPEAKER_06You know?
SPEAKER_02Yeah. They do. They do. They do. Okay.
SPEAKER_06I mean, just think if I didn't stop and leave my number, I'd still be like tossing and turning, and oh, I haven't slept in a couple days. And you ain't gonna believe what the guy is gone. I couldn't reach him in a tone. It would be terrible, you know.
SPEAKER_04You couldn't at start drinking.
SPEAKER_03Oh my gosh, I can't.
SPEAKER_04I had to do it. I had to do it.
SPEAKER_03Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_04Yes, and like I said, like I said a few times, and God said, My good and faithful servant.
SPEAKER_03Good and faithful servant. Yes, yes, yes, yes. I love that story. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love it.
SPEAKER_06Yeah, Ray, man, he just couldn't believe it. He's like, Who are you?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, yeah. And I think, you know, I'd like to believe that they're gonna pay it forward.
SPEAKER_06They're going to And I asked him to do that.
SPEAKER_02Yeah.
SPEAKER_06I I said that to him. I said, you know, I'm I look at myself as an elder of yours. And um when I see things like that, this is how we pay it forward with good experiences and people doing right by them.
SPEAKER_02Right, you know, exactly, exactly. Yeah, that's a beautiful thing. I love that.
SPEAKER_06But you know, the other thing that I think is that I always think things happen for a reason. And who knows who or why this happened, but maybe it was something for Ray to know. Yeah, maybe it was something for Glenn, the shop owner, to know that there were people, you know what I mean.
SPEAKER_02Absolutely. Um it's like sometimes we think that we experience life being in the center of God's plan. Right? And we're not. We're over A. We're a part of it, and so we're out here. He's using us to bless other people, he's using us to teach other people, he's using us, you know, as bit players. He's you so you don't have to be the central figure to be a vessel. And so yeah, yeah, I believe that. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. That's lovely. How do you feel? How do you feel?
SPEAKER_06Broke.
SPEAKER_02Wow. Okay, okay, all right. Here you come. Here, here comes, here comes the real Leslie. Here she goes, here she comes. She used up all of her good.
SPEAKER_04I had $800 in my pocket.
SPEAKER_02She used up all of her goodies.
SPEAKER_04I needed that.
SPEAKER_02Lesson. I needed that even though I didn't even know I was gonna get it. But I need you know what I'm gonna use that for? Yeah, you came out okay. You came out oh I think so.
SPEAKER_04I think so. It's a good story.
SPEAKER_02I love that story. I love that story. I I was gonna tell you something that happened to me, but sorry, but um your nails look good. Thank you. It was from before I have to a couple of them got a little chippy chip, but it's okay. Thank you, thank you. Um I had just a you know, not not in any, but this is my this is this is my thing, right? Sometimes we we we're like anticipating these huge, big, you know, what I like to call partner of the Red Sea type miracles. And sometimes they're just so subtle and so like right there, and you don't even notice it, or I try to notice it because it it's it's not the it's not the big things all the time. And if you're only waiting for those, you're gonna miss all the things that happen throughout your day that are just these little mini miracles. I won't even call them mini, they're miracles outright, you know.
SPEAKER_06Um okay, what do you mean?
SPEAKER_02So well, I was I was um doing my writing this morning, and I every day I was um uh thinking about, you know, I'm an entrepreneur, and so I was thinking about what some money generating um activities could be. That's a part of my practice, not a daily practice, but every I'm gonna say every week, week and a half, I just that would you call money church? No, that's when you look at your money. No, this is this is where you just write down what are ways that you can generate money. There's so many skills that we've developed over all of these years, and I think people don't realize that these skills are valuable. So anyway, I was going to do that.
SPEAKER_06I remember you had me do that, and it was so hard for me. You like you gotta write 20 things, yeah. Ways to make money around the podcast or whatever.
SPEAKER_02Right.
SPEAKER_06And it was like, what are you talking about? I got to three, and I'm like, I'm done. But but but I got to 20. You pushed and pushed it.
SPEAKER_02You did, you got to 20. You see, that's the that's the point right there. It's like, it's just like anything else. You think I'm done. Oh, I've lifted enough weights, I'm done. I can't, I can't, I've run too far. Oh, I can't, I can't. And then if something is pushing you to keep going, if there was a lion chasing me, I would I could run more. I could run a marathon, I think.
SPEAKER_06If a lion was chasing me.
SPEAKER_03That line, that line would be all over you. You would not. You would you would get me, you would get me at mile mark of 0.5. That lion wouldn't have been picking you out of its teeth. Oh my gosh. No, no, no, no. I'm just saying.
SPEAKER_02We just um just diminish our capacity a lot. We do that a lot, right? As soon as it gets a little harder, uh, can't do it, can't do it. Oh, I I'm not supposed to eat that for to help with my blood pressure. Oh, I can't, I can't, I just can't. I'm not supposed to smoke, I can't, all the things. Um that's true. But anyway, I'm making I I I am a part of this um group, that entrepreneurial group, that we get together and we just get on a call um where we um just commit to an hour of getting one thing done in that hour. Just one thing done. And then we stay on the call.
SPEAKER_06Remember, you told me about that. It's like you do a zoom call of something, yeah, and you guys just sit.
SPEAKER_02This is you know what? Yeah. Yeah, it's it's not it's not new. I've done I've done this before. But but this told me about that, yeah. But but it's it's a way it's about accountability, it's about showing up for yourself, it's about accountability. And so you get on the zoom call. Most people put on their camera, but you know, we're not looking at the camera. And because you're working. Because you're working. When you put in the chat, when you start, you put in the chat what your intentions are for the for the hour, what you intend to do. And then um at the end, five minutes before the end, three minutes before the end, the moderator will come back on and say, They would kick me out the group.
SPEAKER_06I would just keep interrupting. They would kick me out. They would say, That, Leslie, get the heck out of here. She's distracting us, she's making jokes, she ain't working. I see her eating, she's looking at TV, get her out. She ain't serious. But anyway.
SPEAKER_02But we're all grown-ups, right? You used to do independent study. No, that did your professor have to be on well, maybe not. Okay, I'll take that back. I'll take it. I'll take that back. That's why you did well in med school, but not independent study. Um, but anyway, but it it does, it does cost. And before people say, Oh, what, it's just paying to sit there. The thing is that money is a motivator. And you know if you spend a certain amount of money for something, you're gonna show up. If things are free, sometimes you don't show up because it's like, eh, it's no big deal. It's free. You're right about that. You're right about that. So, since we're talking about commitment and we're talking about accountability, anyway, so I'm there and my intention for the call was to um develop my email. You know, I'm I sent out emails to my email group um two or three times a week. So I'm developing my next set of emails. So I'm writing, and um by the time I got to the end, I realized that I had done two things in one. I had realized in what I was writing in the email, I wrote about something, a practice that I have developed, and I realized that this is something that I could teach this practice. And I realized that I can charge for teaching this practice. And so that was kind of exciting for me because I went into it kind of the in this lack, oh, I gotta, you know, I gotta do this email, I have to, and I came out of it with an email, which was one thing, and a money generating idea that I put into the email. And wow, yeah. And so I was like, Lord, you are so good, you are so good, so good. We have to always believe that there is there is enough for us, and um, you know, and that just kind of not thinking about what you are lacking, but what you get to do, what you get to have, who you get to be.
SPEAKER_06You know what I mean? Um that's just how you get to show up and the example that you can set.
SPEAKER_02Right, right. These things are I know money is important. This is not about not wanting money, but money is not the only important thing, and money's purpose is to have joy in your life, to do things that are rewarding, to all these things. So money even isn't the end, money is a means to something else. So, what if you can get those something else's while you're making money, or get those something else's and not make money, because you're actually at at your goal anyway? Do you know what I mean? I can, I really do. So, yeah. So, anyway, so I would I got really excited about that, but then when you call me to tell me about the car that I had to interrupt you, I I had completely forgotten it because it um it was like, oh, okay, let me listen, let me listen to what you have to say. Yeah.
SPEAKER_06Oh, thanks for hanging with us. This has been another episode of Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn, Brooklyn.
