Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Ep151 Am I trippin? Facing the truth about over shopping
A thirty-year-old sweater sparks a surprising truth: when your clothes outlive trends, milestones and possibly lifespan, maybe the smartest style move is to stop buying and start noticing. The Besties celebrate their three-year mark by replaying a fan-favorite conversation that ages well- filled with stories about closets, boundaries, and the everyday choices that quietly define who they are.
Chapter Markers
0:00 Anniversary Replay Setup
2:20 Show Intro And Warmup
4:10 Closet Clutter And No-New-Shopping Pledge
9:15 Two Different Boots At Work
13:30 Donating And Letting Go
13:55 Introducing The Card Game
16:20 Who’s Tripping In Stores
19:05 Tipping On Takeout
20:30 Prime Sharing And Privacy
22:15 Line-Cutting Etiquette Showdown
25:30 Designer Bag Swap And Honesty
28:00 Leftovers From A Friend’s Plate
31:00 Wrap-Up And Tease For Next Time
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So and in honor of our three year anniversary, we started in 2022. Okay. So in honor of our three-year anniversary, we're doing some replays of some of the I guess you could say oldies or some of the fun episodes from the past. So in this episode, we started out talking about. I'm laughing already, just thinking about it. About how should we buy new clothes and do we have too many clothes? Because I noted that I keep my clothing so long that I might run out of life before the clothing is over.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, don't tell them too much now, because we have to we have to um They have to listen to it. They have to listen to it. They have to listen to it. Okay. Listen.
SPEAKER_02:Listen. But it's so funny. I listened to it again and I'm like, this is hilarious. You castigated me and called me a liar.
SPEAKER_00:No, I didn't do it then. I'm gonna do it now. Oh it's a damn lie. You said, Leslie. Talking about what? Me? No, I don't know about. I don't need an accountability. Thank you. But no, no, leave me alone, Biach. That is that is how you came off. But indeed. Have you changed your mind, Leslie? Do you want to do a research on that?
SPEAKER_02:I need help. Everything I listened to, it was a lie. But you'll you'll you'll hear it. But wait, here's another thing that was pretty striking about this episode. The episode originally aired about two years ago. And a whole lot has has happened in two years. The the one of the most important things is that the person I spoke speak about, my former spouse, I am no longer married to. So I talk about some of our um relational dynamics. So it's kind of funny to um to hear it. And I'm like, no wonder I'm not there anymore. Anyway, do you need to say any more about this upcoming episode?
SPEAKER_00:No, I just um hope you guys enjoy it. It's a blast from the past.
SPEAKER_02:And it's kind of funny because we go into asking each other these questions, and it really just pulls out our personality. We really have these kind of talks.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, because the way that the way that this one um kind of halfway through, we started asking each other questions from a a game that Leslie bought and sent it to me, a card game. So um the hilarious. And please put some comments in with your responses to what you what you thought about the questions that were being asked. They're hilarious. We hope you enjoy it. And here is the episode. Hi Ans. Hey, Leslie. What's cooking? Good looking, all good in the neighborhood.
SPEAKER_02:Welcome to another episode of Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn. Brooklyn.
SPEAKER_00:Glad to have you with us today.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, thanks for for joining us. But I'm always gonna be like rushing into welcome to another episode of Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn because I get so distracted sometime that I'll forget. And then 20 minutes into the podcast, people may be like, Who are we listening to?
SPEAKER_00:Who is this? Who is this?
SPEAKER_02:I've been trying to catch you, so Ange, your outfit matches with your background. Okay, you know, you're into this color wheel and all of this stuff. I'm into it. It's a little similar in the same family as what I'm wearing.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, you're we're we're coordinated. We're coordinated.
SPEAKER_02:I you shouldn't be surprised at this point. No, no, no. I'm not surprised, but I put this on. You know when I start laughing like that, there's a story, right?
SPEAKER_00:There is a meander coming, even though you don't call it that because it's not me. Right, right, right.
SPEAKER_02:But I realized, and this is gonna be one of the new things that I'm gonna stick to for 2024, but it's not a problem for me because it's not a new thing, okay, that I'm not going to do a lot of shopping.
SPEAKER_00:Oh, right.
SPEAKER_02:Ange.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_02:You know, I keep things, my clothing and things for a long time, right? This I put on. So I got this sweater from Kim Kohl's.
SPEAKER_00:No, you did not.
SPEAKER_02:What? Remember when I used to visit her in LA, and I think it was around the time she was still doing Living Single.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_02:I used to raid her closets and come back with like all these clothes because she was this shopaholic, right?
SPEAKER_00:Right, right.
SPEAKER_02:Wearing one time and moving on. Exactly. All these designer things and whatever. Right. I would come home with the motherlow. So this is one of the sweaters that I got. It's gorgeous. Right?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, with the ripping.
SPEAKER_02:And it has pearls and you see.
SPEAKER_00:Oh wow, it's beautiful.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. So you couldn't really tell from far away good. But Ange, I must have had this for 30 years. Maybe 28, 30 years.
SPEAKER_00:Nasty.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. Okay. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:I really don't.
SPEAKER_02:You know me. I keep shoes. I keep clothes. You do. And they're like, like you would never know that they're the I keep stuff. So here's the reason why I won't be doing much more shopping in my life. Okay. I'm going to run out of time. I was just thinking recently, it's like if I keep things for even 20 more years. Right, right.
SPEAKER_00:The stuff you bought yesterday, for example.
SPEAKER_02:If I bought things yesterday, I'm gonna run out of time to wear them. Yes, you are. So I gotta stop shopping now so that I can have it if I live another 20 years, maybe 25.
SPEAKER_00:Yes. I've got all the things I need. Plus, Les, you know that there are a lot of things in your closet with the tag still on them.
SPEAKER_02:Not a lot, but some. Leslie. Because um, I give, I give, I, I some. Okay. A lot is relative. So okay, all right. Yes, a lot is relative. But anyway, so I remembered this that I'm not gonna be doing a lot more shopping because this is 30 years old and it still looks amazing.
SPEAKER_00:So here's a question. Um, to what extent do you want me to hold you accountable? Zero declaration. Zero. So when I come up again, okay. All right.
SPEAKER_02:And the reason is because I don't need I don't need your stinking. I don't need your stink, but okay. Because I'm not resolving this. This is not something that I'm struggling with.
SPEAKER_00:Leslie, what are you talking about? Shopping. You must not think I know you.
SPEAKER_02:This is not a struggle for me, and I promise you, I don't have a problem. I don't have places to store things, I don't need any more. I'm blessed to say I have all that I need, and I really don't shop very, very rarely. But anywho, okay, let's move on.
SPEAKER_00:Can I ask you just one question?
SPEAKER_02:One. And then we can move on.
SPEAKER_00:Yes.
SPEAKER_02:How do you like my sweater?
SPEAKER_00:How many pairs of listen?
SPEAKER_02:Wait, wait, wait, wait. You can tell. I'll just I'll just you can tell that this is a 30-year-old sweater because it has shoulder pads. Oh so if I just eliminate the shoulder pads, and it's a little too big, but if I eliminate the shoulder pads, you would think it was brand new.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I like shoulder pads.
SPEAKER_02:Wait till Kim he is about this.
SPEAKER_00:That's so hilarious. We won't even hear my question.
SPEAKER_02:Oh no, go ahead. What?
SPEAKER_00:How many pairs of black boots do you have? Just answer it. Don't don't evaluate. How many pairs of black boots? I have a lot. Maybe so. Give me a number. Okay, so I'm talking about everything other than shoes, not just ankle boots versus above the knee versus mid-calf. Everything.
SPEAKER_02:I said about seven.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. All right.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, you're gonna mention the time.
SPEAKER_00:I I was gonna get your permission.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, we gotta put the picture up. Oh, we gotta put a link to something. Okay. We'll do it in Patreon. We'll put a when I I go to work very early in the morning. I'm at work sometime at 6:30 in the morning or seven. So very often I am leaving the house without too much thinking.
SPEAKER_00:Right.
SPEAKER_02:There was a time when I was really busy. I was gonna leave work, head to a conference, and then head to Brooklyn to go to a friend's um father's wake. When I got to work, I'm sitting at the nurse's station before I changed into my scrubs. And someone, the nurse next to me, said, Why are you wearing high heels to work? And I looked down and I'm like, these are not very high. And I looked down and I had on two different boots, two different black boots, two different black ankle boots, and we were cracking, and I laughed so hard I cried, but she said to me, like, didn't you notice the difference in the heel height? It had to be like an inch and a half difference between the right and the no, no, no, no, and you know what? I said, Well, now that you mentioned it, but I was moving so fast in the morning from leaving the house to driving in the car to running into the hospital to walking through the hospital. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Planting myself at the nurses' station for this conversation. I looked down and I'm like, I didn't ever incredible. Incredible. One, I have too much. All right. I'll I'll say that. But the other thing is sometimes we just gotta slow down and notice in our walk.
SPEAKER_00:Right. And and you wouldn't even have noticed if she didn't say anything. It's not like you I don't think I would have noticed unless uh until I took them off, probably.
SPEAKER_02:Right. Oh my goodness. Yeah, and I had so many stops to make after, but it happened.
SPEAKER_00:This is not about judgment, it is me supporting what you want for yourself. So um, and I wanted you honestly to admit that two shoes that match you um you you you get the things that you like.
SPEAKER_02:I do. That's why I say I need nothing more, thank God.
SPEAKER_00:Right, right, right, right. Um yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Um now that this was about laughing at Leslie so far.
SPEAKER_00:No, can I mention one other thing? This is really quick. So it was another pair of boots when I visited and I had a photo shoot, even though um you're you we don't wear the same size shoe. And those boots had never been worn. And I know you've had them for a long time.
SPEAKER_02:At least three years. I've never worn them.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, never been fabulous. Bye. Hi. I had to take the stuffing out of them. Actually, I probably should have put it back in so it would, but I didn't have to walk in them, I just had to pose in them so they were fine, but you had never worn them.
SPEAKER_03:I've got too much.
SPEAKER_00:This is what I'm saying. Anyway, um, shopping closet over at Leslie's house. Whoop whoop.
SPEAKER_02:In that regard, Ern, um, I gave him quite a number of things, and he collected boxes and boxes of things because he took them to the uh migrant shelters this morning to um give away. Not that they would likely appreciate thigh high boots, but um they weren't included in the they were not included, but um we gave away quite a number of things to people who are in need, so nice, very compassionate of you.
SPEAKER_00:Let's do something fun today. Let's, let's, let's, let's.
SPEAKER_02:I sent you. We did this actually back in I think season one or two. We did something similar to this. We started asking each other questions.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Remember? And we did it was a lot of fun. So um I think we we could use some fun.
SPEAKER_00:Let's go. I don't know because I saw some of those. You sent me one of those.
SPEAKER_02:Um yeah, so I sent you this card game. It's called Am I Trippin'?
SPEAKER_00:You tripping? Are you tripping?
SPEAKER_02:And Am I Trippin'? It's how black people talk to each other, like you tripping girl. You tripping.
SPEAKER_00:I can't believe you're explaining it.
SPEAKER_02:What is that? Like, um, what did they call it? It's a different language. It is a different language. People like, why are you saying am I tripping without the G? Without the G. You tripping. Why are you tripping? Why are you tripping? People gotta know that this is real because we black Boomer besties from Brooklyn. We are besties from Brooklyn, shit. Like, next one anyway. Yes, so it's a party, an adult party game where players make a case for who's tripping in scenarios ranging from annoying yet harmless to oh hell no. All right, so that's the game. So it's supposed to be like a um um icebreaker or just a way to laugh or whatever. So you thought that it might be a nice idea for us to look at some of these cards and talk about it.
SPEAKER_00:I think we could fight. Wait, wait, wait, did you mention that for a reason to fight me? Uh yeah. Yeah, and to record it.
SPEAKER_02:Lucky you over.
SPEAKER_00:I want it recorded. I want it. I'll give you a knuckle sandwich.
SPEAKER_02:A couple.
SPEAKER_00:A knuckle sandwich. Did you want to mention who um, well, we'll put it in our um in the notes.
SPEAKER_02:But um I found out about this card game um from one of the serious XM radio hosts, Reese Colbert. She put this game together. Um and here we go.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:She's on Urban View, yeah.
SPEAKER_00:All right, let's hear it. Don't look. Just pull it.
SPEAKER_02:Don't look, just okay. I hate when I am minding my business while shopping and a stranger asks me questions like I work at the store. Every time it happens, I make a scene and go completely off. Am I tripping? Oh wow.
SPEAKER_00:That's nuanced and layered. Yes. Okay, that's why it's in there. It's supposed to create conversation. Okay. You want to go first? Sure. Sure. So the way the game is played, and we're not gonna, you know, do it exactly, but either the answer is, am I tripping? So it's either, yeah, you're tripping. No. Or what was the other one? Is there like it's on the thing. Am I tripping? You hold it up, you hold it up, and it's like am I tripping up? I don't know about that. You see, I don't read that. You I just opened a box. I received the gift from Leslie. I didn't know who it was from until I told you. She asked me about it. I read all of the instructions. I saw what's included. I put it in a in a a nice bag to keep it um uh in in good shape until for the next 20 years. All the things for the next 20 years. Um I tripping.
SPEAKER_02:Uh-huh. Going off when somebody asks you or talks to you like you work in the store.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. I can see how that could be annoying as heck. Why? Because she mentioned it happens often. So it may be just that first time that person did it to them, but if it happens to you many times or several times more than you are comfortable, it just it's just a too bad that that person is gonna is gonna get the the brunt of it. But I think that that would annoy the crap out of me if that were the case, if that happened to me. I don't know that I would, I don't know that I would kind of go off. Go off, right? But but I I I might. It depends if I was hangry, if something else happened, and this was just kind of the straw that broke the camel's back. But I could see a situation, um not as often now because I've really found I've really found a peaceful place in my life, but I could understand that happening to someone. I'll say it that way. What are you saying? All right.
SPEAKER_02:I think that what's not what we're not what you haven't mentioned is why this person may be upset if people keep asking. It's happened to me a few times, and it's uh it's based on uh a racist.
SPEAKER_00:It could be.
SPEAKER_02:It could be based on a racist idea that the only it depends also on the type of store it is and whatever.
SPEAKER_00:What the person is wearing, if the person is wearing all black or yes.
SPEAKER_02:It it could be that that the salespeople in this establishment all look a certain way. And if you are shopping in this establishment, you're not a shopper, but rather you're the employed at the store. All right, that would be annoying if that's the implication, right? The other um, the other thing where I would say, like, girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_01:Because me, I'm this helpful, Jolly Cool, lucky unicorn. I don't care what the hell I'm wearing.
SPEAKER_02:Sometimes I go out dressed very casually or dressed down, and my holy jeans is earned hates, or very dressed up. But I'm like, if somebody asks, and if I know, I'm like, oh yeah, it's over there. And oh, I just saw a sale, and oh, so they may, they may assume I'm the help. Yes, and there I go, acting like the help. There you go, making it bad for the rest of us. Exactly, exactly. But you know, it would annoy me if um if I felt that people were asking me as though I were um, I could not be a shopper in that store. And I've had that experience.
SPEAKER_00:Got it, as if you're the help. I see.
unknown:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:And that's when I just gotta go off and buy some crazy expensive thing just because I can, and then the next day return it.
SPEAKER_00:Make sure it's not on final sale at the end. The same thing, right?
SPEAKER_02:The same thing is when you're ignored in the store by like uh salespeople or whatever, and it's like, man, I would have bought this, but sorry, my money's not good here. Yes, you know, and that becomes a more serious, you know. Obviously, we've all had those circumstances.
SPEAKER_00:Didn't that happen when you and Ern were in um Europe in some of the stores, or no?
SPEAKER_02:Uh no, no, actually, they're very gracious. And um, it happened to offered us, they offered us um champagne to the point where when we were shopping here at one of the designer stores, Ern says, Where's my champagne?
SPEAKER_01:And they literally went and got him. This was in Greenwich, Connecticut. They literally went and got him some champagne.
SPEAKER_00:Very good.
SPEAKER_02:So very good. Yes. I'm like, Ern, you know you don't drink champagne.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. He did that night.
SPEAKER_02:But anyway.
SPEAKER_00:It's the principle of the thing.
SPEAKER_02:It's the principle.
SPEAKER_00:All right, so is she tripping? What did we decide?
SPEAKER_02:No, she well, it depends.
SPEAKER_00:No, it has to be. It's a game. It's whatever we want to do.
SPEAKER_02:She's tripping. She's tripping.
SPEAKER_00:Girl, you tripping. Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_00:I would I would go that way. Girl, you tripping.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. Next question. The most I will tip for a takeout order is five dollars, regardless of the order amount.
SPEAKER_00:Girl.
SPEAKER_02:You tripping.
SPEAKER_00:You tripping? Five dollars for a takeout order? I tip zero. Wait a minute. Wait, Les, hold. We're going we're reacting, we're reacting the same way in two different directions.
SPEAKER_02:Wait, wait, wait, wait. Les, no matter the most I will tip for a takeout order is five dollars. And I could pick up a takeout order for$200. I am not tipping anything. It's takeout, it's not delivery. Okay. All right. I what are you hearing?
SPEAKER_00:No, I um I um I'm just thinking what I what I the times when I haven't done that, when I um have left a tip, why I usually don't, honestly. I usually don't for a takeout, um, for a takeout order. Um yeah. So is she tripping or is she not tripping?
SPEAKER_02:She ain't tripping. She ain't tripping. Five dollars is the most you need to leave, if anything. Right, if any.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Girl, you right, you right, you right, you right, you right, you right. You right, you right. Okay. Okay. I'm not, you know, pulling these. I'm just randomly, okay.
SPEAKER_00:Sure, sure. Yeah, that's fine.
SPEAKER_02:This might hit home.
SPEAKER_00:Oh no, Leslie, don't embarrass me.
SPEAKER_02:No, no, no, no, no. It's me. My spouse and I have been trying to cut back on subscription services, so I suggested we share an Amazon Prime account. They said no because they do not need me to question them about their purchases. Oh, so this is my life on a card right now right here. Since I don't bother them now about how they spend their money, I think they are saying no because they have something to hide. Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00:Okay, you go first on that one.
SPEAKER_02:This is too triggering for me. I'm gonna punt it.
SPEAKER_00:You're gonna punt. Pass. That's okay. You can pass. I won't say nothing. I will say nothing.
SPEAKER_02:I say nothing about my partner shopping and whether or not I have a problem with it. That's right.
SPEAKER_00:Listen, when I last had a husband.
SPEAKER_02:Sneaking purchases in the house.
SPEAKER_00:When I last had a husband, it was prior to the subscription services being um being so prolific. So I will Okay, yes.
SPEAKER_02:Next, next, you see how we handled that?
SPEAKER_01:That's good, a diplomatic and I stay married.
SPEAKER_02:I patiently waited for 10 minutes before someone skipped the line to ask a question. When the person had the audacity to try to order, I told them they needed to go to the back of the line and wait like everybody else. Instead of instead of the cashier siding with me, he said, No, it's fine. Go ahead with your order. So I cussed them both out. Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00:I don't know if I would cuss, but they would hear about it. They would definitely hear about it. They would definitely hear about it.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, yeah, I I wouldn't do the cuss thing, but you ain't tripping. They need to hear about it.
SPEAKER_00:They need to, that's that's that's rude.
SPEAKER_02:That's rude. Yeah, I would have to. Especially if somebody on the line says, come on now, you gotta go to the back of the line. And then the cash is like, you know.
SPEAKER_00:Right, right. The thing is that it should be your choice, not their choice. You should, they should defer to you and say, Do you mind? And you can you can decide whether you're feeling okay about it or not. That that I like when when um folks do that with me. Like if um sometimes if you're online and then they want to step off to do something.
SPEAKER_02:I don't like when people just do that without saying like when you hold my spot for a minute, like they just leave and then they try to slid them back. It's like you left the line.
SPEAKER_00:Right. Because I will move their cart over to the side and keep going.
SPEAKER_02:I mean, it's you would move a cart if they no listen. The alternative have a cart there and they run to the line. You would actually move their cart if they don't say anything to you?
SPEAKER_00:Listen. What is the hold on? What would what is the alternative? You're pushing their cart for them? I've done that.
SPEAKER_02:Or or or I've like moved up, but then when they came back, I allowed them to move the cart up. But I've done both. But I'm wondering.
SPEAKER_00:I I've never moved a cart over. But I would, I would, they would see it on my face if they took advantage of it. Because if it's quick, of course. But if it's, you know.
SPEAKER_02:But people don't do that if it's if they have more shopping to do and they've done half and get online.
SPEAKER_00:Do you do you do you recognize this is a common theme for you? You had the same people don't do that when with Ray.
SPEAKER_02:I know.
SPEAKER_00:With Ray's situation, when Ray said, I remember. Yeah. Yeah. They do. Same thing.
SPEAKER_02:It's like people don't people aren't well, maybe that's right. That's my um leaning. Let's go to the next one.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:I want to hear comments on these. You know what? This Reese Cobert is a troublemaker because she keeps talking about the spouse. And I don't say too much about my spouse. I want to hear it. I want to hear what you guys have noticed.
SPEAKER_00:I want to hear it.
SPEAKER_02:My spouse bought me an expensive designer bag, but I knew I would rarely carry it. When I saw an identical fake version, I decided to buy it, sell the real one, and pocket the difference. My spouse hasn't even noticed, and I'm not gonna tell them. Am I tripping? You doggone liar, you are tripping. That's crazy. That's crazy.
SPEAKER_00:Why is it crazy?
SPEAKER_02:Alright, first of all, I don't have that kind of relationship with my spouse that I gotta there's so many reasons why this doesn't apply to me.
SPEAKER_00:One okay Well, give your opinion though.
SPEAKER_02:Not not on what the person did? Yeah, sure, sure. Yeah. Alright, the my opinion is I don't like dishonesty. And to me, that's like theft almost. It's theft. Well, it's like if you need money, there's so many reasons why this is crazy. Why are you tripping, girl?
SPEAKER_00:Are you tripping? What if what if? You what if she was gonna use the money to um to um get him something for his birthday or to have a birthday party for him? So it's not a selfish thing.
SPEAKER_02:No, I don't like the dishonesty of pretending that it's um the same bag and pocketing the money. If I needed money to do something and I didn't have it, I would ask Ern for the money, you know, and he'd give it to me. That's one thing. Even if I said I need it for something and I can't tell you what it was, he would give if I needed it like that. That's one thing. But two, I wouldn't want him every time I had the bag, I wouldn't want him thinking this is the bag that he got me when it wasn't, you know, that's the other thing. But it's similar to a circumstance that I had one either Christmas or my birthday. Ern bought me this really, I'll use nice in quotes, Chanel bag, right?
SPEAKER_00:Uh-huh. Expensive.
SPEAKER_02:Obviously, it was expensive, right? And you know, he presented it to me, but you know, Ern is a lot more um conservative than I am. I didn't like it. You know, but I I told him, thank you, but I don't like it. I don't think I'll carry it. You know, I didn't want him to spend money on something that I wasn't gonna use, and I swapped it with you know, him knowing. I said, can I trade it in for something else that I that I like?
SPEAKER_00:And that wow, you know, yeah, but that should be on a card. It's the don't say.
SPEAKER_02:Well, I think the alternative, I could have just kept the bag and what never used it. That's the alternative. Yeah, that's why waste a man's money.
SPEAKER_00:That's not wasting the money. I think I understand.
SPEAKER_02:It's it's money well spent.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Well, in if I had the bag, then I would use it. And most likely I would get to like it. You know what I mean? You know how things grow on you or whatever, how people may get things for you that you don't think is for use. Because in retrospects, now I'd probably like the bag.
SPEAKER_00:Right. Right. Yeah, that should be a separate card with that on it.
SPEAKER_02:If you if you told your husband, if you tell your spouse that you don't like the gift, can you trade it for something else?
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, that should be a are you tripping? Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_02:Are you tripping? All right, so what do you think about them? My spouse hasn't even noticed, and I'm not gonna tell them.
SPEAKER_00:Am I tripping? No, yeah, you're tripping. Because honesty, come on now. Come on now. You're not gonna triple lie.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, I don't like that.
SPEAKER_00:I can't live like that. I cannot one more. You're keeping track of time.
SPEAKER_02:You wanna do one more? Yeah. Yeah. I'm gonna um can I choose one?
SPEAKER_00:Yes, sure.
SPEAKER_02:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Cheater. Cheater, cheater.
SPEAKER_02:I had dinner with friends when I saw my friend who barely touched their food was gonna toss it out. I did not want to let a perfectly good plate of food go to waste, so I bought it home. I gave it to my spouse since they said they were hungry, but did not mention before they were halfway done eating that the leftovers were from someone else's plate. Am I tripping?
SPEAKER_00:Oh, snap. I thought she was gonna say she gave it to her dog. Oh, snap.
SPEAKER_02:I'll tell you why this is a little, it's it's it's it's it's a little weird one, but it kind of hits close to home, right? Oh Lord. Um, am I tripping? Hmm. I would not um I don't think I would mention at all where it came from.
SPEAKER_00:Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Because I would not share something with my husband or family member or myself that I thought was unclean or whatever, you know. Very often, the way that I eat and I don't eat, I usually don't eat all of my food. I'll separate food on a plate, you know, that I'm gonna eat and not eat. So it's not like I'm going back and forth. You know what I mean? I do. So so I wouldn't bring home anything that I thought was unclean or unsanitary. And as a result, I wouldn't mention that because I think that would be a little off-putting and rude.
SPEAKER_00:Okay, so how does this line up in terms of honesty, like we just talked about? Withholding information, you know better. How does that fit in with that?
SPEAKER_02:I mean, it's like I don't determine, I don't think that the disclosure is relevant.
SPEAKER_00:But you said you you thought he would he would find it so.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, I did say that. Yeah. I don't know. I'm not sure. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:All right, so are um is she tripping?
SPEAKER_02:What do you think?
SPEAKER_00:Okay, throw me under the bus. Um I I would say, I would say, I would say it. I would tell them. So she's tripping.
SPEAKER_02:So sh she didn't mention it until they were halfway done eating that the leftovers was from someone else's plate.
SPEAKER_00:I I wouldn't do that. She's tripping. She's tripping. Because for me, you would know something over um you would know something, a truth, that you're not disclosing to someone else, whomever it is. And that to me is where the is where the disconnect happens.
SPEAKER_02:But does intent have anything to do with it? Like, I might bring a plate home, put it in the fridge, or leave it on the counter or whatever, and not remember to say or not withhold it intentionally. I think we're like, I'm not gonna tell them that it was somebody else's. I don't know. I don't like the sound of that. The right, the way that it was written though, um was that she intentionally withheld it, right? Right. Until he halfway because she decided don't do that to your husband. Don't do that. Don't do that.
SPEAKER_00:Girl, you trippin', you trippin'. That's not cool.
SPEAKER_02:All right. I think we had some fun with this, maybe.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I like it. I like it. We're out of time.
SPEAKER_02:I think we're out of time.
SPEAKER_00:Okay. I I'd like to revisit this. We have other um card sets. I don't know if I have it here though, but there are other card sets that are really Oh, speaking of which, I had some that I left at your house. Hmm. I wonder if they'll be there when I get back. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:I know. And here I thought that I thought that if you uh leave something at my house, it's mine.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, I see you have a toothbrush.
SPEAKER_02:You leave gifts when you leave sometime, you do.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Why would I assume that it was one of them?
SPEAKER_00:How about because I didn't say here, Les? Oh, that would have been a clue.
SPEAKER_03:I'm leaving this for you. You know what?
SPEAKER_02:Little things like I'm done with you. This has been another episode of Black Boom Besties from Good Bomb. Oh my gosh, Brooklyn!
