Ep191 Watch out: Your strengths can become joy stealers

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Ep191 Watch out: Your strengths can become joy stealers
Aug 18, 2026 Season 19 Episode 9
Angella Fraser & Leslie Osei-Tutu

The things that have brought us success can become our biggest source of burnout, and it often happens so quietly that we don’t even notice until our bodies, our partners, or our coworkers say it out loud. In this episode we dig into a pattern that shows up everywhere: overusing a strength until it goes from serving us to costing us. 

Leslie brings in an article 

Overusing A Strength: 5 Signs for Physicians

by Dr. Ben Reinking, and we unpack it in plain language with our own sobering stories.

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