Ep197 Good Intentions That Miss The Mark

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Ep197 Good Intentions That Miss The Mark
Sep 22, 2026 Season 20 Episode 4
Angella Fraser & Leslie Osei-Tutu

We start this week’s episode with shoutouts to  listener comments and a real-life look at some of the logistical considerations behind Angella’s recent move to Panama.  Then we get more serious with a deeper talk about how “good intentions” and looking out for others can unintentionally put our own needs at the center.

We use relationship stories and hard-earned self-awareness to consider how to trust someone’s ‘no”, repair harm without making it about our own feelings and ultimately build a deeper peace with the people we love.

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