Ep149 She said yes at 63: A second proposal 40 yrs later

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn

Black Boomer Besties from Brooklyn
Ep149 She said yes at 63: A second proposal 40 yrs later
Oct 14, 2025 Season 15 Episode 8
Angella Fraser & Leslie Osei-Tutu

A FaceTime that wouldn’t connect, a birthday ice cream run, and a red box hidden under a saucer—then four words that change everything: will you marry me? We’re celebrating a surprise engagement that’s decades in the making and unpacking what it means to choose love, with clarity, later in life.

We retrace the moment—how he kept a three-month secret, returned the first ring, and enlisted his sister to find the one that felt right. From there, we go deeper: how our definition of love has shifted from a word to a practice, how small gestures keep closeness alive, and why time, at 63, sharpens decisions. We talk openly about the past marriage, the therapy that helps us own our part, and the language tweaks that prevent a casual “I don’t care” from stepping on someone else’s joy. The wedding conversation gets real: he wants one, she could elope, and we’re designing a plan that respects both preferences without defaulting to old scripts about gender or tradition.

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Chapter Markers

  • 0:00
    Welcome & Big News Tease
  • 0:30
    The Proposal Reveal
  • 4:30
    How He Planned the Ring
  • 8:30
    Love Revisited After 40 Years
  • 12:30
    Choosing Love as a Verb
  • 17:30
    On Aging, Time, and Clarity
  • 21:00
    Healing From Past Marriage
  • 25:00
    Long Engagement, Logistics, Home Reno
  • 29:00
    Gender Roles, Weddings, and Language
  • 35:30
    Owning Feelings Without Dimming Joy

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