Vision of Love

Valentine's Day is actually the perfect time to set your romantic intentions for the upcoming year. Instead of feeling a little blue, let's reframe what it means to be single on Valentine's day. Think of it as an annual check-up, and take the pulse of your love life. If it's a bit weak, it's time for a dose of "Vitamin L"...

1.) Listen to my Vision of Love Valentine's Day Podcast, and kick back and enjoy!!

On this complimentary podcast, you'll learn how to affirm your Vision Of Love and set clear Romantic Intentions for the upcoming year.

2.) Write what you saw during the meditation - this might surprise you! And then write down exactly what you want to Man-ifest for the upcoming year! 2023 is going to be EPIC FUN!

"This meditation was spectacular ~ we were steeped in white light and Lauren laced the light with flecks of molten gold! Love was everywhere. Profound!"
- Jenn F.
 
And I am delighted to report that Jenn found love!! Well done!!

Your Vision of Love Meditation Podcast will show you how to access your "magnetic superpowers" and harness the communal love energy - or "Chi" that abounds today!
 
Extra Bonus: And this year, it's PERFECTLY OKAY to swipe like mad on Bumble and Match! It's going to be an epic  flirt-fest, this V-Day!

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Transcript

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Okay, hello, it's Lauren Francis, your love coach, and thank you so much for joining me on Valentine's Day and for being my Valentine's and for allowing me to be yours the next hour. The first thing I want to say is that, you know, this day, it's one of those days, it's a bellwether day, because it is like a little litmus test about the state of your love life. And it's kind of like a birthday or New Year's and the holidays. It really is one of those days where it really is, if you're in love, it's a beautiful celebration about the state of your union. If you're single, it is a gentle reminder that you really do have the room to create more love in your life. And wherever you are, whatever you're feeling is completely normal. And I do have to say that no matter what you're feeling, it's completely fine. I always do share with my clients and with people that ask that if it's funny as getting a spray on tan today in preparation for Valentine's Day evening. And I'm also going to tape the Ricky Lake show again next week. So everything and this Sunday and everything looks better with a little spray on tan. And um the girl who's spray tanning me, you know, said, I said to her, How are you? And she said, Honestly, I'm not feeling very happy today. This Valentine's Day is difficult. And, you know, she's been divorced for several years, and she was kind of not really in the space to date again. And then for some reason, you know, they've been apart now for about four years. She's got a young daughter. This year, it gave her kind of a twinge. And I said to her, you know, Michelle, I never worry about the people that feel sad and feel longing on Valentine's Day or, you know, really any other day of the year, because at least they have a longing to create love. The people that I get concerned about are the people that just are fine and are numb and have checked out and unhooked from that very natural desire to love and to be loved and to really be entwined in the arms of a beloved. So if for some reason you found yourself kind of sad on Valentine's Day this year, I don't want you to feel blue about the fact that you feel blue. It's enough that you kind of feel blue, and it's just normal and healthy, and I consider that to be a positive sign, a positive affirmation that you do really want to create love. And this kind of longing, this kind of desire, this kind of yearning is it's actually a beautiful thing and it holds the potentiality for miracles to occur. And truthfully, if there was not a big creative yearning, you know, if Martin Luther King didn't have a yearning to have equality, if Nelson Mandela didn't have yearning, if the suffrage act that marched didn't have a yearning and a passionate desire for equality and freedom, then nothing would have occurred. So this yearning is the same yearning that anyone that's ever created a movement or fought for a cause has actually felt. It's called the fire in the belly. So whether you're madly in love, and I said, as I said in my little invitation, if you're in love and you're feeling like you're twirling around in a pink cotton candy hoop skirt, you know, and you're officially in love, this call is going to enable you to make a deeper and more profound affirmation of that love. And if you're in a relationship and you're not quite feeling the love, it's going to allow you to set a more profound romantic intention. And if you are single today, it's going to, but what we're going to do is instead of kind of focusing on the sadness, what we're going to do is we're going to get your stilettos pointed in the right direction. We're going to slip on some silk stockings and get you moving towards love and a happy destiny. And before we begin, we're going to do the meditation kind of in a moment. That's how we're going to uh kind of wrap up the call. But I want to begin this call today by reading some of the most beautiful love poems that I know. And Pablo Naruto was an incredible, I don't know if you know him, but he wrote this incredible book of poetry called The Captain's Verses. And he wrote them when he was a political, military kind of a person in Chile. And he was madly in love with his wife, Matilda. And he wrote this these beautiful poems to her. And because he was a macho guy, he published them anonymously. He had no idea that they would become, you know, one of the most cherished and beloved works of romantic literature in all of history. And then of course they became famous, and he did cop to the fact that he'd written them several years later, I think seven years later actually, and he won the Nobel laureate for these poems. But I want to just read some of them, you know, I'm going to read a poem to you, two poems to you, that just are so moving to me and just will set the tone and our little Valentine from your beloved in the future to you today. So the first poem I'm going to read to you, and I actually sent this to you as a list before, but I just cannot help myself. It's called the Queen. I have named you Queen. There are taller ones than you, taller. There are pure ones than you, pure. There are lovelier than you, lovely lovelier, but you are the queen. When you go through the streets, no one recognizes you, no one sees your crystal crown, no one looks at the carpet of red gold that you tread as you pass the non existent carpet. And when you appear, all the rivers sound in my body. Bells shake the sky, and a hymn fills the world. Only you and I, only you and I, my love, listen to it. Yum. Talk about yearnings. And that is just such a beautiful expression as the private moment that it is to be in love with and this is this is, you know, and love, when you're really in love with a beloved, it is in the most beautiful sense, uh such a spiritual experience. It really romance is an altered state, and it's my favorite altered state. Okay, and here's another poem called Night on the Island. All night I have slept with you next to the sea on the island, wild and sweet you were between pleasure and sleep, between fire and water. Perhaps very late our dreams joined at the top or at the bottom, up above like branches moved by a common wind, down below like red roots that touch. Perhaps your dream drifted from mine, and through the dark sea was seeking me as before when you did not yet exist, when without sighting you I sailed by your side, and your eyes sought what now bread, wine, love and anger I heap on you because you were the cup that was waiting for the gifts of my life. I have slept with you all night long, while the dark earth spins with the living and the dead, and on waking suddenly in the midst of the shadow, my arm encircled your waist. Neither night nor sleep could separate us. I have slept with you, and on waking your mouth come from your dream, gave me the taste of earth, of seawater, a seaweed, of the depths of your life, and I received your kiss moistened by the dawn, as if it came to me from the sea that surrounds us. Okay, I'm gonna read one more, and this is called Your Feet, and I'm actually gonna read this as a total affirmation. So a lot of the a lot of the work that I do with women is to really teach you how to be proactive, how to create love. And the truth is that, you know, as little girls, if you are if you're f familiar with my coaching, you'll know that I talk about the romantic coaching that we got from the Brothers Grimm. Okay? And this kind of coaching is really about the fact that we were really trained to be passive and to wait for love to just kind of happen to us. And if we were beautiful enough and pretty enough and looked really fantastic while we were we were sleeping, even if we were tucked away in tassels spinning flat. And even if we were blocked away in hovels kind of sleeping, right? You know, with our evil, wicked stepmothers and our horrible stepsisters, somehow someone would knock on the door with a fantastic pair of Jimmy Chew shoes and invite us to the ball, or we could be sweeping up after awful little office dwarfs, and somehow, even if we've been poisoned apples, our dream guy was going to come and find us. And the problem is that if you're single, he hasn't found you, or if you fa you know, if you're now suddenly single, you might need to find a new print. And as women, you know, join the workforce as your life gets busy, if you have children, if you've got big important jobs and positions in the world, your life definitely becomes something kind of a rote kind of thing to do. And there's certain places that you go and uh like a routine that you follow, and everybody's exhausted, everybody's so busy. So to really know how to look up and stop men, why in my book I call, you know, in my book Dating, Mating and Manhandling, I really compare men to birds, because if you just look up, they're kind of everywhere, but you have to make a point of looking up so that you can see them. If you don't really want to be proactive about creating love, if you really just hope that it's going to find you, perhaps it will, but I don't like the odds. And in fact, I'd like you to go out and meet your romantic destiny, and that's what the call is about tonight, is reframing your romantic intention for yourself and about how you can walk out to meet your beautiful destiny. And the reality is that anybody that's ever done anything of real real merit in life, you know, faces their fear. I always say, you know, courage, you know, I've I've actually I'm repeating this, but said that courage is fear that has said its prayers. The truth is nobody needs courage if they're not afraid. And trust me, anyone that's done anything of great moment has to face their fear. So if you're feeling fear, if you're feeling sadness, if you're feeling loneliness, if you're feeling anything, what I want you to know is it's only a feeling. And what I want to get you focused on is what you're doing. And what you're doing is really in many ways more important than how you're feeling, because oftentimes people wait for inspiration. They wait to feel like they're in the mood to go to the gym, for example. They wait to feel like they're in the mood to go and flirt online, or come to a man magnet makeover weekend, or create a little man trap pack and go flirting in the field with their girlfriends. People wait for inspiration. Now, what I want to tell you is that there's a lot of entropy that you deal with in your day. You know, there is a, as it says, groove that your life is kind of following, right? You've got a schedule, you've got structure, you've got work, you've got obligations, whatever they may be. And they start defining this how you spend your days. And if you want to create something new, like if for example you wanted to learn how to speak French, right? You would have to think about it like, hmm, how am I going to speak French? And oh, I want to take this particular class and might research it online, and then you go, okay, I'm going to take this particular class, and then I'm going to set aside this particular amount of time. And then I'm actually going to book a trip to Paris, and I'm going to start watching French films. And you see where I'm going with this. Somebody who wants to speak French is going to actually have to carve out some time in their day to actually learn how to speak French. Unfortunately, because we're talking about love, most women and most men, truthfully, but women in particular, don't often feel good about the fact that they have to actually set aside time to focus on their love lives. But like any other noble pursuit, if you want to create love, if you want to have an awesome love life, if you're in a relationship right now and you want more passion, you're going to need to carve out the time to create more romance in your romantic relationship. If you're single, you're going to want to really create time and do specific activities so that you can kind of stir the pot. Okay? And I'm going to read you one more poem, and then we're going to do a little exercise as you're going to love. Okay, this is called Your Feet. And I have to tell you, this is actually, I think it might be my favorite love poem of all time, and it's a very simple poem. And Pablo wrote it and it's called Your Feet. When I cannot look at your face, I look at your feet. Your feet of arched bone, your hard little feet. I know that they support you, and that your gentle weight rises upon them, your waist and your breasts, the double purple of your nipples, the sockets of your eyes that have just flown away, your wide fruit mouth, your red tresses, my little tower. But I love your feet. Only because they walked upon the earth and upon the wind and upon the waters until they found me.

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So the men in your life will want to kiss your feet for walking into their lives. And as I said before, you know, you might not feel like doing it, you might not feel inspired about doing it, but I have to say that if you take the actions, then the results will follow.

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If you take if you get into proactive feelings, all of a sudden, then the happy feelings will follow. So sometimes you have to kind of do, and then you get the emotional results. Okay, so if you're feeling resistant, if you're feeling sad, if you're feeling blocked, if you're feeling angry, if you're feeling disappointed, what I want you to do is I want you to take some really particular actions anyway, and I promise you that your feelings are going to catch up with you on the other end. It's not really realistic to think that you're going to feel awesome about doing these things before you've done them. Okay? So what I'd like you to do is consider Valentine's Day if you're single, or if you're in a relationship and you're on the line. I want you to consider this to be your romantic new year. This is a romantic reboot. This is an opportunity to set romantic intentions for 2013 until next year. And what I'd like you to do for a moment is to, if you've got a paper and pen, you can do this. I'm going to give you some exercises that you're going to do, and you're not going to do them obviously on the call because you know we're going to be moving into the meditation part, and that would be boring. But what I'd like you to do is I would like you to write a list of what actually what I want you to do first is I want you to set a romantic intention about where you would like to be romantically at this time next year. What are you committed to manifesting between now and February 14th, 19, I just almost said 1914. I'm living in a past life. 2014. Okay, so write down where you are right now, and then I want you to write my romantic intention on February 14th, 2014 is. And you will write, I am happily dating the love of my life, or I am now engaged to the love of my life. You could even say I am now married, depending on how quickly you want to do that. And I want you to specifically write, I am now, and you can write, you can address this, dear Cupid, and then write down what your romantic intention is. And then what I want you to do is I want you to write a list. If you look at that romantic intention, if you're in the wrong relationship, you can say I have had an amicable divorce and I am now dating again. That is a valid romantic intention. Or I am flirting in the field successfully and I am dating multiple suitors. Whatever your romantic intention is, I want you to state it, I want you to own it, I want you to claim it. And that could be creating a man trap pack. That's something that I talk about in Romantic Reboot. It's about creating a flirt support group where you're going out on Thursdays, let's say, and Sunday afternoons, and you are targeting man-rich locations that have the kinds of men in them that you want to that you would like to engage with. Or it could be I do cyber flirt the cyberflirt programs or the man magnet programs, and I I do my photos and I get a makeover and I launch myself online. Then you could say I commit to, I'm giving you a man plan right now, by the way. You know, then I'm going to commit to actively looking for love and putting myself out there in a way that would be advantageous to you romantically, let's say four, three times a week, and that could include being online. Could decide I'm going to be online every other day for an hour a day, and I'm going to go out on two dates a week. I know that that sounds, that might sound like it's not possible, but trust me, if you really kind of do get clear about putting yourself out online effectively in the ways that I talk about, my clients regularly often go out on 60 dates a year or 90 dates a year. And these are women who went out on zero dates or two dates a year. So really online dating is kind of like the Wild West. It's like the giant man catalog in the sky, or as my friend Evan says, it's like the giant bar in the sky. What I want you to do is I want you to really write out an action plan about of ten things that you're willing to do. And then what I want you to do is I want you to prioritize them in terms of what you think the pressing, you know, what you think that the right order of things would be. It might be to schedule a consultation, it might be to go to the museum during openings with your girlfriend, you know, and flirting proactively with three men. It might literally be to toss men a crumb and say nice tire, nice sports watch three times a week. These are all, okay, honestly, I'm giving you uh ten things to do right now. So I'm helping you out. You don't even have to figure it out by yourself. So what I want you to do is really come up with ten proactive things that you are willing to do, courses of action, and then what I want you to do is I want you to put them in your calendar. And I want you to put them in your calendar for the next, I want you to do a three-month plan and a six-month plan. Okay? And then after six months, it kind of gets pretty far out. But really for the next three months, what are you willing to do at 30, 60, and 90 days? And then what are you willing to do at four months, five months, and six months? And I want you to actively write them in your calendar. The truth is that really writing the act of writing, you know, coming, just having it be in your brain and then actually committing things to the paper, to paper. And sometimes people have more luck writing longhand than they do on the computer, but whatever it is, it's going to make you feel like you've actually made a commitment. And this is why when I work with women in my private practice coaching and in my group courses, I definitely have them schedule time to flirt and I get commitments from them. You know, accountability is king. So you want to at least be accountable to yourself and accountable to your calendar. And really, it's very easy to have everything gobble up your time. So I want you to look at your calendar and I want you to really define for yourself, okay, if I was really committed to achieving that romantic goal, how much time and energy would that take? And on a scale of one to ten, and I'm going to ask you all really now to think about what your romantic goal is. So just take a moment, just really think about it. And just state it. And I want you to kind of say it aloud to yourself. Put your hand on your heart and just say you're cuted. And the romantic power is going to be. And I want you to write down that number. And then what I want you to do is I want you to look at your schedule when you when you do put this down, when you create these romantic intentions, which are going to then really turn into an action plan in your calendar. What I want you to do is I really want you to look at what you're doing with your time. So if you make a decision that you are going to spend five hours a week on your love life, and that could include first dates, that could include romantic research in the field, that could include looking for love online. What you're probably going to need to do is you're going to need to do a carve out of time. So for example, when I have very successful businesswomen, they often need to, and if they've got children at home, they're often super exhausted at the end of the night. So I will have them wake up an hour early and literally go online. And I'll have them do that four days a week for about a half an hour. And then do follow-up in the evenings after they put the kids to bed and they will set up phone calls and times to call men in the evening, okay, between 9 and 930. So this is the kind of thing and I also will tell you that you might have a lot of um if you really look at your calendar what I'm going to have you do now that you're going to write an action plan, right? What I want you to do is I really want you to take a good hard look at your calendar for the last 90 days. And I want you to look at where you're spending your time. Okay, now if you're like me, I'm actually like a write stuff down girl because I've got so much to do during the days. So I actually write everything down in my online calendar and I can literally look back at the month and at the days and at the weeks and I can really see where I'm spending my time. You will be able to look in your calendar and if if you look at your calendar and say if I was really at 10 in terms of committing to finding love or getting married or creating a more romantic partnership with my love, my lovebird, what is in your calendar right now that's gobbling up your time? And I want you to look at how much time you're spending at work and then I want you to look at how much time you're spending with your girlfriends because I will tell you single women have a big habit of spending a lot of available time with their girlfriends. They definitely become I'm not going to say it's a faux family but girlfriends and friendships really, you know, every it's a natural thing for us to want to cuddle up. It's a natural thing for us you know humans are like dogs. You know that we're pack animals. And we like forming close relationships. And if you're not with an intimate partner it's very normal for women to really kind of find that fulfillment, that human fulfillment, that intimacy with their with their girlfriends, you know, which is why Sex in the city is so successful and girls, which is now the new 20 something version of Sex in the city with the most grubby sex scenes ever. So I do want you to look at how much time you are spending with your girlfriends. I also want you to look at how much time you might spend in the evenings at the end of a long day just being too tired to do anything and watching television, right? People often spend so much of their free time just kind of collapsing in exhaustion. And I want you to start looking at that and you know if you're in a quilting class or if you're doing you know really female focused events, what I want you to do is consider making a decision to limit some of those events and freeing up your time. A lot of people have family obligations or they're doing a lot of charity work or they're doing things that really kind of create a lot of emotional engagement and fulfillment. Because you're not in an intimate relationship, it's very normal for you to create this kind of valuable human interaction. What I'm saying to you now is if you're going, if you're really at an eight, if you're really at a nine, if you're at a ten, let's say if you're at a seven and up in terms of intensity, what I want you to do is start to carve out and limit that time that you're spending doing unromantic activities, right? Activities where you're just kind of they're just kind of time fillers or they're just kind of emotional boosting kind of activities and allow yourself to feel the discomfort of setting aside time to create love. And you know honestly it is like I'm not going to say it's a gamble and I always say in creating love it's not a matter of if it's really a matter of when and if you are really committed to creating love, if you're really committed to taking actions and doing things differently I promise you will get a different result and you will start dating and you will start having different kinds of experiences but you're going to have to really get in charge of creating your own man plan. And I'm going to give you one more really important and very valuable writing exercise to do. And that is after you write your romantic intention to keep it and after you write your man plan and after you look at your calendar and figure out what you can weed out just for a period of time. Like if you're doing tons of volunteer work I would like you to dial it back a bit just for this period of time because honestly you need to be your own volunteer. You are your own charity. You are your own cause. Love is a mission. So I want you to really act as if it was as important as any other activity and maybe even more important because I will say that creating love in your life is I dare say one of the most noble pursuits that a person can undertake and it's one of the most valuable experiences that you can have. Okay? It is the thing you know I work with people who have the most successful careers who have multiple homes both planes. I actually do know someone that has a train okay Grammys off and these and I want to tell you that without love it is not the same kind of life without interpersonal love and there is you know obviously so much meaning to living a very fulfilled life and if you're you know giving to other people you know honestly charity work and giving to other people you know God goes definitely flows through you the spirit flows through you and it fills you up. But to be able to receive you know a lot of women are just such incredible doers and incredible givers and nothing's really coming back. So if you're somebody who's really showing up for your friends, showing up for your family, showing up for your dogs, showing up for your kids, showing up at work, who is showing up for you women are really exhausted. They're really tired. And one of the beautiful things about love is that it should be the place where it is the soft place to land and where it is the place where you get filled back up, where you get restored where you really get the yummy. And I want that for all of you. I really do and you deserve it and you can have it. But you're going to have to commit to changing your pattern of doing so that you can receive it. Okay? Now I'm going to give you the last assignment to this and this is this assignment is one of the most important things it's a secret sauce to making things work. I want you to write after you look up your look at your action plan and your intention I want you to write a list of why you're going to screw it up. How are you going to sabotage or how are you going to countermand your great intention so for example you know tons of people every year on the 1st of January join the gym. They're like okay this year I'm going to lose those 10 pounds and then what happens? They join the gym they go for three weeks and then what happens is they stop going to the gym. You buy that product you know the shake weight or bin jam or whatever it is that you buy and you just don't use it, right? You buy it, you try it a couple times and you're like okay. It is the same with love. So I would like you to write down a list of why, how you what you're going to do to avoid your action plan. And I'm going to have you do another additional list which is why what is and this is just I'm not saying that this is necessarily the truth but this is this is what keeps people stuck. Why do you feel unlovable and what is it about you that is going to make it hard for you to find love. I'm going to give you some examples for this. One of these could be I'm too old okay you can't do anything about the fact that you're too old but that could be a thought. One of them might be I'm too old. One of them might be I'm too fat. You know I might look good in clothes but I'm not going to get naked. I have I literally I hear that I actually often hear that from really pretty girls that are size twos and fours it's just absolutely crazy making to me but I've got a really difficult child. I've got a special needs child. I want to hear your list of red flags what you think would be red flags for a man and I'm going to actually have you do two lists. One is going to be the red flag list and the other one is going to be how you're going to screw it up. Okay I'm going to fill out the online profile but I'm never going to post I want to lose the weight but I'm never going to go to the gym. I'm not going to join weight watches I'm not going to lose weight. I want you to write down what how you're going to screw it up. And then I want you to look at that list and come up with some actions the top two things that you think you're going to do to kind of short circuit your good intentions and I want you to come up with a list of ways, a list of things that you could do to improve that situation. So if one of them is that you feel too old, you need a makeover my lady because I'll tell you something if you go to the man magnet makeover page I actually somebody said to me you know I looked at the man magnet page and all those women look so pretty you do only work with pretty women I've got to tell you not everybody, though the girls that I work with throwing the makeover don't look like that before they come to me. That's what they look like afterwards. So if you look at the video and I actually just take these beautiful videos testimonials from the magnet which we'll be sending I'm going to send them out to you so you can see them. But honestly everybody needs a makeover you know if being too old is one of them then there are things that you can do to look 15 years younger. I kid you not. So I want you to really write and be honest with yourself about what you think is going to make it hard for you and what problems you need to solve and then what the red flags are going to be. Could be that you had a really difficult childhood or you were the child of an alcoholic or you were battered when you're like Luke I don't care what it is you know or you might have debt or you might feel like you're not making enough money or you might feel like you're making too much money and then are intimidated. I want you to really write that list and then I am going to invite you to if you would like and I'm only doing this I would do this once a year if you want to email me and Cupid your list and if you would like me to review them and if you would like some targeted feedback on your action plan and if you even want to send me your red flag list and how you're going to screw it up list. So it's going to one list is going to be called red flag and the other one is going to be called my saboteur, my sabotage list and your romantic intentions and your action plan. If you want to if you really do all of that work and you want to send them to me, I will review them and I will send you some targeted feedback about them. All you have to do to make that magic happen is to write Dear Cupid in the subject line, Dear Cupid dot dot dot, and then we will know what that's for here at Lord Francis Love Coaching. And I will get back to you with Gold Star or some targeted thoughts for you about how to make that magic happen. Okay. That honestly was such a fantastic series of suggestions. Okay so before actually before we go into the meditation I'm going to share some things with you that I'm doing that are coming up that are going to be really fun and helpful for you and one of the things that's happening is I'm actually taping the Ricky Lake show again this upcoming Thursday and if you are in the LA area and you are a divorcee and you are in your 20s or 30s they are looking for somebody who really needs to get a love life and if you want to be on the show with me you can email me at Lauren at Laurenfrancis.com and write you and me on Ricky in the subject line and I will forward you over to their casting director and I think what we'll need is a picture and just like a brief little like paragraph about your the state of your love life right now. And so if you want to join me that would be fantastic. And that is obviously the Ricky Lake show that's on box. And it's actually called Divorce Party and I'm getting divorced back into the field and back into their love lives. And I'm also going to be on the air with some of my former man magnets and women that I've worked with that are now have met their lovebirds and are living legendary love and bodice scripting romances and marriages. So that's going to be super fun. I am also going to be doing the next Man Magnet Makeover the first weekend in April in Manhattan. So if you are ready for Man Magnet Makeover, please sign up. And the course the program's almost sold out and there will be another magnet that's happening in May in Los Angeles. And I believe that's going to be the third weekend in May. So look for that. And I'm also doing a legendary love and unhex your heart weekend workshop. And that is$550 so it's much more reasonable. The magnets are expensive. And I'm going to be doing that magnet in Manhattan and I'm going to be doing that the second weekend of April or the third weekend. I think it's actually going to be the third weekend in April. So if you're interested in legendary love and basically the Unhex Your Heart and Legendary Love Weekend is really about defining your heart wound, what it is that's the core thing. You know you set a romantic intention and want to create love, you can want all of the apples but you don't need all of the apples. So what this program will do is it's going to help you really define the core thing that you need from your partner and everybody's this is different for everybody that there's usually one core need beyond monogamy being beyond relationship compatibility beyond having similar habits there's usually one core need that's very personal that you need to have met and that's based on your heart wound. So what we do is we define the core heart wound and then we create what I call the elixir of love and that is a 180 degree difference between where you were wounded and what would actually create the most profound healing because I really believe that in relationships you want a relationship that's not constantly pulling the scab off. And sometimes you might find somebody and they might have like oh my God they might have one client said she wanted a man with water on the property. She did a man magnet wishlist I was like water on the property what does that mean she said well I wanted to live on the beach or have a waterfall and in fact or like she married somebody who's got a waterfall on the property but you want to find somebody who as they go through life it's not too much of a chore it's not a struggle for you to actually be made happy by the man that you're with and a lot of times what happens is we fall for men who have a lot of the things that we want except for this core thing and that if you'll, you know, if you can think back, you know, you might have met that guy and he's like everything on your checklist but you didn't want to sleep with him. I mean that's not the right guy. Or he was just he had everything in the world but he just wasn't available, right? Or he was a workaholic and you couldn't get the attention and if your core wound was that you were abandoned to be with a man who is a workaholic is going to feel like a constant abandonment. Okay? So what we want to do is we want to and I have a series of exercises where we really drill down and we find what this core wounding is. And actually a lot of my course Legendary love does deal with this but the part the unhex your heart part is not part of that workshop but you can also do the legendary love if you can't make it. And actually right now I'm having a two for one special on my website and actually it's it's only from a newsletter that I got that I sent out today. So for the next 72 hours you can get these programs two for one. It's awesome. And if you do four for one you can get a half hour consultation with me. And I didn't even really know we were doing that. The gal that I work with put that in I was like oh okay I'm doing a consultation too. So at any rate I hope that you'll take advantage of yeah I hope that I'll get to meet you at some of my live events and it I just get so moved when I actually work with women one-on-one and get to see your shine on faces. Okay. So enough about that. But these are these are ways these are things that you can add to your to-do list and these are ways to really kind of move and literally surbocharge your love life. Okay. So now we're going to get back into the Zoom and we're going to do a love meditation and this meditation is going to give you some powerful keys to unlocking your love life and to gain special support in a very personal way. So what I'd like you to do now is I'd like you to kind of relax and if you are in a brightly lit room I'd like you to just take a second and turn the lights down a bit. If you're in an uncomfortable chair I want you to find someplace comfortable to sit or you can even lie down on the bed or you know in an easy chair and just kind of lean back and relax. And I want you to close your eyes and now what I'd like you to do is to put your hand on your heart and your hand on your belly and we're going to just relax for a moment. I'm going to have you breathe in I'm going to count for you. So I'm going to have you breathe in for four hold for four exhale for four and hold for four and now we're going to start okay ready?

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Breathe in two three four hold two three four exhale two three four and hold and breathe in and hold and exhale and hold and breathe in hold and hold and one more time.

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And hold exhale and home and now breathe naturally and keep your eyes closed and if you like you can keep your hand on your heart and another hand on your belly unless it's more comfortable for you to let them rest comfortably on your sides or wherever you like. And now what I'd like you to do is in your mind's eye I'd like you to see a beautiful doorway ahead of you. It might be out of old beautiful carved wood. It might be made out of stone. It might be made out of crystal but whatever it is I want you to see it in your mind's eye and I want you to notice the color of the door and I want you to see the handle of the door and I want you to take a few steps forward and I want you to put your hand on the knob and I'd like you to turn it and I'd like you to push the door open and before you see a beautiful stairway that's lit in a lovely way. It might be with chandeliers or it might be with flickering candles and I want you to take a hold of the stairwell right the little banister and I'd like you to take a step down and breathe and take another step down and another down. You're moving softly down another step down and you're seeing light emanate through a beautiful arch walkway. Beautiful arch opening at the bottom of the stairwell and you're going down another step. Down another step seven down another step eight down another Step nine. You hit the final step ten. And now you look through that beautiful archway and you see the most beautiful, gorgeous meadow, or garden, or beach, wherever you, whatever you open up into, is a place that's a secret, beautiful place. Where you feel totally safe, protected. You feel the warmth of the sun on your skin. You feel a gentle, beautiful breeze. You hear birds chirping. And you take a breath. And all the tension leaves your body. And breathe in again. Feeling this gentle breeze on your face and smelling the sweet air. And now I want you to find a beautiful place to sit in this beautiful space. And I want you to sit down, rely back. And I want you to relax. I want you to feel your toes open and relax. And your hands. And I want you to feel warm, golden light. Moving up your feet through your calves, your thighs, your groin, breathing in your belly, up your back and your tummy, your chest, through your neck, your arms, through your fingers, your hands, up, your arms, breathe again. Each time you breathe, you feel more full of golden light. Up your throat. Your face, your mouth, your eyes, your ears, your third eye, the top of your head. And now I want you to breathe in. And as you breathe in, feel that incredible rush of love. This golden light is actually love. And I want you to see a golden ball on the top of your head. Right above the crown. And I want that to actually spill in now. Any other way. To your third eye. Can you breathe in? That golden light moves downward. And breathe in again and pull it into your third eye. Mmm, feel that? Mmm. I do. And breathe in again. Kind of feel it in your throat. And breathe in. Inhaling it into your heart.

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And exhale. And breathe in. Breathe it into your tummy.

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And exhale. And breathe it into your groin. And exhale. And now down to your feet.

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Breathe in. Mm. And exhale.

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And I want you to breathe one last time and see that you are encased in a golden sphere of light.

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Mmm.

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And exhale. And each time you breathe in, you infuse the sphere with a little more light. And this light is healing. It's safe.

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And it is love. It's universal love. And it is magic.

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Okay. Now you're back with your eyes closed. But in your minds, I want you to kind of be in your whether it's a garden or it's a wood or by the sea on a beach listening to the waves crash.

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I want you to notice how safe you feel, how peaceful you feel.

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And what I'd like you to do now is we were going to ask the romantic powers of the, I would like you to ask the universe in whatever form that it manifests for you. I want you to ask to be sent a romantic helper. I want you to say, you know, dear universe, I am committed. You can do this in your mind's eye, but hear yourself saying that you're committed to manifesting and creating love. And state the thing that you said at the beginning of the call that you wanted to create by such and such date, by February 14, Valentine's Day 2014. And to please send you a special helper. And you can sit up in your meditative space, metaphorically. I want you to see who comes. It might be a relative that's on the other side. It might be Cupid. It might be Aphrodite. I want you to ask. Make the request that you get sent special support. And I want you to see them appear in your space, in your safe private space. And I'd like you to hold out your hand. Your hand and I would like you to ask them to approach you.

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And I'd like you to connect with that being or that entity or that guide.

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Now they might enfold you in their arms. I want you to connect with that divine romantic guide that's here to support you in manifesting love.

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And grieve.

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That they're now imparting to you. Now I would like you to ask them to tell you a secret. Tell you a secret or to give you guidance that they want you to know. And that you need to know to make your journey in creating love manifest easily and effortlessly. Asking for that special knowledge that they've come to share with you today.

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We feel so supported by the universal divine energy of love.

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And now what I'd like you to do is to ask your guide to give you something. And it's something that is particular so that when you want to connect with your guide, when you want to connect with your romantic intention, you will have this in your mind's eye. And it will be able to transport you to this place and to connect with this kind of divine support during the upcoming year.

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It's your secret love amulet.

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And I want you to take it from your romantic guardian angel. And I want you to thank them for it. That comes from knowing that you're loved and knowing that you have the magic that you need to create love. The right love. A healing love. A safe and sheltering love. And he is already here. You just haven't met him yet. He might be sailing by your side invisibly, and maybe you have met him yet, but you just don't know it. And you'll find him and he will find you. So now what I want you to do is I want you to thank your guide for coming to your romantic aid and let them go back from whence they came to say your thank yous and say goodbye. And watch them leave with a happy heart, knowing that you can connect with them anytime that you like through this magic amulet, this gift that they gave.

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And now I'd like you to breathe.

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An inhale and exhale.

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And let's take a moment now.

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And just relax in this beautiful space.

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And exhale.

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Ah, and you start feeling so refreshed, your body is tingling and alive.

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Feel a little thrill of excitement running through you about the adventure that lies ahead. You feel a new kind of confidence and kind of an effervescent, bubbling kind of joy. Delicious kind of excitement.

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An incredible secret about knowing what you now know and feeling the support to create it.

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And now what I'd like you to do, it's time to come back to your beautiful line.

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So what I want you to do is just look around you and stretch in that space, that special sacred space that you're in right now in your mind's eye. And I want you to find that doorway and I want you to look around knowing that this is actually your beautiful private space, and you can come back here anytime. And in fact, indeed, you will. Yay. Okay, my lovelies. I'm gonna leave you with one more romantic thought. What I would love for you to do, what I would love for you to do is write down the secret that you got told so that you remember it. And write down who came to you and the amulet or the gift that they gave you. And if, let's say, it was a beautiful locket, or if it was a ring, or if it was a ribbon, or if it was a cape, or if it was a book, or whatever it was, what I'd like you to do is to actually see if you can find something like that in the physical world. Like find a locket like that, or find a ring like that, or paint a picture of it. I want you to do something that concretizes that gift, okay? So that you can actually have something to hold, and that's your little personal private key, like a what did they call it in Harry Potter, the port key, right? That connects you with that other realm, that connects you with your romantic guardian angel. I'm gonna tell you that I love you all very much. If no one told you that they loved you today, I do. And I am going to read you one more poem because I can't help myself. Okay, I'm gonna write this. I'm gonna read this poem. It's called Always by Pablo Neruda. Facing you, I am not jealous. Come with a man at your back, come with a hundred men at your hair. This is a weird poem tree. Come with a thousand men between your bosoms and your feet. Come like a river filled with drowned men that meets the furious sea, the eternal foam, the weather. Bring them all where I wait for you. We shall always be alone. We shall always be you and I alone upon the earth. Earth to begin life. I'm gonna find one more that's a little more cheery. He was a little you're a little jealous, that Pablo. Let's see. Here we go. In you the earth. Little rose, Roselette, at times tiny and naked, it seems as though you would fit into one of my hands. And so I'll clasp you like this and carry you to my mouth. But suddenly my feet touch your feet, and my mouth touch your lips. You have grown, your shoulders rise like two hills, your breasts wander over my breast. My arm scarcely manages to encircle the thin new moon line at your waist. In love, you have loosened yourself like seawater. I can scarcely measure the sky's most spacious eyes, and I lean down to your mouth to kiss the earth. Happy Valentine's Day, my ladies.