Bloom Your Mind

Ep 119: Wegotchu

• Marie McDonald

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Have you ever gotten roasted or teased for things you were kind of surprised about? 

Or what about this…have you ever been teased for saying something that you didn’t know was unique to you? 

I’ve recently been told multiple times that a certain word that I say is a “Marie-ism”, and I had no idea. In friend groups, family text threads, the Bloom Room and more I’ve had people say “As Marie would say…Wegotchu.” This got my attention, of course, and it made me think about this word and why I use it. 

The answer I found is that I LOVE this word. 

I say it because it’s my philosophy of life. 

Because it’s my purpose in life to help as many people feel the meaning that the apparently made up word “Wegotchu” means to me. I want to feel that way myself, as much as I can in my life. I want YOU to feel that way as much as possible. 

So this episode is all about Wegotchu, because it’s a total Mind Bloomer. 

If you are a recipient of the Wegotchu vibe, your mind will bloom. 

And if you treat yourself with the Wegotchu vibe, you will be OKAY. no matter what goes down. 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

  • Why the Wegotchu experience is a word to describe an actually known phenomenon called “the connection web” 
  • How applying Wegotchu to your physical body will help it heal 
  • How applying Wegotchu to your own life will make you more resilient 
  • Why responding to other people’s low moments and challenges with this approach brings out the highest in others
  • How acts of service are absolutely reciprocal 
  • Why responding to vulnerability with an assertion of connection heals and connects 

Wegotchu communicates that you are seen. 

You are understood. 

You are accepted at your most vulnerable. 

And it communicates that we’re in the web, and there’s no falling here; because we’re in it together. 

Wegotchu. 

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Welcome to the Bloom your Mind podcast, where we take all of your ideas for what you want and we turn them into real things. I'm your host, certified coach Marie McDonald. Let's Hello everyone and welcome to episode 119 of the Bloom your Mind podcast.

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Have you ever gotten roasted for things you knew you did but didn't really know that? Like we knew that you knew that you did. Have you ever gotten teased for being you Like? You thought it was more normal than it was the thing that you got teased about? Or maybe you thought you weren't doing the thing in such an extreme way, but then you got roasted for it or teased for it and you were like, oh, that's maybe not as normal as I thought. I've been roasted multiple times for my hugs, which are apparently really good Okay, I just didn't know how good. And for making eye contact with people. Like I thought everybody made eye contact until I got roasted and then I realized that I am way more comfortable making eye contact than most people. Oops, have you had that experience? Is there anything you've been like roasted for, teased for, and you were like, oh, okay, what about this one?

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Have you ever been teased for saying something that you didn't know you say, or maybe not even teased, maybe just people commented on something that's like a you-ism. Maybe someone said that's such a you thing to say that's such a you-ism and you thought, oh okay, I thought everybody says that, or at least I didn't realize it's unique thing to say, but now I do. Have you had one of those? I'll let you think for a sec. Pull one into your mind. I've recently been told multiple times that there's a word that I say that's a me word and I had no idea. I thought it was way more common than it is and honestly I didn't really think about it at all. But on multiple text threads in the Bloom Room group community that we have between sessions that everybody writes to each other on, with my family of origin, with my friends all over, I've had people say in quotes, as Marie would say, we got you. So, like one time when someone said that it was no big deal.

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But after this happened like five, six, seven times in different settings, it of course took my notice and made me think okay, I must say we got you. I know I don't say it like all day, every day, but I definitely say it because I don't say it that often. So I must say we got you. I know I don't say it like all day, every day, but I definitely say it because I don't say it that often. So I must say it in a way that stands out, or maybe not everybody says this. Why do I say this word? We got you W-E-G-O-T-C-H-U, we got you H-U, we got you.

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And I thought about it and I was like, yeah, I freaking love that word. I love it, and I say it because it's like my philosophy of life. For sure. It's my purpose in life to help as many people feel the meaning of that apparently made up word we got you. I want as many people to feel that feeling that that word represents as possible, and I want to feel that way myself as much as I can in my life too. So I wanted to talk about it on the podcast because it's a total mind bloomer. If you are a recipient of the we got you vibe, your mind will bloom, and if you treat yourself with the I got you vibe, we got you vibe you will be okay, no matter what goes down. So I'm going to tell you a story to describe a very visceral experience of the we got you vibe that I had lately to convey what it means to me no-transcript. So here's the story.

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I was on an airplane. I love being on airplanes looking down at clouds what the heck we get to do that. So I'm flying back from a trip with my business partner, maggie. She and I laugh harder, go deeper and run a very successful business together, supporting executives to communicate and lead with their people and their impact as their first priorities. So we love our work and we also like interact in so many ways as friends. Maggie and I have this friendship that just exists like on every level. You know the deep level of the laughing level, the business level. It's great. I love her.

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So we're talking and I'm telling her about this experience that I'd recently had. I was telling her about how I had this photo shoot for the bloom room and my business and I don't know I needed some help with it. I was kind of feeling behind the ball and I had one of my good friends. Her name is Becca. We actually are leading the art of self love and very soon together. So you may have heard about her on the podcast, seen pictures of her. She's a stylist and she's one of my sister friends. I called her.

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She comes to my house and spends the entire day with me. She does my hair, she does my makeup, she hangs out with me all day long. She wipes lipstick off my teeth, she brushes away strands of hair, she cinches me into clothes, she changes clothes out. She comes over, runs over and just tweaks my outfit a little bit. She gives me water, she changes my jewelry, she adjusts everything All day long. With this joyful feeling and these little giggles, we would look at each other and just giggle because we get to do this together. Right, this look, this was like. I love you so much. Human. We're having such a fun time all day right.

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And then my friends show up. There's a group of Bloom Room clients and past clients that have worked with me and a couple friends that are in the photo shoot. I just said, hey, do you guys want to be in the shoot? I would love it. And they just come and they're all dressed up. Everybody's wearing these amazing outfits, amazing outfits. They're on time with these huge smiles. We giggle, they pop champagne bottles. They're popping champagne, we're having the best time, and then they just take off. Just total support.

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A couple of days later, it's my birthday. I didn't really plan anything. I was focused on, I didn't want to hang out very much. And then the couple of days before my birthday, I was like, dude, does anybody want to go soak in the waters at Hakumba with me? And I texted some people and these five women come and they just show up. One of them drives out with me together it's Becca again and we spend the entire day just together. We soak in the water all day, we listen to each other, we support each other and we go home.

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That same week I go out dancing with another group of girlfriends Actually, it was not the same week, it was a couple weeks later and I go to a music venue see a show with another girlfriend. Then I go on this field trip for my daughter and we have to dress up that day as the chaperones for the field trip and we are supposed to be wearing medieval outfits and y'all. I did not have time. That week I brought this pirate outfit. Oh my gosh, it was bad, but it was all I had and I had been a pirate for Halloween. So I like bring this pirate outfit.

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And we had to leave at. We had to get up at 3.30 in the morning. We left at 4.50 in the morning to get to where we were going. So we're all changing in the car at like 6.30 in the morning in our cars and all the sixth graders are out in the parking lot and we all change. And then I get out and the sixth graders look at me and they're like, okay, and I was like what. And they're like, well, you look good but you look like a pirate. I'm like they can tell these other women come up to me, these two women, and they just start fluffing me. One of them literally takes one of her skirts she had layered skirts she takes one of them off of her body and puts it on me over my pirate pants. And another one takes this mink faux mink stole out of her trunk and wraps it around me and styles it. I put on this bright red wig and then all of a sudden I look banging like a medieval. I don't know, lady, but they just were adjusting me and dressing me because I didn't have what I needed.

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And the next day, after all these experiences, after having these, I had this feeling, that was so visceral, of being held. And so here I am on this airplane where I feel very held by my business partner. We hold each other right and all of these relationships, of course, are mutual and reciprocal. But I was describing the feeling that I had to Maggie. It was multiple experiences where something didn't go quite right. I was late, I was feeling off. I I had to Maggie. It was multiple experiences where something didn't go quite right. I was late, I was feeling off, I didn't have my clothes, I looked like a pirate, I needed some help or some love, or it was my birthday and I had a challenge or speed bump, and people were just there and a lot of them were women.

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And in this experience, as I reflected, my body just felt really light and tingly and glittery and I had this really strong visual that just popped into my mind, but like in this way that I could feel, of just being held up by this sparkling web of blue light, that sort of I could see like the top of the earth, and I just popped into my mind and it just went out in every direction, just held in this way, where it would be impossible to fall because they had me. They had my back so hard. They had me. That is the we got you feeling. That's what we got you means. It's that web. So I'm describing that web to Maggie and you know what she says. She says oh yeah, the first time I experienced the web was and she started telling me the story. She knew exactly what I was talking about and I got the chills and I was like oh, this is an actual thing. This is the visceral, tangible, actual experience of being in a community held by your people Like you are one entity that all works together and I want to never stop having this feeling. And that's what the bloom room is all about that we got you feeling. That's what all my work is all about you being you authentically, me being me authentically and knowing that we got you. You don't have to be somebody else, you be you. You make your ideas real, you do you, you do your life and we got you. So why does this feel so good? The we got you vibe. And how can we apply it? Well, first we can apply it with ourselves.

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I've had this experience over the last year where, for the first time, part of my body had an injury. That's been really challenging. It just is not working right and I've been working on it a lot. I've talked about it on the podcast.

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My body is not doing what I want it to. But instead of feeling old, or instead of getting mad at my body because it's breaking down in some way or feeling unattractive no, that's a big hard no to all of those reactions. No, that's a big hard no to all of those reactions I can feel, any of those that I've been socialized to do to my body. Come up and validate them, be with them, be kind to those reactions. But then no. Instead I give my body the we got you. I got you energy. And when I respond to my body like that, it becomes a million times lighter. And instead of me treating it like an enemy that I need to control, that I expect to do what I want, I treat it like the precious best friend that it is this body that has carried me through my entire life and that sometimes I did not treat that well and that I will always be with. And now I am gentle and respectful with it, with my body and with myself, and I love myself like no one else will ever be able to love me Like no one else could ever know how to love me, because I deserve that and because I got you Right, the more we love ourselves, the more depth we have to love other people, and we can treat ourselves first of all with that. We got you feeling day in and day out. My friends, we will bloom when we do that.

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Now, what about somebody else? I have so many examples of this. When someone doesn't have the right shoes for an event, or recently my friend forgot the one thing he was responsible for bringing to a party that I had done everything else for and we came up with a different solution and we said we, or my dad, he showed up to an event that he really needed a card for. That was an expected thing and he didn't have one. And he said who can help? And we gave him ours. And we said, even though we didn't have one for ourself, we said we got you.

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Or maybe someone's late in traffic and they can't pick up their kid for baseball or school, and we drive out of the way to pick them up for baseball practice or school, and we just respond we got you. Why do these examples feel so good? When you respond with the we got you, vibe, it's because it gives the person that needs help the visceral feeling that they're held and it's not I got you, which kind of heroicizes ourselves a little bit. I got you. I mean, I kind of love I got you, but we got you is a different level. You know, I got you isn't bad, but we got you is better because it reminds the person that it's not just one person being a hero. There are many of us out there and we have their back. We got you, we're a team. Reminds them of the web. It normalizes for other people on the same text thread or in the community that are around that hears you say we got you. It normalizes that I know. You know that they would step in too, which makes them want to step in more.

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When we say we got you and we speak for the group, we are interacting with each other's highest selves. And when we interact with each other's highest selves, that's who shows up and it feels so good because it communicates that we enjoy helping, because that is the truth. We love to be connected, we love to be of value, we love to help and we got you tells the truth of a moment like that. We do have the other person, we have their back and it's no big deal. It's actually, and truthfully, a huge honor and a huge joy. It feels really good to help truthfully a huge honor and a huge joy. It feels really good to help, to be there at the right time, to be able to help them, and it feels really good to us. So they get to feel a little less burdensome because they know that they've given us a chance to step in and be valuable and serve. We got you, communicates. We got you and we like it. We feel good having your back All right. One more application because I could go on forever One of my other favorite applications of the we got you, vibe.

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Someone shares something hard. They tell a vulnerable story which we all have, right, we just bottle up, maybe they put themselves out there and then they have a little bit of a vulnerability hangover. Whether you see it or not, when you respond to some vulnerability, some share that someone gives, someone offers up. When you respond with some thoughtful words or reflections and then thank them for trusting in you and you say we got you, damn, does that feel good? It communicates to that person who has put themselves out there and shared. You are understood and you are accepted at your most vulnerable and we know that took a lot for you to share.

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But, sister, you are in the web. We got you. There's no falling here because we're together. We got you. That's what I have for you this week and I will see you next week. We take all of these concepts and we apply them to real life. In a community where we have each other's backs and we bring out the best in each other. We're all there to make our ideas real, one idea at a time. I'll see you in the Bloom Room, thank you.