Ep 170: Code your Energy

Many of my clients come to me with a clear vision of what they want—connection in their relationships, growth in their business, confidence in their body—but when we look closely, the energy they’re putting in doesn’t match what they’re trying to create.

And most of the time, they don’t realize it.

In this episode, we talk about how to code your energy on purpose—so that what you’re putting into your life is aligned with what you actually want to experience.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why misaligned energy is one of the biggest reasons we don’t create what we want
• How to define energy as the combination of your thoughts + your feelings
• A recap of the regenerative design cycle and how energy moves through it
• Why the energy you put into an idea determines what comes back to you
• How to intentionally “code” your energy to match your desired outcome
• Practical examples of how this shows up in relationships, business, health, and social life

Energy isn’t vague—it’s specific.
Your thought + the feeling it creates in your body = your energy.
And that energy is what you’re putting into everything you do.

In the regenerative design cycle:

• You have an idea you want to make real
• You put energy into that idea
• That energy moves out into the world
• And then the world reflects that energy back to you

So if you want something different back…
You have to code your energy differently going in.

You change your life by changing the energy you bring to it.

When your thoughts and feelings align with what you want to create, everything starts moving faster.

So this week, ask yourself:
What energy am I putting in—and does it match what I want back?

And then… code it differently.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Blue in Your Mind Podcast, where we take all of your ideas for what you want and we turn them into real things. I'm your host, certified coach Marie McDonough. Let's get into it. Well, hello everybody, and welcome to episode number 170 of the Bloom Your Mind podcast. I think I said this last time, but there's so many new listeners out there. It's so cool to see that number going up and up and up, and we are so grateful that you're here with us. Me and my team. I will just speak for myself. I am so grateful that you are here with me. We have so much cool stuff going on right now, so much new material, so many groups happening, and just incredible momentum in the movement that we're making in the world to just bring wonderful ideas into the world. The ideas that only you can create because you have your unique set of lived circumstances. You, the human being that is happening once, ever, right now, with your face, your body, your perspective, you can put ideas out into the world that nobody else can. Whether that's just in your own life, for just for you, to elevate your human experience, that is enough. Or if it's in your community to elevate some part of your community in the way that you can see is needed, and in the way that only you can, or whether that's in the world at large, all of it makes a difference. And every single one of us that is doing this work is changing the world. So thank you for being here. We love it. Uh, today I am sharing with you one of my very, very favorite concepts. This is my own intellectual property and my own concept that I teach in the Moxie mastermind and to some of my students. Uh, so we're teaching about coding your energy, and it is a companion, it is an element to the uh regenerative design process. It's one aspect of this process. I'm actually writing a book about all of this right now. So get excited for that and send me any feedback that you've got on the regenerative design process, how it has helped you. I know a lot of you have listened to that episode. I see tons of people going back to that episode. Um, and we are expanding on those concepts and we're applying them all the time, testing them, redesigning aspects of regenerative design because we're seeing the big difference it's making in people's lives. So, this is one part of that regenerative design process, and it's a way for you to hack your self-coaching and your emotional management, your thoughts and your feelings, right? In order to hack that regenerative design process so that the things in your life are regenerative, they are giving you back the energy that you most want in the form that is most valuable to you. So I'm gonna go into the basics of that regenerative design cycle to just as a quick reminder for you before I get into coding your energy. Before that, I just want to mention that I spent the last weekend leading a girls' group for teenage girls. My daughter is 13 and I led a monarchy ritual group, just kind of made it up out of nowhere for her and the other young women that were going through, you know, the initial stages early on of transitioning from being girls to young women. And we talked about what our bodies go through, and I kind of did some rituals with them, lots of talk groups, and then a time where we sat in a circle and just talked about it all, and then brought in parents and aunties and any other powerful female figures, grandmas, my mom was there, and uh Luca's aunt was there, and we brought in all these figures who also brought in their own uh, you know, as for a potluck, their uh foods from their own culture, and they brought in their own stories. So we all talked about growing up in different cultures and environments and families and what it was like. So I've done that for a while and really found it to be supportive and normalizing for young women, just like it's supportive and normalizing for women that are in middle age to talk about what's happening in our own lives and our own bodies and our own careers and relationships, super important, pretty much at all ages, to normalize and help us learn from one another. But I did sort of a repeat because my daughter came to me and she was like, yo, mom, all the girls want to come back over. They're all asking me to have you host another circle because there's been some drama at school and we need to talk to each other. Will you help us? And I was like, hell, yes, I will. She's like, Can we have a slumber party too? And I was like, Yeah. So we had everybody over, everybody in her class, and I made them lasagna and chocolate dip strawberries and all this stuff for the night, and they got to party and hang out and you know, chat and laugh together, eat a bunch of snacks. They spent the night. I made them cinnamon rolls in the morning, and uh then we got to it and we did a girls' group, young women's group, where I taught them some communication tactics. I taught them how to communicate with one another when something is wrong, how to bring up a challenge in a way that doesn't create blame and defensiveness in the other person. And I also talked about how to apologize. So a lot of these tools are in the series of episodes that I recorded on conflict resolution. I don't think I went into apology, so I'll share that quickly here. I taught them that a lot of times when we apologize, we'll just say, I'm sorry. But that a lot of times it doesn't mean a lot. There are three steps I recommend to any apology. The first is to truly apologize, make sure your energy is fully present so that your thoughts and your feelings and your whole focus are right there with the other person and you're actually saying a real I'm sorry. Step two, acknowledge the impact that whatever you said or did, whatever happened or didn't do or didn't say, whatever that impact was on the other person. You can say that was not my intention, but I realize that this is the impact it had on you, and that sucks, and I'm sorry. And then the third step after apologizing and acknowledging the impact is to let them know why it won't happen again. And when we go through those steps, that really repairs so much more than a generic, I'm sorry. So we went through that and we actually crafted. I had them do these little mosaic candles, and everybody contributed to each other's design so that it reminds them of their connection to one another. And also because if you've ever had kind of a tougher conversation when you're driving or walking or crafting, doing something with your hands, it makes it a little bit lighter and easier. So you're not all just staring at each other. So we had a beautiful time together, and I talk about that here because I wish more women were doing it, and I wish more men were doing it with their boys, and I wish more communities were doing it with all gender identities. So I really support those groups and circles. We don't have a lot of coming of age traditions in our world, so we gotta come up with them, invent them, and let our young people know they are not alone. There is a village of human beings that are supporting them in their journey. So that's my intro. Now let's talk about coding your energy. So a quick reminder of the regenerative design process. Regenerative design is two words to describe a cycle that we all go through to put any idea into the world. An idea could be a vision you have for your relationship, for your health habits, or it could be something solid, like a business you're starting, a book you're writing, travel you're gonna do. Whatever that is, you're gonna put energy from you into your idea. That energy will come in all different forms. It might come in time spent, words said, money, emotional energy, all kinds of things. Thoughts and feelings are gonna help you determine how you act as you put energy into your idea. Then you're gonna do some different things to get your identity, sorry, to get your idea out there into the world. So if you picture a little cycle, a circle with three arrows between it and three different locations, there's you, your idea, and the world. So so far we've talked about how the energy goes from you to your idea as you create that idea. Then as you share the idea out into the world and iterate to see what works and doesn't work and tweak that idea, test it out. You're gonna put energy, the energy is gonna go from your idea out into the world. And then you're gonna see it blossom, you're gonna see it bloom, and you're gonna get some energy back if it's a regenerative design. If it's a design that cycles energy in ways that are valuable to you, that energy is gonna come back from the world to you. And what we want is we wanna work on making sure that the energy we're putting into our ideas is coming back to us in the ways that we most value. And that's what I want to talk about today, because I coach a lot of people who are sort of stopped and stuck in that cycle because the energy that they're putting into their idea doesn't match what they want to get back out of it. Now, I'm not talking about literal energy. So if you want to get, if you want to start a business, you might have to put some money into the startup of the business in order to get some to come back to you. But sometimes the literal energy that we're putting in is a little bit different. That's not what I'm talking about here. So let's just differentiate that. If we're actually talking about actions that we're taking, that might look different. So the actions might be putting in the energy of some money or time, and then the energy that comes back to us once our idea is out in the world, might be money and time, but it might be something else. That doesn't have to match. What does have to match is your energy, and what I mean by energy is the thoughts that you have and the feelings that you generate in your body towards your idea as you're putting it out into the world. They need to be coded to match the energy that you want to get back from your idea once it's out in the world. So if you're thinking of that cycle, energy going from you into your idea, your idea out into the world, and coming back to you, you need to match your energy to what you want to experience on the other side. Now, there are multiple reasons why this is the truth, and they aren't magical, although sometimes they feel very magical. The way we are thinking and feeling about anything will determine the results that come back to us because the way that we are thinking and feeling determines how we act, and how we act always creates the results in our life. So if we are building a business and we want that business to be really successful and to flourish and to reach a lot of people, and that's the energy we want to get out of it, is like success, high energy, excitement. But as we're working on the business, we are fear-based and we're nervous and we're jittery, and we have a lot of doubt about whether it's gonna happen or not. It's gonna be so much harder for us ever to get that business off the ground in a way where it's super regenerative and giving us back all of those clients or customers or financial success or fulfillment or whatever it is that we're looking for from the business. We have to get ourselves to a place where we are feeling excitement, feeling success, feeling the flourishing that we know is going to happen and believing in it in the beginning, coding our energy to match what we want back. When we do that in the very beginning, we will set ourselves up to receive exactly what our vision is from our idea being real in the world. So let me give you some ways that this shows up as really sneaky. Okay. And one more time I want to break down that if you're like, what do I do to get my energy to a certain place? What do you mean, energy? A really quick hack is your energy is created by whatever you're thinking and whatever you're feeling. So start with managing your mindset to generate feelings that match the energy you want to get back. How do you want to think and feel at the when your idea is out in the world and the world's giving you energy back? Maybe you want to feel fulfilled, you want to feel excited, maybe you want to be thinking this is such a success. I am so proud of myself, and I'm really excited at the impact I'm having on the world. Those are the exact thoughts you want to start practicing right now. So that's your hack is that whatever you want to be thinking and feeling on the other side, you got to start thinking and feeling that right now. So here are some ways that this gets a little bit sneaky. The first example I want to say that I see coming up in coaching a lot is in relationships. Someone will have an idea for a relationship that their relationship is close and loving and wonderful, and they start kind of putting some energy into creating that. But sometimes the energy they put into it is like forcing it or talking about what's not working or talking about what's upsetting them that doesn't match their vision, and it creates the opposite of what their vision is. What they can do is look at the whole regenerative cycle. What is the energy they're hoping to get back from the relationship? If it's connection and support and laughter and closeness, what will they be thinking and feeling when all of that is coming back to them? That is what they need to be practicing now. I'm so grateful for this relationship. This relationship means so much to me. We're working on playing more together, and I'm gonna bring myself into a place of connection so that I behave in a way that is connected and playful, and exactly what I'm looking to get back out. Because we have to give what we want to get, we have to put the energy in if that's what we want to receive, and in a relationship that is totally contagious. So your work here is in a relationship that's not sort of feeling exactly as you want to feel, you're not getting back what you want from that relationship. Look closely. Are you acting in a way that matches what you want to receive from the relationship? I imagine that you're not. And if you're not, how do you need to think and feel in order to behave in a way that matches what you want to get back out? Your power is always in what you can control, which is what you're thinking and feeling and how you're acting. So just focus on that. Okay, number two, a second sneaky place is with our bodies and our health. I want my body to feel so good. I want my body to be strong and lithe. I want to feel great in my clothes. And then we just beat our bodies up. We're so dissatisfied with what we look like. What do we need to be thinking and feeling about our body right now? Well, it's exactly what we'll be thinking and feeling about our body then. I'm so grateful for this body, I'm so beautiful, I love walking around in this body. Start to practice feeling love towards your body right now. And if you don't believe those thoughts that match exactly how you think you're gonna feel when you've made changes to your body where you feel healthier, where you feel stronger, choose something in between that's a little bit more helpful. It's called bridge thinking, and you can go to that episode if you need that tool. But basically, you're gonna find something in between that's like I'm learning to love my body. My body serves me so well. I'm so grateful for this body. I'm learning to feel great in my clothes no matter what. I'm learning to value myself no matter what my body is like. Because I got a body that carries me around. Code your energy, put the energy in that you want to get back out. All right, what about with your business? I hear people go into business situation and try situations and try to get investment, try to go into investment conversations or try to go into conversations with potential clients, and the energy they're giving off is I don't know if this is gonna work. I'm trying to convince you, I'm trying to convince you that this is worth your time, but I'm feeling sort of weird and so much self-doubt and sort of bashful about this, and I'm coming across as apologetic, all of our subconscious language, all of our body language, our tone, all of what we're communicating subconsciously is doubt when we do that. We have to clean up what we're thinking and feeling before we have those conversations. If what we want to get out of this business is, I'm changing the world, I love my business, my business is so successful, it's magnificent. And we're feeling so excited, we have to get ourselves there in the beginning. Code our energy, code our thoughts and feelings to match the results that we want to get. What do you want to get back from the world? Give the world that right now. Lastly, I want to talk about social situations. We want to be loved and accepted. We want to feel so good, we want to be invited, we want to be integrated, we want to be included. But then when we're talking to people, we come across as you probably hate me, you probably think I'm terrible, you probably think I'm ugly, I'm probably not what you want to see. We have these thoughts and feelings that are apologetic or shameful or even angry or judgmental of the other person. Pause. Check out the energy that you're giving to these social situations. And if you're shutting them down, judging them or communicating subconsciously with your body language that you're not enough, it's not gonna work the way you want. Regenerative cycles are dependent on us putting in the energy that matches the energy we want to get back out. So if you want people to love and accept you, if you want to be included, if you want thriving friendships, give love and acceptance of yourself and other people. Give excitement, give inclusion. You walk into the room and include them and just watch how these regenerative cycles with relationships, with body, with business, with social dynamics, and with everything else start giving you back the energy that you are coding to put into them. Just watch how easy it all gets. Code your energy to match what you want to get out and watch yourself. All right, that's what I've got for you this week, and I will see you next week. This is a year-round membership where we take all of these concepts and we apply them to real life in a community where we have each other's backs and we bring out the best in each other. We're all there to make our ideas real. One idea at a time.