Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Ep 168: “It’s My Responsibility to Make Everyone Happy” - Healing the Generational Pattern That Turns Your Strength Into Pain

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 4 Episode 168

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Have you ever told yourself,
“It’s my responsibility to make everyone happy”?
If so, this episode is for you.

Because that sentence isn’t your personality.
It’s not your “strength.”
And it’s definitely not your purpose.

It’s a generational trauma pattern that turned your empathy into over-responsibility…
your intuition into hypervigilance…
and your caring nature into exhaustion.

In this episode, we go deep into the truth behind this pattern:

 Why you feel responsible for everyone’s emotions Why you’re pulled to help people who don’t want help Why your kindness sometimes gets rejected or resented Why you can see other people’s patterns… but can’t stop yours And how to finally break free - without becoming “cold” or “selfish”

You’ll hear:

 Why high-achieving, self-aware, ultra-sensitive women fall into this trap How childhood roles (parentification, emotional caretaking, walking on eggshells) shape adult behavior Why knowledge is not enough to stop the cycle The moment your helping turns into proving, or saving, or trying to earn worth And the exact place where healing must begin

If you’ve ever felt drained, unseen, unappreciated, or resentful despite your big heart and good intentions - this episode will hit home.

This isn’t about stopping your empathy.
It’s about rewiring the pattern that uses your gifts against you.

 Listen/watch now and learn how to turn your sensitivity back into your superpower - without sacrificing yourself.

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About the Author:

Hi, I’m Alena, also known as the Mommy Tantrum Specialist and founder of the Zen Supermom program. Once upon a time, I was the mom yelling at her daughter before breakfast and crying behind a closed door before lunch. Now I help overwhelmed moms uncover and heal the hidden roots of their yelling, so they can lead their families with peace and clarity.

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