Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 177: Why Do I Still Lose My Patience With My Kids Even After Therapy and Parenting Courses?
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You’ve read the parenting books.
Taken the courses.
Tried the scripts.
Maybe even done years of therapy.
And yet… you still lose your patience with your kids.
You wake up every morning promising yourself:
today I won’t yell.
Today I’ll stay calm.
Today I’ll hold the boundaries without snapping, threatening, or exploding.
And then it happens again.
So what’s going on?
In this episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast, I break down why parenting courses and therapy often still don’t stop the yelling - even when you’re smart, self-aware, and trying so hard.
We talk about:
- why parenting techniques disappear when you’re triggered
- why talking about your stress is not the same as rewiring it
- why burnout coaching, CBT, EMDR, hypnotherapy, and even years of therapy may bring relief but still miss the root
- why your reactions with your kids are often tied to much older nervous system patterns
- how high-achieving, people-pleasing, controlling, and perfectionist moms get stuck in the same cycle
- and what actually needs to happen if you want calm to become real - not just something you understand in theory
This episode is for the mom who feels:
- “I’ve already done so much. Why am I still like this?”
- “Maybe I’m broken.”
- “Maybe this just can’t change.”
You’re not broken.
And this is not your fault.
But there probably is something important you’ve been missing.
If this episode resonates, watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass next for the deeper framework and practical next steps.
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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