Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
I'm not a supermom. But I always wanted to be one and have it all: family, career/business that I love, AND the time for myself. But that ambition without proper stress resistance and resilience killed my mom (cancer at 48) and drove me to the edge of burnout twice. Only when I saw the disastrous effects of my anger, stress, and resentment on my little daughter, I knew I had to change... Since then, not only have I healed but I also helped thousands of other women all around the world through trauma-informed therapy and mental fitness training. And I decided to share the most vulnerable and valuable pieces of my and their journey here. Because if we got out of that dark, stuck place of feeling like a terrible mom, YOU CAN DO IT TOO. So choose the episode that speaks to you and tune in!
Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast
Ep 178: How Do I Stop Other People’s Judgment and Unwanted Advice From Getting Under My Skin?
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How do you stop other people’s judgment and unwanted advice from getting under your skin?
Not when it comes from random strangers online.
That’s easier to ignore.
But when it comes from someone close - your mom, a friend, a colleague, someone who should understand you - but their judgmental "well-meant" advice or comment stays with you for hours, days, sometimes even longer.
You replay the conversation.
You feel misunderstood, hurt, and angry.
And no matter how much you try to “just let it go,” you're stuck thinking about how unfair that was.
So what do you actually do with that?
In this new episode of the Zen Supermom Podcast, we unpack why certain comments hit so deeply - and why it’s not really about the words themselves.
We talk about:
- why judgment from close people affects you differently
- why you keep replaying these conversations in your head
- how to stop carrying other people’s emotional “stuff” with you
- and how to respond from a calm, grounded place instead of reacting from the hurt
This is not about escalating fights or shutting down your feelings.
It’s about learning how to stay in your calm, grounded self - even when someone else makes a comment that makes you feel judged and not good enough.
If you want to go deeper, start with the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
Get the Zen Supermom book here:
👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)
More about me & my work:
👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com
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