Zen Supermom: The Mental Fitness Podcast

Why You Swing Between Too Nice and Too Strict With Your Kids (And How to Finally Stop)

Alena Gomes Rodrigues Season 5 Episode 190

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Has anyone ever told you that you are too soft with your kids? And is there a part of you that agrees, but you refuse to go the other direction because you do not want your children growing up scared of you?

So you swing. Nice. Then strict. Then guilty. Then nice again.

In this episode of the Zen Supermom podcast, Alena explains exactly why this pattern happens, why willpower and parenting books will never fix it, and what mental fitness actually is and why it is the only thing that gets you out of the swing for good.

What you will learn in this episode:

  • Why you swing between too nice and too strict and why it is a generational autopilot not a personal failing
  • The two most common childhood patterns that create this swing in adulthood
  • Why parenting scripts fail because they assume you are already calm when you need to use them
  • Why staying calm on the outside while locking anger inside is more dangerous than yelling according to Dr Gabor Mate and Dr Joe Dispenza
  • What mental fitness is and why it works in seconds rather than requiring an hour of yoga
  • The third way between too nice and too strict and how to actually feel it in your nervous system
  • Why your daughter is wiring everything she watches you do into her identity every single day
  • How to apply to be coached live on the Zen Supermom podcast

Next step: join Alena live in the free Mommy Tantrum Masterclass:
 https://zensupermom.easywebinar.live/mommy-tantrum-masterclass

Apply to be coached live on the podcast:
 https://form.jotform.com/261413211817347

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Topics: too nice too strict parenting, generational autopilot, parenting scripts don't work, calm parenting, mental fitness for moms, suppressed anger, Dr Gabor Mate, people pleasing mom, nervous system parenting, mommy tantrum, zen supermom podcast.



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Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).

I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.

My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.

🎧 Start here – Mommy Tantrum Masterclass
Find out what’s really driving your reactions with your kids — and what to do next.
👉 Watch the Mommy Tantrum Masterclass

📚 My book – I Yelled, I Cried, I Healed
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👉 I YELLED, I CRIED, I HEALED (book on Amazon.com)

More about me & my work:
 👉 https://www.alenagomesrodrigues.com


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