200. Episodes of Impact & Powerful Lessons

In this special milestone episode of The Mindset Cafe Podcast, we revisit your favorite guest conversations, sharing the most powerful insights, strategies, and life-changing advice that our listeners found most impactful. Hear updates and fresh perspectives on transformative wisdom previously shared by entrepreneurs, thought leaders, mindset experts, and inspirational figures. Discover how these timeless lessons hold up today and learn practical ways to apply them in your own journey toward personal growth, success, and fulfillment. Tune in and celebrate with us by revisiting these unforgettable moments!

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Episode 200
• 2:53 The Importance of Mindset
• 8:20 Overcoming Fear and Taking Action
• 18:29 Embracing Failure as a Lesson
• 27:16 The Power of Gratitude
• 44:27 Passion Drives Purpose
• 52:04 A Personal Announcement
• 59:48 Final Thoughts and Appreciation

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Yeah, it's Mindset Cafe. We all about that mindset. Gotta stay focused. Now go, settle for the last. It's all in your head how you think you manifest. So get ready to rise, cause we about to be the best. Gotta switch it up. Gotta break the old habits. Get your mind right. Turn your dreams into habits. No negative vibes, don't be positive. What is up, guys? What is up?

Speaker 1: 0:21

Welcome to another episode of the Mindset Cafe podcast. It's your boy, devin, and today is the 200th episode. And with that being said, there's your boy, nick. What up, guys? And so today we'll recap a lot of the things that we've talked about over 200 episodes lessons learned, strategies, topics, tools. Know, you name it as well as you know go, we'll go a little rogue on on some of the stuff. Um, you know, it's just kind of a free flow episode, um, but mainly, you know, talking about some things to still benefit you guys. But we do want to show our gratitude and appreciation for everyone that has supported and followed thus far. Show our gratitude and appreciation for everyone that has supported and followed thus far. You know, to 100 more episodes or 200 more episodes. You know, there we go. But with that being said, let's let's just dive into a little bit of you know, like the journey of the podcast. Like you know, since we first started right, did you ever think that we were going to make it to 200 episodes?

Speaker 2: 1:25

yeah, no, I mean, I didn't have a specific number in mind, but honestly, like 200, that's a serious number. You know what I mean. Um, for those people that do listen to podcasts or things of things like that, like at least, like a lot of people say have mentioned that, like it's hard to reach even like 50, 50 episodes, right. So I mean, 200 is definitely a bigger accomplishment, and I did, I did kind of honestly have imagined us reaching like 200 episodes, you know, somewhere in the hundreds, so definitely.

Speaker 1: 2:00

So I mean some of the things you know waiting for some of y'all to hop on and stuff like that Some of the things you know waiting for some of y'all to hop on and stuff like that Some of the things you know we'll talk about is, again, some of the tools and stuff like that that we've learned and that you guys have heard me talk with some guests and stuff in terms of mindset, in terms of personal growth. But what are some of the lessons that you guys have taken away from the podcast? Right, what's a lesson that you've learned? What's a tool that you've started implementing from the mindset cafe? Put it in the comments, you know.

Speaker 1: 2:30

Let us know what you guys favorite episode or what's your favorite episode? You know that's a good one too. What you know? What kind of things have you guys learned and started implementing? Right? But I feel like it's only fair that we start off why you know the importance of mindset, right. But I feel like it's only fair that we start off why you know the importance of mindset right, because, again, it is the Mindset Cafe and we are here and talking about mindset in every area of life. So why don't you start off with? You know just the importance of mindset in achieving success.

Speaker 2: 3:01

I think mindset is important in every aspect of life and it's definitely success, like if our mindset or our frame of thinking, or even like you know how we train our perspectives and things like that, if it's not in line, or at least we don't train it or strengthen it in every you know progressive way, I don't think anything is accomplishable, whether it's success or even any kind of form of progress.

Speaker 2: 3:26

You know what I mean. Even when it comes to working out, like the physical stuff you know, setting a goal in your in, like you know, in your fitness and in your health, if you don't have the proper mindset, like it's going to be very hard, if not nearly impossible, to make any progress or get anywhere with that. You know what I mean and that obviously that goes with, like your relationship, career, literally every avenue of your life. It's like it all starts up here. You know I'm sure everybody has heard that it all starts with your mind, because anything that you, anything that we you know kind of formulate or how we perceive things to be up here is how everything else follows as far as like our body, our energy, like our you know how we, our intent, our effort and all that you know, and how we like, you know, when people say you know people, some people just talk negative or they're kind of always a debbie downer or whatever it's like those people in.

Speaker 2: 4:23

In a sense, it's like it's harder for them to make any progress or achieve goals. That I, at least I would imagine, because since, like, their outlook or their perspective on everything is kind of always like on a downward, on a downhill you know what I mean and like those more, like people that are more optimistic and kind of try to see the lighter side or at least like, try to find solutions and things are the ones that are more than likely the ones to be really the ones that attain their goals and achieve, like what they're trying to go for no, definitely.

Speaker 1: 4:51

I mean, I think, like everything begins and ends with your mindset right. And I thought you're about to say the quote. You know, if you want to achieve something, the conor mcgregor quote if you want to achieve something, you have to be, you have to see it in here first. I've never heard, I've never seen that, but it is true, right, if you can, if you can envision it and you can see it being something that works out and you can see yourself achieving it, it's possible. The moment that you stop seeing that it is a reality, it's the moment you stop believing that you can achieve. It is the moment it becomes impossible. So everything begins and ends with your mindset right.

Speaker 1: 5:28

So everything that we've talked about, every episode that we cover, it all comes down to believing in yourself and knowing that you can overcome any obstacle that's thrown at you as long as you're willing to go for it right. In that you know every obstacle has you have fears, you have, you know, doubts about it. And even for like the podcast, right, launching the podcast, you know the first few episodes when we talked about, you know just anything on the podcast. It was like man, what are people going to think about when we know what we're saying. What are people going to say about a starting podcast? And then you do it, and then people just, you know, realize that that's just what you do, right? That's all of a sudden they ask, hey, how's the podcast going? Hey, I listened to that episode. Or you know they share the episode and you're like, wow, that's so cool, right?

Speaker 1: 6:12

So a lot of times, fear is all in your head as well and it comes down to that like spotlight theory that you know we've covered in the past, where everyone thinks that they have a spotlight on them and everyone is paying attention to every little thing that you do and in reality, everyone has their own spotlight on them. So the fears that you have, nine times out of 10, they're only in your head. No one else is really judging you. No one else is really, you know, putting you in a spotlight 's all mental. Yeah, right I agree.

Speaker 2: 6:48

100 too, as far as, like you know the like the whole fear thing.

Speaker 2: 6:52

And I think when, when we, when we feel the like, when we feel fear right and like you've mentioned it before, where fear is like it comes from the unknown, right, the not knowing, but the thing is, and also too like when it comes to like external factors, like you're afraid of what people are going to say or you're afraid that the spotlight is on you, when you have those feelings, it's like the next thing that you that should come up in your mind is like okay, so what's next? You know, like meaning what I'm trying to get at is like at some point you're gonna have to overcome that fear, right, or at least like find a solution to that fear so that you can achieve your goal, you can attain what you're trying to do. But it has to come from your mindset, it has to come from you overcoming that fear or, you know, having a different perspective on it. And again it comes back to your perspective, like behind you, you know, in your eyes, pretty much no it's true.

Speaker 1: 7:44

I mean fear. Fear again, is that unknown? You know, I've mentioned, you know, with franchisees, because starting a business that we've talked about it's, it's scary, right and overcoming. You know, trying to do a fitness journey again and it hasn't worked out in the past. It's scary because you don't want to try it. Let people know that you're doing it and all of a sudden it doesn't work out again.

Speaker 1: 8:08

But you have to think, like, like, striving, you know, no pun intended, but striving for your goals and striving for the lifestyle that you want. At the end of the day, your, your fear is stopping you from going for a bit. What happens if it turns out and it all works out right? What if it's better than you could ever imagine, right? What? What happens if it doesn't work out? What's the worst thing can happen? You try again, mm-hmm, what's the worst that's gonna happen? You couldn't do something else. What's, you know, like it's not, that the downside isn't, isn't as bad as the upside is good. So, really, your, your scale of balance just has to be re-centered so that you realize that you have more on the upside than you do on the downside, and take that, you know, to to your, your mindset, I guess, to your head, and realize that you know, take action. You fall, dust it off, get back on their champ.

Speaker 2: 9:07

You know, and I think like the fear and the failure, the like. You know the fear and failing and stuff it's. It goes back. We've said it before too. It's like you know like what if? Well, what if this happens, what if that happens? Or what if I fail, so on and so forth. It's like but what if? Like what if you don't? You know what I mean it's like is that it are you just gonna give up or you're just not gonna ever try again? You know what I mean and I think, yeah, we have to have that understanding that it's like you only have a certain amount of times, right.

Speaker 2: 9:40

It goes back to one of my favorite things at least like no regret and um, understanding that like time is so limited and it is the most valuable thing that we have, and understanding that the choices that we make and like the how we perceive things in our mindset and how we approach every single thing that we come across in our life, fitness, career, relationships you know even who you are as a person every single day, how you view that. It's like remember that you're not going to get that day back. You know what I mean. So, like how you, how you take action and how you perceive things. This is completely up to you and like, just wait.

Speaker 2: 10:22

Being grateful for the first thing, I think, definitely helps with making the right decisions. But also it's like are you going to keep wasting every single day, like with a fear of not wanting to do something or fear of something else, when again that fear is just in your head and it's holding you back from making the best and putting your best effort within each day and trying to pursue or at least make progress. Make yourself a step better than you were yesterday, because I mean, if even the smallest thing that you you know you procrastinate or you were afraid of doing for a task or whatever may be for the next day, and you were able to do it and accomplish it, you were that much better than you were yesterday. You know, and no one can take that away from you no, definitely, I mean you got to realize that there's lessons.

Speaker 1: 11:03

No one can take that away from you. No, definitely, I mean you got to realize that there's lessons in failure, right, and there's lessons in success, but at the same time, you being scared of achieving those goals and realizing and being, I guess, just scared to fail, that's the only thing really holding you back. Right, you have to embrace failure as not a failure, but as a lesson, and use that as your fuel to essentially try again. Right, this isn't the first business that you know I've started. This is the first, you know, pivot, that we both taken. And it's like you realize that you can always adjust and continue to move forward. Right, you just have to be willing to get up again and go for it Right, cause if you don't, then no one's gonna come and save you. Right, that's the biggest thing is, it is your life.

Speaker 1: 11:50

If you have a vision, if you have a goal that was put in your head for a reason, and you need to go for it right Cause, again, you only do have one time at this. And what are you gonna do? Look back on it when you're 70, 80 and be like man, I wish I would have started working out again and I wish I would have started a business I wish I would have and then fill in the blank and so just take that step. After 200 episodes of us talking and talking to guests, there's a common theme. The common theme is essentially people just took another step, they got up again and they tried again. It didn't work out. They got up again, they tried again. If you didn't get that, rewind it real quick and listen to that again, right?

Speaker 2: 12:37

That was a hard-hitting lie, right.

Speaker 1: 12:40

I mean, I was going to say it a couple of times and I was like, nah, but truly, that's all it is. It seems life seems so much more complicated than it is. All it is is trying and failing, and trying and failing and trying and failing, right, and so it didn't work out. This time in again, fill in the blank. So what? No one remembers the failures. They only remember the successes. Right? We've referenced this in the past.

Speaker 1: 13:09

Right now, elon Musk is on the spotlight, right? So we'll use him as an example. Do you remember that he was the one, one of the founders of PayPal, right? No, you think of him as Tesla. You don't even think of him as the person that did a, not a flamethrower. You know, you? It's like you, only people only see the successes and remember those man. Remember that one time, you know. And then they put your, your success in there. Remember that one time, we, and then again put that success in there. So it's like all the failures leading up only lead to success feeling that much better. It only leads up to your achievements having value, because if it was that easy, yeah, everyone would be doing it. No, but it wouldn't feel great to achieve it. So at the end of the day you realize every time it doesn't work out and you try again, realize it's just going to feel that much better when you come out on the other side. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 14:04

And I just want to say a quick reminder for those of you guys that are watching again drop in the comments some of your, some of your favorite episodes or some of your favorite lessons that we you know, that you know we covered in the past, or some of the key points that you guys that really resonated with you, you know and we want we can definitely want to touch up on it and kind of like go over it a little bit, but that way we know some of your guys' favorite episodes as well. But, going off of what you said, one speech that I saw that really stuck with me, that goes hand in hand with what you were saying, was Denzel Washington. He was standing at I honestly forgot what college he was speaking to, but he was on a podium right and then he was saying that you know, when you're on your deathbed and you're surrounded by these ghosts and the ghosts are like the goals and the things that you wanted to achieve in your life, but you never went after it Right, and it's like those ghosts are the ones that are coming back to haunt you, but right at the very last moment, when there is no more time left for you to even try, right. And he was saying that what are the ghosts that you're going to be facing when it, when you get closer towards that end? You know what I mean. And breaking that down a little bit more, it's like what you said. It's like you got to get up and try again. It's like having a you know, you us trying and pursuing a certain goal or anything, anything in life, as long as you try and you put the effort in and you just don't give up or you just don't. You know kind of you don't even try something because of fear or whatever other factor, external factor there may be, Even when you're at the very end, when you're on the deathbed.

Speaker 2: 15:39

I honestly don't think those ghosts are going to be there to haunt you, because you know that you left everything on the table right. And I think when I went to play football in high school um, before I could have gone pro, but I tore my acl I'm just kidding. But well, my coach, my coach, used to tell us this one thing that you know leave everything on the field. And you know whether win or lose, win or lose, leave everything on the field so that when you do walk off, you can hold your head up high, knowing that you gave it everything that you have. There are no regrets, right.

Speaker 1: 16:11

So, I mean again, even like for the sports side of it, it's like you don't win all the time right, but if you gave all of your effort and all of your attention, all your focus, and you put the hours in and it doesn't work out, you can't be hard on yourself for it not working out. Sometimes you haven't developed enough skills, sometimes you haven't developed put in enough time, sometimes it's just not your time, but that doesn't mean the next time won't be right, and so you get back in there. You practice, you train, you get resources, whatever the case is. Next time won't be right, and so you get back in there. You, you practice, you train, you, you know you get resources, whatever the case is, and you go back at it just as hard the next time. Get back in there, champ. Yeah, exactly, I mean, that's, that's all it is, and that's that's the craziest thing is, like you, everyone listens to these motivational podcasts and motivational quotes and all these things, and what you have to realize is motivation is fleeting right.

Speaker 1: 17:09

Both of us don't feel like working out every day. Both of us don't feel like, you know, working every day. Both of us, you know we can, we, we're just like you. And so realizing that the feelings, the mental space that you're in you're not alone, right? And so once you acknowledge that and realize that everyone else is going through their own, their own shit as well, what's the difference? Why? What's your excuse? Right, you don't feel like it? Boo hoo, no one does. Now, what? Right, and that's the biggest thing Once you ask yourself, you know now what it kind of solves a lot of the problems. I'm too tired today, okay, so I'm not going to go now. What you know? And if you really just start to do it like, be hard on yourself, push yourself, and it gets easier. I'm not saying it becomes easy, it gets easier, right, you get stronger. You get stronger both physically, you get stronger mentally. But at the end of the day, you just got to continue to move forward and it starts to become a habit and habits are easier to do.

Speaker 1: 18:12

Like, you don't feel like brushing your teeth every day. God, I hope you do. But you know, it's one of those things where that's became a habit because you've done it so many times, regardless of how tired you are. Right, everything else is the same, right, that skill just seems simple because it you know, you brush your teeth, teeth and it's you know a couple of minutes. Okay, you have 24 hours in the day. You can't tell me you can't achieve something. And if you looked at your phone screen and all of a sudden you see that you're on Tik TOK or Instagram for three hours, come on, 30 of that you could have, you know, worked on your side project that you're working on. 30 of that you could have gone and worked out. You know 30 of that. You could have just read a book. You know 30 of that you could have just self-reflected, whatever like fill in the blank with something proactive that would make you a better you tomorrow yeah, right.

Speaker 2: 19:04

and then what I want to touch on, like when you said, like you know, you're tired. If I had a nickel for every time somebody a member in here in the gym has said has looked at me, looked up, and I looked at them and I and they said I'm tired, I would probably have a million dollars. I'm being dead serious, like I hear it constantly on a daily basis. You know that you're tired and then one of my you know go-to responses is okay, keep going. Or I tell them that's okay, it's okay to be tired, you're already here, you showed up, right.

Speaker 2: 19:44

And that goes with like one of the you know kind of us reviewing the past episodes that is one of the episodes that we covered or topics is the fact of is it enough just to show up, just to say, oh, I did it? You know, I just showed up. That's not really enough, because, yes, it is a good thing, it's a step forward that you did make it to the gym and you showed up. And then you, even though you're as tired and as exhausted as you may be, right, you did your responsibility and you showed up. But also, in addition to that, don't just show up and then kind of half-ass it. You know, no matter how exhausted you are, you go as hard as you can with that version of yourself that is fully exhausted.

Speaker 2: 20:23

And that's what I try to articulate with the people. When they say I'm tired and it's like it's okay to be tired, I say it's okay to be tired because everyone gets tired. But the point is, go at those at that exercise, go with those reps as hard as you can, no matter how tired you are. You know it's not going to be as you know, it's not going to be as best as when you're not tired. But still you have to go a hundred percent, even on the days that you are shot down. You're broken down, you're beat down because it's not enough just to show up. You have to show up and show out.

Speaker 1: 20:56

I mean, at the end of the day, that's the only thing that's fleeting is your time. So if you're going to show up to do something and you're not going to give it your full intent, then what's the point of showing up at all, right? You might as well go do something else and not waste the one thing you don't get back. And I remember when we were before strive was open and we were training at the park, I remember, uh, my one client that was coming, leslie, yeah, and and she was like you know, isn't is I'm here, isn't that enough? And I was like what? And she's like I'm here, isn't that enough? Like I showed up and I was like you can go to the library and not read, right and it. And it's like what do you want me to do? Give you a cookie? I can show up. Oh, so did I. You know now what? Right?

Speaker 1: 21:37

So it really comes down to just because you showed up doesn't mean anything. If you're not going to put the work in and you're not going to give it your full attention, then why show up at all? Right, because, again, this is the only thing you don't get back. If you show up and you're not going to give your full effort, your full attention, then that's probably not your true goal. It's maybe a dream, but how bad do you truly want it? That's what you have to really think about. Anything that is worth value, and achieving your goals not just financially the cost is going to be there your time, your effort, your tiredness, whatever the case may be, you have to be willing to fork over that cost in order to see the other side and see the result. It's not always fun, it's not always pretty, it's not always a good time, but that's what separates, basically, people that see that end goal and the other people that always talk about achieving that end goal one day, and then one day never comes. Which one are you going to be?

Speaker 2: 22:40

it was all a dream and I do want to add to that too, because you know I saw that she's actually watching the live right now and I do want to give her kudos.

Speaker 2: 22:50

Like this person is, you know, experiencing an injury right now and you know it's a lower body injury.

Speaker 2: 22:57

But the fact of her, this person, showing up still to the gym and working out and, yeah, we do have to modify the exercises because it's not a light injury or anything like that but the fact that she shows up and she knows who I'm talking about and goes as hard as she can, even with the modifications and finding workarounds with, you know, specific exercises with that injury, that is a perfect example of not just showing up to show up or allowing excuses to oh, it's okay, I'll try again next time, you know that's that's a perfect example and I give her mad kudos for that because, like I see that, you know, with an injury and still pushing through as hard as you can every day on on the workouts, it's like I'm I'm proud of you, like I'm proud of you, you know.

Speaker 2: 23:46

So I mean that's the the kind of relentless effort and like pursuit that I truly believe we have to apply and practice and, like you know, kind of strengthen the discipline in every goal and every aspect that we're actually trying to get better at, because if we don't, then I mean I don't want to be the one to tell you, but it's like you're wasting your goddamn time. You know what I mean?

Speaker 1: 24:07

Like yeah, and I mean even just realizing like what, what are your goals? Are you setting effective goals right? Are you setting goals that you know are going to be achievable in a month? Are the goals that you need to work at for six months? Are the goals that you need to work at for 12 months? You know what are the goals that you're you're um, but realize that you know you can set smart goals. We've talked about you know vision boards. We've talked about breaking large goals down into sub mini goals or milestones. Right.

Speaker 1: 24:41

At the end of the day, you have to set a plan. If you don't have a plan, you're just wandering around, you know. And if you, if your goal is to get you know from from California to, you know Florida, and you weren't using GPS or a map, like, what's the likelihood that you're going to get there? Right, probably not that likely, but if you have GPS or you have a map, your likelihood goes up significantly, right? So same things are for your goals in any area of life Set your plan, set your trajectory and stay on that. There might be detours along the way, but at the end of the day, you're still on that same path. You might get there five minutes late, but you still showed up, that's right.

Speaker 2: 25:27

Barb said there are a few comments. I didn't see it shout out to people in the comments. Thank you, we appreciate you guys. Barb said I love listening to all nick's motivational quotes. Oh, thanks, barb. I mean honestly, like I say those motivational quotes and things like that, and given most of the time they're on the fly, then I'm like, oh damn, I should say that. But the way you think about in my head it's like, yes, it's motivation, but it is still coming from either experience or just things that I have understood, you know, and being able to try to help the person of whoever I'm saying it, to kind of see it in a different way, in a more optimistic way, right. So I mean that I appreciate, know the kudos to that, but honestly, the motivational quotes is to try to help you guys reignite the fire, yes, but also to cultivate the discipline, to practice the discipline, because motivation is great but discipline is what it's going to get you from your beginning to your end goal, right, g? I'm proud of you too. I'm proud of you, g.

Speaker 1: 26:31

I think she was talking about the person you were referencing, because then Barb says she is a badass. Yeah, Jessica.

Speaker 2: 26:40

I don't know if she was cool with it, but yeah, Jessica, I'm super proud of you.

Speaker 1: 26:43

It is Jessica that's pushing through, I mean no one named her up, you just ratted her out. Everyone else just said she and I'm proud of you, jessica, sorry, you know, put you on blast. That was that, was it? Oh, yeah, yeah, um, things that we've talked about in the past also that I want you to dive into is, uh, like, how does gratitude play a role in it?

Speaker 2: 27:05

gratitude.

Speaker 1: 27:07

I think gratitude is one of the most important things, because it's not gonna have anything like gratitude, it's just an attitude that's not a lie, that is a fact.

Speaker 2: 27:15

Gratitude is an attitude. You know what I mean to me us showing gratitude for everything. And when I say everything, it's not just the wins, it's not just the good days, it's it's showing gratitude for the obstacles and the problems that come up on, come up, you know, along the path or along the journey. You may not be grateful for it in the moment, but when you look back, when you look back at it, um, it is gonna give you that. You know that, that the hindsight thing, or at least that the understanding that it's like it was put there for a reason. Right, it gives you that full understanding. You know why you had to overcome this certain obstacle, because it needed to teach you a lesson, it needed to give you the skills it needed you to gain the strength to overcome something, for you to get at least a step closer to where you're trying to get to right. And on top of that, with gratitude, it's like kind of like the perception thing. It's like if we're taking everything for granted or if we're just never showing value to the things that we have, the people around us, or anything like that. The energy that we give off is it's kind of hard to articulate this but not spoiled, but it's like it's the opposite, it's ungrateful. You know, how do you expect to, you know, to draw people closer to you? How do you expect to make progress when, like, you're not thankful for the opportunities or even the things that you have at the moment? You know what I mean and I think too it's.

Speaker 2: 28:48

It's like. You know. I know it's not like ideal to compare ourselves to other people, but if we think of it, that we have opportunities, we have people and stuff like that, we get a chance to wake up the next day. Other people don't, and the resources that we have where we live, so on, so forth, it's like other people don't have that. You know what I mean. Can you imagine being in like, in a way, less situation that you were in right now? You would probably lose your shit. You know what I mean. Some people would literally go crazy. So I think waking up every single day and having gratitude for everything you know and it's just a major key factor in not only being successful but being a good human, being a good person overall. You know what I mean. That's my take on it.

Speaker 1: 29:38

I think I mean some of the things that we've talked about with graduates, like as well, you know you can. Journal you can, you know you can. I mean that's how some people reflect. I personally don't do that, but you know.

Speaker 2: 29:54

I saw your diary in the back. Dear diary, that was yours. You left it.

Speaker 1: 30:00

No, I mean some people, it does work right For me personally, you know that it's just a method that doesn't work right. But other areas you know when's the last time you sent a gratitude message, a text message, to someone that you noticed. You know, like you guys mentioned earlier, jess, you know when you sent, when's the last time you sent a message? Hey, you know, I've noticed how hard you're pushing that. I'm grateful to see, you know the progress that you've made. It's so, it's so awesome. I'm grateful that you're a friend. I'm grateful blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right, those things do go a long way, not just for yourself, but also for the person that you're sending it to. But also realizing, like Nick was saying, don't just be grateful for the moments of success or the moments of progress. Be grateful for every moment, because every moment is building you to become the version of you that you were designed to be. If you're unhappy with where you currently are, right now, realize that is an accumulation of the last three months, six months, year, of the actions and inactions that you did or didn't do. What is the next three months, six months or 12 months going to look like for you, right? Be grateful that you acknowledged that you needed to shift right now and didn't realize it in a year. Be grateful that you had the ability to have that self awareness. Be grateful that you have the opportunity to make that change, because not everyone does Right.

Speaker 1: 31:27

So, again, doing that and being grateful puts you in this gratitude mindset where the world is weird how it works. But when you're grateful for things, the world starts putting more things in front of you that you're going to be grateful for. Right and same thing with opportunity right. If you feel that you know other people are just born lucky. No, they just have an abundance mindset, that they see opportunities in things. You have more of a closed-minded look on the same perspective, so you don't see the opportunity. You're not grateful for what's presented in front of you, so things aren't going to be put there for you to see. So this is your time to shift that mindset and be grateful for every moment. Be grateful that you woke up. Be grateful that you had the ability to go work out today.

Speaker 2: 32:22

Yeah, and I mean honestly, like now it's starting to make sense why Barb said that. It's because, like every topic and everything you know, it has a deeper explanation to it, point being, there's that one saying that we actually said on the podcast a previous podcast where it's life, uh, like a box of chocolates, no, no, forest. Um, it was that life is best understood looking at it backwards. What?

Speaker 1: 33:01

the fuck we never said that, no it was something like that, Like life is.

Speaker 2: 33:04

We have never said that. Why would you look at life backwards? No, hold on. No life is more, no life is understood. Looking at it backwards Something like that?

Speaker 1: 33:12

Oh yeah, it was something along those lines. That makes more sense.

Speaker 2: 33:14

Like life is more understood looking at it backwards, right yeah, so hindsight it's. With that being said, it's like things don't necessarily make sense in the moment, especially when things are going wrong or when you're faced with obstacles. But then later on you look back and it's like, oh damn, you know, like that's why that happened, or oh damn, that makes sense. You know what I mean Now. It makes sense now because you're looking back at it. You're looking back on it, but taking that into consideration, now that we're looking, we're still kind of, you know, looking forward and kind of living our life. It's kind of understanding that, okay, everything that is coming my way, I should have an approach or a mindset of positivity, optimism, even the problems. It's like, okay, this is something that I'm currently facing, how do I solve? It is one and two. It's like what is the positive things that I can take out of this? You know what I mean.

Speaker 1: 34:07

Nicole just ratted you out she said it was from a movie trailer.

Speaker 2: 34:12

We heard that quote yeah, because it was man, like you said. We said it on a podcast we did we never said that we did. We, I promise you, I have good memory I we did say that of you and nicole watching a movie trailer.

Speaker 1: 34:23

we've never said that. I've never said that we did. I promise I have good memory. I would say that you and Nicole watching a movie trailer. We've never said that. Shit, I've never heard that, or maybe it was a different thing but it was something along those lines about that.

Speaker 2: 34:32

Thanks a lot of having a better understanding of of things or things that happen in our life when we look at it in hindsight, Right you?

Speaker 1: 34:40

know, I mean that's, I mean into, and to kind of go into that, because it is true, right, when you, when you do think about things like that and realizing that it's not just it makes sense, but you can also view it in a way of dang, if it did work out, then this would have never happened. If it did happen this way, I would never have had the opportunity of this right. So you start to understand why things didn't work out, but also the opportunities that you would have missed out if it did work out, the lessons that you wouldn't have learned if it worked the first time. You're going to have to face that lesson at some point, and so if you didn't face it today, you're going to face it tomorrow. So what's the better method? Right, it's like the cows and the buffalo.

Speaker 1: 35:31

Do you know that one? No, okay, I was waiting for you to look at me like what, the? What do you mean? Cows and buffaloes? Um, but the, you know, when there's a storm coming right, hence an obstacle. Cows you know, cows run away from the storm by nature. I didn't know that Buffaloes run towards the storm.

Speaker 2: 35:45

Why.

Speaker 1: 35:46

Most people would think just off the bat oh, because they're brave. No, it's because they know that the storms move. If a buffalo runs towards the storm, they're going to get through the storm faster than the cows are going to try to outrun the storm, which they're not going to outrun because they're going to get tired and then they're going to be stuck in the storm. Yeah Right, so that's the analogy for the cows and the buffaloes. Yeah, and that's actually a.

Speaker 1: 36:10

Actually the thing is bison Maybe it's bison Is a bison and a buffalo the same thing.

Speaker 2: 36:15

Oh my God, I don't know. Buffalo and a bull Interesting. If you guys know, let us know, but I don't know if it's the same thing, but that actually they're cousins.

Speaker 1: 36:25

They would have the same name if they're the same thing. Okay, that's true, Because a bison, a buffalo and a cow fairly similar. Yeah, and a bull.

Speaker 2: 36:36

Well, that sounds like a bunch of bull. No, but I do really like that, actually Like you know that analogy, because it like, fuck, like, if you think about it, it's like we're so busy running away from problems. Sometimes it's like a problem stays a problem. You know what I mean. Like running away from it, it's not going to solve it. If you actually think about that, we run away from problems thinking that it's going to get solved, running away from it rather than facing it and solving it like boom like I don't know, I just thought of, like I just remembered, uh, a 50 cent like quote he said when he was doing an interview.

Speaker 1: 37:16

It's not related, but it is related, it's about having a problem.

Speaker 2: 37:20

Yeah, take me to the candy shop?

Speaker 1: 37:22

No, no, it was. You know. People always think that you know. I would say you know. People ask me do you want a problem? I never want a problem, but when they are like they want a problem, then no problem, right. And so when people you know say that you know, know well, why, why do you say you know no problem? It's like because I don't want a problem. But if you want a problem then no problem, that's not a problem, right. We could solve it real quick, you know.

Speaker 2: 37:51

But you know there's a little side tangent I mean it makes sense, and if we're doing musical music bars, I mean also when we prolong problems, it can make either you know, your suffering or anything like that, much longer, much worse, or it can make the problem, the actual problem itself, not just your time. You know, prolonging it it can make the problem bigger, right? So it's like the bar that said yesterday's price is not today's price.

Speaker 1: 38:20

No, you just got to lose yourself in the music. The moment slim shady. I was honestly laughing because I was like wait who said that yeah, your turn, I'm out, um, but I mean again, all these things tie into. You just have to try 200 episodes and the lesson learned is just fucking go for it?

Speaker 2: 38:48

what, what are your some? What are either one or some of your like favorite episodes or at least topics that we covered? I know I threw that one.

Speaker 1: 38:58

I drew I just, I mean there's there's been a lot. I mean there's been some. I think one of the most memorable ones, not necessarily like the episodes in general, but like some of the lessons or the perspective changes. So E plus O equals R was a huge one, and it's like you have events that happen in your life and you have no control of those events, but the event happens to you and then the O is the outcome. When it happens to you, what is the outcome? That how your reaction is, and sorry, it's E plus R equals O. So it's an event happens to you and then there's your reaction is and or sorry, it's e plus r equals o. So it's so an event happens to you and then you're, there's your reaction, and then your reaction causes an outcome, right? So when you think about that, your result, your r or your response to that is create an outcome. When outcome is an event for someone else, right? So it's a chain event.

Speaker 1: 40:02

So you have to think your eq, or your emotional intelligence, has to evolve so that you don't have a more erratic, you know, reaction to the smallest things. But also that comes down to like where are you relieving your stress? You know working out all these other things. They relieve that. So you're not essentially blowing up on, you know, small problems, small hurdles, because now you're affecting someone else's life and they can't do anything about it. But you could have Right Right, so that was a big one as well as the white belt mentality. Right, the white belt mentality essentially is with martial arts, you know, you go from white belt all the way through the ranks and you become a black belt, right. So it's the white belt versus the black belt mentality. And so if you have a black belt mentality, you think that you achieved it, you're done, you're there. But you always have to have a white belt mentality because even if you think when you get to black belt, then there's black belt first degree, second degree, third degree, you're not done yet, you're not there yet.

Speaker 2: 41:00

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 41:05

You know, if you didn't get that, that was one of my previous quotes. You know you want tissue? Wipe them, wipe those tears. You're not done yet, but I mean realize that you can always learn more, you can always improve more. You can always become a better version of yourself. You can always show up better. You can become a better dad. You can become a better friend. You can become a better fill in the blank, right, what was one of your favorite? I?

Speaker 2: 41:32

was, I was just waiting for you to say it. Um, we've got a lot of good ones, some of my favorite ones that I think you know. Kind of like that I think like resonates a lot with me, but I think touches a lot of people too, is the one where, you know, we think that everything that we do kind of revolves around us or anything not kind of taking into consideration that everybody has their own like universe going around them, right like where, where one thing that you may do, like you know, you say hi to somebody and like maybe their interaction with you is not the best but it's like okay, what the fuck is wrong with this person? You know, I mean, but not realizing that maybe this person is having a bad day, maybe something bad happened to this person. You know what I mean. And kind of taking having that understanding, kind of taking that bigger step and like kind of like trying to talk to this person and the other person and saying, like you know, like hey, okay, is everything okay? Like are you having something happen? You're having a bad day, and then kind of resolving the issue from there.

Speaker 2: 42:37

But I think that was one of my favorite ones as far as, like each individual, having you know more compassion and at least understanding that not everything, not everything that is our perception implies to everyone else as well, like everyone has their own perspectives and things that they have going on with them. So, kind of being more you know a good person to another person, I, I guess, was one of my favorite ones. Um, I mean, it sounds cliche but cliche, but um, one of my favorite ones is the never give up one. This is one episode two. Yeah, episode two, um episode two, the never give up.

Speaker 1: 43:16

I mean, it's not the audio quality isn't as good, but the message hits oh, on episode two.

Speaker 2: 43:21

Yeah, yeah. So if you guys didn't listen to that one, if you haven't heard that one yet, go to episode. I sound like andy purcell, right?

Speaker 1: 43:26

if you haven't heard that one, scroll your ass back and you know hit that one 197 episodes up.

Speaker 2: 43:34

Um, that the never give up on, not just because you and I both have it tatted on us, but you know we live and abide by that.

Speaker 1: 43:40

That it's like no matter what you do no matter, you just named up that we have matching tattoos. We have two matching tattoos, just man, you didn't have to go with that.

Speaker 2: 43:50

That part out it's all right, bro, it's only awkward if you make it after, but you know it's something that we definitely live and abide by. That also, it doesn't matter what you, you individually are going after, what your goals are, no matter what it, you have to go at it with full intent and that every effort that you put in, you, just you never give up. You know, if your goal is to be the best person that you can be, you know, in everything that you do, that's a great goal to have. But you, just you, can never give up on it. But you, just you, can never give up on it. You know, no matter what actions and you deem to be the right actions to be, you go at it with full intent. You just it's as direct as it is Never give up.

Speaker 1: 44:34

Stand on. Business, you know, again, that's there is. You can't fail if you don't give up. Right, there is a solution to every problem. There is a solution to every problem. There's a solution to every plateau. There's a solution to whatever you are facing. You just can't give up and you have to be willing to push forward and find that that next you know tool to get you over it, right? The people that are that you look up to and the people that are successful just didn't give up. They just tried one more time, and that's all you have to do to achieve any goal you want in life is just try one more time, right?

Speaker 1: 45:15

The next note I don't know if you want to talk about it, I'll say it and you can give me a head shake and we'll pass on through was how passion drives purpose. All right, so I mean I'll let you take it away. But I mean with that it's like realizing that you know passion and purpose. There is an alignment, but there also is the separation between the two as well. But I'll let you take that one away, and you know you can kind of run with it where you want.

Speaker 2: 45:46

All right, passion drives purpose. So every, every one of us, you know we if we actually sit down and ask ourselves, like, what is our purpose? What is what is our? You know what is our, what are we driving towards. You know why do we drive towards what we're driving Right, and that your passion for something doesn't necessarily you don't just wake up or you know you don't wake up and have a passion for something immediately Right. To me, my opinion is like passion, you develop passion. Right, you develop passion and like whatever you're, and it goes hand in hand, it goes in line with you know what your current purpose, or what you feel your purpose is at that moment or at that timeframe of your life, is gonna be. You know, fueled, or at least like powered by your passion, and how well and how, you know how much intent you put into it is backed up by your passion. You know, and you develop that passion more and more as you continue to pursue, you know, that purpose that you're driving towards right.

Speaker 1: 46:57

Is there anything you want to say? Oh, I mean, I agree with everything you're saying. I mean, I agree with everything you're saying, and you have to realize that I think people mix up passion and purpose. Right, Because something that you're doing has a purpose, but it doesn't necessarily mean you need to be passionate about it at the moment Because you're going to feel passion. Then you're not going to feel passion at the end of the day.

Speaker 1: 47:26

You know it's your purpose, right and so, with that being said, even like we'll take that same word and even take into relationships, right, not every day of a relationship do you feel the quote-unquote passion, but every you know that that's your purpose to be in that relationship, right, and so forth. So, right, so it's like they do blend, but they don't always need to align to mean you're still on your path, Right. And if they don't align and you, you readjust and you find a new purpose, or you feel that you know your purpose has shifted, then by all means again, that's, that's your right to do so. There's no, there's no, you know your purpose has shifted. Then, by all means again, that's, that's your right to do so. There's no, there's no, you know right or way. There's no wrong way to do life At the end of the day. Make sure that you're doing it to your full intent and making sure that you're living the life that you want right, and filling your cup, because if you're not filling your cup, then essentially you can't fill anyone else's cup Right.

Speaker 1: 48:23

But at the end of the day, you have to be consistent. You have to realize that if it doesn't work out, what's the worst that's going to happen? It didn't work out. Now what? Right? Okay, you won't lose it. No, it's up to you. Say what you're going to say. I was going to go to the next topic. If you want to talk about it, Talk about it.

Speaker 2: 48:49

All right Camera's on you, brother. Yeah, I mean just to add on to what you're saying, or really add on to what you're saying about us having you know, the understanding of understanding your purpose is inside, internally. You know that. Only we know, like, the true purpose that we have for ourselves right and action and things like that and kind of work towards something. But if it's not necessarily what you feel is your purpose or what your life thing to be is, then it's not going to sync up. You know what I mean and I think it's not going to be backed up by your effort, by at least your intent and your energy. And, like Devon was saying, what you were saying was that I think that one of the worst things is to not be true to yourself. And exactly what we had said in the beginning of this episode it's you only have one life and you only get one shot right. You only get one chance at this. You don't want to be at the very end thinking of regrets and like kind of wishing that you did things differently.

Speaker 1: 50:06

So I will say before you go into that, I'll give you a second to collect it. It's one thing to add to that, too is your purpose can shift, but it doesn't necessarily mean that your passion has to follow. Sometimes, things in life happen that you have to adjust your purpose. You want to adjust your purpose, but it doesn't mean that you've lost passion, and so with that you have to realize that you can still love something, but your purpose is more important than what your passion is I thank you for that because I was honestly.

Speaker 2: 50:50

That's as true as it can be. You know you can love something, you can support something, you know. But if it's not in line, or you're wherever you are, in the point of your life that your purpose is somewhere else, then you do what you got to do, because then again you're going to end up living with regret. I thought you were about to cry but, with that being said, your purpose changes. Life is short and quick, but also within that timeframe of life, things change. You know things change and you develop and you become a different person, so on and so forth, and your purpose changes and it is up to us to take full responsibility and, you know, do what is necessary to fulfill that purpose. So, and if you need to make a pivot and make proper adjustments, then that is what you, you know, I think everybody, well, no, I know everybody should do. I can definitely relate to that and just to kind of share my own perspective on it, I am, I was, I faced with that like kind of same situation where my purpose has changed, and I think this was a good time, in the 200th episode, to be fully transparent and, you know, share with you guys. If you guys end up hearing this that, yeah me, like my purpose would. That when Devin and I first started, my purpose was, our purpose was like in line, was in sync. You know what I mean. Now, currently, where I am in my life, my purpose has shifted and if it's hard, especially, like you know, with mmm, especially when it's like it's's all you know and like kind of thinking of, at least like for me, I think, of other people and stuff like that but us having that full understanding and having to accept what your purpose is is crucial. So, with that being said, my purpose has shifted and it's heartbreaking for me, but also I'm happy to do the right thing to be going on my own way, going on my way.

Speaker 2: 53:35

As far as strive, you know I still fully support and like I love and like I back everything up, like Devin is my brother through and through, you know, but and we've had the heart to heart conversation but I have and it's nothing to take away from any of this, you know, because I no matter what it's going to make it, you know, but with me what it's going to make it, you know, but with me being honest and true to myself as a person.

Speaker 2: 54:04

As you know, to me, I have to do what's right, you know, and that being my purpose has changed and I have to make a pivot and I have to go my own way, you know.

Speaker 2: 54:17

So, yeah, I mean, I truly like from the bottom of my heart, like love everything and everybody you know, and things like that, and I mean that, um, but I also want to say to everybody that you know, if you do end up hearing this like be true to yourself, you know, wherever you you find like your path, your, your purpose, and wherever you know your life has to and where you want to go, that is what you have to pursue. That is what you have to pursue, you know, because you don't want to go. You don't want to spend your life looking back and thinking like, damn, I didn't do what I needed to, I didn't do what I needed or wanted to do, you know so, and I can't say that or give that as an advice without taking my own advice. So, still, you know, lead by example, and you have no idea how hard those words are for me to come out like, especially in this time, but when you know it's right, it's right, you know so.

Speaker 1: 55:25

I mean, you had some comments in there. Yes, you're going to still see them in the videos. But at the same time, you know, we we've had this conversation, we had the conversation with our team as well and we, you know, we fully support and you know, Nick, like you said, is before this and after this.

Speaker 1: 55:46

Like, me and him are our family and, at the end of the day, you know, I don't want to hold him back from doing anything he wants to achieve and I want to make sure that you know he's living his life to his full potential as well. And so, sometimes, you know, life events happen and your purpose has to switch, regardless of if it's, you know, a new passion or anything like that. Sometimes it's just you need to achieve certain things in order to fulfill a purpose that has been presented to you right? So, at the end of the day, you know, me and him it's not like me and him are breaking up, because I know his passion is me. I'm kidding, we'll always be passionate for each other. No, but all jokes aside, at the end of the day, you know we're always here for him and you know he'll be in and out here and there. You know're always here for him and you know he'll be in and out here and there. You know, if possible.

Speaker 1: 56:43

Um, but again, this, this one. I was kind of delaying the 200th episode because it was a little bit more like symbolic hitting a milestone. You know, because we've hit so many milestones together that you know I told him ahead of time if he didn't want to talk about it. He didn't have to. It's all up to you know, for those of you guys that do know, just so you know. But the guys that you know, any of you guys that do know, you also get to treasure the time that you know he is here as well, and that's something that me and him had talked about as well is like it doesn't mean it's fully over.

Speaker 2: 57:25

You still get to live in the moment, be present and enjoy your life fully. Yeah, I appreciate that and honestly kind of trying to reel it back into what we're trying to cover I appreciate Devin. Honestly. I told him when we had this conversation that it is At first. When I first said it to him I was like it's probably one of the hardest. But no, it is the hardest conversation I've ever had in my entire life. And for me to even have that conversation, it's having the acceptance within myself, you know, and fully embracing it. Because then I was not who I am not taking, you know, not being able to accept or wanting to accept it or take responsibility at first. And that was the biggest you know, mistreatment that you can do for yourself. And it comes to a point where you got to think like everything starts with you. You know you can't help other people if you don't help yourself first. But, with that being said, like Devin's understanding it solidified, like why he is my brother, why we crossed paths. You know we wouldn't be here today if me and him didn't come together in the beginning. You know what I mean. So everything happens for a reason and you make the right decisions and you make the best of it as you can.

Speaker 2: 58:45

But one of the topics that we covered in the past was surround yourself with the with the right people you know. Tell me who your friends are. Tell me you surround yourself with and I'll tell you who you are. Well, this guy's sitting across from me, understanding and, you know, still supporting, and the thing is he knows that I told him like, bro, even if I'm like physically not here, you call me and you need anything. Before you hang up the phone, I'm probably on my way already, you know so. And like surround yourself with the best people, and to me I'm truly grateful gratitude. And like surround yourself with the best people, and to me I'm truly grateful gratitude. I'm truly grateful to have gotten a brother. You know that I have. I met, I found a brother later on in life that I would never want to let go of this person.

Speaker 1: 59:40

You know, no, definitely, and I mean with that being said, I'm not going to switch the camera back to me Make sure you guys share this episode with a friend, right? We appreciate you guys.

Speaker 2: 59:48

We appreciate you guys. Honestly, we love you and you know if you guys have any friends or family that you guys would like to share, like the previous episode or this episode, that you think that they would find some value and be able to help out, because you know that we do this Devin does this, you know to try to help everybody out and provide some form of value for somebody that does need it, so share it. You know what I mean and, yeah, all I can say is we honestly truly care about love you guys and appreciate you for all your love and support.