REWIND: The BE Series: Be Bold! (How Boldness Can Help You Unlock New Doors In Your Life)

Hey Everyone! I needed a reminder about the importance of boldness, and I figured maybe some of you could use one as well. Take a listen to this rewind episode about the power of boldness. 

In the second episode of the BE Series, join Marsharelle for a quick chat about the power of boldness. The 1st cousin of confidence, boldness truly allows us to level up and be seen fully! How are you practicing boldness today?

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Transcript

Hey Everyone! I hope that you are well and that you are having a great week. Maybe you did something new, or maybe you did something that you’ve done before, but you did it differently this time. Whatever it was,  I do hope that you did something to boost your confidence in an area that you have been lacking. Last week on the pod, I shared 3 three things we can do to boost our confidence, and later in the week,  folks from our village shared their confidence-boosting habits on IG as well. There are so many small things that we can do to aid in building our confidence. If you haven’t ever given it any thought, I encourage you to take some time to think about instances when you feel the most confident in your life. 

Analyze those scenarios and all the things that you do to get ready- all of the actions that you took leading up to your most confident moments. How can you implement some of that into your regular activities, so that you can weave that ultimate confidence into your life everyday? How can you show up confidently every single day?

This week I want to build on the momentum of confidence by taking it a step further into the world of the Bold. Boldness is like the first cousin of confidence. Being bold is showing courage, a willingness to take risks- being able to stake your position, and not be easily convinced that you’re on the wrong side.

 It takes gumption to walk through this life boldly. Not only do you need to be sure, but you need to have a backbone that will enable you to stand up to anyone in any space that is challenging you and your abilities- you have to stand up to those who try to intimidate you. You know who I’m talking about-those grownup bullies that get in a position of power and want to exercise their power in an unhealthy way, often to validate themselves and mask their own unhealed trauma, perhaps from a time in life when they themselves were bullied or intimidated. Remember that while the boldest of us may be faced with these challenges, they are much more well-equipped than those who are timid. 

 When I was growing up, my mom used to watch soap operas. Guiding Light, The Young and the Restless were in her rotation, along with my favorite- The Bold and the Beautiful. I didn’t pay attention because of the soap drama. I loved it because it was based in fashion. I loved seeing the faux photo shoots, the dress forms in the background though no one was ever really working on them. And the glimpses of sketches that I would catch from time to time. I wanted that life as a young girl. The. Wealth, Glitz, Glamour and unapolgetic Attitudes all over the place. It was cheesy, entertaining, and unrealistic, and I wanted in! Surely, it couldn’t be that hard to achieve, right? Well, the truth is, anything that you want to achieve can be hard to achieve when you get in your own way. 

When you are bold, you cannot be easily swayed. You stand strong in what you know about yourself and who you are to your core. And people don’t ever wonder about your character. Not only are you sure about who you are, but others are sure about who you are as well.

It’s one thing to have some confidence- to be sure of yourself and your abilities. That is the foundation of boldness. But to be bold takes being so sure that you are willing to take risks because of it. 

Maybe this is you, maybe you are confident and bold. And maybe you are not. Whatever the case, let’s talk about a few ways to help build your boldness.

Be curious- Have you ever encountered someone that’s all up in your business? That you don’t know you like that, but they felt comfortable enough to ask you some questions about your personal life that they had no business asking? That’s boldness. Granted, it’s the other side of boldness, we don’t wanna bring that negative audacity to the table, but it is  boldness none the less. And I encourage you to take that same energy and flip it positively. No, you don’t need to see what the people across the street got going on in their backyard. Stop being nosy. But you can be curious in the right spaces. 

An example could be trying to learn more about your customers, and their business so you can determine how to support them. Ask the questions. Give them space to open up by being curious, asking the questions and then leaving space for them to respond. My day job has been drilling this in y’all, so it’s like top of mind for me. But it’s so important in so many areas in life. Because it can feel awkward to ask all of the questions, right? But if you don’t, How will you know if you don’t ask the question,  and knowledge is power and power can help build your confidence and in turn your boldness because you weren’t afraid to go after it. So build your boldness by being curious.

Next, Be clear- folks don’t question what a bold person meant when they said something. Bold people don’t give you room to get it twisted. Because when you are fearless, you feel comfortable saying what you mean and you have no problem clarifying it for some reason someone managed to misconstrue their words.

Be courageous- you can’t be bold without courage. Because fear will smother out your boldness. We all have moves in our lives that require courage if we want to make them. What are you afraid of? Ask yourself, what is the worst thing that can happen? Is it the no that you're afraid of? Or maybe rejection? Remember that if there is a no or a not you on the other end of your courageous leap, at a minimum, you get to move forward having known the outcome instead of wondering what could have happened one way or another if you hadn’t moved forward with courage.  But the only way that you’lll know is if you take courage, step out and try. 

Being bold will open up opportunities that you may have never thought possible. Because boldness has its own persona. People treat bold individuals differently than those of us who tend to shrink away. You wanna be seen? And by seen I mean your intellect, your capabilities and so on, present them boldly and you are sure to be seen. So think about it- what can an added dose of boldness do for you?

Today I’ll leave you with a few words from Erica Jong:  “And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk more. “

Thank you so much for listening today. If what you have been hearing has been beneficial, please remember to rate review, and share the pod- and follow us on social to see what the village is talking about as well. I can’t wait to chat with you all again next week. Take care until then.