The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

9 Habits That Reveal You're Codependent (And How to Break Them)

Ross Rosenberg, M. Ed.

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In this podcastt, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg breaks down the nine habits that quietly run the lives of codependents — or, as he calls them, people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD). These aren't personality flaws. They're survival patterns installed in childhood by a narcissistic parent, and they're what keeps you stuck in adult relationships with the same kind of person over and over. 

Ross walks through each one: the yes reflex, making yourself smaller, the codependency delusion, waiting to be rescued, the terror of pathological loneliness, identification with core shame, over-giving to prove your worth, over-extending until you're depleted, and the sorry reflex that apologizes for things you never did wrong. Drawing on 38 years of clinical experience and his own recovery, Ross explains why these habits exist and why the only way out is to stop trying to fix the relationship and start the work of self-love recovery.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG 
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. 

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. 

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