Goals, Grit, and Some Woo Woo Sh*t
"BREAKING NEWS: Your dream life (and your dream bod) isn’t just going to happen because you made a vision board. Join Oonagh Duncan (fitness expert and bestselling author of Healthy As F*ck/Ditch The Diet) to examine the habits of kicking ass every day - so you can create a life of no regrets. Whether you want to lose weight, get rich, or save the whales while writing bestselling mystery novels- get ready to be inspired. This isn’t about incantations and putting the right crystals in your bra. This is about having the courage to take responsibility for your life, the grit to do the actual work and—most importantly—constantly training your brain to be your b*tch. Here’s what you can expect: Sometimes you’ll get the most tender loving b*tch slap in your ear about why you need to exercise - even when you don’t f*cking feel like it. Sometimes you’ll get a sleep expert teach you the exact steps on how to fall back asleep at 3am so you don’t feel like a zombie all day. Sometimes you’ll hear from someone who ran the marathon, kicked the addiction or manifested their dream threesome on the beach and you’ll think “If they can do it, so can I” And when you start thinking thoughts like that… you will be inspired to stop drifting and being a victim of your circumstances - and start actively creating the life you want. It takes Goals. It takes Grit. And it takes some Woo-Woo Sh*t."
Goals, Grit, and Some Woo Woo Sh*t
I Spent Two Weeks Talking to Midlife Women. Here's What I Learned
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A few weeks ago, I realized something.
I spend a lot of time thinking about women in midlife. I write content for them, coach them, record podcasts for them, and build programs for them. But I was starting to feel disconnected from the actual humans behind the screen.
So I decided to stop guessing and start listening.
For two weeks, I jumped on Zoom calls with dozens of women from my community. Smart women. Successful women. Funny women. Women who know more about nutrition and fitness than most people ever will. And yet so many of them were stuck.
Not because they didn't know what to do.
Because life is life.
They were juggling aging parents, changing careers, grief, empty nests, injuries, stress, hormones, exhaustion, and the constant feeling that they were always starting over.
What struck me wasn't how different their stories were. It was how similar they were.
The same three themes came up again and again.
First, consistency. Almost everyone told me some version of, "I know what to do, I just can't seem to keep doing it." And what became crystal clear is that motivation isn't the problem. Motivation is a mood. What actually matters is having a system that can survive real life.
Second, midlife body changes. So many women felt betrayed by bodies that weren't responding the way they used to. We talked about what is actually happening during this phase of life, why your metabolism probably isn't broken, and why random workouts and extreme diets are no longer the answer.
And third, overwhelm. The internet has turned fitness into a full-time research project. Women are drowning in conflicting advice, saved Instagram posts, meal plans, and fitness programs. The truth? Most of us don't need more information. We need less noise and more trust in ourselves.
The biggest lesson from all these conversations was simple: fitness is not a project you complete. It's a skill you build.
The goal isn't perfection.
The goal is becoming the kind of woman who knows how to recover when life inevitably throws a wrench into the plan.
That's where real confidence comes from.
And honestly? That's what fitness mastery looks like.
What’s Inside:
- Why motivation is overrated and systems are what actually create consistency
- The truth about midlife body changes and why your metabolism probably isn't broken
- How planning, researching, and program hopping can become a form of avoidance
- The skill that healthy, fit people have mastered that most women overlook
If there's one thing these conversations reminded me, it's that you don't need to be more disciplined. You need to be kinder to yourself when life gets messy and better at getting back on track. DM me on Instagram and tell me: which of these three themes do you see most in your own life right now?
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