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50 Sexual Journal Prompts for Personal Growth and Stronger Relationships
50 Sexual Journal Prompts
Can self-discovery through sexual journaling transform your life? Find out as we uncover the profound impact of this often-overlooked practice on personal growth and relationships. This episode ventures into the world of sexual journaling, far beyond the surface-level notion of documenting intimate experiences. We investigate the 50 Sexual Journal Prompts by Lestallion, designed to help you explore your deepest desires, confront ingrained beliefs about sexuality, and ultimately gain a better understanding of your own needs and desires.
Join us as we tackle the more challenging aspects of sexual journaling, from unearthing unshared desires to overcoming fears of judgment and rejection. Discover how creating a safe space for curiosity can liberate you, allowing for emotional intimacy and a stronger connection with your partner. Through personal reflections and thought-provoking prompts, we explore how our earliest sexual education shapes our views and the importance of emotional intimacy in achieving true fulfillment in relationships. Don’t miss this chance to enrich your understanding of sexuality and elevate your intimate connections.
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Okay, so today let's dive into something that I think a lot of people are curious about, but maybe don't talk about a lot, and that is sexual journaling.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:And I think you know people hear that and they think, oh, like a diary of my sexcapades or something like that, Right, but it's really not about that at all. It's more about self-discovery and understanding your own desires, and maybe even like adding a new dimension to your relationships.
Speaker 2:It's interesting you frame it that way, because I think journaling in general is often seen as a tool for personal growth, right?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But we very rarely apply that to our sexuality, even though it's such a core part of who we are.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and that's what's so cool about the source material that we're looking at today. It's 50 Sexual Journal Prompts by a company called Lestallion.
Speaker 2:Okay, and I just have to point out, they also sell journals?
Speaker 1:Of course they do, so you know, got to get that plug in Exactly, but um. But the prompts themselves are actually really intriguing because they're designed to get you thinking about your sexuality in ways you might not have before.
Speaker 2:Well, and it makes sense, because it's the same way a therapist will use a prompt to sort of unlock a deeper emotion or memory or something with a client. And so applying that to your own sexuality through the act of writing can be really revealing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and they break it down into all these different categories and the one that I thought was really interesting to start with is personal reflections, which is kind of looking back at how our experiences have shaped our views on sex and intimacy and things like that. Ok, and there's one prompt in here that asks about your earliest memory of learning about sex.
Speaker 2:Oh.
Speaker 1:Which I think is such a fascinating question, because it's a big one. It is a big one and, you know, for a lot of us, those early messages, whether they came from our parents or our peers, or even, you know, the media, can really have a lasting impact on how we view sex and relationships.
Speaker 2:Absolutely and to be able to kind of go back and unpack that and think about you know, do those things still hold true for me as an adult?
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, how have I evolved, or not?
Speaker 1:Right. It's like questioning those ingrained beliefs.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Figuring out are these actually mine or is this just something I've absorbed along the way? Okay, but here's where it gets really interesting for me. The exploring desires category Okay, I mean, who doesn't love a little self-discovery in that?
Speaker 2:department. This is where, I think, a lot of people find the most resistance, but also possibly the most liberation. One of the prompts that it asks is to write about a sexual desire that you've never shared with anyone, and then think about what holds you back from expressing it.
Speaker 1:Ooh, that's good, right, yeah, and I think that really gets to the heart of why we're so hesitant to even explore certain desires, sometimes even in the privacy of our own minds.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, and I think it often boils down to fear fear of judgment, fear of rejection, sure, maybe even fear of the desire itself.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But journaling can provide that safe space to at least acknowledge those desires without the pressure of having to act on them or share them with anybody else. With anybody else.
Speaker 1:It's like giving yourself permission to just be curious and explore and figure out what makes you tick, without all the weight of you know expectations or relationship, dynamics or anything else.
Speaker 2:And sometimes even just acknowledging it, is enough to kind of lessen its power over us.
Speaker 1:Oh, interesting.
Speaker 2:It's like okay, I see you, I hear you.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But I'm not defined by you.
Speaker 1:I like that. Okay, I'm hooked. What's next in our little deep dive here? All right?
Speaker 2:well, since we're talking about relationships, let's go to the category that deals with that, which is relationships and intimacy, and one prompt that I found really interesting was to think about the importance of emotional intimacy in your sexual relationships and how you actually cultivate that.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's huge. I feel like so often we focus on the physical aspects of intimacy, but that emotional connection is really what creates that true closeness and fulfillment, don't you think?
Speaker 2:A hundred percent and there's a lot of research actually that supports that couples who prioritize emotional intimacy have higher levels of relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction, because it really is about feeling seen and heard and understood on a deeper level.
Speaker 1:Totally and journaling about that, about how we experience that, how we cultivate it. I feel like that could be so eye opening.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's like taking inventory of your own needs and desires, but within the context of your relationship, and then you can sort of identify are there areas where maybe I'm craving more connection or where I'm potentially holding back?
Speaker 1:and then hopefully it can kind of open up some interesting conversations with your partner as well absolutely.
Speaker 2:In fact, some couples will even journal together. Wow as a way to enhance communication and kind of explore their desires more openly that's really cool. But even if you don't feel comfortable sharing your journal entries, just the act of reflecting on these prompts can have a ripple effect on your relationships.
Speaker 1:Interesting. It's almost like you're saying that even if it's just one person in the relationship who's doing this work, it can still have this ripple effect outwards and improve the whole dynamic Okay. So we've talked about those personal reflections and kind of exploring our desires.
Speaker 1:But the next category is called self-awareness and growth, which you know a little self-helpy, but just stick with me because I think this section has a lot of really interesting prompts in it too. Likewise, well, one that I thought was really interesting is it asks you to reflect on your own personal sexual values and how those values guide your decisions and your behaviors and your relationships. It's like having that inner compass right. But sometimes, like life throws you curve balls and you don't necessarily make the choices that are in alignment with those values.
Speaker 2:Right, or you're not even really conscious of it. Right you know you're just kind of like going through the motions.
Speaker 1:Exactly.
Speaker 2:And so it's almost like this is a way to kind of check in with yourself and be like am I living in alignment?
Speaker 1:Am I accountability? Yeah, exactly, okay, I'm ready for the last category. What do we got?
Speaker 2:Okay, so we've talked about reflecting on the past.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:We've talked about kind of unearthing, some of those desires, navigating relationships, checking in with your values. Now it's time to, kind of like, step into your power and the final category is embracing your sexuality.
Speaker 1:Ooh, I like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that sounds good Owning it, celebrating it, feeling good about it.
Speaker 1:So the prompt that really spoke to me in this category was it asks you to write about a time when you felt really liberated in expressing your sexual identity and kind of what factors contributed to that feeling.
Speaker 2:It's about identifying, like what are the ingredients that make us feel empowered?
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:And then, how can we bring more of that into our lives intentionally, whether that's through self-love, whether that's through communication, whether that's through self-love, whether that's through communication, whether that's through, like, exploring different types of intimacy? It's really about taking ownership over your pleasure and your expression.
Speaker 1:I love that. Okay, so we've covered a lot of ground here. We've talked about, you know, uncovering those hidden desires, building stronger relationships, embracing our sexuality, but like, how do we actually make this a regular practice? You know, it's one thing to listen to this and be like, oh yeah, that sounds great, but like making time for it, actually sitting down with your journal and like sticking with it.
Speaker 2:It's about turning intention into action.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:And, just like with any new habit, consistency is key, right? So finding a time and a place where you can really relax and be honest with yourself.
Speaker 1:So create that little ritual Exactly, maybe light some candles, put on some music Although knowing my music taste, that might get a little weird.
Speaker 2:Whatever sets the mood. Okay, the important thing is to find what works for you and just stick with it. And even if it's just for like five minutes a day, you know those small, consistent efforts will lead to some really profound insights over time. And just remember, there's no right or wrong way to do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Some people like to free write, some people really like using tromps like the ones that we've discussed. The key is to kind of find what feels the most natural and the most authentic to you.
Speaker 1:Don't be afraid to experiment.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:You know, maybe you start with one prompt and you end up writing pages. Maybe you're doodling in the margins, maybe you need to like get up, go for a walk, come back to it. Totally, it's your journey.
Speaker 2:It's all about giving yourself permission to explore in whatever way feels good and you know, as you're journaling, pay attention to any resistance that comes up.
Speaker 1:Oh, interesting.
Speaker 2:If there are certain prompts that make you feel uncomfortable or curious or even a little bit defensive, like lean into that.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because those are the areas where you probably have the most to learn about yourself.
Speaker 1:It's like those awkward silences in therapy are like ooh, something's about to come out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and just remember self-compassion is key Throughout this whole process. Be kind to yourself, be patient and just celebrate every step that you're taking towards understanding this really beautiful and complex part of who you are.
Speaker 1:So well said. You know it's funny, as we've been talking about this, I've been thinking about, like, all the internal benefits.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You know the self-discovery and the emotional intimacy.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But it's making me think that there's this whole other external component as well.
Speaker 2:Oh, absolutely.
Speaker 1:Where, when we become more comfortable exploring our own sexuality, it naturally kind of like spills over into how we talk about it with others.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I feel like that's where it can get really interesting.
Speaker 2:Totally, and I think it starts with being mindful of the language that we use. Okay, you know how often do we resort to like euphemisms or slang when we're talking about sex?
Speaker 1:All the time.
Speaker 2:It's almost like we're afraid to just use the actual words.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's true. It's like they have too much power or something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and I think by embracing more direct and honest language, ok, we kind of like normalize the conversation, we take away its power to shock or embarrass, and that in turn, can create more space for open and vulnerable communication.
Speaker 1:It's like we're reclaiming the language around it.
Speaker 2:Exactly.
Speaker 1:And making it our own instead of letting it be dictated by these like societal norms and taboos and things.
Speaker 2:A hundred percent, and I think as we become more comfortable with those words, we become more comfortable with ourselves. That's a good point. It's like a process of self-acceptance that just like radiates outward.
Speaker 1:This has been so interesting. I feel like we've just like scratched the surface of what sexual journaling can be. But if there's one thing that you would want our listeners to take away from this whole conversation, what would it be?
Speaker 2:If you're even remotely curious about sexual journaling, just give it a try.
Speaker 1:OK.
Speaker 2:You have nothing to lose and a whole lot of self-discovery to gain. Just find what feels good, be kind to yourself and remember that your journey is uniquely yours.
Speaker 1:So well said. Well, that about wraps it up for us today.
Speaker 2:Thanks for having me.
Speaker 1:Thank you, this was awesome and to all of our listeners out there, thanks for tuning in to this deep dive.
Speaker 2:Until next time.