Life Coaches in Cahoots
Life Coaches in Cahoots
06: Coach Nicole Morrison - Oola Family
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Episode 6
Date Recorded: February 3rd, 2023
Title: Who is coach Nicole Morrison- Oola Family
Description:
After a life of self directed personal development and dedication to others, Nicole excitedly stepped into her life calling as a certified Oola Coach & Ambassador to help others live a life of balance, growth & purpose!
If you’re looking for a way to create momentum, enthusiasm, and a zest for an Oola Life, Nicole will greet you with open arms. Your dedication to make yourself a better person allows her to unlock her skills and help you achieve your biggest goals. She is equal parts motivator and taskmaster and has the unbelievable ability to use both qualities at the same time.
Nicole is proud to be a multi-business entrepreneur, a personal development book addict, successful motivational quote collector and lover of everything and everyone working toward their maximum potential. She believes the struggles that she’s worked to overcome can- positively impact the lives of others.
Her inspired days are spent with her niece & VP of Inspiration, Miss Libby, as her day time caregiver. There she works to help add a voice and provide tools to amplify Libby’s unique abilities and desire to thrive in this incredible world.
Nicole is the CEO of Maximum Potential/Nicole Morrison Strategies, a Certified Oola Life Coach, a Founding Oola Life Inc Ambassador and an Energy Practitioner with Trailblazing Communications Whole Life System. Her background includes undergrad degrees in Human Services, Behavioral Science, Criminal Justice & Communications along with a Masters degree in Management. She has been a child protection social worker, college admissions counselor, director of a college business leadership academy, co-founder/owner of North Dakota’s first
internet radio station, business consultant, 20+ year volunteer with the Make A Wish Foundation and so much more.
As one of Nicole’s energy transformation clients shared, “Anyone choosing Nicole to be their personal coach will find it’s going to be hard not to win!”
For more information you can reach Nicole @nmstrategy.com
Nicole is a great example of how living your Oola life, is designed by you to be your best life. She is proud to be a multi-business entrepreneur, a personal development book addict, successful motivational quote, collector and lover of everything and everyone working toward their maximum. Nicole is the c e O of Maximum Potential. Nicole Morrison Strategies, a certified Oola life coach, a founding Oola life ambassador, and an energy practitioner with trailblazing communications whole life system. Her inspired days are spent with her niece and VP of inspiration, Ms. Libby as her daytime caregiver. There she works to help add a voice and provide tools to amplify Libby's unique abilities and desire to thrive in this incredible world. Nicole believes the struggle she has worked to overcome can positively impact the lives of. If you're looking for a way to create momentum, enthusiasm, and zest for an Oola life, Nicole will greet you with open arms. Oola teaches us how to focus on creating a healthy family environment and how to compartmentalize and protect your closest family relationships. I can think of no one better than Nicole to talk family with us today. I am Coach Melinda, and we are here today with Coach Stephanie, my co-host, and a coach with Real Zest for life coach Nicole Morrison. Stephanie and I are excited to have Nicole here with us to share about herself and the third act of Oola family. Let's get started.
NicoleAll right. Hi everyone.
StephanieI'm coach Stephanie. I'm Melinda and I are on a mission to showcase our fabulous Oola life coaches and share their stories. And we are very excited to introduce Nicole Morrison to our listeners today. Welcome Nicole, and thanks for joining us.
NicoleHey guys. Thank you. Thanks for having me. Excited. Hi,
MelindaNicole. I'm super excited to learn from you where we should focus on energy in order to grow in the category of family. first could you tell us a little bit about
Nicoleyour background? I have a very eclectic background, as my son is getting ready, my youngest son's getting ready to go to college and not sure what he wants to major in. It reminded me of back when I went to college and I had no clue. I, thought I wanted to be an athletic trainer, and I went there and got registered for classes and they had me in all these sciences. Like, I don't like science. And so I, I don't even know. Stumbled upon the degrees I got, but I have four undergrad degrees in human services, criminal justice, behavioral science, psychology, and a minor in communications and a master's in management. I've done everything from a child protection social worker to admissions counselor at a university in charge of a business leadership academy. Started a radio station, had a singing telegram company, and a number of other things in between. but since 2017, I have been the full-time day daytime caretaker for my niece, Libby, and then doing consulting and coaching and, that kind of stuff mixed in. that's a one minute little blurb of, my background.
MelindaWell, that, that sounds like a lot of specialized knowledge, talent, and abilities walk up into what was. Specific like Eureka moment that you knew the Oola lifestyle was what you needed and it was for you? When did that come into play?
NicoleWell, I've been familiar with the, the Oola. Program or, or the book, I should say it was in 2017. Dr. Dave and Dr. Troy donated a whole bunch of books to an event that my business partner and I put on called the North Dakota Music Awards, where we showcased the best musicians in the state and they donated books so that we could get everybody who attended a book. And so I read the book in 2017 and I've known the Oola seeker and his family, uh, for years. Was the admissions counselor for his youngest sister when she went to college and she became my hairdresser and, good friend. I granted the wish of Jared, who we talk a lot about in the Oola book and kind of kind of one of the motivating factors on why Oola is kind of where it is today. So I was his wish granter with the Make-A-Wish Foundation. And so I knew about Oola, so let's back up a second there. On April 7th, 2021, I had just gone to my 10th doctor's appointment for my 10th, either mammogram or ultrasound and that kind of stuff since December. So from December to April, I'd had 10 different mammograms and ultrasounds. I was at the highest weight of my whole. and was just feeling, I don't know, almost defeated and it's really hard to, to get me to feel defeated on April 8th. I kid you not our friend Vanessa messaged my sister and I saying, I have something that I want you guys to see. ULAs up to something. I want you guys to see what's going on. And before we even met, I had researched as much as I could, which wasn't much because it was kind of under the radar. Yet at that. but as much as I could find on what this ambassador program and everything was all about and I was in before we met, and I've known Vanessa for a few years and just her energy and vibe and all that kind of stuff of who she is, I knew it would be something that would be incredible. And then once we met, the rest has just been history. My life has just, um, I don't even know, 360. 50 times since that moment and I haven't looked back. And so that's kind of in a roundabout way my, intro to Oola,
MelindaOkay. So we all have something special inside of us. What is it that told you that you were meant to be an Oola coach?
NicoleWell, in 2010, um, I had lost a job. due to restructuring and, and other reasons that I loved with every inch of me. And it's still kind of a sore spot. I'm, finding gratitude, finding gratitude and all things, but, um, I kind of lost who I was. And in that job it was a leadership role. I helped, honor students find networking and all the kind of stuff you can't learn in a classroom. So I was doing. You know, coaching and that kind of stuff to college aged students as well as speaking all over at national Conferences, all that kind of stuff. So I was doing a lot of public speaking and coaching type stuff at that time, and just kind of lost that part of me for a few years. And in 2017, when I started watching my niece, Libby, who's non-verbal, Says more than anyone in the world. She's become obviously my best friend. We spent all our time together, but I kind just kind of sat in silence with her for a few years. And my aha moment or moment was that, you know, I knew that I had a calling to do more, be more help people turn the light on people who have had setbacks, all that kind of. To help them find themselves again, I kind of like find their moxie again. And so that was my moment, you know, sitting in silence with her, waiting for, for Oola to come, come to me, I think is what really happened. I think
Melindathat's amazing. I had a sister who was non-verbal and she was also spastic quadriplegic, and I used to tell everybody, she's the best sister ever, cuz she keeps all my secrets. She never rents away. She doesn't yell back at me She was awesome too. It's funny the personality that comes through, even though you are nonverbal. That's
Nicoleamazing. Oh yeah. She has said more and she has changed more lives without saying one. than most people I know. It's, she has, uh, incredible energy about her.
MelindaCan we ask you what her diagnosis is?
NicoleShe has what's called schiz Ceha, so they believe she probably had a stroke before she was born and both sides of her brain stopped developing as well as she's missing her corpus cossum. And actually guys won't be able to see it in the podcast, but that's her brain. I have it tattooed onto my arm, so that's her brain scan. It looks like a, but. So those are the parts of her brain that are missing. So she's non-verbal. She doesn't, walk. She has, see, she has cerebral palsy and epilepsy, and that's just who she is. You know, it's, the doctors, you know, when they told my sister, they said they, they didn't think she would ever walk. She probably would never talk, and that she should probably put her in a home. And that was. Not the right thing to say to my sister, and so we've kind of been on a mission to prove what a fulfilling and amazing life that she was meant to live
Melindawith. Yeah, it's really harsh when other people don't have the empathy to understand. So back sister Was born, the doctors did tell my mom that she should institutionalize my sister. She would never be anything but a vegetable, is what they told my mom. Yep. It was definitely the wrong person. Don't tell Betty that about her kid. And she literally raised us believing that God searched really long and hard to find the perfect family for my sister. And that is what family is all about.
NicoleYeah. Well, God knew where Libby needed to be Let's roll back
Melindato coaching. Steph. All
Nicoleright. Yeah. I
Stephaniedefinitely think that um, there are a lot of caregivers in the world of Oola with life coaches. I think that's a great connection because you have that empathy and that background
Nicolein having
Stephaniethis big heart to care for others before yourself. I wanna ask you,
Nicolewhat have you learned from your work as a life? So what I've learned from my work as a life coach is that I cannot fix people. And that's one thing that's been kind of hard for me because I'm a doer, I'm a make things happen kind of person. I've fixed things, you know, even, I can't remember what the show was called, but what's her name? Carrie Washington was the fixer, you know, and I'm like, I'm like Carrie Washington. I'm the fixer, you know? And then I just come to realize that no, I'm not the fixer. I'm just the person that helps them turn the light on, but them become the hero of their story. And so that's been one of the greatest lessons for me and has helped me become a much better coach in that.
StephanieYeah, that has been a lesson for me as well,
NicoleSo
our
Stephanietopic today is Oola family, which is a very important f. what are some of your insights on the goal of having a solid family found?
NicoleYou know, it's interesting that I'm your speaker on Family because family is actually my Oola one and on December was it first I got up on the stage at Oola Alza and said that I. going to make sure that my family understood that I love them more than my work. You know, when my youngest son, who is 18 now, when he was probably two or three, he crawled on my lap in between me and my laptop and asked me if I loved my computer more than him. And that hurt. And I thought that I had done a really good job of being more present and doing a better job. but realized through a couple conversations right before Oola, I hadn't been doing as good a job as I thought. And so that was my little one was 306 or 365 days of being a patient, calm, loving, present mom and wife. And so that was December 1st. And then my oldest son comes home from college. He's in Florida for college. He comes home and I'm making supper and cleaning dishes and all this kind of stuff. And they do a wise comment and I called them a bad word, And I've never been, you know, that bad. So here I am talking about family, but that was, that was. I'm like, I just bowed to everybody. I just shared with everybody at ALZA that I was gonna be this incredible parent and, and uh, so that has become my 90 day challenge as well. It's when Oola, we have a 90 day Oola life challenge and mine is to hit 90 days and I made it nine before I blew up at someone. And so it's been so I'm like, okay, what do I do? I failed my challenge in that 365 days. I can't just switch it to 364 days. That's not how it works. I'm learning so much on patience and calmness and the way I respond and triggers and all that kind of stuff. So I think, you know, the most important thing to get back to your question about family is just being aware of your actions, your behaviors on how they affect all the other family members and all that kind of stuff. I just had my boys do a little questionnaire, answer all these questions about me and it's. like sometimes I think they're just in their own world, but when I saw their responses, I knew how much they are not just in their own world. My oldest son, who's been gone for two years now in college, his response was on what's the most important thing to me? And he's like, you, you need to be needed. So that came from my 20 year old son and I'm like, and that is, that is one of my biggest things is I need to be needed. My motto is, do what you love and service to those who love what you. and so, and that's being needed. And so it's just incredible on how aware family members are and, and just you, yourself, the self-awareness on, being the best family member you can be. Self-awareness is
Stephaniekey. And also giving yourself grace and knowing you're human and,
Nicoleand yeah, families are all, all messy. Yeah, that's what I was telling a friend about this the other day, and she's like, oh, so you're human. And I'm like, yep.
MelindaI know you have some exciting news about your family growing.
Nicoleyes. any day between now and March 11th, we will have a daughter joining us. And so that's been an exciting adventure too. That took, um, close to four years now in the works to, to make that happen. And this was try number seven, lucky number Oola seven.
MelindaThat's awesome. Which areas of family are the easiest for Nicole and which are the most challenging?
Nicoleeasiest family things for me would be. just being a, a big supporter and almost like a coach, and that's my son. The youngest is getting ready to go to college and do athletics, and there were these. Presentations that he could watch and all this kind of stuff. And one was, was a coaching one, and he is like, why do I need to watch this online when I have one at home? And so that was kind of nice to hear that I can be that supportive person and help'em see life differently. I get a lot of compliments on how awesome the boys are. They're just very well behaved. They're good friends. They're good people. And so I. Helping raise good humans is something that I'm really proud of. Oh, the hardest part is being calm at all times, like controlling emotions when buttons are pushed. And you know, the thing that triggered me that night with the boys was, Making dinner, doing dishes, and I'm like, Hey guys, there's only one clean plate. If you guys want some plates, come out here and help. And the oldest one said it, the younger bro, you wanna share the plate? I just lost it. So instead of laughing with them, which I did, I thought was funny, and the name I called them was lovingly called them. But it still hurt My youngest, he's, he's very emotional and so it still hurt his feelings. And so, low moment.
MelindaThat's an example of how Oola is really good for the family. Like my kids are older, my youngest is in college too, and she'll often say, I'll look out, my mom's gonna
NicoleOola you, And my
Melindason has actually been through like the money makeover and they do great with it. So yeah. And that's just obviously from coaching within. So yeah, I agree with you.
Nicolewe got them all, um, the boys, my niece, my son's girlfriend, 23 Strong for Christmas presents. And so they did it as a group and that was a blast. They made a little Snapchat group and communicated on what their challenges were every day and how they were doing that was, so, they are definitely very immersed in Oola lifestyle as much as they want, did I see you
Melindadoing 23
NicoleStrong with your feet in the snow one day? I did, yeah. I call it my, uh, nor Dakota Cold Plunge. And so I do hot works. I do either yoga or um, bands or whatever at Hot Works. And then I walk home, which is about a half mile in the one degree temperature, and then I'm usually still hot. So one day I was just standing in it, and then two weeks ago I just laid in the snow with just. No. Well, I had clothes on, but I didn't have any socks on. My feet got really cold. But otherwise, yeah, it just feels good.
Melindado you have an Oola one that you wanna
Nicoleshare Well, yeah. My Oola one is 365 days of patient, calm, loving, present mother and. and that that, uh, even though I have one little ding in there, out of the 365 days, it's still shifted into, instead of being 365 days, just more aware of what those moments are that make me not that person. I'm a workaholic, so it's very hard for me to be present. It's very hard for me to sit at a movie. When the boys were young, I would take'em to a movie so I could get. Um, that was kind of how I operate and so I'm, I'm trying really hard to do one thing at a time when I'm with them, and that's just be with them. when
Stephaniewe brought Oola Alza, I know you got on stage and you said that Oola one goal, but
NicoleI think I heard you.
StephanieMake another announcement of a mission that you were going to be on this year. Do you wanna share about that? Do you remember that? And did you wanna share that?
NicoleI do. Yep. Yep. I'm, we're still working on what that looks like, but together, my wife and I have, declared that we want to positively impact L G B T Q, um, kind of that 18 to 24 year old. We just determined range. Um, we wanna hit all 50 states in the next seven. Sharing the Oola framework and helping them build a life of growth, balance, and purpose. Let them be heard, let them be felt and seen and, you know, work on building their life as well. We've been very fortunate in our lives that even though some of the, um, diversity and not so great things we've experienced in life have been minimal compared to most. And when we were young, we didn't. you know, there was Ellen when I was 23 or something like that. We didn't have anybody that we knew to, to look up to and to guide us and, and to know that, um, that your great, everybody was built for greatness and a purpose. that is, is our mission,
StephanieThat's great. That is a lofty goal.
NicoleI didn't, I didn't realize you
Stephaniewere going to try to do all 50 states. That's amazing.
NicoleYeah, I think with, with all our Oola coaching connections and all that kind of stuff, that's definitely doable. It's just figuring out the funding and, and um, maybe working on grants, all that kind of stuff to financially make it happen. Okay, so we are gonna
Stephanieshift gears a little bit. We are asking all the coaches on our show some question. similar to the Pist questionnaire
Nicoleand
Stephanieif you have never heard of Marcel PRUs, it has his origins in a parlor game that he popularized. he's a French SAS and novelist who believed that in answering. 35 questions and individual reviews, his or her true nature. We're not asking all 35 and we
Nicolekind of, did a little take on
Stephaniehis question. So, okay. The first one is, yeah, tell us something in your life that has grown out of a personal disaster.
NicolePersonal disaster. Um, well, I've had five similar, what felt like personal disasters at the time, and that was five different times. I have experienced losing a job at no fault to me, but yet, putting me in a situation where I needed to figure things out. The first one was the company. It was a small company I was working for, closed their doors and so I needed to find something and I didn't think I would have that hard of a time, but it took longer than I thought, and I was pregnant with my youngest son. We were just building a house, all this kind of stuff, and it was just absolutely devastating and really hard. But in that moment is where I really found who I was and dug deep into my strength and, and resilience. and those things proved to be so beneficial four more times, you know? And then the next time was the university did some restructuring and new dean was coming in, brought in a friend to take over my position. And that one, you know, hurt the most, the next, you know, and then three more happened. And so it just, all with different things, either companies closing, downsizing, different things. And so it's one, it helped me realize. I think I just need to be on my own so that if something like this happens, it's a hundred percent my fault, You know, if I'm, if something's not successful, then it's my fault, and that's where I've just shifted into to being on my own for so many years now because, Those are hard to take. And, but in those moments, I am so grateful for all of'em because something great happened from every one of'em. But the most important thing, I believe is, is finding out who I really am and how strong I
Melindareally can be. Okay. So on that note, how about we switch it up and ask you when and where were you the happiest you've ever
Nicolebeen? Um, when we're the happiest. always when we're on like a family vacation. And even though that's another one of our funny stories, when I blew up, it was always my dream to take my boys canoeing on the crow wing river in Minnesota. We'd gone there when I was in high, in junior high with my science club, and it was just so fun. We filled our canoes with tents and food and all this kind of stuff, and we would canoe for a day and then we'd camp. We'd pull off to the side and camp and we'd canoe and we'd camp. I wanna do this with my kids someday. And so a few years back we did, and there was just a charade of different mishaps that happened. But just being there, you know, when we set up camp and the boys are playing cards or whatever it might be, just watching all of us just be us together is, is always my favorite thing. Christmas is my favorite. When, when all of our family is together. It's just, it's. I don't know how to explain it, but that is definitely my happy place.
MelindaI know that, you do some energy work so I actually do myself, and I believe that there is a space between the happy and the unhappy where it's that peace. And so I'm always trying to look for the present and be peaceful and so, yeah, that it usually involves family, Mm-hmm.
NicoleYep.
Melindawhat relationship defines love for you? And it could be real or fictional if it's a scenario that defines love For
NicoleNicole, I think the greatest example I've ever seen of love is between Mary and Jesus and the passion of the Christ. Um, that I didn't have kids yet when I saw that, but that was the most heartbreaking. um, like just break your heart open and see what selfless love is. You know? Um, I'm not a super religious person, but I'm a, a Christian and that was probably the most beautiful, well beautiful thing I ever saw. And so that absolutely is, um, something that I think is a great explanation of. I have tearing up what was
Melindathat here? Starting to get teary-eyed Yes, I'm too,
Nicolethat that scene broke me open for, I don't know how it still does when I think about it. I don't think I can watch it again. That's how impactful it was. I
MelindaFeel that way about the one train video that they show at Oola pta. It's so impactful.
NicoleNo, no, no. Brutal. Brutal. As soon as they pulled it up, I'm like, don't do this So how about this
Stephanieone? What person, place, or experience has shaped you the most?
NicoleI think the person, place, or experience that shaped me the most probably have to be, my kids, but then also let me just, um, helping me, just be my best me, uh, I don't know, just being a good listen. Without even listening to words to be, uh, um, I don't know. Just a really, really good human. Beautiful. our last
Stephaniequestion What advice would you give your younger self
NicoleHang on. For the ride, like, I would not change anything in my life. Nothing, everything good, everything. Not great. I just, I would not change anything. So I would just tell my younger self, hang on, because a lot's gonna happen. And, uh, you, you got this. I like that
MelindaOkay. in regards to coaching? What is the best coaching tip you have for the
Nicolelisteners? The best coaching tip is that you are stronger than you realize. No matter. how tough the situation is that you might be up against no matter what's going on. It is a temporary emotion. Is it a temporary event that, um, your strength and resilience and,. Who you are at the core it's going to to get you through this? That's great.
MelindaI know you said a motto that you have a little bit earlier. Do you wanna slow down and repeat it
Nicoleyeah, I live by, I, I read it in the book Radical Leap by Steve Farber years ago, which became one of my pivotal books, and is Do what you love in the service to those who love what you do.
MelindaI have a t-shirt with a saying on it, sort of like that
Nicolethat I got everybody
Melindaand I made'em wear it to this five mile walk,
NicoleLove it. Love it. Oh, okay. We
Stephanieare also asking all the coaches on our show if they have taken the Enneagram test. For anyone else they're unfamiliar. The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. And so Nicole, have you taken this test? And if so,
Nicolewhat's your number? I did, I believe I'm a number three. I don't even remember what that stands for. Oh, I know
StephanieI'll tell you a little bit of the positives about the three. Um, the three is the achiever. Okay. Which, based on what you've been saying in your interview, really does sound like you, achievers are pragmatic, productive, and efficient. They can settle quickly and easily into new circumstances. They always know how to make friends and leave a good first impression. They motivate others and lead their team to. And they're able to remain calm and composed under stress and still perform
Nicolewell. I would say some of those are pretty accurate that, um, calm under stress. I'm working on Yeah. I've taken numbers of different personality tests and, and there are bits and pieces that I think fit me in that kind of stuff, but I just don't dwell on'em or live in them because I'm just too busy being whoever I am, you know. to be put into one of the boxes of
Stephanieone of the Yeah, I agree with that.
MelindaWell, there's so many Enneagram tests out there. Some to show you more of your personal growth side and your emotional side. It really varies how into'em you get. But um, it's just one, one thing I will add
Nicoleabout'em, you know, like cuz I've done the disc and I've done the PRO scan and one nice thing about'em is that they give people, you're working with an idea. How to work with you. And so that's one thing I just gave my wife mine and I'm like Here. So you can you can, we can get along better. Just this is how I operate. Take what you need. That's awesome.
MelindaThank you Nicole for joining us today. Is there anything that we haven't asked you today that you would like to add that you want the listeners to know about Nicole? The.
NicoleBoy, I don't know. I think you guys asked some awesome questions. I don't, I don't think. Just if you want following around Instagram or Facebook, um, check up my website, nm strategy.com and just get to know me a little better if you feel inclined. I
Stephaniehave one last question. It's about family. Okay. And you may have already answered it, but just to end the interview with it, what advice do you have for our listeners who want to find greater balance in their own family
Nicolelife? I think the way to find greater balance in your own family life is to know which glass balls that you're juggling can't be broken. And so we have these balls that we're always juggling and Dr. Troy does'em as plates, but I like to look at'em as glass balls. And we have our, seven F's, fitness, finance, family, faith, friends build fun and we're juggling them. And, and there's just some that can't be broken. And family is one of those. And so don't drop the ball, you know, know where you need to focus, know what you need to set down. Sometimes you have to set that family ball down for a little bit to focus on something, but don't. don't break it.
MelindaI think, for family, I believe that a family takes love, leadership, and commitment. And I believe in leaving a legacy of kindness myself, but also core values, morals, and ethics to create a strong next generation of individuals. And Nicole, I gotta say, you are definitely doing your part,