Unleashing Your Spiritual Journey: Rediscovering Beliefs About God

Have you heard these myths about spirituality and God? 
Myth 1: God only exists within the confines of organized religion. 
Myth 2: Spirituality is separate from everyday life and only practiced in meditation or prayer. 
Myth 3: Believing in God means adhering to strict dogmas and rules. 

Join our guest, Nicole Angelique Kerr, as she uncovers the truth and helps us embrace a new perspective on spirituality and our relationship with God.

My special guest is Nicole Angelique Kerr

We are thrilled to have Nicole Angelique Kerr, an award-winning health expert with 30 years of experience advocating for wellness. She's best known for her national bestselling book 'You Are Deathless'. Having graced numerous platforms like CNN, CBS, and the Food Channel, Nicole’s aptitude for wellness is impressive. Her successful stints at prominent organizations, including the CDC and American Cancer Society, underscore her unwavering commitment to health. With a firm rooted belief in her neuro emotional technique, she guides people towards optimal wellness. A disabled veteran and survivor of a near-death experience herself, Nicole's well-curated approach to addressing emotional energy and spiritual well-being is life-transforming.

Death is absolute beauty, light, lovingkindness, and peace on the other side. - Nicole Angelique Kerr

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Uncover effective methods to personal transformation and moving past daunting barriers.
• Immerse yourself in insights about accepting spirituality and rethinking established doctrines.
• Gain valuable understanding of the unwavering certainty of mortality and benefits of accepting it.
• Explore the significance of self-healing and the pivotal role of emotional stability.
• Discover unique approaches to connection with the subconscious and addressing inhibiting beliefs. 

Effective methods for personal transformation
Nicole Angelique Kerr demonstrates the transformative power of self-discovery and confronting past traumas head-on. One effective method she recommends is exploring modalities such as the Neuroemotional Technique, EMDR, biofeedback, and hypnosis, which aid in identifying and addressing unconscious belief systems. Her journey highlights the importance of seeking help and acknowledging that personal transformation is a gradual process, taking time and sometimes involving steps forward and backward.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit Nicole Angelique Kerr's website to learn more about her work and services: [Website link]
• Purchase Nicole's book You Are Deathless for insights and guidance on transforming your life: [Book link]
• Follow Nicole on social media for daily inspiration and wellness tips: [Social media handles]
• Check out the Wellness Wheel to learn more about the different aspects of wellness and how they impact your life: [Wellness Wheel resource link]
• Connect with other like-minded individuals in Nicole's community and join the conversation on her online forum: 
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Chapters

• 0:25 Introduction,
• 1:25 Near Death Experience,
• 7:44 Understanding Death,
• 10:12 Life Before the Near Death Experience,
• 14:52 Returning to Life,
• 18:01 The Impact of Unconscious Patterns,
• 18:52 Repressed Emotions and Body Imprints,
• 19:44 Expanding the Definition of God,
• 20:49 Letting Go of Judgment,
• 34:56 Exploring Personal Concepts of God,
• 35:38 Overcoming Fear and Speaking One's Truth,
• 37:34 Overcoming Barriers and Getting Unstuck,
• 39:34 Developing a Relationship with God and the Soul,
• 51:34 Clearing Emotional Blocks and Waiting for Test Results,
• 52:32 Letting Go of Parents and Soul Evolution,
• 53:03 Deceased Loved Ones and Pets on the Other Side,
• 53:24 Gratitude and Blessings,

Transcript

00:00:25 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Great day, everyone. Welcome to is your way. In your way, podcast. And I'm your host, Cassandra Crawley Mayo. And, you know, for my listeners, for those who are new listeners, let me share with you what this podcast is all about. It's for listeners who are ready, I mean really ready to move forward in your life, to overcome those obstacles, to mitigate those self imposed barriers, even some of those external barriers that's preventing you from living your best, I mean, your best life. And we talk about topics related to your personal and business development and even self improvement. And today, our topic I'm so excited about this is transforming your life to freedom. And our guest today is Nicole Angelique Kerr. And I wanted to emphasize that middle name Angelique because I see her as an angel. So let me welcome her to our podcast. And before we get started, let me read her bio to you. Okay. Now, Nicole is an award winning health expert and she's also a national bestselling author to the book You Are Deathless. Nicole has appeared on CNN, PBS, CBS, ABC, and the Food Channel, and host on other TV and radio shows because she shares her unique perspective on wellness, lifestyle, and nutrition. For the past 30 years, she has worked in all sectors of society, from the CDC, Centers for Disease Control, american Cancer Society, united States Air Force, healthcare institutions and hospitals, and even corporate settings. So she has focused on supporting people from every walk of life to make realistic, meaningful, happy choices for lifelong health and well being. And guess what? When Nicole was 19, she was a 19 year old cadet at the United States Air Force Academy, where she was forced to learn how to live and love differently following a terrifying and transformative near death experience. And her memory of the crash came back 20 years later, and it has taken her two decades to align her soul, her spirit, her mind and her body. Providing healing is certainly not a nonlinear process. And Nicole is a disabled veteran, and she has a private practice, primarily using neuroemotional technique that we call net, targeting the often overlooked domains of emotional energy, spiritual and spiritual well being. And we're going to get into that neuroemotional technique. So again, Nicole, I'd love to welcome you to is your way. In your way. Podcast.

00:03:40 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Oh, thank you, Cassandra, for that beautiful introduction. And I'm in such gratitude and appreciation to be on your show.

00:03:48 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
You know, my first question to you is, like, when I was studying and seeing all the great things you have done, but yet there was a price to pay. There was a price to pay where you are today. And that's why I see you. When I read your middle name and I told the audience, of course, my listeners, Angelica, I was like, she must be an. So what I want to know is, I want to know about that near death experience in which so I tell you, it's just something because when you were 19 year old Cadet, it took you decades, right, to figure out even to remember what happened. Tell us about that. What happened?

00:04:40 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Well, first of all, I think a picture is worth 1000 words. So if your audience can see that picture that was the car that I was in. I was a passenger. It was a 1965 Corvette convertible. And I was getting a ride back to the Air Force Academy after a squadron event. And I was with someone who had been drinking and was an alcoholic. He was older than me. And needless to say, we never made it back. And the only thing that I remembered for 19 years, almost 20 years, was this bright white light. And that's the only thing I remembered until I was working at CDC one day. And I went to Starbucks, and it certainly wasn't the caffeine from the late I had. My memories started coming back of how I was sitting in the car, which contributed to the injuries, because I could never figure out how I cut my left foot off and how I cut up all my insides of my legs and I severed my wrist and just broke my pelvis on both sides. I never could understand how my brain was pretty much saved in my and so that day, I could clearly see how I was sitting in the car and it was with one leg up on the dashboard and the other one with my leg folded over. And so I went butt up through the windshield and the memory just started coming back. So instead of going to work at the CDC, I went to my chiropractor who did body work, and he told me that these were repressed memories and that they were coming up. And I said, you got to be kidding me. This was 19 years ago. Why are they coming up now? And he said, when your body begins to feel safe and you're in safety and meaning that you feel like you can actually deal with the emotions and the memory of what happened, and you have the support, you really need those two pieces in place. When you have been traumatized, you need safety and support, because if you don't have the support, you're on this journey yourself. And you start thinking, am I remembering this right or not? Or did this happen or what? And you question yourself and you doubt yourself. So you need people that are trained to deal with PTSD and trauma to help support you, to get you on the right road of mental health and physical health. And what eventually evolved for me was spiritual health. And those are all quadrants in the wellness wheel. And I had to learn them all. And that's why I went into the field of wellness. And I started out as a dietitian, but I want to go back to the near death experience because I didn't think at 19 years old that I would die. No one does. And that's the thing about death. When I crossed over to the other side, my mission was directly given to me by Spirit when my memory returned, and that was to not be afraid of death. And while seemingly quite simple, like you said, it's taken me almost four decades to understand what that looks like for me. And now I actually understand that purpose. And I have shifted my focus toward the spirituality that is essential to our wellness. And if you think about almost every book that is written, death itself is cloaked in this veil of doom and gloom. And our death has this cloud of depression and negativity around it throughout our culture and society. And to be honest with you, Cassandra, we're in death denial. We don't think it's going to happen to us. We don't like talking about it. We don't like dealing with it. And the truth is, it's a shared experience. We're all going to die, and all of our loved ones at some point are going to pass, some maybe sooner than others. And so my experience, along with hundreds of thousands of other people that have had near death experience, is 100% different. And that is that death is absolute beauty, light, lovingkindness and peace on the other side. And that is the message I was given. And I will tell you, when I was on the other side, what I also realized was the God that I was raised with was not the God that I experienced on the other side. I was raised Southern Baptist and Lutheran, and both of those and most religions institute fear. That God. You ought to be afraid of God if you do not follow a certain set of rules depending on what religion or church or denomination that you go into. And so at 19, I was afraid of God. I was afraid that I had screwed up, that I was a bad person because I had had some alcohol that day. And it was really a process for me to have to reconceptualize God. And your beliefs about God shape your relationship with death.

00:10:10 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Well, let me interject for a minute. So prior to that experience, what was your life like then? Because you were saying you were feeling guilty?

00:10:21 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Yeah. I was raised in a really conservative household. My father was a Marine. He was also a former cadet at the Academy and wanted one of his kids to go there. And I was a people pleaser. I'm in recovery from people pleasing now, as I say. But people pleasing is an identity that we take on usually when we're really young, in order to feel like we get loved, to get seen, to get appreciated. And the problem with people pleasing is, as you get older, it's based in fear. And fear is a very low vibration and when you're making decisions out of fear, you're making them out of that part of your brain where your amygdala lies, that fight, flight, freeze place. And Cassandra, you're never going to make a good decision for yourself when you're making it out of fear. So is your way in your way when you're in a constant state of fear or that amygdala is always running your nervous system, you're in a sympathetic state. Your decisions are not going to be for your highest and greatest good because they're based in fear instead of that part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex, which is where your executive decision making comes from.

00:11:40 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Okay?

00:11:43 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Does that help? But I was raised very strict. I never had gone on a date, okay? And now I'm going to school with 4000 guys. And my dad's rules were no smoking, no drinking, and no dating upperclassmen. And when he found out about the wreck, he blamed me and said, you broke my rules. You had alcohol, you had a cigarette and you were with this guy. Even though I was just getting a ride back. It didn't matter to him. He's very dogmatically positioned it's his way or the highway. And he is always right.

00:12:15 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Okay, so I see that you had blinders on, so to speak, throughout that period. Anyway. Now when you said that you saw the light, when you saw near death, explain that a little bit because how did you know that you were not there anymore?

00:12:42 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
When my memory came back, what I clearly remembered were the details of the crash. And when I went up in the air through the windshield, I actually froze there when I was working with my chiropractor because I knew when I looked down, I knew I was going to die, okay? And I cried out to God, god, please help me. And at that moment I called it Casper the Friendly Ghost because I didn't know what else to call it then came down and at that point, my soul, when we die, we all have an energy body. And that energy body cracks from the top down and your soul leaves it, okay? So my soul had left and my physical body was lying in a ditch, okay? And I could see that. I could see that there was no life in it. And I later found out that through the EMT that was there attending me, he came to my hospital room ten weeks later and I've stayed in touch with him all these years. He told me what happened when he got there. And he said, Nicole, it took us about ten to 13 minutes to get there. And when we did, the people that lived in a house nearby who had heard it and called 911 came out to check the victims and they couldn't get any vitals on you and so they covered you up with a blanket. And when I got there, I took the blanket off of you. I couldn't get any vitals on you. So the only thing I knew to do was a sternal knuckle press, which is designed to elicit pain in the body. And he said, the only sign of life I got in you was your right eye flickered and your pupil dilated. Now, have you heard that phrase, our eyes are the window to the soul?

00:14:42 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
I have, yes, absolutely.

00:14:45 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Okay. My soul, which has left I'm trying to tie this back to when my soul flew out. It now came back in through that eye.

00:14:56 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Wow. Okay.

00:14:59 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
And at that moment, he was able to get a blood pressure reading on me of 60 over zero. Now, that's still grim, okay. Because a normal is 130 over 80. So at least he knew he had some life in me and just immediately got me into the ambulance, into the nearest community center and just prayed I would stay alive. But that is that soul part of me that came back in, because when I was on the other side, I was told that I was going to come back, and I didn't want to come back. It was so beautiful over on the other side and so freeing, and there was no pain and there was no suffering and there was no negativity, and there was just this like I was in this cocoon of absolute, like I was an astronaut floating in space. It was so beyond words, really, to describe the feeling on the other side. And so when Casper, I'll say, told me that I was going to go back, I was, no, no, I don't want to get in that body. Because I knew that it was going to be pain and suffering with all the injuries, and I was going to be put back in a state of infancy, that I was going to be dependent on my parents again, meaning I was going to be back in the Baptist church, back in the Lutheran church. And so I had to completely repress my whole experience on the other side and do what they wanted me to do in order to survive.

00:16:37 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Okay, so our topic today is transforming your life to freedom. Now, why do you think you had to go back at this time in your life? What's going on with you now that you had to return back? You were told that you had to go back, so you had to go back for a reason. So you had all those emotions prior to your near death experience, the fear, the childhood trauma, drama and all of that. But then for some reason, and I'd like to say it's God for some reason, the decision was made, number one, that you had to go back. You would not remember until 20 years, until a couple of decades. Why do you think that happens for you?

00:17:29 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Because I had the concept of God wrong. I believed this is getting at your belief systems, the limiting belief systems that you live by that run your energy cycle and that run your mind and why you keep sabotaging yourself when you want to change something in your life. And I saw this with food when I was a dietitian. People would come in with diabetes and stuff, and here's your food plan. You need to stick to it. They want to stick to it. They know the consequences if they don't. And yet they would hit a stressor or trigger in their life, and they would go right to the Ben and Kerr's. They would go right to their comfort foods and keep sabotaging themselves instead of being able to heal from it. So I realized this was something that was unconscious, that was going on in people, and it turned out that's what was going on with me, too. I didn't want to feel it. The issues are in your tissues is what we say. And that's because you're not wanting to deal with emotions that you have repressed. And all of us have emotions that we have repressed at some point in our life, and our body gets stuck at the age that they were not processed and released from our body. So that's what was going on with me is I finally had gotten to a point where I realized God on the other side when I remembered, was not fear at all. And when you go back and you look at the definition of fear in the 16 hundreds when the King James version of the Bible came out, fear actually meant awe and reverence. Okay? And that is what I experienced, was this awe and reverence of this white light just feeling so oh, my goodness, just so blissed out in that. But there are also all these colors that are not in the crayolic color box that I saw and experienced. I heard other angels and guides, spirit guides on the other side, but I was in soul form, so it wasn't like I had to hear that and then translate it back into English. It was vibrations, and it was frequencies that were going on there to help me understand that. But it took me a long time to realize that God is love, period. And God is an energy, and there's nowhere that God is not. Not one religion owns God. God was never born, and God is never going to die, and God is not going to stop a war, start a war. It's not about praying to God to do something specific because it is not a person. It's not personified. And so it's just this loving energy. And I was like, wow. There was no judgment on the other side. Can you imagine how our lives would be if we didn't judge ourselves? More or less judge other people? So one way we get in our way is we judge ourselves. And I want to tell people, start there. Quit judging your actions or your behaviors or your thoughts, take that word should and toss it out the window. Because that is a shaming word. Every time you use it on yourself or you use it on your child or you use it on another person, you are shaming them. So absolutely start catching yourself when you say that word shame should because it is shaming you or someone else. So start being aware when you're judging yourself, whether it's your body, it's not in the shape you want it in, or you just drank too much, or you did something that you lied about, something that you shouldn't have, or whatever it is, start having some compassion and some empathy and sympathy for yourself. And that love because you can't love yourself when you're judging yourself or when you're angry at yourself. Those two can't coexist. So it really is trying to be aware of it first. And that is the first key to anything is awareness. And then you can't go back once you start becoming aware of something, it's like, this isn't serving me right. Go ahead.

00:22:29 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
It's like a self discovery journey. You have to discover yourself. And for this podcast, I always say that we all have gifts, we all are here for a reason, but yet many of us, they do not come to fruition. We're so busy thinking we have these limiting beliefs, we have those self imposed barriers that you indicated that we put on ourselves. And what we're trying to do is diminish those, dismiss those, and because it's a process and these are the things, these emotions we've had and it's not easy to overcome, but they can be overcome. And I always say that if we are doing what we were created to do, we would have so much more meaning in our you know, you just feel more fulfilled. And I also know the richest place where I was talking about there was a minister by the name of Dr. Miles Monroe who used to say the richest place in the world is the graveyard. And the reason that it is, is because there's so many unmet dreams. So I don't know. Prior to your accident, did you have any dreams? Was there something you always wanted to do, always wanted to be or as a child you wanted to do this, you wanted to be that. Did you have any then I did.

00:23:56 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
I wanted to be a ballerina and I actually was taking ballet and I got very good at it and got a scholarship to New York. And then my dad said, no, you're not going because your education comes before ballet. And then I grew through three inches, which put me at 511. And when you go on point, there was never going to be anybody I was going to be able to be paired with that would be tall enough. But he's like, no, you're not going to do that. So that was one of the dreams I had. And then I had a dream that I wanted to go into fashion and into that whole industry. And once again, no, he was an entrepreneur, and he wanted all of us to be entrepreneurs. And he thought, okay, that's the best route for you and to go into the military academy. It's going to make a woman that few can rival. It's going to make you special. And he just really sold me on it. And of course, I went up there thinking that I could do this. And the truth was, it didn't match any of my abilities. It's all about engineering and aerospace and all this, and that's not my forte. I love psychology. I love anatomy and the body and all of that kind of those arts, liberal arts kind of things, not the heavy sciences of physics and stuff. So I was mismatched completely. I was not a varsity athlete, and that's what most of the people that go there are just to get through boot camp. I was like Private Benjamin. I was just always lagging behind my soul. And I believe most people, their souls are not meant to go learn how to kill other people. And I think that is why we have so much. We have 22 veterans, and I am a veteran. 22 veterans a day in our country commit suicide, Cassandra, and that is just unacceptable. And I think part of that is soul loss. And that's something that we do not address, is that when you go through trauma and you're exposed to horrific and atrocious things, and most of them are in the name of God, okay? It absolutely does something to your soul. So it fractures in order to protect you. But you never know to call back in those fragmented soul parts and get your soul whole again. So just like with physical, a flesh wound that has to heal, and you have to pay attention to it. Mental health, wounds, depression, anxiety, PTSD, you have to pay attention. Give your body what it needs. The same is true for soul. You have to look and see, okay, have I experienced soul loss? And one of the first symptoms of that is you don't want to be here. You don't want to be on this planet anymore.

00:26:55 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Lack of hope, maybe.

00:26:58 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
And then you get into, like, an addiction because that puts you in a trance just to exist.

00:27:05 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Yes. Oh, my gosh. I was thinking about in my book, I think, probably one of the first or second chapter, I talked about how your childhood has so much to do with your adulthood. And I know that I have listeners now that have not had great childhood, had great experiences in it. But one of the things that I did say that you still would have to forgive whatever happened as a child because your parents did the best that they knew how at that time and how that can keep you stuck, too, by you dwelling on what my mom and what my dad used to do. And that's why I'm not where I am today. But just with your experience, it sounds like all that your dad had shared and the dreams you had, and he was more or less sounds like dictating what you would do, your life. But because of the accident, then all of that changed. What I didn't ask, is your father still living today?

00:28:09 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
He is, and my mother too, and they live in Australia, and I do not have any contact with either of them.

00:28:15 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Don't okay. Okay, so let me ask you this then. It's interesting. When you talked about the soul, now define the soul for my listeners. What is the soul?

00:28:26 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
This is my opinion of the soul, okay? Your soul is your eternal self, which includes all your lives, experiences, and the whole, quote, you.

00:28:40 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Okay?

00:28:41 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
And the spirit is that part of you that incarnates and draws around you the energy and character of each incarnation. So what I mean by that is this isn't our first rodeo. Our soul actually incarnates again, okay? We come here to learn lessons. When we don't learn that lesson, or we need to learn another lesson, our soul incarnates again to give us the opportunity to learn it, because it's about our soul's evolution. And that's why some people feel like, oh, that seems real familiar, or I feel like I've been dealing with this for so long, it's just not been this life. And it's kind of like there's also generational imprints, there's ancestral imprints, and there's these past imprints of your soul's past life that you never healed, you never worked through. It like, I never broke free from the belief systems of my family, and now that I have, and it's been extremely painful to feel like everything I was told about my family, they would always be there for me. Those things, they just really, in my case, are not true. And so it's been very difficult to let them go. I wish them well, and I would wish them health and happiness, but for me they were very toxic because they are now religious addicts and it's their way or the highway. And they believe really strictly the word of the Bible, and they interpret it in that way, and they don't have any room for anybody else's experience or opinion. And unfortunately, it's cut off my being able to communicate with them.

00:30:42 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Okay, well, tell us about that net, the neuroemotional technique. What is that technique about?

00:30:51 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
First of all, it's not invasive. Okay? So no needles or anything like that. It's a process that I got exposed to about eight years ago when I started Belching. And I had no idea why I was belching. And so I was the director of a wellness center, and a friend that came to an event said, Nicole, why don't you go see this chiropractor who does something called Net because I think this may be emotionally based. And he's really helped me. So I went and the first session he nailed me. He said, Nicole, this is your over concern for your parents. This is your need to please. This is all of these things your whole life, they're sitting in your stomach, okay? And it really is. The Chinese actually figured this out 5000 years ago, that each organ is associated with a different emotion. Like your liver holds anger. Okay? And so what it is, it's a technique that is a stress response technique. So when you get triggered in the present day and you don't understand what the trigger is, it helps you to figure that out because it looks at the unconscious, okay? And it does it through acupressure points. And then once you can locate the emotion because most of us are very emotionally illiterate. We only know bad, sad, glad and mad. Okay? And so when you find out what the emotion is that you're feeling, then you have two emotional points right here on your head. You breathe through it and breath is living. If we quit breathing, we die. So you put your image on whatever the event is and your body will tell you your body keeps the score. It's a great book by Dr. Bessel Vanderkoff. Your body remembers everything. It stores it and when it is ready, it will come up. But a lot of times you'll go to the doctor and they can't find an organic reason why something's happening. All your lab tests come back. I will tell you it is either unprocessed emotions that are coming up that need to be healed, that are sabotaging you presently, or it is a spiritual issue that your concept of God is on the wrong path for you and it's causing you to live in fear. And one thing I can tell you from the other side is if there is fear involved, it has nothing to do with God. God is not about fear at all. God is love, period. So that is man made. And that is what you have to work through is realizing, okay, just because my parents and my grandparents and all of them believe that way, doesn't mean that that's the way I'm to believe it. Start awakening to your truth and to go through and unwind all these different filters. In my book, I talk about a little girl that I was working with, with Net because you can do it with children, you can do it with pets. And she was six years old and she was going to an evangelical church and she was adopted. And her mother called me and said she's scared that she's going to go to hell and she's going to be separated from her family. And so she's starting to wet her bed and all these other symptoms. And so I said to her, okay, can you tell me what. Is your version? What do you think of how do you see God? And she eagerly told me, God is a blue spirit with colors and balloons in all different colors, no head, and can talk so clearly. This little girl is still having a direct experience with God with no filters from other people involved. And her understanding inspired me. And your own experience of God may be totally different. It's probably not going to look anything like hers or mine, but you need to really explore what is your concept of God and what do you really believe? Because I grew up believing that God was a vending machine and if I did the right thing that the right reward would come out. And what I realized in boot camp that that wasn't true. And it was a real crisis in my faith at that point to realize I was going through all this stuff and I was praying that this would happen or not happen, and none of it did. It didn't matter. And so when I had the accident, I was in a lot of fear. I needed to quit the academy, and I didn't know how, because in our family, failure was not an option. That was what was in my way, is I couldn't use my voice. I couldn't feel safe enough or comfortable enough in my family of origin to speak my truth, because I felt I would be disowned if I did. And so learning to speak my truth and my voice, regardless of if it hurt my mother, which I was told never to hurt your mother, it's like, don't get angry, don't hurt your mother. All these statements that were put upon us that are not true. Our mothers do things to us sometimes, maybe unconsciously, but they hurt us. And it's okay to say, when you did this, I felt know, and that's expressing your emotions instead of just cutting them off and just, oh, let me swallow this so I don't hurt her feelings.

00:36:50 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
That's right. Well, Nicole, let me ask you this. For the listeners that are trying to overcome obstacles that are and I said we want to mitigate barriers that's preventing them, because let's say everybody here, there's something they wanted to want to do. It could be as leaving a relationship, changing churches was not being served in a church, or changing jobs, or knowing they need to relocate, or just a lot of different things, but they're stuck or want to be an advocate for a cause, and they just can't seem to get there. All of this is meshed in their brains, and they feel like they're in a prison and they just can't get out. What advice would you give them to help them to start? Because this is what I ask people from a scale of one to ten. And if I ask you, where are you on that scale from living your best life, ten being the highest, where would you be? So for individuals that know, number one, what does it look like to live my best life, but yet I can't do it. I'm stuck in doing it. What advice would you give them?

00:38:12 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
First of all, to have some compassion for themselves and not to judge themselves for being stuck because we all get stuck. And so secondly, I would say there are a lot of different techniques. We operate with about 5% consciousness. The other 95% is unconscious. That's all the programming that you've been exposed to up until this point in your life. Okay, so check into Net, EMDR, biofeedback, hypnosis. All these different modalities are starting to come out that help you connect to the unconscious realm, which is where these sabotaging and limiting beliefs are living. If you knew it consciously, you would do something about it. But you don't know what you don't know. So that's the part about not blaming yourself, but really start looking into these different modalities and give them a try. You may hit on one, some people like the tapping, but there's all these different we're blessed today to have so many different modalities that are looking at these unconscious belief systems because you need help with that. You can't identify them in your own mind. Secondly, I would say to you, what is your concept of God? Can you articulate that to me? What does that feel like look like to you? And then thirdly, I would ask you to look at your relationship to your soul. Because growing up, the soul to me was, and this is in Mississippi, was soul food, soul music, and your soul would go to hell and experience the wrath of God if you were bad. So that's all I knew about my soul. So I've had to come into a relationship with my soul. That part of you that leaves you upon your transition, okay? Because that's the part that lives on. That's the part that's deathless, okay? So one way to start that is if you journal, and I got this from Lee Harris is what does my soul want to tell me today? And then journal that. Or you can just ask yourself, I invite my soul to offer to me and I will receive it. And don't fill in what they're going to offer to you. Let them offer it and you receive it. And I always add with grace and ease because sometimes things can come pretty hard. That's inviting that message for the soul to start that relationship with you. And so that is key because we all have a soul and that is what is going to continue on. So start developing that relationship. And then if you realize you do have soul loss, look at seeing either a shaman or a hypnotherapist or somebody that can help you bring those soul pieces back in. Or you can call on Creator or Source or however you define that yourself and call on if you have a relationship with angels or whatever to help, to bring those pieces back to you and make you whole again, you can just ask yourself, right? And then start knowing that the angels on the other side, there's just a thin veil between us and them. They want to help us, but we have to ask for help. This is a free will society. We have choices. And they're not going to intervene unless we specifically ask for their help. And people laugh at me when I ask for the angels to help me find a parking space. But I will tell you, Cassandra, every single time I ask, they deliver. And so it is about knowing you. Every single one of us has at least one guardian angel, and they are here to protect us. Okay? So know that angels exist. They exist in human form. I call my EMT, my doctor, and my nurse, and my book. I have a whole chapter because I went back 25 years and I met with each one of them. They were my angels. Each one of them played significant roles in me being able to come back and take care of me. They were all very quirky in their own ways, but they were my angels. And even my mother at that time was my angel. She came through for me. And so angels exist also in the form that you see as Casper the know. And I will tell you, casper the ghost is now my grandfather on my father's side. He came to me in a meditation. I started smelling cigar smoke last August after the book was released. And I'm like, nobody in my household smokes cigars. And then I just was asking, I said, who is this? And he said, this is your grandfather, James. And I was like, what do you know? I was just kind of shocked. And he said, I'm here to tell you that I was the one that came down. It wasn't Casper, it was me that came down and lifted you up. He said, I am going to be with you throughout your life until you pass on, and I'm here to protect you. And what is so ironic is while he was alive, he died at 58 years old in mid August, Cassandra. And here I was, mid August, 58 years old. And that's why he said he waited to tell me while he was on earth, he was an alcoholic. And the guy that was driving the car was an alcoholic. That doesn't transfer when you go to the other side. All of that what you did here and all of that has nothing to do with it. But I had the right pieces. I knew it was male. I knew he was in his thirty s. I just didn't ever know it was my grandfather. And one of the things that you hear a lot from NDE are that they seed deceased loved ones. And I could never say that. I said, I just saw Casper the Friendly know, and now I know it was my grandfather. And so things are still coming to me. And that's why I say healing is not linear. And that we're all on this journey of healing and evolving and that you today are exactly where you need to be. And to just know that there are options for you to get unstuck and it's time to do it and start awakening to who you really are, the beautiful, perfect being that you were created to be.

00:44:54 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Right? And I like the part when you said you're open because you talked about these different modalities and some people are like, what is that? What is she talking about? Because a lot of people are not open to that. And I was going to ask I have a kind of like a twofold question when the topic for our podcast is Transforming Your Life leads Transforming Your Life to Freedom. And so tell them so you can transform it through different modalities, through God, whatever they are comfortable with. I just kind of want to hone in on the title. If you transform your Life, how does that lead to freedom?

00:45:42 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Well, in Transforming my Life, I went from a near death experience to a spiritually transformative experience. And I now understand the I'm still evolving in my concept of God, but I definitely know God is not about fear, judgment or any of those things. And so knowing that gives me a sense of peace and freedom, that I am never going to be judged, that I am never going to be alone. All of these things that I feared are just not true. They're illusions. And so that freedom in itself, to not be afraid of death and to know that what happens when we make our transition is just absolutely glorious, that we don't have anything to fear and we're just going back home. And John Lennon said it so beautifully. He said, I'm not afraid of death. It's just like I got out of one car and went into another. So I think that's the transformative experience for me. And right now, people are going through huge transformations, whether it's with relationships or whether it's with work or just their own awareness into who they are and why they're here, their purpose for being. And this is the time to awaken and to start that journey, because it is a journey. It doesn't come and get downloaded all at once. You would be completely overwhelmed and on the sofa. Just know that it does take time and sometimes it's two steps forward, one step back, but at least you're on the path and your intention is set that I do want to awaken to my truth and to who I really am and to my connection with whatever is greater than I am. And when you set that intention and put it out there, it will be met.

00:47:41 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Yeah, I agree with you, Nicole. And that's why I started this podcast, because somebody is waiting for you, listeners, whatever it is that you were called to do, whatever you're ordained to do, there's somebody out there waiting. And it's time for you to start your journey without fear, to tap into your whatever it is and be intentional about doing that. Now, Nicole, you have a practice using the neuroemotional technique the Net. Would you like to provide how the audience, the listeners could get in touch with you?

00:48:21 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Well, I've actually gone on a hiatus to promote my book, so I've closed my practice temporarily. But you can go on the website netmindbody.com and they have practitioners listed by states, those who are certified in it. You'll find chiropractors, you'll find therapists, you'll find healthcare workers. It's an additional certification that they would get. There's also a great YouTube documentary that explains it called Stressed. S-T-R-E-S-S-E-D. It's had thousands and thousands of downloads, but it explains the process of net and what's going on in your brain. And they're using it now with veterans, they're using it with cancer. They've documented it in medical journals with cancer patients. The fear and the stress that comes with hearing the diagnosis, I have cancer, or you have cancer. And they never get out of that loop. So their whole treatment, they're stuck in that fear and all these emotions that have come with it, they never were able to release them. And that actually is harming their recovery to not be able to release those emotions. So they have shown that a couple of sessions with net actually did calm down that part of the brain that was lighting up the hippocampus where the memory was stored and it didn't light up again. So it does work. There is science behind it. It's not some quackery kind of thing. So I encourage people to go to the website and to see the YouTube documentary Stressed and ask questions with whatever provider you call, ask a lot of questions so you're comfortable with it. And so that's just one modality. And I know it works for some, but doesn't work for others. But I guarantee you, the eight years that I've been in practice, I know it was a game changer in my whole life. That's why I went into it and got certified and changed my whole practice and nutrition around it, because I didn't want to keep giving people diets anymore that they couldn't stay on when they got stressed. I wanted you to understand that you're reacting to something, and the only thing that you know to do is to use food or wine or whatever the issue, shopping, whatever, so you don't have to feel yeah.

00:50:49 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Yeah. Well, Nicole, I have my last question for you that I usually ask all my guests, particularly for where you are now, and I'm going to ask that million dollar question as far as are you living your best life? So if I gave you the scale from one to 1010 being the highest, how would you rate yourself today?

00:51:09 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Today I'm at an eight. I really am. I've been having some health challenges and they haven't quite been able to figure out what's going on. And when you have chronic health challenges, it's hard to stay positive and optimistic and all these other things when you're not feeling well. So I get that. I understand that. And I also know that I am exactly where I need to be. And there's probably something emotional that I need to clear that I haven't cleared yet and kind of continue to work in those areas. But I also am waiting for some test results to come back in. But I'm so grateful for so many things, and I've been blessed in so many ways, and my book has now become a national bestseller, and I am just floored, but I know and the people that have written reviews, they're all coming from the heart. And I wrote that book from the heart, and it helped me heal. And that's another way to help yourself heal is by writing and sharing your journey, because we're all on a different journey, but it's all about our soul evolution, and it's just amazing what we can go through and what we can come through. It's like for me, having to let go of my parents, that was so hard because I thought I needed them and I was told they need to always be in your life. And the truth was, no, we come into this world alone and we're going to leave it alone in terms of our immediate family. But the good news is, on the other side, you do see deceased loved ones, including your pets. So for those of you who never know your own families and only had animals, they're on the other side. They have souls as well, so they will be there.

00:53:03 - Cassandra Crawley Mayo
Well, Nicole, I just want to thank you for all the information you provided. I know that what you provided has blessed so many of my listeners, and for you, my dear, I'd like to say God bless you. I wish you continued success in your book. Okay? So we're going to wrap it up and thanks again.

00:53:24 - Nicole Angelique Kerr
Thank you.