A New Creation Podcast with Jemese LaChel LCSW
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A New Creation Podcast with Jemese LaChel LCSW
EP 41 | Why You’re Still Stuck: The Heart Condition You're Missing That Keeps You Stuck in Trauma
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Why do you still feel stuck, even though you love Jesus, pray faithfully, and seem to have it all together?
If you're the strong one everyone depends on, this episode is for you.
Maybe you're successful in your career, leading in ministry, raising a family, or carrying everyone else's burdens. From the outside, you look fine. But behind closed doors, you're struggling with anxiety, unresolved trauma, emotional exhaustion, difficult relationships, people-pleasing, or wounds from your past that just won't seem to heal.
In this episode, Christian trauma therapist Jemese LaChel Drewery, LCSW, CCTP, explores why so many high-achieving Christian women remain stuck in cycles of fear, burnout, emotional overwhelm, and unhealthy patterns, and how Jesus can heal you at the root, not just the symptoms.
In this episode, you'll learn about:
- Why success doesn't always equal healing
- How to identify what's really keeping you stuck
- The connection between faith, emotional health, and your nervous system
- What it looks like to invite Jesus into deeper healing, freedom, and heart transformation
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When Strong Women Feel Stuck
Let me just ask you something. Have you ever looked fine on the outside but felt super stuck on the inside? And if you're being honest, I know the answer to that question is yes, you know how to lead teams. Maybe you're a stay-at-home mom and you know how to make things run, you know how to homeschool your kids, you have a million plates spinning all the time. You're the person who shows up for every single body else, right? You show up for everybody else. You're the one who is considered the strong friend. But if you're being very honest with yourself, maybe when your head hits the pillow at night and it's so quiet and you're so still, and maybe you're just it's just you and God, it feels like there's something heavy on your chest saying, I'm not okay. This is not okay. And I know that from the outside, looking in, everything seems fine, but there's just I'm just not okay. A lot of the women who come to my work feel very frustrated and that they know how to manage teams and lead a multi-million dollar business, or you're a supervisor in the workplace, but you can't figure out why is why is my marriage still so broken feeling? Why is this relationship so awful? Why do my friendships stink so bad? Like what there is something the matter. Why can't I kick trauma to the curb for good? I know that Jesus paid it all for me. Why am I still struggling with this? If that is you, you're gonna want to listen to this whole episode because I know what's going on, and we're gonna get to not only that, but how to get you through to the other side. Hey, welcome back to a new creation podcast with Jamise Lachelle. I'm a Christian trauma therapist pointing you toward victory in Christ, one Jesus story at a time. You're in the right place if you're done feeling stuck and you're ready to form better relationships with God, yourself, and others. So pull up a seat to the table, girlfriend. You belong here. Let's go.
Spiritual Surgery And Guarding Your Heart
I may change the title of this by the time this episode is posted, but we're talking about spiritual surgery. And what do I mean by that? Spiritual surgery is the type of surgery uh on the soul, the type of surgery that only Jesus can deal. The problem is that we are often trained to manage symptoms in this world, but God is after solutions, he is after source, he's after the root. I actually want to come speak to you out of scripture, and I believe that this is let me see, script uh Proverbs 4, chapter 23. It says, Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life. So we're gonna be talking about the heart issues today, the hard issues and the heart issues. The NIV says, Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Powerful, right? Powerful, powerful. Maybe that's a scripture that you've heard before, but I want to go a little bit deeper because I don't know that we stop enough and actually just meditate on on the word. There's there's there's answers here, there's manna for you, Christian woman, who has been um feeling in that place of stuckness, and it's right here in this word. So let's go in a deep dive. Okay, so I want to just talk about the word. I think that this is um something nerdy that I like to do, but sometimes, in order to help you really understand the Bible, you have to go and look up what do these words mean in their original context. And the biblical usage in the Hebrew, heart refers not only to your emotions, but the center of our human personality, our mind, our will, our intellect, our desires, our intentions. So modern readers tend to think of the heart as just feelings, right? But the word of God and Jesus, the Holy Spirit, our Father, the Bible, it thinks of the heart in so much broader terms. Our heart is basically the play, the seat from where all of the issues of our life flow from, and that is so powerful because we don't want to reduce the heart to our very limited understanding. We want what God has to say about it. What does He have to say about our heart? That's what we want. And he says that the heart is not just your emotions, but it's actually the center of our personality, it's the place from where everything that we experience in life is flowing out of. And so this is so important because this means that what we're going through, you're not a careless, like mindless victim to it. You can trace it back to your heart. Meaning, if you are struggling in life and you're looking around at the issues of your life, and you're like, man, like I'm suffering over here, I'm struggling in this. We can almost with certainty trace it back to our own heart. That's not to say that what we're seeing out here in the world isn't spiritual wickedness, and we know that it is. The Lord said that these days you're getting more and more evil, but we want to be the unshakable ones, we want to be the ones who remain. We are God's remnants. He didn't make you high achieving and able to um carry so much for no reason. You have a capacity that many others don't have. I know I'm talking to a very specific kind of woman who is attracted to this podcast and to my work. The Lord has made you for such a time as this, he has made you with a strength. And maybe you even have people in your life who tell you, Oh my goodness, I just don't know. You're just so strong, and they see what you go through, and they're like, You are so strong, but you're struggling with that a little bit. Maybe it's a bit triggering because you're a person too, right? And though you may seem so strong on the outside, on the inside, maybe you're stressed, maybe your nervous system is super taxed, and you don't know why. Maybe you don't understand why your marriage is the way that it is, or your husband is the way that he is. I don't know what your thing is, but I know I'm talking to you. So keep listening because the Lord is saying that some of this is yes, it's beyond our control. We cannot control other people, but we can't control the heart for out of it flows the issues of our life. There's a way that he wants us to live and to respond to the things in our lives so that we are representing him, so that we are not only just representing him well, but that we are addressing those issues from a place where they're not overtaking us, they're not conquering us, but we are conquering and flowing in the spirit of God uh more than conquerors in Christ. Amen. So let's talk about how do you actually do that.
Naming The Stuck Place Honestly
Okay, so let's be for real. Let's be for real. Let's stop wasting time. This whole podcast episode is about you getting solutions, and that is something that I want to do on all my future podcasts. I want to make sure that you walk away with a practical application, something that you can do that you can say. Not only did I get value from this episode, but my life changed. I got transformed through listening and applying what I learned here. So let's talk about it. You're listening to this because you're in a stuck place, and only you can identify where that is. Is it marriage? Is it work? I want you to pray right now and ask the Holy Spirit to identify to you what is the stuck place? What is it that's going on that that He wants to do spiritual surgery in your heart? What is the issue? And I want you to think about that, and then I want us to go deeper. I want to be for real, okay? Because if we're very honest, we bring our issues to the Lord sometimes, but we hold something back, and perhaps you don't realize that you're doing that. And so the reason I speak to the high achieving, high functioning, I don't know what you want to call it, high-performing Christian woman is because sometimes we can get sort of oh, I don't know how to say it. It's like sometimes you are so outwardly successful that if you didn't stop and squint a little bit, you wouldn't notice that you are actually holding something back from God. But the Lord sees the heart. And so I want us to be very, very honest right now. What is it that you're hiding from the Lord? What pain is it that you're hiding? I've talked with very many women who say that uh for some reason, you know, maybe they grew up in a religious church. It's it's it feels like sin to them to go and voice their complaints to God, and I want to challenge that because I think that's the devil talking to you. If you believe like that, I think that's a familiar spirit that we should silence right now in Jesus' name because the Lord told us to cast all of our cares upon him, not just the ones that we're comfortable to let go. He wants us to cast all of our burdens to him, he wants us to voice our complaint to him. He's the only one who can change it, anyways, right? We're not meant to let me rock your world here for a minute. We're not meant to uh bear our own burdens, we're supposed to bear each other's burdens. The word tells us that. And we're also supposed to take our burdens to the Lord. We're supposed to take our burdens to him and give them to the burden bearer, but instead, we end up carrying this stuff. Maybe you don't want to voice a complaint, or maybe it feels like I should. That's that's a um huge, huge thing with women who come to me for help as a therapist or a coach, and they feel like I should not be feeling like this after all this time. I should be in a much better place, I should not have trauma impacting me. It's been 15 years, and so what do you do? Because you have that belief, we function in such a way that whatever you believe ends up being what you live out, and this is not new age, new thought, where we're manifesting a reality, nothing like that. This is brain science. If you think something in your mind, if you're thinking I'm a loser, what's gonna happen is that you're gonna begin to live out that in such a way that your your life is gonna emulate that. That is why the enemy comes from your mind. That is why the first um armor that we put on is our helmet of salvation. Why we put that helmet of salvation on because the devil wants to make you think at all times that you're not really saved, that God is not really protecting you, that you know He wants to He wants to attack you in the mind, the battlefield of the mind. That's why we put that helmet of salvation on. That's why we we renew our minds by the washing of the Word, we hear the Word, we do the Word, we live the Word that anchors us so that we are thinking like Jesus now. But sometimes what ends up happening is that voice of doubt, that voice of fear, it does begin to speak louder. And so I would I don't want you to feel condemned by this message. I want you to be honest because your honesty is the only um the honesty is necessary. How can the Lord come in and touch and heal what you are clinging on to and you will not let go? When how can he touch and heal what you're still in agreement with and now you're arguing with God? You know what I'm saying? This is not stuff that we do outwardly all the time. I think a lot of times very subconscious. I don't think that women tend to um believe that they are in agreement with what is detrimental to their life. But let's just talk about that. The Lord sees something in your heart. If you're listening to this message, there's something in your heart that you need to bring to him. And so here's my analogy.
The Purse Metaphor For The Soul
I want you to imagine your purse, and maybe um you have your purse nearby you right now, and maybe you're super organized, and this just does not relate to you whatsoever. But if you're like most women, you probably have digging around in your purse. Maybe you have like an old chapstick tube that's empty, it really should be tossed. Maybe you got an old receipt from several months ago. Maybe you got a bunch of like old change just rolling around down there. You know, you have like your different compartments, you know what your wallet is, you know what your keys are. But if you're being honest, maybe you're looking around in your purse, like, man, I got an old, especially if you got kids, you're like, okay, why do I have like one sock in my purse? Uh, you've got toys in there, you've got all the stuff that you're carrying around day to day. You're taking your purse into um the work, the workplace, and you got all the stuff that you don't actually need there. Maybe it's even bogging you down, maybe it's like a heavier load because you're carrying all the stuff that you don't need, right? Are you catching where I'm going? You take that same purse to the doctor's office, and like you got stuff in there, you just don't need it. You don't need this stuff. Our hearts are very much like this. There are things that we carry in life, and you would say, I am still functional, I can still do this, I you know it's been 15 years, the trauma doesn't bother me anymore. I can see my uncle without having a strong reaction, even though he did that awful thing to me. You you you you feel like because um you've moved on, because time has passed, that all is well. But what you really gotta do is clean your purse out. Okay, this is a metaphor for our heart. We have to go in and allow the Lord to touch those places of our heart, um, and be honest with him. Because if you're being honest, even psychologically, psychologically carrying around clutter and being around clutter, it does something to us, it kind of um makes it difficult to focus sometimes. How much more pure of how can I say this? How much better would you be with that clean, um, pure mind that you don't have to think about XYZ thing because your purse is clean, because your heart is clean, right? You don't have to rifle past like an old sticky um dum-dum lollipop in your purse because you clean that stuff out. I want you to be honest about what's going on in your heart right now because the Lord sees it, He sees it, and you can talk a good game to yourself, but at the end of the day, your nervous system is telling the truth. Maybe you're clinching your jaw right now, maybe your shoulders are tight right now. Um, I've been learning a lot about brain science, which I'm beginning to think is Bible science because it's all in the word. But the Lord is teaching me a lot right now about over the last several years, about just the way, not so much about the body keeping score, because some of that uh has been debunked, but he's teaching me a lot about the fact that our nervous system it was designed by him, and we can take a look at our nerve, we're not like worshiping our nervous system, but you can look at what's happening in your own physical body, your body being a temple of the most high God. You can take a look at what's happening and your nervous system because it will tell you the truth. If you have tightness in your body for literally no reason, there's no there's nothing going on right now, there's no um they are running after you. That's a likelihood that your sympathetic nervous system is activated, and that only happens whenever we are in a place where we don't feel safe. And a lot of times for women, especially those who come to my work, women who have a history of trauma, your your nervous system has learned to function like that. Your heart has learned to carry and hold on to stuff, and so Jesus wants that. He wants you to have a healed nervous system, he wants you well, he wants you to have a pure heart. And we have to be willing to go into the operation room with him and let him do it. You have got to stop lying to yourself. So I want to ask you could you have a heart condition and don't rebuke me because I know I'm like that with the words. I'm gonna you say don't you be talking crazy to me, but I'm being for real with you. Could you have a condition of the heart in the spiritual sense? And perhaps that's where your stuckness is coming from. I want you to think about your marriage, I want you to think about the way that you're feeling stuck in your workplace. I want you to think about your problem. Do you have a condition of your heart right now? Is there something inside of your heart that needs to be turned loose? That the Lord needs to excavate your heart, that you need to come to him sincerely and say, Cleanse my heart. Can you just imagine that? I mean, for real, let's just take a breath. I can just take a breath because now can you imagine what that will feel like just to release that? Just to release that, just to be honest for once with God and with yourself and say, Yeah, there is something going on with me. I am carrying a burden. You can pause and spend some time with the Lord in this, and when you're ready, let's keep
What Your Words Reveal
going. I want to go deeper about the heart. The heart does have a voice, and this is very important. I want to tell you this is the part where we're gonna talk a little bit about why it is that you're like this, okay? Um, and this is not about us trying to fix you. This is not about you having to come and admit, oh, there's something wrong with you. Although I do think we should be honest, like, let's stop. Can we please stop um trying to pacify ourselves with this very baby-ish language to ourselves? Sometimes we have to be real. Come on now, like, and if that's not you, and you feel like, oh my goodness, I can't, she's mean, like, maybe I'm not the person that you need to be working with. Because it's never my intention to be cruel to you, but I do want to be honest to you, and sometimes being honest means telling the truth. So we're gonna go deep, and I want you to be for real with yourself not just you, but with God. Your heart has a voice, and out of it flows the issues of life. Your heart has a voice. So, I want to read to you uh Matthew 12, 34 in the KJV. It says, Oh generation of vipers, how can you being evil speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. We we you can know what what is in your heart by what you're saying. That's what that means. What are you saying right now? What are you saying about your marriage? What are you saying about your business? What are you saying about your stuckness? Think about that place where you're feeling stuck right now. What are you saying about it? I don't want the cutesy answer that you you put on in a therapy appointment when you're trying to impress your therapist who really just wants you to be honest because it doesn't benefit you to put on a show. Like, let's stop performing. Let's stop performing. Let's just tell the truth. What are you saying about your situation? And and when you're headed to the pillow at night and you're crying out to God, what are you saying? Are you saying I can't believe that I mirrored this guy? Are you saying, like, what are those thoughts like you're saying? You have to be honest about that. I would encourage you to even get a piece of paper and write that down. If out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, what are you saying? So that was Matthew 12, 34. I also want to read. Um oh, okay, I was gonna read Luke 6, 45, but it's the same. Oh, oh generation of vipers, how can ye being evil speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. That's that's a biblical principle. Jesus is talking to the Pharisees. He's saying that they are evil. So they cannot speak good things because their heart is darkened. But we being children of light, our heart doesn't look like that, and that's why he cares so much about the state of your heart right now. Do you have little stony places in your heart that he needs you'll know by the way that you talk about your problems? So, what are you saying? What are you saying about your problems? The whole point of this episode is to get you to deal with the heart stuff. Yeah, that's a double entangre, maybe. The hard stuff, the heart stuff, that's the whole point of this episode. Is that you will encounter the Lord, that you will encounter yourself and deal with your heart stuff. The things that you keep putting off, the things that you keep hiding, the things that you keep saying that you'll deal with it later. The things that you keep. The things that you have normalized. Maybe um there's a prayer that you have stopped saying, maybe you have stopped asking God to heal your marriage, maybe you have stopped asking God to heal your physical body because it's been like this for a long time. Bring that to the Lord, confess that to the Lord Jesus. My God. I'm thinking um about a personal situation. So I'll confess to you that since I got uh save saved, I was baptized as a kid, but the Lord He encountered me in 2020. My life ain't never been the same ever since then. I have um had so much attacks in my dream life, and it's been going on for years to the point that it's like, man, Lord, like why? Why is this happening? And the enemy wants me to think that it's because I'm in sin. Enemy wants me to think all kinds of stuff. The reality is that the Lord's ways are higher than our ways, and He is uh uh a God who contends with those who contends with us, and you know, the reality is that sometimes we don't know why the Lord seems to delay, right? But I do think sometimes God wants to deal with your heart through the process of endurance. Isn't that in James 1? Let me see if I can't find it. James 1. My brethren, count it out joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience, but let that patience have its perfect work that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. That's the goal. The father cares so much about you, he wants you to live from this place where you are aware that you lack nothing. Over and over, it tells us that in the word. Even Psalm 23:1, the Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want. Some translations say, I lack nothing. Sometimes that delay is meant to produce a good fruit in us because you don't know what's gonna happen in 10 or 15 years, that you're gonna need to go through this trial so you could endure that. But in the moment, maybe your heart wavers, in the moment, maybe you the stuckness of this thing lasting so long causes you to doubt, it causes you to um walk in the flesh a bit more than you should. God is not surprised by any of this, he's not ashamed of you for any of this, but he's trying to work this out of you. He is the potter, and we are the clay, okay? And these are the things that get lodged in your heart, and he wants to work that out of you. And so, are you gonna lean into his process or are you gonna just give up and let the waves of life overtake you? You have to decide that. I believe that you're strong in Christ, you know that when you're weak, you're strong still because of God, because of Jesus, and that you want to endure, you want to go forward, you believe in the goodness of God, and if that's you, let's keep going. Let's keep going. So, I want to talk to you a little bit about what happens when you bypass dealing
Faith Versus Fear While Waiting
with your heart. Okay, at this point, you've been honest about what you're dealing with. If you continue to bypass dealing with this issue, what you're gonna find is that you're faithful, but you're also full of fear, which is almost impossible. You can't have faith and fear at the same time, right? You're gonna find yourself being double-minded if you don't deal with your heart stuff, you're going to be double-minded. So, I want to ask you this very hard question. I got two questions. What do you compromise when God says, wait? What do you compromise? What do you do when he doesn't seem to answer you at all? What are you gonna do? Are you gonna go ahead of him? To be frank with you, this is why many people end up in new age. Because the Lord's ways, maybe sometimes he tells us to wait, he tells us to do this or that, or we don't like what he said. But a cute angel card reading will appease that part of your soul that is so desperate to be healed. To be honest, and this is another topic for another day, but a lot of what attracts people to new age and how Satan is able to deceive many through new age and metaphysics and all this kind of stuff, new thought, all this kind of stuff, is because they do have unhealed trauma. Unhealed trauma has to be presented to God. Jesus is healing, he's not only the healer, he is healing, and we have to take our unresolved trauma to him, and we have to trust his ways. And when we don't do that, it just makes you a really prime subject for deception, and that's not gonna be us, is it? In Jesus' name. No. So, um, I spoke a bit about double-mindedness. A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. The Greek says that that word means die. I don't know if I'm gonna say this right, die psychos, die psychos to psychologies. I don't know how you would say that. It means two souls, literally. It means double-minded means two souled, two spirited. It's about being divided and your loyalty, it's about having a split spiritual allegiance. That's what's gonna happen if you don't deal with your heart stuff. You will be faithful and full of fear at the same time. It's very confusing, and that's not how we're supposed to live. So I was gonna share a little testimony um about my experience kind of falling into that trap, and I don't have time for it, but I will say just briefly, um, but yeah, you know, I mean, like, I'm not gonna sit here and act like I never been through stuff. Of course I have. I I remember um searching for love. I I lived out in Asheville, North Carolina for some time. And if you know anything about Asheville, then okay, it's a beautiful place. Uh, very spiritual, right? That's what I thought. There was a lot of demonic stuff going on, and uh, I'm sure there's a lot of good godly stuff going on too in that region. But at the time, that's not what I was attracted to because I had edhunk trauma, I was very prime pickings for um deception, you know, all kinds of witches and all kinds of stuff. That story is so crazy. I will love to tell the story someday. Don't have time for it today, but I just I do want to say, like, if that's your story, there's no shame, there's no condemnation for you now in Christ Jesus. He is not surprised by our journey, right? It's actually a beautiful thing that we get to get delivered and now you know, prosper and be in health, even as our soul prospers, and now we get to shine the light of Christ through our deliverance, and like now we get to help other people. Please don't be ashamed of what you've been through. I don't know who that one is for, but I want to get into the solution talk, okay? The solution
Practical Steps To Process With Jesus
talk. So we kind of talked about the problem. Hopefully, by now you've done the work. Um, let's talk about the problem, let's talk about the solutions. What do you do? How do you deal with this? One, you have to stop your fear everyone making a negative confession. So going back to the to the people or this belief that to make a complaint to God is in some way like wrong. You gotta throw that belief in the garbage. You have to break your agreement with it. And so let's do that right now, Lord Jesus. We break agreement right now with the lie that tells us that we cannot come to you as we are, with a lie that says that we have to clean ourselves up before we come to you, Lord God. We cast that vain imagination down, we come out of agreement with it in the name of Jesus, and we break every demonic covenant with every lying spirit, Lord Jesus, that has kept us imprisoned because we partner with that life God in the name of Jesus. We divorce ourselves. You can say I divorce myself from that lying spirit now in Jesus' name. You have to stop your fear around making a negative confession because the reality is that when you are not honest enough with yourself, when you cannot even admit it to yourself, how can you admit it to God? If you can't admit it to God, how's he supposed to help you, girl? Come on. You can't get mad about being stuck when you haven't been for real. Stop lying. Stop lying. That's the thing. You partnering with a lie has caused you to lie to yourself. Let's break agreement with that because the Lord wants to help you, He wants to help you. If you can't be honored and honest enough to admit that you're sick, that your marriage is in shambles, that you're broke, okay. That's not who you are. That's not like your identity in Christ. We're not making this an identity, but if you can't admit that you put that on as a garment and now you're wearing brokenness, you're wearing a victim mentality. If you cannot admit that, you will never take those garments off. Because now you agree with it. You know what I'm saying? I don't want to belabor the point, but I encourage you to be for real. This is very honest. So go to the Lord in your secret place, time, and we'll we kind of did that a little bit in this podcast. Uh, but I want you to do that more, right? Um, go to him and just be for real with him because Jesus can't heal the lie that you're partnering with whenever you will not turn it loose. Solution number two: you have to take everything to Jesus for processing, everything you have to voice your complaint to him, take everything to him for processing, processing being processing being the key word. Not brushing under the rug. Now, a lot of times I talk with women who are very frustrated because in their relationships with their spouse or whomever, um, maybe they are really open and wanting to talk and solve the problem, but their husband might be very avoidant and wants to brush it under the rug. And that is so damaging because we have to close the loop. We we have to we have to deal with stuff. So if you if that is the place that where you've been stuck, because maybe your partner will not go there with you because maybe they don't. We're not gonna condemn them, right? Like maybe they just don't have the capacity. Guess what? Your Lord and Savior has more than enough capacity to process that out with you. He is your husband, anyways, right? The word says, My maker is my husband. Come on now. That's for somebody. You go and process that with him, you go process that with your father. You bring that unhealed trauma to him to process that with him. And if you need help, I actually have a tool for this. It's called um the total truth letter. Dm me the word total truth, total truth, two words d DM me on Instagram, total truth, and I will send you a copy of this. It's like a journaling prompt, but you could also just you know pray it out loud to the Lord. It will help you process through um a specific issue because many times, and this is kind of a side note. I don't I don't want to go too long on this to make this podcast episode too long, but many times we experience something like an unhealed trauma or maybe uh uh a childhood abuse or something happened to us, and maybe you get stuck and maybe the anger of it, but you haven't processed all the other nuanced emotions like how you love that person. Maybe it was a family member. Can we be for real? This is the real stuff people are dealing with. Maybe it was a family member who hurts you, and there's love for that person because it was your mom or your dad or your uncle or your friend or your teacher. We have to get real with the Lord, you have to process all of it. You have to process all of it, and the Lord is the He He is our maker. Come on now, take that to Jesus. Get that prompt for me, DM me total truth, two words, total truth, and I will send you this uh worksheet. But um, for the sake of time, on this episode, I want to give you some tools for how do you process you? I want you to ask, Lord, where am I in error? Where have I been lying to myself about the situation? Where have I been worshiping a created thing over my creator? Where have I lost the fear of the Lord? These are the things that are gonna help you process your problem so that it doesn't become a stone in your heart, but rather just an issue that you flow through. That question about where have you lost the fear of the Lord, I'll give you a hint. It is usually in the ways and the places that you didn't consult him first before you did a thing. I'll say that again. When you don't consult the Lord first before you do a thing, that could be a sign where you've kind of lost fear of the Lord. Maybe you got in that relationship, maybe you got in that bed with that person. You didn't consult God for before you did that. Right? A lot of the times, like this is about our relationship with God more than it is about the entanglement that's happened in our relational issue. Yeah, that's bad, but what it is is that you lost your intimacy with God somewhere. Process that process there's a song on um YouTube, Spotify, called I believe it's called Spiritual Surgery by Victoria Orenzi. I think that's how you say her name. The song is so powerful, and I would encourage you to listen to that. In fact, what I'm gonna do, I have a Spotify playlist called Faith Fire Freedom. I think that's what it is, Faith, Fire, Freedom Sessions. I'm gonna drop a link to my playlist in the um show notes in the description. I want you to go find this song called Spiritual Surgery, and I want you to listen to this. And maybe while you are journaling out this work and praying to the Lord about all this, you will um listen to the song and let the Lord work out in your heart. Again, out of the heart flows the issues of life, so we want our hearts to be very pure before him, and that only help happens when we take our heart sick heart, the heart sickness, and we give that to him, and we can be honest about it.
Prayer, Peace, And Next Steps
Can I pray for you? Oh, gracious and heavenly father, Lord. I just thank you for the person on the other side of this podcast. I thank you, Lord, for her life. I thank you for or his life. I'm sure there's men listening. I thank you for this person's life, God. I thank you, Heavenly Father, that you bring a peace that passes all understanding, God. And I ask you right now in the name of Jesus that you would touch this person's heart, touch her heart right now, oh God, touch their heart right now in the name of Jesus, oh Lord Jesus. Surround them as a shield. And be that safe haven, that place of safety. Holy Spirit, I pray that by your fire, God, that you would burn from the top of their head to the bottom of their feet, oh God. The listener right now, that even the places in their heart, the stony places in their heart, God begin to purge, begin to burn in the name of Jesus, God. Burn away all unforgiveness. We come out of the gringo with unforgiveness now, oh Lord Jesus. We repent for walking in unforgiveness. You told us we were to forgive 70 70 times seven. Oh God. Oh Lord Jesus, have your way. Bless the listener to walk in uh freedom and to walk in peace. And I just pray over the listener right now, God, that you would just grab grab him by the hand and lead him in the path of righteousness. For your name's sake, and give him strength, encourage, tenacity, endurance to just keep going, oh Lord Jesus. This work is holy, it's hard, but it's holy and it's so worth it, that's it. We love you so much in Jesus' name. We pray. Alright, folks, that's it. May the Lord bless you and keep you until we meet again. If you want to learn more about me, go to Jeremy's Lashelle.com. Don't forget to DM me on Instagram at Jimmy's Lachelle. The word total truth. Two words, total truth, and I will send you that free PDF. Alright, love you guys. Bye.
