Embarking on a courageous quest of self-discovery, I, Dr. Chiaku, psychologist and former member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc , I open up about my transformative journey through and beyond the realms of being a Delta . Through a series of heartfelt reflections, I invite you to join me as I dissect the intricate web of my decision to leave—the cultural expectations, the stereotypes, and the unspoken challenges that shaped my path to freedom. Together, we'll venture into the seldom-discussed territories of Greek life's cultural intersections with spirituality and personal identity, unveiling the layers of conflict and revelation that accompany such a profound life choice.
Venture with me as we navigate the often tumultuous waters of fraternity and sorority membership, dissecting the historical transformations and the startling resemblances to cult-like organizations. As I peel back the curtain on my own initiation experience, we confront the troubling practices that lurk beneath the surface—practices that can conflict with one's spiritual beliefs and personal values. This episode doesn't just recount my storyline; it offers a beacon for those wrestling with similar dilemmas, providing a space for connection and shared understanding as we consider the stereotypes and unexpected consequences that come with the territory of Greek life.
Wrapping up this introspective saga, I extend a candid advisory to anyone contemplating the waters of Greek organizations or reflecting on their current affiliation. We ponder the profound implications these commitments have on our personal growth, spirituality, and self-assurance, while also examining the potential for organizations to entangle themselves in the very fabric of our identities. This isn't just a podcast—it's a sanctuary for thought, a crossroads of decisions, and an open dialogue for all who seek to navigate the nuances of Greek life with wisdom and clarity.
Embarking on a courageous quest of self-discovery, I, Dr. Chiaku, psychologist and former member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc , I open up about my transformative journey through and beyond the realms of being a Delta . Through a series of heartfelt reflections, I invite you to join me as I dissect the intricate web of my decision to leave—the cultural expectations, the stereotypes, and the unspoken challenges that shaped my path to freedom. Together, we'll venture into the seldom-discussed territories of Greek life's cultural intersections with spirituality and personal identity, unveiling the layers of conflict and revelation that accompany such a profound life choice.
Venture with me as we navigate the often tumultuous waters of fraternity and sorority membership, dissecting the historical transformations and the startling resemblances to cult-like organizations. As I peel back the curtain on my own initiation experience, we confront the troubling practices that lurk beneath the surface—practices that can conflict with one's spiritual beliefs and personal values. This episode doesn't just recount my storyline; it offers a beacon for those wrestling with similar dilemmas, providing a space for connection and shared understanding as we consider the stereotypes and unexpected consequences that come with the territory of Greek life.
Wrapping up this introspective saga, I extend a candid advisory to anyone contemplating the waters of Greek organizations or reflecting on their current affiliation. We ponder the profound implications these commitments have on our personal growth, spirituality, and self-assurance, while also examining the potential for organizations to entangle themselves in the very fabric of our identities. This isn't just a podcast—it's a sanctuary for thought, a crossroads of decisions, and an open dialogue for all who seek to navigate the nuances of Greek life with wisdom and clarity.
Hey everyone, this is Dr Chiaku with a new episode of Decoding Spiritual Mysteries, and today I want to talk about Greek organizations, aka sororities, fraternities, which are really secret societies, and I want to talk about why I denounced Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated. Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated is a Black Greek organization, it's a sorority and it's a part of the Panhellenic Council. So it falls under the Divine Nine, because the Divine Nine represents all the Black Greek fraternities and sororities and it's a total of nine. So, anyhow, I have been meaning to do this video for a while.
Speaker 1:I was parting ways with Delta Sigma Theta. I would say I feel like I started parting ways from them or I started having those aha moments in like 2017. And then I still wasn't fully ready to leave and I would dabble and dabble. And then I would say I would say at the at the end of 2019, I think I was like officially ready to like leave the organization and um, in 2020, I found a video with some people who were denouncing Delta Sigma Theta and I was like, oh my God, I have to contact them and they it's called Out From Beyond them. But I contacted them and they actually helped me with the process of denouncing Delta Sigma Theta. It's actually a process. Process of denouncing Delta Sigma Theta. It's actually a process, and I went through the official paperwork of denouncing or excommunicating, whatever you want to call it. I got it notarized. I had an exit interview. I met with the highest organizational chair of Delta Sigma Theta, which was the chaplain. I went through all the steps and there was nothing left to do after that but to send me my official paperwork of you are no longer a member of Delta Sigma Theta. And they never did, and I've contacted them several times and their excuses oh, you know, we're backed up since the pandemic and yet the pandemic ended in like 2022. So there's really no excuses, but it does not matter. I am officially denounced. My spirit, mind and body. I am no longer in connection with Delta Sigma Theta. I do not attend chapters. I have since had my number changed. I don't even use the same email that I communicated with them on. I still have the same email, but I have other email accounts. I don't have any friends from the organization. I'm completely denounced from them. They are completely out of my life. I don't have any influences around me.
Speaker 1:I wanted to do this video years ago, but I was advised by my reputation manager. It was a person I hired to help with like branding and things like that, and she stated that it wasn't a good idea for me to engage in a denounced video which seems to be pretty infamous, because it just didn't have anything to do with my brand and it could also damage my brand more so than help it, because you know, I'm a doctor of psychology, I'm a psychologist. So if someone Googles my name and then they see a I denounced Delta Sigma Theta video, it just looks really tacky and it is very personal and it could ultimately confuse my audience. It could confuse my clients. It could also invite my clients into personal spaces of my life that they don't need to be involved in. So I have social media accounts that allow me to just be freely myself, but my reputation manager didn't think that it was a good idea to put a video out that had nothing to do with who Chiaku is, who I am as a person and also my brand. So I never did it and I didn't feel like I needed to do it in order to be denounced.
Speaker 1:And when people sort of send this message that you have to do you have to renounce? You have to do a public video. You pledged in public, so you have to leave. I mean, I don't think that that's necessary. I think what's more important is that you denounce spirit, mind and body. You repent, you, um, you go to the Lord, you ask for forgiveness and then you move on with your life and and that's it. And so, um, I did find comfort in connecting with people who are also denounced from divine eye organizations, um, but then it ultimately it started to feel like another sorority outside of a sorority, like we're the X sorority people, we're the X deltas, we're the X. And I'm like, wait a minute, this is like creating a sorority outside of a sorority.
Speaker 1:And then I found myself telling people that I was denounced all the time. Like if I saw someone with Greek letters on, I would be like, hey, I used to be a part of the Divine Nine and I'm no longer. And then God just kind of redirected me to stop doing that because that's still like being connected. So a part of me didn't do the video because I agreed with the person I was working with, who was helping me with branding, that it didn't have anything to do with who I was as a person or who I am in God, first and foremost who I am as a person or my brand and then, on top of that, I didn't feel like it was necessary for me to feel denounced. And then I also didn't want to create a sorority outside of a sorority, because ultimately people are going to reach out to you. They are going to be like oh my God, I'm thinking of denouncing, oh my God, I want to denounce. And then you end up creating these bonds with people and it's like all you guys talk about is why you denounced.
Speaker 1:I've talked to several people who denounce and that's all we talk about is the organization we denounce from. Denounce, and that's all we talk about is the organization we denounce from. And then I've had I had a guy contact me who was in the process of denouncing Kappa, alpha, psi, and he was asking me questions and it didn't seem like he was fully ready. And then I was like, see, this is the reason why I just kind of need to separate myself and just disconnect in general, because then it'll be like forming another group outside of a group that we left, and it'll be like I survived Divine Nine and then we're all in the network together. So I fully just decided to leave and not do a video.
Speaker 1:But the reason why I decided to do it today is because it's been weighing on my heart. I feel like I have enough of a brand and enough of a good reputation that I can stomach doing a denounced video like this, and it not necessarily affect who I am as a person nor my brand I have enough pages on Google. And then also, I just feel like it's time to talk about it because there are a lot of spiritual components to being a part of a Greek organization also known as a secret society. There's a lot of spiritual or cult. There's a lot of spiritual components to it. And so another concern I had was I wanted to go through my forgiveness stage. I wanted to also get all the anger out. And then I wanted to be like, professional and I wanted to be classy. And then I spoke to one of my friends Shout out to you, dr Perry. I talked to her and she advised me that I don't have to worry about being classy and professional and to just get my truth out. And so thanks for encouraging me, and this is what I'm going to do. I'm going to get it out today. It's probably not going to. It's not going to be professional. This is a platform where I we talk about decoding spiritual mysteries and I will make psychological references here and there, but ultimately this is a very safe space to sort of have a real talk down to earth venting session or to discuss things that are going on in the world so that we can stand in our spiritual identity right. So if I don't speak my truth and if I'm just concerned about how I display it, then I won't be able to fully get it out right. So let's talk about it. Let's talk about it.
Speaker 1:Okay, for me, joining Delta, sigma, Theta, that was a dream of mine since probably age 17. And it happened when my sister would always send for me to come to college and visit her. She was in college, I was in high school and I would visit her in college and she would take me to all the sorority parties, the college parties, and I was exposed to them. And one thing I remember about them is when they entered into the room, everybody backed up, everybody cleared the room and I was like wow, who are they? And they were amazing. I mean I was like wow, they had on red, crimson and cream, but it's really red and white and they just were powerful and they just it was like they were breaking the ground when they walked, when they strolled, when they stepped. It was like people were almost like trembling and I was like, wow, that's power. And I did.
Speaker 1:I had lost my sister, my sister. I had lost my sister two years prior, at age 15. My sister's twin passed away and I was shattered by that. So I lost a sister and I think a part of me always wanted to not replace but to just have that void filled, because I was always used to having, you know, my two sisters and then my cousin, who was raised with us as, as a sister. So I was always used to having those three girls and so I felt like it was a missing piece and so I was drawn to the sisterhood piece of it because I thought it was a sisterhood, and so my sister advised me not to do it. She also said mommy was adulting. My dad's sister was adulta and or is adulta. Rather, my dad's brother is a Q and his, his, his, my, my dad's sister sister's two sons, which are my dad's nephews, they all pledge Q. Sci-fi, same chapter my dad's brother crossed, crossed in. I have other aunts that are adultas, I have cousins, so that's pretty much what everybody did in my family. So it was like crazy that I was attracted to them.
Speaker 1:So I thought it was like a sign like, oh, my God, it's meant to be. Oh, everyone in the family who is a part of a Greek organization. They happen to be a part of the Delta Sigma Theta Q, Psi Phi branch. You know of the Delta Sigma Theta Q, psi Phi branch, you know? And, like I said, these are the divine. These are two of the divine nine organizations. Okay, from the Panhellenic. Okay, I don't even know if I'm saying it right, but, um, they're a part of the the divine nine, which is the nine black Greek organizations.
Speaker 1:So, anyhow, I always had it in my, in my, my, my spirit. I was like I'm going to do it, I don't care what anybody says. Um, because my cousins were like don't do it. My sister was like don't do it. But I was like I am going to do it. So, um, when I went off to my historical black college, I was looking for them. I was like where are these crimson and creams, honey, where are they? And they weren't on campus at the time and I was like, thank God. I mean, they were suspended for badly pledging someone I think someone almost died, but they were not on campus. So I was like, oh man, so I have to be a part of this organization and they have to come back. So, anyhow, I did not get to do it in undergrad. So what I did was I did it in the graduate chapter and I was in my 20s when I, when I pledged and finally my dreams came true.
Speaker 1:So I thought, right, so originally I had denounced. Not, it didn't have anything to do with spiritual reasons to stay in it. If I would have left for, if I would have been wooed to like leave for spiritual reasons. Because one of the things that Greek people say is like oh, we're Christian based, and that is the biggest lie on God's green earth. There is nothing Christian based about these organizations. The organizations were founded by Christians. That is not the same thing. I can create a program and because I am Christian, I can say, oh, yeah, it's Christian based, but it's really not. It's just that I happen to be. That's not the same thing. So that's a form of manipulation.
Speaker 1:But a lot of people who denounce, they always kind of give the spiritual reasons for it and it seems very scripted and robotic and um and and and. To me that is not realistic, because why is everyone saying the same thing when they denounce and it, it? It's so scripted and also it kind of leaves the door open to people who aren't christians. Like okay, so it's okay to join these organizations if you happen to be muslim or atheist or agnostic, or just one foot in the door and one foot out the door or a lukewarm Christian. It's like these organizations are so dangerous, irregardless if you're a Christian or not. It's not even funny. So I actually like the fact that I was led out of the organization for psychological reasons I would say personal reasons before it became spiritual, because that gives me an outlet to talk about the psychological and the spiritual. And I'm just going to say from my heart once I joined or was in how do I want to say was joined or was in? How do I want to say initiated?
Speaker 1:I remember, like it was yesterday, we all had to wear white. I mean, we walked into this room, everyone was dressed in like black and they had hoodies on and it was really dark and it was some candles that were lit. It was scary. It looked like a cult, it looked satanic and I remember my spirit saying run, get the hell out of there, run. And I didn't do it because I was like, oh, I'm always running, I've wanted this since I was 17. I need to stay. But I wanted to run out of there because I was like this is satanic, this is cultish, this is weird. I couldn't even see like the faces of people. It was like dark.
Speaker 1:I was like what the a way to like, rationalize myself out of it? Like, oh, you know, this is just the process. Oh, you know, I don't have to believe in it, I can get through this. It's just what I have to do in order to get in, just what I have to do in order to get in. And that was the biggest mistake I've made. I should have left when I experienced that initiation ceremony.
Speaker 1:It was scary and it's no different from people who join cults and people who are Satanists. Like they do the same thing. They all form in a circle, they all have the dark hoodies on the black robes. It's very dark in the room, it's candles lit, there's an altar. I mean it's the same and we can't. We have to stop this. Oh, it may look like a duck and quack like a duck, but it's not a duck. No, it may look like a duck and quack like a duck, but it's not a duck. No, it's a duck. Last time I checked it's a duck and if it's not a duck, it's in a bird family period. And so once we started the process, it was just hell. It was hell on wheels. It was so negative, it was so disrespectful. It was not a good experience.
Speaker 1:There was a lot of rituals that we had to do. I didn't do them. I mean, I would pretend like I was doing them and I wasn't. I would like move my lips even though I wasn't saying anything. And there were like chants that we had to do. We had to do things. We had to dedicate things to the ancestors and I'm like who are these ancestors and what are their names? And anyhow, it was just so, not me. Who are these ancestors and what are their names? And anyhow, it was just so, not me, but I would pretend like I was doing it even though I wasn't.
Speaker 1:But overall, these organizations and any cult or any secret society that exists stands on the principles of needing and belonging. It's all about your belonging needs, and so a lot of these organizations get people who are orphans, people who come from broken homes, people that may have been abandoned, neglected, rejected by their fathers or mothers, people who have been adopted, or even me. I lost a sibling and they usually. I also lost a brother, but that's another thing. But, yeah, I think those types of people who have something missing in their life, be it family, siblings, are attracted to these organizations, cults, secret societies of such because they they feel like they're gonna finally be a part of something and they're gonna have like this family and they're gonna have this backing that they never have with the family system.
Speaker 1:But you got to think about it like this these are people you are literally paying money because that that initiation fee is no joke. Okay, it is somebody's mortgage somewhere in the United States, but you're paying money, you're committing to wearing a uniform or clothes, you're buying gifts, you're running errands, you're doing all these things just to say that you're a part of a group or a family system or whatever have you. It's not like being born into an actual family. It's completely different. You can walk away from your family. You don't have to pay to be in your family. You don't have to sacrifice things to be in your family, I mean a lot of times being a part of our family. Systems are, you know, sacrificial. It is, but it's there's a difference between you making the decision to sacrifice and you just going into a situation sacrificing. That's two different things.
Speaker 1:So, anyhow, um, a lot of these organizations they also um are able to target people who don't have identity, people who don't have individuality, and people who are, um, who don't know who they are. Now, me, I always knew I didn't. I had to know who I was at a very early age, um, because of my, um, my background. So I already knew who I was. I already had identity. I already had like a brand of my own and I said that to them during my interview and I was like, hey, if they don't select me because I said what I said, oh well. But I literally said that during my interview to them and I did not think they were going to select me. They were like we want her now. So that's another thing. It's like I don't know.
Speaker 1:Delta, sigma, theta is the largest and top female organization. That's another reason why I was attracted to them. Um, they are the top Greek, not not divine, not organization. They have the most members, they have the most money and they are the most powerful. They are the cream of the crop. I have to, you know, I have to just be honest. They, they target women who are the cream of the crop. They target women who are a type I'm not a type, I'm more of an ambitious type but they target women who are ambitious, women who are a type, women who are movers and shakers, women who are doctors, women who are lawyers, women who have big dreams for themselves. They target women who are really a vibe and so they're attracted to the best of the best, the cream of the cream, the crop of the crop, right. And so they do have a lot of successful, extraordinarily successful women in the organization and they are the most powerful, they are the top organization.
Speaker 1:A little bit of history is originally the first organization is Alpha Kappa, alpha,08, sorry, 1908. And they were just originally a group of women and they were pretty much a social organization. And the newer members who had joined in about 1912, they felt like the organization didn't really stand for anything about 1912, they felt like the organization didn't really stand for anything and that the organization wasn't really focused on productivity and it wasn't an organization that was doing anything in the community. And so they voted to change the name, the colors, the mascot, everything, the meaning of the organization. And they voted to change it to Delta Sigma Theta. Change the colors to Crimson and Cream it to Delta Sigma Theta. Changed the colors to Crimson and Cream. And 22 women voted yes, let's do this.
Speaker 1:And it was the past president and some other members who were like, no, we're not going to go forward with it. So, if you think about it, 22 women stood up and said, yeah, we agree, let's go forward with this. And so some other women who were already a part of the organization, including the past Alpha Kappa, alpha president, was like nope, we're not going to do it. You got and they demanded that they stop. And the women said, no, we're going to do this.
Speaker 1:And January 13th 1913, they decided to form Delta Sigma Theta, sorority and um, and then they became incorporated and I think it was um I feel like my my months might be a be a little off, but I believe it was like February of 1913 and so, um, the groups became arch enemies in a sense, because at one time, the, when the founders of Delta Sigma Theta were a part of the Alpha Kappa Alpha organization but they felt like this is going to be a real organization, we're going to be a real sorority, we're going to be a real sisterhood, we're not going to be a social organization that's just running the streets, we're going to really do something and stand for something. So I believe in 1913, I believe it was March of 1913, they participated in a woman's suffrage march in Washington DC. So that was their first initiative of like we're going to be about something as women. So that was attractive to me as well, that, although I feel like my mannerisms, the way I carry myself, how I feel about myself, the way I conduct myself, is probably similar to the ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha, however, delta Sigma Theta really standing on, like you know, principles like success, achievement, community service, intelligence, uh degrees and being educated, that to me, was very, very, very attractive and so I definitely wanted to move forward with that.
Speaker 1:You know, um, however, they, I didn't. I didn't feel like I really fit in with deltas. I didn't feel like I really had the mannerisms uh, of, of, of deltas, uh, aside from those principles, I didn't feel like I really had the mannerisms of deltas. Aside from those principles, I didn't feel like I fit in with those women and so, like I said, the beauty, the success, the power. My favorite color was red. It was in sync with me and I always remember how the Bible talks about how Satan can mask himself as an angel of light, and so I always think about how they came across as these powerful, successful people.
Speaker 1:But once I joined the organization, I was like, oh my God, these women are so. They were so aggressive, they were so intimidating, they were so androgynous. It was like, oh my God, like I don't like this. Why do I have to be masculine in order to be ambitious or assertive or to get my point across? Why do I have to be a mean girl? That's not who I am. So it was just to me. It wasn't what I thought it was.
Speaker 1:Once I got in, I know I'm all over the place, but just vibe with me, okay, because it's a lot to say. I might even have to do a part two, but I'm trying to get it all out in part one because I don't want to focus too much on this anymore. But I do want to say that I feel like the devil was holding me back from producing this denouncing video for years, and especially because I have more of an audience now than I had years ago. I have more of a following now. A lot of people are listening to my podcast. If I post anything on TikTok, it blows up, I mean you know. So I think that it's more of a threat now, but I have literally saw in the spiritual realm like something holding me back, like, and so I've had to pray about it and and I guess today was the day and also my friend sending me that message, um, some denouncing a text message. It was like, oh, god was confirmation. So, um, I just want to say wow today. I guess today is the day. I just want to say wow today. I guess today is a day.
Speaker 1:So, with these Greek organizations, they do worship a Greek God. Now, they can say they don't, but they do. Every organization has a Greek God, whereas Delta Sigma Theta is Minerva and it's the goddess of wisdom, and all the organizations have paraphernalia, so they all wear certain colors. So AKA is pink and green, delta Sigma Theta is crimson and cream. Omega, psi Phi is gold and purple. Let's see, let's see. Let's see the Noops Kappa, alpha, psi, is also crimson and cream. And Zeta, phi Beta, is royal blue and white. And Phi Beta, sigma, is also royal blue and white. Then we have the SG Rose, who are, I believe, they're gold and royal blue blue. And then we have the Alpha, phi Alphas, who are black and gold. The brothers are black and gold. And then we have Iotas, and they are brown and gold. So their colors are brown and gold.
Speaker 1:And I believe I didn't miss anybody, did I? Nope, I didn't miss anyone. I went in order. Yep, got everyone. So, yeah, so every Greek organization has their paraphernalia that they wear with their Greek letters, and paraphernalia can be t-shirts, pants, jeans, shoes, bracelets, hats, necklaces, jackets, dresses. I mean, they have, I think, earrings. They have everything that you can think of now with the symbols on them.
Speaker 1:And for me, I wasn't really into wearing paraphernalia. I thought that I was going to be the outest, because that's one of the words that we use between the Q-Sci-Fi and the Delta, sigma, theta, z that's a term we use. But I thought I was going to be the outest, delta. I thought I was going to be like crimson cream, crimson cream. But I wasn't. I really wasn't, and I think one of the things I disliked was all the attention that I received. I did not like the attention I received because I thought it was phony, like wait a minute, because I have these organizational letters on. So I mean, I personally wasn't really attracted to all the paraphernalia stuff, I mean, and I also felt like it wasn't authentic to who I was.
Speaker 1:Like for me it was like, okay, I'm wearing this organization's letters and I don't really see myself in this. You know, like it's like wearing someone's name. My dad always made fun of us for wearing name brands. Like he would say, okay, if you're going to wear name brands, why not wear it on the tag, you know, or where people don't see it? But like, why would you wear someone else's name on your, on your chest? It's like like that's crazy. And like, when I think about it, like if you were a stylist or like, let's just say, for a project, you design shirts with your name on it and people were walking around with your name on their shirt. Like that's kind of funny, right, and so that's how it felt being a part of the organization.
Speaker 1:Like I always felt like I was wearing someone else's name on my shirt and on my jacket, and also I felt like people. I got a lot of attention and also, being a part of these organizations comes with a ton of stereotypes, by the way, but for me I was just low key. I don't really like to announce myself, I don't really like people knowing certain things about me unless I tell them. So, wearing the jackets and the shirts, it's like you get stopped everywhere. People assume things.
Speaker 1:For example, I was at a gym one day and I had, like you know, greek, greek, delta, sigma, theta shirt on and um, this was years ago, by the way and um, this guy like came up to me. He was like hey, hi, I see you at the gym all the time. And he was like I noticed your, your, your t-shirt and I was like what, what t-shirtappa? And I was like, oh okay, and like I didn't even know I had that shirt on, like I just did, I just needed to wash clothes. And um, I saw I was wearing it, but I didn't know that I was wearing, I didn't even notice. But he was just like, oh yeah, you know, he just started talking to me and I just kind of wasn't interested in having a conversation. I was more so interested in working out, like I don't need to be stopped while I'm working out so you can be like, hey, you're a part, is this, you know?
Speaker 1:I just didn't like that. I didn't. I didn't feel like like I was being acknowledged for who I was. It was like when you're wearing those shirts, those teeth, those jackets, though you are representing them, you're not representing yourself. People don't see you as a person anymore. They don't see the person behind the shirt, behind the paraphernalia. They just see that, those letters and those colors and they don't, they don't see you. I didn't like the look in people's eyes when they would talk to me while wearing paraphernalia. It was as if I was an object or toy or a robot and it was like, you know, I became invisible and I didn't like that feeling and I was like what is this? You know? So, um, um, yeah, just was, it wasn't me, it wasn't for me.
Speaker 1:And, to be honest, they kind of flood you with that stuff because, um, when you cross, you get a lot of gifts from people. I mean you get gifts from everywhere, from every. Which a way, which a way that you can think of? I mean I even got like a Tiffany ring when I crossed, I mean, and it had the letters of the organization and I was told to put it on your ring finger until you get married or whatever. Which is so demonic but nonetheless. Which is so demonic but nonetheless, when you cross or when you become a part of these organizations, you are exposed to paper with the organization's name on it pens, pencils, sharpeners, mug, coffee mugs, water jugs they literally have learned how to make every single thing you can think of with the Greek letters on it. So it can flood the hell out of you.
Speaker 1:And you got to think if you don't have any identity and if you don't know who you are, you don't know who you are in Christ, and if you don't have a brand, then you don't mind. And that's probably why most of the membership comes from the undergrads, because the undergrads are usually between the ages of 18 and 23 and your brain is still developing by that age. So identity needing and belonging is more prevalent, because you really are trying to find yourself. So being a part of a group is safe, you know. So they don't mind. Of course they don't care to have everything that they own with the organization's name on, but if you join at the grad chapter letter level, or when you become an adult after well, you're already an adult in undergrad, but when you become a more older adult, your brain is now fully developed.
Speaker 1:It can be like flooding in a sense If you, if you have identity in Christ and if you know who you are. But if you don't know who you are and your identity becomes the organization, then you never feel flooded by it. Because I know people in their thirties and forties and you're still walking around with you, know Kappa Alpha, psi hats on and you know T-shirts with you know they're still wearing paraphernalia like they're an undergrad and it's because, like, they don't have any identity outside of it. And so, um, another thing too I noticed about being a part of the organization was, like this color possession, um, or or even even mannerisms and characteristics are become possessions Like. So, once you become, if you you're, if you become a delta sigma theta, right, we don't say delta, sigma theta, by the way, well, well, did I just say we? Let me correct myself. They do not say delta, sigma theta, um, the correct what they say is dst, delta, um. They use all kinds of terms, devastating, diva, you know.
Speaker 1:So when you become a part of the organization, right, let's you. You just can no longer wear pink anymore. It's like, oh, that's aka. Pink is aka you can't wear green. Green is aka you can't wear royal blue. That's zeta phi, beta or sigma gamma, rola. You know, if you're a guy, you don't, you better not. You know, if you're a guy, you don't, you better not be caught wearing purple. If you're a part of another organization, it's like you better not be wearing red. If you're a Q, you better not be wearing gold or whatever. If you're an alpha, I mean if you're a um, a new, but you better not be wearing. It's just, it just becomes like this possession of colors and also characteristics. So if a Q dog you know, which is Omega sci-fi if they come across more preppy, then it's sort of like oh, he acts more like a nuke than a Q.
Speaker 1:If a person is a Delta and they come across more prissy or ladylike, oh, it's like, oh, you're acting like AKA. It's like it's so overwhelming. You know, especially if you're a free spirit like me and you just want to be yourself, it can be overwhelming. And the reason why they take you through a pledge process in the first place is. So you disconnect from who you are and become what the organization is. So the whole goal is to break you down and then you become the identity of the organization. So for a person who's allows that breakdown, then it's not a big deal for them to um, become the identity of the organization. Um, so yeah, they're.
Speaker 1:They criticize every single thing. Like you can no longer like pink, you can no longer like green. Like you can no longer like pink, you can no longer like green, you can no longer like royal blue. So it's like I found a. I found it to be kind of sad that, like here, I am a lady, you know, and I cannot. I can't wear pink. Like what? Like I can't wear green, I can't wear a royal blue. Now, that's crazy and it's literally that superficial. That is that superficial that you could be mistaken for another organization if you wear those colors. So it's like this haunting thing. They're very territorial. The spirit is a spirit of territorial. Like you, you belong to us, you are our possession. It's very territorial.
Speaker 1:I found the Greek organizations to feel much like a slave condition. It was like being on a plantation. It's like, okay, this person is from that plantation, this person's from that plantation. It was very slave like. I mean, people get brands and people also.
Speaker 1:When you pledge you, you get a number. So you're number 22 or number 30, this and that my number was 36. And so you get a pledge name. You know. So your pledge name could be little sassy, I mean, it could be whatever they give you. And so when you greet people upon crossing, you know when you it doesn't even matter if they're from a different organization. You say the chapter that you come from, you say the year that you cross, you say your pledge name and your number.
Speaker 1:That is some slave mentality stuff. That's how it was back in the day when slaves were running errands for their masters or when they were freed, they had to say they were from this plantation, they had to say that they were the property of slave master, blah, blah, blah. They had to give what their number was, because they knew slaves by numbers and not by names. And they have to show. They have to show their freedom papers if they were free. And also they took on the last name of the slave master. That's the why you'll see a lot of african americans with, uh, caucasian last names, because they took on the the name of the slave master. They should have created their own, but they took on the name of the slave master. So, off the record, if you ever want to do some research on you, know your last name, um, to find your roots, you should, because it's not your original last name as an African.
Speaker 1:But anyway, back to the point. Um, when it comes to these organizations, it's almost like they want to become your God. So the organization is a spirit, the founders, the Greek God that you serve. It is a spirit. So the fact that they say that they're Christian-based organizations is a complete lie. It is a fallacy, because it is not real. It's not real. There is nothing Christian, christian based about the organization. For one, if you even bring up God I'm talking about Yahweh, I'm talking about Elohim, I'm talking about the alpha and the omega, I am talking about Yeshua Bring it up if you want to while you're a part of the organization, they will dismiss you quick, they will go silent, the whole room will go silent. It is like you better not talk about God in these organizations, you better not bring up church, you better not bring up Christianity or anything, and nobody talks about it.
Speaker 1:So I'm trying to figure out. How is it a Christian-based organization? And I'm not learning about God, I'm not serving God in this organization, we're not talking about scripture, we're not doing anything that's scripture based. And then, as a matter of fact, they every organization has a bracelet that says what would the founders do, and it's whatever the color of the organization is. So, if it is, delta is going to be crimson and cream bracelet and it literally has the initials WTFD. What would or did I do that right? What would WW, the T, f, d, d. Yeah, what would the founders do? Is that not imitating the saying? What would Jesus do? What would Yeshua do? Yes, it is. Why would I care to just like that other person did, like they were humans? Why are we asking what the founders would do when they weren't even dealing with the same silly mentality that greek organizations stand on now? They didn't even deal with the same things.
Speaker 1:Back in the day, greek organizations were more of a social political group um, at least Delta, sigma, theta was, until, I mean, when they decided to leave Alpha Kappa, alpha AKA. All of the organizations became political, even Alpha Kappa, alpha AKA. They became even more of a organization and more of a sorority and more of a political organization upon the new organization of Delta Sigma Theta being formed. All of the fraternities and sororities they were all political back in the day, so people were joining for deeper causes, like Shirley Chisholm I don't know if you have seen the movie called Shirley that is on Netflix now. She was the first African-American congresswoman and she also was the first woman to run for president of the United States and she opened the doors for many other congresswomen, senates and even Hillary Clinton, who was the first woman to run for president, and people like Kamala, who is a Kamala, I believe that's how you pronounce it. She's our first woman vice president of the United States. She opened doors for people like that. She pledged Delta Sigma Theta when she was an undergrad, but back in her day it was political.
Speaker 1:They weren't strolling and they weren't just focusing on wearing paraphernalia and looking cute and hanging out with boys and banging on people and being territorial. I'm not trying to say that it was better to have done it then. It's just that it stood for more than what it stands for today. It's more of a social organization today. I don't care what any of them say, it is a social organization. All of the Divine Nine Greek organizations are social and, if you think about it, the reason why Divine Nine Black Greek organizations were formed is because white Greek organizations would not allow them to join, and so, instead of black people just saying, okay, well, forget it, we don't want to be a part of it, they decided they were going to do the black version of it and so they formed Black Greek Divine Eye Organizations and even I mean, if you really look at the history of it, it all comes from masonry.
Speaker 1:White Greek organizations. It's just about pledging an undergrad and being social and having fun. They don't have grad chapters and things like that. They don't take it as a lifetime membership or a lifetime organization. They consider it to be null and void once they graduate from college. So the fact that the Black Greek organizations were sort of imitating or imitating but also forming their own creation of it, and then they call it a lifetime membership and they form graduate chapters and then also, upon death, you know they, they uh, induct you into the Omega, omega chapter.
Speaker 1:I mean it's, it's ridiculous, it's ownership, it's demonic and um, that's one of the reasons why I feel like Satan really pursues black people and it's because he, he knows that they're going to bring it on home, that they're going to put some stank on it, okay, and they're powerful and they're the leaders and influencers of the world, and so he pursues those, uh, just as well as with white people. So, anyhow, um, there is a scripture in the bible, matthew 16, and it says whosoever will save his life shall lose it, and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. So if I'm going to lose myself, lose my identity, it's because I'm gaining God. I'm losing my life, I'm gaining God, right? Um? So so if I'm saving my life, then I'm, um, I'm, I'm. If, if I lose my life, I'm gaining God, if I save my life, I'm losing God, right?
Speaker 1:So I feel like, with the organizations, it's all about saving your life, it's all about you, you, you, you, you being a part of this organization, the identity of the organization, and that's kind of like gaining the world but losing your soul. And so that is when it became spiritual for me, and leaving was not just about the bullying I received, the disrespect I received, the, the lack of authenticity that I encountered, the intimidation. It was like it became more spiritual for me once I started realizing that these organizations are idols. They are idol organization. The Bible says let your yes be your yes and your no be your no, right? So anything other than that is of the evil one. So you only have to really say yes once and you only have to say no once. You don't have to say it twice, you don't have to say it three times. But yet when you're pledging, when you go to your rush and you sign up to be a part of the organization and they decide okay, based on, like, what we've researched about you, you seem like a good candidate, and then they invite you in for membership.
Speaker 1:Why is that not enough? Because, when you think about it, like, I'm a part of professional organizations. I'm a part of the Black Girls Social Group, I'm a part of American Psychological Association or the Psychoanalytic Association, I'm a part of Los Angeles, so I'm a part of a lot of professional organizations. I used to be a part of the American Red Cross, you know, transpersonal Psychological Association, and I didn't have to pledge. I didn't have to pledge and guess what?
Speaker 1:When I wanted to leave, all I had to do was send an email and be like, yeah, I want to cancel my membership, but yet with these organizations you have to pledge, and pledging can consist of being tormented, intimidated, verbally abused, physically abused, psychologically abused, spiritually abused, molested. It can involve all kinds of gruesome things. I mean, I didn't have to go through those things because I just had too much self-esteem and I had too much identity that I would question everything. I got on their last nerves. I'm surprised that I was able to cross. I mean, because I was like, if they dropped me and I'm getting my money back, I was. I was really challenging them, like why, why do I have to do that? Tell me the reason why. So they, um, I challenged them so I didn't have to do a lot of things that sacrificed, um, my dignity. But I still did get disrespected and that's a part of the pledge process.
Speaker 1:There is no positive pledge process. Your pledge process is going to be disrespectful. You're going to be humiliated. They're going to make fun of you. They're going to try to break you down, because they're trying to break down your personality traits so that you can become the identity of the organization, because, all of a sudden, everything you do is about the organization. As soon as you cross, you're no longer you anymore. Your birth certificate is null and void. Here's your new birth certificate with your name on it. You were officially rebirthed and you were rebirthed on the day that you cross, and this is your new identity. So when you go out into the public, you're representing us. No, it's just a organization.
Speaker 1:Why the hell does a sisterhood or a brotherhood have to be so impactful? Like? Is your real brother and sister this impactful to you? I mean, I have a sister, I have a sister. There are many people that have brothers and sisters. There's no problem, there's no issue. So why, all of a sudden, is it an issue with, with the organizations of that? Because you're a part of a sisterhood or a brotherhood, you have to um, you have to um, lay your life on the line and it has to like, completely like, overwhelm you and take over your entire being.
Speaker 1:Like, when I think about that, it's like that. Who should get that much of your attention? Is God, not some organization, just because you're a part of a sisterhood or a brotherhood? These people love the sisterhood and brotherhood that they pledge more than their own damn sisters and brothers, but yet they will act as if, like, this is the end, all and be all. But it's like last time I checked the alpha and the omega is the end all be all, not these Greek organizations. I'm just thinking back because and that's probably another reason why I've been so delayed with doing this denouncing video because you have to kind of relive the experience. So I'm sort of watching my heart rate on my Apple Watch as I talk about this because I want to make sure that I don't get too escalated, because it's almost like reliving a trauma.
Speaker 1:Talk about that, um, in the, in the dean and the denounced world of, like the trauma that you experience um being a part of these organizations. I don't understand how, if you were beaten, verbally abused, physically abused, dismissed, um, shunned, disregarded, how that's a trauma any other way, any other place, but it's like somehow, somewhere. It's not a trauma with, uh, the black divine nine, it's. It's called pledging, it's called how about post traumatic pledge disorder? How about that? That's what it's called. It is a, it's a trauma. It took me years to heal I'm talking about years and I mean there was a Kappa that contacted me and was like talking about how he was planning on leaving or denouncing, and he was like very traumatized and he was just like. He almost seemed as if he was having a site like a nervous breakdown and he was. He was completely. He was not in his right mind. I'm just going to say that, like these pledge experiences are traumatizing.
Speaker 1:I remember after when I pledged, like I said, I did grad chapter but most of us were in our 20s. I think the youngest one on my line was 22. She was an undergrad, she was a senior. So what they did was they targeted a lot of pretty light-sks. That was their thing, you know. Um, and so majority of our of our line, we were all in our 20s. It was only a few people that were like in their 30s. There was like a couple people in their 40s and it was like maybe one or two people in there, maybe one person or maybe maybe one or two people were 50, but for the most part everybody was 20 something and, um, it was, it was I don't know, it was just, it was just a lot like. When I think about it, I'm like gosh, what a horrible experience.
Speaker 1:I remember, after I finished the process, every time my phone rung and my heart would drop because I thought it was them. You know the big sisters calling because they like, they like, literally call you at five in the morning, six in the morning, they'll have you do things, they'll tell you to go places and so it's like, or you'll be getting messages from people and you know you'll see, from your pledge sisters like um telling you that we got to do this, we got to do. It's a very anxiety provoking experience. And then, after you cross your big sister, people still haze you a little bit. They call it hazing. That's what pledging really is. But people still sort of haze you a bit, like because now you're considered a Neo and so everybody wants added with the Neo, everybody wants to challenge the Neo and yeah, yeah, people will still challenge you and mess with you.
Speaker 1:I mean, people get your information. I remember getting emails from people I'd never met before. I remember like my number being given to people I had not given my number to. I remember like guys you know being like oh, who is that? And then you know my information being shared with them. Like it is not. I don't feel like it's safe to be a part of these organizations. To be honest with you, um, I'm gonna be honest with you.
Speaker 1:I I was there when, when um Angela Bassett was inducted, when she was inducted as a honorary member. I was there. She walked past me, me, I was at her ceremony, if you will, and yeah, she crossed in 2013. I was at her ceremony and, uh, she had experienced the loss of a parent and her information was emailed to us, like her telephone number, her address, everything like oh, here's, this is where you can send Sarah Angela. You know Bassett, you know condolences and flowers and that and I hate to bring her up in her situation to make my point but the point that I'm trying to make is that, like they sent a celebrity actress, her information to all of what over 300,000 women her information to all of what over 300,000 women because we're talking about in 2013, that it was over 300,000 women in the organization. Then that was 11 years ago, right, so if it was 300,000 or more women back then, I mean you guys sent her information, her personal cell, her address, you know, and also to her address. Let me not say too much, but let's just say I wasn't far from where she lived.
Speaker 1:Like you, just because you're a part of a sisterhood or a sorority does not mean everybody is safe Now I'm safe, I'm good. I protected the information not mean everybody is safe now I'm safe, I'm good. I protected the information. However, everybody's not safe. You don't know what people, what mental? Some people have mental disabilities. It does not matter if they're in Greek organizations.
Speaker 1:Now I took the information and I felt like I wanted to protect it. But they sent it to us. It wasn't even encrypted, like it wasn't even like in a in a protected file with a code. I was like anybody could like pull up this email, like any. Some people don't close their emails out after they use it. Some people pull their emails up at work. Some people pull their email. Some people have a shared computer in their household and everybody uses the same computer and they don't fully log out like anybody could have gotten her information. Her information could have been shared online.
Speaker 1:You know, some people might be envious because she's a celebrity. Some people might wish they were her. Some people might be jealous, like it's just, it's not a safe organization. I remember this there was a guy who was at an event and he was a Q and he wanted to, you know, hit on me and somehow, some way, he ended up getting my information and it was like I hate that. I hated that people could find out who I was where I lived, my telephone number. I don't like that.
Speaker 1:It's like these people in these Greek organizations are like investigators. They can find out anything about you. Let me tell you how, how good of the investigations are Like when I was, when I was um going through the prop, when I had been selected to be a DST and um I was getting my paperwork and everything together. The person who wrote my letter to to basically recommend me cause you cannot get into the organization unless you have that endorsement. But the person who endorsed me was like my old prince unless you have that endorsement. But the person who endorsed me was like my old prince, vice principal from high school, and she happened to be bad to the bone, happened to be probably the only black vice principal at an all at a white school. I went to Palisades Charter High School and bad to the bone, but she endorsed me. Right, but this she pulled my high school records. I'm like what? I'm like I have a bachelor's. I'm like I have a master's. I'm like why are you pulling my high school records? She's like I wanted to know what kind of high school student you were. That's why there's a delta everywhere you can think of If you're not going to be a part of that, if let's just say you are interested in being a part of the Greek organization. The divine nine is what I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1:There is a person from that sorority or fraternity that has someone everywhere. They have every. There is a lawyer, there's a judge, there's a teacher, there's a somebody that works for the IRS. There's somebody that works for the FBI. There's a cop. There is a judge, there's a teacher. There's somebody who works for the IRS. There's somebody who works for the FBI. There's a cop. There's a psychologist, there is a therapist.
Speaker 1:Every field that you can possibly think of, every kind of person that you can possibly think of, is in these organizations, from sociopaths to narcissists to bipolar borderlines. Good people, happy people, sad people, aggressive people, scary people, intimidating people. Every personality trait, in every field, industry that you can possibly think of, is a person in those organizations. If they want to find you, if they want to find out something about you, if they want to pull up records that are hidden about you it can be divorce records. I'm not talking about something crazy, because they normally don't select people who have any kind of legal issues. Most people who are part of these organizations don't have any, because they all went to college and they're all, like you know, degreed, collegiate, um, um, undergraduate people, or or they already have graduated from undergrad. So that is one positive thing I could say. The organization usually selects people who have been in college. They're in college, they have degrees, they. They're not felons or anything like that.
Speaker 1:But what the point I'm trying to make is that they can find out anything about you. I mean, and it's like I don't have anything to hide, like that but it's still intrusive and disgusting, because you know psychologists and lawyers we're kind of the ones that are used to like investigating and finding out things. So imagine when it's done to you, right, so these people can find out anything about you. Like I remember they found out, like my family members were accused they found out. How the hell did they find that out? I mean, like no one, I never said anything about it. My family members live 3000 miles away. I was like, how did they find it out? They can find out anything and it's not safe. So anyhow, gosh, it's so much.
Speaker 1:But basically, when you're part of these organizations, you are worshiping a Greek God, and if you do not worship that Greek God, that spirit, that idol, attacks you. Now people might say it's not an idol. Yes, it is, because the Bible says you cannot serve two masters. You will either hate one or love the other. That is how it is in the organization. People are either of God all the way through and then they're kind of disconnected from the organization, or they are not really of God or not really serving strong, or their walk is kind of you know off at that time, and then you're truly serving the organization but you don't really see both happening, because it's impossible to serve two masters. And I noticed that with me when I was really really in my walk, when I was really really strong in the church, I wasn't around them. And then when I fell off, I was really really in my walk, when I was really really strong in the church, I wasn't around them. And then when I fell off, I was around them and it's like I'm like huh, I noticed that it's a battle.
Speaker 1:Why can't I? If they say you can be Greek and you can be of God, um, no, you can't. Let me tell you. I thought when, when someone told me a pastor who would denounce who, who he had denounced alpha, phi alpha. He told, told me you cannot be Greek and be of God. I said oh, yes, I can. He said listen. He said we all say it. He said I thought I could be too. He was like I'm here to tell you. He was like you can't. I argued him until the sun came up. He said you're not ready yet. He said I did the same exact thing you did. I argued until the sun came up. He was like you can't. And later, years later, here I am saying the same thing you cannot be Greek in God, trust me. I go to Revelation Church with Prophet Lovi.
Speaker 1:There are some people in the ministry that are a part of the Divine Eye organization and they have agreed that you are serving two masters organization and they have agreed that you are serving two masters. They do not bring up the the the divine eye organizations, they do not wear paraphernalia and they are fully in the ministry, fully of the church. They're fully in God. So that right there should tell you something, because it's it's sort of impossible. It's it is impossible because those Greek gods hate Yahweh, they do not honor Yahweh, because, think about it right, satan's job or not job. But his desire was to rise above the clouds and to make himself like God. Greek gods are imitating the power of God. They want to be like God. So, for them, they're always in competition.
Speaker 1:So, and also, if you think about it, right, the first organization of the Divine Nine was Alpha Phi, alpha. They were founded in 1906. Right. And then Omega Psi Phi was founded in 1911. Right, dig this. When you are a Q Psi Phi, when you are a Q dog, you're an Omega man. That's what they call you. When you're a part of Alpha Phi Phi, when you are a Q-Dog, you're an Omega man. That's what they call you. When you're a part of Alpha Phi Alpha, they call you an Alpha. Is that not Alpha and Omega? Last time I checked, the real Messiah, the Alpha and the Omega, is Yahweh and Yeshua. That is the Alpha and the Omega. God and Jesus Christ. Those are the only Alphas and Omegas. There is no other alpha and omega. But yet there's an organization called Alpha Phi, alpha and Omega Psi Phi, and they call themselves Alpha and Omegas. So that, right there, lets you know that they're serving two masters, that the whole goal is to try to compete with the creator of the universe, and, and and and.
Speaker 1:Hey, I am a psychologist. I can tell, test something, retest it, look for the validity, the relay, reliability. I, I'm an experiment, I am like a experimental psychologist. I'm a research psychologist, like I, research. That's what I do. Um, I'm, I'm, I'm very social psychological. I mean, I do a lot of social studies and I have tested this theory and there, when I was in the organization, I remember that no one talked about God and when God came up it was like the room got silent.
Speaker 1:And then they do these little like um, omegas go to church, or deltas go to church, or alphas go to church. They do like church days. And then they, they instruct everyone to show up wearing the, the greek colors and wearing a paraphernalia, and then they're going to go for the church sermon. It's like, why would you go to church wearing greek letters? Why are we instructed to wear greek letters? It's almost like saying well, we know you exist, but we don't worship you. It's the same way. The devil believes in god. So remember, the devil knows that there is a god, but the devil doesn't worship god. That's the difference. So it's almost like we're going to show up and do our little church day so that we can give the appearance that we're christian based. But we're going to show up, we're in our colors, our paraphernalia, and then we're going to um, we're going to show up wearing our colors, our paraphernalia, and then we're going to look like a system when we're here, like you don't ever see anybody praise dancing, you don't ever see anyone falling out, you don't ever see anyone donating fun I mean tidying is what I'm trying to say you don't ever see anything that looks golly. It's just like 20,000 people that show up wearing the same color.
Speaker 1:I remember when we did the church day at City of Refuge with Bishop Noel Jones, who is the grandfather of my spiritual papa. So, anyhow, I remember when we were instructed to wear crimson and cream and we were all going to show up at church, and so basically it was like to wear crimson and cream and we were all going to show up at church, and so basically it was like what? A hundred of us? And you know, we had our own section, and I remember Bishop Noel Jones saying who are those ladies in the sea of red? And they were like oh, that's the Delta Sigma Theta. And he was like Delta, sigma Theta. And then he, like greeted.
Speaker 1:I was like this is so like, narcissistic, like why do we have to show up and wear a color that represents the organization? Why can't we show up in our regular clothes and look like everybody else? That, right, there is proof that you can't serve two masters. And, like I said, there is no talk about spirituality, there's no talk about the word of God, there's no biblical scriptures or anything. And also, too, word of God. There's no biblical scriptures or anything.
Speaker 1:And also, too, back in the day, a lot of the chants were very gospel sounding Like. There was this chant oh heavenly father, poor old me not. So that's very gospel, christian sounding right. But that still does not make a Christian base. It just means that the founders were Christian, and that's how it was back in the day. It was very religious. That's how Black people got through their misery, and so everything was sounding like gospel music back in the day. Everything, even those plantation songs, were very gospel-like, were very gospel like go down, moses, right into Egypt land, tell all pharaohs to let my people go. Everything was gospel sounding back in those horrible days. And so, um, I can see through that too. Um, like I said, you have to worship these Greek gods.
Speaker 1:Also, when you get married, there's a chant, that that you are instructed to do, and the the. The chant is um, I'm gonna, I'm gonna do the chant, okay, um, but I'm gonna, I'm going to, you know, repent, reke. I do not receive this as my own chant, but this is the chant when people get married at their wedding, if they are a Delta, and the chant is she may be an omega sweetheart or the dream girl of a fire, she may wear the cap or diamond, but her first love. And then they say the organization's name. So basically, even at the wedding, they're going to follow you to your wedding. This spirit, this idol, follows you to your wedding. This spirit, this idol, follows you to your wedding and basically says that we don't care if you marry an Omega, psi Phi, an Alpha, a Kappa, we don't care if it's a regular dude on the street. Your first love is this organization. Do you hear that your first love is DST? No, my first love is God, yahweh period.
Speaker 1:So when you pass away, they induct you into the Omega, omega service. And that is basically saying, basically, when you pledge these organizations, they say it's a lifetime commitment. Nothing is a lifetime commitment. God says that you can repent. A lifetime commitment. God says that you can repent, you can be forgiven for your sins and you will be set free. And those who are set free are truly free. Indeed, there's no such thing as like a lifetime commitment. Even if a person was doing witchcraft or they were sacrificing bodies and drinking blood, they can still repent and give their life over to Christ. There is no sin that is bigger than the forgiveness of God.
Speaker 1:So the fact that these organizations teach you that it's a lifetime commitment is demonic. And so when you die, your spirit returns back to God, and we all know that Satan is in a fight to get your soul upon death right, because when you go into the afterlife, you're either going to go to the heavenly realm or you're going to go to the hell realm. So the fact that they follow you to your funeral and induct you into the Omega Omega service upon death, lets me know right there. That is demonic, because why do I need to be inducted into anything in the afterlife if my spirit returns to God? Do you mean to tell me that you think people are walking around in heaven with Delta, sigma, theta, paraphernalia on? Are you serious? Do you think that when you meet your maker, that you're going to see your grandmother in the heavenly realm strolling, that you're going to see your auntie with a Greek jacket on. You're not. That is separation, that is division, and the heavenly realm is all about unison. We are family, we are the bloodline of Abraham. We are not divisive.
Speaker 1:When you enter into the heavenly realm, you are not known by your last name. You are not the Jacksons, the Johnsons. You are not a psychologist. You're not a doctor. You are not a lawyer. You are not the rich guy, the billionaire. You're none of those. You cannot take your material possessions with you. These are earthly titles. There's no such thing as a psychologist in the heavenly realm. There's no therapist in the heavenly realm. There's no medical doctor in the heavenly realm. There's no dentist, no chiropractor. There's no medical doctor in the heavenly realm. There's no dentist, no chiropractor. There's no division in the heavenly realm. Everything is perfect. There's no need for a doctor because everything is perfect. You don't need anything to be fixed because everything is perfect. It's harmonious.
Speaker 1:And so the fact that, upon death, they induct you into the Omega Omega service is demonic. Why can't you just pray that the person returned, their spirit returned to God, and that they enter into the heavenly realm and that when God answers the door, he will say well done, good and faithful servant, and allow them to enter. Why are you not praying for that? Allow them to enter? Why are you not praying for that? Why are you concerned about someone being inducted into a false fantasy? Omega, omega service, like? Do you really believe that there's an omega, omega service in the afterlife? If you don't knock it off, the only omega, omega service in the afterlife is in the hell realm, h-e-l-l.
Speaker 1:That is the demonic realm, because everybody who pledges those organizations and sacrifice their soul, and they give their soul over to those Greek idols. There's a special place for them right in hell. And let me tell you, there are people who do that. There are people who literally give their, they trade their soul to those Greek idols. They say things, they teach us chants, they teach us to say things that I never said, because I was terrified.
Speaker 1:I was like, if I say this, it is almost like I am, I'm giving my soul to Satan. I wouldn't even say it. I would be like da, da, da, da, da, like there's this evictus point that everyone does in the Divine Nine, and so, basically, I think it's like I am the captain Wait, I'm sorry, I am the. What is it? Gosh, I am the something of my destiny, and then leader of my destiny, or something like that. And then it says then you have to say the organization is the captain of your soul. And I would always be like God is the captain of my soul. I never said it. I never said the organization was like.
Speaker 1:I always say God is the captain of my soul because they make you rehearse it over and over and over again, every day that you're, that you're going to the sets they make you rehearse every single day evictus, and you have to say that the organization is captain of your soul. I never did. I always said God is the captain of my soul and no one ever challenged me. So that, right there, lets you know that it's demonic. No one said anything, and not only that, but there was a reason why I didn't say it.
Speaker 1:So when people say that, they're literally like it's, like it's witchcraft, it's like signing yourself over to a witch, to a warlock, to an altar, because that altar becomes your symbol, that symbol follows you, that, that, that Greek God, becomes your covenant. No, I'm under the covenant of covenant of Yahweh. Here he is. I don't need nothing else covering me but God and everything that comes through God. So there's another chance that they have, and usually you'll see these chants at probates All of my love, my peace and happiness. Love, my peace and happiness, I'm going to give it to blah, blah, blah, blah. All of my love, my peace and happiness, I'm going to give it to you know.
Speaker 1:So when you're, when you hear those chants, they sound cool and you, it's just the song right, but it's just like rapping a rap song Affirmations. You're saying affirmations. Life and death is in the power of the tongue, as a man thinketh. So is he? One thing about Satan is Satan doesn't care if you're playing. Satan doesn't care if it's a joke, satan doesn't care if you're singing a song, if you're rehearsing a chant, satan doesn't even care if you don't really believe it. What Satan cares is that you said it and that creates a legal right. So when you're doing all those chants evictus, the wedding chant, the all of my love chants you are literally, you are like signing your life over to those demons. You're signing your life over to those Greek gods, to those altars and to those masters. So they say you know you're signing yourself over to that stuff. So I never set those chance.
Speaker 1:I was like I'm not about to say all of my love, my peace and happiness is to some sorority. Why? Why is all of my love, my peace and my happiness? Why am I giving it to an organization that I didn't pledge until the early 2000s? I was born in the 80s. Why am I going to give all of my love and peace and happiness to an organization that I didn't pledge until I was in my 20s? So where was all of my love, peace and happiness going before then? So let me get this straight. God created me. I was made in love. I was fearfully and wonderfully created, but all of my love, peace and happiness goes to some other place. No, my love, all of it, my peace, all of it, my happiness, all of it is returned back to God. I give it all to God. I give the glory to God.
Speaker 1:So the fact that you say these chants because they're so cute this is why I'm so happy I didn't pledge an undergrad, because I don't think. I think I probably would have said it, just because you know my brain was still developing and I didn't. I wouldn't have known any better. But hey, I pledged in grad chapter and I was in my 20s and there was people in there in their 20s, 30s and they still said it. So I don't want to be black and white with it, but I personally am glad that I didn't do it when I was younger and I actually had to repent for doing it in the first place, because if I could do it all over again, I would never, ever in my entire life, pledge anything. If I could erase it from my experience, I would Let me tell you something Pledging a Greek organization, a Divine Nine organization, delta Sigma Theta.
Speaker 1:I'm going to tell you right now it was the organization Delta Sigma Theta. I'm gonna tell you right now it was the worst, one of the worst decisions I have ever made in my life, one of the worst decisions I've ever made in my life, and I have not made many bad decisions, but that was one of the worst. And it would, and I would say the same thing if it was Alpha, kappa, alpha, uh, if it was Phi Beta I mean, I'm sorry, zeta, phi Beta if it was Sigma Gamma Rho, I would say the same thing, because it is not just a sisterhood, it's a cult. It is not just a brotherhood, it is a cult. It is not just an organization of focusing on community service and Christian faith. No, it is a secret society and it's also an idol organization. So I had to repent for my sins. I had to repent for everything. I did, everything I participated in, for having a certificate with my name when I had to burn that. I had to repent for every participation that I gave to this. I had to repent and I had to ask for forgiveness. And so I'm going to be honest with you.
Speaker 1:When I was in undergrad, I took a logics class and it was a very hard class. A lot of people didn't do well in the class, but I did extraordinarily well in the class because I'm very logical and so I remember it was a class of like 50 people and I was always like the top 10, who always had the best papers, the best. I always did well on all the tests. I was always in a top 10. And let me tell you, one of the things I learned from the logics class is that you always have to be able to argue the for and the against. That's how lawyers are taught to. That's how. That's what they're taught in argumentation is that you have to be able to argue the for and the against. So I led my life in that way that if I can argue the for and the against and I could still make a decision, then that means it's the right decision. So, wanting to be a part of a Greek organization Delta Sigma Theta I was able to argue the for, but I did not have the against, and so I was ultimately making a decision without the against.
Speaker 1:So what I did was I went online. I looked for people who were denouncing Delta Sigma Theta. I found nothing. The only people I found who were denouncing Delta Sigma Theta, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. The only people I found who were denouncing organizations, greek organizations, was AKA, zeta, phi, beta, sigma, gamma, rho, iota, and I was like, well, of course they're going to denounce. You know what I mean? Come on, aka. No, come on, it's pretty bubblegum. You know that's how I was thinking. Then I'm like I mean come on, they're not even a top organizations like that. You know, um, of course they're going to denounce, right? Um, I could not find one Q, I could not find one alpha, I couldn't find one Delta, I couldn't find one Kappa, and those were the top organizations, like AKA is one of the top organizations as well, but they're all. They also have a reputation for being paper, for being weak, for being like bubble gum, and so you know, of course you know people make fun of their entire initiation process, which is the pledge process. So it may sense to me that they were at that time, it may sense to me At that time, it made sense to me. But had I found one video of someone denouncing Delta Sigma Theta, I'm going to tell you right now I would not be a Delta or I wouldn't have ever pledged it. I wouldn't have never pledged Delta. I'm not a Delta Sigma Theta, but I wouldn't have never pledged Delta Sigma Theta in the first place Never if I could have just found one video.
Speaker 1:And so when I speak to people who are interested in being a part of the organizations, I know that I'm projecting my experience, but I'm just trying to give them that against piece, because you can always argue, you can always stand in the for, but if you can't stand in the against, then ultimately you're making a decision without fully being educated. And so I always give them as much knowledge as I have. I can speak on the good. I can see why somebody would want to be a part of a Greek organization. I can see why somebody would want to be, you know, connected with these intelligent black leaders and, you know, educated people. I can see why somebody would want to be connected with them. It's like over a million people, you know. If you do the math, it's over like a million people. I mean, yeah, I can see how somebody could want to be a part of that.
Speaker 1:However, the fact that you have to trade your identity, your soul, you have to give up God. You have to give up God first and foremost, then your identity second, and then you know what you stand for and what you stand on, it's like the cost is too high. Anytime I have to character, assassinate myself or I have to erase myself or I have to become invisible, the cost is too high. So all I'm saying is I'm here to put this video out so that you can have all the information. Ok, I'm going to say some positive things, and most of what I'm going to say is going to be warnings, red flags, alerts. Listen to the sirens. So, yeah, that's what it is. Evictus is master of your fate. And then you say the organization is captain of your soul, the devil is a lie. I wish I would. First of all, god is in charge of my fate as well. Like, oh my God, demonic.
Speaker 1:A lot of people who are part of these Greek organizations. They do not care about the fact that this is ungodly, this is the idol. They don't care because they're not fully in, in, in, in living in a lifestyle period. A lot of people just say, hey, it was raised Christian and raised Catholic. They think that that's enough. Just believing in God is enough. They don't live by the lifestyle, so they don't care about being a part of an organization like this, because they're like, well, you know, they're not really serving God anyway, they're not a disciple anyway, they're not living in their purpose anyway. And then also they're disassociated. They're disassociated.
Speaker 1:A lot of people are embarrassed of their, of what they did through in their pledge process that they just kind of like stand on on business, like, no, no, it's great, it's wonderful, I loved it, and it's like, no, you don't. You just are embarrassed. You know you're embarrassed, you don't love it, you're embarrassed and um, and that's what it is. But um, in addition to to being, to feeling embarrassed, um, they make you go through a pledge process, no matter how long it is, because they want you to have a commitment to it, a loyalty to it, because what you work hard for you tend to value more so than whatever was given to you free and easily. So that's the whole psychology behind pledging and hazing. Um, but good night, good night to all of that. I don't feel like I need to suffer to gain anything positive.
Speaker 1:So, um, I'm saying all that to say that many greeks are separated from god in the first place, so they don't care to leave the organization because it's not founded on the principles of Yahweh, it's not of God, it's not Christian organization. So they don't care anyway. And let me tell you, let me, let me let you know how, how Christian based is not. Do you know that there are people who are in the Nation of Islam that are part of like Greek organizations? They're like Muslims. There are Muslims that are in the nation of Islam that are part of like Greek organizations. They're like Muslims. There are Muslims that are in the Greek organizations. Buddhists, atheists, agnostic, witches, warlocks, they're all in the Greek organizations, but yet it's Christian based. Really, okay, because no one asked me my religion or spiritual faith or habits or anything in order to get into the organization. So, like I say, you don't know who's on your line. You could be on the line with witches, warlocks, catholics, satanists um mace, masons free, uh, eastern stars, um, who do? Who do people um new agers. It could be all kinds of people. You just don't know.
Speaker 1:So one of the things, too, I experienced being a part of a greek organization was that it was like a lot of like regression and arrested development, like um, a lot of the people who are in the grad chapters. It's like they're arrested in their development, like they're just kind of like trying to relive the past, like I'm. I'm a very emotionally mature person, so for me I'm just I pick up on that kind of stuff really fast, because some of the arguments that people had, some of the complaints that people had, I'm like this complaints that people had, I'm like this is like something a 15-year-old would like be, you know, bent out of shape about this is so stupid. Like it was like catty. It was like Mean Girl, like the movie Mean Girls. It was really that kind of experience Like when I see the movie Mean Girls I always think of like the sorority because that's what it felt like.
Speaker 1:It felt like I was at the cool table but like they were, we were like throwing um pencils and pens and like spit balls at like all of the other people. Because you know, ds, you know deltas are all about being cool. They're the cool kids you know, or may you know being cool. They're the cool kids. You know. Q-dogs, they're the cool kids. Kappas, they're the cool kids, the noobs. So those are the three cool organizations. It's so corny, you know. So they're all about being cool. So that's.
Speaker 1:It was just very regressive and arrested and I found this to be quite immature. I found the arguments, the complaints, the tantrums that people were having. I was like are you seriously 40 having a tantrum like that? I was like this is, are you kidding me? You know, I was just like this is ridiculous and I think it's because, like I said, people don't grow up and there are people who cross in graduate chapters and they they go on to be a part I'm sorry undergraduate chapters and collegiate chapters and then they go on to be a part of the graduate chapters and they still act like children, because it's almost like being 21 forever. It's like being 21, forever.
Speaker 1:Um, also, there's a saying in the greek world um, if a person is not of a in a greek organization, they call them gdis, and I hate so that's what it means. And um, basically, they make fun of people who are not in greek organizations. They call them gdis. They're like, yeah, you know, like if you're talking about someone, or if you're giving a story about something that happened at work, or if you're just talking about just a random experience you have, they're like is that person a GDI? Is that person you know? So, basically, there's this thing of like oh, gdis behave a particular way because they're not a part of something. They're like orphans of the world, you know, and they're like, and they kind of make fun of them, and I'm like. What that sounds like to me is that you're making fun of people who have individuality and people who are able to think for themselves and people who have identity, and I was one of those people.
Speaker 1:So I always felt like a GDI who was within a sorority and it didn't fit. I was not a fit, I stuck out like a sore thumb. But they had they also had an opportunity they could have. They could have dropped me from line, from the line. They could have dropped me from the line. They could have dropped me. I could have got my money back, we could have went on with our lives. No, they wanted me. Okay, because they know what quality is. They wanted me.
Speaker 1:But I was a GDI and I always said that in me. I think our first day, our first pledge day, or whatever they were saying what is a sorority to you? What does that mean to you? And they had every last one of us stand up and kind of give our opinion about it and I was like to me, I feel like it's synergy, it's like individuals coming together as one. And everybody shot me down. They were like, oh, boo, and I'm like what? And I didn't understand why everyone disagreed with me. But now that I think back, I'm like, oh, it's because I sounded too GDI.
Speaker 1:You know, like what do you mean? Individuals coming together as one. There's no such thing as individuals. So they teach you basically that you're one, that there is no individuality. You're one, you're one brain, you're one mind, you're one thought and that's it. You are as strong as your weakest link. And it's like I didn't agree with that. I believed that I had a right to be an individual and come together with others and create a harmony, and that's the God in me, because that's how it is in the spiritual realm. Everyone has their unique fingerprint, but everyone is in sync and working together in harmony.
Speaker 1:And so in the Greek organizations, no, they want to kill off your individual thought, your individuality, and they want you to become one of them. This is the reason why I think that if you are trying to be a part of a Greek organization, after a certain age, you need to rethink that decision, because when I pledged, I was in my 20s and I felt like I was too mature. I was like this is so immature. I felt like so above it. I was like this is so high school, this is so high school. You're calling me, you're waking me up, you're telling me I got to go get this and I got to go get that. I have to show up here, I have to show up there, and then we had to give them gifts.
Speaker 1:It was so stupid Like I'm going to be honest. It was so stupid. It's like you have to lower your intelligence, dim yourself down in order to even get through it. You have to be completely disassociated. There's no way you can be in your right mind and do that stuff.
Speaker 1:Like I mean there are people who have way worse stories than mine. Like there are people I know somebody who was on the aka line and I think in a year 2000, no 2002 I believe and one of the girls they they had their girls go to the beach and they were like making that. They told them like they needed to swim or do something. And one of the girls, they had their girls go to the beach and they were like making that. They told them like they needed to swim or do something. And one of the girls was like I can't swim and they were like you better get in that water. I mean, this is not funny because the girl ended up dying and they dropped the line. And I know someone who was on that line and I'm thinking to myself. There are people who have died. There are people who have been badly injured. There are people who have been taught you know, sexually assaulted. There are people who have um had to put their significant other up for grabs in order to be a part of the organization.
Speaker 1:Like they literally tell you like to like, give your life over, like anything we want be willing to give it to us. They'll sometimes tell you you can't talk to your family, um, that you can't talk to your family, that you can't talk to your husband, you can't be a mother during that time. It's ridiculous. How is this not acting like an idol? There was a girl I pledged with who was a medical doctor and she couldn't work during the process. How can you tell an ER medical doctor that they cannot work? You can't save lives. You can't help people. You can't help people live. This is your life. Are you kidding me? It's like it's complete, complete, satanic, completely.
Speaker 1:They make fun of GDIs. Like, for some reason, they're trying to use the badge of honor, like, oh yeah, I was beat, and they brag about like how badly they were beaten, how hard they pledged, all the things that they had to go through. It becomes like this badge of honor and then people say, well, how long did you pledge? Oh, I pledged this long. What'd you go through? I went through this, that and they like brag about it and that's supposed to indicate that like, oh, the harder you pledge, the more you were hazed, the more of the organization you are. So the more Delta you are, the more AKA you are, which AKA's have a reputation for not pledging, so they're not like respected in terms of like pledging in the divine nine realm, but nonetheless, the more, the harder you pledge, the more alpha you are, the more sigma you are, the more kappa you are, whatever, the more nupe you are. So that's a thing in the divine nine that like, the harder that you're hazed like, the more you are you know of the organization, the more rep, the more of a representative you are of the organization.
Speaker 1:Like I remember and people lie too, cause I remember I was at like a like a HBCU event and one of the girls I was friends with. We happened to be a hater on the low, but, um, she was talking about how her big sister beat, the beat the mess out of her, and she was like, oh my god, she beat me so bad. And I'm thinking to myself like you're a girl and you're over here bragging about how you got beaten. And then it's like clearly she's lying and it's like clearly some badge of honor. And it's like I'm sorry, but no one put their hands on me. They knew better. I going to tell you right now, I don't care how big, bad, intimidating deltas are. They knew not to put their hands on me. They even stated that they felt like it would be all bad for them if they tried. They just could feel it. They could feel it on my spirit. I'm telling you the Lord's angels protecting me because I was like I promise, if somebody puts their hands on me it's going to be our IP, like a homicide. But luckily nobody did. They wanted to, nobody did.
Speaker 1:But people where there's this bragging about being from the hood or being in a violent, abusive situation or overcoming it and acting as if you earn some sort of stripes, that's a demonic spirit as well, and I had to realize that that is the reason why those generational curses, aka intergenerational curses, continue, because people brag about being abused Like you can't, you can't even be around people of color and be like, yeah, man, I went through this and that they're like well, that's nothing, I got robbed at gunpoint. It's like no, that's not anything to brag about, that's trauma. Okay, so let's heal from our trauma and not create it as a badge of honor. It's nothing to be proud of. Anybody that abuses me created a wound and that was a wound I had to heal from and I'm not proud of that. Okay, no, greater is he that's in me than he that's in the world. God has never beaten me, hazed me or hurt me. That is all demonic. That is Satan. And Satan does the pledge me, work hard for me, dangles the carrot, pretends like it's something behind the red cut curtain. You know that's a Satan thing. The Bible says that your yes be your yes and your no be your no. That means you do not have to suffer to gain, although through suffering you do gain in many instances, because the devil is sandpaper.
Speaker 1:But we're talking about Greek organizations. What are you gaining? For me personally, I didn't feel like I gained anything from it. I realized I didn't need them. These organizations are advertised as community-based organizations and they're not community-based. The programs that they come up with are like so minuscule, it's like no one knows about it. It's not highly advertised on social media. I've never met anyone in my entire life that's like, yeah, my daughter's a part of the Delta Sigma, theta, or my son's a part of the Omega Psi Phi. I've never heard anyone say that in my entire life, unless they were a part of the Greek organizations. I've never heard any outsiders say that. So it's like it's it's not really community based. Let's let's call a spade a spade.
Speaker 1:It was community based back in the early 1900s. But since then, I would say moving on on until like maybe the 80s, I think that it's been pretty social, because the seventies, you remember, was like the, the black Panther. Um, there's a lot of civil rights stuff happening. The sixties was definitely civil rights. The fifties was like Jim Crow, segregation, you know. So, like, like I said, it was community based in the 1900s but, um, since about the eighties, it's been pretty social. My uncle crossed in the eights and he was like, yeah, the same stuff they argue about, fight about and claim to stand on is the same stuff we were saying in the 80s and it's been pretty social since then.
Speaker 1:So these are social organizations at this point, because, if you think about it, if it's Christian based and it's community based, as they proclaim, then what does strolling, stepping, wearing paraphernalia, hazing and pledging, what does any of that have to do with being a community based organization? How is that community based? And not only that, but, like, back in the days they weren't doing all that pledging and hazing stuff. It wasn't about that at all. It was about political, a political stance. You know, back in the day it was very safe to be a part of some sort of group, be it Civil Rights, black Panther, be it the Harriet Tubman group, be it the Black Caucus, jack and Jill, whatever. It was very safe. So if it was a sorority or fraternity, then that was the group.
Speaker 1:But at this point today, in today's world, there is no need to be a part of these organizations for the reasons that they claim that they stand on. I mean community, community based. I can do that on my own. I can join the American Red Cross, I can join volunteersorg. I can call any nonprofit in the world and say, hey, do you need me? Volunteers, I can. I can clean up a fee the homeless. There's a woman that started a nonprofit where she feeds the homeless people in downtown Los Angeles. She gets, she goes out, she feeds them. That's community-based um.
Speaker 1:I'm a psychologist and that is a community-based field. Social workers are community-based um. Workers, um. Sociologists are community-based or workers. So are teachers, um. Any kind of pro bono work that I do. Even this podcast is community based. What else can I say? The articles that I published, the blog I have that's community based. I'm trying to think. Helping a neighbor is community based work. Anything can be classified as community work.
Speaker 1:So when these organizations say we're community-based, it's like, okay, I could see if I was joining the organization and I was contributing my ideas and they were listening and they were saying, yeah, let's do that. No, they literally have their own headquarters and they they have um members, committee members, board, they call them board members. Whatever they sit they, or they call them um regional members. They sit in these boardrooms and they make decisions for the organization. They don't get, they don't care who's in the organization. They don't care to address the 500,000 or 600,000 women that are in the organization or 300,000 or 200,000 men that are in the fraternities they don't care to address. They come up with the programs on their own and then they say this is what we're doing as an organization, this is the program we're initiating as an organization, and or chapters decide we're going to be doing this Like um.
Speaker 1:I remember the Q dogs at Norfolk state, which is where I graduated from. They all decided to donate, I think $100 each, was it $100? Or I think it was $1,000. I can't remember, but they all had put like $100,000 together and they donated it to the school, which is very nice, but that's community-based. So chapters can decide to do their own community-based work.
Speaker 1:But my point that I'm trying to make is that you don't need to be a part of an authority or a fraternity in order to do community-based work. Like, having a TikTok can be community-based if you're helping people. Having a YouTube channel can be community-based If you're helping people. Having an Instagram where you're posting like educational videos, can be a community based. Writing a book can be community based. It's all about how you, how you look at it.
Speaker 1:Serving in your church is community based work. Their advertisement we're community-based organizations. No, it's a sorority, and that's what it is. It's a fraternity and that's what it is. It's a social group and that's it. Because, if you think about it, back in the day, they weren't strolling and doing all that stepping right. They weren't wearing bracelets. That says what would the founders do? They weren't doing all of that. It wasn't a gang like it is now. So that, right there, lets me know that it's not community-based at all. It's not Christian-based.
Speaker 1:I've stated that earlier on in the video that these are not Christian-based organizations, right? So, as I said before, they're not community-based organizations at all. I mean, I'm sorry. They do do community-based work, but it's not enough for you to say, oh, I'm joining it because I want to be a part of do community-based work. Deltas allow volunteers. You can volunteer with every last one of these organizations. So that's not the reason why people pledge. That's just a cap. That is just an excuse people come up with so that they can act as if they're joining the organization. That's beyond social reasons and you're not.
Speaker 1:I know every, every jingle that you can come up with because I they teach us to say it. They say it, I said it. I know every jingle that you can come up with because they teach us to say it. They say it, I said it. I know every jingle. It's not community-based. That's just what we tell everyone else. It's not Christian-based. There's nothing godly about it. There's nothing Christian-based about it. There is nothing that will push you closer to God about it. Nothing. It's nothing like that. God about it. Nothing. It's nothing like that. Because I have met friends at church, right, and our relationship is spiritual. Our friendship is spiritual, right, we talk about God. That's a Christian-based friendship. We're in alignment. That's Christian-ian based. How can't something be christian based and the and christianity never comes up and and talking about god, that never comes up either.
Speaker 1:Um, and also, too, another thing about these organizations is that they, um, no matter what your brother or sister does to you, they will like, just be, just be like oh well, you can forgive it. Oh, you're brothers and sisters, you can forgive it. Uh, who cares? I mean I, you, you can't choose your own sisters and brothers, and it's like oh yeah, you can, because you kind of paid a fee to join the organization, so you kind of chose them. But, um, like I said, I think Cain and Abel had sibling rivalry. Um, so why would you treat an outsider like better than you would treat your own sibling Like? If I wouldn't tolerate disrespect from my own sibling, why would I tolerate it from someone just because we joined the same sorority? That doesn't make sense.
Speaker 1:I always say if you come from any kind of brokenness in your family system, if there was any loss or deaths or anything, if you're an orphan, if you're adopted, if you come from any lack of authenticity in your family system, if you're struggling with your individuality or your identity or you have no family at all, you are a perfect candidate. And I'm not saying go out and do it. If that's your problem, because you always find you will only be fulfilled with Yahweh, yahweh will be the only one to fulfill you. Yahweh will be the only one that's going to make your life and your dreams come true. So I'm never going to say go out into the world and fulfill your destiny Never. Destinies come from God. So what I am saying is that you're probably going to get along better in those systems. If you're like this unattractive girl, this unattractive guy, this reject, or this person who was ostracized by society, and you join these organizations, yeah, you'll probably feel more at home because, for the first time in your life, you're being acknowledged by the people who look like the people who broke you, or you're being acknowledged by the people who look like the people who rejected you 're being. There are some people that have serious colorism issues and, like they, they feel like, oh, people who are light skin are this way and that way, and then they get into these organizations and now the they're we call it whoever you pledges, that's behind you is your back and your, and whoever's in front of you is your front right. So now you're next to people who's your back or your front and people who are in the same divine nine or the organization as you and they look like the people who told you weren't good enough. Yeah, that is a big self-esteem booster. And some people, because they're unhealed, they play on that and they weaponize that and they sometimes even attack those people. So you have to be very careful. I personally always had individuality, as I said before. I always had identity. But because I had some brokenness in my family and because I had lost a sibling, I was attracted to the sisterhood, believing I was going to gain 300000 plus sisters. And I'm like, look, the cap is so real, because even the devil can mask himself as an angel of light. You are not going to have 300,000 plus 400,000, plus 500, 600,000 friends. You are not. You are not going to be like literally like wrecking your brain with how many people you should have in your wedding party. You're not. Everybody thinks they're going to change the game. Everybody thinks it's going to be different with them. These organizations have been around since 1906, 1908, 1911, 1913, 1914, and so forth. You're not going to change anything that hasn't been changed in over a century. You're not going to change anything that hasn't been changed in over a hundred years. Don't stop it. Like that's the whole crab in the barrel mentality. Every black person thinks that they're going to be like the Messiah and it's like no, you can't do anything unless you are called by God. Martin Luther King was powerful because he was a disciple. He was called by God. That man was a spirit. Malcolm X was a spirit. You understand what I'm saying. Like you, if you're just doing things out of your ego or out of your flesh, you are not called by God. You're not going to change the game, it's going to stay the same. Okay, um, if you stand on business, if you have any kind of individuality, if you have a mind of your own, you are going to be a threat and you are not going to fit in with these organizations, trust me. I thought that I could bring my individuality, my own mindset, my, um, you know my confidence. No, they hated it. Let me tell you, I was pledged the hardest. Uh, fake pledge, I'm going to just call it. I was. I w. I got it the hardest. Okay, and the reason I got it the hardest was because they said I had a confidence that no one else had. I had a confidence that they had never seen before. And what that confidence is is that I did not have the spirit of Delta, sigma, theta. I had the spirit of Yahweh. I don't have confidence, I have confidence. That's the difference. And I don't know where it comes from either. Sure, this doesn't come from my family system. It comes from above, and they couldn't understand it, because most of the people that pledge are insecure women, they're insecure, men, they're insecure, and so they're trying to find themselves and they're believing that they're going to have this backing, they're going to have this support. No, you are not. I can't stress that enough. You're going to have this support. No, you are not. I can't stress that enough, you're not. And so that is it. That's all I can say. Because I had confidence and because I had my own mindset and plus, think about it I had a master's in psychology at the time when I joined, so I was already psychologically minded. So I worked that whole process because I was like wait a minute, hold up. I studied the mind, I'm about to work this, and I worked it, honey. Okay, and let me tell you, they did not like that at all. They actually disliked every psych person, because there was three people on my line and one was graduating with her doctorate in psych. She was young too, she was like 26 or something, one of those people that graduated from undergrad early, but she was like really young and yeah, I think she was going to be graduating and head into her postdoc or something. And then there was another person that was a doctoral student, a psychology doctoral student, and then I had my master's and I was going to be heading into the doctoral level. As I made the connection Like huh, the three people that they can't stand the most are the psychologically minded people. You know so, like, if you're a psych person, they really ain't going to like you because they're going to be like oh hell, no, because you can think. You understand all the mind games we're playing Like. You're a thinker, you have depth to you. You're a thinker, you know how to think. You know how to think. You know how to dream a dream. You're a critical thinker, you love mental exercise. So they don't like people like that. They like people that are disassociated and kind of like not in their right mind. I promise when you're pledging you're not in your right mind. I promise you have to like sort of be disassociated to some extent. I remember like being so irritable during that time, like I was like when I think about it, I was not myself Like it's almost like a spirit comes over you. So now I'm really having a somatic reaction right now and I think that I'm like feeling something because, like, my heart rate has gone up very high. So I must be like really having a somatic reaction right now and I think that I'm like feeling something because, like, my heart rate has gone up very high. So I must be like really having an experience right now. All I can say is that if these organizations are so innocent and they're so positive, then why does my entire life have to revolve around it? Who cares? If you joined a Greek organization, why does it have to surround you like surround sound? Why does it have to bleed out? Like there are people who literally say I bleed blue and white, or I bleed red and white, or I bleed purple and gold. That or they'll say like and white, or I bleed purple and gold, or they'll say I remember when I was a part of the organization people would be like when did you cross? And I would literally tell them the year I was born and they thought it was the funniest thing. And when I thought about it, lord God, I repent for that. I can't believe I said that stuff, but it was cute and clever. Then it was a jingle and we love jingles, and so people say all kinds of things and it's like, if it's just the organization, why do you have to bleed it and notice that when you're a part of any other organization, you're a member of the Red Cross. When you're a member of the Psychological Association, when you're a member of the Homeless Coalition, when you're a member of anything else, you're just a member, right. But when you're a part of these organizations, you're just a member, right. But when you're a part of these organizations, you're not considered to be a member. You're considered to be the organization, so you're not a member of. You are the organization. Demonic, demonic and also too. People have so many ways of like, being divisive, because just because you join the organization does not mean that you're going to automatically be considered. You know this, this sister person, like, no, like, there's so many degrees to it, like, and degrees rather to it. Um, there's a such thing called deference, where somebody who came before you can talk to you like you're a pissant, because they came before you. So if a person crossed 10 years before you, even if they're younger than you, they can talk down to you. You're supposed to bow down and yield to these people that came before you. Even if they're being disrespectful, you can't stand up to them. Also, there's a such thing called Neo. So when you first cross, even though you're part of the organization, people still kind of haze you up and like kind of rough you up a little bit because you're considered the rookie. If you cross grad chapter versus undergrad, grad chapter is always considered paper Like, even if, like it's so bad that they're starting to even pledge grad chapters because people have disrespected them so badly and have considered them to not be a real member that now they're starting to even pledge in grad chapters. But basically grad chapters are considered to be paper and so every grad chapter is named after the city. And I remember the grad chapter that I had pledged in. It was called New Sigma and this was at one time. Grad chapters had Greek names, but then they changed it to the city. So, whatever city Brooklyn, your Brooklyn Alumni Association, or you're the Los Angeles Alumni Association, or you are the Texas Houston Alumni Association. So that's how it is Right. So, um, basically people know if you pledge an undergrad or graduate chapter just on the strength of that. So the chapter I pledged with with was, um, I think the one of the founders of Delta Sigma Theta her niece was one of the founding members of the chapter and so basically it was called New Sigma and they changed the name to match the city and I had said when I had first crossed, I was kind of saying New Sigma, you know. And then, and I got like hemmed up for that, like you would have thought I had stole money from someone, they were like I got hemmed up. I got so hemmed up and it was like, oh my God, I was just saying it in gist, I mean, it was just fun. We don't take Delta Sigma Theta in gist. We don't play with Delta Sigma Theta. I'm like calm down, this is not that deep, and that's the thing. You can't have that attitude. You can't have that attitude. If it's not that deep, you cannot have that attitude. They want you to feel like this is your life, like like whatever organization you're a part of, it is your life and that's that's. That is playing God and that is being an idol in my life and there are no idols before me. There are no other masters. You cannot serve two masters. You got to pick one. Either you, you're gonna be of god or you're gonna be of greek, and that's just it. It's greek, it's it's really like god versus greek. I hate to say that, but it really is it. You cannot do both. You can't. It's impossible. That's why when I saw like pastor jamal brian wearing his like greek letters at um on one of his sermons, I was like, yeah, that told me everything I needed to know. Like, no, you did not. No, you did not do that While preaching a sermon. No, you did not. You are not going to get that undeniable support that you think you are. For some, yes, some people really take on the identity of the organization and they have that, you know, that head Negro in charge attitude. I hate to say, but that's the attitude they have, so it really works for them. Some people really do marry people from the fraternities and from the sororities. There are people they call it like when Delta and the Q marry, they call it common love. When Alpha and the AKA marry, they call it first love, first family love, or whatever. And when a Zeta and Sigma marry. They call themselves the real first, you know, because they, the Zetas, were created by the Sigmas. They're the only official in their bylaws um, fraternity and sorority, sister and brother. Everyone else is just kind of like, they just kind of have a agreement, but it's not in the bylaws. So, you know, there are some people that actually have success in the organization. Um, it's just that they had to give their life over to satan in order to do it. They literally traded their soul for it. Um, because if you become the identity of something that god did not create you to be the identity of, then you've made a deal with satan. That's period. God didn't create you as a delta, a greek person, uh, this or that. I always say, hey, being a psychologist being, that's a part of me. That is not my full identity. My full identity is my spirit, and so my, my soul, my essence, right? So when somebody is claiming an essence that is not given to them by God, that is is Satan. It's almost like gaining the world to lose your soul, and so, um, I found a lot of the women in DST to be like very HBIC. It was like um head, you know. You know that term head being charged. Um, I wasn't used to that. I wasn't used to feeling like somebody's going to run my shoes over and I've been running my own shoes overs. You know, at the time, like I said, I was in my 20s and it's like I crossed in 2011. And so, to me, it was like very weird for me to be, like answering to a woman and I literally ran my own shoes over my whole life. I was just like this is weird, doesn't make sense. I didn't agree with it at all. I did not agree with it at all, so I decided to do away with it. You know, I was like this is not it. Nobody is running my shoes over and nobody the head of me. I don't follow no woman. I don't follow no man. I am my own, you know man and you know, and that's it. I don't ask the head of me. I don't follow no woman. I don't follow no man. I am my own, you know man and you know, and that's it. I don't ask people to follow me either. It's. It's about being in sync and being in harmony and complimenting one another. It's not about me being in charge of you or you being in charge of me. So I mean, you know for to me to be a part of this organization. All of a sudden, and people boss, trying to boss me around telling me how I need to do things, how I need to act. I'm like what and that's another thing too is they make you feel like poop. They make you feel like poop. They literally make you feel like you didn't have anything going for yourself until you became part of the organization. They make you feel like you do not matter. They make you feel like you didn't know how to wash your own butt and feed yourself until you became part of the organization. It's so arrogant, so narcissistic. And they also like talk to you like you're nothing. Because you got to understand you're surrounded. You're going to be in the. If you are to be a part of these organizations, you will be surrounded by doctors, these organizations. You will be surrounded by doctors, lawyers, engineers, scientists. There's no one sticks out, no one stands out because of their success. So like no one cares about your new book that came out and this blew me no one cares about your new book that came out. No one cares about the program you started. No one cares about your organization. No one cares about your degrees. It's like, unless you're like a celebrity, no one cares. You know, no one cares. And so, like, they do that on purpose. So like, if you think that, oh, you're going to be joining these organizations and all of a sudden you're going to have these books, these people showing up to all your book signings, oh, you're going to have all these clients coming through because they're going to be referring you, oh, this is going to happen, that is going to happen. Oh, you fooling yourself because that is not going to happen, Like it is not, like you will literally be searching through your phone you need help with something, if you need help with money, if you need help with moving, if you need help with a foreclosure, if you need support if you're going through something, if you're, you know, grieving, if you know if you're needing a new job, you literally be scrolling through. Now, some, now some people do get a lot of connections that are part of the organization. A lot of people. They've gotten jobs, they've gotten all kinds of things. Don't get me wrong. You know, but do you really? Because I know somebody who told me he would never leave Omega Psi Phi because he got his. He couldn't get a job after college and it was the Omegas that helped him get a job. So he would never leave Q Psi Phi. And I was thinking to myself so are you telling me? I'm like do you believe in God? He said yeah, I said so you're telling me, if the Q PciFi hadn't have been a resource for you to get a job, you wouldn't have a job. But you believe in God? Is that what you're telling me? You're telling me that if it had not been for them, you wouldn't have never had a job. But yeah, we don't give that kind of homage to the organizations that we work for. We don't say wow, if it wasn't for Indeedcom, if it wasn't for Monstercom, if it wasn't for LinkedIn, I wouldn't have never gotten this job. It's like, but yet you get a connection through an organization and then the whole world just oh my God, everything revolves around that organization. It's like some people have gotten married and they found partners, and it's like so are you telling me that you wouldn't have never gotten married or found a partner if it wasn't for the organization? That's the problem I have with the organizations. It's not divine intervention, it's literally like you are create, making a earthly decision to connect in the flesh with other people who are also in their flesh. It is not divine intervention at all. So that means that if you're not a part of those organizations, you will not meet those people in those organizations. It's like they don't even exist. I'm going to tell you right now when I was a part of the organization, there was events that I was invited to. There were parties I was invited to, there were places I went and I did not even know that it was like Greek, like I remember I was talking to like some random person and I was like telling them about this day party that they used to have on Sundays in LA and they were like what are you talking about? I was like you never heard of this. They were like no, and I was thinking to myself, oh my God, everybody there was Greek. So it's like it's like being a part of a cult, like everything you do is like nothing but Greeks involved. And I remember when I finally left the organization right, this was before anybody knew. This was when me, this was just between God and I. This was a spiritual thing. I promise you. It was a spirit that left me because I had missed out on so many opportunities being a part of this organization. I was delayed in my doctoral program. I was delayed in everything in my life because of this organization, and that's what caused a lot of anger in my life, which I had to like, really, really forgive. And right now my heart rate is up again. So I think I'm reliving that experience. I remember when a spirit lifted from me and when I tell you that everything moving forward after I made that decision to leave changed. It was like I never got invited to anything that was Greek oriented anymore. No one knew where I was, no one knew, no one could find me. I couldn't find anyone, not that I was looking. It's literally a realm, it's a spiritual realm. Like they exist in their own bubble. Like they exist in their own bubble. No, and you know, another thing that I found to be funny is that they make it seem like these organizations are so omnipresent. Isn't God omnipresent? But yet the organization tries to be omnipresent in your life. That's why the Bible says you can't serve two masters. You cannot tell me. This stuff is not spiritual. How is this omnipresent? How is this thing flooded my entire life? But God is the omnipresent. How is this? This thing flooded my entire life. But God is the omnipresent Right. Let me tell you how spiritual this is Like. It's like it was almost like everything just just clicked and connected when I finally left. Just clicked and connected when I finally left and that's another thing too is the people that disrespect you, or the people that disrespected you when you were trying to get connected to the organization, when you were going through your pledge process. They will see you again and let me tell you, these spirits haunt you. You will be pulling up in a grocery store parking lot and they'll be pulling up right at the same time. It'll just all be coincidental, but I remember when I was going through my denouncing phase, I was warned that this stuff would happen, that you will have dreams that they'll suddenly show up at places they weren't supposed to be at. You'll get emails. Show up at places they weren't supposed to be at. You'll get emails. All of a sudden they'll become all these loving, nice people that were never nice and loving to you. And let me tell you why is it that now that I'm not a part of the organization, I get the utmost respect, but when I was in the organization, I was being bullied, I was being intimidated. Well, I don't really scare easily, but they were trying to provoke intimidation. You know, I was getting disrespected, I was getting shunned, I was, I was being treated like, like I'm, like what I am, that girl, what I didn't. I felt I feel more respect and dignity in my life after leaving the organization than when I was in the organization. And not only that, but one thing is that no one ever believed I was a DST. No one ever believed it, like people would like always try to guess what I, what organization I was a part of, and people always said AK and I would be like what. I found it to be offensive, you know, because everybody is so gun-holed about their organization. But I thought it was an insult until I started asking people and they were like oh yeah, it's the way you carry yourself, oh, you're light-skinned, oh you're pretty, oh, um, you know you're sophisticated, you're classy, you're non-threatening. And I was like what? And I'm like, so then, what do they see Deltas as? And I think it's just like those are like considered to be like androgynous women, like aggressive tomboys, like you know, like, oh, they're like tomboys, they can change a tire and then they can turn around and put on some red heels and some red lipstick. They're like pit bulls with lipstick and that just didn't resonate with me. I didn't. I just I was much more feminine than that and I have much more of a delicacy about me and it didn't fit. And so no one ever thought I was a part of the organization. I mean, I remember there was a Greek event, hbcu Greek event that we had years ago and I attended and I had on my HBCU colors, which was hunter, grain and gold. And this AKA comes up to me hey, sarah, and like, gives me a kiss on the cheek and I'm like, and then she, and then, and then we were like looking at her and like we see her with AKs. And I was like you know, I'm not a K, right, she goes. Oh, oh, my God, I thought you were one of us and I was like but I have a hundred green. And she was like well, girl, you know, you look like us, you know kind of thing. And I was like, and she just was smiling at me the whole, the whole event. She was just like. It was like she wanted to be my friend or something and I was just like that is so funny, and then I actually got along better with them. So I particularly had a problem with the division. I had a problem with the oh, we don't get along with this group, we don't get along with that group. We don't sit with those girls. We don't sit with them like, oh, we don't marry Q's, we only marry alphas. We don't talk to the AK's like that. They're not us. You know, we're every woman. We're like powerful women, we're movers and shakers and devastating divas. They're like little prissy, weak. You know, women that you can run over Like it was, just like stupid. I didn't mean, oh, my god, don't talk to Zetas. Oh, don't sit with the Sigmas, are you, are, they're gross, don't even look in the direction of Iota. I didn't like that. I like I get along with everyone. So I I'm like a good spirit is a good spirit, I don't care what it is. I got along very well with the noobs, because noobs ran the the yard. Well, I don't want to say ran the yard, but they were really big at Norfolk State. So were were the Qs, so were the alphas. But the noobs loved me. They loved me. They thought that I was like a girl version of them. That's what they would always say. The AKs were mostly psychology majors at Norfolk State, so a lot of my classmates were a part of the organization. So they took a liking to me and they would be like you know, why don't you come? You know, with us, why don't you pledge us? You know, why don't you come to one of our events? We want to. You know, they would always. They were always trying to invite me places and kind of trying to initiate me, but I was just like, nah, I'm not interested, but, um, I, just I. I didn't think I was that kind of girl. I didn't think that what they stood for at the time or whatever their stereotypes were resonated with me. Um, as I got older, I realized that although, um, I am educated and I am, I do have some strength, um, I do have a lot of class and femininity and sophistication as well, but, um, there are traits that were, uh, that deltas have, that I also connect with as well. I just think that I can be a lady and stand for something. I don't have to act like a man or a boy, a girl version of the Q side, the Q, the Q, q dog in order to, to make a stance, and so I found it to be like extraordinarily like divisive. Like, oh, you know, why are you so cool with the noobs? We don't talk to them. They're, they're not. They're not our type, you know. And it's just like, excuse me, am I grown? And yeah, it was just. It was just way too much, too many rules, way too many rules. There are a lot of people in these Greek organizations that sleep with one another's man and one another's women. I remember one of the girls that I pledged with, two of the girls right. As a matter of fact, one of the girls I pledged with was married and her husband slept with our line sister, slept with her, which means that that girl knew her line sister. The one that I pledged with she pledged with knew that that was her husband. She knew, and he knew too. And I'm like, well, and some people may say, well, that doesn't have anything to do with the organization. That's the people. You're right. But it's like keeping your enemies closer. That's the point. It's like you, literally, are giving the key to Satan. Like Satan, come on in and eat. You know, mi casa es su casa, make yourself at home. No, it's like keeping your enemies closer. It's like, yeah, maybe her, hey, her husband was scandalous, and so was the girl who cheated with her husband, the mistress. Yes, both scandalous, we can agree on that. However, it was almost like by her being a part of the organization. It was almost like making the, the, the, the, the. It was like almost making the platform comfortable. It's like you gave them a way in it's it. Instead of it being some person from off the street, it was her line sister, which is pretty hurtful, pretty hurtful sister, which is pretty hurtful, pretty hurtful. Um, I knew I used to go out with a guy who told me that he was dating a girl and, um, he invited her over and some of his frat brothers, and he went to the store to get some drinks and ice and he came back and they were running a train on her in the kitchen. First thing that came to my mind is was she sexually assaulted? Um, however, he refused to to even see that part of it. He was like nope, she's a hoe, you know so. But the point I'm trying to make is that people literally will steal your man, they will steal your girlfriend, they, they have cheated with people's husbands, stole. I mean, it's like really, really messy. It's extraordinarily messy. Also, too, I don't believe in fornication, so for me it was just like it was just a lot going on and I wasn't into that and I was like you know what? I'm a girl, I think I'm a. I'm a, I'm God's girl. I don't think this is the place. For me, it's literally like the Satan's cave. It's like reality TV. It is so much drama you would not believe it. It's like being in high school all over again. So much drama. There's a lot of stereotypes that's connected to the organizations, like, for example, a lot of people think that Greek organizations are like the girls going wild and they think that they're like white organizations and there is a difference between the black Greeks and the white Greeks. There is a difference, whereas for white Greeks it's more so about just partying and wilding out and having a Greek house and everything, and then they disconnect from it after undergrad, whereas with the black Greeks they also do the same thing, um, they have fun, they party and everything, but it's more. It's more uniform, um, it's more um controlled. There's like principles and that that they, that the organization, stand for, um, and then there's also like that graduate component, whereas you can carry on the work of the organization after the organization I'm sorry, after graduating from undergrad, and you know there is some community service component to it, whereas I don't really think too many white organizations do that. It's more so about fun and hanging out and wilding out. Um, so people yeah, people will assume certain things about you because you're a sorority girl, they'll assume that you're sleeping around or they'll assume you're a party girl or they'll assume all these things that did not resonate with me, because I'm none of those things. But that's what people assume about you that you partied, you drunk, you did drugs, you were like the girl's going wild, and it's like no, I wasn't. Any of those things. Never, have, never will be. I'm not the type of person that goes to Vegas and I become a different person. No, I'm the same person here right now that I am when I go to Vegas. I'm solid. I'm solid all the way through, and so also another thing about being a part of the organization is that, like I said prior, is that they treat you as if, like you, didn't have a sense of self before joining the organization. They literally will talk to you like you are, like nothing, like all of a sudden your hair is criticized, your lipstick, your makeup, the clothes that you wear. I remember this one of the girls that I pledged with. She had we went to an event and she had on some really short shirts and they like pulled her to the side like, uh-uh, delta, sigma, theta women don't wear those kind of shorts, we don't wear short shorts. And she it was just like a cute outfit and and that's not how she was carrying herself all the time it was just a really cute outfit. It wasn't something that she did on a regular, but even if she did, I mean she's been a 20 something at the time. Like I said, she was 20. It's like she'd been a 20 something her whole life and then, all of a sudden, now she needs like lessons on on dress code. I mean, um, there are women who have had their necklaces ripped off because they were they were, um, at a bar while wearing Greek uh, neck, greek letter neck necklaces or pearls or things like that. I've I've heard stories of people getting their necklaces ripped off, their watches ripped off, their purses snatched, just because the person didn't like the way they were behaving out in public. Oh, you're sitting at a bar, you're not supposed to be wearing Greek letters at a bar. You're not supposed to be wearing pearls while sitting at a bar. You're not supposed to be engaging in this kind of behavior while wearing Greek letters, like. I've heard all kinds of things which classifies as assault, and that's the thing. When you join these organizations, all of a sudden, rules, laws, boundaries, standards don't matter. It's like you're a part of the organization. None of that stuff matters. No, I'm sorry, boundaries and standards always matter. I even know of a Delta who has she's built like a brick house, small ways, big bottom, and I think she was always being criticized for how tight her clothes were. They had a problem with how tight fitting her clothes were and I'm like okay. And she pledged in, like her thirties or late thirties maybe. So I'm like, okay, she's been a 30 something her whole life and now all of a sudden, she needs to change how tight-fitting her clothes are. Um, I remember being at a chapter meeting one time and, um, one of the deltas coming up to me and saying like um, I say this with love, but the pants that you're wearing are not appropriate for a chapter meeting. This is a professional business attire meeting. And then I'm looking at her, like I will wear this to work, get out of my face, but like, that's how it is, like they're. People will use the organization to manipulate so many things. Because if somebody does not like you, if they don't like the way you look, if they think you're too pretty, too feminine, too light, too dark, too, your hair's too short, your hair is too long, you get all the guys, all the guys their boy, ex-boyfriend would pursue you or whatever the case is. You're smarter than them. You are the top of the class. Whatever their issue is, you're from a particular part of the world, they're not from you. Think you're better, you have confidence they don't have. They will use that organization to like, basically harass you. So they'll just be harsh with you. They'll start rumors about you. They may be be harsh with you. They'll start rumors about you. They may be very aggressive with you, and then they'll make it seem like oh, I'm doing this in the name of Delta or the name of AKA, or the name of Zeta Phi Beta, but it's really because they're hating, they're disliking you. Guys who have never, guys who have a type, be it, whatever that type is. If they have had troubles getting that type in the past. Now they're part of the sorority and the fraternity I mean, I'm sorry, they're part of the fraternity and so now they have access to those women they probably never had access to and they, they can be very, very entitled and very narcissistic and very pushy and push themselves on you because now they have, um, this source that's backing them up, like, yeah, you know, look at these letters, yeah, give me your number. Look at these letters, look at these, look at these brands. Yeah, give me, give me, um, some sex. It's like crazy how people think like I remember guys, um so-called frat brothers, um giving me hugs, and they were like hugging me for way too long. And I'm like, can you please stop? Like this is uncomfortable, or like giving me kisses on the cheek. I'm like, please don't do that like, and it's like, but we're we're, we're supposed to be brother and sister. And it's like, yeah, and even if you were my real brother and sister, I have a right to say please don't do that. And that's the thing about the organizations I did not like is that they act as if, like boundaries are not sisterly or brotherly. And I'm like, well, that's wrong to think that, because you're so-called family with someone, that you can't have standards and boundaries and that you're supposed to be an enmeshment. You know and that's funny how we learn about that in family systems. Enmeshment, confluence, having a low level of individuation that's what all of these organizations are about. It's about, first of all, making that Greek God, your God, being flooded and having this deity, this organization or whatever it stands for, be omnipresent in your life, when only God is omnipresent. Having this enmeshment with this organization and the principles that it stands for, and confluence in a low level of individuation If that's what you represent, then they're for you, but that's not what I represent. That's like giving my life over to a deity. So, um, when you cross the sands is what they call it All of a sudden, magically, everything you do represents the organization that's and I always wonder why do people like? I've seen, I have witnessed people in in the Olympics and as soon as they win the race they throw up the pyramid. I have, I have witnessed, I was at a concert and I was. It was boys to men performing and Wanya threw up the hooks. And I'm like is that Wanya? I know Wanya's 1980s group having. I know he is not throwing up some hooks. The hooks need to be throwing him up, not he throw up the hooks. And that's how I always felt the pyramid should have been throwing me up, not me throw up the pyramid. That's how I felt like I'm a vibe, you know. And so I was like wait a minute, is that why you ain't throwing up the hooks? I've seen Shaq throw up the hooks, steve Harvey, and I'm like why are these people throwing up the hooks? Even, um, kamala Harris, our first vice vice, first woman vice president of the United States, when she crawled, when she became the elected vice woman president, she was like throwing up her aka pinkies and I'm like why is she giving props to them? And that's what I realized is that these Greek gods, you have to pay homage to them. If you're a part of gods, you have to pay homage to them. If you're a part of these organizations, you have to pay homage to the Greek gods. So when you do something great in life, the Greek gods want you to pay homage to them. And I always had a problem with that. I want my paying homage to something that had nothing to do with who, the making of me, I paying homage to something that had nothing to do with who, the making of me, you know it's. It's crazy that you have to honor the Greek God or like or, or those. Those spirits will attack you and they'll attack you through people. All of a sudden, people will start, you know, being very intense and aggressive with you. For example, I remember um going to homecoming with one of the girls from my sorority the sorority I was a part of and one of the girls was asking why I wasn't wearing paraphernalia. And she really had a problem with the fact that I wasn't wearing paraphernalia. And I was like, well, because I'm a fashionista, I like to dress and wear my own stuff. And she was like, but why are you not wearing paraphernalia? How can people recognize you if you're not wearing paraphernalia? And so that, right, there is what I mean by that Greek God that represents those sororities and fraternities. That's a spirit, that's an altar, and when you don't honor that altar and when you're not worshiping that altar, that they, that the spirit, will come through others and it will attack you. So, like that girl, like, why are you even noticing if someone's wearing paraphernalia? Why do you even care? That is such a stupid thing to be acknowledging in someone. And then it's none of your business. But the reason why she did that was because she, um, she, the spirit, the spirit, that altar, that greek god, pretty much came over her and she felt like she needed to say something. And she felt like she needed to say something Because I guess me being my own person, is classified as a threat and, like I said, those Greek gods will attack you through people. Grad chapters are not respected. I'm going to just be honest with you. They're not respected. I think that at the time when I crossed um and, like I said, I was in my late twenties or whatever, so when I crossed it was um, I mean, it was like so many of us that were young and that they tried to get. They tried their best to give us a pledge process as much as possible. And because of the way I came across, maybe because I went to HBCU a lot of people didn't know. But they, grad chapters do not get respect. They're considered paper automatically and it's like the only badge of honor is pledging. So also, aks do not receive respect because people consider them to be paper, like, oh, you didn't pledge anything, you're so weak, you know. And it's funny because, yeah, they would have lines like crazy at Norfolk State. I mean, it would be like we would see a like rush notice on the bulletin boards or whatever. And then it would be like next thing you know, two weeks later they had like a group of 50 women that were crossing. We were like, didn't we just see a, a rush letter on the library window? See, you know, it was just like funny we were, we were laughing about it. All the time that they were they were shooting out lines like every three weeks and um, or every two weeks. And everyone knows that if you, if you, if your process is that short, you probably didn't pledge, so um, but yeah, grad chapters for the most part do not get respect. They call them paper and also there's a term used called made. So like they'll be like where, who made you? Where was you made? So basically, if you're a grad chapter, you wasn't made. And if you were um play, if you pledged an undergrad, you were most likely made. And let me tell you the word made. I have a problem with that word, cause made means like created it. And let me tell you the word made. I have a problem with that word because made means like created. It's like nobody made or created me. So I had a problem with the language. I had a problem with like the organization and what it stands for and how they you know the chance, the wording it's like very idle, it's spiritual one of the people in the organization stating that she didn't respect some other girl because they pledged from the same chapter, but the chapter before them were dropped and so they didn't. The chapter that came after them didn't finish their process. So how can the new pledges have finished their process if the chapter? I was like, oh my God, this stuff never ends. And then you have the East Coast versus the west coast, and the east coast versus the midwest, and the midwest versus the west, the south, and it's like, so people are also classified by what coast. So it's like, oh, you pledge on the east coast, okay, you pledge in the south, oh, you pledge in the midwest. Oh, if you're from the west, you know. It's like it's just, it's so much, it's so many politics to it, it's stupid, it never ends. Um, one thing too is that it's a gang, and I remember when I used to work with the sheriff's department and I remember we I was working with like the beyond scared straight program. And I remember that they would always hem the little teenagers up and they would be like why are you here? And they would be like I was caught graffiti in. And they were like, what were you graffiti in? And I was, I was graffiti in my gang and they were like, what's the name of your gang? And they were like, uh, whatever their gang was. And then they would ask them like what's your gang name? And then the kid or would say what their gang name was. And they were like, so you were caught graffitiing a gang name, a name that didn't even represent yourself. They were like you were representing the organization but you didn't represent yourself. And I would see the shifting of the eyes of like yeah, that kind of doesn't make sense. And I was thinking to myself why is it any different for Greek organizations? You're representing them but you're not representing yourself. You have a pledge name, because when you get your your um greek jacket, your pledge name is on the green jacket and your number, that's what those those letters on the jacket is. It's the chapter, it's the, your greek name and it's your letter. I mean, I'm sorry, your number. And so like, think about it. That's branding, that's representing something that doesn't represent you. Because if I look at like I think I don't even want to say what the name they gave me was because it's like I don't want to like relive in these experiences, but nonetheless, if I look at somebody and their, their line name is like little little rascal, I don't know what that means. Or frazzled, I don't know what that means. Frazzled, I don't know what that means. Or completion, I don't know what that means. Like I don't know what your number means. I don't know what that means. I don't know what any of that stuff means. And that's because it's not supposed to be for the public eye. It's supposed to be secret. Everything you do is a secret. Your, your mom can't know, your dad can't know, your kids can't know. They also teach you to be like, very ostracized from the world. So like, basically, you're living in this world and you can't tell people anything, you can't share the secrets, you can't tell them. This, like a lot of the stuff I said today, I only I. I didn't say everything, but I said a lot. Right, that would be considered an abomination period, but I'm trying to free people, okay. Okay, so you're living in this world. You know all these secrets and you can't explain any of it to anyone outside of the organization, right? Because they're GDIs and so that creates separation and division and a lot of people can't connect with you. That's why a lot of people lose friends, family members when they cross. A lot of people go through divorces because they all of a sudden don't feel understood. I've had people tell me that they were friends with people and they crossed and the person never spoke to them again, or they started speaking differently, or they became extraordinarily secretive, or you know, but they teach you to do that. They kind of teach you to stop talking to people Like they don't get you, they don't understand you, like you're a Delta, now You're a Zeta Phi, beta, now You're a AKA. You are what You're the lady of pink and green. You're an Ivy. They don't get you. You know they don't get it, you know. And so you just start believing that stuff and then you start separating yourself. But you're really just isolating yourself, you know, because those deities are trying to recruit you into that realm where God is not existing. God does not rest in that realm, you know. Um, it's a gang. It is a gang Cause if you think about it, with the Crips, they have the sixties, the thirties, the um. Trying to think about what the neighborhood I grew up in, it was like I can't even think of it right now. But the Bloods they have the 20s, they have the Pyrrhu, they have their different sects, right, it's the same thing with Greek organizations. Like all the chapters don't get along. You have to um chat. Certain chapters from certain schools they don't get along. You have the alpha chapters, which are the first chapters. I think they're better than any other chapter because that's where the founders pledge. You have um, like, for example, in LA. Like no one gets along with the LA chapter because they consider them to be bougie. And then people don't like the Compton chapter because they think they're ghetto. I mean then the Inglewood chapter is because it's like it's too much to keep up with. It is like being a part of a professional gang. You are a part of a professional gang when you join these organizations and that is point blank and the period. You are a part of a professional gang and and the only reason why you're getting away with it is because it's an organized gang. You guys are professional, educated, you have jobs. You don't fight. No one's shooting anyone, no one's graffitiing on the walls. You guys live in houses, drive nice cars. It's still a professional gang. It is. It is a gang and, like I said, the organizations are very good at choosing disciplined, decent members. They are A lot of people are legacies. There are celebrities that have pledged, like I don't know Rudy Huxable, I forget what her name is, but she pledged that Spellman, aretha Franklin, was a delta. Like there's a lot of celebrities that are part of these organizations and so they're really good at choosing decent members and so they do that because they want to send that message. Like, look at us, we stroll so well. Look at us, we have celebrities. That's a part of this organization. Look how beautiful we are. But hey, what looks like gold is not always gold. You know, always remember, if you're part of these organizations, you are representing your, the organization, not yourself. It's all about wiping your identity and replacing it with the identity of an ordinance or the organization, and I always had a problem with that. I, when I would stroll and I would throw up the pyramid and I would, I would wear my paraphernalia. I always felt like who am I representing? Cause it can't be the founders, like, okay, I'm representing the founders. I mean, like, what am I representing? Okay, the nine cardinal virtues. I mean I kind of had a problem with the fact that a lot of the traits or the virtues that Delta stood for, I already had those virtues within myself. The ladylike mentality of AKs, I have that within myself too. I love the ladylike, you know, looking in the mirror and honoring this. That you know, I love that. That's great, but I also have that within me as well. And then it's like the sisterhood of the Zeta Phi Beta, because they're known for being the most sisterly. It's like I'm very sisterly, I'm a very, very good friend and that's why I deserve good friends, because I'm a very good friend. And then the down to earthness of the SG Rose and the Deltas. It's like I can relate to that as well. So it's like I feel like I can see it all in me. And I had a problem with feeling like I had to pledge something to get permission to be myself. I don't need to pledge to do community service. Look, I have a doctrine of psychology that is a community service. I don't have to get permission to do that. I don't need permission to be Christian-based. I am Christian-based. No-transcript out to me. It's like a lot of these, these, these, uh, traits that people have. They naturally have those traits and so they're like pledging these organizations to get permission for the trace they already have. If you feel like you're a manly man and you stand for brotherhood, manhood and all that stuff, why do you need to pledge QCY5? Why do you need to pay money to be what you are or to be connected with these people that you are? And some people might say, well, because you're going to be surrounded with people who are like you, not necessarily. That's the thing. You don't know the mental health of these people who you're pledging with and these people who are part of the organization. There's no psychological assessment that's conducted. There's no evaluation. You don't know if they've been to therapy before. You don't know anything. It's like you're just dealing with random people You're not able to divide. I only want people who are mentally healthy, who've been to therapy in my life. No, you're sitting next to people you don't know who you're sitting next to. You could be sitting next to a sociopath. You don't know who these people are. And also, too, one of the things I noticed when I pledged is that I didn't know anything about anybody. I didn't know. I didn't know what anybody stood for, I didn't know what anybody was about, I didn't know anybody's childhood, I didn't know anything. And I was like, dang, how come I don't you know? Like how come nobody wants to talk about their childhood? Every person I've ever known that was a part of Greek life. They don't ever want to talk about who they were before Greek. They don't ever want to talk about their childhood. They don't ever want to talk about who they are. And I always had a problem with that, like, why do people not want to talk about themselves? And then it dawned on me like, oh, I get it, because it's like a disassociation, a rebirth. Oh, now you're a part of the organization, you don't need to know that stuff anymore. And I had a problem with that. And I started asking people who were also denounced, like did you know anything about your brother? Did you know anything about their childhood? Did you know anything about your sisters? Did you know anything about their childhood? Did you know anything about your big sister? And everybody was like no. And I was like oh, I get it. So basically, the the whole point of the organization is that you don't have identity. It's all wiped away, like almost as if you're getting a deliverance. The only thing that can wipe away everything is being your mind being renewed by Christ being delivered. So the organizations are mimicking Christ. What they're doing is like they're imitating the attributes of Christ, they're imitating the spiritual law, but they're eliminating God and perverting it. Because you can't say, oh, we are like Christ, and then you pledge me or you hit me or you verbally abuse me or intimidate me or get me terminated or sleep with somebody that is my husband. You can't. That's not God, that's not Christlike, and so it's so, and that's what witchcraft really is and that's what new age is. Is that they're, they're basically still in the spiritual law and they're, they're, they're perverting it. They're, they're, they're literally imitating the scripture, but they're perverting it and they're eliminating God. And that's what the Greek organizations are. They are imitating God, but they're perverting it and eliminating God. You cannot eliminate the father, and so, basically, gosh, I said so much today, wow, but yeah, that's what it's about. You don't know who the people are to sit next to you because they don't reveal themselves, they don't disclose, so you could be sitting next to someone who's extraordinarily insecure, someone psychologically maladaptive, you know, or arrested in their development, or you know, you just never know mood disorder, bipolar, you just never know. Or borderline, you know. So, and that's another thing too, is they don't want to hear any of that psychological stuff too. So somebody could be like having a response or reaction and and people might respond and you could clearly like having a response or reaction and and people might respond and you could clearly see there's borderline traits and like you can't say that, you can't be like, I think, sister, sister, sister, soldier, suffering from a borderline personality, you can't say that because they'll, they'll be like, don't bring that psychology stuff around here, so they don't want to hear anything about psychology and they don't want, they definitely don't want to hear anything that reminds them of Christ. So like, basically, you're, you are to me, you're SOL If you join these organizations, especially if you are of God and you are a psychologist or psychologically minded. You are SOL because they do not want to do anything that creates harmony, because it's not Christian based, you know. So there are Christian sororities, which is crazy, but at least they're honoring Yahweh, but these organizations are not it, and I'm here to say that I'm not going to ask for permission to stand for the things I already stand for, and I hope this was really helpful to you. I finally got it all out. I don't think I need to do a part two. That's probably why this video is so long. But hey, if you have the time to take two and a half hours to listen to this, do so. I hope it was helpful to you. Take two and a half hours to listen to this, do so. I hope it was helpful to you. Like I said, I disclosed the spiritual and the psychological piece of joining. I can see why somebody would be attracted to all of these smart, intelligent men and women and wanting to be a part of that unison and being a part of like a clan and a group, but it's really not what it's cracked up to be. It's not what it appears, it's not what it seems. And if you're like in your thirties or forties and you're thinking about or fifties and you're thinking about pledging a grad chapter, it's just that's a capital good luck, because you're probably going to be too old. If you're emotionally mature, you're probably going to be too emotionally mature for the process. But, like I said, I try not to judge, because at one time I really wanted this, so I tried to put myself in the shoes of somebody else who really wants it. But I am going to give you the against. Ok, I am representing the against. I represent the for when I was a part of the organization, but now I'm representing the against. And so, with the for, you already have, because if you want to be a part of these organizations, or if you already are a part of it, you already have are representing the four. With the against, it is a representation of people who have denounced from the organization or were never a part of the organizations anyway, aka GDI, Um. So now you have the for and against and you can make a proper decision. All I can say is buyer beware, buyer beware, um, and, and just buyer beware. If you ever want to reach out to me and contact me, my email address is in my in my is in my bio and you can contact me if you need any help with denouncing or if you have any questions, because maybe you're considering being a part of the organization or if you just feel like it's just not for you but you necessarily don't want to denounce, maybe you want to just quietly walk away, or if you just want to send me a thank you, hey, whatever it is, you have my email address and my bio and my Instagram. Okay, all right, see you later.