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Wes & DeLaw | My Robot Husband
Have you ever been compared to someone else in your relationship? That sinking feeling when your partner suggests you should be "more like" someone from their past is something many of us have experienced—and it rarely ends well.
I had a chick who said one time I need to be more like Optimus Prime. Hey, yo you're lying I lied to you, I lied to you.
Wes:You're lying. I don't know if you just said it, just for the podcast.
DeLaw:No, no no, no, no, so her exact words was when I asked, I said well, what kind of dude are you?
Wes:You want me to be metallic in taste. That's what you want in taste.
DeLaw:You want in, that's what you want to taste, you want to taste. She said it and I kind of looked at her like what the hell are you talking about? And she was like, yeah, you know, I like my guys to be like I'll do in prime, because I feel like he's real dominant. I'm like uh-huh, oh, my God, okay.
Wes:Everybody, welcome to another episode of the Accordion West podcast, where me and D-Law just dropped some money on the early release of 2K26. And we feel sorry for our wives because that's what it's about to be for the next couple months straight, as always.
DeLaw:You got me, wes Yep, and you got me. I still haven't come up with a new name yet. I guess I'm still just D-Law Right now. I'm the sober son-in-law, but you know, it is what it is.
Wes:That's just for today.
DeLaw:Right now I am, that's just for today.
Wes:You know, right now I am, that's just for the next five minutes. I mean, you know, in six minutes we'll see how it takes.
DeLaw:Look, I'm too broke to be trying to do anything Listen. It's brutal.
Wes:Yeah, you're the only one, and you know, since the season is changing and stuff like that, I need to go ahead and do the stock up. You need to go ahead and do the stock up before, like, you start getting the seasonal what do you call it? Seasonal, seasonal, holiday prices for fucking alcohol. Oh, thanksgiving this is more than what it usually is. Christmas this is more than what it usually is. You know, get that bottle of champagne now, let it sit in the fridge until New Year's. You know? Shit like that, yeah, shit like that. Hell, yeah, yeah, man, it's brutal out here. I feel like groceries ain't go down yet. You know, I don't know what everybody's talking about. Um, I'm still spending an exorbitant amount of money on groceries, and it's just me and my wife, so I know y'all uh, well, uh y'all you good over there yeah, I'll put it this way.
DeLaw:Groceries have been. It's weird because you know my stepson. He's not supposed to eat protein, but he has turned 18 and decided he's going to do what he wants to do. So the way we buy food isn't matching how we're all eating, if that makes sense. Way we buy food isn't matching how we're all eating. That makes sense. It's like we would buy stuff specifically for him. In essence, we were really just cooking for ourselves me and her and some vegetables and other stuff that he'd eat. We would do that way.
DeLaw:But now he's just like man, fuck it, we'll do whatever the fuck I'm going to do. And it's just like oh Well, I guess it is what it is. You know what I mean. I mean, look, it's his life. If that's what he wants to do, that's what he's going to do, there's nobody that's going to be able to stop him for it. So if that's what he wants to do, that's what he's going to do, there's nobody that's going to be able to stop him for. So if that's what he chooses to do, you know, just don't hurt yourself or kill yourself.
DeLaw:You know what I mean most definitely, most definitely so yeah, that's about it, you know nothing crazy but you know I do probably wanted to have them pay us some money for groceries.
Wes:You know that's me yeah man, I just, I just went grocery shopping and I don't know alright, cool.
DeLaw:and then every other day it's oh, you should go buy this. I'm like why do I need to keep buying all this shit like it? I don't know, I don't know, I don't know you are saying she does respect your time, though, right?
Wes:I can only hope no, you should have some examples of like, yeah, she respects my time. I'm sure you have examples of that.
DeLaw:We. I can only hope that she does respect my time. I put it that way I want to believe she does.
Wes:Do she do things that make you feel like she does not respect your time?
DeLaw:All the time, all the time, okay, all the time.
Wes:I guess I just had to ask you the question that way.
DeLaw:All the time. Yeah, it's like oh, it don't matter what I'm doing, if it ain't on her time it's a problem. I actually do this a while. I actually do this two minutes ago. You see, I'm in the middle of a podcast here. I'd be like, babe, do you mind doing this for me while I go and take care of this? Real quick, oh yeah, I got you, I get back. Ain't a lick of things done.
Wes:Let it be us though.
DeLaw:I couldn't even get you to get this done Like I actually do one thing. It's like Lord.
Wes:I'm happy to say I don't have that problem with my wife. I got that problem with every other woman in my life my sister, my mom. It's just be like God dang man.
DeLaw:Shoot, my aunt was mad at me because she be wanting to do pictures when we do all these events, family stuff, yeah. And so when we was on vacation I was like I ain't taking this fucking picture and I'm like, well, why don't we just, why don't they ever take the picture before we all sit down and eat? Because in my head, if we take the picture before we eat, you're more likely to get everybody right, because there's no one that's going to be ready to leave, because they're done eating.
DeLaw:In my head, it makes complete sense. Now, what risk do you run with that? Of course you run risk. You run the risk of people not showing up until food ready but it's still what you eat.
DeLaw:Yeah, but then you know, if people don't want to show up, people ain't going to show up, and if they're only going to show up to get food, they're going to show up to get food. You get who you get in the picture. It don't got to be everybody. You wait until after we're all done. We're ready to go, ain't nobody. I ain't trying to sit around, so we go, we. We go to some row house, texas, yeah, nah, nah, I think it was Logan's or something. And first they don't tell us that they got a whole itinerary for this thing.
Wes:I hate vacations like that. I was like I ain't got no free time. In this bitch, I'm spending every moment with a cousin that I don't really like right now.
DeLaw:Not even that. It was like we get there. I'm thinking they're like, oh, be there at 1 so we can eat dinner. I'm thinking we're going to eat dinner. Now, if we eat dinner and it's like we're all about to leave, let's take a picture. All right, cool, we only been in an hour. We sitting there and they're like bringing out appetizers. I'm like I don't want no fucking appetizers. I'm trying to order my food. We sitting there waiting for my drink they're having like, all right, guys, we're going to sing a song. What? Why are we singing a song? And then we got a keynote speaker and we want everyone who owns a business this is a family reunion it's at a restaurant.
DeLaw:I'm so confused at this point and everyone who owns a business stand up and and and tell what their business is. I'm like and I looked at my wife. I said if I'd were going to do this, I wouldn't have shown up.
Wes:Yeah, that's a little bit much.
DeLaw:I wouldn't have shown up, because it's like, if you tell me to come and eat a lunch and brunch, whatever, we've been there an hour and a half, they still ain't taking our order because we in the middle doing all this shit so they finally take our order. We finally eat Now. They're like all all right. Before anyone leaves, please make sure you head to outside so you can take the picture. You knew I gave my chick right to the lady I need. I need y'all to cash this out real quick. Told my wife bring your ass on. As soon as she gave me the check, I was was gone. Come on, let's roll. You ain't going to stay for pictures. Hell, no, we've been here three or four hours at this point in a restaurant. You want me to stand around and take a picture?
Wes:No, hell no.
DeLaw:Well, you just left. You're being a bad influence on your wife. No, I'm not.
Wes:First of all, how dare you say I're being a bad influence on your wife? No, I'm not. First of all, how dare you say I'm being a bad influence on you? You, an adult, don't do it. I know what I'm doing. That's what my aunt said. Oh, my aunt said that to you. I'm like hey, my aunt was like you're being a bad influence on her to just leave.
DeLaw:She heard. She heard my aunt was like you're being a bad influence on her to just leave. She all right, yeah, all right. I said y'all took so long, it was time to go. Well, don't come. And then, well, don't complain if you're not in any of the pictures when someone dies, I won't, I'm good and look, and you know, the funny part was Is I didn't even know that they were looking for a picture of me, like when my grandmother died in 2019, they were like we couldn't find no pictures of you, so we only could find a picture that grandma had of you from prom. Oh, okay, why didn't you go on my Facebook?
Wes:Yeah, yeah, it was like well every picture in your Facebook. He was holding up a cup of alcohol or a bottle. We didn't want to put that on grandma's.
DeLaw:It was a slideshow.
Wes:Your only cousin, your only cousin.
DeLaw:Look, I look at it this way. You got all these other pictures of me everywhere on social media. My mother has pictures of me like well, you, we want to take these because you know? No, I don't know, and I thought I started. I told him.
DeLaw:I said look, y'all want to take pictures after people are ready to go. Y'all gonna get five minutes. Y'all want to take pictures after people are ready to go. Y'all going to get five minutes. Y'all can't get together. Hey, babe, come on, get back. No, we done Y'all taking too long and we're ready to go. We'll see y'all next time and walk over. Hey, hey, don't put your hands on me. That's not what we're going to do. That's not what we're going to do. That's not what we're going to do, because at that point now you're impeding on my time to go home. Yeah, no, we're not. No, either change. And then at that you took pictures, the whole event. You took pictures, the whole event. You took people's individual family pictures, everything. What the hell do I need to be in a group picture with everybody for?
Wes:It's safe to say that you are very angry about that.
DeLaw:No, I ain't angry about it at all. Put it this way if every time I come to an event that y'all gonna be at, we gonna take a picture, best believe I won't be there you can always be like.
Wes:I took my picture before and I sent it to you. Alright, y'all just shot me in hey, y'all doing wonderful things right now, so I know y'all can make that work. Yeah it looks.
DeLaw:Yeah, we didn't see you at the last event. Oh, cause y'all gonna take pictures, so what you don? Oh, because y'all want to take pictures, so what you don't know. If y'all want to take pictures and when I'm ready to go, y'all want to hold me up, I ain't coming to events.
Wes:My wife's family likes taking pictures and shit, but it's all throughout and never after. I mean I don't like taking pictures at all, but I at least appreciate that, If appreciate that If you're doing it all throughout, I can live with that.
DeLaw:Yeah, me too. If someone says all right, I'm leaving, and this is what bothers me the most. Someone might just come and be like oh, I just came to kind of hang out in a fellowship, but I'm rolling out. People still get people getting their food, or they're sitting down and still eating.
Wes:Oh, so-and-so's about to leave. Come on everybody, let's take a picture. No, that motherfucker. Yeah, I hate that shit because I said look. I said you look get a picture of him, him one time.
DeLaw:Look, I told him. I said they got one time, that's it. This is what we're gonna do. Y'all can say, oh, he don't want to come around. Well, how come you don't come around? Because I don't want to have to take a picture because someone gets up and leave it. At this point I ain't even eat my food. So now I got to get up. No, well, you need to come out, I'm eating my food. Take the picture. She was like well, you know how are you supposed to document? You were here. I said yeah, I took a picture of me on Easter. Easter was just two months ago, two, three months ago. Ain't shit changed between then and now?
Wes:Right, I ain't rocking an eye patch like a pirate Right, I ain't slick raking it out here.
DeLaw:Look, even one dude said when his wife got pregnant. It's like you can't even see the progression of her pregnancy because at every event they went to they took a group picture. So it only looked like they were the same for months at a time.
Wes:Because the belly was being covered.
DeLaw:No, because the belly wasn't showing yet, because when she got pregnant, all the pictures before she started showing, there's no pictures until the baby's here. So it was like you can't even see the progression or even like the growth in the family. If you're taking a picture every event, if you take a picture once an event like, let's say, an Easter, you know that's the picture we're going to be taking. Cool, at least now you can see the growth of the family every Easter. But to take a picture on Easter, then take a picture on Memorial Day, then take a picture 4th of July, then take a picture vacation.
Wes:Oh, you've got Juneteenth and then 4th of July, then you've got Juneteenth.
DeLaw:Then they're going to team and then then they were in another another event, another event in labor day. Then you got thanksgiving like you're taking. You're taking almost 10 pic group pictures a year. It doesn't show anything, it just shows you're taking pictures. Yeah, if you're going to take pictures while we're there, take pictures while we're there, you don't. While we're there, we don't need to have pictures, a group picture, or take a group picture in the very beginning, right before we pray to eat food. All right, everybody, let's go outside and take a picture so we can eat.
Wes:Do you think, in a relationship, comparing your partner to someone else could benefit you?
DeLaw:Hell, no, why not Boy? That might as well just be with that person then.
Wes:No, we didn't say it was another romantic interest. It could be fucking Mars from the Simpsons. I'm just saying Nope, no, nope.
DeLaw:Nope, setting yourself up with the wrong expectation.
Wes:Hmm.
DeLaw:I'll tell you that.
Wes:All right, heard this story itself up with a wrong expectation. I'll tell you that. Alright, hear this story. Hear this story. This guy wants to know is he being a little insecure because his wife compared him to her ex-husband? Yeah, he says I told my wife to never compare me to her ex-husband again due to her giving me criticism in a negative manner and implying I should be better like him in said scenario and implying I should be better like him in said scenario. Me and my wife were planning to have another kid, but we both came to the agreement that we needed to focus on the current ones more. She brought up some valid points and so did I. It was a good and constructive conversation.
Wes:Fast forward a couple of months and we are having a conversation where she says my ex was more active with the kids, even when he was stressed. He was also keeping them on point with folding clothes and organization. He also made sure that they always had their hair in tip-top shape, then finishing with these are the issues. And then she finished with these are the issues I have with your parenting. That needs to be fixed, he says.
Wes:Now I will say the criticism was good and I noted that, the fact. I noted that fact and started working on such, but it deep. It deeply bothers me that she is coming. I'm sorry. It deeply bothers me that she's comparing me to another person who she was, who was supposedly horrible and a bad partner, and implying that if the if I did the things better like him, she would feel more comfortable with us having another kid. I told her the same point could have been made without saying my ex did these things better and she went off on me and called me insecure. Have I had my moment of insecurity? Yes, but on this topic I do not agree that this was that it was insecure of me by not wanting to be compared to her ex and how he did things better.
DeLaw:You ain't wrong for that one.
Wes:You say he's wrong.
DeLaw:Hmm, I don't want to be compared to no one's ex, especially if you say they're a shitty person. Right, right, if she said, oh, he was such a mean person and this, this, and that that's something different. Yeah, if she compared me to your ex and he said that he was a shitty person.
Wes:So the thing is the yeah, she could have definitely said this is this, this and that, and she didn't have to bring up the ex. He brings up an excellent point like yo, that's the part that made me insecure. Yes, that it is okay. So here's the thing. It's okay to be feeling insecure is a feeling. It's about what you do with that feeling. Right, that's what always gets somebody in trouble, or don't get them in trouble. It's about what you do with the feeling he felt insecure because you compared him to another guy that you said was horrible. So he's like yo, am I like this motherfucker? You just left. You know what I mean.
Wes:And yeah, she could have did without saying that I mean mean, but at the same time, you know, I get her concerns, like if they agreed upon, you know, focusing on the current children before having another. Like I get that. Like you know, and she, she framed that the wrong way. Like my ex was more active with the kids, even when he was stressed. Like, yeah, that's something I got to work on. That's what we talked about previously, a couple months ago.
DeLaw:Are they his kids?
Wes:I don't, maybe one of them is his maybe one is his but that's crazy, though.
Wes:Just think if they both wasn't his. And then she's like yo, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's kind of like yes and no, because when you sign up to that you sign up for the whole shebangabang. But we know how this thing works. Sometimes, you know, as a man, you might not feel comfortable with the, the, the parenting, as you will, I don't, you know. So there's going to be certain parts you're not comfortable with.
Wes:I know some some guys in that role. That's the, you know, stepdad or whatever they, they, they strictly in it for the fun. They lead the, the, the parenting and the spankings to the mom, like, look, I'm just trying to stay on these kids good side. They go back and forth to their dad. You know, every other weekend and stuff like that, like I need this shit to be smooth over here. Yeah, I too doing the parents and I'm like the uncle that just live here, but that's not the uncle. You know what I mean.
Wes:It's like one of those situations and I'm like but I mean yo, he, he reacted the the way any any guy would react like yo. Don't just imagine if you did that to a woman like yo, my ex-wife she used to be in this motherfucker. Just you know, not knowing cooking in the in the kitchen, she was helping with the kids. She was helping with their homework. My girls had their hair done. They wouldn't want their hair done. Man, that woman might murder you or you might cause her to have a fucking breakdown, just depending on the type of woman she is. I'm going more or less. She might try to murder you.
DeLaw:I'm closer to. She'll murder you.
Wes:She'll murder you, she would murder you she would murder you. Yeah, I, um I uh, she would murder you. Yeah, I, um I uh. His reaction was uh, his reaction is on point. But the fact that his wife was like um, her counter argument was like oh, you're just being insecure, it's just like yo but that's that's, that's your counter argument but that's like yo.
Wes:But that's it, that's, that's, that's your counter, that's. But that's like the dismissive shit. That's the dismissive shit is just like yo. He already agreed to it. So it's not like you, it's not like it's not like. He came to her and was like I don't know what you're talking about. This, this and that this is like, yeah, I need to work on those things. And Dan comes to her and says yo, I'd rather you just not compare me to him. No, you're just being insecure. It's more or less like no, do what the fuck? I said dude, I don't want to hear no lip. That's how that shit sound, because I'm like yo. If I agree, yo, I need to work on this. You criticism and I said you know what the next time this comes about. That's not. You know what I mean. Don't throw him in there. I am with you now. You shouldn't be thinking about how he did things. That means I'm only here to help you do things and you're trying to get in how you fit in. That's a scary situation.
DeLaw:That's not where it is.
Wes:Yeah, but you know, do you? That's a scary situation. That's not where it is. Yeah, but you know, do you? Do? You think there's a like in your personal life? What's the line between giving valid feedback, or and, and using somebody like to compare you as a benchmark or a weapon against you, like if they was going to mention someone, what, what, how could they mention it, and you'd be like you know what? I don't feel bad about that. I don't feel threatened. You did it in a respectable way.
DeLaw:Not doing it.
Wes:So they, they, they can't mention. So on your head. They can't mention nobody. They can't mention nobody, like nobody not Homer Simpson, not Tim the Two-Man, taylor, nobody. They can't mention nobody. I don't want to hit nobody else's name.
DeLaw:How else?
Wes:you going to get your example.
DeLaw:You mentioning someone else's name in the process of any of this means that clearly I wasn't enough for you to begin with. So clearly I'm just here as some sort of comfort person. Well, I need you to be more like.
Wes:But Tim the tool man, Taylor ain't a real person.
DeLaw:Well, no, no, no. I had a chick who said one time I need to be more like Optimus Prime.
Wes:Hey, you're lying, I lied to you.
DeLaw:I lied to you. You're lying.
Wes:I don't know if you just said this for the podcast.
DeLaw:No, no, no, no, no. The hard part was I asked. I said, well, what kind of dude do you want?
Wes:You want me to be metallic in taste. That's what you want in taste.
DeLaw:You be metallic in taste, that's what you want to taste. She said it and I kind of looked at her like what the hell are you talking about? And she was like, yeah, you know, I like my guys to be like I've been primed because I feel like he's real dominant. I'm like, uh-huh, oh, my gosh, okay, I was lost. Uh-huh, oh, my gosh, okay, I was lost. How old were you?
Wes:How old was she?
DeLaw:I had just transferred to UMBC, so I had to be like 20. She was your age.
Wes:If she said fucking optimist, was she your age.
DeLaw:Yeah.
Wes:Jeez man. I want to say Transformers one it just came out with shia labeouf came well with shia labeouf.
DeLaw:Yeah, so that's why I'm like when she said it. I'm like huh. Like it was such a very random thing in my head for someone to say, but I was just like huh, you want me to be like who?
Wes:she said because he's dominant. That was her. That was her.
DeLaw:That was her he's a dominant person and this, that and the other thing, and you know, that's how I would expect my guys to be like to sweep me off my feet and do this. I'm just like it's crazy yo.
Wes:So okay, okay, okay. I have even more questions. So you said you rather not hear a name or anybody. This is an actual fucking fake ass robot slash cartoon. Did you still feel the same way like yo, don't be asking me to be like what? If I want to be like Megatron, what if I? Same way, like yo don't be asking me to be like what?
DeLaw:if I want to be like Megatron.
Wes:What if I want to be like Bumblebee? Don't tell me what I need to be more like. So is it the fact that she, is it the fact that you feel like she telling you? Or the fact that you feel like yo, I don't want to hear that shit.
DeLaw:The nigga ain't real.
Wes:Well, yeah, okay, the nigga ain't real. Besides, I'm not being real Because I'm trying to see if there's a fine line between like yo, do I have an example of what I should be doing, or should I be threatening, because I think that's where it comes in. Are you threatening me? Are you going to be with Optimus Prime, or is it just you trying to give me an example of like yo, optimus be doing his damn thing and maybe you could have me in another?
DeLaw:joint if you act like Optimus, like I'm just not. I took it as when I was told, oh yeah, I would be more, like I want to get more like Optimus Prime, I took it as like what the hell are you talking about? Why are we talking about? Oh my gosh, if she had said Lawrence Fishburne and Boys in the Hood, okay.
Wes:I just asked you that, which is so okay so let's just say it's Furious.
DeLaw:Let's just say it's Furious and she said just say it's Furious.
Wes:And she said yo, I want you to act more like Furious, which is Lawrence Fishburne from Boys in the Hood. What you gonna say, you gonna have a problem with that Lawrence Fishburne in Boys in the. Hood, true, true, true true.
DeLaw:Look, if I was, look, I already know if we would have told a woman like I need to be more like uh and I think it's how you said no, no, no, I think it's no matter how I think, it's no, I think it's how you say it.
Wes:I think it's how you say it. I don't. I, you don't start off by saying who do you say want angela fishburne, and where and who? Angela bassett, and I mean I say angela fishburne, angela bassett and what I don't know, and angela bassett, and I don't know what.
DeLaw:I'm not asking what's? Yeah, uh, I don't know.
Wes:Let's just say angela bassett and 9-1-1, because I just, I just see, okay, so let's just say Angela Bassett and 9-1-1, but what, what? What trait? Let's see? Let me give you an example. So let's just say, yo, she's a very uh, she's very proactive. You just wanted to be proactive and shit, or whatever, I don't fucking know. I'm not starting with hey, I want you to be like more like. You know, I start, I'll talk to her like yo but that's how the article started.
DeLaw:That sounded like she said to him like oh, I'm more like she gave, she gave she gave examples of what he needs to do.
Wes:I think that's cool. However, it's the fact that it's her ex is her ex-husband. I feel like you can get a pass if it was like yo, you know how, like, sometimes we'll be watching Young Sheldon and the dad be like this, this, this, this and this. That's how I envision us. I think you can get, I think she can get away with that. I say Young Sheldon I don't know why, cause that's at the top of my head, don't even watch the show, but but you get what I'm saying. It's kind of like yo, you present this shit, you present the cookie shit. Like yo, she, you know, be a little bit more proactive. I noticed this, this and this happened blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it just reminded me, like when I was watching 9-1-1, I saw Angela Bassett and I'm like yo, that's kind of like how you know, I envision you. I see you that way because I've seen those traits in you and I've seen you do it sometimes, but lately you've been slacking. Real easy to do.
Wes:People just don't know how to talk to people. She went straight for this. Ain't what you doing. My ex nigga did that. That's crazy. I would never, even if it was my mom, I'm not going to say well, miss Janice up the street did that, you don't be doing this. It's about how you talk to people. She ain't showing. I'll talk to people, right, and then to dismiss the shit, all right.
DeLaw:that's wild, the optimist, prime shit though hey look, look, it was wild when I heard it. I'm like optimist prime.
Wes:The most I got was uh, I want you to have more thug appeal. That didn't last with her. That's the most I've ever gotten in that. No, that's not true. Uh, yeah, that is true. She said thug appeal, but I've gotten. I've ever gotten in that? No, that's not true. Yeah, that is true, she said thug appeal, but I've gotten. I've always gotten this from every woman Like be more emotionally available, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like and give me examples. How could I get mad at that? I know I knew I wasn't emotionally available, but you telling me, if a woman told you that and they say, yo, be more emotionally available, you know how, like, how max will be singing about this, this, this and this, and I just imagine that that's what I want my love to be like, and your ass is gonna say go be with that nigga. Then that's what you're telling me and rather than trying to fix the situation, you will be like go be with that nigga and look, especially if you compare me to a whole another.
DeLaw:Okay, let's go back to the simpsons.
Wes:I want you to be like how Milhouse is towards Lisa. I want you that much invested in me and I feel like you're not invested in me as a person. Now how the fuck can you be mad at Milhouse? You gonna tell her go be with Milhouse. Then, you fucking nerd, that's what you gonna say Exactly. You not gonna say it. You gonna take that constructive criticism and be like yo, milhouse, do be. You know, coming up with the flowers and being romantic and shit you a little bit more. You a little bit stalkerish. But you know I'll leave the nerdy shit out.
DeLaw:Yeah, what I'm looking at, this build I just created.
Wes:Oh my God, Come on man.
DeLaw:Hey look, milhouse loved that girl, even man. Look, look, if the Simpsons didn't go off the air.
Wes:The Simpsons is still on the air. What are you talking?
DeLaw:about. They said it's the last season.
Wes:No, they didn't.
DeLaw:Yes, they did. No, that's what they were saying. They said it's the last season for the Simpsons. I was reading an article.
Wes:When did, like two months ago, I got looking into that. I don't believe that to be true, but I look into it they were like, yeah, I know they did a little.
DeLaw:They said they did a future episode where Marge was dead and you saw everybody growing up and I'm like why would they take the Simpsons off the air? Simpsons has been on the air for almost 30 years. Them little niggas ain't ever grown up. I don't even think they advanced a grade yet. Nah, they haven't ever grown up.
Wes:I don't even think they've matched the grade yet?
Wes:not at all, not at all but, you know what else is crazy about that? The whole thing I read, like, how comfortable was she to bring up her ex, though, like, does that that kind of also kind of means that you probably still got feelings for that motherfucker, because why would that even come back up? And it makes me think, like you know, like sometimes you hear women be like, oh, they be so turned on on their husband or their man be doing, you know, being daddy and stuff like that. You might got a little situation like that, like where she, like you know what, I don't see him being daddy, so I ain't really turned on like that. She might got a little situation like that, like, was she like you know what, I don't see him being daddy, so I ain't really turned on like that, or this, this, and that I need him to do that more Maybe.
Wes:Or she still got something going on with her ex-husband, because there's no way. Why bring? I mean, you kind of know what I'm saying. Why bring that up? If the roles were reversed, we bring that up, our wife won't be like yo, you fucking her or something, which means be more like her. Right, you thinking about her?
DeLaw:it's a whole lot of mess. You don't want to get into hell? Nah, hell, nah, a whole lot of mess.
Wes:Don't, don't even say, just leave it where it is yeah, it's kind of like for her to say that it's just like yo. I don't know either, even shorty, slow war, just because it's not like yo. If he's horrible and yeah, he wasn't a good partner, and this, this and that, if you're saying he was a good dad but just not a good partner, that still don't make it even better. Because it's kind of like yo. He shouldn't be even brought up in that manner in this house. So I don't know, man, people are uh, people just gotta learn how to talk to people.
DeLaw:Yeah.
Wes:And, to be honest, like you know, you know how they say conversation is everything, not conversation everything. Communication is everything. Sometimes the way we communicate causes these issues before and they're not even real issues. They're like fake fucking issues. There's been so many times I didn't say something to my wife or whatever. Have you, and I ain't mean to say it a certain type of way, and I knew the way that she took it. And boom, uh, we're in the whole discussion for about three hours, right, and I know you've been there where you, like man, I shouldn't have said that shit because I ain't mean it. And now and now you can't even fight the fight because you don't even believe in what you're fighting for, because I ain't mean to say that in the fucking first place. It's just like yo if I defend it. It's like I meant to say it, but I didn't even mean to say it, just said the wrong two words together, right, yeah, so yo, that's one thing I gotta get better at is communication. I don't even, I don't even have those problems.
DeLaw:I think. I mean, I get given an example, but I think that you know, as a woman, they can give an example without referencing someone who they say was a shitty individual. Yes, that's the I say that, because there's no way you're going to tell me that I'm that.
Wes:I'm just this horrible person she didn't say he was horrible in essence if you're referencing that guy yeah, yeah.
DeLaw:There's no way you're going to tell me I'm just this horrible person and then I'm being compared. In essence, that's what you're really saying to me is I'm horrible. Yeah, that's really looking at it from that standpoint.
Wes:I mean, she did say in a certain regard though. So the thing is, you can understand how and why he got in his feelings, but at the same time, even though she communicated toxically and harshly, she did say with the kids. She didn't say with me. All she's saying is like yo, he did these things. That's the only example she got, because those are her kids. It's still a thin line.
DeLaw:Think about if he was to say that to her it would turn into. So what you're saying is I'm just a horrible ass bitch. You already know that when you say something.
Wes:But we also know that we don't all men and women don't play by the same rules. So, yeah, it's not going to be a one. For one thing, we know they can get away with that shit because they jump straight to being in their head quickly. We jump to being in our head too, but jumped straight to being in the head quickly. We jumped to being in our head too, but it takes a little bit more time before we get inside of our head, most of us. So it's one of those things where it's not right on either way. But we yeah, it's just in this particular situation. It's the ex-husband shouldn't have been brought up in general. She could have said all that shit without that and it would have came across the right way. That's how I feel.
Wes:That's how I view it.
DeLaw:She could have said it differently, but she said it how she said it. She expects you to take it that way.
Wes:Yeah, and, like I said, the dismissiveness after was like yo, you just it that way, yeah. And, like I said, the dismissiveness after was like yo, you just you're just being insecure. It's just like, alright, now I feel like you don't respect me, right. So, yeah, now we about to have this fucking conversation because I'm not being insecure. You caused an insecurity.
Wes:Being insecure is like you're perpetual, you know you're perpetually insecure, like every little thing makes you unsure about yourself. You made me unsure about myself with your words. That is the conflict and it's kind of like some women they can dish that shit out, but when it happens to them it's just like it's the end of the world, like men be be. You know, in a relationship we, like I said, inadvertently we do that to each other like, say, son, you'd be like damn, it makes you unsure about some things. It's up to the other person to you know, self-correct that yeah, self-correct their actions and correct the, the issue within the, the bond and shit. Yeah, I wish I could, just not I wish because I would, but it'd never be okay. Just to tell my mom you just managed to get out of there Like you're tripping. Or the blanket statement oh, you being crazy man, what?
DeLaw:what.
Wes:That is like a couple hours of just like yo now I'm not on 2K, I can't go nowhere. I need to fix you here because I don't know how to talk to her.
DeLaw:Not only that, but it turns into you're going to be sleeping with both your eyes open.
Wes:Well, listen, she got a way to attack me in my sleep, then I don't need to be with her. She better attack me now.
DeLaw:I ain't got time to be doing that. You gonna wait till I'm asleep.
Wes:I ain't playing that game with my wife I ain't saying play the game, I'm just saying like yo, come on now. There's no way. There's no way, I'm gonna. I'm gonna let him say shorty, don't respect him, and they probably not his kids. And the crazy thing is you talking to him like that because y'all want to have another kid, but that sounds like them two ain't his, and you bitching at him about how to take care of your kids that you share with your ex-husband, like your ex-husband did, and I'm going to tell you this stuff further she all the way in the wrong.
DeLaw:In that case, she might as well just say um, I don't want to have no more kids, if that's what it is then that's what it is.
Wes:She just did a nitpicky thing like I ain't having no more kids like trying to.
DeLaw:You know it's not. Oh, I want to make it so that our relationship is bad, but it might be. I don't want no more kids and she doesn't know how to say it, because maybe he, because it didn't say that. Oh right, maybe he wants his own, he wants his kids, he wants his own child with her and she's already like I'm tired of raising kids and it might, it might be, it might be that see the whole thing.
Wes:When she said help with the hair, I'm like, unless my wife is like if I got a daughter or whatever, have you, unless she like can't do it, that is the only time that I'm trying to do something like that with my daughter, my sons, you know, you give them the brush, you show them what to do and you, you know you check them out every morning like did you, did you do what I showed you to do? Your girls, your daughters is a little different because you got to get in there in order to do that effectively. But it's kind of like yo, that should. I ain't going to say that should be her job, but it's just like yo. You said hair and folding clothes, that's a, that's something that she could be. If they know how to do that already, then why aren't you making sure that they do it as well?
Wes:And if they were doing it before with the ex-husband, what stopped? The ex-husband had that voice of like hey, didn't I say get in there, hold the fucking, get your ass in the shot, like that type of thing. But at the same time, if this stepdaddy, like I said, you don't, some of them don't feel comfortable just doing that they want to be there for the fun shit. And if the parents you know the father's still in the life, let the dad, you know, discipline. I'm just here, you know, bang out your ex-wife, you know that type of thing. That's what I'm here for to look after the family while I'm here. That's how some of them take that approach. Maybe he is taking that approach and she's like yo, you need to do more than just, you know, fuck me and look after the household and shit. Yeah.
DeLaw:I get it, but there's a way to say it. I mean me and my wife. We talk about it all the time because it's not. You know, she might be like, she's like I don't know if I want more kids, but it's one of those things where she's open to it. But there's certain things you expect that if you're going to have another kid and these are things A, b, c, d, e that if you're, if we're going to have another kid and he's a thing a, b, c, d, e, f, that I expected, yeah, but there's a way to say versus you gotta be like my ex-husband, yeah, and to be honest, I think everybody, everyone in a relationship, should have that condition.
Wes:That should be an ongoing conversation, because sometimes your, your thought process, change when it comes to certain things. Like at one point it was you know, know, as you get older, you think one way about a particular quote, unquote, gender roles or what you should be doing or what you're able to do. You know you might move up in your career and you're like you know what? Well, maybe you can stay home now and y'all need you to work, whatever, whatever, whatever. Or maybe you need to do this and we need to. You know things change. It should always be a ongoing, evolving conversation when it comes to that shit Cause I know things change on my end all the time.
Wes:So I was like me and my wife talking about that Like an open, a never ending dialogue, and I flip flop all the time. I flip flop all the time. I flip flop all the fucking time. So I don't know, man, I don't know what I would do in that situation. I do know what I would do in that situation. I wouldn't be like you in the Optimus Prime situation, I probably would have said something petty too, like well, nah, I'm not going to say that and get my feelings hurt.
Wes:I was about to say some stupid shit like well, am I fucking you too? Like does that need any work? You like the way he do it, like that's some petty shit. And if she actually turned around and say, well, actually you should be man, I don't know. That's why I said learning how to communicate, you, choosing to be petty towards somebody will get your feelings hurt and not even hurting their feelings. So it's like, don't even open up that fucking can of worms, like hell. Nah, but yeah, that was just a communication messed up. Communication messed up, damn. He should have said something about his Communication missed up. Communication missed up, damn. He should have said something about his ex-girl. Well, my ex-girl used to. Nah, I'm going right back to being petty. Anyway, yeah, man, that shit is unfortunate.
DeLaw:Yeah, yeah, that shit is unfortunate.
Wes:Yeah, shit happens it's going to continue to happen. Well, how do I ask this question, um, do you think in their situation? Well, you already said that. You said you think she don't really want to have kids anymore.
DeLaw:I don't think so.
Wes:A two way, three point snipe in high five if you guys can't already figure out, 2k26 has come out recently and, yeah, that's how this podcast gets when 2k is in session it's for 9 months that is in session for me 9 months the whole year for me because D-Law quits right after the NBA season stops. The NBA season stops.
DeLaw:The NBA season stops, I stop, and or the Pacers are eliminated from playoffs.
Wes:Oh, my gosh Forgot about that one, that's it.
DeLaw:Forgot about that one, but I mean, look, women have this thing about. They don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you how they really feel, because a lot of times and me and my wife had this same discussion like she wasn't before we got married oh, I don't care, we can have another kid, if you want, we can try, blah, blah, blah. Then one day it'll flip to I really don't want no more kids. You know, you want kids. I honestly really don't want kids. And it flies back and forth.
DeLaw:And a lot of times what women will do is they'll try to nitpick at certain things, to say you're not prepared for another kid, versus just saying I really don't't want to. If it happens, it happens, but if it doesn't, I ain't crying over it. Yeah, there's a they for us. We'll just tell you bitch, I just don't want to grill today, I'm tired of grilling. Like you want me to grill and grill and grill, but you want to sit on that hot ass stove and do it. But versus them being like well, you know, let's say they're the grillers. Well, you know, like it's kind of warm outside and you know, I think I'd rather just cook inside because I think it'll be a little bit easier, versus saying I just want to grill outside. They'll just try to find a way to like try to piece it together.
Wes:Like well, a way to like try to piece it together like well, you know what well that's what shorty should have in this situation.
DeLaw:She didn't do that oh, I didn't really want to grill, but you know you could go and grill. You know, like my ex-husband, he used to grill all the time, like no she's your time to learn the group, that is, would you get?
Wes:what I'm saying like that, yeah, yeah instead of just saying nigga, I don't.
DeLaw:You know why am I doing all the grilling? And you're the man. You're here, you know what I mean. It's one of those things. Why am I doing all the things with the kids and you're here? It's just one of those. I'm going to advance with this bill. Okay, I'm going to say all this build. Okay, I'm going to show you All-time corner Gerald Wallace, 16-17,. Kawhi Leonard, an OG out of Bayou.
Wes:You said that wrong, that name wrong.
DeLaw:Out of Bayou.
Wes:No, anobly.
DeLaw:Anobly, there we go, I'm an OG.
Wes:Mm-hmm.
DeLaw:My go-to bat is off the ball. Pass challenger, glove. Top attributes perimeter defense still free throw. I'm an elite wing defender Time interception perfectly Elite above the rim, finisher in unlimited range beyond the arc. My weakness is I can't muscle through traffic.
Wes:Good luck.
DeLaw:I have no idea. I don't know what it's going to be like.
Wes:Yeah.
DeLaw:Is that bad?
Wes:Hey you rich.
DeLaw:You need strength. Yeah, you do, Damn Well you're a center you need strength. I'm a small forward. Yeah, I'm a power forward. I got a power forward're a center.
Wes:You need strength. I'm a small forward. Yeah, I'm a power forward. I got a power forward.
DeLaw:In the center you need strength. If I was a center, I would have strength. I mean for one weakness muscle through traffic. I can live with it because I've seen everybody else's stats from their point guards and all that, and they don't have a lot of strength compared to them. They just got enough to get that strong handle, yeah. So yeah, All right, I'm going to rock with this build. For right now I ain't going to play with it. I'm going to think of something else and see what happens. Yeah, and go from there. I'm not going to put no money this year. I'm not putting no money into a bill that I'm not sold on.
Wes:Famous last words of D-Law. Famous last words, we'll see.
DeLaw:See how I articulated that. Right, I didn't say I wish 2K was like NBA Live 2006, where you can make all 99s. Come on, I ain't gonna lie.
Wes:You should be able to do that, but how else will the 2K get their money? Because if you did that at that point it's just based off of skill. It should be parameters. You know, like every uh player got a, a rating uh for like their 2k rating and shit like that. It should literally just kind of be that here's the ratings. You can only choose a rating that are current, that is current within the nba.
Wes:Yeah, if you want to have a certain type of play style, yeah, simple, simple or they should give it, should mimic, it should literally mimic NBA players, like if you want to do the park shit or whatever, have you Now you can dress them up and do whatever the fuck you want to do and shit.
DeLaw:But Like everybody said, that's done the comparisons. If you put your attributes you have for your player into a real NBA like, create your player, put it on an NBA team, you're not a 99. You're only a 99 in my career. So I think there needs to be some sort of balance out that that makes it's like, in order to be a 99, like if you look at who's 99 in the NBA and you want to create a order to be a 99, like if you look at who's 99 in the NBA and you want to create a player to be a 99, you should be allowed to do those things.
DeLaw:But the kicker would be you got to fill out more stats. You get what I'm saying. Yeah, so you know how. Like, if you really look at some of the stuff that they have as far as the stats they have, they have probably like one or two more stats that they add to. And you should be, you know, kind of go there with it Like, okay, if you're this height, based on who's the best player at that height, that size or whatever you're capped off at whoever is the best at that position, you know, and current NBA, not all times because you know you get a 6'9 Larry Bird bill who can shoot and do everything, you end up having very elite players, but I think honestly, that's what 2K needs. I think 2K needs. Yeah, I think 2K needs to start there.
Wes:Yeah, maybe. Or EA. Yeah, If they can get that license back.
DeLaw:What is this?
Wes:out of bounds.
DeLaw:That's the name of the storyline oh, okay, but yeah, yeah, that's I think it needs to be. It needs to be some comparison, like if I put my player up against and I'm creature player thing, and it should match up one to one, and then what that does is, yes, it does make a lot of players become a whole lot better. But then that's when you start adding in tendencies and all those things, that all those other attributes I guess they figure. If it's going to be like that, you know all those other attributes.
Wes:I guess they figure. If it's going to be like that, you might as well just go play a quick game with the Rockets or something.
DeLaw:Yeah, well, no, because like everyone said, if I put my stats in there and all of a sudden my player is only at 85, but he's at 99 on here, then what are we doing? You can put restrictions to where this is what your player will be at a 99. It won't make the game any different. It really turns the game into some of the older 2Ks where you can create a player that can technically do everything but it will be dominant in a skill. Yeah, it'll be like you, you, you might, everybody might be 80s defense and 80s and dunking on people. But then you've got that lead way where you could make a player an elite passer and score, or elite defender and dunker, where the Duncan is 90, but then you still got to kind of balance it out because you, if you want that 99 three pointer it's going to cost you to get it where it's going to cost other stats It'll make. You know, I think they could make it work, but I think they just try to. They try to limit it, to make it so that it's putting your money. Yeah, collect their money. Yeah, because in reality, if you do it like that, like if I can make a player that could dunk, that could shoot, that could pass and play defense, get rebounds. It would make my player more competitive. But then I mean, now it really becomes skill-based.
DeLaw:Yeah, and then at that point, now you don't need cap breakers, right? Right, you don't need cap breakers, you still get your takeover. You don't really need to do the boost anymore, but you can. But you don't really need to all those microtransactions you use to try to get more money. You no longer need it. And now you're just having people make bills, because now it becomes something that they enjoy doing. You'll get more money off of having them be able to do this free range of making builds, because people make about 5, 6, 10 builds and if you can create your player how you want to create it, versus being limited to looking at YouTube content creators to build your builds, you make out better.
Wes:Listen, you're absolutely right. But as any successful company, you're only as good as the money that you make, and with any successful marriage, you're only as good as the marriage lies.
DeLaw:More effort you put in the more that you get in, the more that you get into it you should give this and servitude to your spouse yes, theoretically, because sometimes a lot of people are putting in a lot of effort and they ain't getting shit yeah, but you know, like someone was saying, you don't lose yourself in it and don't do this and don't do this, I said no marriage. You are individual, but what comes with your marriage is that you both service to each other, because you both end up submitting to each other, but just doing it in different ways yeah and you end up understanding that in order for your lives to be better together, the other one has to know that you will sacrifice for them.
DeLaw:If everything turned into, I don't want you to sacrifice for me. Then now, what are we doing? We ain't doing nothing. Good, we just up here, we just here, we just here. So if I can do that, then cool. But you know, they don't. You know people who aren't married they that a single, they, they have single mind frames of how marriage supposed to work, versus understanding that, no matter what, it's going to be a sacrifice in this whole whole thing a partnership is sacrifice, because if it wasn't a partnership it'll be.
Wes:You know, it's the my way or I way thing, so it's like yo, you're not a partner as you do what I say Right, not as I do. Partnership is like yo, be comfortable. It's a constant state of compromise, constant state of mainly just a constant state of compromise. I wouldn't say sacrifice because, at the end of the day, if the whole, if the goal is for us to be happy and for what we have is to thrive and it's not really a sacrifice you're doing what you need to do in order to achieve that goal.
Wes:Now, granted, there's going to be personal sacrifices. Maybe I don't get that C5 Corvette right now and it might be too late for me to get it next year because it's going to cost too much. That's a personal sacrifice that I'm making right now that I cannot get that C5 Corvette, but you know what I mean constant stuff. My wife might want to file a dollar wig, but you know shit coming up that she can't get that shit right now, right, right.
Wes:So, yeah, man, there's a lot of uh and I'm not here to preach or anything like that just going based off of what I see right and most of the stuff I see is on social media. There's a lot of comments on certain things or certain situations that people have and it's based off of how they just see the world, or their, their trauma or the experience, and it's just kind of like sometimes I'll be reading this comment. I'm like that video didn't look nothing like what you're saying, so I don't even understand that shit or this situation. Don't feel that way, but that's just me, not to say I ain't been through no, no relationship scarring or trauma on my damn self, but it's just like I know how to look at things objectively.
DeLaw:Right, you're right, because we just had the whole house house, we got one little thing everywhere.
Wes:Oh, sometimes it's good to get that fresh air into the house. House gonna be smelling all stale and shit. The only thing about that in the fall time, all the you know the dying stuff and the spores and the ragweed started getting in there and now y'all sneezing throughout the day so they make you go straight into that story and just start grinding, huh yeah, they do do you get cat breakers for this?
Wes:no, I don't think so. You get cat breakers for crewing up and other shit and specializing, like if your player specializing like a shooting and defensive. I think I'm a specializing my my player, both of my players are defensively.
DeLaw:I think I'm a specialized mind in defense. Can you do more than one specialty? I think it's just one. Gotta think about that yeah, look it up. I mean, I haven't specialized yet, but if I'm already a lead defender and I will want to specialize shooting shooting Because they said your cat breakers kind of go.
Wes:I don't know. Man, I've been hearing a bunch of shit. So much information I have not really set time to.
DeLaw:I'm just glad they're doing it a little differently, because I hated the way they do it. You had to grind all that shit out just to get five cat breakers. I got my five cat breakers and I was done. I was done. But if I can get cat breakers in different ways, hey, I'm all for it yeah, it's going to be interesting, yeah yeah, I'm going to eventually get to this 2k right now watching Clash in Paris WWE.
DeLaw:Oh, run to my mask and watch it. Watch the rest of it. It's only on the first match, so I got time but watch it.
Wes:Watch the rest of it's, only on the first match.
DeLaw:So I got time, okay, but I've been taking some mucinex to get all the phlegm out and I think, and they tell you not to drink with it, but uh, after about six hours, oh my gosh. But I don't. I don't take my second dose, like my second dose that I would need in that 12 hour span. I don't take it. Then gotcha, that second one, but that first one because I already know, even though it's going through my body, yeah, I know that the half-life of it is fairly quick and that it's put so much left in my system by the time I'll take you.
Wes:Just can't wait to drink, man, I know man god but you're also going over your mind, so it's kind of like yo.
DeLaw:I've literally taken maybe two shots a week for the last four weeks.
Wes:Two shots a week.
DeLaw:Two shots a week. So that means both Sunday through Friday. I'm not drinking, I'm only taking about two shots on a Saturday. That's it.
Wes:That's not bad.
DeLaw:So'm only taking about two shots on a.
Wes:Saturday. That's it, it's not bad.
DeLaw:There's more than I am. One of these days, I'll be completely alcohol-free, but this won't be the day.
Wes:What day is that your duck bed?
DeLaw:Hey look, it might have wine in it. You know, I know, they definitely ain't got it in the hair. Dug it. Hey look, they might have won and have to. You know, I know, they definitely ain't got it in the hand.
Wes:Oh my gosh.
DeLaw:Yeah, oh Lord.
Wes:Shit On that note. Talk to me nice, but don't talk to me at all don't compare me to other niggas.
DeLaw:Pretty much say what you mean.
Wes:I mean what you say. So if you mean what you say, I'm going to take that as disrespect you don't want to have another kid.
DeLaw:You don't want to have another kid, you don't want to do it.
Wes:I ain't got't want to have another kid.
DeLaw:You don't want to do it, I ain't got care to be there. I respect that more than you saying be like my ex, who was shitty to me, like come on.
Wes:She didn't say that. That's what you heard, Just like your boss was crying Like yo, you want me to be a robot. We thank everybody for tuning in once again and um see you next time.