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You. All right. Welcome back, friends, to the Discovering your Calling podcast. This is your host, Sheri Miter. And today I am joined by Regina Sloan.

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And I know this is going to be such a powerful conversation because we had a conversation a month ago, actually. And the only reason I know this is it's in my notebook with the date was on April 25. Regina so it was almost exactly a month ago, and it was just I took copious notes just from our conversation. And all the things you do and your heart and your soul and how you've got to where you are. So I'm excited to dive into this conversation with you here today.

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So welcome to the podcast, Regina. Thank you, Sheri. I'm really excited to be here. A little nervous, but thanks for having me on. I also enjoyed our conversation.

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I felt like we kind of just ebb and flowed off of each other, and things just kept coming up, and it was supposed to be the intro call and ended up being this really powerful conversation. So I do remember that. Yes, I know. I think it was one of those calls I was like, dang it, I should have just hit record on that. It was so good.

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It was so good. Well, I have no doubt that today will be just as good of a conversation, if not even more powerful and better, as you can share your story. So, speaking of that, why don't you let the listeners know a little bit about who you are today, Regina, and then we'll go backwards on how you got here, but tell them all the things that you do today. Yeah. So hello, everyone.

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I'm Regina Sloan. As Sheri's already said, I've got a lot going on, or at least it sounds like a lot. I've gotten used to it. But I'm a wife. My husband travels a lot for his work, and so I spend a lot of time with my kids alone with what he has to do.

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I have four children. They're two five, want to be 13 a few days and then 17. And I've been a nurse for the last ten years. I still do work full time doing that. I really enjoy it and lots of skills.

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And what I do on a daily basis has a lot to do with what I have started building in the last couple of years, and that's my life coaching business. So I help people create the life they want by honing in on their own inner knowing and just kind of starting their own journey and kind of letting go of what they've been told is okay or not okay or what's for them. And then my husband and I also we have a real estate investing business where we flip homes, which is fun and a headache some other times. And then I have a podcast as well where I talk about personal development for moms and just really creating your own, I guess, definition, if you will, of motherhood. And the most powerful part of that podcast for me is the conversations that will be had around motherhood and what that looks like for everyone and those not so fun things that we tend to not talk about or not think it's appropriate to talk about.

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So we have some fun on there in that arena. Right? And what's the name of your podcast again? It's mom to achieve. Mom to Achieve and definitely listen, especially if you love mindset things, which I do.

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And Regina's got some great information on there. So definitely check out her podcast. So you definitely are out there doing all the things. And that's one of the areas I want to kind of make sure we go to today in our conversation, Regina, is because a lot of times I hear from some of my clients or people who are prospective clients, that when they're trying to figure out their calling, they think they have to give up what they're doing currently, which is not their calling, in order to start pursuing their calling. And I love that you still have your hand in the nursing, so talk a little bit about why you're still doing that.

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I mean, most of the time that's a practical concept, but I'm just curious what keeps you there and what is your plan for the future? Yeah, so I became a nurse. I made the decision very young to be a nurse. I think it actually was kind of instilled in my mind. I remember when I was young and my grandma would say, oh, you're going to be a nurse, you're going to be a nurse.

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And that really just became my self belief, honestly. And I talk about that kind of thing on the podcast as well, of how what we say to our children and what we tell them about themselves and the world when they're young really becomes their belief system. So that was my thing as long as I can remember. And the essence of it is I do love to help people, but in health care, especially when you're doing health care a certain way, you can only help in that area. There are so many different ways that you can help people.

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So I have thought about that in the last five or so years, just like, is there more the questions that come up when you start doing the same thing every day and not really satisfied with that? I work three nights a week, so I have all kinds of time. And so at some point, I wouldn't say there was a big AHA moment, but at some point I started to just think about what I wanted for the future. And part of that is time, freedom, and really being able to make more money in less time. Whereas if I'm working for someone, I'll typically be paid hourly and or salary.

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And so I decided I wanted to jump in some different things, and I've tried different types of coaching and didn't really fit well. And so I've kind of honed in, and I didn't just wake up one morning and decide I want to do something that was just it. And I still feel it to still be a journey, especially if you've always worked for someone and you're now jumping into entrepreneurship. It is night and day on having to be you're told what to do. You know what to do.

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You do it well, and then you get to be the creator of what you do and how you do it and how well. So to answer the question about why I'm still a nurse, part of it is income, because I want to be at a certain financial level before I let go of that, but also because I do understand in my own mindset, work that money. I can create money, and it comes, and I can quit today and be fine. My nursing career is very much a big part of me, and so operating in letting go of something I've always done and jumping into something new is partly a journey of what I have to work through myself. But then it's very powerful still working as a nurse because I have so much interaction with people who are at their lowest.

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And before I decided I wanted to be a life coach, one thing I noticed was that most people that come in, if not all, they may obviously have a health condition of why they came in. But there was always something else. There was always something with their mindset that I get to work with people every day about, with my coworkers, with my patients. It seems to be the underlying thing for everyone. So I'm getting paid as a nurse, but I'm also very much practicing my life coaching at work.

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Oh, you're muted, I think. Yes. I love so much of what you just shared, Regina, and I want to see if I can go back and unpack some of those things, because, one, I love that you're staying a nurse for the financial reason. Yes, we can hear that. We can create the income, but that puts a lot of pressure.

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And one thing I know for sure as an entrepreneur I've been an entrepreneur pretty much my entire adult life, and I know for sure that when you have to create income, that changes how we approach it, and it puts this energy out there that's not always as. Positive as when we get to absolutely, I agree. So I think it's so smart for you and for anybody listening that don't rush it. You will know it's almost like one day you will just wake up and you'll know it's time you're ready. Yeah, I've heard that, too.

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It's funny you say that. And I do want to agree with you, too, because it took a lot of work, and it's a continued work to say, I really don't have to work. I can just quit, and I'll make ends meet and we'll figure it out like we always do. Everybody figures things out, right? But why do that if you don't have to?

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Especially I don't dread going to work at all. A lot of my nurse friends think I'm crazy, actually, because you don't usually become alert nurse and then leave and do something else. Like all things you're like, oh, what's going on? What's wrong? There's nothing wrong.

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I really enjoy what I do there, but I want to do something else. Right. And that's another big piece to it. Is that's still filling your cup? Like you said, it's still a part of who you are, so why walk away from that?

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And again, it goes back, you'll know, when it's the right time, because it's no longer serving you. Well, thank you for pointing that out. And I love, too, that you said that you actually get to practice your life coaching with other people, so that's an added bonus for you. Yes. Everyone has something that their mindset they have something they're struggling with, so the conversation always comes up, and especially when you have people that aren't feeling so well, they're stuck in their bed, so they're thinking about things that they may have not had time to think about before.

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So I definitely get my skills in both ways, for sure. Yeah. So it's such a great example of you can do both. You can do both. It may seem crazy for a while, but again, you'll know, when it's time, I feel like there's a space.

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And I kind of did the same thing. I was in direct sales as a leader, and I stayed for a year because I wasn't ready. One, financially, and two, I just mentally wasn't ready. There was still stuff I had left to do. Like, I knew I wasn't done yet in that position, but I started building this other thing on the side, so I think it's such a smart way to look at it.

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I'm glad you brought that up, because I do get a sense of when I'm talking to people and or listening to people around that I don't know where it comes from or why. It's just a feeling I get, like there's something negative about working, getting paid hourly while also building something as if it's not as serious because you're doing it that way. But I think everyone has to look at their own personal situation. I have four children. We have a family.

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We're doing all kinds of things, not just building this. And if you don't have to, why stress about it? It feels good to, right now be able to build because I want to and be able to build how I want and take my time, whatever that looks like, versus, okay, mortgage is due. I need this much now, what can I do to create that right? I have to go get a client.

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That's such a horrible place to be. Yes, that energy. Absolutely. And I also remember, I am just having this flashback when my kids were little, they're grown with their own kids now, but I remember when they were in preschool and I had three boys like boom, boom, boom. And the youngest would, you know, the oldest who were in elementary school and the youngest would be in preschool.

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And I had like two and a half hours, three days a week. And let me tell you, I used to get so much stuff done in that two and a half hours. And I remember thinking, oh, when he goes to kindergarten, I'm going to get so much. I wasted the day away. And I still do.

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Sometimes if you have too much time, you can waste it. Yes, that is so true. Yeah. So I think, again, that's a reason why don't rush it. What is that theory of time expand.

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Or no, the Einstein time. I know Einstein time is the way they also talk about it. Yeah. What is that? It's about that the amount of things we're going to do or amount of time it takes to do something expands with the amount of time we have.

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Right. It's like the analogy of somebody calls normally it may take you all day to well, I love packing. A packing analogy I'm going to use actually instead of cleaning, but a packing analogy, like it can take me a week to pack for a vacation because I put it off. I hate packing, stresses me out. But if somebody called me up and said, oh, my gosh, I just won two tickets to Paris, but we have to leave in an hour, let me tell you, I could pack a suitcase.

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Absolutely, yes. And that's so true. So when you do have less time, I actually can attest you're right. I get so much more done when I know, okay, I have this much time, which is kind of how I have to operate now. I get up early before my kids do, and I have about an hour and a half, what am I going to do?

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And then that time sometimes we go to the YMCA and they get to play with their friends. I'm like, okay, I have an hour and a half. Like you just do what you have to do. But I do get more done that. Way you're not going to waste it because, you know, you have to get.

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Absolutely not a big goal. You big goals. Yes. So I wanted to talk a little bit about when you and I had talked before. You mentioned something that you had to overcome the poverty mindset of being an entrepreneur, but also that you were the first of your first in a generation to do a lot of things.

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I'd love to hear more about that. Regina yeah. So I know most people maybe that's a technical term of the poverty mindset has a lot to do with money. For me, it is in so many avenues, it's more about, yes, money, but also just scarcity thinking. And this bar that can be very low depending upon how you grew up.

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And so for me, being beautiful family and I am an advocate for we do what we can with the tools we have. So I keep that in mind. But in my family, I am the first generation to do lots of things, including college. And even how I raise my children is very different from my family. I've taken on conscious parenting fully, and that's not how I was raised and not even how I raised my first two when they were younger.

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So born into a situation or a family where the bar was very low of what people did and how we got about and what we can create in the world, I didn't really have any high expectations of myself. So even going and finished high school is a huge deal. Right. So when you're thinking of doing something beyond that, it's just not in your periphery to really think about when those things aren't. I mean, you got people who are living, trying to survive and trying to make ends meet, and they're working a lot.

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People aren't, especially when I was younger. I feel like my generation, we're doing better. But these kinds of conversations weren't had with your children, for the most part, about who you can be and how you can do that and really pushing that bar and building up the thoughts in a child's mind that they can do whatever however they want. So even something simple as being nurtured to always work for someone was in my family, it wasn't really talked about that, hey, we can create our own businesses and do what we want, and you can do something that you've not even seen before, and that's because they weren't told that, right. So having to overcome that when you grow up, hearing things like money doesn't grow on trees and you don't have enough, and we can't do this because we don't have the money and there's never enough and all that, that becomes your belief system.

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So as an adult, when I got out and I operated in that same mindset, like, I got myself in a lot of financial trouble and learned very quickly that I wouldn't be able to get ahead with poor credit. And poor money habits and, oh, hearing and seeing. I know social media. A lot of people don't really care for it. But seeing that technology allows you to see what's possible now and what people are doing.

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And so as a young adult, when I'm learning that, it just really opened my mind to a lot of not only what I was taught or not taught, but what I was teaching and not teaching my kids about possibility. And so when I decided that I wanted to get my finances together, I was hit with all of the money habits. I had learned spending habits, I had learned, thoughts about money that tend to get in the way, and they didn't progress me forward. So I had to challenge myself on that and really create new thoughts for myself that were very uncomfortable at first and the same for even jumping out into entrepreneurship. My family, it is amazing and awesome if you go to college and you get a job and that's that you stay there till you retire.

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So when I started toying with the idea of, well, I don't really have to build this retirement account or put all my money at it because I don't plan on retiring as a nurse. I plan on retiring. I plan on working for myself and having lots of money. And retirement just looks differently in that way where I don't wait until I'm 67 or whatever the age is to get a paycheck that was very uncomfortable. And talking to people that I've grown up with or people in my family, it's actually crazy.

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And so having to surround myself with new thought processes and new people and people who thought like that was very powerful for me. So I don't know that I would say I've actually superseded and got through it because I'm still hit with those old thought patterns often, and I have to take a moment and think of the thoughts that I created for myself to push me forward. So it's an everyday process, especially when you're raising kids, so you have to make sure that you're creating that thought process for them as well. But it shows up a lot in entrepreneurship, because, again, I have to create my own standard, my own standard of operations and things like that, where when I'm working for someone or being raised, you just go to work, you do what they say, and you retire and all is well, right? Which I think is a mindset.

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A lot of us or a lot of people were brought up in that. Again, you've made it. If you get that college degree and then you go get the job and there's no real thought to the fact that you may be a few years into your career and realize, this is not how I want to live. This is not fulfilling my cup, this is not what I thought it was going to be. And then to think about, well, now, stepping into entrepreneurship is such a foreign thought for so many people because, again, their family, that's what they did.

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And it didn't matter whether or not you enjoyed the job, right? Just like you have a good job, you get paid well. Why would you walk away from that? You get a good retirement. Like, I hear that all the time.

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Go ahead. I was just when you said good retirement, like the job that I had left to do contract work was a very that was your retirement gig, so yeah, I got that for sure. And I don't think much is like if people decide they want to do that, that's great, but we're just living an era where you don't have to. You can just really do anything now. Yes, absolutely.

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And changing that mindset. I just did a podcast a few weeks ago and I talked about this crease. I take a piece of paper and just fold it in half. And that's the crease. That's the mindset, the thoughts that we've grown up with and we've heard over and over and over again.

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So they are deep in our brain because we've heard them so much. That, again, a good job if you have the security, which that was thrown out the window even before COVID that we realized there are no secure jobs. Right. Or that retirement or health benefits and all these things. But like you just said, there's so many possibilities today.

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So it's creating a new crease. I say just flip the paper, create a new crease. Yeah. Which can be really hard. But I agree with you mindset, it's like 100%.

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And it's just really realizing that you can do no more than what you think. And so kind of really thinking about what do you want? How are you going to get it? Can you believe you can do it? What things can you tell yourself as you're working towards it?

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It's all about your own thoughts. And so I had to kind of really separate myself from the thoughts that I grew up with and just create new ones. And by way of seeing at first, it's kind of like who else is doing it? What's possible when you're reaching out and doing some new stuff and then realizing that all of it. And I didn't teach myself this.

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I'm learning from lots of people, joe, Dispenza, Bob, all kinds of people that have shared their story and or continue to help us to see that for ourselves. But I just make sure that I surround myself with people of that mindset so that mine continues to grow that way. Yeah. So important. I was going to ask you, how did you break from that mindset originally that you were brought up in?

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And again, we're not bashing anybody's doing the best they can with what they have. I mean, oh my gosh, I'm sure my kids could do a year's worth of podcasts and all the mistakes I've made as a parent, right? Yeah, I agree.

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But breaking free from it for me. Yeah, you're right. It stays there. It's something that's very familiar and maybe in 20 years or something, maybe it won't be, but it's very familiar. But I think making it logical, like if you're looking at your situation or the thoughts that you used to believe or the thoughts that you're trying to change now?

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Really just thinking of an illogical way of like, where do those thoughts come from? And that makes sense, and where am I trying to go and do those thoughts? Will they serve me? Every belief we have is just a thought that we choose to believe. So what thought am I having or can I create for myself to help me move forward?

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And sometimes I'm like grasping at straws, right? Because I'm trying to create this myself, oftentimes alone. But that's when you pull in your resources and take a moment also just to kind of be at peace. I really try to spend a lot of time alone about what is it that I want and visualizing my future for myself and not again grasping onto something else that someone else told me I should do. So where did you learn all that initially?

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Do you remember where did it start from? Yeah, so I have always been a reader. I've always been a deep thinker, and I think that that caused me to run into different things. So I've never really watched much TV and things like that, but I'm reading a book or I'm listening to a podcast and you just get so much information from there. And I feel this really became serious when I heard about Bob Proctor.

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I think maybe one of his videos maybe flashed across on YouTube and I was just like, whoa, what do you mean we get to decide our thoughts? What do you mean? Every thought that comes in, I don't have to agree with or I can decide to change one. It was just mind blown for me. So I actually did a lot of his seminars that he has done in the past.

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I probably have watched every video he has. And repetition is really how you learn. So a lot of the things that I would listen to and still today, I continue to learn and relearn and listen to and listen to over and over. Because when you listen to something once, it's different when you listen to it a second or third time because you're a different person. So Bob Proctor, Joe Dispenza.

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Who else would I say? There's so many. I mean, if you just look them up, you'll probably get some other ones. Some of my favorite my favorite first book I think on this kind of thing is Think and Grow Rich. It can be a hard read at first, but I've read it a couple of times and I love that book because it does just that.

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It helps us to assess where our current thoughts are and kind of really make sense of where we are and then be able to kind of creep into the possibilities of the future and help us to see how do you create that for yourself and how do you stick with it as well. Right? Yeah, great recommendations. Great recommendations. And it's so important that we can create that new mindset, but we do have to plug into a new way of thinking.

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We can't do it alone.

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I'm not sure that I would have ever done that alone in my environment. Because it's all submerged in, right? Yeah. To break free, they say we become like the five people we hang around. And if everybody's in that same mindset, whether it's family, friends, coworkers, it's very hard to break free.

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And that's why it's so important to put yourself, even if it is virtually there's. A lot of people that I follow, they have no idea that they mentored me. Yeah, absolutely. And then when you first hearing something for the first time, it can be foreign, and I don't agree with that or no way. But when you really come with an open mind and you are trying to understand something, I truly believe the universe brings all of what you need to you.

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And so just keep adding in, before you know it, it'll be your new way of thinking. Absolutely. Great advice. And I love that what you just said too, about the universe will bring us what we need, and we just have to ask for it. Now may not bring you a million dollars, it doesn't work that way.

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But if you're looking for a coach or you're looking for a money mentor, you're looking for something, just keep asking for it. I would pray for it. And it's amazing how when we open and expand our brain, we start to see what's already there. It's there, we're just not seeing it because we haven't spoken it. It's kind of like Facebook.

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Yeah, Facebook does that today. If you just say that you're looking for a new vacuum cleaner, you're going to see. Absolutely.

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And when it comes to asking or looking, like even in prayer and all of that, I truly believe in being in the presence of it already happening and almost just gratitude for what already is to come. Expand on that a little bit. Regina, what does that look like? Yeah. In the work that I've been doing, actually, this is work I'm studying with Joe Dispenza in learning and that our mind only knows the present oftentimes and it goes a lot deeper.

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But when we are constantly in a space of, oh, I can't wait until or when that happens, our current thought is that it's over there. And so that's how it will always be. But when you think about it so if someone's like, I want to have all my debt paid off, when you think about that deeper and you ask the questions, well, if all of my debt was paid off right now, how would I be? Who would I be? How would I speak to people?

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How would I think about money? How would I spend my time? What would I do in my long time? And just really embody that person. I think it's Jim Rohn or.

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I might be saying his name wrong, I might have to totally different person. But there was a quote like, you don't become who you want, you become who you are. And it's just like whoever you want to be, try to be that person right now. Like every day walk in that and that becomes who you are. Such great advice.

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And I think that goes back to what we were talking about in the beginning of this conversation of the fact that you are still a nurse, but you're also a life coach and you're being happy in both of. Them versus that person that I see this and I've coached them, or the people that like, oh, I hate my job, and that just gives up. Again, it goes back to that bad energy. So how kind of the same thing with the money. Like if you could change that mindset, what you just said about how would you live if you were doing, if you were in your true calling, how would you show up each day?

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Yeah, because that's all you ever are. It's who you are right now. And a lot of us do waste time and thought our thoughts on oh, and this and that, and it's never better over there than it is here. It's just different problems, maybe on a bigger scale, but I did have to learn that in my nursing when I first decided I'm going to do something else. You do kind of get like, oh, well, not that this is beneath me, but like, oh, this will just be temporary.

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And I had to really decide like, wow, hold on, I'm a life coach and I show up for people, but I'm half asking the job, what kind of life coach is that? And I had to really think of who am the best person that I can be. Doesn't just show up as a life coach, or show up at home, or show up when things are going well. This is the person I am all the time. Whether I'm as a nurse, a life coach, a mom at the grocery store, it doesn't matter.

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So I really try to embody the energy of who I am. I love that so much. Yeah, that's great advice. So if you're listening to this and you take one thing away, I think what Regina just shared is so powerful. If you can just show up and embody who you want to be no matter what role you're playing at that given moment.

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Because we all play a lot of roles in our lives. Yeah, absolutely. So why did you decide to become a life coach?

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So I myself have had to overcome a lot in my life and push through. And I think most people have talked to most people in their thirty s at least they have had a story, they got some kind of story. And so that's not really new. But I also have been able to look at those situations and assess them and find how many of those, if not all, have kind of molded me into the person I am today. So I think that when I'm talking to clients or even people out about their past and things that oftentimes people are living in that and they aren't really creating the life they want.

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A lot of people live life just as it comes instead of with intention. And most of that comes from, I believe, just a lack of education we get as kids in school. And this is just not something that we're taught that we really get to create what we want to be and what we want to do. And as a nurse, I can practice those skills for sure, but everything is heavily on the health part of the person. Of course, it's also a job.

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So I have several patients and I don't get to really do life coaching at work by itself. I have a job that I'm doing. So with a nursing, I can help people in the health aspect. And that's just not my calling personally, in my mind, I believe that our minds are the most important thing. Because if you can get your mind together and if you can create the thoughts you want and you can create the beliefs that will have you eating healthier, have you taking care of yourself, everything stems from our thoughts.

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And so when I thought of how I can do the most good for the most people, it would be to help people to identify and assess their own thinking. But another part of that is I truly believe that once we understand how we treat children and we learn to treat them as human beings and as property and all kinds of things that we're taught to do in this country, then we really change the world. Because every adult that's struggling or anyone in power or in any level can talk about some things that have happened in childhood or how they were treated or everything stems from our childhood and what we were nurtured to believe was true. And we can treat children as human beings, and we can treat them equally and teach them the things that we're out here talking about as young children. It becomes like second nature for them.

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And you don't have to wait to 30s or 40s or even beyond to get it together. So to answer it clearly, I think that our minds are the most important things that we have. And so I want to help people identify what it is they want to choose on purpose for their life. I like that. And I would imagine my husband's in the he just retired from being a battalion chief on the fire department, but he still does some EMS stuff and we talk my daughter in law is a doctor, so we talk a lot about there's always talk about I'm not in the health world, but that's in our family.

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Yeah. And I am in the mindset world more like you. But I bet you see firsthand that correlation of how the mind makes us sick. Oh, absolutely. Yes, absolutely.

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All the time. All the time you have. And people think it's age, and of course, age has some hindrance, but we've got 95 year olds that walk them out every day or even more, and they happen to fall, and so that's why they're here. But those kinds of people always have a positive mindset. They always are grateful.

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They're kind, they have a story like the rest of us. And then you might see someone in their 20s or 30s that have lots of medical issues going on, but oftentimes those people have been through a lot, maybe haven't processed that. They also don't practice any healthy habits usually. So I do believe although our health care system for sure needs lots of work at being preventative and not reactive, I do believe that if we all were able to grow up in a world or even learn early on the power of our minds and also what it means to be healthy and not just physically. I do believe we'd see so much different story in health care, for sure.

00:34:55
Yeah. And just the positivity, the positive mindset of just how we look at life. And I'm just thinking, my daughter in law's, one of my daughter in law's grandmother just passed away, and they just celebrated her 90th birthday. And as sad as the loss is, I can't help but think, isn't that how we all want to go? To have the family?

00:35:26
All was there to celebrate her life, really, while she was still alive pretty much two weeks previous to her passing. But she was such a spitfire, like, just so full of life. And, yes, her body was physically breaking down, but mentally, she was just fun and a little crazy in a fun way. And just so much you love to be in her space. I feel honored that we got to know her.

00:36:05
And then I look at some other people who, whether they be 40, 50, 60, that it's so toxic to be in there, and they're the ones taking all the pills or taking all the having the health issues. And just our mind and how we look at life and how we treat life and how we treat others just makes such a difference. Makes such a difference. Yeah. And the science, I mean, we have science now to prove that the mind body connection, and they're very much in line, and so we have trauma and things that we don't process, they become deceased.

00:36:47
So there's lots of things out there about that, for sure. But I definitely know what you mean. I can just, in my years of work, can pick up on the different types of people in just a few moments. So from my experience, I 100% agree that that definitely has a correlation, for sure. Yeah.

00:37:04
Not to say that again. I've also met many vibrant people who well, my own mother passed away very young from cancer, 57. She was very vibrant and positive, but sometimes the bad health sneaks in there. But even her process of dealing with that was very positive and worried about always taking care of everybody else. So it is just the mind just is baffling.

00:37:30
It really is. It's so interesting to me how much it does affect so much of what we do, how we show up our bodies.

00:37:44
Yeah. And I just sometimes wonder how much people who are they don't have the growth mindset or the fixed mindset and or victim mindset and things like that. How much of those people I have not done a research or even read up on it. I just wonder how much of those people, how much they know, I guess, about how powerful our thoughts are when I am talking to people about that. And they tend to be those kinds of people when I am talking to them.

00:38:12
It's very foreign to them. Very foreign. Definitely. They haven't changed the crease in their paper, in their brain. Yeah.

00:38:22
And I think that it's one of those things. If you don't know, if you don't know, you don't know. Exactly. These kinds of conversations become like everyday conversations, even from very little kids, very small. It just becomes a norm, like other things.

00:38:36
Right. And I love the image. And you alluded to this earlier, too, Regina, that I think you and I both got this mindset stuff later in life. It sounds like it wasn't the way. And my mother was very positive, and my dad was an entrepreneur after he retired from the military, so I had that.

00:39:00
But I didn't get into the whole mindset things and listening to following different people until I was into my 20s. But then I was able to pass that on to our kids. And I see that I see that again. Not that there hasn't been trouble, not that there hasn't been issues. It's not perfect.

00:39:19
I'm not saying that at all. But I see how now they approach life, and they're willing to try things. They've all tried and failed, and they got back up and tried again until they found their thing. And I just can't help but imagine, what would the world look like 20 years from now if people like you and I, people listening to this, people raising their kids in this more positive mindset and teaching them that your mind can control so much on how we experience the world. What would that next generation look like?

00:40:01
Oh, man, it would be endless. And tag on that failure is part of life. I think that we, from early on, from schools and even how we raise our children, teach kids that failure is not good. Doing something wrong is not good. And so a lot of us I talk to a lot of people who would love to have their own business, but it all loses to fear.

00:40:22
Fear of rejection, fear of failure, sometimes fear of success. And so when we think of that, like, if that was the thought process that, oh, yeah, I'm supposed to fail. How many times can I fail this year to get closer to what it is I'm supposed to do, then people would definitely go out in a whim and try more things for themselves. Right. I can't remember who it was.

00:40:45
May have been, dear. I don't think it was Darren Hardy. I don't know. Somebody I followed to that or had followed in the past. I remember him talking about his dad at the dinner table.

00:40:55
I think there were three kids. And one of the things they had to share was what they failed at that day.

00:41:04
And that was how they were raised. That if you're not again, if you're not failing at something, you're living too much in your comfort zone, in your safety zone. Exactly. You're not pushing yourself. Yes, I love that.

00:41:16
I love that. Yeah. So we could do a whole nother podcast on fears and failure. Fear. Failure, fear, success.

00:41:25
Totally. That's a whole nother one. But our time here is coming to an end. So any advice? Because this podcast is about finding your true calling.

00:41:37
And just like you did with your life coaching and being able to combine your passion for mindset with your wanting to help people like you do with as a nurse, I see how that led to that. But any advice for somebody that is listening and they're trying to figure out, like, okay, how do I break from maybe that poverty mindset? How do I break free from my own crease in my brain, the thoughts? How do I break free and have the courage to start something new? All those things that stay in our head, any advice for them?

00:42:15
Regina. So I would say just by thinking about my journey and other people that I've talked to, awareness is key. I think that if we make a decision in our minds that we want to change something, change something, and we become aware of that, then we start being aware of the thoughts that we have that come across on a daily basis. We start being aware of the things we say, the places we go, the things we watch. And I would also say that nothing changes until you change.

00:42:47
And so oftentimes when people want to if they're doing the same mundane things every day and they want to change something and they're not sure how, there are so many resources out there find you someone. I mean, you can even YouTube positive mindsets. How to change a positive mindset. So really, the question is, how much time are you spending on your growth each day? I really think that boils down to that because I can give you ten ways to do something.

00:43:15
And Sheri, I'm sure you can give another ten ways and we can all because none of our journey looks alike. But I will say that we are intentional with what we do with our time. And so whether that be reading a book by someone that's talking about the mind and how we change it, our habits and goal setting and all of that are watching that, or are you spending hours just browsing on? Netflix and YouTube and social media, which there's no judgment at all there. But we only have a certain amount of time.

00:43:45
And what are you doing with it? So I think that that'd be the first thing I'd say, is that to carve out time each day for your own personal growth, I'd say to definitely have self compassion. I don't see much being created when we are self critical, we're compassionate and we create from abundance, things will come. And really just trusting where you are, I truly believe that where you are is where you should be. And the moment you decide you want to do something different, we can create that.

00:44:12
But as you had alluded to earlier, when you're operating like, oh, I got to do this, I need to do that, it can become very overwhelming. And so there's millions of resources out there and that can be overwhelming as well. But just kind of set aside time to do some self growth each day and really kind of attach yourself onto something that you can really jive with, who you may listen to, I might not care for, and vice versa. But once you find something, even if it's five to ten minutes a day, because it will grow exponentially, you will see the difference in the way that. You think 100% agree with everything you just shared, that being intentional, and just start plugging into something, even if it is five to ten minutes a day.

00:44:57
One of the habits I created a long time ago and it almost feels weird if I don't do that is while I'm getting ready in the morning in the bathroom, doing my skincare, putting on some makeup, I listen to something positive that's going to set the tone for the day. And like I said, that's a habit I created. That's a simple habit. Start there. And as a reminder, because your podcast does talk about mindset, it might be the perfect place to start.

00:45:28
Remind the listeners what the name of your podcast is again. Yeah, sure. It's mom to achieve. It should be on every platform, and. I'll put the link in the show notes and if people want to connect with you or follow you, what's the best place to find you?

00:45:46
Regina. Sure. So I can be emailed at regina@momstoolachieve.com. Also I'm on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube under Momtoo Achieve. Excellent.

00:45:59
And again, we will put that in the show notes and follow regina's got some good stuff. So I love what you're putting out there, and I applaud you for everything you're doing. And, holy cow, you got a lot going on with kids, from little to teens. You got all the challenges happening and the fact that you are achieving things. Just keep doing what you're doing, Regina, and you got a lot of great things to share with the world.

00:46:28
So thank you for being here. Thank you. I appreciate that. Absolutely.

00:46:37
All right. For the editor, this is the part for the patreon. So welcome back to our discovering your calling. Fans here. Thank you for being a patron.

00:46:47
And we have a special extra little bonus training for you from Regina Sloan, who is a life coach, and she shares a lot of mindset, and she has this great tool that she's used that she learned all around, the Stick Man. And I just love this concept because I think it really makes it simple to figure out how our mind works. So, Regina, I'm going to give you the floor if you want to take it away and share a little bit about who the Stick Man is, why we need to know this. Yeah, okay. Hey, everybody.

00:47:20
I'm Regina. So, as Sheri said, this is called the stick man. And I'll start by saying if I tell you think of your car or think of your house or think of your oldest child, I'm going to guess that you all thought of the picture of what your car, your house and your child looked like. And so our mind thinks in pictures. And Bob Proctor was who I was studying when I first discovered this stick.

00:47:52
Man. And he had talked about how when he was doing his work, it was very difficult for him to put the picture together. He kind of knew a little bit about how the mind works and how we create action and our thoughts and all that, but he just wasn't able to compile it into one. And he met with a doctor, I believe his name was Dr. Fleet, who created this image for him to kind of put all of it in one, because we do think in images.

00:48:15
And so when you think of the mind, a lot of us think of our brain, but it's not our brain. And so he created this image to give us something to really think about when we're processing our thoughts and how all of that leads to our actions. And so I also have I kind of created a handout that I'll get to Sheri that you can use as well while listening to this. But he basically just imagine, literally a circle and split that circle in half. And the top half of that circle is your conscious mind, and that's your intellectual mind.

00:48:47
So when we think of our conscious mind, this is the thoughts that we are thinking. Like, I'm talking to you now. I know that consciously I'm talking to you guys. And these are where thoughts come in. So thoughts can come from by way of other people.

00:49:01
Thoughts can come from you heard someone say something or they just come out of nowhere, or you can create your own thoughts. And so energy is coming in that way to our conscious mind. And this is where we get to decide on purpose if these thoughts are beliefs. And oftentimes we don't necessarily know that. We're taking the time to say, is this a belief?

00:49:24
I want to believe. It just happens very quickly. But when we bring them on and we accept them as our belief, I believe that thought. So my mug here is Teal. That's my belief.

00:49:35
And so when you accept thoughts, they go into your subconscious mind, which is the second half of that circle. And the power of the conscious mind is you have the ability to choose. You can choose what you believe, you could choose what you accept. Higher faculties are there as well, which is a time for another training or six of those though. But your subconscious mind does not have that ability.

00:50:00
Our subconscious mind cannot decide if something's true and if it's not, everything that is accepted and goes to our subconscious mind is true. And the big thing about that is that children up until about age seven, they don't operate. They just assume that their conscious mind is not there. Their subconscious mind is wide open. So that's why it's important for us to think about and be aware of the things that our children are seeing, what they're learning, what we're telling them, all of what's happening.

00:50:30
Because as adults we can see a show or we can see something happen and we can know because we can decide. Is that true for me? Is it not? But our children can't. So in your subconscious mind, once something is brought onto that level, it's now your truth.

00:50:44
And that this is where we talk about our paradigms, our deep belief, our belief systems. And these things are done by repetition, over and over when we're kids. So those are those as you move and you grow and you try to change things, those are those thoughts and those beliefs that we have to work harder at changing for ourselves. Now, our subconscious mind is where our feelings, our thoughts become our feelings. And a lot of people explain this a lot of different ways, but we have a thought come in through our conscious mind.

00:51:18
It's accepted, it's now in our subconscious mind there's some kind of feeling that's generated and that can be felt through the body, through vibrations. Every feeling is just a vibration. But those feelings are what drives your action. So on this stick, man, you have the big circle that's kind of like the head, and you have the conscious mind, the subconscious mind, and then you have a smaller circle. It'll be better when you see this in the image, but it's the body.

00:51:43
So like us actually operating and doing things. And so that's when you're seeing what the person is doing and it's kind of a symbol of you're seeing what the results are like the results, the fruit of your labor. And so when people are doing things and the actions that they're taking are resemblance of their subconscious mind. So you can always tell what's going on in our subconscious mind by way of the actions that we take, the things that we do and the results that we have. And I think that's all I want to say about that, to keep it very simple.

00:52:15
Is there any questions you think that may come up? Sheri so yes, one thing would be, and I love the image of it, how do we break the thoughts that we have? And I don't know if you can do that in a few minutes or not. I know that's a much bigger process, but I'm sure that's one of the thoughts that people have is like well, how do I break into bigger creating better thoughts for myself? Sure.

00:52:45
So there's a lot of different ways I would really suggest people to look up Bruce Lipton, he does an amazing job of showing you how to basically change those deep seated belief systems that we have. He has three ways that he talks about, and I believe I mentioned this in our podcast as well. One of them is the same way that was done through childhood hypnosis actually, because when we're kids that's pretty much what's happening up until the age seven or so when you're able to start thinking for yourself. And so people do self hypnosis. You can hypnotize yourself while you're sleep.

00:53:21
And that's say that for example, if I have a deep belief that I can't stop overeating or that I'm always going to be overweight, you can create something of your voice saying I make healthy eating habits, I make healthy eating choices and things like that. And you listen to that over and over again. That's hypnosis. And it can change your thoughts. Because when we're sleeping, our subconscious mind is also very much at the top while we're sleeping.

00:53:52
Another is by repetition. So just as someone's practicing something and they get better and better and better. This is the same thing. If you identify a thought, a thought that you have or that's a belief that you have that you'd like to change, you want to be aware of the belief that you want to have and repeat that and become emotionally involved when you repeat it. So the difference between saying affirmations just off the whim and you're saying it every day, you want to make sure you have deep emotion, emotional connection to that.

00:54:20
Because it's actually the emotions that we have that connects to in our subconscious mind and then become our results by way of how we act and what we do, you have to be emotionally connected in order to believe something. And the third way is a second to look this up because it's actually a new it's actually a new concept and he calls it so it's three ways to reprogram. It's a new concept where they actually use energy and body mechanics. And he has it on his website to help us change those things for ourselves. And you can go to experts that do them and then you can also learn to do them at home.

00:55:06
I don't see it right here right now, but I think that when you post it, I'll continue the video where he talks about it. It's not something that I have done, but he has an entire network of people that do this all over the world and it's a new practice. It's definitely science based that it's very quick in changing those deep belief systems by energy work. That sounds fascinating. So that will be something I'd love to be able to share with people.

00:55:33
And I'm curious now about that myself. Yeah, it's extremely interesting, but what can we do on an everyday basis? You have to be aware of the thoughts that you have. If you aren't aware of the belief system or the belief that you have that's maybe hindering you from doing something or changing, then you can't get anywhere with it. So once you're aware of that, then you can work towards it.

00:55:57
Bob Proctor also, when I was doing this work, he gave a really good example of if you think of your thermostat in your home and if, say, it's set at 70 in your home and it's in the middle of the winter and it's the outside, that when you open your door and it turns to it's 50 degrees. Now in your house, your thermostat automatically turns on because that's what it's supposed to do to get you back to 70. And he speaks about that's, how our brain and our mind works, that if I have a very deep belief that I'm always going to be overweight, that I can't change that about myself, then that's where you see people on the yoyo diets and they might lose 15 to 20 pounds and they gain it right back. Because my deep seated belief is that I am overweight. I can't lose weight and all that.

00:56:44
So when I do start taking the pounds off, we get into this spot where I'm uncomfortable, my mind is uncomfortable because this is not usually who I am and how I am and it does everything it can to get me back to that comfortable state. That's important to know because we need to be ready and embrace the discomfort in change. When you try to change something, your brain is very powerful and it will do everything it can to get you to go back to what it's used to, even if it's not serving you. And it's very. Unhealthy.

00:57:15
I'm so glad you brought up all of these thoughts because, one, you address that Affirmations. We've heard so many things about affirmations, but it really is the energy and that you have to have that, like, in a positive tense and really believe that in your core and not just say it, that the energy has to be there with that. It has to have that feeling in there. So that was such great advice and thermostat analogy that makes so much sense. I love that because we are how our brain works, we're going to fall back onto what we know because that's where it's comfortable.

00:57:56
Yeah, because our brain is not really I heard a quote that was very powerful. It said, your brain is not here to help you thrive. It's only to help you survive. And so when we think of how our brain works, it doesn't want you doing anything uncomfortable, which would be anything new. When we're trying to grow, all of that can be uncomfortable.

00:58:12
So it's always going to try to get you to do less work, do something less comfortable, put yourself out there, less so, anything that's easy. And so we have to be able to overcome those thoughts. And I think that by being aware that that thing is going to come, that uncomfortable feeling is going to come. And that's when you get thoughts of, oh, it doesn't matter. I can try again later with anything.

00:58:33
This is our brain trying to get us back to being comfortable. Yeah. Such great advice. Such great advice. I know we could go on and on and on and talking about mindset.

00:58:45
We both love that so much. And we both have studied this for a while, but I love what you've shared. Thank you for that. Thank you for sharing the stick man concept and the visual. We'll have a link so people can link up and connect with you to get that PDF and also the link for more details on the other information you wanted to share.

00:59:07
Bruce Lifting yes, I'll definitely share the video, for sure. Well, thank you, Regina, for taking this extra time to do a little bit of Mindset training with the patrons. And thank you to our patrons for supporting the Discovering Your Calling podcast. We appreciate you for everything. Thank you.