Why I paid someone $14k that I unfriended. [195]

Why I paid someone $14k that I unfriended.

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It all came down to me being a raving fan.

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I am coming to you live from Las Vegas or Elvis themed room and called to talk about something this morning and how to make this make sense. About nine months ago, I was following somebody, I was friends with them on Facebook. And she kept putting these posts out about having million dollar months. And it annoyed me so that it was triggering me so bad that I had to unfollow her all she was doing was talking about the money, the money, the money, the money, the money. And it was triggering me so bad, like, to the point where I felt inadequate to the point that I felt like, that's impossible, that can't even happen. And so I unfriended her. Never thought anything about it, I found a coach that I started working with and really grew, not only my money mindset, but what was possible. And so many things over the last eight months. Towards the end of the eighth month of working with my last coach, this person popped up on my Instagram. And at first I said, she started attracting me from her Instagram, like her content was different. And I was like saying it was all her. And what I found out now that I can see and I can look back, is that it had nothing to do with her content being different. It truly had to do with my growth. The growth that I had, in this eight month period, that I could see that a million dollar month was possible that I could see that these things are really happening. And that there is no impossibilities, right when it comes to I've been in this world for four years where, you know, everybody's just trying to reach 10k months, and we can't really think anything really much higher than that maybe a 30k month, right. But as someone who has made 24 consecutive 15 to 30k months, right? Like I thought that was my upper limit, right? I didn't think anything was possible. After that. I thought I was I was here, and there was no real where else I could really go. And so when I stumbled upon this code, originally, all the triggers happened, right? I unfriended her. I was like, I can't deal with this content. Like it's annoying me. It's bothering me. And then I find her again on a different platform. And I'm, like, intrigued, right, and I start reading every post, let me be very clear. I am a lurker at this point. I'm not giving her any instant gratification because I didn't want to be in her environment, or in her energy on Facebook, right? So I start reading all of her content. And I'm like, Oh my gosh, like I'm, I'm feeling something and it's not triggered anymore, right? Like, I'm feeling like this pole, I'm feeling like this activation, I'm feeling like this is making me want to move this is making me want to do bigger things. This is making me want to do things that I never thought were possible. And so the first thing I did is I joined a $12,000 a year membership, like literally for a membership, no proximity. And I just wanted to learn from her. She has grown multiple Instagram accounts, she's attracted all this all these people. And again, it was just like, pulling me in so hard. And so I wanted to be in proximity. So I paid $12,000 for a membership, not a mastermind friends, a membership with just monthly trainings. That's it. And it was a big huge, like, Okay, this is this is different for me, I've never done this before. I've taped pay $12,000 for a mastermind, but never like where I don't get proximity. And so I went through four of her live trainings, and then I literally just started listening in the background to all of her content, and was like all the old content that she had or not content, but all the old trainings that she had. And I just kept like, listening and listening and and, and implementing and executing and all these things. And she had this eight week program that came on. And I was like, How much is it? And she was like, it's 14,000. I'm like, Oh, I don't have $14,000 Like just to throw out right? Just you know, all that money has places it can go. And I realized I've never been that person who said, I can't afford something. Like how can I make this work? How can I find a way to pay her $14,000 for eight weeks, which is about seven grand a month. And so I figured it out. I was at this conference with 5000 people and my business bestie we were in the room and I was telling her it's like it's crazy. It's crazy. Like I can't even believe that I'm considering doing this. That's the craziest thing I've ever done. But I'm feeling so pulled. I'm feeling so attracted to her like I want to be in her proximity. I want to learn from her. I want to know it's not even about the money. It's like, it's like, how has she done so much? Right? We literally started around the same time. And I'm like, how is she? How is she quantum leaps more than I have, right? And I want to figure out how this is working and how this is happening. And I want to be in her energy, I want to be around this. And so I made the decision that I was going to do it. And I did it. And it was, again, the scariest thing, it's still very uncomfortable for me because it's, you know, it's$14,000 for eight weeks, like, that's insane. But I used to look at containers like this, that I'm gonna, I'm gonna make it back. I'm gonna make it back 10 fold, I'm gonna make it back. And I normally do. But I had an epiphany. And I had this growth moment where it's not about making the money back. It's about the growth. Who am I going to look like in eight weeks? Not physically. But who am I going to be? What's the growth that's going to happen there? It's going to be mind blowing. I plan on quantum leaping in eight weeks, will my revenue follow? Maybe it's not the point. The point is the growth and the journey that I go on and these eight weeks. And what I want you to know is that I've been preaching so much about content. And her content didn't change. I unfriended her on Facebook, because she annoyed me. And she triggered me and she made me feel things that I wasn't, I didn't know how to feel, right. I didn't think was possible. But then after I went to paying, like from $1,000 program a month to paying like 3333 For my last coach, like I was halfway to the new price point, right. And so I could see where I had blocked, I can see where I had where I got to do more growth. And I she became an attractive character for me, and I've talked about this before, but a content didn't change. I changed. And so when I talk so much about content when you talk about attracting your person, they may not be attracted to you the first time they see you. They may unfriend you. But when we hold the energy when we hold the power when we hold the competence that we know who we are. When we show up and have them feel something, yes, I felt triggered at first. So I had a reaction. I unfriended. The second time I found her I felt activated. I felt like I was ready to move. I felt like I was ready to make bigger moves. I felt like I wanted to like just like run a marathon, right? Like I wanted to do this. I wanted to sprint I was ready. And that's the same thing that happens in your content. Someone may not be ready. And it's not our job to make people move who are not ready. If people are not ready to move, it is not our job to make them move. They have to desire, the willingness to be ready to move. I wasn't ready to move because I couldn't fathom what she was talking about. I couldn't see the possibilities. But eight months later, I could. That is why I am so passionate about visibility. And it's not video friends. I'm not talking visibility is how you are seen by your audience. Visibility is how you show up visibility is so much more than video. It is the content behind your video. It is how you were talking to your audience. It is how you are sharing with your audience is how you show up. It is being authentic. It is being real raw and sometimes sharing the ugly. And we miss out on so much of that we miss out on attracting so many people because we are being so sugar. We're sugarcoating everything right? We're trying to be like everybody else. And we are afraid to be transparent with our audience. We are afraid to be real and honest. Mark Islam luminosities that can't remember his name. He ran the profit at MSNBC. The number the two things that cause entrepreneurs to fail, to not succeed and be where they want to be. If they aren't transparent with anybody, and they're not honest with anybody or themselves. We hold back we have all these layers and we're hiding. You're hiding. When it comes to your content, you're not attracting your person. If you're hiding when it comes to how you show up and I don't mean video, I'm not talking video friends. It's so much deeper. If you're hiding You're doing your audience a disservice. People feel like they are allowed to be honest, when they see leaders being honest, if you were trying to attract people, you get to be honest, you get to be transparent. And you give other people permission to do the same with themselves with their social media, whatever. But sometimes people can't make the next step with you and move with you until they're honest with themselves. And sometimes that starts as you being the first one to take that step and make that big move. But it all happens to your content. Your content is the first place that people see you and decide yes or no for me. The content is the thing that nurtures the people that are already following you. I will always create raving fans, I will always be improving my content, my visibility game. I am an expert at both. It doesn't mean I'm done learning. It doesn't mean I'm done. So the question is, are you ready to ignite your raving fans? Are you ready to show up and have people that maybe once didn't like, weren't interested in what you had to say, or unfriended you or unfollowed you come back around and see you again and be like, Dang, this isn't what I saw before. This is different. Whether they changed yours you change doesn't matter. Both can happen. Both should happen actually. Do you want raving fans? Are you ready to step it up? If you want ignite your raving fans, we start next week. It is a two week program and I am going to blow your mind and help you blow your own mind on how you show up on social media to ignite more people who want to be in your proximity to ignite more people who want to be around what you're doing to ignite more people who want to be in your energy. But we got to show up the right way first, we get to if you want in, drop our raving fans in the comments and I will make sure that I get you that link