Embracing Fears as Stepping Stones to Success [404]

What if your biggest fears and failures could actually be your stepping stones to success? That's what I discovered on my journey to overcome sales challenges and launches for my business. I used to dread the thought of appearing on video and was constantly burdened by the fear of embarrassment and failure. But as I mustered the courage to step into these fears, not only did I see a transformation in myself, but also in the impact I was able to have on my audience.

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Overcoming Sales Challenges and Embracing Vulnerability

Speaker 1 0:00

sponsored by Kat . She is the wellness guide to women over 40 who are ready to rediscover the healthy , vibrant women concealed beneath their exhausted , emotionally drained exterior , because this next chapter of your life deserves to be lived well . If that resonates with you , be sure to check her out on Instagram . Today I was teaching and I got really emotional , and when I teach anything that I've ever sucked at , I get emotional . Because I was never good at video , I was not willing to get on video , I wasn't given my chance to be good at video . I struggled with all of those things and when I finally pushed myself and actually ended up liking video and realizing the amount of transformation and the impact that it could have on your audience , it was a game changer . And today , as I was teaching a stories program , it's the story strategy . We were talking about sales and how I sell every day and my stories , and I can't teach that without all of the mindset and the journey and all of the hate and failure that I felt when it came to sell , selling and launching .

Speaker 1 1:36

Like had very big , very strong feelings like . So much so that in a baby Chrissy , toddler , chrissy move that I literally put my hands on my chest and said cross my arms across my chest rather , and literally said I'm not doing this anymore , I quit . I'm not quitting my business , but I quit selling and I quit launching , I'm done . And that move was very again toddler , amateur , chrissy because I didn't think there was a way to succeed at something that I felt like . I felt at and I mean honestly , looking back it's like such a joke . I mean I just only one person signed up for my inner circle and I had this , all these big feelings about and most of them . Now that I look back I can determine and I can identify that it was ego . It was totally ego because I was worried about what everybody else was thinking that I can only sell one spot in my inner circle Like such a big , like move to make , because my feelings were hurt . Really that's what it boils down to . My feelings were hurt and I felt like I looked stupid in front of other people . And so now , looking back , I know that it was ego . Then I had no idea , I just thought it was a failure . But now I can , I can differentiate that .

Speaker 1 3:06

But when I'm in this program and I'm teaching people how to sell every single day , I can't not tell the story and I cannot feel the emotions of that time and I can't like , I can't not want to support and serve and help people realize that I don't want them to experience what I experience . You know , it's like you don't know what a failed launch feels like until you fail right . You don't know what being scared of video feels like until you try . You don't know what crappy sales feels like until you put yourself out there . Like you can say you have crappy sales all day long , but if you're actually not selling , then that's the reason why .

Speaker 1 3:51

But when you put yourself out there and you get vulnerable and you put yourself in front of people where you're trying to sell things and then it doesn't work , you feel like a massive failure and just remembering how I felt and how embarrassed I felt and how low I felt and how inadequate I felt , like talking about sales today , like I really over delivered because I didn't really mean to say that much . But it's just . I can't not get emotional about it because as soon as I start teaching anything that has to do with something that I've overcome , right , something that I've sucked at and gotten better at , or said I wasn't going to do anymore . I really just start thinking about everybody watching and knowing that I want none of them to ever feel as low as I felt in that moment . Again , whether it was ego , whatever it was that was contributing to the feelings that I had , my feelings were so valid and they sucked , and I don't want anybody to feel that way . I don't want anybody to ever quit because they feel like they're not good enough at something , when I feel like there are things that I had to learn about sales and launching and visibility and video that I had to learn and take away , that I wasn't aware of , that really really helped me .

Speaker 1 5:21

And so whenever I teach anything , I only pretty much teach things I've had a major transformation from and I talk about embodying everything that you do , and I guess when I am saying embody something , I am embodying something like because I've been to the lowest of lows of almost everything that I teach . And then I teach you how I do it now and how I succeed and how I can sell every day and how I've sold every day in July , except for maybe four days and the days I didn't sell . The days I did sell , there were multiple sales . It's just like sharing that knowledge with people , and then going six months without a sell because I boiled up and was mad and didn't want my feelings to be heard anymore and didn't want everybody to see I was failure . I'm just not going to do it , I'm just done .

Embracing Emotion in Teaching and Learning

Speaker 1 6:15

And so , yeah , I just didn't realize until today how emotional I can get sometimes when I'm teaching , and not that not my friend just said it's not a bad thing , like it's a good thing , like they should pay you extra for your emotions . But it's really hard to separate the emotions when you felt the low , of lows Like I know so many people have , and maybe they feel like they can't do it because they felt so many times . And I know , as somebody who has been there and has felt a lot of times , that you can . It's just are you willing to get back up and get on the horse , so to speak , and do something over and over so insanely many times that you have no option but to succeed because you're not going to give up until you do ?

Speaker 1 7:14

And when I made that decision to launch every single month which is the craziest thing and then sell every single day , I had no idea where it was going to take me , and sure am I where I want to be in my business ? Do I wish I was ? Of course , yes , of course , all of those things . But you know where I'm not . I'm not where I used to be . I'm not afraid of teaching things , I'm not afraid of launching things , I'm not afraid of getting on video , I'm not afraid of spilling my heart out on my podcast . I'm not afraid of any of those things anymore , and that , to me , supported me right more than anything else .

Speaker 1 8:09

But I know , as a and I talk about this all the time as a Human Design 3.5 generator , that my path is to fail a lot so that I can teach the people that feel that they felt a lot too . It's going first , it's being the evidence , it's showing up and putting myself out there . So including my fears , including my emotions , including my breakdowns and face plants and all of those things , so that I can show my audience and my clients that nothing is impossible , even when you're in your lowest of lows and you feel like it is . So , yes , there's a lot of emotion when I teach certain things , and that's only because of the transformation that I've had , and I want no one to have the face plants and failures and the feelings that I had when I wasn't improving in my best version of myself in that particular skill .