Embracing Fears as Stepping Stones to Success [404]

What if your biggest fears and failures could actually be your stepping stones to success? That's what I discovered on my journey to overcome sales challenges and launches for my business. I used to dread the thought of appearing on video and was constantly burdened by the fear of embarrassment and failure. But as I mustered the courage to step into these fears, not only did I see a transformation in myself, but also in the impact I was able to have on my audience.

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Overcoming Sales Challenges and Embracing Vulnerability

Speaker 1 0:00

sponsored by Kat. She is the wellness guide to women over 40 who are ready to rediscover the healthy, vibrant women concealed beneath their exhausted, emotionally drained exterior, because this next chapter of your life deserves to be lived well. If that resonates with you, be sure to check her out on Instagram. Today I was teaching and I got really emotional, and when I teach anything that I've ever sucked at, I get emotional. Because I was never good at video, I was not willing to get on video, I wasn't given my chance to be good at video. I struggled with all of those things and when I finally pushed myself and actually ended up liking video and realizing the amount of transformation and the impact that it could have on your audience, it was a game changer. And today, as I was teaching a stories program, it's the story strategy. We were talking about sales and how I sell every day and my stories, and I can't teach that without all of the mindset and the journey and all of the hate and failure that I felt when it came to sell, selling and launching.

Speaker 1 1:36

Like had very big, very strong feelings like. So much so that in a baby Chrissy, toddler, chrissy move that I literally put my hands on my chest and said cross my arms across my chest rather, and literally said I'm not doing this anymore, I quit. I'm not quitting my business, but I quit selling and I quit launching, I'm done. And that move was very again toddler, amateur, chrissy because I didn't think there was a way to succeed at something that I felt like. I felt at and I mean honestly, looking back it's like such a joke. I mean I just only one person signed up for my inner circle and I had this, all these big feelings about and most of them. Now that I look back I can determine and I can identify that it was ego. It was totally ego because I was worried about what everybody else was thinking that I can only sell one spot in my inner circle Like such a big, like move to make, because my feelings were hurt. Really that's what it boils down to. My feelings were hurt and I felt like I looked stupid in front of other people. And so now, looking back, I know that it was ego. Then I had no idea, I just thought it was a failure. But now I can, I can differentiate that.

Speaker 1 3:06

But when I'm in this program and I'm teaching people how to sell every single day, I can't not tell the story and I cannot feel the emotions of that time and I can't like, I can't not want to support and serve and help people realize that I don't want them to experience what I experience. You know, it's like you don't know what a failed launch feels like until you fail right. You don't know what being scared of video feels like until you try. You don't know what crappy sales feels like until you put yourself out there. Like you can say you have crappy sales all day long, but if you're actually not selling, then that's the reason why.

Speaker 1 3:51

But when you put yourself out there and you get vulnerable and you put yourself in front of people where you're trying to sell things and then it doesn't work, you feel like a massive failure and just remembering how I felt and how embarrassed I felt and how low I felt and how inadequate I felt, like talking about sales today, like I really over delivered because I didn't really mean to say that much. But it's just. I can't not get emotional about it because as soon as I start teaching anything that has to do with something that I've overcome, right, something that I've sucked at and gotten better at, or said I wasn't going to do anymore. I really just start thinking about everybody watching and knowing that I want none of them to ever feel as low as I felt in that moment. Again, whether it was ego, whatever it was that was contributing to the feelings that I had, my feelings were so valid and they sucked, and I don't want anybody to feel that way. I don't want anybody to ever quit because they feel like they're not good enough at something, when I feel like there are things that I had to learn about sales and launching and visibility and video that I had to learn and take away, that I wasn't aware of, that really really helped me.

Speaker 1 5:21

And so whenever I teach anything, I only pretty much teach things I've had a major transformation from and I talk about embodying everything that you do, and I guess when I am saying embody something, I am embodying something like because I've been to the lowest of lows of almost everything that I teach. And then I teach you how I do it now and how I succeed and how I can sell every day and how I've sold every day in July, except for maybe four days and the days I didn't sell. The days I did sell, there were multiple sales. It's just like sharing that knowledge with people, and then going six months without a sell because I boiled up and was mad and didn't want my feelings to be heard anymore and didn't want everybody to see I was failure. I'm just not going to do it, I'm just done.

Speaker 1 6:15

And so, yeah, I just didn't realize until today how emotional I can get sometimes when I'm teaching, and not that not my friend just said it's not a bad thing, like it's a good thing, like they should pay you extra for your emotions. But it's really hard to separate the emotions when you felt the low, of lows Like I know so many people have, and maybe they feel like they can't do it because they felt so many times. And I know, as somebody who has been there and has felt a lot of times, that you can. It's just are you willing to get back up and get on the horse, so to speak, and do something over and over so insanely many times that you have no option but to succeed because you're not going to give up until you do?

Speaker 1 7:14

And when I made that decision to launch every single month which is the craziest thing and then sell every single day, I had no idea where it was going to take me, and sure am I where I want to be in my business? Do I wish I was? Of course, yes, of course, all of those things. But you know where I'm not. I'm not where I used to be. I'm not afraid of teaching things, I'm not afraid of launching things, I'm not afraid of getting on video, I'm not afraid of spilling my heart out on my podcast. I'm not afraid of any of those things anymore, and that, to me, supported me right more than anything else.

Speaker 1 8:09

But I know, as a and I talk about this all the time as a Human Design 3.5 generator, that my path is to fail a lot so that I can teach the people that feel that they felt a lot too. It's going first, it's being the evidence, it's showing up and putting myself out there. So including my fears, including my emotions, including my breakdowns and face plants and all of those things, so that I can show my audience and my clients that nothing is impossible, even when you're in your lowest of lows and you feel like it is. So, yes, there's a lot of emotion when I teach certain things, and that's only because of the transformation that I've had, and I want no one to have the face plants and failures and the feelings that I had when I wasn't improving in my best version of myself in that particular skill.