Stepping out of the Comfort Zone When You Feel Yourself Playing Small [430]

Ready for an awakening? Let's walk together on the path of embracing discomfort. This discussion takes you through my experiences and lessons learned from challenging perceived limitations.  We discuss the power of belief in oneself, the vital role of persistence, and the transformative magic of stepping outside your comfort zone. This is not just about challenging our comfort, it's about igniting a new passion for growth and self-improvement.

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Reflecting on Comfort and Taking Action

Speaker 1 0:02

You know I like to be honest and I like to share all the things and not sugarcoat anything . And last night I messaged my accountability buddy and I said I had to have a come to Jesus with myself and then I went to sleep so she didn't get the rest of the story till this morning . And I was interesting that last night I was reflecting and contemplating and thinking of all the things that I've been doing and also haven't been doing . Let's be clear , chrissy is not perfect . But I was like you know what I think I am too comfortable , like I think I'm too comfortable and we get to this point where we push ourselves over and over and over . But even pushing ourselves , that eventually gets comfortable , eventually that gets easy . And then we're in this comfort zone and nothing exciting happens there . And you guys know I have been . I have I went on a year journey of getting uncomfortable . I did a hundred uncomfortable things in 90 days , like I've done all these things . So I know what that stagnant feeling feels like and I just , you know I had to have this come to Jesus and identify that and be like , okay , what am I going to do differently . So it was funny when I woke up this morning to go to the bathroom not to purposely get up early , be clear . But I got up at 4 am and I went to the bathroom and I thought I was going to go back to bed and I was like , why are you going to go back to bed ? You just said you were too comfortable . Going back to bed is the comfortable thing , right , just get up and get your stuff done . And so I got up and I got so much stuff done before I got on my 5.30 am accountability call , which I have every single morning , and I spent time with my dogs . I took them out , I took them to the bathroom every morning routine , realized that my morning routine had started to suck and get , you know , pushed to the behind , basically . And so I was like , okay , do your thing , do your meditation , do your gratitude , do all of these things . And I stretched and I played in the floor with my dogs and I felt so good at 5.30 am .

Speaker 1 2:42

By 8.30 am I had gotten so much stuff done . I got content created , I had ads created , I had checked in with some of my clients , I had responded to some of my clients Like , again , so much done . I did a training . I was behind on again . All these things happened . Yes , was I tired ? Yeah , I was getting a little tired . So at like 9.30 , I'm like , okay , you need to return stuff to Amazon . How many people have like a whole Amazon thing like sitting around waiting on your return it ? You're not going to sleep , just go do this and so .

Speaker 1 3:18

And then I got home , I got ready for my iconic call , my final iconic call , and it's like I have just been pushing myself on video all day . Because that is the place , friends , let me be very clear , it is my strength , but it's also my weakness . Because it is the place that when I start slacking on video , I , the old me , comes back and she loves not being on video . She loves not being on video . She really loves not being the center of attention . She loves not showing up , she loves all those things . So she reminds me hey , remember how good that felt when you weren't on video , when you felt safe and comfortable and you didn't have to show up . But then I remind myself remember how unexciting that was , remember how you never reached your goals .

The Importance of Getting Uncomfortable

Speaker 1 4:09

Like this is a dual conversation I have with myself , not lying , because the easy way , the easy thing is to not to do it right . The easy thing is just to go net like something by the way , I got a little distracted with Virgin River . Anybody else like a binge , the whole thing . But it's like those types of things are so comfortable but they're not moving the needle forward in my business . It doesn't mean that I'm hustling and I'm being this crazy workaholic or anything like that . I'm still only working I don't know six hours a day . I don't count working on myself working . You can choose to count that as working if you want , but I don't count that as working . I count that as personal growth , personal development and the whole reason that I love what I do .

Speaker 1 5:04

Because I love that growth , I want you to identify and be honest with yourself . Are you playing small ? Are you too comfortable right now ? Because if you're comfortable , you're playing small . Even if you're a person that pushes yourself , if you've gotten into a groove that it's easy , you're probably playing small . Whenever I can self-identify this and realize this about myself , I obviously make the changes .

Speaker 1 5:44

I play small does not get me where I want to go . Being comfortable doesn't get me where I want to go . I don't follow Dave Ramsey or anything like that . But I do love his quote that he says do the hard things now so that it can be easier later . Maybe you're like Chrissy . It's a constant cycle , like you literally do hard things and it gets easy and then you push yourself again .

Speaker 1 6:14

Absolutely , I sure do . That's my life , that's what I love , that's what lights me up . I want to see what is possible for me . I want to see what is possible for you . I love blowing my own mind , but you know what I love more than that Watching you blow yours . It's beautiful to watch my clients have a ha's . It's beautiful when people reach out to me and say I had no idea like you literally just blew my mind , you literally just saved me so much time . You literally just whatever right , I will not stop pushing and getting uncomfortable and playing bigger , because that means I'm doing a disservice to my audience .

Speaker 1 7:07

I don't remember who said it , but somebody said if you're not growing , you're dying , and I truly believe that and I believe growth comes in many facets . I talked about this on the iconic call today . Like phase one of growth is just like the physical side , like watching this video . Right now You're watching this video . That's phase one . Phase two is like starting to take action . Like starting to take action . Phase three is going all in , meaning you take the action , you're embodying it , you're so aligned whether you get the results in the timeframe that you want or not .

Speaker 1 7:51

That's hard . 99% of the people that come to me struggle with being consistent in something . It's hard to stay consistent . It's uncomfortable to stay consistent when you're not getting results , when the things you want to happen are happening . So what happens is people pivot or they change and they don't keep going down the same path . So they never got an opportunity to see if what they were doing worked , because they couldn't stick with it , or they started to believe it wasn't going to happen . And if you believe it's not going to happen , most likely it's not going to happen .

The Power of Consistency

Speaker 1 8:31

Can you be consistent when it's hard ? Can you do uncomfortable things ? I've never bungee jumped , but this is how I kind of feel about uncomfortable things . I feel like when I do uncomfortable things my heart rate picks up , my pits get a little sweaty , but I feel like a million bucks afterwards . Just by doing I don't know four videos today , I feel like a million bucks . I didn't make a million bucks , but I feel like a million bucks because I did more video than I've been doing every day . And I don't want you to look at me and say , how are you not uncomfortable ? You do this stuff all the time .

Speaker 1 9:20

Our comfort levels are different , so if you're never on video , one video a week is probably uncomfortable for you . Go do that and then , once you get comfortable doing one a week , do two a week . How can you stretch yourself just a little bit more to see what's possible and to see what happens ? But don't do it one time and if you don't get the result you want , be like , okay , I'm not doing that again . You get to do it consistently , over and over and over , with the belief , with the certainty that the right people are going to see you , show up and want to work with you . It's not in our timing , it's in their timing . But how consistent are you willing to be ? How often are you willing to show up and how long are you willing to stay on that uncomfortable course ?