Rewiring Your Mindset for Growth and Expansion [470]

Are you ready to shake up your thinking and shatter the glass ceiling that's been limiting your potential? This episode isn't just about theory, it's about real-life experiences and practices. I dive deep into how our brains are naturally wired to dwell on negativity, and how this inclination deeply influences our daily lives. But it doesn't stop there, I also share the tools and strategies I've employed to rewire my own mindset, and how living in the present moment has been a game-changer.

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Breaking the Habit

Speaker 1 0:01

Many of you have heard me talk about the book by Dr Joe Dispenza that is breaking the habit of being yourself . I think it's the exact title . I could have that a little wrong , but something close to that . And it's interesting because one of the things that he says and I think when you get to week three of the meditation , you go through this whole process , and so when you start thinking thoughts that aren't kind to you , that aren't true , that are making things worse , they're putting you in lack or maybe putting you in like your ego , but anyhow , you say change . And even though I wasn't to week three yet , I read ahead , and so in week one I realized , oh , I'm going to start doing this in real life , not just during the meditation , but when I notice throughout life that I'm doing something that I'm not fond of , I'm not a fan of , I don't like it . And so I joked with my friends . I was like so if I just yell out change , just know that I'm thinking about something , that something's going through my mind that it's not the most helpful to me in this moment , and so I do not have Tourette's , but I'm just going to put it out there , right ? So I'm just going to yell change . I'm laughing about Tourette's , because when I had to have my wisdom teeth taken out I still don't know if this is true , because my dentist was a funny guy , the dentist I went to at the time and when I went under he said he said you have Tourette's when you go under . And I'm like what ? And he goes , all you did was sling curse words at me left and right and I was like , oh my God , I was so embarrassed and humiliated and I still to this day don't know if that's true , but anyhow , that's a whole nother story , but anyhow .

Speaker 1 2:11

So when you are going through your day and something comes up , that is a feeling that is not kind to you , that is not helping you achieve whatever goal or situation that you're in , yell change , or if there's another word that works for you , but like , how can we do this to identify ? This is not how I want to think , because if we continue to allow the thought to fester , it's almost like we give it roots , right . So think about a plant growing into the dirt . And the more we allow that thought to fester because , let's say , we're in lack , which can lead to worry , which can lead to anxiety , which can lead to comparison , which can lead to anger , which can lead to malice , like there's so many different feelings , right , that can come from one thing , and the deeper we allow it to root , and we , it becomes subconscious first of all , but we also , it also becomes very much a part of our life . It is subconscious , we don't even realize it's happening , sometimes we don't even think , and then we find a way to make the thought become almost like this , like this dopamine hit , because we make it worse and worse and worse , and we feed off of it . And so , when it comes to this , we , first of all , we have to become very self aware which is not an easy thing to do and realize , oh , I don't like the way , I don't like when I do this , and understand that our body is so conditioned to us feeling this that it's going to fight us because it's used to it , right , and the thing is , is

Overcoming Negativity and Personal Growth

Speaker 1 4:07

that ?

Speaker 1 4:07

The sad thing is , is that our brains are hardwired for the bad stuff ? It's hardwired to protect you , so , but it's thinking of a threat , like being chased by an animal , right , Not by something you created in your own mind , but it doesn't know the difference . So it's like ? Am I going to allow this to continue to happen ? Or am I going to rewire and decondition my own self right , because otherwise all I ever think about is the bad things ? All I ever remember are the bad things , and we don't want to go through life living that right . How can we overcome this ? By living more in the present , by focusing on the good , by asking myself every single time is this a fact or feeling ? And the other question I like to ask myself is is this the end of the world or is it a really big inconvenience right now , like those two , like questions , like options we can ask ourselves can make such a huge shift in ourselves and in our mind .

Speaker 1 5:06

I still highly recommend going through this book because I feel like it's a huge game changer and makes you realize so much about yourself , but also that we have so much more power than we give ourselves credit for . It's just the way I am , it's just the way my brain is , it's just the way I think . No , it doesn't have to be that way . Actually , is it harder for some people than others ? Yeah , the older you are , the more conditioned you are , the more hardwired you are , of course , but I can tell you , however old I am 46 , 7 , I can't remember . This is funny that it's not easy . It's not easy , but here's the thing . Nothing worth having is .

Speaker 1 5:53

So are you willing to step out of your comfort zone , use the word change , ask yourself is this fact or feeling ? Ask yourself is this the end of the world or is it just a really big inconvenience right now , and decide how you're going to move forward . Could it be the end of the world if you don't take action on it , or could it be way worse if we don't take action on it , we don't do something about it ? Ah heck , yes , it can be . So that's your cue in that moment to decide what am I going to do ? What's the next move I'm going to make ?

Speaker 1 6:27

One of the reasons I took the certification I know this is longer than five minutes for a Monday is because you can have the greatest business in the world , but you're going to , at some point , either be stuck or plateau , because there is something you are not working on in your personal life . We've heard that running a business is the biggest personal development you'll ever go through , because you will face all the stuff that you've never dealt with in your life . You will be put face to face with it and you get to make a decision Am I going to keep being this way ? Am I going to keep moving this way ? Am I going to keep thinking this way or am I going to change it ? That's why this certification was important to me , because I can't help somebody grow their business if we're stuck in other places in our life , which a lot of times feeds from our past or how we were raised or our conditioning or our personal life . Right ? So you get to make that decision . Am I going to focus on where I need to change ?

Embracing Change and Continuous Growth

Speaker 1 7:35

But , as one of my coaches said , even though I need to change , even though I need to pivot , even though I need to edit , it doesn't mean I close the doors of the store . If you think about , like , here we have Kroger and our grocery store and I swear they remodel that store every like two to three years . They are not closing down . It is a big fiasco . I can't find anything , but I'm still figuring out a way to find it and I'm still spending money there . They don't close the store down to make the changes , and the same thing goes with your business . You don't get to shut the doors to your store , to your online present , just because you're growing , just because you're making some changes , just because you're improving yourself . You get to still keep showing up , let your audience see that growth .

Speaker 1 8:27

You don't have to talk about it in the moment you can , but I think it's whatever feels really good to you in that moment and this ended up being a much more robust episode than I meant for it to be on Monday , but I think it's important .

Speaker 1 8:41

If I'm feeling it , I'm going to put it out there and see who else needs to hear this , because I always believe that everything happens for a reason and pretty much every time I feel like I don't know why I said all that , somebody reaches out to me and says I really needed to hear that today . So if that was you , I hope this serves and supports you . If you need more support , you know how to reach me it's Chrissy Conner on Instagram , chrissy Conner on Facebook , and I am always here to serve and support you . But we got to get rid of that conditioning and that hard wiring in our brain and switch it to something else we get to change . So how much are you going to focus on the word change today and adding that to your vocabulary when things come up . That just doesn't set well with you .