In this episode we are going to talk about the mindset to have towards setting a New Year's resolution. I share with you some assumptions you might be having that could be stopping you from setting yourself up to be the best version of you in 2024.
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In this episode we are going to talk about the mindset to have towards setting a New Year's resolution. I share with you some assumptions you might be having that could be stopping you from setting yourself up to be the best version of you in 2024.
Happy New Year! Thank you so much for being apart of the The Restored Mind family and for your support this year! Be safe and see you in 2024!
Connect with me as you journey on in your mindset transformation! Now offering life coaching as a service, click the link below to get schedule a call with me.
I'm excited to connect with you! Remember, you can do hard things! "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me"- Philippians 4:13
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Hey, friend, welcome to the Restore Mind podcast, where we are going to be talking about various life topics surrounding mindset transformation. Imagine what it will look like to have peace in your life, despite what the world is telling you. Hi, my name is Caroline, a wife, mom of three, and makeup turned fitness enthusiast. I am here to help you build a strong mindset that will propel you forward into a life of peace and joy. Philippians 4. 13 says, I can do all things through him who gives me strength. Well, my friend, there is freedom waiting for you. So if you are ready to build a 2. 0 version of yourself, then this podcast is for you. So grab your water, or whatever you like to drink, throw on your walking shoes, and let's get going because it's always 4. 13. Hello and welcome to the restored mine podcast. My name is Caroline. My friend, how are you doing today? How was your Christmas celebration? However you celebrated? I hope that it was filled with so much peace and joy. I also know that. Not everyone had a joyous day surrounding Christmas. And if you were one of those people that had a bad day, for whatever reason, My hope is that you were so able to find peace and goodness in the midst of the chaos that happened. Or it's still continued to happen. My friend, if you are a new listener, welcome to the restored mind family. I'm so happy to have you here. And I'm excited. I don't know how you got here, but my hope is that this episode blesses you in some way. If it does, please share it with a friend who also might be able to benefit from just listening. And on this episode, if you are a returning listener, Thank you so much that you take the time out of your week, time and time again, to spend some time with me. I greatly appreciate that. I started this podcast, not knowing who was going to listen. But week by week, the numbers are telling me that you guys are here, you guys are listening. And I just feel appreciative of that. Because I know in my own mind to their thoughts.. Of doubts and unbelief that comes to my mind, but the Lord is good. He's always enough. And he's constantly reminding me to continue to put my faith and trust in him. Because he's making all of this happen, right. So we're coming into the new year. and it's that time of year for the infamous question. What is your new year resolution? You've probably seen it on social media. If you're active on there, you probably had conversations about it. Or if you listened to the radio, it might've already been asked of you. But really though, what is your new year resolution? See. In my personal experience. I never knew how to navigate this question. So what I did was I mostly made things up without actually putting thought into. What I wanted to achieve in the new year. And instead I relied and hoped that whatever I said would just one day stick, I hoped that I wouldn't disappoint myself again or fall. Off track or quit even. And time and time again, I failed. Making a new resolution before the new year and then falling off by February, March timeframe. I titled this episode. New year St. You with a question mark for a very specific reason and a no. It's not to offend anyone. But in truth, 2023 is coming to an end. And in a few short days, we're going to be in 2024. It's going to be here before we know it. It was also inspired by my reflection on how I used to approach. Setting up a new year resolution, goal So the question is, will you remain the same? Reflect back on your year. Is there anything that you would do different and no, I am not talking about regrets Where you were feeling sad that you missed an opportunity. I'm talking about owning up to what you can do to create a better version of yourself in the new year. And if it stems from the regret of you thinking that you might've missed an opportunity, then let it be. So, because this is about. Acknowledging that. You are recognizing within yourself that you want to get to a certain point in your life that you want to be further along than where you are now. Whatever the starting line is for you. You don't want to be there. The goal here is not to quit. Because you are making the choice. To make the change that is necessary. For you to achieve or have your new year's resolution be met? And I was not going to be easy, but it is going to build character. This is also the time where most people are starting to create a vision board. Maybe you're one of those people that creates a vision board. Maybe you've completed them, or you are someone who journals and you're starting to write out your new goals for the coming year. Or maybe you're trying to find creative ways to stay motivated because you realize that the goal that you set for yourself in 2023, You ended up quitting on yourself. And so. Your goal this year is to simply stay motivated. Right? but like I said, I didn't know how to navigate the question of what is your new year resolution back then? And so I had assumptions of what a new year's resolution is. And I'm going to share that with you in just a moment, but before I dive into that, I wanted to also share with you and answer the question. What is a resolution? Well, it's problem solving, right? You're finding an answer to a conflict or a problem. So you are making the choice to either do something or not do something in order to find the answer to whatever your quote unquote problem is, or in this case, and for the rest of this episode. You're fighting a better way of building habits.. Because essentially that's what a new year's resolution is. What habit are you going to build? That's going to enhance your 2024. So my assumptions of what a new year's resolution used to be is that it has to be about fitness or health related. which is probably the most common one. I've heard all my life, which is why it's number one on my list. Now. To this, that it doesn't have to be held to fitness-related, but it does have to be something that you are willing to commit to. So ask yourself, where do you want change in your everyday life? Now think about this. No matter how you celebrate on new year's Eve or what you do, your lifestyle will remain the same the next day, unless you start to make changes towards your lifestyle. Which leads me to my next point. Another assumption I had was that it has to be an all or nothing journey. Thinking that you have to give up everything you enjoy to implement this one habit change. is going to be the end of you keeping your resolution or your promise to yourself in the new year. Yes plan accordingly. But remember that life happens and you won't be perfect all the time. You know, as a recovering perfectionist, it hurts me to say that. I won't be perfect all the time, but that's the truth because life happens. to be really honest with you,=I would rather be consistent 80% of the time and make memories in 2024. Then try to be a hundred percent consistent of the time Feel burnout, be miserable and live in frustration that I'm missing out on whatever the enjoyment of summer vacations are or just trips in general. Remember that you have to make space for your lifestyle too. So whatever that looks like, know that if you can be consistent 80% of the time in 2024, You would be further along in your goal or whatever it is that you're trying to do. Then on day one. Whenever you decide to start. And just a side note here, you do not have to wait until the 1st of January to begin working on your new year resolution. You can start now. And that could be anything from just reflecting on your gear and writing down things that you would have liked to change, not things that you regret and you feel sad about, and you're soaking in that missed opportunity, but things that you are acknowledging and wanting to seriously change in your life. Another assumption is that it has to be big, right? So the idea of go big or go home. We think that we have to make noticeable changes in our life in order for us to have this celebration of our wins. Or even to consider that a resolution has been kept, but to be really honest with you, This is where learning to celebrate your small wins. Come in handy. Why is that? Because these small wins are the building blocks to the mountain, top moments where when you celebrate your big wins, you're going to feel like all of the work you put in was worth it. That's the key to having this big moment is to remember to celebrate your small wins, even if it was just as simple as I showed up today. And then the last bullet point I have here is that it has to be better than your previous year. That is a huge assumption that I had in the mindset that I lived in when I didn't really know how to navigate, setting up a new year's resolution for myself, I had to be better. Than I was last year, I had to go big or go home. This was an all or nothing journey and it had to be about health or fitness, because that was the number one thing I talked about. But the one that would scare me was that. I had to be better than my previous self last year. So we are our own worst critic and also our own biggest competitor. The idea that we have to beat our last yourself can actually put a strain on our thought process. When we are trying to set a goal for the coming year. And it could also be. Uh, hindrance and the celebration of these small wins that I had just talked about. The truth in this is that you can continue to build off of last year's goal, whatever that looks like when you reflect back on, if you met your resolution and you answered yes. But you realized that there were some things you still want to build upon. My friend, I highly encourage that you take that into 2024 with you. You can continue to build off of last year's goal. It might not be exciting. That's the truth. It's not going to be exciting. It might sound boring to other people and it might not even make a good conversation. Peace. When you're talking about new year's resolution with your spouse or friends, however you're deciding. To celebrate this new year's Eve, bud. Remember, this is about the change you want to make in your life. So just because it's not exciting, just because it might sound boring or it doesn't make a good conversation because your answer to that question is simply I want to improve on how I spent my time with God last year. That's just an example. But if that's something that you are wanting to work on, be proud of that. Take that with you in 2024. And just because it's a build off of last year and it's not anything that's major. It's. Going to make the biggest difference in your life. Because you are going to be the one that works towards your goal, and that's what matters. To be honest with you. A lot of my goals for 2024 is building on top of previous years. So. I didn't meet all of my goals and that's just being completely honest with you, but I'm also not where I used to be. And for me, that's great news. It's awesome because. That means that I did something 80% of the time to show up and put in work where I didn't want to. About a hundred percent of the time, because our mind likes to do things that are easy. We don't want to be challenged. We like to live within our limitations, but we don't know. How well we can do if we don't push these limitations. So. For me this year, my new year's resolution is just to build on top of the foundation that has been laid out in previous years. And that's okay. It's okay. If it's not a good conversation starter piece. It's okay. If it doesn't sound exciting to others. Let go of the mindset that each year has to have a different goal. Reflect on your year and think about what you can do to make improvements on what has already happened. Again, it doesn't have to be big. It could be simple. Like you're making. It a point to remind your spouse that you love them daily. Maybe you realize that there were some months or weeks that you probably didn't tell them that you love them before they walked out the door. And that's something that you want to change, you know? Or maybe it's that you want to spend 10 more minutes in your studies or in prayer time, because you realize that. You just want to work on your relationship with God. You want to build a more intimate relationship with him. And this is how you're going to commit to that. To the world. These are not big, fancy and dramatic goals. Right. Remember though, these are the kind of goals that will ultimately make the biggest difference in your life because you are making the commitment to show up. And do something. It is essentially a promise that you're making to yourself. Whatever your lifestyle looks like, start from there. Take a look at your lifestyle. Take a look at what you want to change in the new year and work from there. Work with what you have. Don't try and make up someone that's not already there now. It's good that you have a vision. But the truth is that you are faced with the here in now. So focus on that. And with each step, move forward towards that vision that you have. Your new year's resolution should reflect you and what you want to accomplish. So remove the pressure and mindset that it has to be an all or nothing journey that you have to do something big or better than the previous year. Make it manageable so that you could incorporate it into everyday life and go from there for the entire month of January, I have episodes lined up where I'm going to help you lay out a foundation on how you can navigate keeping your new year's resolution. And making strides towards that. So, if you want to know what I have in store for you, come back and join me next week in the weeks to follow in the month of January, I'm super excited. That's this episode is finally here so that I can share with you all the good things that are happening and also share with you some of the lessons that I've learned and just how I've failed at keeping a new year's resolution. That's essentially how we learn, right. Is through our mistakes. So again, Make your new year resolution manageable so that you can incorporate into your everyday life. It won't be easy. My friend you'll find that be consistent as harder than it sounds, but my friend. You can do hard things. Hey, thank you for listening. 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