Made for More
Made for More
Forcing Growth In Life + in The Gym w Personal Trainer + Business Owner Adam Powell
This episode will leave you speechless, inspired, and motivated to work! Join Reagan and guest Adam Powell as they deep dive into growth, training, and personal development.
- embracing uncomfort
- choosing to do things you do not want to do
- perception
- how you speak to yourself matters
- discovering your goal + why
- holding yourself accountable
- why as a parent you have to show up for yourself
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Hello, hello, welcome to Made for More the podcast. My name is Regan and I'm so thankful that you're here today. I'm smiling I don't know if you can hear it in my voice, but I always get excited recording the little podcast intros and I am extremely excited for this week's episode. But, yeah, this, the past past few weeks, I feel like they have been just absolutely crazy and maybe in a few weeks we can just do like a real life update, like a vulnerable just sit down. Real life, what the lord is teaching me in this season, because I feel like he is teaching me so much and my relationship with him is growing so much closer and deeper. And well, he's, he's always been there, right, but I'm getting closer to him and being intentional about that um. But I am getting ready for a pretty busy week this week. I am heading to Malibu this week because I have my ultra marathon, my trail ultra marathon, and I had signed up for the 50k, which is 32 miles, and then it's um. And then yesterday no, two days ago I changed it to the 50 mile. Yesterday no, two days ago I changed it to the 50 mile. So, rather than doing 32 miles, I'm doing a 50 mile now, because who doesn't want to, like, lose their toenails and just run in silence in the trails of Malibu and the hills of Malibu, california, for like 10 to 12 hours? I really don't even know how long it's going to take, but I'm so excited and, yeah, I've realized that's what I do when I'm sad I've like have cried literally every single day this past week Um, just girl things, you know. But I was like what better way to react than to just sign up for the 50 mile race. So that'll be fun. I'll have to do a recap. I need to do a recap like right after, maybe that next day. Um, I'm doing it with some friends, so Tim Boswell and then Bronson Holbeck and then the Powders crew will be there, so Kylie and Paige will be there too to be our little pit crew people. But maybe I should bring the podcast and we can do a little podcast and chat with them after would be fun. But that's super exciting. So wish me luck, keep me in your prayers that I am injury free as well. But to, yeah, we'll do. We'll do an episode on that for sure.
Speaker 1:But I am really really, really excited for you guys to hear this episode. This episode is one that I recorded about a month, a little over a month ago, um with one of my friends, adam Powell. I actually know him from Greenville and he is extremely inspiring. Like we had questions and had things that I wanted to ask on this podcast, but it completely not a one 180 from where what I thought we were going to talk about, but it turned out to be absolutely incredible, so motivating and he is so real and like just says what you don't want to hear.
Speaker 1:But I'm excited to re-listen to this one because it'll be great before the race, really get me fired up and feeling just motivated and good too. And feeling just motivated and good too. But I, yeah, let me know, let us know what you think about this one, and this one will really. This one will really make you, make you get up and get moving. So I missed you guys. I mean not that I missed you guys because I can't hear anything back from you guys, but I don't know podcast. I've missed podcasting and I'm thankful that we're back and I just love you guys so much and enjoy this episode. Bye.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I think, um, you know you can, and what's funny too is like, so you, you go on a date with someone and you go to dinner and it's, you know, within 10 or 20 minutes you can be like, oh, wow, this was, this is a waste of time, you know. Or, or hey, this, you know, this is the beauty, was validated by conversation and wisdom, and you know, emotional intelligence and all these things. But, yeah, it's, it's tough in a 2024 world, people don't value those, those secondary things. You know, they value the click, they value the now. They value the. They value the click. They value the now. They value the. You know, whatever it is. So it would be like planting a seed and then watering it once and then being mad that something else didn't come from that, not realizing that we got to water this thing every day. We got to cut down the shrubs so we can make sure sunlight hits it. Weeds are going to pop up and try to kill this tree.
Speaker 2:And I think, when it comes to someone's like personal, um, personal value, right, like their self-development, your self-development's not for you, right, your self-development, what you work on internally is for the people around you. That could be a friend, that could be a client, that could be a potential life partner, you know. But I feel like so many people cut that really short at just the exterior shell of of life Ferrari, body, honda, civic engine. You know what I mean. Like they don't. You know what I mean Like people don't buy Ferrari because of how it looks. They buy Ferrari because it's faster than any other car. It sounds amazing. Everything inside is hand stitched. You can tell it wasn't done by a machine, and so I think a lot of people try to present themselves as a Ferrari. And then you, you know, you hop in the passenger seat and you're like we're not going anywhere. This isn't good, you know.
Speaker 1:So you said you're 38. Have you always been very wise and very um, I guess, like picky with just how you spend your time, or when did this start coming up for you?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think there's people that would say like I've always been decently well-spoken or able to like verbalize how I was feeling or internalizing. It's funny in seventh grade my teacher recommended to my parents that I would go to a writing camp because she felt like I was so good at expressing my internal thoughts through written word that she was like you have to nail this down, so like why kids were going to like basketball camps and cheerleading, like all the cool stuff.
Speaker 2:my teacher was like riding camp and of course, in seventh grade I'm I'm wise beyond belief and I tell my parents I'm absolutely not doing that, but sometimes I wonder what that would have produced you know, but, um, no, I, I probably still don't see myself wise because I try to surround myself with people that have a lot more going on for them than I do, and and maybe that's part of it, but it also is a a life, a lifelong hardheadedness that I have failed and made a lot, a lot of mistakes. And I would like to, I would like to say more than most, I know we all like, we all do that, but like I, I'm a little more, I'm a, I'm a bigger risk taker than most. Um, I'm not too embarrassed with failing. Um, the older you get, the more you realize that's uh, the willingness to fail is what actually, you know, puts you ahead of most.
Speaker 2:I think most people have the capacity. I think there's a lot of people that have more potential than you and I would ever have. They're just really scared about what the opinions of other people are, and so it keeps them where they're at forever. You know, rather than failing learning, failing learning. What was Michael Jordan's famous quote? I've missed, I can't remember, I'm about to butcher it, but basically I have. I have failed over and over and over and over and over again, and that is why I succeed, you know it makes me sad.
Speaker 1:Even like people that I talk to I mean clients that I've talked to inside of their fitness journey, or people that I connect with on Instagram, or even friends they're like I feel this tug in my heart to do something else or to go, or to travel or move away or start my own business, and it's it's sad when they, when people just aren't looking for the uncomfortableness or the scared they're scared of failure that it breaks my heart because I did that for myself too.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I feel like a lot of people don't equate uncomfortableness or pain with progress, like if you fail you're a failure, right, if it hurts you're a failure. There's some negative connotation behind uncomfortableness or pain, you know, and I think the ones that that see that from the opposite side of the coin, um, are the ones they look up to, the ones they follow, the ones they aspire to be. They don't understand that. You know, the more I get into this game you know I moved from Greenville to Miami and got around some really good people. I spent more money on personal development, coaching, mentoring than I ever have in all my years combined.
Speaker 2:And I get around people who quite literally live day to day putting themselves in the most uncomfortable places they can be.
Speaker 2:Like I'm challenged daily by like I've almost got to the point of this and this could be seen as a little bit unhealthy, but like I don't like when I feel too comfortable because I know nothing is growing from that space.
Speaker 2:Right, if I'm comfortable, it's in the bed at 10 PM every night, cause I go to bed at 9 PM religiously and that's my time to be comfortable, but while I'm awake I feel a little bit of guilt from comfort. I wrote something on my Instagram recently where, like, I have trouble chilling out. I have trouble just chilling with no agenda. I don't know what that's like and I shoot so high with the people that I aspire to be like in some degree. They never chill, and so when I chill, I know I'm cutting myself short from reaching this bigger, better version of myself. And then, in some other way, if you look at cheating yourself, you're cheating the people around you. Right Again back to personal development. It's about other people. You becoming the best version of yourself is not about you, and in fact, I heard I'm going to tell one little story and I'm going to shut up, even though that's what we're here to do?
Speaker 1:Keep talking. I like it.
Speaker 2:There was this guy in the gym. I first started lifting weights I had just gotten out of the Marine Corps I felt a little bit lost and there was this guy in the gym. He had two prosthetic legs and one prosthetic arm, so he only had one real limb to him and there was not a day that I was in that gym that he wasn't in there and this man would be doing cardio. He'd be lifted weights with his like prosthetic arm, like knowing that there's no muscle. That he's actually like crazy. And I told him I said hey man, I I'm old enough to know there's not a secret. But like, why do you do this? Like what keeps you going? And he said I'm 73 years old and I just want to be able to play football, basketball, baseball with my grandkids. You know it's like to this day. We roll around in the yard. We, you know, I go to all their sporting events. I'm able to help them warm up. He's like there's kids their age that have dads that can't even do that because they haven't taken care of their physical health. And he said the most important lesson I could ever tell you, and this has stuck with me it's funny how, like this, the silliest things stick with us. He said.
Speaker 2:If you can make it about somebody else, you're more likely to succeed. You know, he said, the first person to give up on ourselves is always ourselves. You know, and I don't know why, that this, this, this is 2008, that this happened, and I don't know why that stuck with me, but you're um, there's a reason. There's seven billion plus people on the planet. If it were all about you, you would have been put on a planet all by yourself. You know to figure it out, and so I like to think that our entire mission is about optimizing ourselves so that we can serve, benefit other people. It's the easiest way to do it.
Speaker 1:That's so powerful.
Speaker 2:Yeah, people don't believe me. I'm lifting in the gym. Sometimes I'm not admiring my my own work, right Like I'm not looking at my bicep. I'm thinking I'm going to have a son one day, right, I just know it. You know the Lord's probably laughing at me. He's like you got three daughters on the way, but whatever. But he couldn't do that to me. I have to have a son. Anyways, I'll have a son and I I want him to look up to me, right, like I want him to look at his father and say that is what I want to be like. You know, that's who I look up to and what's crazy is, by the time you have this new human that you brought onto the planet.
Speaker 2:It's almost a little late to start on that Right. I think to really be cognizant of, like, what you want in the future and doing the things now and in the day to day. The moment now to make those things come true is is what separates a lot of we'll just call it winners and people that don't win. You know we'll just call it winners and people that don't win We'll call it losers. Some people are going to get offended, some people listen to this. You're losers and you could be winners. But I think being able to see something you want put in the work now, regardless of knowing when or where that thing is going to come from, I think it's powerful. So my lifting is about my future family. You know I need to be in tip top shape.
Speaker 1:Yeah, take care of your future self and your future family. I always say that, whether you realize it or not, like you are inspiration to someone, even if it's in the gym, like and someone sees you and you're lifting to failure and they see, they see you fell in the gym, like that's going to inspire someone else. So that's that's like a lot of my purpose behind it too, but it is for other people.
Speaker 2:And there's way more of those people, reagan, that'll that you'll never know about right, like you get the random message or the random person in the gym that says, hey, I've been watching you for a while and I don't know what you got going on or what you eat in the morning, but like I, you know, I would love to. There's way more of those people that you'll never hear from. Dan you do hear from. Yeah that is so true.
Speaker 1:I got a message this morning on Instagram from someone and we were just. She just asked me like about a necklace or something like my necklace. And then she sent another message, like I just want to let you know like I just enjoy seeing your stuff and it's so inspirational, it's like wow. That little message made my day. But it makes me realize too, when I noticed those qualities in other people, I need to start dishing them out and start saying them as well, just because it can turn your day around and it's something that you're going to remember, like I'm sure you remember compliments from years ago, like I do.
Speaker 2:Sure, yeah, and I think when you, uh, when a compliment comes and you know that you've been putting in, this compliment could be physical. This compliment could be I've noticed more peace, Right. You seem more peaceful when you speak on camera, right. Or you seem happy, you seem genuinely like you're in a good spot, like when you hear that, yeah, and you know that you've actually taken the steps and the effort and the sacrifice to make those happen. It is a feel good. You know, I think there's a little bit of guilt for those people that may get a compliment that they know they didn't necessarily earn. You know, I don't, I don't want to be that way Now, we don't do the thing for the compliment, right. But I think when you get it and you know that you're putting in maximum amount of effort to achieve whatever that thing is, I think it, yeah, it's, it's enjoyable for sure.
Speaker 1:Yeah, Makes it so if anyone's listening, give out the. Give out the random compliments whenever you think about it.
Speaker 2:The universe gives you what you give.
Speaker 2:You know, I talk about it a lot because I'm passionate on, like friendships, relationships, people in general. I'm fascinated by how humans work Right, Think, act, move and you know you attract what you are Right, you get what you give. You know, and I think that's a very, very powerful. You know, I make fun. I'm a little more brash for those people that are listening to this and maybe don't follow me on my Instagram, but I'm a little more, you know, I'm a little more tough on people but like yeah like people.
Speaker 2:You hear it all the time Like we'll just take relationships Right, we talked a little bit about it earlier. But like, if you are attracting a certain type of person and it's the same type of person over and over and over again, maybe it's not the fact that all those people are screwed up, maybe that's just what you're attracting because that's what you are, you know, and I believe that to be a universal truth. Right, there's things in life, there's things in religion that require faith to believe. Right, and one of those universal truths that I just choose to believe, because I've seen so much evidence of it being true, is you attract what you are. So it's really tough to be attracting something that you don't want to be there in your life. Right, maybe that's financial burdens, maybe that is the same type of dating partner, maybe that is the same results. Right, I had one guy tell me I've tried out.
Speaker 2:I was talking to this guy, true story. He was reaching out for some. He wanted to be a client, he wanted me to help him with his macros, his workouts, all that stuff. He said I've hired four other trainers and none of them have worked for me. And I said, long story short. I said respectfully, I'm probably not going to work for you either.
Speaker 2:You know, and it's one of those things like if this guy is on trainer number five and he hasn't gotten any results, there's a common denominator in this scenario and it's him, you know, and so I would tell everybody the hardest thing in life is to look in the mirror and admit that there's something that we don't like about ourselves or something that could improve, and then taking the necessary steps to improve it.
Speaker 2:But I promise when people do that, they'll begin to attract those things that they actually want in the first place. You know, it all starts with self. You can't cheat it any other way. I talk about life in the universe all the time, where there are certain things you just cannot cheat and I love that about it. And you may see something outside looking in, whether it's a celebrity, whether it is a friend that may be winning, and you'll have every excuse in the book. Your perception may be skewed on how they made it, while they're why they're making it this, that and another, but the universe you can't cheat it, you can't outsmart it, and I've learned that.
Speaker 2:And I've learned exactly what I just said in person. I've thought things about people on social media. I meet them in real life and I said I was wrong. This dude is a straight hustler. This dude works seven days a week. This dude's up at 3 am every morning religiously. He earned everything he has, you know. So I think I think when you have that mindset of like, okay, if I want to be here, if I want to attract this person as my wife or husband, if I want to lose 30 pounds, it is possible, but I'm not going to be able to cheat it, and I think if you actually have that perception, it helps you to hold your word to yourself a little bit better on whatever it is that you're trying to achieve.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's a direct correlation there and with you mentioned that you've been pouring a lot of investing and mentors and therapy and working on some internal stuff. Have you seen since you have shifted your outlook and your perspective on things that you've naturally just attracted like better people in your life? I mean, like, can you tell that there's a big switch over the past few years?
Speaker 2:life. I mean, like, can you tell that there's a big switch over the past few years? Yeah, and I would even say the last, you know, the last few months. I know that sounds crazy to people, but I've, I've made more progress in my personal life in the last five we'll just call it four to six months than I have the last three or four years, you know, and that that mainly ties to a place on some regard to self-development. You know, self-development can be your physical body. Self-development can be your emotional maturity. Self-development can be a skill, a knowledge that you can utilize to increase your finances.
Speaker 2:Right, and I think, getting around people that are already in a place that you want to be, people ask me all the time why did you move to Miami? What was wrong with Greenville? There's nothing wrong with Greenville, but the winners in Greenville are not the winners in Miami, you know. And I think being around people that are in a place that you can recognize that you are currently not and taking little nuggets from them, is huge. Seeing how they live their life, seeing how they look at money, seeing how they perceive other people right, something I learned here I say it all the time on Instagram, but it's not for me. But there's no such thing as bad weather. It's just weather. You choose whether it's good or bad. Bad and good weather is not a thing right, and there has to be a contrast. People disagree with me, but if it were sunny all day long, every day, 365 days a year, you wouldn't think it was that special six months in. You love spring and summer because you just came out of fall and winter and at the end of summer you're gonna want your, your, your, your candles and your pumpkins. And yeah, the contrast is required, you know.
Speaker 2:And so, like, I think, uh, I think, to answer that question, it's just like, yes, I have the growth, but it has come from conscious decisions of realizing that what I was currently doing and where I currently was was not going to get me to the place I really wanted to be. And I think that comes from a lot of, like, self-reflection. Not everybody has these massive dreams. Like, not everybody wants to reach and teach the entire world. Not everybody wants to look like a Greek God, right, Even though I can tell you why you should, but I do, you know, and I've had that in me since I was a child, since, since as early as I can remember, I knew I wanted big, big, massive things.
Speaker 2:I didn't realize that was the calling on my life I thought for for a season there I thought I was being very, very selfish. But I've always wanted massive. And so you know, if, if I weigh out the massiveness of success in all regards in Miami versus Greenville, you know it was a, it was an easy move for me. There's there's people already here doing what I would like to do.
Speaker 1:There'd be no better place for me to move, you know what would you say to the people that are listening to this and maybe in regards to their health and fitness? I know you talk to a lot of people that want to be your clients, just being real and something that you that a lot of people don't want to hear inside of their health and fitness, because it is easy to look at people and be like, oh, I love their body and I want to look like that, and then you sign up for something and you think, just because you sign up for it, you're going to have these results, when in reality it doesn't work like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I've got a couple of things that come to mind and I'll try to keep it quick. First I'll share a story, an example. I was talking to this person. I just traveled, a couple of weeks ago. I was in Vegas and Scottsdale, arizona. My brother lives in Scottsdale Beautiful, beautiful area, by the way, if you've never visited.
Speaker 2:But this person, this was a female. She was interested in competing one day, right, and she had picked out a show for September of this year and she was in. She had hired a coach and she was doing her thing, getting into to prep Beginner. By the way, I should, I should preface this beginner ready to grow some muscle, she wants some courage, she wants a booty, like all chicks do. And she showed a picture of a girl on Instagram and she said I want to look like her. And I said I get why you would want to look like her. She looks fantastic, right. And the first thing I saw when I saw her was like this is a woman who's dedicated her entire existence to the sport of bodybuilding, fitness. And it showed, right, if you've been in the game any amount of time, you can look at someone and say, okay, this guy didn't just start a year ago, you know, two years ago, and she said do you think I can look like her by September? And I said absolutely not. There's. There's nothing on the planet you could do to look like there's. No, there's nothing. You could go to the gym for 10 hours a day, seven days a week. You can take drugs, I mean, you can take whatever you want. There's no way because that person has spent likely decades right? We're not talking about months and years at this point, we're talking about decades to look like that. Right, and I think a lot of people have this misconception of whether it is to be a jacked, shredded, pervy individual, whether it is to be a millionaire, a multimillionaire, whether it is to have this, have that, go here, go there.
Speaker 2:I think a lot of people in society is to blame for a lot of this, but they want the quick fix. You hop on a plan, you're on it for four weeks, six weeks. You don't look like, you know, a swimsuit model and you think it doesn't work and it's untrue. And I tell people all the time I said, if people would give the game of looking, we'll just keep it in the fitness realm right now, cause that's what you do. That's what we do. You can have whatever it is that you want, right, and I don't care. Some people say, no, not me, no, no, no, no. You can have it and I could prove that to you if you give enough time and effort to it, you know. But you can have whatever it is. I think people get that.
Speaker 2:They just have a misconception on how long and how consistent you have to be to achieve a certain level of fitness, whether that be a cardiovascular state, a strength state, a way someone looks. It's not an overnight success. You know, someone came to me one time. They were 32 years old. They were probably 80, 90 pounds overweight. So how long do you think this is going to take for me to get it off my body? And I said well, how long did it take you to put it on your body?
Speaker 2:You're 32. You spent 32 years getting fat. You spent 32 years getting overweight. What are you willing to put towards it to get it off? You know, am I saying it's going to take 32 years to get off? No, it's not what I'm saying. But like if you spent your entire existence becoming who you currently are and want to change that, you've got to give some sort of logical, you know expectation of. It might take longer than a few weeks, you know, even a few months, depending on what your, your situation or scenario is. So, yeah, I um, I said something on my instagram earlier it's not the smartest person that gets the job done all the time. It's not even the hardest worker. It's the person who can dedicate themselves to something and stay consistent, no matter the good day, the bad day, the bad weather, the good weather, the relationship breakup, the job loss, whatever it is, the people that can stay consistent win. That is the number one requirement for success in whatever it is that someone wants to do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, you can do it. You could do it perfect for two months, but then, if you're, you know what are the next two months look like and the next two years look like.
Speaker 2:I want to say something to that. Something came to mind. Just the way you said, it is like, yeah, if you make it all about, let's just end the fitness world. If you make it all about how you look and then you don't get the desired result in your desired timeframe of how you look, it's easy to get discouraged and quit. I think the most powerful thing for someone to latch onto when it comes to any any endeavor that they want to achieve is you make it about something else. I'm going to talk to the men for a minute. I am not a father. I will be one day. I'm passionate about fatherhood. I am passionate about overweight, insecure, unconfident fathers and how they're leading their families right. So if you made your weight loss fathers that are clearly overweight right If you made your weight loss about becoming your kid's hero, it would make it a lot easier to stick to it. If you make it about your waist measurement, if you make it about the number on the scale, it's easy to get discouraged sometimes, but if you make it about, I'm not going to stop until I am that person.
Speaker 2:I a famous video on my Instagram is I talked about the reason kids have superheroes that they look up to is because their parents are not the superheroes. And why is that? That would? That literally bothers me. If I had a son one day and he came in with a with a Batman figurine, I'd be like, oh I messed up, you know I missed the bar, right. Like, why does he not have an action figure of his father?
Speaker 2:You know, and I know that sounds a little absurd and that is, you know, to be funny, but, like, a lot of our kids are forced to look up to other people because we are missing the bar, and I think it's very sad in a current day and age that people would choose to be and look their best when they're single and then they get the thing they're after the husband or wife, the kids, the family, the house. They get that and they decide to shit all over it. They decide to give their worst version of themselves to their wife and their kids, their husband and their kids, and I don't. I think it should be the opposite, you know, I think I think if anybody deserves the best version of yourself, it would be your family, right?
Speaker 2:I think everybody listening to this would agree, and so I think going back to that original thing is like, if you can make it not about yourself or not about reaching a number, goal or those things are important. Those are metrics that we use to you know to, to garner your progress you know, see how you're progressing. But like, if you can make it about something else, right, you can make it about, like, wowing your wife when you hop out of the shower instead of embarrassing her. I think that's a good place to start. Sorry, I'm passionate.
Speaker 2:The way behind.
Speaker 1:Something is so important no, I love it and you can hear it in your voice and clearly, you can see it on your instagram too, if you ever yeah, people are like I kind of like this guy and they're gonna go to my instagram like nah, he's, he's a little much, you know you're like the like our version of david goggins. Basically, I'll take that that that's the best.
Speaker 2:I don't know what you're looking for. Points for Reagan, but that's about as good as a compliment I've ever received. Shoot me the.
Speaker 1:Venmo later and I'll pay it. Motivational videos you can just go to Adams and help us.
Speaker 2:I'm not as good you.
Speaker 1:You need people like that, like seeing or hearing you or, you know, having people in your life like you, like you're going to call someone to a higher standard and I see that with my coaching practices too is like I'm not a confrontational person. I don't like making people uncomfortable, like I would rather be uncomfortable. It's just my nature and maybe a little unhealthy. But inside of coaching people, it is my job to challenge them, to be uncomfortable and call them out and also to I'm not just there to pat your back, like why are you paying me If I'm going to just say, oh, it's okay, like week to week to week, so yeah.
Speaker 2:Here's a cool thing about you and this is something I would tell anybody if you're hiring a coach for anything, right Like, I've got mentors and business coaches that have nothing to do with fitness. They help me with my business, they help me with a mindset, they help me with ads, they help me with everything. Whoever you are looking up to that you want help from, make sure they're doing the things that they're asking you to do Right, like it's easy to look at your Instagram and realize Reagan's doing more than most people would ever attempt to do right with their physical fitness. You know, I watched some of the high rocks training and the events and I'm like, absolutely not, you know, like, like, like I'm like. You know I'll applaud you for for that. But like that's, you know that's uh, and that has my mind thinking about something completely different. But like your coach should be doing the thing.
Speaker 2:I also spoke about this on my Instagram. The reason I chose the people that I have to pay to teach me different things is they're doing that, they're not just talking about it. You know, I I see uh in the gym this morning. This guy's been in here for like the last five days or so and he's walking back and forth to the gym and he's just like he's yelling at people, which I kind of like, right Like I'm, I'm similar.
Speaker 2:And he's yelling at this is what you need to do. This is what you need to do, but but he doesn't. He doesn't have the results. He, his work ethic in the gym, his actual workout non-existent in my head. Being who I am, I'm like you should have just done these videos at home.
Speaker 2:Like maybe it's a cooler background because it's the gym and it makes people think that you're at, but his workout was and I'm not. I'm not making fun, like everybody's at different levels. A lot of people in there don't have the same goals I have. I'm very aware of that. But there's also a difference between working out and wasting time right. There's a lot of people that check the box off of going to the gym and never see change. That's, that's very common actually, unfortunately.
Speaker 2:But I thought to myself he can yell at this camera all he wants, but if he doesn't have the proof of work, if he doesn't have the results of work, no one's going to listen to him. And it's unfortunate because he was passionate, as could be on his phone. But I thought, dude, he spent 20 minutes trying to get the coolest angle of his arms ever. He was doing three rep sets. You know he was just holding the weight to get a picture. He'd drop it, 10 minutes would go by before any other work was being done. And I thought actions speak louder than words. You know, if you just filmed yourself giving it your all in the gym, we're not talking about weights. I don't need him to lift the same weights, that that someone else did, else did, but like if you filmed yourself giving your all, which you do all the time on your instagram, right, like if if you wouldn't need to speak, right.
Speaker 2:I, I tell people all the time I do coach people, I train people. It's something I'm very passionate about, but I also have another business and the business is way bigger and way better than what I do on the coaching side of things. I can't tell you how much work and business I've gotten, not from speaking, but from showing up in great shape. You know, I show up, I shake their hand. They say this dude's got discipline. If he's going to take care of himself like that, he will surely take care of me and my company like that. I literally just get business like that. And so if you can have the proof of your efforts, the proof of your work, that is something for anybody listening to this. Whether it is a coach to get you in shape, whether it is a business coach, make sure they have what it is that you're going after. Make sure what they're telling you to do or advising you to do is something they're doing themselves. Proof is in the work, not the words.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I definitely think actions speak louder than words. And yeah, I mean I think about, like therapist or business mentorships, like why would you see a course that says let me teach you how to make a million dollars on this person's making a hundred thousand dollars?
Speaker 2:a year. Oh, it's common. It's common. Yeah, let me show you how to get some biceps. And then you're like dude, my chick's got bigger biceps than you. You know exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do want to ask you kind of mentioned this A lot of people. I think I've been there too when I first started. I'm just going through the motions and okay, I went to the gym today. Um, what does it truly take? Because I think a lot of people do just go to the gym and say, okay, I did this workout program Like, what does it truly take to train versus just exercise?
Speaker 2:Uh, that's good and I think the first, like anybody listening to this, the first thing you could do is decide what it is that your goal is right, like me and you, but you know me and you do very similar things, but we probably have different goals.
Speaker 2:You know you won't see me competing at a high rocks event anytime soon, Right, and maybe you don't care about your bench press as much as I do, you know, but like I, so I think that's the first thing, because that's going to, that's going to detail what it is that your program should look like. You know, um, at the end of the day, change comes from effort, right? The uh Dorian Yates. He's a very famous body builder Some people have heard that name, Most maybe have not very famous bodybuilder from the UK, and this was another thing I heard on a YouTube video many, many years ago that has stuck with me and concrete in my brain. But he said muscle is nothing more than an adaptation to stress. You could also say change is nothing more than an adaptation to stress. And so if you're not going in the gym and putting and this could be through cardiovascular workouts, a HIIT, training weights, this could be a 30-minute session on the Stairmaster If you're not giving your body an actual reason to adapt, to change, I think you're wasting your time. You know, I've seen people that come into the gym and after three months they've made a miraculous change, right, and I've seen more times than not more times than the last example of people that go in the gym for months, if not years, and nothing ever changes.
Speaker 2:Now back to the goal. I used to train obnoxiously heavy, obnoxiously wild. I could only train maybe three days in a row before I needed a day or two rest. That was when I was trying to compete in bodybuilding. I've gotten to the size I'm happy with. That, I think serves me well in what I want to do in life.
Speaker 2:So when I go to the gym every morning, my main goal is to start my day off with a win. It keeps me sharp mentally. It gives me a boost of energy First thing in the morning that dopamine hit, I'm ready to roll it Anytime. I miss that, which is very, very rare, I feel the repercussions from that. So, like I go to the gym seven days a week Now, am I destroying my body every single time? No, I'm watching what I eat. My diet is well-tracked and then I'm doing enough to keep the ball rolling and keep what I currently have. That's my goal. It has not always been that way. So I think first discovering the goal is most important. What is it? It could be something as silly, as I want to look like this person right or I don't have any confidence, or my sex life sucks, right? Men, women, husbands, fathers. Whatever your goal is, I think deciding what that is is going to determine what it is that you do when you go to the gym.
Speaker 2:But whether this is a walk around the neighborhood, whether this is a workout at the gym, whether this is, you know, whatever else you choose to do with your fitness. I think you have to be aware that your body adapts and changes as it is needed. It doesn't adapt because you woke up, right? I think it's kind of funny. There's people that you know track their steps on their watch because they work in a cubicle or something that's what their job is and they say, oh, I walked a thousand steps today, or I walked 2000 steps today. That doesn't equate to any change in your, in your body. You've likely been doing that for years, right, there has to be something else that you do on top of whatever it is that your daily activities are in order for you to move the needle one way or another. You know so I'm a big effort guy, I'm a big on. There are no special exercises, there's no special machineries. There's no, there's no cables or booty bands or any of that. That has a secret little sauce built into it that when you're you know, you put it on or use it. You just get these results. You could have a barbell or a set of dumbbells and be in the best shape of your life If you knew what you were doing. You know, and so for me, I'm just a big effort guy.
Speaker 2:You, your, your body is magical. Most people don't know this. Most people would say I don't feel magical, or when I woke up this morning I didn't. There was nothing magical about how my back felt, or whatever. Your body is a literal walking miracle and it will adapt and change and grow stronger in the areas that you, you give it direction to do. You have to, you have to force that Right, um and so that's that's where that answer lands is. Uh, a guy came up to me in the gym two weeks ago. He said when I'm doing this, should my hands be like this or this?
Speaker 2:I said, man, forget that, it doesn't matter Now if you're going to be a pro bodybuilder and you're going to step on stage with Chris Bumstead. We need to get very, very like technical with where your hands are, what machine you're using. But you're clearly not right and so the effort in the exercise is going to, it's going to bode way more results than the angle of which your hand is right. So I put him through a few sets and he said I feel that. I said I know you do. You know, like yeah, I. I wasn't guessing whether you were going to feel or not, but like just to show him that like you're focusing on the wrong things. You know some people, uh, with with you. You know equipment, shoes, gear, you know shirts. They got to, they got to have the nicest stuff. None of that's going to make the change. The effort is all that matters.
Speaker 1:Always ask clients, and I mean even myself too are my efforts matching my expectations? You can't expect to run a 330 marathon when you can't even run a mile at an eight minute pace. Right, like are you talking to me?
Speaker 2:you weren't supposed to tell my numbers.
Speaker 1:You know we agreed before the pod that you were not gonna release my my running stats um, but it's so real like you can't expect to look a certain way if you're eating out every single night or binge drinking every weekend and staying up till 2 am. So I think it goes back to from what I heard you say is the consistency and being real with yourself and calling yourself out 100?
Speaker 2:100 and the cool thing about like at least the physical side of things is you, you, you can't cheat that.
Speaker 2:You get what you deserve you get what you gave back to the same thing. I uh, I make this analogy all the time and again, I didn't come up with this, I just spread it like wildfire, but like if you or I or anybody listened to this, won the lottery today. Right, we did our little powerball thing. If some of y'all do that and you win, a lot about your life will change. You know, likely as soon as that thing cashes out. You've got a new car and your, your man's got a new truck and you've got. You've got a house in San Diego and you've got a house in Miami and you're traveling the world, right, the clothes you wear, the watch you wear, all these things. The places you eat right, you're not at McDonald's anymore. You're going to like upscale Chick-fil-A, like. You're doing all these crazy things because you got all this money.
Speaker 2:You know, but the one thing that you will still have to work your tail off for is your is your physical health and the way your body looks. You know, and don't start with me on the surgeries, right, anybody that knows knows. We can tell when someone did the work or didn't. Okay, and I'm not bashing that, by the way, but like the one thing that you cannot buy with money, no matter how rich you get, is your physical body and your and your physical health, and I think that's what makes that so, so valuable. If it were as easy as taking a pill, if it were as easy as 30 second abs, you know, and stupid stuff like that, it wouldn't hold as much value as it does, you know, and so that's kind of a cool way of looking at it. What's?
Speaker 1:that you have pride in it because you know that you have worked so hard inside of that, like it's just a sense of different confidence that it gives you. I think, or I know, I mean.
Speaker 2:I've seen yeah, one of my mentors says, uh, pretty religiously, the worth is in the work. You know the worth, the value in something is in the work that you do to achieve it. That's in every, every realm of life. The worth of the relationship that you have is in the work you did. Behind the scenes that nobody saw, the really tough conversations, the therapy appointments, the crying, the forgiveness, all that stuff right, working through past trauma, people from the outside said, man, that's awesome, I'd love to have that. Well, the worth to you is greater than you know the image that that person has because of the work that you know that was required to to get to that place. So I think about that all the time. The value of whatever it is that we're going in is directly correlated to the work we put into it, of whatever it is that we're going in is directly correlated to the work we put into it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, wow, that was so good.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have it all on my notes here, I'm just reading.
Speaker 1:I do have some specific questions and I actually asked some of these questions to put them in my question box because I'm curious. So I coach a lot of guys Well, not a lot of guys, I have four guy clients Um, I have some male friends in this space as well and then also to just like friends that I've made here, and then I know from back home, guys really struggle and something that I see like guys do not eat enough. I'm like, dude, I'm eating more than you, and so that is something that I feel like a lot of guys struggle with is how can they get enough calories in to actually see change? And I don't know if you've ever struggled with that, but like if they're training hard and they're, you know, training to failure and like actually putting in the effort to what they think, like physically get those results, but the nutrition is slacking. Can you talk on that a little bit?
Speaker 2:Yeah, a hundred percent, and I'm uh, I can talk personally in this one. You know I grew up, uh, super thin. Like you ever see somebody.
Speaker 2:Like there's thin people, like skinny people, and then there's like scrawny, like like yeah, like we need to check on this guy's parents, like he's like he's like I loved basketball growing up and I could run with the wind, I could jump through the roof, but I was so tiny that I like I had to stay out of the paint. You know, like I couldn't. You know I break my arm. You know, going up for a rebound if someone hit me. Like I was just rail thin and I've been the height that I am currently since high school. So I'm like 6'2 currently. I came out of high school like above 50 or something like that. I went into the Marine Corps. I came out of Marine Corps basic training at 155 pounds, at the same height. So at my at my peak now I've been at like 245, 250, and I'm currently at like 225, 225, 220 feels really healthy, real. You know it looks good, but for the longest time I was just this scrawny guy and I feel for a lot of guys. I feel for them wanting to be bigger and stronger. There's a lot that comes with that, but there's a lot of work that has to be done to achieve that. And so I was talking to one of my mentors he's in the gym with me most mornings here in Miami and we were talking about people often put a lot of negative connotations. On a cut, like when someone's trying to lean out and get cut and lose some weight, and how you know there's cardio involved and there's there's less calories and sometimes you're hungry and I said what's crazy is I would rather do that all day long than to have to force feed myself healthy food in order to gain muscle. The hardest part of the entire journey I've ever had was when I was actively competing in bodybuilding and trying to get to a certain weight and how much food I was having to quite literally force into my body in order to get the results. To quite literally force into my body in order to get the results. Now, the quality of the results someone would receive is purely based on the quality of the food you eat. There's all that you know. You see the dirty bulking guys that are crushing fast food and all that stuff. I promise you you pay for that later on down the road, and that is from personal experience. You would be much better set off taking a little bit more time and crushing some real food that comes from the earth in order to get a cleaner set of gains, because you'll have to lose that weight eventually and weight doesn't mean strength, right. Like when I was 245, I felt terrible, I looked terrible, I was embarrassed to take my shirt off. And I'm stronger now at 225, right.
Speaker 2:Sometimes the weight, the added weight, is debilitating more than it is helpful. When it comes to a guy that wants to be bigger, stronger, look better, I will say this I think there's a lot of guys, especially the young ones, it's. It's mostly a misconception that the food is what causes the body change. So, like you've heard this before, I'm going to do a high rep workout so I can tone. That's not a thing, right?
Speaker 2:What determines whether you lose weight or gain weight is solely your caloric intake. Right, the quality of your caloric intake. So for guys I see guys in there that I can tell want it. They're in every gym, these dudes I'm like this dude's crushing it, he's curling twice the weight I'm curling and has nothing to show for it. Like, I almost feel bad for the guy, you know. But like, there's this connotation that the heavier you lift, the more you lift, the bigger you get, and that is just untrue, that is. There's no science behind that. The food that you eat in order to grow and repair those muscles that you are destroying has more to do than the weight that you are using to destroy that muscle, you know. And so I think if we could prioritize for the guys that want to put on some size, for the guys that want to be stronger, if you could prioritize the fuel for your body more than the exercises you do to to break down muscle tissue in order for it to rebuild, you're going to see progress quicker.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's. I don't think it's, and you can tell me different. I don't think it's so much. They just won't do it. They can't eat. I don't think they prioritize the food. I think they prioritize being in the gym for two or three hours which is not needed, by the way and they prioritize seven days a week and they prioritize, you know, heavy, heavy, heavy weights and I just none of that's going to work if you're not in a caloric surplus. You know, I remember probably a six month span where I was not hungry for one day of six months. I ate on a time schedule, right, I ate whole eggs, I ate sweet potatoes, rice, chicken, beef. I ate when I was supposed to eat in order to meet my macronutrient goals, my caloric goals. At the end of each day. I was never hungry for the food right Like I was never. You know, your body has a natural state right 250 for me. When I was 250, my body was fighting me every day.
Speaker 1:We don't want to be 250.
Speaker 2:I want to be 250.
Speaker 2:You know, this doesn't feel good, right, we're sweating, walking up the steps, right, you like, I need to be big, right, and so, like, if you, if you are fighting where, you know, maybe your, your natural tendencies are based on your decisions and things you eat and your daily activities. You're going to have to feed, that, you know. And so for me it's it's, it's a mind, it's more of a mind shift of like, let's prioritize the fuel, let's prioritize the gas that we're putting in the engine, um, over the performance of the engine itself. You know, you can take a Ferrari engine. I tell everybody you've got a Ferrari engine and you just keep putting unleaded gas in yourself. You put some racing fuel in your engine and your whole life will change, you know. So for guys, especially the young ones, you can lift all the heavy weights you want. If you don't have the calories to back up the growth that you want to see your weight, you're spinning your wheels. You know, for me it was a food game. It was never a lifting game.
Speaker 1:What are some ways? So, when we heard meal timing because I mean our body is smart Like if you quit eating breakfast and you start fasting, like naturally you're just not going to be hungry in the morning, right, um, but how? What are some ways that you would recommend people to sneak in calories?
Speaker 2:without feeling like face.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's good. I think there are little uh secrets and hacks to sneak in some calories. I also think, just like, if you chose to fast and not eat breakfast, you'll no longer start to be hungry in the morning. I think the opposite is true, if you can start forcing some meals on in in meal timing, meaning I eat. In this current day and age, I'm eating three meals a day. Right, they're relatively big meals, but they're they're separated by four or five hours at a time. If you are consciously trying to get bigger and build muscle and get stronger, you may need meals more closely put together. Right, I was eating every two and a half hours back in my day when I was trying to get as big as possible, and I, quite literally, was never hungry. The longer I did that, though, the more my body was able to handle the influx of food. It adjusted back to the to. Your body's a miracle. Your body will adapt to what the environment that you are putting it into. Okay, and so for.
Speaker 2:For me, I think that's more important than the little hacks and stuff. But like, for instance, if you take a? Uh, I was big on Lender's blueberry bagels. I still eat them from time to time, although I've put them aside for a while because I really like them. But the Lenders bagels are like 220 calories a piece. They're like 44 carbs a piece and so in my peak I'm hitting, you know, three of those at a time, you know. So I'm getting you know 132 grams of carbs. I'm getting you know 700 calories just off the bagels themselves. If I slap some almond butter on the bagel and then drizzle some honey on the bagel, my calories, my carbs, my fats skyrocket and it's not a very like, it's not changing.
Speaker 1:The density in that meal is the bagel itself, the bread, right, it wouldn't matter how much. You're still taking five bites or whatever.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I'm still taking the same amount of bites. But I've got the almond butter on there, peanut butter, I've got you could put whatever you wanted on there. And then I put some honey on there for some quick digesting carbs. This was always my post-workout meal and that helped me to increase that a lot. No-transcript like a chocolate shake, you know, and I I tell people try. I've never had anybody that tried me on it and said, nah, that's terrible.
Speaker 2:So like, if you replace the 12 or 14 ounces of water with 12 or 14 ounces of liquid egg whites, which is pure protein by by the way, then you have automatically increased that shake by 15, 20, 30 grams protein, you know. So like, at my peak I was doing a 90 gram protein shake in the mornings along with my bagels. It was. It was nearly a 1700, 2000 calorie meal, right. So, and that's first thing in the morning, you know, that's 7am, if I can get in, you know, 1500 to 2000 calories right off the bat. I'm already in a really good place to be in a caloric surplus.
Speaker 2:And it's all good food, it's whole food, right outside of the protein powder. But if your, if your goal is to grow, the likelihood you get enough protein through whole food is going to be difficult, and so if you have the capacity with with protein powder and to fit that into your diet, uh, it can be helpful. So little stuff like that. What? What are you mixing stuff with? Uh, my favorite one is just that protein shake with the egg whites, so it's a home run. Once you taste it, you'll never go back to water anyways.
Speaker 1:I need to. I need to try that.
Speaker 2:I want a, a video we all want a video of you trying a liquid egg white protein shake uh, maybe I'll make one this week okay, cool, I'm gonna hold you to it um, all right, do you care if I run run through some of these other questions? No, you, we. I've allotted all afternoon, so we can do as much as you want.
Speaker 1:Okay, perfect, we'll just get 10 episodes out of it.
Speaker 2:Okay, cool yeah, yeah, perfect.
Speaker 1:Perfect, okay, let's see All right. So how long should someone follow a training plan before switching? Does someone need to be pulling workouts from Instagram weekly, or do they need to follow something for a certain amount of time? Workouts from.
Speaker 2:Instagram weekly or do they need to follow something for a certain amount of time? Yeah, good question. Um, if, if it's, if it's not broke, don't fix it. You know, if someone's following a training routine, a training program, and they have the capacity to not get bored by it, right, which that ties into, just like purpose. You know, uh, I've been bench pressing for 20 plus years. You know like it's, it's just a staple, it works. You know, I've been bench pressing for 20 plus years. You know like, it's just a staple, it works. You know. But if it's working, don't change it.
Speaker 2:You know, if you, if you've been doing a routine for a while, it first garnered the results you were wanting and you get to a place where you don't feel like it's working anymore, switch it up. I think that has more to do with boredom, right, and doing the same repetitive thing over and over again. But back to consistency, back to all the successful people that I've been, you know, honored and grateful enough to be connected to recently to be able to just consistently, routinely, do the same things, eat the same things, train at the same time, train the same amount to be able to do that and kind of sit aside personal, like we're not going to the gym for entertainment. We're not. We're going to the gym because we have a purpose, right. And so even if you were doing a workout, an, an exercise routine and it was first getting your results and now you feel like it, it it isn't. Do more reps, add more weight, cut down your rest periods right, put more effort into the thing and I guarantee you'll continue to get results.
Speaker 2:I think it's easy to kind of stagnate ourselves on the effort side of things versus, you know, switching the variable, which is effort, reps, weight, rest period. You know that sort of thing. So another way to kind of like something that's been helpful for me is if you have the availability this is not a requirement, by the way but if you have the availability to have someone there that can push you along and call you out on your laziness, call you out on your lack of effort, that can be as useful as switching up your exercise routine. Back to the same scenario I could do and I've heard this from people way more successful in the space than me. I could take a barbell and do five exercises for the rest of my life and my body would continue to adapt to change, you know.
Speaker 1:And so you know.
Speaker 2:If you're bored, if you can't figure out, you know how to. You know again, it's not daycare, right? We don't go to the gym to be entertained At least I don't but like, if, if you do need the thing, uh, try switching up the variables in your current workout or just switch to another workout and stick to that for a certain period of time. Uh, but just know that the effort that you put into something means way more than the actual routine itself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's I. Um, I think it's very. A lot of people just tend to save workouts on Instagram and feel like they have to mix it up weekly because they get bored. But honestly, I'm the same way, Like I could do. All of my workouts are the same, basically Right, like they movement patterns, basically using a barbell for most of the exercises. Um, but I tell people, if you're getting bored with your workout routine, you're probably not working hard enough.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I mean, that's, that's just the honest truth. Look at you being tougher than me. I wasn't going to say it, you know. But you're, you're just a meanie, but you know. And, uh, yeah, I mean, I, I just for like to help people.
Speaker 2:See, I don't recall the last time I changed my workout routine. Like, I don't, I don't consciously do that. You know, if there's something, if there's something I would like to do and it's not available in the gym, then I, then I adapt and do something else. But I already know, based on the experience, that the effort I put into any exercise. You know, like some people, how much weight do I need to bench to have a big chest? Do do a thousand pushups a day. You don't need to bench anything. You have a massive chest. If you do a thousand pushups a day, you know, and when you get to a thousand, and it's very easy for you and your chest stops growing, then do 1500 every day and if you did that for the rest of your life, you'd have a constantly growing and adapting and changing massive chest.
Speaker 2:You know so like being able to, to switch up the effort itself, versus thinking every now, every week, regardless. Is is way too soon, you know. But uh, but I, I like what you. We're going to stick with what you said as our final answer that maybe, if you're right, like if you're getting bored, you're, you're probably not, you have too much time to think about being bored by it Cause you're not putting in the effort required to get the change.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're not working hard enough. You need a new sense to create change. So, inside of your nutrition, inside of your body, like, like you said, if five sets of five squats at two 25 is getting easy, do five sets of seven, or do five sets at two 30, or two 35. Um, cause, our body is going to keep adapting and then eventually, two 35 will get easy, and then you add a rep or add weight and that's that's how you grow. So I think a lot of people just need to hear that I'm like I like I've told someone before, I'm like I don't really care if you're getting bored in your workouts, like you need to work harder.
Speaker 2:Yeah, this isn't a. Netflix series right Like we're not here to entertain. We're here just to get the result. You know, I had a buddy the other day, uh, we were doing shoulders and he said I said, you're up, he's like man, I've already done four step or four sets. And I said are your shoulders where you want them to be? He said no, I was like mine either. Let's do four more, you know like you know, there's.
Speaker 2:There's no magic in the numbers too. I just want to throw that out there, whether we get to it or not, like you know, 12 reps, 15 reps, 10 reps. If you get to 10 reps, 15 reps, 20 reps, and you know you could have done 10 more, then you're not exhausting your body enough. I tell people that are new, like someone that maybe will be training with me that hasn't trained with me before they're like visiting town or whatever, or working, interconnected with some other groups of people how many reps I say I don't know, with the weight you picked. You know like, like, do as many as you can like.
Speaker 2:Like a fail proof system, truthfully and this is not a recommendation, but a fail proof system would be whatever weight you pick up, do it until you can't do it anymore and your body will change. I mean, it's, it's that simple. You know the whole, the whole dieting, fitness, getting into a certain look or shape. It's very simple. It's not easy, easy and simple or not the same things but it's very, very simple. The ideas behind it are mind bogglingly simple.
Speaker 1:They're just not always easy to execute on. You know, I always say that with people. I'm like coaching with me. It is simple, like you're're gonna, you're paying for this, and then you're gonna look back and be like, wow, like this is all we did, right, like this is what we did. But you, yeah, like you, you know what to do. You just it's not always easy to do it. So, yeah, and we can't be there to pull you out of bed in the morning when you're when your pillow feels real soft.
Speaker 2:You know I mean we could be, but like that's really expensive, like easy to do it, so we can't be there to pull you out of bed in the morning when you're when your pillow feels real soft. You know I mean we could be, but like that's really expensive, like that, that coaching here is, most people aren't going to be able to afford that. But, like, for the ones that can, we'll come up to your house, we'll kick the door in, we'll drag you out of bed, drive you to the gym and uh, so yeah, it's, it's just. You know you give, you, give people the blueprint, the blueprints. Very simple, right, the blueprint to follow to hit your goals. It's very simple, just the execution of said blueprint. You know you're going to hit walls and I think it's important for anybody listening to this.
Speaker 2:Like I don't always wake up and I'm ready to go, always wake up and I'm ready to go. Like I fight myself a lot of times, you know, I think about the person I want to be. I think about the person that wants the same things I want. Like I work through some thoughts in my head that make it easy for me to then choose to, to stick to my routine, but it but you know it's easy to look at people that might be on this podcast or people on Instagram that you look up to and think you know. It's easy to look at people that might be on this podcast or people on instagram that you look up to and think you know, like they don't have those same problems right like I don't have cravings to go get cookies and ice cream. It's my favorite thing on the planet. I eat a lot of chicken and rice and sweet potatoes and eggs, but I love cookies and ice cream.
Speaker 1:Weakness you know, I would eat that for every meal if I could.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah it's not like, oh, he doesn't know, I got a sweet tooth. I promise you, you're, I promise on. On anything, I've said the most, the most, the most confident thing that I could say is that your sweet tooth's not larger, you know.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, at the end of the day, you just got to want it, you got to be able to put in the work but I I do think too, like even with you, and I I mean, if you're not training for something and I'm not training, like I don't have to get up and work out but I've just created this persona of I think about the person that I want to be and like I'm not the best at high rocks, I'm not the fastest, I'm not the fastest, I'm not the strongest girl, but I have this um, what was I saying? Oh, I pretend like I am. Like I will say I am an athlete, I am strong, I am like I pretend like I'm a high level athlete and I get paid to do my rocks, but like I train that way and I take my body that way. So you almost have to sometimes trick yourself into like pretending to be something that you're not, until you get in the routine.
Speaker 2:In the Marine Corps we had a saying false motivation is better than no motivation. Like, sometimes you just hype yourself, you just, you just create it out of thin air. I swear to this day in this space that you see behind me I'm walking back and forth at 4 30 like you're a savage. They don't even know, they don't even understand what you show on instagram. They have. No, I'm just talking to them, I'm just creating this. Like that man I told you earlier I can't remember if we were recording or not, but like, uh, the apartment I live in in miami has like a underground um parking garage and in my mind when I pull into the parking garage it's the bat cave, you know and so I'm pulling.
Speaker 2:I, this is, this is, you know, batman headquarters, and I, you know when, especially when it's dark in here, I'll have like a candle burning. So it's just for for you know, just to set up this scenario of you know me being this, this superhero, and I'll, I'll pace back and forth and I'm just talking to myself. You know, they said you couldn't do it. They said you'd never make it. You know, and that's something powerful too, while we're on it, using, using stuff that has been said to you, that has been done to you for your motivation and your fuel, is about the smartest thing you could use those negative things for. I tell people all the time.
Speaker 2:I, every once in a while, when I'm going for a really heavy set, a training partner or someone in the gym that I'm with will say dude, you looked intense and I said I had to go, I had to get negative, I went to a very dark place. Sometimes I create it. Right, I'm going to have a future family. I think about if somebody did something to that person. Right, my family. I can conjure that up in my head and it will allow me to execute at a level I might not be able to execute at otherwise. Likewise, I can use something someone said to me when I was a kid, a teenager in high school, in the Marine Corps people, we've got family members right.
Speaker 2:Some of us got family members that have said stuff to us that we can't shake right. There's no better place to use that negativity than the gym. Anywhere outside of the gym and it becomes a negative thing on your day, on your life. It doesn't benefit you anywhere else besides the gym. Your workout right. So like if, if you've got those things and I say if we all do, right, if we're being honest, but if you've got those things, man, there's some stuff some guy said to me in high school. He has no idea that the monster that I am today is because of him. You know like I utilize that for my good. You know for me to use it anywhere else. I become a negative human being, you know.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm glad that you said that. Sometimes we just it's probably best if people don't know, I guess in our head and the gym just it's probably best if people don't know what goes on in our head in the gym.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I'm like promise. I promise if I put up on a screen what was in my head before that lift, we you might not want to hang out with me, we wouldn't be, friends, you know so um, for someone that is starting out just lifting, or if someone can only commit to, let's say, like three days of lifting.
Speaker 1:But they're training hard, like they're. They're training with effort and training with intensity. How would you split that up personally, Like for um, like workout split like three full body waves, or yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I certainly think if you are going super hard on a certain area of your body, it's going to require recovery in order for that change to happen that you're looking for. So I'm not a big fan of three full body workouts. One and I say this all the time to people like I'm I'm a big believer and a big fan of unilateral movements. For those that are listening to this that might not click a unilateral movements where I'm doing one arm at a time. So, whether it's a row or a pull down or a bicep curl, I would rather do one curl here, one curl here, than a bar all day, every day. The reason is is because I can give more attention and effort to one side at a time. If you're doing a full body circuit, you're going to hit your shoulders and you're going to hit your chest and your back and your legs, but none of that is going to get full attention. It's not going to get a full amount of effort and energy to make it want to change. You might burn some calories. If you're just trying to drop some weight. You can burn some calories by doing some, you know, a HIIT workout. That might hit your whole body. It does go back to whatever your, your end goal is. But, um, I tell people all the time with like unilateral versus, you know, and and personal preference to each person. I'm not I'm not saying one way or another, but like one at a time is, uh I use this analogy, I have a ton of analogies with the gym and life, so so bear with me here. But to do two at the same time is like trying to date two people at the same time. It's probably not going to work out, cause you're giving 50% here and 50% here when I'm doing one at a time. That has my full attention. So it allows me to really. So, as far as that goes, I would probably do a lower body day If I had three days a week. I would crush my lower body one day. I would do a push workout the other day, push being chest and shoulders and triceps, and then I would do a pull workout, like a back and bicep workout, you know, and then after the three days, well, I guess you would have rest. But if I had out of the seven day week, I'd probably do like a Monday, wednesday or Friday Take the weekend to recover, and then hit Monday part again, say, or Friday, take the weekend to recover and then hit Monday part again. But I will say this too, real passionate here.
Speaker 2:Some feedback I get all the time Adam, it must be nice, right, you're a business owner, you're single, you don't have a family, blah, blah, blah. People want to use their work and their family as excuses instead of reasons all the time. But there's going to be very, very, very few people that can only get three days in a week. It might be all you want to get in a week, but I think if we really really prioritized our fitness, we could find space and time for people to do this. You know, and something I like to encourage people with even though sometimes it might not sound like encouragement is whether you are a single mother of three, whether you are a disabled veteran, whatever the thing.
Speaker 2:After comes the potential excuse there's already somebody else that's done it. There's already been a single mother of three that made it happen. There's already been the single father of two that's made it happen. Right, there's already been. The person that works you know, crazy work hours, third shift, whatever it is there's already been someone before you that's figured it out.
Speaker 2:So there is no excuse when it comes to children, when it comes to family, when it comes to business. These are your reasons. We need reasons. This is something I'm very passionate on too. People often want to use their I've got kids, I can't do it. I've got kids, I can't do this Versus utilizing the fact that you are a parent, a father, a mother figure as your reason to make the thing happen. If the thing is the gym, if the thing is weight loss and that benefits your children, your family, by doing so, then you use that children in that family as your reason for making it happen. People say I don't have time. Very few people are doing anything at 4am besides snoozing, right, I get up at 4am, right? I?
Speaker 1:don't have a family.
Speaker 2:I am a business owner. I could. I could work from anywhere, anytime, any hours I want to. I could go to the gym at any time of the day. I choose to get up at 4 am most days of the week and that is because it fits my schedule. It allows me to get all the other things that I want to get done and it allows me to get all the things that I need to get done.
Speaker 2:It might not be something I necessarily want to do, but I have. I have to get it done and getting that workout out of the way First thing in the morning doesn't allow an excuse to hop into my space to keep me from getting it done. So if I was doing three days a week push pull legs, but I would challenge most people, most there's going to be a few random scenarios I would challenge most people. It's just because it's not your priority. You know, if you make this thing about somebody else other than yourself and you prioritize it because it only benefits you and everyone else around you, you lose a little weight, you gain a little muscle, you gain some confidence, you gain some strength and only benefits everybody involved and you prioritize that you can find some more time to get some more workouts in.
Speaker 1:Yeah, even that's what I tell clients too. I'm like, even if it's 30 minutes, like go do 30 minutes of heavy barbell squats and you can make it work.
Speaker 2:So put that baby on your shoulders and knock out 100 squats.
Speaker 1:Literally.
Speaker 2:Seriously Baby weight.
Speaker 1:We'll circle back when you have kids one day.
Speaker 2:This is where my personal brand just blossoms when I have children, because I'm doing all the exercises, yeah.
Speaker 1:Off the neighborhood, dad yeah 100%.
Speaker 2:Send your kids over. I need to work out. They're going to get in shape, know they're gonna get in shape. I'm gonna get in shape and I'll make all the other dads look like fools, you know. So yeah, I just yeah, really big on that like prioritizing it, because there's no negative side effect from you prioritizing your health and fitness. There's not. It only benefits everybody else. To think of it Otherwise it's kind of selfish.
Speaker 1:Yeah, every, every single area of your life. Like I can walk into a room confident because I'm confident but also because I know that I take care of myself and I care my body and I take care of my nutrition. Like you're going to just show up naturally more confident in other parts of your life.
Speaker 2:You may have heard this. I've heard this one time, but I want to share it just in case people listening haven't heard it. But confidence comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself.
Speaker 2:I literally said that, yeah, I walk around all the time and like Adam's confident, adam's cocky even. Sometimes it comes from me. It comes from me walking the talk, it comes from me doing exactly what I preach on a day-to-day basis. And you can tell somebody, regardless of how they're dressed, regardless of how they're even acting. Fake confidence is very easy to see through. But, like when you make a promise, that promise might be like I'm going to get up at 4 am Monday through Friday, I'm going to knock my workout out. That Reagan gave me no excuses. You keep that long enough. That promised yourself. Your confidence, your confidence will grow exponentially and you'll realize that the confidence is more attached to you keeping the promises to yourself than your body actually changing. I know people that are in great shape, that are insecure as anybody you'd ever met, you know. So, like it's it's it's. It's not just about hitting your workouts. I think when we see progress in the mirror, it does allow us to see ourselves more confidently. But when you make any kind of promise to yourself, like the other day and I don't, I don't know if you remember, sorry, there's someone vacuuming If you hear that, I'm so sorry, but like the other the other day.
Speaker 2:I really wanted to being in Miami I'm a minority now, so like I'm in a Spanish speaking country now in Miami and so I thought it would benefit me to learn Spanish. So I started taking Spanish classes and I did for a couple of weeks. I was using Duolingo on my iPhone and I said I'm going to practice Spanish 30 minutes every day, seven days a week, and I'll be literate in six months time. I did that for three weeks or so. I fell off for a couple of days. A couple of days turned into a week, and I feel shame in that, because I told myself I may have even announced it on my Instagram that this is what I'm going to do. This is something I do when it comes to my workouts.
Speaker 2:When it comes to the fitness side of things I don't miss ever I've done it for so long it just is easier to. But when I introduce a new goal, I lack confidence in that area because I didn't keep that promise I made, and it's something as simple as learning a new language. But if you want more confidence the things that you speak out loud to other people or the things you speak internally to yourself if you'll keep that word, your confidence will grow like you couldn't imagine. It's like the biggest hack Just doing what you said you were gonna do, regardless of how big or small that might be you trust yourself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you build the trust imagine if you don't trust yourself, how could you trust anybody else you don't love?
Speaker 1:yourself.
Speaker 2:Other people too like you'll walk in a room with your head down and you can pinpoint they're not confident or they're very insecure, and it often does come from lack of trust we talked earlier, a lot of times I can meet someone and tell whether they're well traveled or not, you know, and by well traveled I mean like been to other areas of the world, not just the united states, because there's different cultures, there's different belief, there's different belief systems, there's different family traditions, there's different food and religions.
Speaker 2:And when you've seen other areas of the world and I've been fortunate, partly through the military, partly places you know, five continents, 25 countries, and it's really easy to be, to have an attitude of gratitude with where we live when you've seen, uh, other parts of the world, you know, and so my perspective on life, my perspective on the opportunity that we all have, my perspective on this very short lived, you know, existence that we have on this planet is, you know, of higher quality, because I've seen other areas. There are people in other areas of the world that would literally kill to have most everybody listening to this podcast, if not everybody to have your spot, to have your position, to have your opportunity, and if they saw the way you were utilizing that opportunity, it would make them sick to their stomach. People with less knowledge, less education, people with, uh, you know, uh, even worse genetics, they would run circles around you if they had your spot, you know. And so I think, uh, when it, when it comes to perspective and all that stuff, if you have the ability, you know, to be able to see other areas of the world and travel, uh, it's very helpful in understanding that, like, on our worst day, we have it best here, and that's just true, right, Regardless of all the stuff that's going on in this country right now.
Speaker 1:even on the worst day, we've got it the best year you don't, um, that's like so good to wrap up on too, because it's such an eye-opening thing, like you, just you don't realize how special something is until you don't have it anymore. Um, and when you're able to, I mean even like just being on social media, like there's little African kids that always pop up on my TikTok dancing, or even them having to work and the things that they're eating or whatever, and it truly does just shift you, shift you to a perspective of gratitude. Um, and even myself, like I don't take advantage of that sometimes like the fact that I can get up in the morning and go get sunshine outside or make myself healthy, it's like why would you not lean into that? And the past few weeks I've taken some time off of running, and now that I'm not, I wasn't running as much, or I, you know, took 10 days off of it.
Speaker 2:I'm like, wow, like I really I never want to take that for granted again sure yeah yeah, there's, uh, there's, and you know, what's crazy about that too is like all the potential, all the opportunity, the opportunity, all the resources that we have. You know, the US is seen by a lot of people as the unhappiest place, the unhappiest group of people, and what's crazy is I've been to some of the worst third world countries on the planet and they're some of the happiest people I've ever met, genuinely happy. They don't have iPhones, they don't have gyms, they don't have five-star restaurants or hotels, they don't have any of that stuff. And and there's something to say about that, you know. And so I think, in its simplest form, the fact that we even have the opportunity to shape our physical body, to improve our health, right, you don't have to have an expensive gym membership, you know. But that to have that ability right Is a gift in and of itself, you know, and when you see it as a gift, it makes it a lot harder to trash that gift right, like I feel responsibility to be optimized, you know, not only, not only to my future family, to myself, but my creator right, like the, the gift of life, the gift of another breath, and I and I, we we spoke on this earlier. I'm not sure if we were recording or not, but I will share it, uh, anyways. But like when you realize a lot of people don't make moves in their life, they decide to not make a decision because they're so worried and pinned down by fear, by the opinions of other people. They're scared. Scared as can be to fail. They're scared as can be to say they're going to do something and then that thing not happen.
Speaker 2:When you start to have the perspective of life that this thing's temporary and it all goes away one time or one day, it's easier to take hold of that opportunity sooner than later. I had somebody tell me one time. He said Adam, you train every day. It's like it seems to be your life, you know? He's like, don't you know that you're going to lose all that muscle one day? And I said, man, what a terrible perspective to have on life. I said do you know that you're going to lose all of your money one day? Do you know that you will lose your wife and kids one day? Do you know that this entire existence is temporary, right? There's nothing that we, that any of us, have, that we're going to hold on to forever, you know, and so? But to be able to take advantage of the opportunity, while you have it, to be able to take part in the good things that come from you taking care of your physical body right, playing with your kids, hiking with your around the world, with your significant other, whatever it is.
Speaker 2:Although it's all temporary, why not enjoy that experience while you have it right? Why not optimize your physical body so that you can enjoy this temporary existence to its fullest, you know? So, just a perspective shift there. I'm really big on. I'm less on the technicalities of things and just real big on the mindset perspective behind things. Um, I think a lot of times it's just one little shift in here that can change the entire game. Um, but that's it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that was wow, that was great. You're a girl, I appreciate it, I appreciate you being on the podcast?
Speaker 2:Yeah, thanks for sharing.
Speaker 1:We're going to talk about training and the specifics, but, like, at the end of the day, you can have the perfect training program but if mentally you're not right and you're not putting in the effort, then it doesn't matter. It's simple, it goes back to it's simple and I appreciate you speaking on that because, yeah, I mean, like you look at your physique and you're like, yeah, like that man knows how to work out, but working out is just the smallest part of it, it's all.
Speaker 2:One more thing One of my mentors always says people come to him and they say what's the thing I should be doing, what's the training routine I should be doing, what's the things I should be eating? And he always says it's not what, it's who, it's who you are that dictates the way those other things perform or work in your life. It's less about the thing, it's less about the equipment, it's less about the gear, it's less about all these things, it's more about you. Right? You're not.
Speaker 2:You can't have an external result without an internal one first. It all starts within you. It all starts I'm the biggest fan on self-development right On mindset, on perspective, on gratitude, on all these things. And so if you're having a continuous external outcome, that is not what you want. It behooves you to look internal first, to be able to look in the mirror. Be honest with yourself. Be honest with choices you make. Be honest with choices you choose not to make. Be honest with the people you surround yourself with. Be honest with the food that you're consuming. Be honest with the people you surround yourself with. Be honest with the food that you're consuming. And once that shift happens, once you can be honest with yourself, the external will start to happen. You know, I think that's a big thing. It's not what, it's who. Who are you to?
Speaker 2:get you know the who controls the what. You know the who controls the why, the why controls the what.
Speaker 1:It's just from there the the results come. I love that. I've never heard it put that way, but yeah, yeah, well, thank you for being on the podcast today and for everyone listening. Um, I know this, this is an incredible podcast, like. I feel super motivated now.
Speaker 2:Um you should do another one yeah, we should.
Speaker 1:And for those listening like if you loved it, please share it and rate the podcast, and then also, um, let adam know that you enjoyed it too thanks for having me. I really appreciate your time thanks for listening everyone, and we will catch you next time see you hey, okay, wait, stop recording.
