Real SPIT Talk
Real SPIT Talk
Getting Real About Modern Love and Dishonesty
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Ever wondered why relationships are more complex than a Rubik's cube and how to navigate through one? Let's crack the code together in this episode. We start off with a controversial concept - Dysonasy in a relationship, and the pros and cons of introducing a third party into a relationship. How does alcohol play a part in all this? Let's find out together.
We also take a journey through the importance of 'me time' in between relationships and the power of discipline and self-growth in maintaining a healthy one. What's the harm in having a ‘sexy twin’ in a relationship or being in a monogamous relationship? A lot, according to some folks. But is it all bad? We discuss this, and the effects of social media on relationships.
As we navigate through the maze of relationships, we also touch on some thorny issues such as open relationships, jealousy, and insecurity. The importance of self-awareness, respecting boundaries, and the possible fallout of threesomes and secret sexual relationships are covered. We end our discussion by exploring why some men engage in infidelity and the benefits of being single. So, are you ready to jump into this rollercoaster ride of a discussion on modern relationships?
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Permission for Open Relationship and Encounter
Speaker 2Yeah so we gotta do something definitely. So we have to figure out what day works best for it.
Speaker 3Here's one. Your partner says, and we're not reading these, we just say yeah, no. So what? They're not, these are gonna be question cards we bring up. Your partner says she or he doesn't want to introduce Dysonasy into the relationship, so with your permission, they'd like to go and sleep with someone else. What you're doing. They don't want to be dishonest in the relationship show, so they basically ask permission of whether or not they can sleep with somebody else. And then You're about to have sex for the first time with your boo and in comes their sexy twin to join two of you. What you doing?
Speaker 1I don't know, I don't know, that's turning to incest for me, right, that's too Right. But you say in walks the sexy twin, yeah.
Speaker 3But that doesn't mean that she's gonna do stuff with her sister. Just means that both of them would do stuff with you.
Speaker 1But I'm still saying that feels weird to me because that's yeah. I think it's weird as fuck when they used to run trains on me, man.
Speaker 4I was weird as fuck.
Speaker 1I used to be around the guys and you know they'll be talking about this shit and I'll be like, yeah, I think it's gay, I think it's weird. And they like, what the fuck you mean? I'll be like you're gay. Ain't no way I'm gonna have another nigga. Be, involved in my vicinity while I'm fucking another bitch unless there's some separate day, I've seen this shit. I've seen one female in the room with seven niggas and they all Talk about this.
Speaker 2Start with a.
Speaker 3B.
Speaker 4What.
Speaker 2Yeah, I don't know why people made up the name. Yeah, I'm told by she's calling me an Platte.
Speaker 1Anyway, the fucking even though nigga and I just think about niggas standing around with that dick balls out around each other, I was always weird in the shower, in the locker room having conversation while me and Shalom what do we? Get the fuck out of here and get some clothes on and fuck work.
Speaker 4Okay, okay, you want to start dead, you want to start dead. What, what? We even had a conversation with your dick. You want to start dead you want to start dead.
Speaker 2What, what? We even had a conversation with your dick. You want to start dead. You want to start dead.
Speaker 1You want to start talking about action. You want to start dead.
Speaker 4I'm a real nigga, I don't do this shit around here. You just sit around here, you just like to run water. You just like to run water, you just like to run water.
Speaker 2Can I get a water? Both of y'all go you all, right you guys get a little beat up.
Speaker 4I'm a slapper on the floor. I'm a slapper on the floor. I'm a slapper, I'm a slapper, I'm a slapper, I'm a slapper, I'm not talking on the floor, that nigga's got the light Slapper on the back of my head. You don't want to joke with me? Yeah, you should do whatever it is to come out.
Speaker 3I'm depth Spit you talk on the floor.
Speaker 4You got to be a drunk, I'm a drunk.
Speaker 2I'm a drunk you should let your drunk back to you.
Speaker 4You should let your drunk back to you.
Speaker 3You should let your drunk back to you Dying.
Speaker 4She's back in the water bottle. She was a drunk. She thought I was got nothing.
Speaker 3I could die from her, nothing.
Speaker 1She was in my stomach. I'm going to hear poppers um 기분. I'm using my stomach.
Taking Time Between Relationships
Speaker 4I'm a body, crazy drunk on the floor. She said she made me come through here. I ran there, I played me right there.
Speaker 2I just say to myself put your hands in the water.
Speaker 1I have a scar. She lied With this. I would dare to go off track or inaccurate.
Speaker 4Is my face full? I think so it might be, but it's.
Speaker 1I think so. No, I really think so.
Speaker 4Oh.
Speaker 1So I think the more I.
Speaker 4You ain't wrong, because the way the world makes everybody. But I'm saying in your, are you getting you doing some shit and something gonna happen for you? It's like fasting. It ain't like you know nothing come from it, even if it's just you learning and grabbing your understanding that time period. You can't even lose from this. No, and you know there's no way you compare with the rules. Shit, that's man I'm talking about. As a gentleman, I'll speak for myself. I'm a little, probably one had somebody who got some discipline. That's the reason why I came up with different chicks, yeah, but this you know. You know how to be single.
Speaker 4You want me to be the next pro yeah you trying to be like okay, this person a, they just bad. Or person B, can you?
Speaker 1Yeah, that's when you cannot be by yourself. Going through so much in the previous relationship, where you don't give your time, the self time to heal or Recover from whatever the fuck you don't miss. That concerns me. I see women like that all the time it really is, and I'm seeing it more and being a lot too you know, not I'm coming out that are in monogamous Relationships and then they get out of those relationships and they jump into another one normally not ready.
Speaker 2Yes, why you need to be saying Alone, you don't like being single?
Speaker 1and, if you like fucking, I used to put the road women. Why not just be single instead of putting yourself back?
Speaker 2Because if it wasn't the case, then you just be single. Exactly it's not the case, because it's you not. Yeah you'll get in relationship. You know you ain't ready and still be fucking other women and I know.
Speaker 3Welcome back to, because I feel like we have it's been forever. Yes, we've all been here. So, yeah, I no.
Speaker 4Drilla alcohol on Sunday. Okay, so that Is a lot of Asian for me. This is a couple more people at home.
Speaker 1Yeah.
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Speaker 1Yes, thank you. Yes, body was banging, giving with a cup of gold to give Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 3Shout out to D-Love Muiya because she made a mistake.
Speaker 4She did, she did, yeah, yeah, she was giving some niggas a lot of work. She was giving some niggas a lot of work.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, she was, she was. Yeah, you probably should have a hold. You said you were a bug.
Speaker 3I was, I feel like a bug. Hold on D-Love was like first. I put it here. You keep looking there. You're going to make me look like somebody over there.
Speaker 4You're looking at me. No, I'm just looking over there.
Speaker 1No, she was just in. She was having that personality on that Barbie personality, and she got in my hold.
Speaker 3Yeah, hell, yeah, she's like this is my place and I know anybody here, but you better make me think somebody there.
Speaker 1You did a phenomenal job.
Speaker 3Thank you, I'm really happy that you got me on my phone.
Speaker 1Yeah, I really did. Yeah, I don't even know, I had her take a couple of oh, go ahead, no yeah. But I had her take a couple of pictures for the new panty line that I got coming out and she was like you want me to do what? Yeah, I was like, yeah, this is going to be all right, Like it's cool.
Speaker 3And she's in it. I'm like first off, we were still going to know it's me. It turned out really nice so and it wasn't raunchy First.
Speaker 1I don't do raunchy Period. I don't do nasty raunchy.
Speaker 4Everything that I do is tastefully done.
Speaker 1Everything that I do is tastefully done.
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Speaker 3Who else with us today?
Speaker 1Oh my bad.
Speaker 2My bad is those AKA those in there, yeah.
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Speaker 2What's the time?
Speaker 4to have you say what you lose as an original aspect of it. You haven't know, ain't been around like dropping new episodes. I'll be jumping check on the old, previous episodes. Get the newer episodes when they drop. But it was some real, as conversation was just having before that, I want to jump back into it.
Speaker 1Yes, and we was talking about At having no.
Speaker 4I remember I was talking about people being able to have some time in between relationship. I'm not a fan of being with people. Yes, we'll have to be in relationship.
Speaker 1I, I'm saying it a lot and men like usually it's a, that's a woman thing, you know, a woman out of desperation and loneliness. A lot of times they go from relationship to relationship. But for some reason nowadays I'm standing up in a lot with men and men that actually have infidelity issues and, you know, sleeping around stuff like that. And so my, my question is why haven't you get out of that relationship when it ends because of those reasons? Why not just be by yourself?
Speaker 3Why get into another relationship with?
Speaker 1another woman. No, you still fucking other women. It just makes no sense to me. I have no time.
Speaker 3Oh, you do well, okay, so for a woman, I think pretty generally it's the the feel of the need to have a man or whatever, and I think maybe with men and some men, because, first off, some men are doing it for places to say facts.
Speaker 2Most of these are sleeping a car.
Speaker 3True, that's why, that's right. Yeah, I Can't stop her why men would do it other than you know the house are the, the men who just um, not necessarily the same type of need of desperation as a woman, but but maybe to have someone like kind of just be that consistent home, yeah that's.
Speaker 1I see where you're going with that, because I was thinking the same thing. Maybe they do it to really have that one woman that does have the qualities that they, that's true, but the one woman that cooks clean, provide that vibe to you, that that you know when I'm with her, that's home.
Speaker 3And I was saying I'm going to do that unless.
Speaker 4We're to be.
Speaker 2Right, you're obviously getting to know people and see who you like the most. Naturally, one that you click by with most is when you start spending a long time away. So all of that time in progress, right, we're talking about fast-paced. We're talking about him getting out of this relationship.
Speaker 3And because, yeah, that might be what he had. But what?
Speaker 1if he's jumping into another relationship. What if he's jumping into the relationship with one of the ones he was cheating on the main ones with To? You know I'm saying next up in line, yeah, the next one up in line, but then he's still cheating on her with the other women that you know he was. She was in the plethora of you know. I'm saying I don't know.
Speaker 4Yeah, that's Just like fuck it yeah you know, I don't know, because to me, a lot of that shit deal with like we're talking like cheating shit, right. So yeah, like well jumping into stuff, yeah, I just well jumping into stuff. That's a, that's a part like I don't. I don't understand it. I don't want to understand it because you tell my people who do shit like that we talk about, you need time to kill, even if you don't feel like you heard right. You need time to figure out why this thing being a digger, yes, you know me, is there anything to look?
Speaker 4so that's why I look at certain shit like, if people are moving fast, like in my opinion I don't tell anybody to take my approach because I Don't know if this shit working for me or not but the motherfucking cake successfully be your friend, why the fuck would you be dating them Right? And if you were having a hard time dating them, why would you exclusively date them Right? So so, when you talk about people who go from person to person to person, that's because you're asking girls. You're not healed and you feel like you need somebody else to complete your life. Yeah, like you don't.
Speaker 4Some I got, I got a Dollar was 12, a lot of these your dad, this person, the boyfriend, a girlfriend. I'm like how you trying to complete yourself. They need something to somebody. Complete, they sell. And you 12 my focus is 40, 50 being people to complete them, complete your own self, coming up as a better package. That's my opinion. Yeah, but when I see I see beautiful women and they, I see them relationship, relationship my mind instantly is like nah, not gonna have me as part of your healing package personally, personally like I.
Speaker 1I.
Speaker 3Personally, I'll be like I'll fucking be single for a little six months before I even let people know I'm out of a fucking relationship and like. I Got a question I was gonna ask this on Facebook the other day because I'll be seeing it and my question is on social media, when y'all were people.
Speaker 3So when y'all like be putting I'm single, I'm free like you don't, know y'all do that because, like you're trying to hurt the person Because they're on your Facebook, are you doing that because you try trying to holla at somebody on your Facebook, you thinking it's gonna get?
Speaker 1you attention, but I think the man one, especially if you have the person that you fucking, you want to hurt them.
Speaker 2They let the world, he or she let the world know that they're single All the girls you knew that. That's your friend or see, like your guy, now he's single. You worry about them being in bots. Women, you know I make a call right quick and be looking at your.
Speaker 1That's too great.
Speaker 4If it's somebody who becomes single, if I was interacting with, I still would be encouraging them to do what the fuck they need to do. Like you find somebody who didn't have it your ex or the person who was interacting with see, and they'll get mad. No, if you a solid motherfucker, I want this person to go find a love. You don't gotta be me. Go find. That's because I care as a person, I care as a friend. It don't gonna be like you ain't with me, I don't want to see you, and then when you make an announcement, you really finna get a whole bunch of different type of Attention that you know.
Speaker 4There's buckets and all that shit. So I'd be like go ahead and do that shit and then I know, since I'm my own competition, so I didn't like finding nothing, a new one, compareable. Yeah, it's like please go and see.
Speaker 1What's that yeah?
Speaker 4go out there and see what the fuck happened and you appreciate me a lot more.
Speaker 1Yes, what you? You just confirmed some shit that I was just talking about before we even started Recording. But I was just talking about a situation that I was in. I've been single since 2016,. You know, my last relationship with old girl, and I'm not, I don't, I do not, I don't know, I don't know what it is, but I do not commit easily. I don't. I'm not the type of person that la la Romantic in love and just. I'm a very Rational person when it comes to all of that shit and I do not commit easily. I have had people beg me for monogamy and I'll just be like, listen, I, I'm fucking with different niggas right now. You know, I'm saying I'm very honest, I'm very direct and I'm not ready to be in a committed relationship. It takes a lot for me to want to settle down with somebody because that means a lot to me to me.
Speaker 1When I feel you I'm going to be monogamous to you. I Don't know whatever period of time, but in that time period I'm saying I'm going to be your everything. And when I say everything I mean every fucking thing your chef, your teacher, your this, your that, your porn star, you know I'm saying. And so to ask people for monogamy, I think people really need to understand what that means. That's real, you know I'm saying. And then when you ask for monogamy and you're dating to marry, that takes shit to a whole another level. So I'm very cautious with commitment. I'm not the bitch that be like. You gotta be my man, you gotta be I'm like.
Speaker 2I don't know anything. Sleep with someone else like people bank relationships solely on second other people. Yeah, other people, because there's people that that'll be in relationships. You're not having sex with him, but you don't want to have sex with anybody when? Where? Where's the balance, you know? I mean he's coming home and he, but he's not getting anything. Yeah, how can that still be your deal? Push they husband, yeah, like like that, just. And then now you want to get it worse because he cheated. Yeah, but you, but you ain't telling them that. You explain it to your girls how you feel the sad, how you been holding on. Yeah, but the moment he does is the worst.
Speaker 3So piggybacking off of that like you know a long time ago. I'm old and now, so a long time ago, you young in relationships like in your angry you you sex as a weapon, like I'm not been fucking because I'm angry At some point in life. I grew up first off because why I got punished Like I still won't be right.
Speaker 4Why? Why, you know right, so I learned, so I definitely learn.
Speaker 3I mean some people don't consider punishment because they don't care.
Speaker 1I don't want to be touched. If we into it, that's and he would use to paint me the fuck down and do his business after we would get into it like physically. That fight, that's great you know what I'm saying that's fucking great. So that's why I'm not a fan of the whole fucking on me, why we really have Because of trauma, Absolutely and also to be fair when I'm talking about me.
Speaker 3It definitely depends on what you're up to I. You.
Speaker 1For me now, as a grown person, as a 37 year old woman, sex is mental for me, so, it's not just the physical for me like, oh, daddy over there looking real good and I'm mad at him, but I want to pick right now. It's like nigga, we not connected, right now we're not, we're not In. So we got to have a conversation about that chicken.
Speaker 2I'm hungry, so.
Openness to Introducing Others in Relationships
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Speaker 1Yes, but back into these cards. Are we still here? Yeah, yeah, let's get into these cards, because there was a card in there that we put on that had me back.
Speaker 3I got four cards.
Speaker 4Go shoot it, shoot it shoot it.
Speaker 3I'm randomly putting it. Hold on, I'm ready.
Speaker 2I wanna put it down and somebody gotta pull. You gotta answer it. She can't pull it. Why can't she pull? You know how to turn it.
Speaker 3I'm gonna tell you something.
Speaker 1What happened?
Speaker 4I wanna thank you for cheating, they split it, they split it.
Speaker 1They split it.
Speaker 4They split it, I know, you can show it right now.
Speaker 2I know I took it. I took it. I knew I'm okay with it, you know.
Speaker 1Until I get into it.
Speaker 3I can't think of anything about myself. Anyway, I'm gonna take a back up cam.
Speaker 2I can't look at it. I look at this rear view of the world. I'm like that. Ha ha ha. I love my back up cam.
Speaker 4I'm gonna take a picture of it. I don't trust nobody. I don't trust nobody.
Speaker 2I don't want nobody to be closing in.
Speaker 4This nigga don't trust nobody, he don't question. Ha, ha ha.
Speaker 1So your partner says she or he does not want to introduce dishonesty into the relationship, so, with your permission, they'd like to go sleep with someone else. What are you doing?
Speaker 3Who wanna go first?
Speaker 4I go last, I go first.
Speaker 1That shit my shit is real concise, so wait. No, why do?
Speaker 3you need to breathe the options.
Speaker 1They got options. I don't think we need to get into those options because you just really come in.
Speaker 1I'm on both sides, like I was in a relationship with a female and I came to her that way. You know what I'm saying. I'm very blunt, I'm very honest and upfront. And I came to her and I say, you know I'm bisexual, you know I like men. You know what I'm saying. But I love you and I respect you. So I wanna have a conversation with you about bringing a man into our relationship Not just any man, you know like a good one to it, and I had a good one, and you know she act like she was cool with it and I brought him to the house so he could sit down and he could tell her what he could offer us. You know what I'm saying and I think it. I thought it was going well and then she bugged the fuck up on me later Because I think it really came into her mind like this bitch really didn't you know what I'm saying Like I was really feeling him.
Speaker 2I was that's the one that you can jump into how a woman might feel and she probably created all types of scenarios. All types of scenarios you know being fucking here, y'all there's nothing.
Speaker 1That's probably which I have been fucking him. Not one man and her was together, but I have been in a previous. I'm talking about why y'all together.
Speaker 2She created hope because a woman was gonna say that you got a chance to fuck before one minute.
Speaker 3But she loved it too.
Speaker 2You only had one minute of spare from the normal time you actually show up and she'll still find a way to calculate you can't understand shit.
Speaker 1I didn't understand her reaction because she loved it too. She, like you, know she's. She loves jealousy Absolutely.
Speaker 2Absolutely. But don't tell me, she has to trust you to. But why wouldn't?
Speaker 1you trust me when I've been up front and what this includes. Because, people don't, I ain't never lie.
Speaker 3Okay, I ain't never lie, but one it wasn't one, Okay, okay. So my point of view I'm very different anyway, because I can't understand and see how polygamy can work for relationships. You know, Sometimes it really legit just takes more than that one person because you can find, you know 90% of what you want overall in person. But if they don't have that, 10%. That you Right, definitely Make it wanna go get it some wealth, so so so that's why. But the difference is a conversation and agreement, you know.
Speaker 1And I did that. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3But and I don't understand that part simply- yeah, because it wasn't you agree. It wasn't like like well, you agree, but it also wasn't like I was just saying I'm only gonna fuck with him.
Speaker 1Yeah, introducing him to us Okay, but the question is if your partner or your partner said it to you, to me, yes, I wouldn't be open to that, because I'm open to the women.
Speaker 2It would be a discussion, so it would be a discussion.
Speaker 1It's good, it's good, it's good.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's good, it's fair.
Speaker 1But I believe there.
Speaker 2So I will come down with what's your, what's your, what's your, what's your problem. You know, even though you know, it's really bad to say to it Like he got.
Speaker 4He got to agree on the person and all of this shit, but I yeah, so you're all open for the conversation. How about what's saying? You agree on the person. No, that's not what I'm saying. What's that conversation? What's?
Speaker 1your what's your answer to that conversation?
Speaker 2That conversation is telling you that there's someone that they that that.
Speaker 3Put it that's it, no, no no, no, no no. It's not. No, I mean, you really should.
Speaker 1The person is someone that they, that we are re-reading for.
Speaker 4Oh, we got people watching, so show out in front of you people. Ha ha, ha ha. Your partner says she or he doesn't I mean, doesn't want to introduce this honesty into the relationship. So, with your permission, they like to go sleep with someone else. What are you doing? Giving them your blessing, thanking them for their honesty and then breaking up with them, telling them no.
Speaker 3So good, good. That's why.
Speaker 2That's why I should say they should have written them out.
Speaker 1I didn't want to say the answer, because I already knew I was this shit.
Speaker 3They yeah, that's why I said I'm into it.
Speaker 1And they just had that flower was saying for me, if that's the conversation and we really talking about bringing somebody in, that's one thing, but if you telling me you just going to go, off.
Speaker 4That's a modified on your side. Give them your blessing. Give them your blessing, a modified blessing, it's a conversation for me.
Speaker 1Yeah, cause, cause, cause, no but but but if we, being literal, that means they telling you they going to fuck somebody else without you. That's why I said I'm in between on this one, because I'm in fucking together, I'm in between.
Speaker 4I'm in between. That's why I'm in between.
Speaker 2That's why I'm in between. That's why I'm in between.
Speaker 4That's why I'm in between my baby. Go get up yeah.
Speaker 3That's all we need to read that out, cause we making our own. Yeah, my baby, go get up.
Speaker 1It's a conversation If you telling me you just going to go fuck another bitch without me? I don't know, we ain't doing nothing. We're bringing a bitch over here, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4I'm going to fucking kill you, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3I mean could? That's an open relationship, but some people that was not saying Not necessarily Open.
Speaker 2That was a Japanese. No, open relationship is that it's on both sides Uh-oh and that's that's, that's subjectable to whatever that people agree to.
Speaker 1It was versus that's that's.
Speaker 4That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1We debating the goddamn question.
Speaker 4What's your?
Speaker 2answer. I don't know Right, and you open to, you open to.
Speaker 1Your woman telling you she's going to go fuck somebody else. Yeah, and you cool with it.
Speaker 2Or you're not cool with it. I'm cool with it, but she not my woman. No, no.
Speaker 1She's not my woman. Yeah, she ain't your woman. No, say that. Say it again.
Speaker 4Say it again, say it again no, no no, no, no, no, no, no, no, she ain't your woman, she not my woman.
Speaker 2I'm her Basically. She's not my woman. After that, yeah, um, just simply because it's it's different with a man, you're going to allow someone to Pinch you to submission, to dominate you. No one's dominating me if I decided to do that.
Speaker 2And I said that to you, even though a lot of women say they want me to be upfront and honest about those types of things and they can make their own choices and decisions if they want to stay and leave and go. But we know 99% of the time they're going to go, they're going to choose to go?
Debating Open Relationships and Insecurity
Speaker 4No, so why is that? I disagree, I'm not. I'm not.
Speaker 3I'm not, I'm not, but go ahead, I'm sorry for interrupting.
Speaker 1Go ahead. They not going. What do you mean? Maybe they sent her aboutankind and they battle it out with the other bitch? Yeah, yeah, a majority of women.
Speaker 2Do but go ahead.
Speaker 4Yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2No, I just had to say to people like women, be like, I'm leaving.
Speaker 4That's too high of a percentage.
Speaker 2That's too high of a percentage. But that's the option whenever a guy is upfront because most guys are upfront for the most part and then they start to track me when they felt like a certain shit that they couldn't be honest about. Then they start thinking you know, what can they, what you might stand out about, and then they were told based off of that. But I say that because what's your guy?
Speaker 4He didn't answer no, he didn't say she not in the morning.
Speaker 1Okay, I'm okay, I'm just kidding, I was just kidding. No, I just get it. You know what Yo all the dope I'm talking like a mother for me.
Speaker 4But he didn't say that I heard you say that, but he was young with this whole other shit. Okay, you want to end this? Wait a minute.
Speaker 3Is there anything in addition to she ain't your woman, no more.
Speaker 1No she is, that's it.
Speaker 2Okay. It's like I do appreciate that Honestly, because you said thank you, goodbye. You're not going to meet many men that'll be like that can say that a woman actually told them that before she got out. Women don't do that, they go find me, fuck me, yeah, whatever.
Speaker 2And then they feel once they fuck somebody that they feel like it's a good replacement. Now everything comes to the surface Right and all that shit. But that's that's more the reason why to Okay. But overall it's because we can be cool afterwards or whatever, but the whole dominating thing.
Speaker 1Yeah, man man.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's a cut cold type Okay.
Speaker 3What's your answer.
Speaker 4I have a con Con. I mean I have a complete answer, you were ready on this. They said you giving them your blessing if they want to have sex with somebody and say, definitely get my blessing If that's what you do, definitely don't do that shit. And then the next part is thank them for the other thing and breaking up. I'm not. When it do the work, break up.
Speaker 4Whatever that means just saying I can have sex with you. That makes sense. We should be cool. I just can't, because I just learned a lot of me in a nasty and I can't come after all the other shit. I need to make sure everything I break a certain way. So I can't tell them no, I can. I can just basically give the same honesty and truth with like hey, if this is what you want to do, at least let me know. And that's what you want to do, yeah, have fun. So I can't tell them, no, I can. I can just basically give the same honesty and truth with like have fun, so they know how. I hope that she works. That's what.
Speaker 2I'm saying Move me on her.
Speaker 4We can't accept a bunch of things subjectable to how you feel. Yeah, y'all was like, no, yeah, he don't know, but yes, no, no, but I was, I was coming from a place for leaving me yeah.
Speaker 3So if you telling me, maybe I want to.
Speaker 1I want to bring somebody else in and let's do that. That's why I'm coming from this you just tell me I'm going to go fuck somebody else without you. No, we not doing that. So I think we all agree on that.
Speaker 4You got my look, look, look. I'm going to do that, baby, I'm going to make sure. I'm going to make sure we get all the things in the gap.
Speaker 1Let's do our business, let's hold out this, let's do a whole investigation. I love women. I love women.
Speaker 3So yeah, but in this, okay, so you're my, you got to get your woman and love women.
Speaker 2No, no, no.
Speaker 1No, and for real love women, not somebody who really love women, not a woman down. Let me answer.
Speaker 4Let me answer because, I am a woman who who I like your body.
Speaker 3I'm not. I don't have the desire whatsoever to be pussy.
Speaker 4I don't.
Speaker 1But you a better woman, I'm sure, damn mother fucker.
Speaker 3That's what.
Speaker 1I'm saying, I'm talking about oh, that's when. I say a woman that really loves women, because women who don't love women?
Speaker 4and play that they get jealous. They try to play that, they start acting crazy.
Speaker 1I'm saying you, but I'm saying in those situations when you bring another woman fucking a woman the same way you fuck hard and all that next to you know a bitch done, hit a bitch outside the head with a goddamn bottle. I don't even got time for that. I really love women, so I would watch my nigga fuck a woman in front of me.
Speaker 3I literally watch that shit. Turn me off so.
Speaker 1I don't. I'm not bothered by.
Speaker 4I don't have this.
Speaker 3I said, I'm a woman who does not sexually, but I would not be opposed to that, and I'm just speaking to order.
Speaker 4I'm speaking.
Speaker 3I'm speaking to the comment about it's situations like that I love women. I feel like it's not situations like that, it's, it's insecure people. Because you're with yourself, I'm secure with myself and whatever position that I hold, and if I don't feel secure in that situation, then there's not going to be.
Speaker 4You might be so right.
Speaker 3That's my point.
Speaker 4Not necessarily to her but my, I don't see that I don't see it, I don't see it, I don't fuck, I don't come back later.
Speaker 3I'm just throwing out that in those cases they're they're insecure. That's what that is.
Speaker 1I've been me and my first we. I had a real. I had a girlfriend and she was the one who became jealous of the way he was fucking me. She said watch my man fuck me, and we bought you into this shit. We bought her into it.
Speaker 2Well, actually, I bought her into you. Yeah, and that's the problem that she's saying that some women have that, that, that don't, or that don't love.
Speaker 4I'm just close to 30 days.
Speaker 2It goes the same way. If that, if that woman feels like that about that man, right, it's like I only fucking because I want to fuck you yeah, she's only fucking me because she wouldn't fuck you yeah, so therefore, she don't really want me to interact the way that she won't, yeah, and I had to learn.
Speaker 3I take that as a jealousy and insecurity yeah.
Speaker 2But what she's saying is that majority of the people that that don't do that or don't love women in that way yeah the ones, yeah, because those women who doing that, they doing it for their men.
Speaker 4They're not doing it for themselves Me.
Speaker 2I'm doing it for me, I'm doing it for myself. That's why I say that.
Speaker 3I'm not saying, I'm not saying, I'm not saying.
Speaker 4I'm not saying that's, that's that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3But that's what I'm saying, though.
Speaker 1A lot of women who do it just for their man, and they have really good women. That your heart in your own place, yeah, you gonna get jerked, you gonna get heartache.
Speaker 4No, heartache, I'm just, I'm straight, you know how to say God knows your heart and you're doing this for this man. It's Sunday, I'm just saying.
Speaker 3I'm not saying that.
Speaker 4Yeah, that's certainly true, but listen, if your heart is in a place of doing it for the man, then that's manipulation. You're doing it for a certain reason.
Speaker 3It's not. I'm not saying that's manipulation. Usually they have been talking to you. This is where manipulation comes in.
Speaker 4You're talking to it. That means they co-host, co-hurst. They feel like they're going to do this for a reason, to get a certain result.
Speaker 1First of all, it's being a natural thing to do for them. Boy, I'm saying that you're not really the one to suggest it.
Speaker 4Right, but can she not go suggest? No shit, that's 8th or 9th.
Speaker 2Sometimes she would suggest it because she's like that's what a man wants and she don't even have to deal with two other women. She'll bring it to him. Big mistake Any and every time. People are like okay, they will go and you pick. That I didn't say big mistake. Bring women.
Speaker 4She can't pick the woman because she's too busy in her mind thinking about, and whatever woman he ended up picking, still ain't good enough, nope.
Speaker 1But Nio's ex-wife. She was just talking about this and how she felt like it was the demise of their relationship, their marriage, because Nio was into that, the three sons, you know he was encouraging her to have, you know, the three sons with her and that's not what the fuck she wanted to do. That's what she said, so she was doing it.
Speaker 3That's what she's saying now.
Speaker 2But, she did it against her.
Speaker 1Yeah, she did it against.
Speaker 4They only bring it back to what she said. That's not what she really wanted to do before. Her fingers were like this, but her heart wasn't.
Speaker 1She was doing it like this, so ultimately, ultimately you know it caused so much trauma for her. You know what I'm saying. She couldn't be in a relationship with him anymore. You know what I'm saying that's what I said you got.
Speaker 2Yes, it's not. Don't do it on the court. Let the things happen naturally, don't force it.
Speaker 4I can say that, like it's, I don't hate to be as open as I am to be transparent. It's no goddamn secret. Most natural men on the earth would like to have a threesome end or more. It's possible that it may be. It's like a. You know, maybe one out of ten, two out of ten niggas might not want it.
Speaker 3Maybe three out of ten, I don't know, but I'm just saying, but that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4But there's men who don't want that, but for me, I would like to get my knick-knock in my balls knick at the same time.
Speaker 1It's some men that come from a place of selfishness.
Speaker 4They don't yeah.
Speaker 1They don't want to see. Nobody know what they motherfuckers yes.
Speaker 4Certain shit. You gonna find certain, any energies, you gonna find people who to be to be able to complete the task, but they may not be mentally ready, right, that's why I like to get happen organically. The motherfucker I am, you like three somebody. Just don't go get to business, that's I don't go seeking on, look right you fucking find out some different shit.
Speaker 4I know I'm a man and I have a Decent amount of experiences. You know, right, you have a threesome and you got somebody who's cool. This person has multiple orgasms and this person is fighting the struggle in the come. Maybe you gotta know.
Speaker 2Right and this one.
Speaker 4Oh.
Speaker 1I have a lot of experience with this type of stuff. You know I'm saying I've seen In you people pay, they feed to join this club and get into it because they see they're right, fucking somebody else is just like bro, you signed up. And you got. That was my position, I wouldn't fucking Sometimes.
Speaker 2Because you're a rouser sexual rous you might be dealing with this woman, but her husband is there too. Yeah, and you're in the moment now you fucking the husband and you didn't expect to do that.
Speaker 1But I would Know the reason, the reason that I had the clause when I was a part of that club of not fucking men. It's because of the whole marriage thing for me and I would get permission from the men to fuck and eat on a wives and shit like that. Marriage is sacred to me. Even though we are in this environment the swinger's club, you know, I feel like I still have to have respect For these people's vows and their relationship, even though they're here. You know what I'm saying. Like so, but like I said, you see, niggas get into it at these. Next question next question.
Speaker 3All right, I remember the last time I said I was waiting here was on the Halloween thing. Oh, yeah. Exactly.
Speaker 4You can have a conversation just you like.
Speaker 3I don't recall it was like it was fucking Halloween. I was sitting there, was that?
Speaker 2And then I was like Cooking on your back.
Speaker 4So Make sure you tune in subscribe.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, 334. Wow, shit, nah, it ain't been. It's still been less than an hour, right? So that's true, I know, and they were. It was 100%. Don't let this be happening.
Speaker 4Listen, this is what I told you from the beginning 19, none different. I said I can record it, I can add it when you listen. You know what.
Speaker 3Why do you want to talk about something? I'm just?
Speaker 4saying I'm just trying to tell you, I'm just saying this, I'm just saying this, I'm just saying this I'm just saying this.
Speaker 1I'm just saying this, I'm just saying this. Listen, this is shooting 14.
Speaker 4Look, this is not 1080p, this is shooting 8K right, Come on now.
Speaker 3I reached out to him several times.
Speaker 1I'm glad he was like baby. You know we was like what.
Speaker 4Oh, you're going to do. I turned my back and I was like what?
Speaker 1I turned my back for one second I'm not going to win you right, I'm never going to win you right, you're wrong. I got this, I got this.
Speaker 3Listen, I'm saying this, I'm going to read that I'm going to pick that back.
Speaker 1You like that, you like that. You like that.
Speaker 3You like that?
Speaker 4It's like, don't talk about some like new word to word. That is just that word Shit.
Speaker 1What's your birthday? Going on, oh yeah.
Speaker 2So you've been having a secret, strictly sexual relationship with someone for months and find out your friend will be going on a date with them. What do you do? State claim on what is not yours, nothing. Sexual claims are a fair game game. Let your friend know to your flame to cancel.
Speaker 3I mean it's first. I'm definitely telling my motherfucking friend first off, first off, bitch, you can't fuck him. I don't even care if I'm not like really fucking with him like that, even if he my sex buddy, because that's my sex buddy and we're friends like and I don't fucking know him. So why would you want to fuck on him after I didn't fuck on him?
Speaker 2he said going date. They say none of our sex fucking other than that being your sex buddy. But as far as what do people date for?
Speaker 3explain it after what's your answer my answer is I'm telling my friend a I'm fucking him and I'll continue to fuck with him.
Speaker 2You can't fuck with him like that and y'all talking about some fucking in date but let's, let's be, serious date choice be in the day she might go out with a date.
Speaker 3You might not be one of our first time she's gonna let her date him, knowing that you're fucking him and talk to me, but this is talking to me.
Speaker 4I'm talking to me, so I'm gonna get confused.
Speaker 3Yeah, okay, we're not on tangents yeah, I know this.
Speaker 1So she, she said, she telling her friend and okay.
Speaker 1So I don't know, people aren't hate me for this, but, as you know, I'm going to say I'm going to say so I have in the past when I was fucking a nigga, that I don't I'm built different, that I was fucking in a past that I didn't have feelings for I literally, it was literally nothing but physical attraction. I'm not gonna put my girls on to them Like my homies. You know, don't look, don't look at me funny because y'all know y'all. And past bitches around, niggas, past bitches around, they do it, they do it. So I don't nobody look at me crazy.
Speaker 3No, even if they haven't done it.
Speaker 1They know that, have you know? I have done that in the past like a, but I see, for me it's a little bit different because I was so unemotional. I was so that was in my really wild fucked up days and I really, really was detached. If I'm fucking somebody now, it's because we could yeah.
Speaker 2I'm telling you yeah, right now, yeah. So, what would you do? So so, right now. But what would you do? Okay, okay, so right now, today.
Speaker 1If I'm fucking a man today is because I'm emotionally and basically attached to him. I'm not just having a fucking like I used to Right so yeah, so. So I'm telling my friend and I'm telling her because this this is some, if I if I'm giving the selling the pussy up, this gonna be my man, this is my whole nigga. He is my man. Fuck, you mean yeah? So now she definitely can't. He. I'm gonna kill that. What the fuck.
Speaker 2But wait a minute.
Speaker 1You said. You said what we had today.
Speaker 3If I'm giving this pussy up, to this nigga and this nigga know it.
Speaker 4What the?
Speaker 1fuck you doing taking another bitch out on a date. Yeah.
Speaker 3What do you mean? Okay, okay, so that's a girl, that's a no that ain't taking the woman, that's a fucking you and I'm giving you the pussy.
Speaker 1We are already agreed upon because, I'm not just giving the pussy up, that's the difference.
Speaker 3But that's because the question says you know somebody who is strictly fucking, but it didn't say emotionally and and to be fair, a lot of people fuck without emotions. I am not. We know. Y'all, Everybody know anybody who tuned in. Y'all know I always speak from a place of personally yeah.
Speaker 3And personally. First off, I'm giving you pussy. I have to like I'm not just into fucking, fucking. I will go back to somebody who I know I have sexual chemistry with and fuck them before I fuck somebody new Right Because one. You don't even know if it's gonna be good or not, and then, you just hang in that your body for nothing. Oh yeah, work the fucking lay down bend go, whatever the fucking was. It wasn't worth, so let him lick this man.
Speaker 1I don't know what he's gonna say though.
Speaker 4But go ahead.
Speaker 1What's the question?
Speaker 4Well, I said you got some comedy. I didn't read it.
Speaker 2You've been having a secret and strictly sexual relationship with someone for months and find out your friend will be going on the day with them. What do you do? I?
Speaker 1like how you try to enforce the show Cause, you cause you said today, and I said today I'm gonna be talking about it. That's not what.
Navigating a Secret Sexual Relationship
Speaker 3I'm talking about. I said, I said the strictly for one, just because you're having strictly sex.
Speaker 2That's the point of saying that's the point of it, strictly but there is no emotional attack.
Speaker 1But I know Well then I shouldn't be included. I shouldn't be included when emotions become attached.
Speaker 2y'all do more than just fuck. It's more than just sex. That's when emotions are attached.
Speaker 1Yes, it isn't just yeah, no he might about that, but I said I'm gonna be putting out If emotions are attached when he comes over to fuck he not just leaving out the dough, y'all kicking it before he comes, y'all smoking.
Speaker 2If y'all. That's the reason why it's set it up that way, not in a way for where you can feel some type of way emotionally. That's why I say strictly, I don't accept that that's not an episode from my back in the day.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's a, because it's a hypothetical day.
Speaker 2Well, in a hypothetical way not like in a scenario, I'm just saying though, because you say today.
Speaker 1when you say today, I don't think the question is about today, today.
Speaker 2That's why.
Speaker 3I said it's strictly. I want to be fucking today.
Speaker 1That's strictly sex.
Speaker 3If you're strictly. I'm not, I'm not.
Speaker 1I've been fucking television.
Speaker 3Yeah, you're fucking your purpose.
Speaker 2Well, not, yeah, I don't work, it's a hypothetical. I'm a little bit.
Speaker 3I'm because he said no, he said Okay, wait. And we answer, how to get his, his answer. I don't even know how to have an answer.
Speaker 4You got the question in your hand, I haven't a secret in sex or strictly sexual relationship with someone. For months you find out your friend will be going on a date with them. What do you do so?
Speaker 1Uh.
Speaker 4I don't be having secret shit, yeah.
Speaker 1I'm like, I don't want to be an asshole, I'm not just saying this.
Speaker 4I'm just going from this one for myself, right? Yeah, so I don't got a secret Nothing. I have nothing to hide. Anything I do from here, I can take it up there.
Speaker 2But do you think? Do you think OK, ok? Do people know who you fucking? No? No, you have a strict secret relationship.
Speaker 1I'm going to say the word Take a breath of fire. Take a breath of fire, right, right.
Speaker 2They need secret, they need fire and I, like some of you trying to keep it.
Speaker 4Yeah.
Speaker 2Right, but private. You know these cards, you know right, right.
Speaker 4And listen. It's a good question Come on, I don't. So there's a couple different. No, I'm just saying this is a couple different.
Speaker 2But you have a private. Y'all expect each other to privacy when y'all do it. Y'all do it because it's strictly sex, so people don't see y'all around public.
Speaker 4People don't love that stuff. Facebook, it's my friend 9 times out of 10. My nigga I don't even know who I'm, not Only because we ain't from the Dr. St Pete Is that I ain't trying to say it's privacy, but my me and my nigga ain't feeling the same. Yeah, yeah so they don't know.
Speaker 2You know who? Nobody knows. We got a clear understanding yeah.
Speaker 3So it ain't all I'm telling you.
Speaker 4We don't have to tell Because it's like because if my nigga couldn't go out with her 9 times out of 10 here.
Speaker 3I already know that, I'm already OK, so it's really not going to be that possible.
Speaker 4So what's?
Speaker 3your answer there Because if you don't already know.
Speaker 2I'm not stating, I'm not stating you know some of those niggas they know and they don't, and they don't, and they don't, they don't yeah.
Speaker 4They don't they say, to stay claiming the infatuated. This lady want to date somebody else, even if I am in a strictly sexual relationship or in that very monogamous. Whatever I should, whatever I should Better go.
Speaker 3But it's not about her. It's about your friend. Yeah, but no, it's about your friend. It's about your friend, this nigga, because you're my friend, she's not dating.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm knocking down Right.
Speaker 4But if that's something they want to do, she wants to go out with people to find people.
Speaker 3You still got, my she still got my blessings.
Speaker 1What it's not, I'm not, I'm not getting it.
Speaker 3Yeah, she's not, it's not.
Speaker 4And you are kind of planning on making her go Because she's doing that. But there you go, I ain't going to make you a man, though. Yeah, you know what? Yeah, so he's not going to make you a man. That's what she's saying. Let him know You're not letting me know, wait a minute.
Speaker 3OK, so now you fucking her. You been fucking her for some months, he know. And then he accidentally bumping her.
Speaker 4Me, whatever it was you were making, whatever the fuck, because. I let him know he suck her out yeah.
Speaker 2That's suckership, right?
Speaker 3So now you're my friend, so now, you know, you know for a fact, your friend who, knows you fucking suckers. You said he's going to know he come to you and you're like all right, man, look, I know he's fucking her, but I want to go out on a date with him.
Speaker 4Man, what's the pressure? But if he's asking me you still, he got my blood, because now that's what you want to do, and I ain't even feel a knock, or like that I ain't going to be knocking this shit. You just decide you want to get the feelings.
Speaker 1Woo, that's a messy. That's just my point, but that's what I'm like.
Speaker 3Why would you come to your friend knowing that you're fucking, that they fucking suck her out?
Speaker 1Because now we as the group she's not even a fucking bitch on the date.
Speaker 3It's different if nobody knew nothing. No, listen.
Speaker 4I've been in a situation to where niggas have tried to put me on a woman, thinking this is a good society woman, and then they have been fucking her the whole time. You know, if not the whole time, at least before me, right?
Speaker 3And I'm like that's pretty bad, but this is not what I call the game is, though I don't know but this is not called a game is.
Speaker 1If you smother it, I wouldn't do it to nobody I had feelings for, but I have done it with niggas. That game.
Speaker 4Yeah, we don't know how you do it.
Speaker 2Talk about what you do. Ah, no, I don't I'm talking about. I'm talking about what people have been here, what he was saying.
Speaker 4I'm talking about me. She said she don't even have gray hair.
Speaker 1I know I have.
Speaker 4She said I wouldn't do it, but I had feelings. What the?
Speaker 1fuck. I'm talking about me. Hey, y'all got to understand.
Speaker 3Back in the days I used to be wild. I don't know, I'm not going to fuck about nobody feeling it. Nobody.
Speaker 1Nobody is anything, I only had three real relationships in my life with people I actually gave a fuck about.
Speaker 3She said they don't have any other things.
Speaker 1Everybody else was different, like I did not give a fuck about nobody else feelings or nothing. So when I was going through my fuck these niggas phase and sponsor nigga phase, I had niggas who would give great head and this and I put my bitch on some of that Like that was just but I'm different, I'm different.
Friendship and Romance
Speaker 2I'm grown. Now I'm grown now I was referring to how, like a chick would put you, try to put you like you were saying niggas, a chick would try to put you on to a dude. He'd do the boost them all up and the only thing she leave out is that she fucked them.
Speaker 4That's crazy. That's crazy. That's what he's talking about.
Speaker 2He's talking about a dude boosting the chick up, trying to hook you over the chick, but don't tell you that they fucking for her.
Speaker 3So she a little woman, she take care of kids she had a pen to go out.
Speaker 4You want them damn it. You know all this shit out. Hey, this is crazy, right? Hey look, watch this. I'm a good game shooter, a business show solid. You say that, my wife. What happens if I think this nigga hooked me up and he and that should be? I want him to be my best man. I'm for the marriage. I want him to be my best man Because he plug in.
Speaker 1That's why I said that. That's why I said that. That's why I said that. That's why I said that.
Speaker 4That's why I said that. That's why I said that that's why I said that.
Speaker 1Look, I'm a good marriage. Shout out to you, shout out to you, shout out to you. That's what he has.
Speaker 3Hey look, I said, shout out to the best man More shut up with him, that's why I think that's intuition.
Speaker 4That's why you gotta have a sermon. That's why you gotta understand that when you get in to a friend Some niggas is different because around women.
Speaker 3They be around me.
Speaker 4Madness friends, they tough. Whatever else, they cool.
Speaker 2But they should be different I.
Speaker 1Want to bring this up because I I think that it's okay. I was just saying that, so what's up about? But when back in the days you fuck with somebody, it didn't work out. And now we all grown, it's us now and you know these.
Speaker 2My friend with you know my ex and he's good to her.
Speaker 1And I don't actually. I think that that's okay.
Speaker 4There's no.
Speaker 2But yeah you're happy with this man. That didn't work with her, so she's gonna hold you try to hold yeah.
