Welcome to the Stay or Go podcast, where we're changing the dialogue around divorce so that no woman ever stays in her marriage out of fear. Get ready to dispel myths, learn life-changing tools, and build a solid foundation in yourself from which to make your decision. And now your host, me, Britta Joe. Welcome back this week, my loves. In this episode, I've got a lot of ground to cover with y'all on some ideas and concepts that I'm very excited to discuss and play with and expound on in today's episode. And of course, those of you that are Wicked fans may have picked up on that reference in the title, the Together We're Unlimited part, that I am going to be talking towards the second half of the episode, a lot actually, about Wicked and how there are just so many beautiful ways that the stories and the characters in Wicked illustrate connection to self. So be very excited for that. I think we're going to have a lot of fun in the second half of this episode, getting to dive into that. I've really got to kind of set the scene for you all around what the current problems are that women considering divorce are facing. And along with that, let you in on some of the work that I've been doing over in the community that I believe provides a framework of solutions that I am very excited to share. I am immensely proud of. And that you, as my podcast listeners, are going to see weaved more and more throughout the next eight months of this 2026 year ahead. So we're in April at the moment of 2026. And I have this framework in the community where we're going to be taking chunks of the next, you know, two-month sections, studying each of these. And a lot of my podcast episodes are going to tie in beautifully. So I wanted to prep you all for that, because I'm going to be bringing in guests that are specifically around these different ideas, one of them being connection, which I'll talk about later. But to give us, like I said, that setting of the scene before we dive in, I want to mention and just remind for those of you that may be my listeners over on Apple or Spotify. If you have not started reading my posts over on Substack, I highly recommend traveling over there. You can find the link down below in our show notes because I had a post that I dropped yesterday over on Substack that really deepens in a very important way and sets the stage for this episode. So if you are listening and you're going, what Substack post? What is Substack? Where? Because I think it's going to really just in a much more personal way. I, you know, in that post, I share a story about a woman in my community. Um, and this really powerful example of how at the moment she has made the choice to choose connection with herself over staying in her marriage. And um, she's experiencing this really intense, you know, double bind kind of feeling of losing being the favorite to the people that were benefiting from her abandoning herself. And I break down in that uh post how there is really for her a cost either way, as I find there is for most women. And that will be the double bind that I speak of in that article. Along with that, uh the stuff that I talk about in the article, I don't know if the rest of you have been seeing this. I don't know if I just like maybe my um algorithm is particularly trained, right? Our algorithms kind of know what we are interested in. But I've been seeing more and more in the world right now, at least it feels like to me, that women are waking up to this double bind that I referenced in my post and ultimately deciding that the systems of oppression that we live in that have been built on women's unseen and unpaid emotional labor, ultimately propping up the underdeveloped psychology of so many men are no longer sustainable. And they are opting out of them. Um, there's lots of articles coming out, um, you know, talking about the male loneliness epidemic and the recent documentary on Netflix about the manosphere. Just we're watching this really interesting big cultural shift right now between men and women. And I have to say, you know, I just said, like people are realizing, especially women are realizing this is no longer sustainable. But I do want to be clear there that I believe, honestly, that these structures were never truly in air quotes, sustainable from the beginning. It's just that previous to this point in time, women did not have the rights to push back. Women didn't have the rights to leave, they didn't have the rights to demand getting to live their own human life along with all of the pursuits that men in patriarchal societies get to enjoy so freely, such as having the freedom and the support to explore and figure out who they are or determining what they want to pursue in a career. Um, it's mind-blowing. And I've talked about this on the podcast. It is mind-blowing when you actually track back the rights of women to realize that this is all relatively new. Women being able to have bank accounts, women being able to vote. These are huge, very, very important uh pieces in the puzzle around why we are seeing these big shifts happening in marriage right now as well. And I think it's so important. Um, I've seen, you know, this is just kind of how our human brains work. We, because our lifespans are, you know, less than a hundred years, we tend to forget or are not be educated about history. And so we just kind of live in whatever era that we are a part of. And I saw this most poignantly recently, like in my ecstatic dance community with some young men that were talking about like um that it needs to be equal, that the responsibilities and relationships need to be equal. And I really had to kind of like, whoa, back up, slow down, buddies, um, and kind of educate them on the very uh still very real reality that we live in. That as much as we, you know, some of us may think we are living in worlds where men and women are equal, that is not the case. Um, we definitely still live in a world where statistically, if you go look, there is still a wage gap. In the US, women still earn approximately 83 to 84 cents for every dollar that is earned by a man. Just to sit with that for a second. That means that as a woman, me doing the same job as another man, I am going, even if I'm performing at the same level, in fact, in many ways, probably for performing above that level, I am still going to be paid less. I'm thinking specifically of also like um the women's NBA players recently and their amazing negotiation around their pay, just like an incredible step forward for women in that space. Um, and not only, you know, is that a gap for women, but that gap also widens significantly for Black and Latino women. So this is something that as women, we experience in the workforce. Statistically, also as well, there is something that's referred to as the quote second shift. And that is research that consistently shows that in dual-income households where both partners in the marriage are working, women are still performing roughly 40% more unpaid domestic labor and childcare than their male partners. And wow, have I seen this like on the ground with my clients, with my women in the community? This is real. The second shift is absolutely what a lot of women are experiencing. Um, women that are in careers, their spouses in careers, but they are still taking on more of the domestic labor and childcare. And then you have to look too at like, I'm just using a few different areas of statistics, but political representation for women. As of 2025, women hold only about 28 to 29% of seats in the US Congress, despite us being over 50% of the population. And I wanted to put these here at the beginning of this episode to remind all of us that we are still living in a world where there is inequality between men and women. Even though, as I said, some of these young men in my ecstatic dance community, you know, are being raised in a world where maybe they think that is not the case, it still very much is. And why it is so important to understand that is because I have seen how women that are struggling within these systems, women that are considering divorce and are like, why is this not working? Why is this marriage not a fit for me? Or why am I unhappy, or why do I not feel connected, or why do I feel drained? If they don't understand or see themselves through these bigger systems, where they are left, the the only route they are left with is to internalize and to blame themselves. So I also want to provide some resources here for those of you that may be finding me for the first time. Maybe this is your first episode listening, or you know, one of your first five. If you are new to me, I highly want to recommend, especially if as I'm talking about this, maybe you're like, wait a second, no. Definitely go give um one of my favorite episodes from the podcast, Diabolical Lies, an episode called The Men Are Not, I think it's something like the The Men Are Not All Right. Um, we'll have it linked down in the show notes. Highly recommend. Cannot recommend enough. If you are a woman considering divorce right now, you want to go listen to that episode. Um, that is foundational work for just understanding how the system of patriarchy works, at least in the US. And then also two other episodes that I have, episodes 65 and 66, where me and my best friend Quinn really went into in-depth the book The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, which I actually just heard from Quinn a couple weeks ago, I think, that Diabolical Lies just did an episode as well on the tragedy of heterosexuality. I consider it to be just like foundational information that women trying to make decisions in this day and age need to understand about the systems that they are a part of, that they may not realize, that may be hidden, and that they are possibly, you know, very subtly being disadvantaged by, depending on, right, your different levels of privilege, um, all those different factors. Now, why I want to take time at the beginning of this episode to emphasize this again, is because the rate at which these dynamics, the previous dynamics around marriage and roles, the rate at which these dynamics are no longer working, in my opinion, is a real crisis of our time, especially for the millions of women that are finding themselves in marriages with partners that are unwilling to grow or evolve or change, even as we watch the collapse of these systems happening. Um, you know, for these women that are experiencing this, this, you know, this is the whole like, I call it a crisis because I know what it feels like to be a woman trapped in that dynamic, experiencing the excruciating confusion and not having the frameworks or the understanding to support me while going through that. And on top of that, um, you know, so many of us are experiencing partners that are still benefiting from those systems the way they are. They're benefiting from the patriarchy and at this time don't want the status quo to change. And as I've been watching this wave growing for a while now, um, I was actually, as I was doing this episode, I was thinking back like, how long have I been watching this now? And I've been working with women considering divorce since 2020. So almost around, if not over, yeah, over six years now. And, you know, six years of seeing this wave, not only getting to like read articles about it, but to actually work with women in their individual journeys. And the impact that that had on me was that this last year, especially coming out of 2025, 2025, with the new president in the US coming off of 2024, it was just a year for me of like, oh my God, whoo, these systems are, they are not working. They are hurting people and feeling a deep desire to do more for my women, you know, especially for my women in the community. Um, I knew that I wanted them to have actual frameworks, actual tools that would help guide them, not only in the way I've already been doing, you know, you guys have really, I think, here on the podcast, gotten to see my neurodivergent, you know, pre-being diagnosed with ADHD approach of just like anything, everything, which is one of the beautiful things about my brain. It's it's just it's endlessly curious and it loves to find patterns and strategies and to um connect the dots. But I felt the call to something different at the end of last year. I wanted to slow things down. I wanted to not just have like tons of different resources, but to actually have a framework to work with. And at the time, I just had no idea how I was gonna do that. In fact, here I'm saying I wanted to do a framework at that time. All I knew was I just needed to slow down. I wanted my women with all of the craziness and the deconstruction happening in the world and the turbulence to have a safe place to land and slow. And thank goodness, towards the end of last year, Quinn was reading Strong Ground by Brene Brown. And she she knows uh I very like books have to come to me in a pretty specific way. I can't just like be consuming, excuse me, endless information. Quinn's the opposite of me in that way. She can like digest multiple books uh a week, which has been so amazing because she's introduced me to a lot of incredible things through that. I mean, I'm pretty sure she introduced me to the tragedy of heterosexuality, um, lots of other books. But with this one, as I started reading it, I found within it the languages and the ideas that I realized I wanted to focus and spend the year of the community curriculum on for 2026. And one of the things that I loved the most, right at the beginning of Brene Brown's book, is that she talks about how in her personal life she ended up getting injured. I think she was playing pickleball and needed to go to a personal trainer/slash physical therapist that could help her heal. And when she starts working with her trainer, he says pretty clearly to her the reason why you are getting hurt is because you have a weak core. You have developed these muscles on the outside, you know, your body has compensated by building must musculature on the outside of the core. But when you have a weak core and your body has to compensate, that's where you're going to get injured. And one of the things I loved is that when Brene was getting impatient, like, get me back on the court, let's get back into like life, you know, I want to be performing at the highest level. He was like, No, we are done building on dysfunction. And his point was we need to assess where you are missing the strong ground within you. And we need to, instead of just building, continuing to build on the dysfunction of your weak core, we need to go in and we need to create that strong ground within you and then build from there. And of course, as I was reading this, um, what I loved about so much of Brene's book is even though her book is structured towards businesses and companies, I could see so clearly the same patterns being reflected in my clients' marriages, in my clients' lives. In a lot of ways, a marriage can function similar to a business. It is a merger, it is a coming together of different ideas and two different people trying to create something that actually is, you know, productive and um uh giving back to both of the people within it. And if it is built on dysfunction, what we often see, especially if both of those individuals are disconnected from themselves, maybe they have weak cores, they do not have strong ground within, the marriage is going to compensate with patterns that will eventually cause injury long term. And that injury is really what I was talking about in my Substack post from yesterday. When we have systems like heavily gender-stereotyped families or traditional marriages that I believe can be, and more often than not, are built on the dysfunctional core of that foundation having to be that the wife and the mother needs to codependently abandon herself to make the system work, that cannot last sustainably. There absolutely will be a cost. And I know, and the women I work with know that that cost is often the mental, emotional, and physical health of the woman. This is why when I meet women, often the women that I meet on my 90-minute sessions or coming into the community or working with me one-on-one, the first time I meet them, they are often already in a pretty fairly deep amount of suffering. They are experiencing depression, they are experiencing anxiety, they have been trying to navigate excruciatingly intense psychological pressure and pain. They have been losing energy and sleep and time to incessant worrying and vacillating and moving from guilt to shame and back again. You name it, these systems being predicated on their self-abandonment has a cost. And previously, my approach in the community and here on the podcast, you know, because I just had no exposure to a different idea or framework, um, like I have with Brene Brown now. My approach was to just share all the different tools and strategies I've seen that work. And I know that has been amazing for the last two years. I know it has gotten many of you results. I've heard from so many of you about the impact that the podcast has had. On your lives. But I also realized that this approach can kind of lead to a like throwing spaghetti against the wall kind of technique for most women. And just kind of like, okay, what is gonna stick? Which, you know, that is honestly what you all have watched me have to go through in my personal journey of being the one that's like testing, or um, I mean, I think it's just so special that on this podcast, you all basically have been able to see me go through eventually figuring out my ADHD diagnosis after, you know, seeing it through a CPTSD realm and even before figuring out CPTSD, just each of those pieces have had to come bit by bit. And I knew though, at the same time that when it came to my 90-minute sessions, when it came to my one-on-one coaching, those were different from what I was able to give in the community and the podcast because in those containers, I could really drop in one-on-one and use the incredible tool that I have honed of my brain over these six years and its ability to detect patterns and all of my exposure to women considering divorce to really like curate and give that personal route to my women in those ways. But this year, having been introduced to this book and inspired by Brene Brown, and definitely with the support now of my ADHD diagnosis and having that support of medication, I realized reading her book that I wanted to also create a framework for the women in my community. A way that women who maybe couldn't afford working with me one-on-one or in my 90-minute sessions would still be able to have a system that wasn't necessarily my previous, like, okay, let's just here's a lot of different things, try all the things, but something that would allow them to self-identify and assess where their ground in both their marriage and their personal relationships with themselves was strong or not, and then from there be able to know what tools and strategies would work for strengthening that specific area. And I am honestly deeply thrilled and so proud to be able to share with you all on the podcast that that system, that framework, has been created this year by me and is currently being rolled out in my community. Um, and it's something that I am calling CORE. That is the acronym for the framework that I've built. And I'm really um it's very exciting for me to have something like this to bring into the community. Probably because y'all, I think in getting my ADHD diagnosis as well, I've realized how much I have so many interests and so many things that I have just like in a huge wealth of knowledge within me that I, as I just said, could share on 90 Minutes and with one-on-one clients. But I wanted to take that knowledge and make it into something that um could really, in Quinn's words, become like intellectual property, something that I can refer to that becomes a framework that allows those of you in the process of considering divorce that are like already overwhelmed, overstimulated, systems collapsing. What are we doing? Have a safe place to land, something that streamlines it, something that allows us to slow down and find that strong ground again. And that's what has emerged after the first three months of this year and focusing in on that. Um, I actually just in February dropped the assessments for the first time in the community and started testing them out. I've been able to get data that I will then be tracking throughout the rest of the year with my women in the community to see how where they start out compares to where they end up at the end of the year. So um I'm I'm really excited about this, mainly because in reading the book with Brene Brown, I realized that so much energy and time gets wasted when we can't assess clearly, right? When we are just like, I don't really know what's happening here, but I'm just gonna try different things. And thankfully, through creating those assessments, it allows them to kind of stop guessing and actually narrow in and focus in on where the foundation in both their marriage and then their personal relationship needs support. Now, as I said, we have assessments. And then from the assessments, I built out a framework that has four different pillars that kind of support your foundation. And that framework is called core. And why it's important for you guys to know that we are doing this whole work behind the scenes in the community right now is because for the next two months in the community, we are going to be taking that first section of core, so C, which links up to connection. And we are going to be doing a deep dive in the community around focusing in on connection. And not only will we be doing this together in the community, but over those next two months from April to May on the podcast, I am probably going to, as you will see, have this theme threaded throughout. I think it showed up a lot in my post yesterday on Substack. It's obviously showing up in this episode here. But also I have an incredible group of guests that I'm going to be bringing on to the podcast and also having them do exclusive workshops for my women in the community as well that are going to be teaching or talking about tools that I want you to understand when you're listening are not just, you know, tools that I've talked about like I have previously in the past, but that actually sync up to these specific areas that I now consider these four different areas of that acronym CORE to be the four areas that you need in order to have strong ground within yourself while you are considering divorce. So I want to take a little second to just like vibe with all of you on how massive of like an undertaking this has been for me and what incredible beauty is coming out of it. Um I'm like really, really proud of the work that I'm seeing myself create this year. Um, probably because I've I know that it has taken so much of my own personal journey behind the scenes. Um, you know, those that are close to me, I know my women in the community have seen some of this. You guys have heard a little bit about it from me on the podcast, but it has been a deep and difficult journey in its own way, um, getting to the point of understanding that I have ADHD and getting that diagnosis. Um, you know, I really consider for me personally, that is a huge piece of like my journey with self-connection, uh, with understanding the way my brain works, the way I am different. And instead of that being something that I am shaming or feeling um less than around, or like I need to be more like Mel Robbins. Those of you who know, know. Um really coming into more acceptance with myself and not only acceptance, but love and support around those pieces of me of me. And that can be really scary in the beginning, you know, accepting a diagnosis, thinking about yourself differently, viewing yourself differently in the world. And so to have that diagnosis come last year in October, and then to be here in April putting out and creating some of the most cohesive and like beautifully um structural work that I feel like I've ever done just feels like a real triumph in its own way. Um and I've just, you know, where previously too, um, you know, a lot of women in the community that got to be in it for the last year know, you know, like every month I was doing something different. Every month it was an entire new curriculum. And to take this year to really build it much more in support of my own nervous system to also slow it down for all of the women in the community. Um, it just feels like such a living representation of what this piece of connection, truly having self-connection, can look like and how it can not only change your own life, but be incredibly supportive in the other areas of your life, as I'm seeing here, right? I am in supporting myself in this way, being able to now give so much more in ways that I would never have dreamed a year ago that I would be able to do. Um, so part of this, too, of what's been so fun with this is that this past week, I just got finished scheduling all of the podcast recordings and workshops with my guests. And y'all, that is like, I have never had um all of my guests for like a two-month span already picked and, you know, multiple episodes already recorded. And why that's amazing is because when that framework is in place, that also allows me more freedom to be writing more, which, as you guys know, is something that I'm really excited about and really drawn to creatively in my work on Substack. Um and so knowing what was coming, knowing the incredible, like incredible guests I am going to be having on the podcast coming up in the next two months, I really wanted to take this episode, at least the first part of it, to ground you all into that so that the next eight months of the year, when we are exploring core, um most in-depth over in the community, but definitely threaded here, that you will also be able to be kind of following along and seeing how that flavor is tying in through the podcast. And I also felt this responsibility because I, in realizing, like, wow, this is some of the most powerful work I've created yet. I wanted to make sure and extend the invitation for those of you that are perhaps really loving the work that you're seeing coming out of this year 2026, to get to personally invite you to take it to the next level and actually come into the community and do it with us. And why I want to specifically like highlight that in this episode is because I can already feel that this year in the community is going to be extra special because it will be the very first year that I am teaching my core framework in real time with the women that are a part of it. And I really view this framework as a living framework. So it is meant to grow. And I've already invited the women in my community to really be a part of that by understanding that like they are testing the assessments and the framework, and they get to give feedback and they get to give insights to me throughout this year. And that makes it a really beautiful community collaborative kind of experience. And why that even matters, you guys may be like, why does that even matter, Berta? I would not have known how powerful that is, the idea that we are going through something for the first time together in the community. Except that when we did my very first retreat last year, at that retreat were a large majority of women who were founding members in the community. So they were women that were like the very first women to join the community in October of 2024. And at that retreat, seeing those women connect in person after having really been the forerunners of the community, having really built that community together, whoa, did it make me go. I mean, it's still beautifully intimate with the amount of members that we have at the moment. But their ties, them getting to be the very first ones at my very first stay or go retreat, those ties have been really unbreakable for so many of them. I still see, I have a good amount of them that are still in the community and they are still deeply connected. Still, you know, uh one of them just went and flew and visited another one last weekend, like still connecting. Um, so I wanted to highlight that. I feel a responsibility, um, especially now that I know the power of community in ways that I did not before. Um, you know, I would say before I started my stairgo community, the only community I'd known was my religious community through Mormonism and having left that religion and really seen, I think having like the rose-colored glasses come off and seen more of the dangers of community and the ways that community can really stifle and shame and guilt you into doing things you didn't want to do. I kind of had a bad taste in my mouth about community. It was like, yeah, no. Um, but this community, this group of women, is so incredible. It is, um, it is like, I think a big piece of it is the women that want to join my community come from listening to the podcast. And so the same energy that's in the podcast is in the community, but like multiple times over because it's in all these different amazing women who, yes, are all different and on all different individual journeys, but the things that we have together are that we have each other's backs. We are, you know, silly and spicy and inviting and warm and authentic and vulnerable and real. And um yeah, I've found myself actually lately, you know, meeting women or hearing women in their um interviews to join the community talking about feeling lonely while going through this. And it's starting to shock me more and more because it is so far removed from my experience of what considering divorce can be. Because I see a world and a community where considering divorce actually becomes a place of more connection, more love, more best friends, more feeling seen than for some of these women they've ever had in their entire lives. So total little tangent there, but I needed that to be said in this episode because I really wanted those of you that have been my podcast listeners, that maybe for a while have been considering, but are were waiting or looking for that moment to know that this year is an incredible year to consider being a part of the community. And to also know, I just want to add like a beautiful little caveat for anybody that may find this later on in the year, later on in 2026, that um you don't have to stress about coming in later on in the year because I'm leaving all of the content open for the year. So where previously, you know, my women from the community last year will know each month was its own piece of content that then was closed. Um, so those that were in it previously got to have the resources. But if you were joining, you didn't get it retroactively. This year I've decided to do it differently. I've really left all of the calls, all of the workshops, all of the commentary that we're gonna be building and going through throughout the year open so that anybody joining towards the end of the year will still have access and be able to do the assessments, uh, learn about the core framework, and then start applying. Now, with all of that said, that's just something my beautiful little ADHD brain had to have here for me to feel ready to take you guys through the next eight months of the podcast and some of the guests that we're gonna have there talking about this first pillar in my core framework. So the C stands for connection. And specifically, I'm talking about connection to yourself. And I want to spend a little time with y'all talking about why I believe self-connection is so essential to your foundation and to having strong personal ground within yourself. And in my Substack post, I actually made a pretty big claim. If you guys will remember from reading it, you know, I was talking about how there's this double bind women face of either they choose themselves and they lose conditional love and approval, or they end up having to choose to stay in the marriage and lose connection to their internal wild soul self. And when faced with that double bind, I said clearly that my answer will always, always be to choose reconnection with self. And I want to take you deeper into why that is by answering two important questions. The first one is gonna be what is connection to self? And the second is why does it matter so much? And to kick us off with this first question, I realized the idea of connection to self can be very, very broad and interpreted very differently. So I want to make sure and give you how I personally, within my work, within the way I'm talking about connection within the core framework, how I define it. So I define connection to self as having a deep internal anchor to your inner truth and identity that allows you to show up with unshakable self-trust and integrity, even in the face of disapproval, love withdrawal, and loss of safety or privileges that were previously afforded you through self-abandonment. Now, if you give that a listen again, let it really sink in, let it land in your bones. For those of you that have been listeners to the podcast for a long time, you will know that this is really the heart of my work here. This is my passion, reconnecting women to their deepest selves and in a way that makes them unshakable in being able to trust themselves and move through the world with integrity, even when they have to risk high costs to have that. And I choose the arena of considering divorce within which to facilitate that work of women reconnecting to themselves. Firstly, because I have grown to be insanely passionate about this incredible time period of considering divorce, because I've seen that it is a very intense and powerful portal that can be used if you use it intentionally to spur on deep reconnection to the self when you are going through that portal and that process consciously and with support. So that's the first reason I love doing it within the arena of considering divorce. And secondly, and this really kind of ties into the second question of why does it matter to have self-connection? Self-connection matters because ultimately I have seen and I truly believe that the only way to make a decision of whether to stay or go, that you will truly be able to never regret and stand by for the decades after is to make that decision from deep connection to the self. This is why I think so many people have such a negative reaction to divorce. So many people, even after they get divorced, find that they are unhappy, uh, find themselves in second and third marriages. They're I just I always come back to like divorce is just an action. It's something you take, but what are the thoughts and the feelings? Where is the deeper connection to yourself underneath all of that? That's really going to be what's going to land you once you go through it, as you're going through it. That has to be there as well. It's not divorce that gives you the future you most desire. And, you know, I'm talking about that from the framework of a woman that's ultimately making the decision to go. But even if you decide to stay, because that's one of the things that I love about the space of considering is you haven't made the decision yet. So, you know, you're still open to staying. Even if you decide to stay, though, like I said in my Substack post, you are going to need that force I spoke of to move mountains and speak up and advocate for the world you want to create with your partner. You need this self-connection both ways. And that's why I say if you're in a double bind, I am always going to tell you go towards self-connection. Because no matter where the choice leads you, self-connection is needed in both places. So as I was thinking about this episode, thinking about, you know, oh, how do I illustrate this idea of deep connection to the self? How do I convey to you guys why it matters in a way that will hopefully like drive it home more than words can? And I was so excited because I had been writing this episode and then I had um I'd been taking a nap. I I definitely like my ADHD brain was like, look, we need to power down for a little bit. We're getting a little overworked. And I woke up from that nap, y'all, and I was like, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Wicked. And it was like the pieces came together. And I was so excited because I really wanted to somehow take the idea of, you know, self-connection and becoming this indomitable force in your life that I'm talking about and how infuriatingly like vague that can feel for those of us that did not grow up seeing women that live this way or move through the world like this. And when I came upon the idea of wicked, I was like, oh my gosh, I love this in so many ways. So where are my wicked girlies on the podcast? Raise your hands, come to the front, please. Because we are going to vibe hard about this. And if you are one of my listeners that has maybe never seen Wicked, OMG, definitely go do this. I definitely want you to watch it. Um, do do do go watch it. And at this point, there are two now. There's the first movie, the first part, which is the movie Wicked, and then there is the second part, which is Wicked for Good. Not only are the Wicked movies amazing for what I'm gonna break us down around connection with, but I consider them to be incredibly poignant and telling commentary on the world we are living in right now. Um, I loved watching it with my kids because it, you know, when you see the visuals in Wicked, when you see um, I think one of the biggest ways that it does this is by the animals being caged and their voices being taken away. And, you know, people that appear really pretty and perfect on the axe outside, the wizard, um, are actually the very ones that are exploiting and controlling others secretly. That's a really, those are some pretty hard concepts to convey to your children right now about what's happening in the world. But boy, does Wicked help it make sense. It is like, you know, helping my kids draw some of those parallels, like explaining to them, yeah, you know, putting people in cages. Does that sound like anything we're seeing right now with ice agents, um, restricting people's voices, demonizing whole groups of people? It's amazing for that. It's also really amazing for showing that individuals that are actually fighting for justice, that are actually more empathic and caring, um, can be demonized and painted as evil, which is our character of Alphabet. So, truly, in so many ways, I think they're amazing movies to watch with your kids, um, helping your kids understand more of like social justice and how people that look really pretty can also be doing evil things. I think there's lots of incredible, um, poignant examples and stories there that I will try to not continue going into because I really want to focus in on connection. And I will just be clear, I want to give a full disclosure that there will be spoilers ahead. So for those of you that maybe haven't watched it yet and are really excited to maybe skip this part of the episode, come back to it. But for those of you that have watched it, I am so excited to vibe hard with you on all the beautiful examples that I see of various characters in Wicked illustrating the power of connection to self. So let's dive in. Okay, so for those of you that have seen the first movie, right? The first Wicked movie. So just to recap so we kind of know where we're at, um Elphabah, who has never felt a part of, you know, the group before, finally becomes a part of a friend group. And she's starting to believe that maybe there's a world where she can both be herself and be accepted by the people in power, right? Until that tragic moment when she meets the wizard and it turns out that he is not who she thought he was. And she is faced with this moment of having to join him and betray herself. And instead, she chooses connection to herself at the expense of being the wizard and everyone else's favorite, which is just such a beautiful example with what we've been talking about in the Substack post and already in this episode, right? And in that moment, towards the end of the movie, the first movie in Wicked, um, you see this really big contrast too, because while Alphaba decides, nope, this is too high of a cost, Glinda still doesn't see it. She does not get it. And I think a big piece of that is the amount of privilege she is afforded by the system. This is the patriarchal bargain that women make. So she doesn't yet understand or see the cost to self that is being extracted by aligning with the wizard. And I am going to reference quite a few of the lyrics throughout the movie because, y'all, once you start reading these lyrics in this framework, you're like, oh, these just hit on a different level. So towards the end of that movie, as Alphabet is deciding, like, no, I am not aligned with the wizard, and Glinda is telling her, like, wait a second, what are you doing? You're throwing away everything you want. Alphabet proceeds to sing this part where she says, Something has changed within me. Something is not the same. I'm through with playing by the rules of someone else's game. Too late for second guessing, too late to go back to sleep. It's time to trust my instincts. Close my eyes and leap. It's time to try defying gravity. I think I'll try defying gravity, and you can't pull me down. Of course, as I'm reading this, I am thinking of so many of you, right? Perhaps in the throes of this process of considering divorce. And maybe you have reached the point where you are going, something has changed within me. Maybe I don't want to play by the rules of someone else's game anymore. And maybe you are realizing it is too late for me to go back. I cannot close my eyes to this. And now it's time to jump. And Glinda says, right after, you know, Alphabet sings this part, she says, Can't I make you understand you're having delusions of grandeur? How many of us in these moments where we are feeling called back to our self-connection, back into integrity with our soul calls, have been told by a husband, by a parent, by a well-meaning sibling or best friend, you are having delusions of grandeur. This is what the world looks like. This is the game. These are the rules that have to be played, and you have to play within it. And I love this moment because Alphabet responds with this next verse where she says, I'm through accepting limits. Some things I cannot change, but till I try, I'll never know. Too long I've been afraid of losing love. I guess I've lost. Well, if that's love, it comes at much too high a cost. I'd sooner buy defying gravity. Kiss me goodbye. I'm defying gravity. And you can't pull me down. Right, Rachel. I mean, I'm just like, I remember re-listening to it and watching it, or you know, re-listening to the song, watching Wicked's when it came out, and being like, oh, she's just, she's just this incredible image of why self-connection is so powerful. We are watching her completely choose herself. We are watching her break through the beliefs and the limitations she's been trained through, the things that say you can only go this far, and then you, you know, those are the limits. And I love that part where she says, Too long I've been afraid of losing love. This is what I was talking about in my Substack post where I'm writing about how the double bind we find ourselves is losing the conditional love of others if we choose ourselves. And Alphabet is saying so clearly here for way too long, I've been afraid to lose that. And she's accepting, like, okay, well, I guess I've lost it. Because if that is love, it comes at much too high a cost. I so remember the moment for me when I started to like see this. Um, it was it was a moment with my, you know, now ex-husband, he was my husband at the time, where I asked him, like, what is love to you? And I remember for him, love was like love is when you do things you don't want to do to make someone else happy. And I felt this visceral reaction of like, nope, if that is love, it comes at much too high a cost. Like, I cannot, I my eyes are opened. It is too late to go back to sleep. I cannot go back to doing things I don't want to do just to receive love from other people. Now, after Alphaba finishes this verse, there is this gorgeous, it's like one of my favorite refrains in the whole wicked um series, you know, out of all of the songs. And it's this moment where Alphaba calls to Glinda to join with her. It's like some part of Alphabet can see a vision of this other world that she and Glinda could create together without the wizard. And she says to her, Come with me, think of what we could do together. And then they sing, she sings, unlimited. Together we're unlimited. Together we'll be the greatest team there's ever been, Glinda. Dreams the way we planned them. Glinda says, if we work in tandem, I'm trying so hard not to sing this right now, y'all. And then they say, There's no fight we cannot win. Just you and I defying gravity, with you and I defying gravity. And Alphabet says, they'll never bring us down. Are you coming? And in that moment, Glinda cannot make the jump. At that point in the first movie, she is just not awake enough yet. She is not connected deeply to herself enough yet. She is not wise enough yet to the cost of losing her soul connection. I just, I'm having like a side thought here of like, this is why I have my wolf tattoo from Clarissa Pinkola Estes's Women Who Run with the Wolves. That book is where she taught me and talks in so many of her chapters about the cost, the cost of women losing their instinctual selves, of losing connection to the wild woman inside. And for Glinda at that moment, um, which is often, you know, I see this often, you know, that is the case for her because her life has been so privileged, right? Alphabet grew up in a world of realizing she was different. She was not going to be favored or given any extra space or privileges within that system. So there was a part of her that had already built that tenacity. Um, and so when faced with abandoning, she chose self. Even though, I mean, still, I want to say it's incredible. It's amazing that Alphaba, when faced with finally getting what she wants most, right? Which is an opportunity to be the wizard's right-hand woman, to be um liked and the favorite by everybody, she ultimately will not turn against her integrity, which is her connection to the animals. She knows what they're doing is wrong, and she's not going to turn a blind eye to it. But Glinda is still deeply brainwashed a part of the world that she was raised in, and she just can't see through it yet. Now, let's go into the second movie. So the second movie is Wicked for Good, and that oh, that movie, y'all, that is where the shit gets so real. Like, I feel like in the first movie, we're kind of just like getting to see, you know, um what especially for like the Glinda route. I mean, gosh, I was Glinda for the first 29 years of my life, y'all, you know, raised in Mormonism, groomed to be a good little wife and mother, um, patted on the head, told I was doing great, and believed it until, you know, 29 years in, all of a sudden it was like, whoa, suicidal ideation and totally depressed. And I have everything I've wanted, and this life is not obviously like working. What has gone wrong? Um, so I see that first section often of the movie, you know, as I see a lot of themes that were very similar to me in the way that I was connected to myself when it comes to Glinda. Okay. In the second movie, though, Wicked for Good, this is where we get into some of the more complex development around both the characters. I feel like when we look at Alphaba, this is where we're getting to see her almost like post-divorce, where um, you know, she's still, she's made this choice to choose herself, and yet she's learning that even sometimes following what you know to be right and your soul truth really can ultimately lead to being no one's favorite. Like I have experienced that route. I watched leaving my divorce, you know, leaving Mormonism, losing all of those communities, all of those people that were built on conditional love. Um I watched definitely in my family as well, just the disconnection that had to happen there. It just, there's been a lot of those feelings for me in the alphabet journey of going, okay, um, yeah, there is a cost of losing all the people that were benefiting from this, or all the people that could only love me conditionally. And at the same time, for me, just an intense deepening because I made that initial decision of divorce from self-connection of, and this is my path, this is what I want. I will choose connection to myself and soul knowings and soul calls over all the rest of it, trusting that even though there would be collapse and disintegration and deconstruction to begin with, that I would be building a world that would ultimately lead me into more connection in the future, which it has. Even though I definitely, you know, had to in the short term sacrifice connection in the long term, the depth of connection that I have now just makes all of that pale in comparison. So Alphaba is in her own process of, you know, realizing and kind of a big waking up experience for her of learning that, you know, not only are there people who will not see you as the favorite or that will believe the lies that have been told about you, but that there are genuinely people in the world who, even if the truth is told them, only want to see what is directly in front of them that they want to see. And this is that moment where the wizard sings the song. Um, I think it's the one called where, you know, they'll call me wonderful. But I love this. Um, I mean, there's just so many. I'm not going to read all of the lyrics from his song, but there's a section where here where he says, take it from a wise old carney. Once folks buy into your Blarney, it becomes the thing they'll most hold on to. Once they've swallowed sham and hoke em, facts and logic won't unchoke them. They'll go on believing what they want to. Show them exactly what's the score. They'll just believe it even more. Y'all, watching this second wicked movie, I was like, this is absolutely what we see on the political stage at the moment in the US. Um, I just have seen so many people that are watching in horror at how we literally have the score, the Epstein files. We we see the score, and there are people who will choose to believe the current administration and those men even more, even with the score right in front of them. And I have to add in a side note here around this same idea that there are just people in the world who do not want to give up their beliefs, even when what is the, you know, the facts that are in front of them are so horrific that anybody else is like, yeah, it's time to let that go. And they just will not. I recently, actually this past weekend, um finally watched the documentary on Netflix called Keep Sweet, Pray and Obey about the FLDS uh community. And y'all, I'd seen when this documentary came out, um, I believe it came out in like 2020. It was still way too fresh with me leaving. Mormonism in 2020 to even go near that. And to be clear, you know, I was not part of the FLDS. I was part of Mormonism, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which after watching that documentary, I realized is like it's like the FLDS are just, you know, five steps of crazy deeper into the doctrine. But it's still the same doctrine in Mormonism. It really is. And I found this, I had this like very surreal experience while I was watching it with Joe, where I kept at times turning to him and being like, oh my gosh, how can they not see it? How can they not see it? How can they not leave? And at the same exact time, knowing intimately from my own personal experience why they can't, why their belief, their faith, the reality that their worlds have created is more important to them than the truth. And I mean, that is so, so deeply like the amount of brainwashing that is in both the FLDS and Mormonism is extensive from childbirth on. And you can see the incredibly crazy and destructive effects it has on individuals having self-trust, on being able to actually have a sense of identity and integrity that they can live from. When that is destroyed, then they can be used and puppeted by whoever happens to know how to manipulate and control their minds and the dynamics within that community. And because of that, those people will even go so far as to hurt people they love in order to preserve their mental idea of reality and the world around them. And so that is what Alphabet is waking up to. God, I feel like that's what so many of us in the US have started waking up to uh in these, you know, last couple of um, I mean, honestly, there have been many doing this work way, way before me. But I feel many of us that have benefited from the privilege we've been afforded by these systems, I see more and more of us starting to go, whoa, whoa. We are like tracking, we are off the tracks. And then the horror of realizing, oh, there are people who will see the atrocities being committed and will ultimately still look away. And one of the parts I love in the movie is, you know, is watching Alphabet kind of go through her own dark nights of the soul, grappling with like how does she stay connected to the world she envisions when the very systems that that world is built on are set up against you. And it feels like, just like, you know, my woman in my community that I wrote about in the Substack post, grappling with that double bind of really feeling like you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't. And that's the song that Alphabet sings where she says, no good deed goes unpunished. Now, I don't want to keep going into that because all of that beautiful like political commentary and understanding the like complex psychology of what Alphabet is going through is an episode for another time. But I have to say, I really did love one of the things I want to highlight from her journey is seeing her home out in the wilderness in the movie. And in so many ways, I feel like that's what I see the women. That's what I talk about on the podcast. When I wrote in the Substack post yesterday, that when women make these psychological journeys for themselves, they then change the collective. That's what I see that little haven being for her. Now, meanwhile, while Alphabet's going through her process, we are getting to see on Glinda's side very, very poignantly, how the price of being the favorite is this abandonment of connection to self, connection to, you know, in her case, to people she loves, connection to Alphaba, and to her integrity. And eventually, it's so beautiful to watch her learn that for her, it is too high of a price. And I love one of the songs that she sings right before she kind of makes the decision, where you can see her like, nope, it's too high of a price. I am, I'm tracking out into the wilderness with Alphabet as well. I'm gonna choose connection to myself. There's a song she sings about the girl in the bubble that I want to read the lyrics to because I know many of you listening will relate to this, especially when you think about it in terms of the life you may have built in your marriage. Perhaps when you were a very different person, you know, five, 10, 15, 20, 30 years ago when you made that decision. So she says, look, there's that beautiful girl with the beautiful life, such a beautiful life built on lies. Cause all that's required to live in a dream is endlessly closing your eyes. She spins such beautiful stories to sing her to sleep, full of magic and glory and love. She's the girl in the bubble, the bright shiny bubble blissfully floating above. Ah, but the truth has a way of seeping on in, beneath the surface and sheen, and blind as you try to be, eventually it's hard to unsee what you've seen. And so that beautiful girl with the beautiful life has a question that haunts her somehow. If she comes down from the sky, gives the real world a try, who in the world is she now? And though so much of her wishes that she could float on and the beautiful lies never stop, for the girl in the bubble, the pink shiny bubble, it's time for her bubble to pop. For the popular girl high in the bubble, isn't it high time for her bubble to pop? Right? Are you guys just listening to his lyrics now? And you're like, so much of this is this process of waking up as a woman, of realizing what you've been sold. And I love, especially this line here where she says, you know, the question that haunts her is if I come down from the sky and I give the real world a try, who in the world is she now? That is what my woman in the community was grappling with, with that feeling of I'm no one's favorite anymore. Who in the world am I if I step out of these roles, if I stop playing these games and I lose that conditional love that I've built my entire identity and self-worth on, which I am obsessed with how beautifully Glinda is just the perfect example of that, right? Her entire identity revolves around what do other people think of me? Am I being loved? Am I being praised externally, but not actually who am I deep down? What do I think? What do I believe? And oh, oh, y'all. Don't we all in various stages of that journey know what it actually feels and looks like to make that decision to pop the bubble? Right. Um, this is that deeper layer that for so many of you, you know, yes, you may at the moment be like, ah, I'm I'm considering divorce, but this is what you're grappling with deep underneath in making this decision, right? Like, and then and then the other thing I love too, that like another layer to this is, you know, so many of us got into that bubble not educated, not realizing how big the lies were or how much they were actually not in alignment with our souls. Like I got in that bubble with having been completely disconnected from myself from a very, very young age. I think I've mentioned on the podcast before that I'm pretty sure like around the age of five with the abuse from my father, that is when my psyche went, it is not safe to be myself. I will just chameleon and be whatever anybody else wants me to be. And so, yeah, then I became just kind of a part of the machine. Uh, like you see, Glinda. She is a part of the wizard's machine. Uh, she is just doing what she needs to do to be safe and conditionally loved within the system that has told her this is all she's good for. And I totally and completely relate to that exact experience. And I absolutely also understand what it's like to be raised in the bubble and then to realize one day this is not actually who I think I am, and to take the huge risk of popping that bubble. And in the movie, you know, putting on the shoes that look like Alphaba and climbing up on the horse and riding to the castle and risking being seen in the very places that the people who conditionally loved you will now, you know, if they were to catch you, shame you and pull away from you. So looking at the two characters, Alphabet and Glinda, you know, these are just some of the ways that we get to see on this type of a like this level of interpretation of watching both of them and how they handle self-connection, the impact they're able to have in the world depending on whether they're connected to themselves or not. But I also want to draw you to a different interpretation that I love even more in an even deeper way around these movies, which is to ultimately thinking about Alphaba and Glinda as being two sides of one person. And what I mean by that is Glinda in this version, if we look at her, she can represent for us our conscious egoic side. And alphabet can represent more of our dark unconscious or even exiled parts. And typically, you know, in patriarchal societies, the Galinda side is what's more of the yang energy, more of the masculine, all the things that are celebrated as like this is what you want to be. And the alphabetic side is more of the yin, what's typically considered feminine energy, the receiving, the messy, the deconstructing, the death side. And the yang is more of like the light and the sun. Now, if we think about it this way, y'all, that moment in the movie when they sing their refrain about being unlimited, you know, they say, together, we're unlimited. What that then ends up pointing to is that when one is actually in wholeness, okay, and by wholeness I mean you are connected with yourself, not only to the parts that are what the world typically labels as pretty or acceptable or worthy of love, but when you are connected to yourself with both that side and your shadow side, your green parts, the parts that are too loud, too bossy, too outspoken, too. All the things that alphabet is. When we are connected to both, we become unlimited. And that, y'all, is the power of self-connection. That is why I titled this episode Together We're unlimited. And it is through the connecting of those parts of ourselves that is where we really start to stop the spin that so many of us are in when it comes to considering divorce. Not only are you grappling with the choice that you're going to make externally, but you in many ways are in this deep psychological process of the spin that comes from fighting between these two parts, from, you know, having a Glinda and an alphabet inside of you, and simultaneously, you know, picking one and then picking the other, and then disowning one, and then picking, you know, and just going back and forth, versus when we become connected, when we lean in to our inner truth and we instead anchor into an identity that instead of being either or encompasses the vast bothness, I'm gonna make that word, that vast bothness, that we are both a Glinda and an Alphaba within ourselves. And when we, like both of them did in the movies, when we start shedding those conditioning and rules and beliefs that have smollened and tamed us down to be palatable enough for the world, and from there end up deciding, no, I'm I'm through playing the rules of someone else's game and I want to trust my instincts instead. Now, one of the things that is like a personal, like, oh, just bummer for me in the wicked story and the way it ends, is that we never get to see that played out in the movie, right? We never get to see a world created where Glinda and Alphaba get to side by side be unlimited together and to be the greatest team that's ever been. And I do think that once again ties in, and I I love adding this layer here because I think it's important to acknowledge through that lens, that's really at the end of the story where Alphaba has to be sacrificed for quote good, right? For good to be palatable in their world, Alphabet has to go away and Glinda has to carry it forward. And I really see this part as a huge commentary on racism and how we've been trained only to accept goodness in certain kinds of people and also to ignore outright evil as long as it comes in a white, Christian andor male package. And I'm like for sure absolutely referencing our current president and the white women that are propping him up, the Epstein files and white Christian nationalisms, like blatant turning a blind to all of it because they are still benefiting. So all of that ties in, all of that has to be understood within this idea of the power of self-connection and why it matters. And really how when we are disconnected from ourselves, which when I say white Christian nationalism, I include Mormonism within that, is definitely brainwashed within that culture into seeing goodness only in a certain kind of people. And it is so important, vital, and necessary right now that as we are doing this work in our own lives, that we are seeing those same structures and systems up above us and deciding for ourselves where is our integrity going to lie? Where are we going? Are we going to choose connection to self that ultimately continues to prop up realities that hurt other people? Or are we going to choose connection to self that actually makes it safer for everybody? Like Alphaba with the animals. For me personally, I want to live in the world where Alphaba and Glinda rule together. Where way back when, at the end of the first movie, when Glinda had the chance, and Alphabet is saying to her, like, take my hand, we will be the greatest team that's ever been. Glinda's like, Fuck you, wizard, and grabs hands with Alphaba. And together they create a world where, you know, the animals are safe and they get to speak freely. And the wizard and the manipulative, lying uh Empress woman that was helping him are disenfranchised and stripped of their power that ultimately, as you see in the movie, they were not using for the betterment of everyone, but mainly for themselves and the select few that they deem worthy. And although I may not be able to make a different ending to the movie of Wicked, what I love realizing through these metaphors, through these layers of seeing the movie in this way, is that although I can't change the ending there, what I am doing in my life, in the example I'm setting for my children's lives, in the podcast, in the women that I work with in the community, is I am creating a different ending to the story of my life, their lives, and the ripple effect that that has on the world around me. Because in choosing to follow my soul calls to listen to my inner truth, to trust myself and walk a path of integrity with my deepest soul knowings at the expense, because there was a cost, y'all, of the bubble that I had built so long ago having to be popped. I now get to create and move and live in a world that each year I am seeing feels more and more unlimited. As I have shed the rules of the games that were never meant for me, I have found myself expanding in a life that continues to show me what is possible and is filled with, in the words of Glinda and Alphabet, dreams the way we planned them. And it is also like, not only is this what I see in my own life, but it is such a incredible like gift and honor to be doing that work with women in the community. I feel like I am watching in the community Glinda's and Alphabs linking hands and being like, yeah, I got you, sis. What kind of world are we gonna create? And honestly, you know, that that life, that experience of linking up with powerful other women, choosing self connection over self abandonment to prop up the systems that ultimately I don't believe are made for women. I I want that. Feeling of living a life that is unlimited for each and every woman that I meet. And honestly, you know, if I think about it even deeper, I want that for each and every human that I meet. But I focus my work on women because we are the ones that historically have been denied the right to dream dreams the way we planned them, along with all black, indigenous, and people of color and any other individuals that are not privileged within the white, male, ableist patriarchal societies of the last five to 10,000 years of male-dominated social structures. Here at the end of this episode, I want to drive home again, y'all, that those structures have a cost. And we know the price because that price has been paid by our bodies, our hearts, and our souls. And I hope that what this episode today does for you is that it really brings in the full scope of helping you understand why that is too high a price and that you are truly not alone in not wanting to pay it any longer. That, my loves, is the heart of the work that these next two months in the community is about. This is what, you know, when I say connection, when I say self-connection, this is what it represents to me. This is the depth that I see, the work that I love facilitating. And I feel immensely grateful to get to share it with all of you and to get to walk this journey beside so many of you here on the podcast, in the community, in my work with my clients. Now, before I let you all go for next week's episode, um, as always, my loves, I love reminding you that not only do I have the podcast, but I have so many other ways that I get to support you in this work. Um, more and more I am just really acknowledging and celebrating that this is such a gift in my life to be able to have offerings to give to you as other women considering divorce that are beautifully attuned with what I would have wanted and appreciated back on my journey. I mean, I think of so many of the things that I get to do as a coach with my women. And I'm like, man, I would have given anything to have had a podcast like this, to have had a community like this, to have been able to get on a call with someone like this, it would have saved me so much time and energy. Um, but one of the first ways to do that is by becoming a paid Substack subscriber. That will give you full access to the other three episodes that will come out this month. And I'm just gonna be like totally clear here that you are gonna want to be a paid subscriber this month because next week's episode is one that you are not gonna want to miss. I will be interviewing a woman who joined my community last summer, and she's gonna be sharing her incredible journey with what she is calling her exit to expansion, and how being willing to exit her marriage was actually the very thing that expanded it. It's one of my favorite conversations. I'm very excited to bring it to you guys next Tuesday. Along with being a paid Substack subscriber, there is also the community, which I have talked about extensively and cannot. Just, it's just, it gets better and better with each month that goes by. Um, to take you there, super easy. You can text Stay Orgo Community, all one word, 233777, and you'll be able to sign up for an interview with my assistant Alex, that I will then get to watch and reply to you if you get accepted into the community. It's a really beautiful process. Um if you're needing something more specific, always remember that I have my amazing 90-minute get unstuck and empowered sessions. Those are also super easy to jump over to by texting 90MIN 233777. And last but never least, I have my deep dive one-to-one coaching container. And this one is one of my absolute favorite offerings because it is truly life-changing. And by life-changing, I mean not just like making the decision of whether to stay or go, because absolutely that is life-changing, but life-changing in the way of working together with me for three months minimum, building together your foundation and reconnection to yourself, kind of life-changing. Like this is getting to have me by your side and in your ear every step of the way through the process. This is specifically tailored to my listeners who are currently feeling like I have got big things on the horizon in my career or my professional pursuits, but I cannot seem to get out of the spin in my marriage. And parts of you know there are things off, but every time you try to go there, you are just sinking in quicksand. So you're finding yourself leaving it for another year and then another year. Babe, this is the year you don't leave it any longer. Because as I've said from this podcast, from the Substack post I did, connection to yourself, deep, deep, anchored, self-trust, and moving through the world with integrity is far too precious to be paying a price this high. If that is you, I have got you, babe. You can check out my deep dive in the link in the show notes. I will be so excited to meet you, fall in love with you, and show you step by step how to reconnect with and fall back in love with all parts of you, both your Glinda and your beautiful alphabides. That's what I've got for you guys this week. Till next Tuesday, I am sending you much love. Notice this week where you're being called to pop your bubble, where you're being called to connect with your alphabet. Bye loves.