You are not alone, men heal when they show up!

vIn Season 2, Episode 28 of Talking With Jose, we talk about something simple—but powerful—most men struggle with:

👉 Showing up.

Healing doesn’t start with having all the answers.
It starts when a man decides to say, “I’m here.”

This episode is about:

Learning together

Making intentional decisions

Letting go of isolation

Understanding that you don’t have to explain everything to be seen

If you’re a man who feels tired, overwhelmed, or unsure of your next step—this conversation is for you.

You don’t need to justify your pain.
You don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to show up.

You are not alone, corillo.

👉 Subscribe for real conversations about men’s mental health, emotional growth, and purpose.

Transcript

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Hey, welcome! Thanks for tuning in to this episode Today's title is a powerful one Men Suffer in Silence What a title, right? As I said this video isn't for everyone It's for you, for us because I'm including myself here who wake up every day with the world on our shoulders Carrying that weight is complicated and yet, nobody asks if we're okay Today I'm going to talk about everything we men suffer through in silence Because if you won't say it I'll say it for you We men tend to keep quiet for far too long but we shouldn't We need to talk I want to share an anecdote from a book called The Silence of Adam When God created man and woman he gave them dominion over everything Yet when Eve was talking to the serpent Adam could have stepped in He could have said, Be quiet, snake But he didn't When she offered him the fruit he was right there beside her He could have said no, but he stayed silent It's an excellent book I’ll leave a link in the description I want to start from that premise because when we men keep quiet we lose so much But why do we do it? Have you ever wondered? You, the man listening right now why is it that when someone asks how we are the answer is always Yeah, everything's fine It's all good, man Handling it We say we're fine but deep down, we're not I can tell you from my own life I kept quiet for a long time From a young age I was taught that men don't cry If you started crying, you'd hear Don't cry or I'll give you a real reason to So you learn to bottle it up You learn to be tough Hold on like a man, Figure it out don't complain I've heard it all So why couldn't I cry? Why did I have to endure? Why couldn't I complain? Because I'm a man That's how we were raised You can't show weakness You can't be the crybaby My mindset was I'd rather take a knockout than show I'm hurting And because of that I hid a lot of anxiety and doubt But what happens then? There comes a moment when you just can't handle the pressure anymore That's what I'm talking about We men who suffer in silence eventually reach a breaking point I've been there, my heart in pieces just trying to hold it all together It's incredibly difficult So, I conducted an informal survey of men aged 25 to 45 and a few key themes emerged The first one was the constant pressure to be strong I think this is especially true for firstborn sons or older brothers You always have to be the strong one the one others look up to The second point was emotional loneliness even when you have a family Feeling emotionally alone inside your own home with your own family that’s tough And yet, you keep going giving your all every day That's a dangerous place to be The third point is mental health Things like depression can go unnoticed or get misdiagnosed It's not just in your head it can manifest physically Maybe it's hormonal issues or maybe you're in constant physical pain which raises your cortisol levels and makes you sick all the time I'm speaking from my own experience here Untreated depression can affect you in so many ways poor hygiene sleeping too much or too little having no energy or feeling manic These are all potential symptoms If you or someone you know is going through this please know there are resources There are psychologists and psychiatrists who can help It's just a matter of reaching out Another point was guilt over past mistakes How many times have we done things we regret and we're still dealing with the consequences? About seven months ago I realized I was self-sabotaging Even when people said good things about me a voice in my head would say But you could have done better That perfectionism was crippling What helped me was a group of men I was meeting with They helped me see what was really going on and it helped me grow That's why it's so important for us to create communities of healthy men Find a group at church or with your buddies And if you can't find one, create one Find a brother who needs help Your experience with a problem could be the key to helping him If you're haunted by past mistakes the first step is to acknowledge them and forgive yourself It’s a healing process and it takes time but it will equip you to help someone else down the road Next are buried traumas traumas that were never detected acknowledged, or dealt with These can range from childhood abuse to other forms that men experience but never talk about Many men live with this in silence But I’m telling you clearly you don't have to live quietly Find a good psychologist who specializes in trauma Reach out to me, send a DM or comment here and we can connect you with resources whether it's for mental physical, or emotional health that fit your budget The internet is a powerful tool if we use it for good This next one is one of the most important and one we stay most silent about sexual health Issues like erectile dysfunction can be caused by medical conditions like diabetes which can damage nerves over time or be a side effect of medication This is something many men face and often, they are met with ridicule sometimes even from their partners That's completely out of place We need to create a space where these topics can be discussed without shame Then there are financial problems we don't share I know people who look like they have it all together the nice car the expensive shoes but their kids are going hungry and the lights are about to be shut off because they 're drowning in debt Or, on the other side there are men who work tirelessly but what they earn is just not enough to get by Another vital area is the spiritual one a loss of faith or connection with God For me this is critically important It's an area where I need to be firm And lastly so many men don't know their purpose or which way to go On the flip side there are many of you who are great at setting goals and achieving them If you've been through these struggles and want to serve the community as a mentor contact me The idea is to build a network of professionals in all areas financial spiritual, physical and emotional so we can help each other one by one This isn't about going viral it's about building a community The spiritual life is one of the most important things For me, my savior is Jesus Christ There's a verse in Matthew 11 28 that says Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest There is rest for you There is a purpose for you But you need to open your mouth, man We have to leave our pride behind and I include myself in that Let's get help You are not alone, brother So if this video resonated with you don't leave without leaving a comment Write, I'm in this process Subscribe because this is just the beginning Here, you will find a community of men who are standing up facing their shadows and becoming the men God called them to be Thank you so much for being here Until the next one