Mid-life Men: the mental health podcast
Have you ever felt like you’ve become lost in your own life?
Many men struggle to talk about their problems and mental health and grew up believing that to do can be perceived as a sign of weakness or failure. There is also a lack of open discussion in society around men’s mental health, especially aimed at mid-life men. As a result, at times many men can feel alone and lost in their own lives.
In this podcast series, I talk to mid-life men about their stories; the challenges, the turning points, and the support received to help them find their way so that others who may be suffering in silence or don’t know what to do next, realise that they are not alone and there is help available.
Stories will cover a whole range of challenges faced by mid-life men mainly relating to the causes of mental health issues including feelings of isolation, depression, job dissatisfaction, addiction, PTSD, and long-term illness.
The podcast is NOT a replacement for professional support and we signpost to organisations and their contact details by episode.
If you have a story you would like to share or any feedback on the podcasts, please email me: midlifemen01@gmail.com.
Mid-life Men: the mental health podcast
When You Know Something Has to Change, with Dr James Rouse
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In this episode I talk with Dr James Rouse, author of "No Days Off", about what that moment looked like for him. Growing up around alcohol, instability, and pressure to just get on with things, he followed a path a lot of men fall into: drinking too much, pushing himself hard physically, and trying to outrun how he felt rather than face it.
Some men don’t crash. They just reach a point where they quietly think: “I can’t keep living like this.”
What makes this conversation different is how honest he is about how change actually happened. Not a breakthrough. Not a rock-bottom moment. Just a slow realisation that if nothing changed, nothing was going to change.
We talk about things many men will recognise but rarely say out loud:
- how easy it is to drift into habits you don’t feel proud of
- why many men try to "outwork" their problems instead of talking about them
- how small daily routines can start rebuilding self-respect
- why consistency matters more than motivation
- what to do when you don’t like yourself very much but still want things to improve
James also brings something unusual to this discussion. He’s not just speaking from experience, he’s spent decades understanding what’s happening in the brain and body when men feel stuck, flat, or fed up with themselves.
What comes through is simple but powerful: Change often starts before confidence does. Sometimes it just starts with doing one better thing today than you did yesterday.
This isn’t an episode about dramatic transformation. It’s about something much more relatable: how ordinary men slowly get themselves back on track without making a big show of it.
If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought “this isn’t where I wanted to end up”, this conversation will probably feel very familiar.
To find out more about James, you can find him on Instragram: drjamesrouse, and his book "No Days Off" is available to buy online.
