As Sean Michael Crane, I invite you on an intimate exploration of life's impermanence and the legacy we leave behind. The recent passing of my wife's grandmother opened a floodgate of emotions and memories, leading me to share the heart-wrenching stories of my parents' deaths and the stark realization of our limited time. I unravel the fabric of mortality and the deep-seated need to live without regrets, urging you to reflect on your own relationships and the footprints you wish to leave in the sands of time.
This episode is a call to action to seize your potential and live with unbridled passion. I stress the significance of committing fully to your ambitions and the people you love, understanding that our days are numbered. By embracing the lessons from those we've lost and striving to be the best version of ourselves, we can ensure that our lives resonate with purpose and positively impact those around us. Join me in this soulful conversation as we confront the truths of our existence and the undying quest to craft a meaningful legacy.
As Sean Michael Crane, I invite you on an intimate exploration of life's impermanence and the legacy we leave behind. The recent passing of my wife's grandmother opened a floodgate of emotions and memories, leading me to share the heart-wrenching stories of my parents' deaths and the stark realization of our limited time. I unravel the fabric of mortality and the deep-seated need to live without regrets, urging you to reflect on your own relationships and the footprints you wish to leave in the sands of time.
This episode is a call to action to seize your potential and live with unbridled passion. I stress the significance of committing fully to your ambitions and the people you love, understanding that our days are numbered. By embracing the lessons from those we've lost and striving to be the best version of ourselves, we can ensure that our lives resonate with purpose and positively impact those around us. Join me in this soulful conversation as we confront the truths of our existence and the undying quest to craft a meaningful legacy.
Welcome back to another episode of the Unstoppable Mindset Podcast. I'm your host, sean Michael Crane. We're here in the HQ, the Unstoppable HQ in beautiful Santa Barbara, california, and, man, I got an episode today and a message that you need to hear, right. So I've been thinking a lot about death and you know specifically family members of mine who have passed away. The reason for this is my wife's grandmother just passed away. She lived to be 94. She was an amazing woman and we're going to celebrate her life tomorrow and I'm just thinking about what people are going to say about me when I die and anytime someone passes away.
Speaker 1:It gets me thinking about every little detail and every action, every decision I make in my life. I think about how I'm parenting my kids, like I want to be the best dad for them, and I'm always thinking like is this the right decision? Is this the best way to parent them? Is this the best way to spend time with them? Same with my wife, I want to be the best husband. So I'm always thinking about these things Like every day. Am I making this journey count? Am I paying attention to what's most important? Is my attention and focus going where it needs to go, or am I going to have regrets later on in life? You know, I think a lot about my parents and my upbringing.
Speaker 1:When I was in prison roughly, you know, 10 years ago to this point, I lost my mom. I never had the chance to build a relationship with my mom as sober individuals when our household fell apart and she fell deep into her addiction. You know, I lost my mom. I lost the version of my mom that I knew growing up and that broke my heart for so many years. And then, when I was in jail, we started writing each other letters and she had gotten sober and we rekindled our relationship and I always had this vision of getting out, going to take her to lunch and being able to sit down and talk like adults and I let go of the past. I had made peace with all the stuff that I was so angry about for so long and I had this vision that one day I'd get to, you know, like, make it all right and rebuild a relationship with my mother. But that didn't happen. She passed away when I was in prison.
Speaker 1:You know, my grandmother. She passed away when I was in prison and then, when I came home, I lost my father. You know, two, three years after being out, he got to see my daughter, scarlett, being born. He got to meet Jessica. You know, a month after Preston was born. He never met Preston. He had a beautiful relationship with Mason, my oldest boy, but he never got to hold Preston and he passed away.
Speaker 1:You know, and like I lost my uncle Mike six months ago, he's the one who raised me. He's the one who saved my life. He's the one who saved my life and I've lost so many people on this journey. So many friends have died accidentally overdosed. So many people didn't make it to this point and I don't even know how I did. There's so many instances that I look back on where I could have been dead, where I could have accidentally overdosed, where I would have not woken up, where I would have went to sleep with too much alcohol, too much pills, too intoxicated, too much stuff in my system and I would have just died in my sleep. My cousin Andrew. He died two months after my father. So it's like I have all these people who have passed away. My Uncle Jerry died in my garage when I was 19.
Speaker 1:You know like the list goes on and on as I'm sharing this. These names and faces are just popping up in my head and it's like what was it all for? What was their life for? What did they do here that still talked about, that, still remembered? Who did they impact? What lives did they change?
Speaker 1:I think about this all the time because our journey is so short and this is such a temporary time. We don't know where we go after this, but we do know that our actions have consequences and our actions and who we become have a drastic impact on the people that we share this journey with your kids, your wife, your significant other, the people that you spend time with at work, the people that you see in your community, your extended family, like. Think about the people that you see often Right now, as you're listening to this, I want you to picture their faces, think about the relationship you have and I want you to ask yourself am I giving everything that I've got to this person? Like, if it's your wife, are you giving her everything that you got? All your love, all your energy, all your affection? Your children are you giving them all of your attention, superhero, dad, the best role model in the world, the best person that they need? Like, are you being the best version of yourself for them. You see, this is what I think about every day, and the way that I honor the people who have come and gone before me the loved ones that I just shared with you and the friends who have passed away is I'm going to be that man that I know in my heart, I'm supposed to be. I'm going to take all the lessons I learned from them our relationship, everything that I can remember about that individual and I'm going to make them proud. I'm going to honor them. If they're in heaven looking down upon me, they're going to look down upon me with.
Speaker 1:They didn't do it. A lot of them died with regret. A lot of them went to the grave with untapped potential. I saw it, I lived it. I saw it firsthand, and for me, that's my inspiration every day to get up and work my ass off, to be a good man and to lead by example, to face my fears, dream bigger, crush everything in my path, accomplish all my goals and just live the ultimate life, because I know that one day I'm going to be that person that people are remembering. I'm going to be that guy at a funeral, at a celebration of life, that guy whose life is no longer here in the physical form.
Speaker 1:What are people going to say about me then? What are the memories that are going to pop up? What is the feeling inside of them that they're going to have about me? Is it going to be? Oh, you know, sean was a good guy, but he was capable of so much more. Oh, sean was a good guy, but he had these flaws. He had these things about him that he couldn't overcome. Sean was a good person, but he could have been so much more, or damn, sean was the epitome of what we're here to do, and, like you, for instance, what are they going to say about you? Don't make this about me.
Speaker 1:I want you to think about your loved ones, your parents, your uncles, your aunts, like your heritage, right, your ancestry, and then the people in your lives right now, the people who have come and gone before you and the people who are with you right now. What are they gonna say and remember about you? Because here's the thing we're all connected. I don't care if my mom's not here in the physical form. I don't care if my dad's not here in the physical form. I don't care if my wife's grandmother God rest her soul, right. I don't care if she's not here in the physical form. I feel their presence, I feel their energy and I feel that about my children too. I know that we're all connected in a way that we could hardly fathom.
Speaker 1:And I know that when I do the right thing every day and I show up and or doubts in my path and I'm honest about who I want to be in this life and I hold myself to that high standard, like when I show up as that man, I'm filled with peace. I look back on the past and I have gratitude in my heart, like I know that everything that I went through early on, all the struggle, everything that I had to endure, it was for a reason, like there's meaning behind those moments. Right, I've been able to turn that pain into purpose and the reason I was able to do that is because I see the bigger picture of why we're all here. We're here to lift each other up, we're here to inspire one another. We're here to show people what's possible.
Speaker 1:We all need that individual in our lives, or those individuals that we can aspire to be like, and I wanna ask you are you being that for the people in your life right now. Are you holding back? Are you playing small? Are you making excuses? Have you settled? If you settled, I know that you're not waking up alive. I know you're not feeling something inside of you that's driving you forward each and every day. It's the opposite You're waking up and you're not excited, you're not finding things to be grateful for. You're seeing the negative side of life. The glass is half empty for those individuals, but I want you to know it could be so much different for you, it could be so much better, and so for me, the way that I focus on what's important and the thing that I think about every day that helps me to really understand what's important and direct my actions and gives me clarity, is thinking about death. I think about death every day and it's a motivating factor for me because I think about man. If this was my last day with my children, how would I behave? If this was my last conversation with my wife, how would I listen? Like last kiss, last hug, last day alive last year? Whatever it is Like for those of you listening, if you want more out of life, you've got to think about the fact that this journey will end.
Speaker 1:If you want more out of life and you want to just do everything that your heart is calling you to do, and you want to become someone you're proud of. You got to think about the fact that every day that you're not all in is a day you're never going to get back. All the goals, all the things that you say you want to accomplish, are you really pursuing them with everything that you've got, or are you going slow, you're procrastinating, you're making excuses, you think that eventually you'll get there, right, you put it off until tomorrow, when you're all in and you're really living your life, understanding that it's temporary, living your life knowing that you don't know when you're going to die, but you want to make every day, every moment, the best that you've ever experienced. You don't question it. You know in your heart that you're fully all in, and if you're questioning it right now, it's because you're not, and so I'm going to call you out, and I'm going to call you up because people in your life need you right now.
Speaker 1:Let's go back to what I shared when I opened up this segment. Think about the fact that your children, your wife, there's people in your life right now that depend on you so much and there's people in your life, or that have been in your life to this point, who are dead. They're gone. Remember the effect they had on you? Remember how they made you feel Like? Did they make you feel like you could do anything in your life?
Speaker 1:Or do you look back on your parents or loved ones or people you've known and you see flaws in them? You see things that you wished they would have changed, ways that they could have improved? Now I want you to look at your own life and I want you to put yourself under the microscope. Who do you need to be for your loved ones? Who do you need to be in order for, when you die, they don't have those negative feelings about you. They have nothing but positive thoughts and feelings. You were the best man they've ever known, the best person that ever came into their life. I want you to go into your day with this mindset. I want you to focus on who you need to be and I want you to pour your heart and soul into your