The Truth Behind Your Inconsistency

The moment that changed everything came in a jail cell at 23 years old. Facing a potential life sentence, I was forced to confront the harsh reality: I had wasted decades of my life with nothing to show for it. No goals accomplished. No dreams pursued. Just a young man who never understood the precious nature of time until it almost ran out completely.

This raw awakening forms the foundation of a powerful truth most people miss when they struggle with consistency and results. Everyone thinks they lack discipline. They believe if they could just force themselves to stick to their plans, everything would change. But discipline isn't the core problem—it's merely a symptom of something much deeper.

What truly drives transformation isn't willpower or forcing yourself to follow rules. It's developing a profound connection to your purpose that's so powerful, you can't help but take action. When your why is strong enough, discipline follows naturally. Most people lack this connection because they're running from uncomfortable truths. They fill their days with busy work and numb themselves to avoid feeling the pain of regret, unfulfilled potential, and wasted time.

My journey from facing life in prison to building a thriving coaching business wasn't fueled by discipline. It was driven by the searing pain of acknowledging who I had become and channeling that emotion into a new vision for my life. Each morning, I don't think about being disciplined—I'm simply connected to a purpose so compelling that anything less than full commitment is unthinkable.

If you're struggling to stay consistent with your health, business, or relationships, stop focusing on discipline. Start creating space for honest reflection. Face the uncomfortable truths about where you are versus where you want to be. Let yourself feel the weight of those realizations. Then use that emotional energy to fuel a transformation that will make discipline the natural byproduct of living in alignment with your true purpose.

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• 0:00 Confronting mortality and wasted potential

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

I was sitting in a jail cell at 23 years old, looking back on two decades of nothing productive, no goals achieved, no dreams built or lived. You know I wasn't going after things in life the way I would have if I knew time was running out. You don't realize that you're actually gonna die one day. You don't understand how precious these moments are. Some of you are gonna die as lesser versions of yourselves. Some of you are gonna die with untapped potential. Some of you are going to die as lesser versions of yourselves. Some of you are going to die with untapped potential. Some of you are going to die never knowing what it was like to be all in on your truth.

Speaker 1: 0:37

Welcome back to another episode of the Unstoppable Mindset Podcast. I'm your host, sean Crane, and we're here in the good land, baby Goleta, california. You know, somebody was listening to my podcast recently and they're like why don't you shout out Goleta? That's where you're from. And I say Santa Barbara because most people don't know where Goleta is, but everyone knows where Santa Barbara is if you're not from California. But I'm in G-Town man, I was born and raised in Goleta. This is the good land. This is home for me. I love it Paradise, best weather, great people. This is my home man and today I got a great message for anybody that wants to get results in life. But you're struggling. You know everyone thinks they're lacking discipline. I get guys that reach out to me all the time who want coaching or who are currently being coached by me in one of my programs. My company is Unstoppable 365. I have hundreds of clients all over the country.

Speaker 1: 1:25

I've worked with thousands of men who want to change their lives and I see all the same symptoms and challenges right Lack of discipline. They're not consistent. They got so much going on in their lives. It's pulling them in a million different directions and what happens is these guys don't prioritize their health, so they get fat, they get out of shape, they lack energy, they lack focus, they drink too much, they eat bad food, they bring a half-assed version of themselves home to their family and they don't want to be that way. And guys all the time are like damn, I just need discipline. If I just had discipline. And I want to tell you, you guys, when I changed my life and up to this point and this message today, I never once thought about discipline. I never thought about lacking discipline or needing discipline.

Speaker 1: 2:04

Discipline is a symptom. It's a byproduct of something deeper inside of you that's going to compel you to take massive action. So if you lack discipline, it's a symptom of a disconnect internally, meaning you don't have clarity around what you want and why it's important. If there was something out there that was so important to you, you would do the work to get it. But the things that you say you want, the goals that you want to achieve, the results that you want, they're not important enough to you. That's why you sleep in, that's why you hit snooze, that's why you're inconsistent, that's why you're not studying or reading or learning the new skills or networking or getting out of your comfort zone and you're letting fear and excuses hold you back. It's that simple. It's not important enough to you, right, and you might be going well, yeah, it is, sean. Like I want to make more money and take care of my family. Or, yeah, I don't want to be fat and out of shape and diabetic. Yeah, I don't want to die early and leave my family, whatever it is. I'm not doubting that these reasons are important to you and, like, when you think about them, like you can articulate your sentiment that it's not important to you, but what I mean is, if you don't have a deep, powerful why that's compelling you to take action every day. You're going to let excuses and fear and judgment from other people or a million other obstacles prevent you from getting there. And I want to take you back to my transformation and what really reprogrammed my brain.

Speaker 1: 3:21

I was sitting in a jail cell at 23 years old, looking back on two decades of nothing productive, no goals achieved, no dreams built or lived. You know, I wasn't going after things in life the way I would have if I knew time was running out. I was procrastinating, I was making bad choices, I had developed bad habits, I was hanging around wrong people. I was just wasting time, man, and I was ultimately taking my entire life for granted. This is how most people live. Because you think you have more time, you don't realize that you're actually going to die one day. You don't understand how precious these moments are and you also don't understand how the way you make decisions and the way you live your life now is going to carry over into your future, and we're creatures of habit, man. So if you're procrastinating and if you're giving into excuses now, chances are you're going to keep doing that in the future. And that's the path I was on.

Speaker 1: 4:10

I was drinking too much, I was partying, I was working a nine to five, but I wasn't building something that I was truly inspired and like proud of. You know, I wasn't inspired by my life. I wasn't proud of the life I was creating. I was just working to get by no-transcript. The more that my demons were just running my life, the weaker my resolve was becoming, the weaker I was becoming. So the chances of me actually changing my life as time progressed were slim to none.

Speaker 1: 5:07

I'd be dead right now if I didn't go to prison. At At the very best I'd be one of those fucking homeless people you see on the side of the road struggling because drugs and alcohol. My demons would erect my life. I came home from being incarcerated. I saw friends that I grew up with that are now talking to themselves on street corners. I saw friends that I grew up with playing sports, creating these unforgettable memories as youngsters who just ruined their entire lives because they couldn't get sober Right. And that was my fate. But I know that I'd be dead.

Speaker 1: 5:38

I would be dead right now if I didn't go to jail. And so, as I sat in my cell and I was reflected on my life, this is the first thing that I had. That was an opportunity that most people out here don't take advantage of, and that was time time to think and reflect. Now you could do this every day, and that's why I'm such a proponent of a morning routine and creating space in your days to think and reflect on your life, because this is what started to change my life is I finally had time to think and acknowledge stuff and reflect on the life that I lived. I had never done that before.

Speaker 1: 6:07

You know, I would get up, I'd go to work and I'd race through my days. I'd stay up late partying, drinking, I'd crash out, I'd wake up and I'd do it the next day and I was numb. Most of the time I was awake. So when you're living that way, you're not really reflecting on your life, you're not thinking on a deeper level. Most of you are doing that right now. You get up, you race out the door to work around the house, like you're busy all day long and maybe you're productive, but it's not really getting you to where you want to go. You're just getting by.

Speaker 1: 6:35

You know most people don't carve out time on a daily basis to think, to journal and to reflect, and that's what I started doing in jail. I was just sitting there in my cell going, damn, that was the life I lived. Like I reflected on that for like weeks. I was like, wait that I reflected on that for like weeks. I was like, wait, that was the life I lived. And I was just peeling back these layers. You know, like, why did I live that way? Why didn't I change earlier? Why didn't I try harder? Why did I let it get to this? Like, why did I have to come to jail and face life in prison to finally wake up and understand what was at stake? You know, and this was a constant train of thought, like I'm in this just reflective state man for most of the day, for those first couple of weeks and months. This is how you have to. This is what you have to do to get clear on your truth.

Speaker 1: 7:18

And when I say, like your, why there's so much emotion and truth buried inside of you that you you aren't acknowledging that, you're not aware of that, you're not feeling right. It's because you're not taking time to actually think and reflect. You're numbing it out, you're suppressing it, you're running from the truth. That's how most people live their life. That's why they never change. The reason for that is because a lot of people, the truth makes them feel bad about themselves. The truth brings this, this reality, into their awareness. They don't want to feel that. They don't want to realize oh, I'm wasting time, I'm a loser. I settled in my relationships, I wanted more out of life, but now I quit and gave up. Like that's the truth, you're going to feel Well. For me, it was the best thing that ever could happen, because without facing and acknowledging the truth, you'll never change anything. And I had to sit there in my jail cell and realize, dude, I'm a fucking loser.

Speaker 1: 8:04

Like I was following in the same footsteps as my parents who, at the time, I despised because they left me. They were addicts, they couldn't take care of us as kids. You know, I was becoming just like my dad and I was like damn man. Like I was a good athlete growing up. I was an outgoing, charismatic person. Like I had a gift, I had a talent, I had a special energy. I knew I did as a kid, but I didn't share that with the world. I didn't go after my goals. I didn't play sports in high school, I didn't go to college, I didn't apply myself, and I just started going through the truth, my reality, and it fucking stung. And it was so painful because I felt so much regret and remorse and I hated myself, knowing that I didn't try harder in my life, that I didn't show people what I was capable of, that I didn't face my fears, that I let judgments and my own self-doubt stop me from going after things that were important to me, that I wanted to do.

Speaker 1: 8:58

And I had to sit there in my jail cell for months and months and months while I'm battling my case, my life sentence, and I had to feel this emotion, and this is what you need, that you're running from. I had to feel. First of of all, I had to acknowledge the truth and accept that. Then I had to feel the emotion that accompanied that truth. That's what you're running from, that's what you're numbing out, because it fucking hurts, it's painful, it's debilitating.

Speaker 1: 9:25

And on the other end of that awakening, I had had two choices Continue to be a loser and waste my life and in prison, use more drugs, get in more fights, commit violence, become an inmate, become just like everyone else and maybe never go home right, like that was one path I could have chose. Poor me, the victim mentality. Oh well, fuck it, life's over, let me just make it worse. Oh well, fuck it, life's over, let me just make it worse. Or I could use that pain and use that regret and use that emotion that was bottling up inside of me, that I'd suppressed for so long, and channel it into the right actions, the right path to rebuild my life and seek redemption. And that's what I chose. And I chose that because I couldn't look myself in the fucking mirror one more day, knowing that I was continuing to live as a lesser version of myself, because I had done that for so long. And the pain behind those choices was horrendous. The pain of my regret was worse than the thought of spending life in prison. Can you imagine having that moment where you have that epiphany, that awakening Like, oh my God, I did it to myself and all the while I could have fixed it. And it changed my entire life. And from that moment forward, I have used pain as a catalyst to create success. I have used pain as a catalyst to transform my life.

Speaker 1: 10:49

I was a drug addict. I come from a broken home. I faced life in prison for something I didn't even do. I spent five and a half years incarcerated. I got out of prison with $200 to my name and I rebuilt everything, built my business, built this whole new life for my family, got a beautiful home. My kids go to the best school in town. I'm providing the dream life for my family. And we're just getting started. My vision is so massive. My goals are monumental and I never stop until the day I die. That type of motivation, that type of drive, that type of purpose isn't just fabricated. It has to come from somewhere.

Speaker 1: 11:27

I'm going to show you how I continue to rebuild my life. I'm going to document it all on social media and go, wow, what the fuck? Oh my God, look what Sean's doing. But I wish you could have seen me in that jail cell, broken down and alone. I wish you could have seen me crying in my fucking cell, realizing that I was a loser and I hadn't amounted to anything in my life. I wish you could have felt the pain in those moments that I experienced, because, you see, that's what changed me and that's what I'm still connected to to this day. It's not cars and money and social media and stuff.

Speaker 1: 11:59

Yeah, we have goals and we aspire to achieve these things, but for me, it's continuing each and every day to move as far away from that moment in my old life as possible, to do things every day that make me feel proud of who I am as a man, as a leader, as a husband, as a father, as a coach. Each and every day, I'm making the wrongs of yesterday right by the way I live today, because I never want to experience that pain that I experienced in my jail cell of regret, of knowing that I was made for more but I didn't try of realizing that I'd taken this precious life for granted. So, each and every day, that is why I get up and do the work, that is why I go to the gym and work out, that is why I continue to read these books, that's why I continue to share these messages, that's why I continue to work on and develop myself. It's not even there's not even an afterthought there. For me, it's do the work every day. That's the way I live my life. That's who I am.

Speaker 1: 12:47

I don't get up and think, oh, I need to be disciplined. Today, like today, I should eat clean, because that's going to form discipline. Fuck discipline. I have such a profound why that drives me each and every day. I know why I'm getting out of bed, where I'm going, what I'm doing, and it has so much meaning behind those actions that the thought of never doing it does not even equate. That thought does not even cross my mind. It's not even an option in my life. I will die before I stop living as this person. This is the person I always wanted to be. This is the person God put me on earth to become. And when you get that clear on your identity, your authenticity, your purpose, your mission, your vision, your goals, nothing will stop you. Okay, but you guys are so worried about having fucking discipline, you're missing the bigger picture.

Speaker 1: 13:36

Discipline is a byproduct of being connected on this deeper level in the way I'm describing to you, or a lack of discipline is a symptom of you being disconnected because you haven't done the inner work on yourself. You're running from the truth, you're in denial, you're numbing it out, you can't feel the way I'm describing, because here's the thing that happens when you have that type of daily reflection and those epiphanies in the form of thoughts and ideas, and those dots start to connect. There's an emotional reaction that takes place that binds it all together, that becomes such a powerful energy inside of you. Nothing will ever put it out, but you're not having that chemical reaction, you're not experiencing that emotion swelling up inside of you with that truth. They're not binded, they're not connected. That's why you're stuck, that's why you're not achieving at a higher level, that's why you're making excuses, that's why you're procrastinating, that's why you lack discipline. It's because you don't know why these goals and why these things are important to you. You're not tapped into emotion and you're not clear on who you want to be. And until you can check those boxes and work on yourself for as long as it takes to get clear on your identity, your authenticity, your vision, your mission, your purpose, who you want to be in this life and what you want to do, you're going to continue to waste time and let