You don’t have the same capacity anymore and that’s okay with Samantha Edu

There are seasons where you feel like you can do it all…

…and then there are seasons where even the smallest things feel heavy.

In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with returning guest Samantha Edu, Licensed Professional Counselor and DEI practitioner , to talk about what it really looks like to slow down without losing yourself.

We’re unpacking:

• What it means to “meet the moment” instead of pushing through
• The difference between a “vase season” and a “teacup season”
• How self-abandonment shows up in subtle, everyday ways
• Why your body is always communicating with you (and how to listen)
• The power of doing one brave thing to begin healing

Have you been feeling stretched thin, disconnected from yourself, or like your capacity just isn’t what it used to be? This conversation will help you breathe again.

Connect with Samantha:

Website: SamanthaEdu.com

Instagram: @brownheartwellness

YouTube: Brown Heart TV

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Podcast account - @thrivelikeamother.podcast

Personal account - @thrive.empowered

Sending you light and love always!

Transcript

Your Energy And Your Capacity

SPEAKER_03 0:00

Your energy is your energy. And you're just pushing yourself to get through. And you don't know what you're actually giving. You don't know what the product actually is going to look like. You're just doing it. And so you think, well, I have more to give to this moment, less to give to that moment. No, the meat in the moment is actually consistent. If you're tired, you're going to be tired in every one of those moments.

Slowing Down Without Quitting

Meet The Moment With Honesty

SPEAKER_00 0:29

Hey love, I'm Ebony and welcome to Thrive Like a Mother, a podcast for women who are ready to slow down, nourish themselves, and build lives that feel anchored and intentional instead of rushed. If you're tired of surviving and ready to thrive physically, mentally, and spiritually, you're in the right place. Each week, I share ground a conversation and practical rhythm to help you regulate your nervous system, strengthen your relationship with food and rest, and return to yourself. Hello, take a breath. You don't have to do this alone. Let's thrive together. Hey y'all, welcome back to Thrive Like a Mother. Y'all, today's conversation is for the woman who's ready and she's feeling the pull to slow down, not because we're quitting, right? Just because we are learning how to move at the season, um, at the speed the season is asking her to move at. Uh so my guest today is someone that you've met before. I kind of want to sing that song like, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back. I was so honored to have Samantha Edu back on the podcast with us today. If you don't remember, she is a licensed professional counselor and DEI practitioner who works just on mental health, deep-rooted joy, interpersonal growth, all the things that we as people on this earth like we need. She's also known for holding brave spaces for women. And today we're gonna be talking about like what it looks like to keep doing that work without abandoning yourself in the process. Y'all need this episode. I need this episode. I need this episode. Yes. Yeah. Okay, so y'all, this is gonna be a slower conversation. So get comfy, listen in. And I really pray that this just helps you feel more aligned just with where you are right now. So let's just let's get right into it. Samantha, I want to start exactly with where you are right now. You said that this season, when I asked you about it, is about aligning with the speed of the season instead of trying to rant back up to old rhythms, which I am also very familiar with. I feel like I'm in the same same boat. So, what does that look like for you in real life?

SPEAKER_03 2:56

It really does look like meeting the moment. And I think like that is the words I wrote that down in my journal a couple weeks ago. It just came to me those three words meet the moment. And I was like, what the heck does that even mean? Because it's a lot of moments to meet. And I have been writing about it, thinking about it. And I talked about it on the podcast this last week, and it was like, okay, I finally realized that it was, I needed to take a step back and really look at the me in the moment. It wasn't so much to think about all the moments, because it's we could think of five moments apiece right now. Yes. It's really thinking about my bandwidth and what do I have to bring into the moment and how do I need to adjust myself in the moment in order to meet it, you know, all the moments that will not change the me in any of the moments.

SPEAKER_00 3:54

Yeah, that's so true. That's so true. I love that. Just meeting yourself in the moment, like not thinking about all the things, just focusing in on like right right now. Where are you right now? And be honest with that too, sometimes, y'all. Because sometimes you could be like, Oh, I could keep going. Me and Samantha were just talking. Last week I was sick, I had lots of moments and I needed to focus in on just being well, just getting better. Yes, even though I want it to be like, but I have to do this. What I had this planned, I have that planned.

SPEAKER_03 4:32

Yep. Uh-uh. Because sometimes I think that we think, like, let's say we have all these three different things happening as at the same time. We think that we can like stretch ourselves based on whatever the moment is. That is actually not how that works. Your energy is your energy. And you're just pushing yourself to get through. And you don't know what you're actually giving, you don't know what the product actually is gonna look like. You're just doing it. And so you think, well, I have more to give to this moment, less to give to that moment. No, the meat in the moment is actually consistent. If you're tired, you're gonna be tired in every one of those moments.

SPEAKER_00 5:18

That's true.

SPEAKER_03 5:19

Yeah, when you think about um how we were talking about being this big vase and having so much room to pour in and pour out, or versus this small teacup, that doesn't change based on the moment. You're you have teacup capacity, that's what you have.

SPEAKER_01 5:37

Yeah, that's all you have.

Teacup Season And New Boundaries

SPEAKER_00 5:43

Yeah. Oof, I love that. How has this season felt different like in your body compared to like previous ones? And I love when you talk about the vase and the teacup because oh, that just that hit me because I was like, you know what? Now it makes sense. Going from two to three kids, I was a vase. Now with three kids, that's a different level. So it's like, okay, just embrace. But how does that feel? How does this season feel different for you compared to like other ones?

SPEAKER_03 6:14

Extremely uncomfortable, actually. I am learning to sit with the discomfort because out of discomfort, there's growth, but it has been very uncomfortable to not be in a vase season. And I say that knowing now that I have this concept in my mind about sometimes we are have this vast amount of bandwidth, like a big giant vase, and then sometimes wear a teacup, it makes me think about in the past, I may have thought I had all this space, and likely was the teacup. So I feel all this discomfort now, and a lot of the discomfort is coming from awareness and accepting that that's the space that I'm in. In the past, I probably had the bandwidth of a teacup, and I just didn't have the awareness. I was still trying to pour out as if I was had as much space as the big face, and it wasn't as uncomfortable because my comfort space was being stretched so thin, not being aware of how tired I was or pushing through all the time. That sounds weird, but that's my that's where I was comfortable. And now being in this space and honoring the bandwidth that I have, which is this teacup space, that just makes me feel like I don't like it. I'm running as fast as I can from it.

SPEAKER_00 7:43

It's like, okay, well, how can we get back to being the vase? And you have to be honest with yourself, like, no, don't pick that up. We don't have the capacity for it.

SPEAKER_03 7:53

Uh-huh. Yes. And really, to be honest, I don't want that. I don't want the previous seasons. I don't want the mindset that I was living in. I don't want that pace to push through. You know, sometimes in life I think you do need to do what you have to do to finish things. And, you know, that just comes in ebbs and flows. But that's like a natural balance of things. I don't want the mindset that you're always, always in a space of pushing through, always going to exhaustion. And that's how you measure success. That's how you measured whether you're a good mom. That's how you measure whether you are performing well at work. Like I don't want that mindset back, but it's so natural that we often go back to what feels natural, even if it wasn't serving us.

SPEAKER_00 8:52

That's true.

SPEAKER_03 8:53

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:54

That's true. You you sit there sometimes in that slowdown season and you question what else could I be doing? And really your body is just saying, no, let's just sit for a moment.

SPEAKER_03 9:05

Yeah. And you're just like, I don't want to do it.

SPEAKER_00 9:08

I don't want to.

SPEAKER_01 9:10

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:11

Oh goodness. Okay, well, Samantha, you do such powerful work just holding space for others, but you also said that the season is asking you to not do that at the detriment of yourself. How has it been navigating that boundary?

SPEAKER_03 9:29

It has been interesting in a way that the way I put it is if I if I stick with this analogy of this basin teacup sometimes, like I'm an awareness, but if I don't let other people know that that is the season I'm in, then I'm I feel more pressure to pour out more because that's what people expect from me. And so it is important for me and whoever else is in this season, like you have to tell the people around you, hey, I don't have what I used to have. And no apologies, because I can't do all the things I used to do. And it could be frustrating to you, but it is what it is. And so that's one thing that I have been having to do is just kind of let the people around me see me operating in this way, even if it feels uncomfortable for them to see me. It feels like I'm exposed. Like, was I a fraud before? Yeah. I wasn't a fraud before. You know what I'm saying? I just had different capacity, and it's a blessing to be able to allow people to see me in my humanity. And I encourage people to just allow the people you love to see you in all of your humanity. That means you're gonna ebb and flow out of capacity. You are not superhuman. That means they get to love you, they get to care for you, they get to hold some of all the things that you're holding. And that is a blessing for the people around you. You never want to be in a space to where you are drowning and no one knows how to save you because they've never had.

SPEAKER_00 11:09

Oh, I feel that. I'm gonna just sit with that one for a minute because yes. Yeah, I, you know, so often, you know, people come to me and like, how do you do it all? You're like superwoman. I'm like, hold on. No, let's I'm not picking up that Kate. No, thank you. I am human. You know, I need to be held and I need space held for me too, right?

SPEAKER_04 11:34

Yes.

The Quiet Drift Into Self Abandonment

SPEAKER_00 11:35

Instead of just being the one that's always holding space for everyone else, always taking care of everyone else. Yes. So I love this topic we're on about like not just being honest with yourself about your capacity, but honest with all the other people around you. What does like self-abandonment look like when it's like subtle? And I feel like we we answered this one in a little bit, but like, yeah, what does that look like that people can like cue into?

SPEAKER_03 12:03

Yeah, self-abandonment is such a sneaky little it can just come in up on you and you don't even realize it until you have started like going back to old ways that you have tried to work your way out of. For instance, if you said, you know, I'm going to get up and walk, you know, if you work remote and you said, I'm gonna get up and walk three or four times a day, I'm not gonna sit in front of this computer all day, and you start doing that, and then you like, okay, you know what? Once I finish this last 10 minutes, I'm gonna get up and go. Ten minutes pass, 20 minutes pass, 30 minutes pass, nope, no walking. And each day, that 30 minutes turns into an hour, and it sounds simple, but what you're doing is telling your brain, I'm flexible with you. You're not as safe with me as I tell you that you are. I will deprioritize you for this work. And so that is an abandonment of yourself. And when it comes even with parenting, if you're telling your kids, hey, listen, mommy, it's 15 minutes, I need 15 minutes of silence. And you say, Okay, well, they haven't, you know, I haven't talked to them all day, they can come in, and then you just start to abandon yourself because you you think, oh, they haven't talked to me all day. And next thing you know, you don't have that 15 minutes after work that allows you to transition from work to mommy. That is an abandonment of self. And I think that we have to recognize that sometimes, like let's say you you're abandoning yourself for that 15 minutes and with your child, and that sounds great. You're telling someone this, and you're like, and it's like, oh, I just needed to make sure I'm making time for my child, and it sounds great because you were a martyr. Yes, but that's not great. No, how many times are you gonna do that to yourself? How many times are you gonna do that to yourself? And every time you do it to yourself, you're teaching your child not to save you. Oof. Every time you tell that child, nope, that's okay. Come on in. You're teaching your child, you don't have to save me, you don't have to be mindful of me and my needs. And so when that child gets older and you're drowning, that child's not even intentionally, just was never aware of how to be mindful of you as a human being. And so these are the ways that we abandon ourselves, and it's just so small, you know.

SPEAKER_00 14:55

Oh, goodness. And I know for a lot of us, especially as mothers, as women, like we uh we just have in our brain that if we rest, that means we're letting somebody down. And it's like, mmm, this episode today, y'all. It's an invitation. We're redefining what care means because it doesn't always mean caring for other people. How are we caring for ourselves? How are we teaching other people how we're cared for? Yeah, like it's so important for your kids to see you as human.

SPEAKER_03 15:27

Yes, and care does not mean giving away all of my capacity. Yes, it doesn't like we have to step away from that because it just in the end, it just creates so much detriment for ourselves, and we'll get to a place to where we find ourselves scrambling to reconnect with our bodies, to come back home to ourselves, to find ourselves as individuals, to reconnect with our spouses because we've abandoned ourselves. And then when we get ready to, they're like, Who even are you? I don't know either. I don't know either. All I know is I don't want to keep doing this the way it's been done. Yeah. It's um imperative that we find a stopping point and just do small things to get back to ourselves. And it all really does start with meeting the moment, take a moment to see what season are you in. And if it's a teacup season, let the people know hey, it's a lot happening right now. And I really just need to take a moment to think about how I want to approach this. What do I need from the people around me? What boundaries I need to set for myself, other people, what help I need, all of those things.

One Brave Step That Heals

SPEAKER_00 16:45

Yes. Okay. One thing that you've said that really stayed with me just everywhere. It's just that brave steps, like in any season that you're in, they lead to healing, like not just for us, but also across generations. We're talking like our older generations, the people, younger generations watching us. Can you unpack like what that means?

SPEAKER_03 17:09

Yes. I talk about doing one brave thing, and honestly, like one brave thing started out with me just doing one brave thing um a week a couple years ago to just break myself out of a cycle of um it felt like be feeling stagnant. And so I was like, okay, you're just gonna do one brave thing a week. And I would just start reaching out to random people. Not weren't random, but they were random people on LinkedIn and see if I could connect with them. And that felt really like, ugh, I don't know. And I met a lot of beautiful people, a lot of amazing people, made a lot of um awesome connections. And what I started, I would journal during the whole time, and what it was doing for me was releasing this idea that I um could only show up a certain way, like inside of corporate. And at the time I needed to break out and start using my voice outside of create to create my own platform and all the things. And I realized this brave, it wasn't about meeting more people. It was actually about healing a part of me just that thought I needed to be quiet or censor myself because of things that I had been, I had gone through. And I was like, wow, wait a minute. How long have we had situations where doing something brave is what allowed us to heal a part of us that one, we may not have even known needed healing. And two, it was um, I don't know, that have been keeping us stuck. And so I just kept doing research, reading about being brave, all of the things, you know, it's the concept of being brave isn't new. Yeah. But being brave as a part of your mental health or healing journey was new for me. And I want people to recognize you've always been brave. Right. And I think about, you know, when I was younger, a young adult, and I had my child, I had my children young, and I had gotten fired from this job at Walmart, and I had a horrible store manager who had like accused me of stealing. And I swear to you, I wanted to like slap that lady. But I didn't. I was pregnant. I was like seven months pregnant, and she was accused, she had me locked in a room and all the things, accusing me of stealing. And I was just distraught. I was like this young girl from the country. Like, what is happening? I had just moved to Atlanta. Um, it was horrible. But after that, I had got no government assistance, and it was just years of just like feeling like um a statistic. Like, how did I get myself in this situation? I did not have money. It was just a lot. And I survived all of that and found and I stayed in school the whole time, and I found myself just building my way back out. But once I started thinking about bravery, and I was like, I'm being brave by reaching out to these people. I'm being brave by creating this new role for myself. I'm being brave by having these really hard conversations with my teenage girls. And I started thinking, I was brave then. I didn't know I was being brave. And so thinking about, I was healing myself by just moving forward, being brave during a time when I didn't know where I was going. No, I didn't know what was happening, I had no money, you know, people treating you a certain way when you do government assistance. And so I want people to know you've always been brave. You just didn't know you were being brave. And out of that bravery came your healing. And so, in a moment, if you're in a moment of transition now, just think about the times where you were in transition before and you made it through. You were brave that whole time. Use all of that energy now to heal yourself, to get you from a stuck place to the next place. Yeah. You have it in you to do it. So that was my long-winded answer. No, I love it. It's just a blessing. Like it's just like, wow, I'm just so thankful to have had the tenacity to do and get to where I will I am now from there. And I'm thankful to myself as a young person then to just keep going. I feel like she had the vision of me today in her mind, and she said, I'm going to keep going.

Let Your Body Tell The Truth

SPEAKER_00 21:43

Yeah. Yeah. A hundred percent. Gosh. And I want to remind people too, um, because when we think of like steps, sometimes we think of, oh, we have to get into action. But there's a whole episode, y'all. There's a whole episode is so Sometimes it looks like be having that honesty with yourself, sharing that honesty outwardly so that other people know like what's going on with you, setting your boundaries, getting your rest. Sometimes it looks like you know, sometimes those can be your brave steps, and you might be like, is that brave? Yes. Yeah, 100% it is. So I love that we're talking about like healing, also about like the way it makes our body feel, right? So I want to maybe, maybe get a little sciencey, maybe, but what does healing look like or feel like in the body when we are taking those brave steps, but they are aligned?

SPEAKER_03 22:42

Yes. So I think when you think about how our bodies, you know, all of it's all connected, right? It's all one thing. And people, our bodies recognize something is happening long before our minds catch up, yeah, or our feelings catch up, or we see red flags. Like our body is aware that something is going on. And that can look like a change in your it's simple, like a change in your posture. You can feel it in your gut. You can feel it in like for some people, you start walking around like this. If you uh sometimes, like you can see in our conversation, even with like sometimes I'll be saying something, and I I just start doing this just because it makes me do that. Yeah. That's my way of like bringing in, like curving through myself or cuddling myself because the body is needing that. You can feel like some sometimes people feel it in their chest. Um when they start to feel like that heaviness. Um think about your sleep patterns. You know, when you wake up in the morning and you used to be able to wake up and not start thinking about your day. But if you wake up and you open your eyes and immediately the brain is, what do I need to do today? What do I need to cook today? Who needs to do lunch? What do I need to do for work? Do I can meet the? And you have not even opened your eyes good. Like those are signs of your your body. There's something there about your habits or what's going on with you where you're just not aligned. And so some of the work that you can do, yes, sometimes you can start to notice those things. So if like I was thinking about this this morning, I had this, and I it happens a lot in my therapy sessions where I'll ask, you know, how are you feeling about, you know, how are you feeling about this situation that just happened, you know?

SPEAKER_04 24:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 24:54

Like, how are you feeling about the way that Tony talked to you at work? And then the response is like, you know, it's fine because I knew that, you know, Tony was gonna do that. Tony talks about other people at work that way, and so I knew it was gonna happen to me too. But that didn't tell me how you're feeling at all. And we we go into our minds, we stay into our intellectual, but really it it's okay to take a moment and say, I will say, okay, thank you for telling me that. How did it really feel in your body when Tony talked to you like that in the meeting? What happened? Did you feel it in your chest? Did you feel, did your body heat up? Did you feel angry? Like I'll start to name, you know, some things to see and then call it out and say, hey, I noticed when I asked you about your feelings, you said this. How are you really, really feeling about it? Yeah, and it what it is is to get people outside of the intellectual and into the body so we can notice. Yeah. And sometimes you gotta start noticing when, you know, your family's calling you. If you cringe every time your phone rings, you it's a sign. Yeah, listen. If you're like, oh, I get a headache every time this person calls me.

SPEAKER_00 26:14

But it's not a good feeling.

SPEAKER_03 26:16

It's not a good feeling. Or when you get off the phone with somebody and you're like, man, I don't feel I feel drained. You know, and that's because every time you talk to this person, they're taking from you. Yeah. We have to like notice those things. And it's really a blessing when your body's telling you those things.

SPEAKER_00 26:34

Mm-hmm. I love this. Because yeah, we can't, you can't ignore, or you can, but it's gonna be to your detriment at some point. Your body's gonna be like, I've told you now. Like, I've told you that we feel drained after that conversation, or I've told you that we don't have the capacity to take on this phone call right now, or this conversation, or you know, or this task. Like your body is talking to you. We cannot, we cannot keep ignoring.

SPEAKER_03 27:02

No, and then it doesn't mean like you don't ever talk to your family because you know, it gives you credit. It means you need some tools, right? It means, you know, before you, even if you see them calling you and you know you need to talk to them, it doesn't mean you have to answer, first of all. Yeah, it means let it ring, take a couple deep breaths, make sure you're in a space to where you can call back, and then you call them back. You send a text message, hey, I'm doing something, I'm gonna call you right back.

SPEAKER_04 27:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 27:32

Stop answering it every time it rings. Everybody doesn't need instant access to you. Like that is a huge thing. We used to didn't even well, when I was younger, we didn't have things. People can just call you and you pick it up as soon as it rained. Stop giving people instant access because you're in the teacup season. Instant access is for emergencies only.

Nervous System Tools That Help

SPEAKER_00 27:55

Yes, goodness. Okay, so let's talk about some ways that people can regulate their nervous systems in that teacup season. And when you see that phone call coming through and you're like, I really can't, like, how can you help them? How can they reset?

SPEAKER_03 28:15

Yes, and that's one of the things that you can do is really like train yourself, and it'll be hard and the people around you to say, okay, I may not answer your phone call every time, but I will call you back, or I will text you if that's all I have the bandwidth to do. And it's it's okay unless it's an emergency, it will be fine. Train yourself to do that. The whole thing about training your nervous system is really just telling telling your body your nervous system safe with me. It's creating a safe, you become your own safe space. You cannot wait for somebody else to respect your safe spaces or be your safe spaces when no, you become your own safe space. So you can do that, you can set some boundaries around the phone, your social media time, your consumption. You're not meant to be consuming 10 hours of information a day. I mean people do that is a lot. Not even meant to consume five to six hours, but not at the rate that we we do on socials. Um so think about your social media time. Other things you can do is you like your breath. So you can do different types of breathing, like box breathing. I would absolutely encourage, um, especially people working in you know, corporate where you're doing a lot of meet meetings, between every meeting, there should be some breathing, some deep breathing. If you're working with some Tonies in your office, yeah. Before and after every meeting with that person, you need to be breathing, allowing your nervous system to come to rest, and maybe even jotting down here's how I felt in that meeting, here's how I felt before that meeting. Um, because you know you're going into the meeting with this person. So you're not going into these situations unarmed. Yeah. Managing your nervous system, like how people sometimes will think that's the same thing as like finding my peace, right? Finding my peace doesn't mean I'm not gonna have confrontation, it doesn't mean I'm not gonna be in uncomfortable situations or do things I don't have like to do. No, you still have to do all those things. Yeah, it's just how do you go into them armed and prepared so they don't feel like you know, so horrible or you can't recuperate after those things.

SPEAKER_00 30:57

Yes, I love that. Yeah, because it's important. Like even I feel like there was like a sermon a few weeks ago, maybe last week. I don't know. They all blend together at this point. But, you know, the pastor was saying something like, you know, God He doesn't make it so that we don't have conflict or we aren't gonna come across challenge. Yeah, right. There's still gonna be the storms, right? Like, you know, on the rock or the stand the sand, there was still a storm. Yes, it was still there. We're still gonna have to navigate those things. It's just navigating them prepared.

SPEAKER_04 31:35

Yes, yes.

Purpose With Less Bandwidth

SPEAKER_00 31:37

All right. Well, Tamanda, for the woman who's listening, who feels like torn between like who she used to be and who she's becoming, that that's me. What would you want her to know?

SPEAKER_03 31:48

For the woman torn between who she used to be and the woman she's becoming. I would want her to know that one, the woman she used to be is beautiful and amazing. You're not running from her, right? You're you're actually becoming the person she, like I was saying, the person she actually had in her mind when she was being brave and she didn't know it. The person who had her making courageous steps to move forward the nights where she cried, cried, and cried, and didn't know how she was gonna do it, she still kept moving forward, and you are the person, the reason why she kept moving forward today. I would want her to know that, like you were her dream, and just know that even if you are aware, once you become aware that you're in a teacup season, you are still so worthy, so valuable, you are still a vessel called to be used, called to be poured into, called to be a like called with a purpose. Like your purpose is still there.

SPEAKER_04 32:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 32:58

And I think that when we think, oh, I don't have the bandwidth, that doesn't mean I don't have a purpose. I still have a purpose, and my purpose is I just need to be more laser focused about what my purpose is. When we have all the bandwidth, we do so many more things. I'll be out here doing all kinds of things. I'll have same. So many things. Now I'm in a season that calls me to be much more laser focused and intentional about what I am doing because that's what it requires. But I honestly believe that what is being created will be a reflection of that intentionality and that focus.

Pause, Breathe, And Share

SPEAKER_00 33:43

I love it. I love it. Well, before we close today, listeners, I want to give you a place to land. So, of course, if today's conversation resonated, I invite you to just take a pause. Like Samantha said, we just sometimes need to take a breath. And as you're taking that breath, just notice what your body feels like right now. No judgment, no need to change it in this moment, just awareness, just listening, and ask yourself like what pace is this season asking of me? And be honest. Be honest. You don't have to answer it all today, but honestly, just the awareness itself, that's already a brave stat. So Samantha, thank you for coming back to the pod.

SPEAKER_03 34:37

Thank you, Evan.

SPEAKER_00 34:38

And always, always just modeling just what it looks like to hold brave spaces like for yourselves, for others, but with intentionality, with care, goodness. Okay, remind the people where they can find you.

SPEAKER_03 34:51

Thank you. Thank you for having me again. I always love coming on here. And I wanted to tell you when we went to lunch that day, when we're talking about like being in a teacup season, I've been telling news for a while. You know, I've been in FC this season. I came back and told my friend how good it felt to be with a friend that like you poured into me. You came and you offered me so many gems. And sometimes we don't know what we need or we won't allow others to pour, especially when you're the person that's used to pouring out.

SPEAKER_04 35:26

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 35:27

And when you recognize you're in a teacup season, surround yourself by people who are willing to like pour into you. Even if even if you don't know what you need, they don't know because maybe you haven't even shared with them. But just be mindful of the quality of people that you are around so that you can get poured into when you don't notice what you need. So I just wanted to say that because sometimes it feels like our journey is our own, but no, it's actually our communal journey.

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SPEAKER_03 35:59

So try to add on to our end. But I wanted to just know, needed. But you can find me my um on my website, Samanthaedoo.com or Instagram, Brownheart Wellness, or uh YouTube, Brownheart TV.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

Yes, awesome. Thank you, thank you, Samantha, and y'all. Until next time, we'll see you next week. But keep thriving like a mother. Thank you so much for listening, love. If anything in today's episode resonated with you, share it with your bestie or share it on social media and tag me so we can chat about it. As always, sending you light and love. And remember, you are worthy, you are enough, and you deserve to thrive.